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Brother i had the same thing. You dont need to confront her. Just quietly plan your exit. I did some posts that might help. But my brothe, your marriage is over. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 08:22 PM
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Brother. You are right to recognise the difficulties and darkness that you feel around you. It is natural and normal. Many of us arrive at the point of thinking about suicide and some do it. Its not unusual given your situation. It is not my place to give advice given the gravity and I'd urge you to go an talk to someone but my own experience is that it gets better. The darkness passes. The light breaks through. Little by Little. For me it started by taking care of others. Feeding the dogs. Walk…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 08:29 AM
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If she is saying that to your kids that's abysmal. If not forget it and move on. Who cares. She is your past.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 09:14 AM
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Sound advice. It makes me so happy to see my kids feeling good. I did a bit of work on their room yesterday and they were ecstatic. So cool.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 07:31 AM
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It is such a shocker. We are assumed to be so self contained. Then a piece of you is broken off. And it aches. There is nothing good in it. In itself. But, my experience was that after a bit I did find myself again. A bit of re discovery. A bit of attention to my clothes, hair, nutrition etc. Had a few dates. Met someone really good I walk my dogs, go to the gym, build my business, eat well, travel more, focus in on the kids better. nice. I have to say i think I am better off without my ex. I do…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 08:43 AM
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Get laid. Well and often.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 08:18 AM
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It must be hard when they still are little. Make sure you keep seeing them. You need each other.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 06:25 AM
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That's hard to hear. Well done for hearing it. You must however, forgive yourself and get on with life. You aren't that bad. Otherwise you wouldn't have heard it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 06:13 PM
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You're welcome. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 05:06 PM
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Its a long time. No wonder. A friend calls middle age for men snipers alley. We get picked off. I got the same thing ... a stress rash on my wrists. I didnt even know I was stressed. I'd become so conditioned to feeling bad. I never recognised it. Have at it brother. You have got this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 06:45 PM
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Good work. That is such a good insight. "A hole in my identity". Finding out who you are alone and deciding what sort of man you can now become is so fvcking hard. I had no idea how much of beating I'd taken. It took a while.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 06:41 PM
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It will. With me it changed slowly. Then quickly. Do the right things. Look after yourself. Eat better. Realising i was fine alone was a big step for me. Stay strong. Keep at it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 06:38 PM
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We do. I had coached my mates though divorces. But when it happens to you you realise that you perhaps don't what everyone knowing what's on your mind all the time. But this community helped. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 09:31 AM
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You are welcome brother. I am not inclined to give advice. Everyone is different. But remember this. Either way is good. Whatever happens you'll be good. I was devastated. I was unmanned. Every bridge looked like an opportunity...if you get what I mean. But at a certain point I realised I would be Okay. Not the same...but Okay. And thats enough. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 09:30 AM
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You'll be fine. It feels a lot harder now. The emotion around losing a child, a marriage and what I guess was a friend are sweeping you up. Just stay strong. Keep going. Take a breath. I went on a holiday. On my own. Met some new people. Go to the gym. A year later the world looks entirely different.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 06:39 AM
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I think i will buy a watch to remind me that time is precious.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 05:55 AM
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No kink shaming here!
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 10:03 AM
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There are lots of "Have your own glow up", "Man up" type advice here. And I'd say that's solid advice. However the older I get the more i realize that nearly everything is about sex. Maybe you want to be treated like a cuck. If so, the place to explore that definitely isn't with a woman who doesn't love you. You asked for counterintuitive advice...
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 06:40 AM
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Watch and wait a year or two. If you still feel that he took your wife and not your problem then load a bag with sand and put it in a ski sock.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 07:25 AM
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Move on. Who cares? You are divorcing for a good reason. No need to let her ruin another marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:35 AM
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Great advice. Everyone says " lawyer" but telling your mates and hearing them talk is so important. It gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 06:56 AM
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Agree. He is well out of it and sounds like she lost a decent man. She's getting twisted by her guilt and being an awful person. She has to try and belittle him to justify her piss poor behaviour. The thing is to take a moment to say someone else has that problem now and get on with being a good man.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 08:06 AM
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Just rise above brother. She is just trying to drag you back into gaslighting hell. You do you. i don't have religion but I urge you to find your peace wherever it is. Church, work, family,...fishing. If you need to deal with it in person just smile and say something like "It's a shame she has to stoop to hateful lies like that. I wish her well."
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 08:45 AM
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I think what I'll do is let the lawyers raise it with her lawyers and let it sink in. I can use it to win concessions on the thing i really care for - the kids and pets.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 10:16 AM
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It is hubris. However i don't need her money. I'm okay. I have enough. The only thing that has made me feel like i should emulate what I've seen in women's undeserved divorce wealth transfers is the fact she had the cheek to ask. i was talking to a friend in Florida who has life alimony. That sort of thing - tying oneself to an ex is just not me
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 10:09 AM
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I think these things are the body's way of doing a 'disc clean up'. Reorganising memories, reprocessing them to put them in the right place for life the way it is now. Preparing you to reboot. They’re not good or bad in themselves, just part of healing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 04:33 AM
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That's true. I don't need the money. This request from her has made me consider this. It's so lopsided. All my mates have been screwed by their exes.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 05:51 PM
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Stay strong brother. it sounds a bit more serious than menopause madness but id get her sone HRT patches anyway. And seek the help of mental health professionals.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 08:43 AM
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For me it's the Double think/Double standards/ Self serving delusion.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 07:42 PM
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There is no mortgage.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 07:35 PM
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I have a lawyer. Agree. Her idea of amicable seems to be "Let's do it my way". The moment i push back she accuses me of gaslighting her. i think ill let the lawyer deal with it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 06:40 PM
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You are so right. That's exactly how i feel.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 03:06 PM
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Yes. She suggested i live in a dump so i could chip in to her "rent".
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 02:57 PM
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No. No alimony. We are negotiating through our lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 02:56 PM
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I think it's more entitlement than dishonest. The levels of double think are genuinely hard to understand for me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 02:55 PM
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Haha. Thanks. Yes. You're right. It's recent. We were together for 25 years. It's hard to change mental tracks. She is quietly furious because I've got an awesome new place and our friends have rallied around setting me up with Sisters, yoga teachers and alike. Not ready for that yet but it's a good feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 02:25 PM
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Meanness. My wife git really nasty, not just with me but lots of friends. Lost the ability to see the positive in situations or people. She went to bed at 9.30pm. We still had fun but it was rare. In the end i couldn't keep being a tap with such a big drain.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 04:44 PM
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Your marriage is over. It'll take a while to sink in. My advice is keep cool. Don't change your behaviour. Gather evidence. plan your exit. Take control without blowing it. Most of all put your anger on ice. Even when pushed. Cool wet Moss
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 07:52 PM
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