MakeItHilts Archive

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8	So my Girlfriend read this to me while in the Car together. Knowing I'm pro MRA. Well, just shooting from the hip, I'd say it's the absolutely standard victim mentality that forms around young people binging on feminist texts as undergraduates until all they see is "structural" oppression. No true sense of history, no awareness of how preposterous it is to imagine that young men simply glide through "holes" (I guess that means "life's challenges") in a blithe, problem-free fashion, never slowing down, never suffering a moment's worry. In fact, young men suffer all the normal…	/r/MensRights	24/03/16 05:58 PM
10	Harvard Blog muses on why no datable men for late 30s women who claims men "still retain juvenile attitudes" while women have "perfected their adult personality" This is not a useful comparison. Unless it's a genetic condition, obesity is something unhealthy which people overcome every day through effort and educated changes to their habits and behavior, transforming themselves into an overall healthier (and usually far happier) person. Obesity on its own is a massive signaler for a whole cluster of lesser problems, like impulsivity, compulsivity, depression, past trauma, inability to alter bad habits, and the likelihood of a lifetime of ever-increasingl…	/r/MensRights	21/03/16 06:49 PM
6	BBC: "All navigation systems default to a female voice — including Waze." A few male voices become available. BBC: "Are navigation apps sexist?" It isn't an accident, it's a result of engineering and testing. As far as I know, it started with cockpit vocal warnings in fighter planes. They found that hormonal stress levels in fighter pilots went up when it was a male voice and went down when the voice was female. If it's a stressful enough environment to warrant an automated voice informing you of an engine fire during a dogfight (for instance), anything which could lower stress levels would be chosen. (It was also found that fighter pilo…	/r/MensRights	10/03/16 09:45 PM
10	My message and why I think this sub has strayed from its original purpose. Exactly what I was going to come here to say. The /r/mensrights forum should exist for whatever its rule-abiding members need it to exist for. Particularly the opportunity to vent; and perhaps find sympathy ... Or at least something other than the predictable shaming seen elsewhere in Western culture.	/r/MensRights	22/02/16 01:48 AM
1	Every woman in Paris polled in survey has experienced sexual harassment on trains. Yes, exactly. That's an excellent point.	/r/MensRights	10/02/16 08:04 PM
3	Every woman in Paris polled in survey has experienced sexual harassment on trains. Before we select this as a cause worth fighting for, I'll just throw in my own anecdotal two bits. I know, and have known, many girls from Paris. And American girls visiting Paris on a student year abroad. Every single one of them has acknowledged the slightly horrifying ubiquity of getting felt up -- properly felt up, not "harassed" -- on the Paris Metro. Only one actually seemed to be complaining about it (one of the Americans.) If it came up in conversation, mostly it was simply acknowledged …	/r/MensRights	10/02/16 06:22 AM
9	Disabled Soldier Loses Military Scholarship And Is Kicked Out Of School For Disagreeing With Feminist Professor Yeah, even if his political views should be weighed on their merits and discussed, his writing calls out for some catch-up work (which I don't think means it merited the outrageous over-response he received.)	/r/MensRights	03/02/16 09:25 PM
23	Disabled Soldier Loses Military Scholarship And Is Kicked Out Of School For Disagreeing With Feminist Professor This link was in the comments of the article. It's a snapshot from before the post was deleted: http://i.imgur.com/wXxRMZa.png It's hard for me to follow. It's a wall of text and a rant. But presumably this was the post that caused the trouble.	/r/MensRights	03/02/16 08:38 PM
3	Female thor was one thing, but this?! Marvel's officially lost me forever as a fan. Even if politically it's wrong-headed and sloppy, and recklessly herds a lot of evil into one tent that shouldn't rightly coexist there together ... It's unforgivably bad storytelling! This is not, I suspect, just because the writer/s are sparing the "correct" feelings of their readers or wanting not to "trigger" them or something; I think it's because actually enunciating what the character of (is it Bror? I missed the name, the father of Odin guy) actually says is beyond them. They fudge his c…	/r/MensRights	31/01/16 07:15 AM
2	My girlfriend always says there's a wage-gap(73-78 to $1). I've tried to tell her that's a myth. What can I show her so she can be properly informed? This is what I was going to add: President Kennedy made it illegal. You can tell her it's criminal for employers in the U.S. to discriminate on wage-levels because of sex: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Equal_Pay_Act_of_1963 Such a law was first proposed in the U.S. in 1944.	/r/MensRights	19/01/16 08:57 AM
1	Is President Obama into humiliating men? I haven't read your source yet, but it's clear you're stumbling over the President's idiomatic use of "bargain," which in this case means: contract. As in, an arrangement, something fair, whose parameters are understood by all sides. That's what he's referring to. Not "discount" or "easy ride." No, he doesn't believe that men used to get an easy ride; he's lamenting the disappearance of a contract for life that, formerly, was predictable: play by the rules, be honest, work hard, and you're a par…	/r/MensRights	03/01/16 05:48 PM
2	10 Hottest sex offender teachers I don't think this post needs an "/s."-for-sarcasm for us to understand that it's an example of "Outrageousness" in the world and should, perhaps, be tagged as such!	/r/MensRights	02/01/16 07:35 PM
5	Danish comedian accused of being a pedofile for bathing with his young daughter She has the privilege of not needing to understand -- or even imagine -- the potentially life-destroying consequences possessing those pictures could have had. And although I haven't read this piece yet -- I take it it's in Danish? -- I'm assuming or imagining that it was, in fact, an outraged busybody who essentially made the wrong assumption, instigated a situation which went beyond control, and then walked away without injury ... I could easily be wrong about that, but almost all the daycare/…	/r/MensRights	19/12/15 10:02 AM
2	Insulted and ridiculed by a feminist teacher Couldn't agree more! Kids have an immediate rapport with, and excitement about, engaging with male teachers. Who knows why. It's a mystery to me, though I suspect it's partly because there's simply less arbitrary punishing that happens, and more general fun ... I'm so heartened to hear of young guys seriously considering going into education.	/r/MensRights	07/12/15 05:19 AM
2	Insulted and ridiculed by a feminist teacher I'm so delighted to hear young guys looking forward to becoming teachers. If this was a sign of things to come, I would rejoice. In fact, I am rejoicing! Best of luck to you!	/r/MensRights	07/12/15 05:15 AM
2	Insulted and ridiculed by a feminist teacher Well, I can't say if it was golden advice or not, his going to a counsellor ... but by leaving class, while it was in progress, and going immediately to a school counsellor, he inoculates himself against the charge of leaving without permission. And even though it probably won't result in changing that terrible teacher any ... (and I'm extremely reluctant for him to take this teacher on, since she a) sounds like a high-conflict person which is its own nightmare to deal with, b) is very likely a …	/r/MensRights	07/12/15 05:13 AM
2	Insulted and ridiculed by a feminist teacher Thank you very much for saying so. This is the second time, in the last few months, that I've found myself more or less telling some young man "Bravo!" for daring to pursue his dream of being a teacher. It's awesome; but it's also kind of sad that it would seem so rare and brave and almost transgressive. I think that's what this whole subreddit exists for -- this whole social phenomenon or movement, maybe: private woes and worries that not only don't get a sympathetic ear, or a fair shake, out i…	/r/MensRights	07/12/15 05:01 AM
4	Insulted and ridiculed by a feminist teacher You have handled this horrible situation perfectly. You calmly spoke your mind; you didn't rant or flip out; and you honestly shared your earnest ambitions/dreams. If the teacher and her acolytes in that class were cloddish enough to laugh about your personal ambition of being a kindergarten teacher, then that's appalling and ironic and sad. But, once again, you did the exact right thing by getting up and walking out, and immediately informing a sane and patient counsellor. All this talk of reco…	/r/MensRights	06/12/15 04:36 PM
23	My role as a father was insulted this afternoon by a complete stranger It sounds like, despite everything, you aced this maddening little test. You did just right, no matter how horrendous that woman's behavior. I also applaud you on making use of this message board, for whatever purpose you can use it to help: ranting, complaining, getting advice, or just getting it off your chest. Presumably, this is what /r/MensRights is for, exactly this stuff. I can only imagine how frustrating and alarming this must've been because I have and still do deal with narcissists in…	/r/MensRights	20/11/15 05:39 AM
1	Don't be a nice guy. I think this is a very important point. For a caring "amateur," it has as much potential for disaster as bona fide help. There's actually a very good Richard Price novel about the impulse to help in this fashion called Samaritan which, of course, becomes a total disaster for the hero trying to save and help, and do good on a purely instinctive, one-on-one basis. Whatever volunteering and societal outreach you feel called upon to do should be part of a solid, real-life organization ... Apart from…	/r/MensRights	19/11/15 09:07 PM
3	I think I hate my English teacher. Absolutely -- I just used this quote from Doris Lessing in a conversation this week, even though it's from almost 15 years ago. Very little seems to have changed, at least not for the better, sadly.	/r/MensRights	14/11/15 07:07 PM
1	Charlotte Proudman shows everyone how compassionate she is. I would almost say she was feeling something like meta-fear or even actively simulating fear. Why? Because registering complaint is her own private Golden Ticket. The last time she told the world that she was being oppressed or objectified or otherwise being the victim of masculine brutishness in the world, she became (at least Internet) famous; her career took off; and she became a contributor to the Guardian, which is a launchpad. If she wasn't actually afraid, she knew the importance of adver…	/r/MensRights	03/11/15 07:58 PM
1	More Feminist Navel Gazing in the Times Today. I actually found it refreshing, this acknowledgement of intra-girl competitiveness, and how maybe it's not that wonderful of an expression of psychological insecurity and (non)growth. Any "evo psych" thinking which actually appears on the editorial page of the New York Times feels like something of a breakthrough to me. I'm not sure how we can see a line like this ... "When we each focus on being the dominant force in our own universe, rather than invading other universes, we all win." ... and n…	/r/MensRights	01/11/15 11:35 PM
8	Mass Shootings and Alienated Young Men The remark by Marilyn Manson is humane and sensible. But it's also uninformed, and maybe unhelpful. Columbine happened not because the killers weren't listened to, were bullied and "snapped," or for any other reason that might make sense to non-pathological people. Columbine happened because the instigator, Harris, was a sadistic psychopath. He wasn't reacting to his isolation, alienation, or brutal treatment by the world. He saw the world completely differently. Any kind of normal bumps in the …	/r/MensRights	03/10/15 09:12 PM
1	Michelle Obama Encourages Young Girls To 'Beat The Boys'....ahh....like boys are getting all the education accolades and outstripping girls out of a college education /s This probably won't be seen, since the Original Post is already buried in the line-up ... But I was thinking about the First Lady's comments last night, and it occurred to me that maybe I was sort of hearing them in the wrong spirit. It does sound ridiculous that she's advising girls not to go boy-crazy by immediately using as an example of the correct way to go about things ... her truly enviable marriage ... Until I thought about the fact that girls really are obsessed with romance. The coloss…	/r/MensRights	02/10/15 10:00 PM
7	Soldier catches wife abusing him on go pro, saying "call the police, I'm going to tell them you just assaulted me". It's a good thing he got it on tape, who would they have believed? Who's life would have been ruined as a result? Please consider making an individual Original Post about this. Not to muckrake or wallow in terrible activism. But it's a genuine, on-the-ground story that may be more filled with interesting and revealing detail than you might even remember. I'd be fascinated to hear about it and see a discussion; maybe others who've had similar "seminars" or "specialized training" -- in law enforcement, in the workplace, in schooling -- can chip in. Thanks for posting, obviously!	/r/MensRights	23/09/15 02:25 PM
3	Finally started my dream job, and the work environment is being ruined by someone with an anti male sentiment I couldn't agree with Karissa more. All the above advice about wading into battle with HR and saving all her IMs is treacherous. Unless her behavior were putting somebody's safety at risk, I'm worried your action will result, primarily, in your inviting a much more stressful experience at work through the possibility of her "targeting" you as her enemy. And since, as you rightly suggest, she has grown accustomed to giving voice to even the slightest complaint, she will almost certainly shift her…	/r/MensRights	02/07/15 04:01 AM
3	Campus activist who claims she was raped despite serious questions is feted as a hero; campus activist who exposed injustice in the school's handling sexual assault claims is treated as a pariah Although I think this is a story almost too frustrating to think about ... The above is a very important point to get right. Why? Because the idea that she "chose not to co-operate with the investigation" is part of Sulkowicz's narrative: it meshes with the "mistreatment women can expect" by the hands of law enforcement -- itself a key tenet of "rape culture": that the experience of dealing with the legal system is as traumatizing and hopeless as the crime being alleged. But the truth is, as All…	/r/MensRights	15/05/15 04:14 AM
2	"The Avengers" Director Joss Whedon Deletes His Twitter Because of Feminist Nutjobs I don't think this should be down-voted. It's a very interesting point. I'm going to give more thought to the idea of social ideologies versus political ideologies. For a long time -- since college, really -- the folks who signed up for radical political movements seemed, to me, like The Undiagnosed Looking For A Solution -- a remedy to something entirely to do with their personal unhappiness or else some pathology.	/r/MensRights	05/05/15 08:48 PM
2	Usually a fan of this blog, but today's post was a bit annoying Ironically, even when attempting to land some devastating rhetorical blow, gender-feminists can't help but echo Warren Farrell's central thesis: In our society, women are seen as human beings; men are seen as human doings.	/r/MensRights	02/05/15 05:50 AM
4	TIL: Over a year ago, RAINN declared that "rape culture" doesn't exist. I don't think any feminists listened to them though. Please stop down-talking to all MRAs. Our society is awash in rape culture-speak. Everybody on this subreddit knows what "rape culture" is -- even your special, insider definition. We aren't "missing out" due to our stubborn refusal to play ball. I think part of the reason the MR Movement exists at all is because there is no pushback -- in the mainstream -- against the supremacy of "rape" in our society. You claim that victims tend to be swiftly blamed. You simply assert this. But what have we s…	/r/MensRights	29/04/15 02:13 AM
5	TIL: Over a year ago, RAINN declared that "rape culture" doesn't exist. I don't think any feminists listened to them though. No, what I mean is: RAINN sees "rape culture" as specifically NOT a part of sexual assaults on college campuses or anywhere else. And putting the term in quotation marks probably disavows the theory -- not simply as something which shouldn't "dominate the discussion" lest we lose sight of whatever x, y, and z might happen to be. Whatever insight you have into the "feminist definition" of "rape culture" is obviously something Brett Sokolow would have as well; it's something he wants to get rid of…	/r/MensRights	28/04/15 10:43 PM
3	TIL: Over a year ago, RAINN declared that "rape culture" doesn't exist. I don't think any feminists listened to them though. I think the words "unfortunate trend" and of course "rape culture" being closed-off by quotation marks more strongly suggests that RAINN sees your argument as the problematic one.	/r/MensRights	28/04/15 08:09 PM
1	Feminists keep harassing male student about his "privelege" What you describe is beyond my experience, although it sounds great. My worry would simply be that, the further the story migrates from the source of the event, the more reason there might be for it to be downplayed or laid aside. This guy is, in my opinion, being directly and not-so-subtly driven crazy by this campaign. My instinct is that he needs the immediate, serious concern of people on-campus, people with the power to throw these young women out of the college, or to initiate an investiga…	/r/MensRights	22/04/15 04:24 AM
2	Feminists keep harassing male student about his "privelege" Absolutely. They have a little vigilante "project" underway, since they've sought him out a full year after they began the harassment. Other people in this -- and the original -- thread rightly point out the extremely troubling amount of confidential information they have on this guy (ex-military, by the way.) Without question, he needs to take this to the administration without delay, tomorrow. However, I haven't seen anyone advise him to select his administration-contactperson carefully. Havin…	/r/MensRights	21/04/15 05:49 AM
3	The Assassination of Paul Elam, by Buzzfeed. AKA "How Men’s Rights Leader Paul Elam Turned Being A Deadbeat Dad Into A Moneymaking Movement" I agree -- this piece, setting aside its truth-levels or news-interest, is an obvious smear. It's preposterous. A smear-piece is something that journalists of good conscience understand is myopic and, as often as not, the result of somebody else's manipulation/agenda. Taking as your "source" almost the exclusive word of somebody's ex is what divorce lawyers do. That Elam is or is not a good guy isn't going to be illuminated through this "method."	/r/MensRights	20/04/15 03:56 PM
3	Aside from Misery, are there any serious depictions of female on male abuse in movies/tv? There is an episode of the classic Canadian program Da Vinci's Inquest that does. It's Season 2, Episode 5: "His Wife." A man's wife dies after a fall down the basement stairs. The man seems to be lying about it in some way, and the detectives assume the lie is that he himself killed her. Ultimately, however, the revelation is that he had been abused by her for years and had learned that, invariably, no one would believe him. Endless calls to the police had found him to blame or had found that n…	/r/MensRights	17/03/15 09:46 PM
9	False rape denialism <To use your own logic against you, if you fucked a crazy chick, weren't you asking for it? <Not that I believe thats true at all, nobody asks to have a crime committed against them. And nobody deserves to be victimized once, much less twice.> Then why on Earth did you ask him if he was "asking for it?" As for "Why would anyone lie about being raped" ... are you joking? This whole subreddit lists dozens of cases -- as well as dozens of reasons. http://judgybitch.com/tag/elizabeth-jones-made-11-f…	/r/MensRights	01/03/15 04:34 AM
2	Please welcome our new moderator, and first Honey Badger! Thank you for introducing to my mind -- and explaining, totally -- the whole concept of a "threat narrative." And why, how, and when one is deployed -- and by whom -- and, furthermore, what it means, ethically speaking!	/r/MensRights	01/03/15 04:23 AM
159	I'm a feminist who wants to bring greater services to male survivors of violence, including shelter. Who's with me? It sounds like you're making all the right moves. If it counts, my modest advice would be to also speak up when the occasion arises. Nothing huge, nothing designed to make headlines; just empathy and whatever support you can muster (as you're clearly doing.) Wholesale -- in fact, species-wide -- changes in how people view male victimization isn't going to happen except when people, individually, change their own thinking and their own actions. Thank you very much for posting this.	/r/MensRights	26/02/15 09:03 PM
1	Another example of how modern feminism treats women as infants This is exactly right. Even putting age on the back-burner for a moment ... he's her teacher. He has authority in a variety of ways, power that can both influence the impressionable as well as directly effect their future. Factoring the ages back in ... it becomes even more unacceptable and is a serious criminal allegation. These quotes from the prosecution don't sound trivial. But obviously the judge saw things we haven't, hence her description of the girl as grooming him. It's an extremely unu…	/r/MensRights	15/01/15 09:50 PM
1	What is toxic masculinity? our society definitely encourages boys to be more aggressive (in addition to any inherent differences). I appreciate your comment, but I honestly believe this to be nonsense. Gender feminists are obsessed with what society or the culture "encourages." I don't know what that means, and I don't think they do either. It feels right, maybe, but I don't believe it adds up. Individuals have myriad hang-ups. Maybe there's a friend with a withering, judgmental attitude or an older sibling with a competi…	/r/MensRights	14/01/15 05:37 AM
2	What is toxic masculinity? This is an excellent response, and very interesting. I think it's the first thing I've even seen about the "toxic masculinity" canard that has any kind of factual and critical acuity. To me, the expression has only ever seemed like a placeholder, a meaningless piece of rhetoric for whatever hucksterish purpose its user has in mind: to win a debate or shame men or garner eyeballs or even generate donations. But this explanation actually has some forensics behind it! I really appreciate the insigh…	/r/MensRights	14/01/15 05:16 AM
7	An Honest Question - The Impact of "Law and Order: SVU" If you're suggesting that SVU and other imaginary fare like it have, perhaps, contributed to, not caused a generation of girls who: have much higher-than-realistic levels of fear about rape believe many more things to literally be rape than legally are find it almost impossible to think of themselves as anything other than "at moderate-to-high level of risk" of rape at all times (intensified by things like the relentlessly-repeated and utterly surreal 1-in-5 statistic and the utterly shaky and f…	/r/MensRights	06/01/15 04:31 PM
13	Feminists to white male nerd that was ready to commit suicide and castrate himself due to shaming: "Sorry to hear that, but let's remember that I'm the real victim here." This is a near-perfect summary of the current frenzy of blogs and columns discussing "privilege," "entitlement," and the -- apparent -- New Year vogue of discussing "nerds." Even putting nerds in quotes, as you do, correctly suggests it's one big shiboleth ... and actually represents: guys we instinctively hate, but we also hate being called-out on our hatred, and whom we must, therefore, hate more deeply than ever. Because: structural misogyny; male entitlement; assuming women "owe" them sex (s…	/r/MensRights	03/01/15 09:17 AM
11	Doonesbury, R.I.P. Oh my sweet Lord, you're exactly right. This is the comment that's missing from the slightly pathetic set of justifying comments below. "Who are these MEN???" Well, in this case, "they" are a composite of: 1) this one dude in high school she didn't know but saved his photo presumably because he was cute, and 2) an invented, phase-shifting amalgam-dude who is alternately a frat member, alternately a lifeguard, alternately named "Drew" or possibly "Haven Monahan," whose primary m.o. is, in fact, t…	/r/MensRights	01/01/15 08:43 PM
6	Falsely Accused of Rape - The story of 15 yr old Patrick Waring, Australia. A Family's worst Nightmare. According to the local paper, it took 7 months for DNA that had been collected off the girl's body and underwear to be tested. At which point it was identified as not coming from the 15 year old accused. At which point the "victim" admitted she was lying. ... 7 months! And even WITH that evidence, they nevertheless proceeded to trial, believing they had an air-tight case. I don't even need to imagine what would have happened, if the boy had been found guilty. He basically already was, served a y…	/r/MensRights	28/12/14 09:05 PM
1	Article says that false UVA Rape Allegations aren't the issue, the fact that people would believe them is. There's just so much rape who wouldn't believe a rape claim? For a reflective essay, it fails to examine the glaring possibility that the reason she and her friends "believed" the Rolling Stone piece is because they've grown up on a diet of such scare-stories. Christina Hoff Sommers suggests that scare-stories and preposterous statistics like these may simply be impossible to kill: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3TR_YuDFIFI&index=10&list=PLytTJqkSQqtr7BqC1Jf4nv3g2yDfu7Xmd	/r/MensRights	08/12/14 01:52 AM
1	Regarding concern trolls I'm sure you're right about the paranoia thing -- I seem to be living proof of it. "Concern Troll" does have kind of a cool ring to it, so I reluctantly admit there's a satisfaction-in-usage factor.	/r/MensRights	07/12/14 11:11 PM
2	Regarding concern trolls I have possibly been (mis)using the term, though I stick by my main points even if my grasp of the jargon is poor. Over the last few months, there have been multiple threads inviting the members of this sub -- who are taken to agree, a priori by the thread-poster -- to give "examples" of what is known as "Toxic Masculinity." Not being an Internet detective, I can't know the hearts of these thread-posters. But my instinct, particularly when the responses are non-responsive ones, like "OK, so we a…	/r/MensRights	07/12/14 09:35 PM
7	Poll: Which is the most hateful comment of the year? I agree with both of you. It's just surreal, how Ezra advocates for the "good fear" young men ought to feel. You know, the healthy, self-improving neuroticism and paranoia he thinks young men ought to have more of. Surely, that'll lead to a better world, right? More FEAR? It's a shame he wasn't born into a society where he could join the secret police. He sure seems to have the aptitude for it.	/r/MensRights	02/12/14 04:21 AM
2	What does masculinity mean to you? Why not tell us a little bit about yourself first? I see your account, /u/darling-girl, is one day old. That's vaguely troubling. My impression is that lately there are daily Concern Trolling-style posts asking contributors to Men's Rights to casually weigh in on "what masculinity means" or "toxic masculinity" or whatever innocuous-sounding "conversation-starter" the Original Poster can think up ... all of which have the potential for selective quote-mining. We'd be naïve if we didn't keep in mi…	/r/MensRights	29/11/14 07:21 PM
3	Radfems like to talk about "toxic masculinity". So what examples are there of "toxic femininity"? It's not an "interesting thought." This is the 3rd or 4th post I've seen, always by a different username, casually suggesting we weigh in and, essentially, give credence to the concept of innate sexual traits having "toxicity." It's Concern Trolling. Men's Rights forums and contributors understand, above all else, that anything which goes by the name "Toxic Masculinity" is a confidence game. It's a dishonest debate tactic to get the opposition to shut up, or to appear to have achieved some rheto…	/r/MensRights	24/11/14 01:02 AM
2	What is mens rights ...... This forum should be whatever its users need it to be. In case you hadn't noticed, just about every week these days there is some "outrage" perpetrated against "all women" that is immediately reinterpreted as having been the fault -- or to the shame of -- "all men." There is this constant drumbeat in the culture ... of men being dolts, cretins, violent, insensitive, in need of reprimand and instruction, of masculinity itself being "toxic." Masculinity -- the male state itself being "wrong" or "m…	/r/MensRights	19/11/14 12:08 AM
1	[Story] A lonely and empty feeling This is probably too complex and personal a story for a stranger's advice to seem sensible, but I do think the other comment about seeking out counseling would be a step in the right direction. My own mistaken addumption about counseling was thinking that I needed sufficiently-serious-sounding problems to justify my visit. But part of the point of counseling is: to enunciate something we ourselves can't see clearly. Just showing up and saying, "I think I need a hand here" is enough; maybe it wil…	/r/MensRights	16/11/14 04:04 AM
1	Don't know where else to post this. #privilege Dr. Warren Farrell refers to these persons as "genetic celebrities": http://www.warrenfarrell.net/Summary/ I wish I had helpful advice, but the best I can say is: Do your best to act against your impulses and try deliberately not to let beauty run you. It's such a potent force. Maybe the best a person can do is to: be in charge of his own actions, judge things based on their merits and their goodness, and choose what kind of outward "mask" he wears.	/r/MensRights	12/11/14 01:49 AM
17	Observations from my time in Menswear I really appreciate this post and admire your analysis. This kind of thing interests me most, from a Mens Rights perspective -- the empathy gap. Most of the discussion on r/MensRights, or at least how it seems to me, is highly focused on gender feminism, forms of ridiculous inequality, automatic shaming. But this sort of thing, the way that men have become such casual whipping-boys, really depresses me and angers me. It's very rare for a guy to have as one of his life skills, either growing up, …	/r/MensRights	06/11/14 10:34 AM
2	Man posts about his abusive girlfriend in /r/relationships. Glad to see these people actually helping, instead of just writing him off. Jesus, you're absolutely right. I'm sorry about that! Nevertheless, in regard to that m&m message about 10% of men being poison ... http://i.imgur.com/BBblH5u.jpg ... I certainly stand by my comment!	/r/MensRights	06/11/14 02:41 AM
-2	Man posts about his abusive girlfriend in /r/relationships. Glad to see these people actually helping, instead of just writing him off. Are you kidding? I admit this commenter shows a bit of crassness, and I sort of lost him toward the end. But, with all due respect, how can you possibly defend this ad or advisory or whatever-it-is? 10% of "men" are -- poisonous? What the hell does "poison" mean? Violent? By what criteria? Where are we getting this "info"? This isn't a statistic, or even a dramatization of a statistic. It's a stunt. And it is, at its heart, mean-spiritedness in the guise of "education" ... Just like all of the m…	/r/MensRights	06/11/14 12:32 AM
1	Toxic Masculinity from an MRA perspective? It feels like you're on a kind of mission here. Are you looking for some sort of shock-quote, or something you can mine for a paper or blogpost? I say that because I feel reasonably confident that anyone genuinely sympathetic to -- or in need of -- Men's Rights forums and spaces understands, above all else, that anything which goes by the name "Toxic Masculinity" is a term of art. It's both mean-spirited nonsense and a kind of hokum worldview salespitch: that there is some innate aspect of men t…	/r/MensRights	03/11/14 04:11 AM
10	Woman hires gunman to kill husband, gets caught, claims husband is abusive, goes free Yes, it's called "Contract Murder" and is a capital offense. Source: the outstanding series Justified.	/r/MensRights	31/10/14 10:20 PM
1	I think catcalling is rude, but the "10 hours" video is super-racist & we should be calling Feminists on it. Thank you very much for this comment. You're coming at it in terms of objective rightness versus wrongness -- which you're right to do -- and absolutely, from my point of view (and evidently yours) I couldn't agree more. I'm alarmed and repulsed when I see leering/catcalling behavior. It's not acceptable ... to me. Yet, if you read that link I included, the women of these different cultures have a range of attitudes about it -- including it "giving them a boost" and their missing its absence whe…	/r/MensRights	31/10/14 08:02 PM
3	I think catcalling is rude, but the "10 hours" video is super-racist & we should be calling Feminists on it. Respectfully, I disagree with what you're saying here: that this video "doesn't have anything to do with race." I believe the video's creators had a specific grievance going in -- I mean, that's obvious, that was the point of the whole social experiment they were performing. But the behavior they despise isn't common enough except in African-American and Latino neighborhoods, and among African-American and Latino men (and, arguably, construction sites) for them to make the video they felt they n…	/r/MensRights	31/10/14 08:26 AM
0	I think catcalling is rude, but the "10 hours" video is super-racist & we should be calling Feminists on it. Thank you for your reply. But even though you may not want to "go there," which I admit is kind of a stupid expression for me to use, this experiment "takes us there" whether you want to come along or not. The question is: why aren't we supposed to ask about the methods and choices behind it? My bramble of issues is, I think, not particularly unfair given that this is offered as a social experiment -- a gigantically well-noticed one. Like one of the voluntary polls showing sexual assault to be a…	/r/MensRights	31/10/14 12:59 AM
0	I think catcalling is rude, but the "10 hours" video is super-racist & we should be calling Feminists on it. I guess I'll just "go there" and ask ... How many "actresses" do you suppose they passed over that had something other than a 38F bust size? plus a small waist and wide hips? How totally amazed do you suppose the producers were to find that that kind of body-shape is insanely prized among African-American and Latino guys? And yes: her clothing is, I suppose, "normal." Except for the fact that it exactly defines her shape with no interference at all and stands out perfectly since it's totally bla…	/r/MensRights	30/10/14 10:17 PM
12	Anita Sarkeesian on the Marysville school shooting This is exactly it. "The male gender role that exists in feminist heads." Saying "toxic masculinity" is pure manipulation. People sometimes are broken, and people sometimes do evil. Men and women break or do horrendous things in different ways. This shooter's "masculinity" -- which she knows nothing about, nor cares -- is not germane. To forever seize some tragedy like this, or Elliot Roger, to hone her brand is malicious and thoughtless, because it's part of a trend where men and boys -- boys e…	/r/MensRights	25/10/14 07:22 AM
6	Feminism Has Nothing to Say But It Still Won’t Shut Up Respectfully, I think this comment is a bit closed-minded and too pat. As a commenter said before me: the author mentions God once. This was an article that I -- as an incredibly-fed-up-with-gender-feminism's-utterly-relentless-hypocrisy-meanness-and-crazed-inanity -- found seriously gratifying to read ... And yet we ought to sort of condemn it because he has some version of faith? I'd like to think that Mens Rights is a big enough tent to welcome the odd Episcopalian, Jew, Buddhist, or Jedi (a …	/r/MensRights	25/10/14 06:36 AM
2	I hate this insidious trend for belittling men, says MELISSA KITE I'll add my two cents and suggest that, rather than unconsciously demonstrating their low opinion of the strength of women, the "producers" of these shows -- sitcoms with shitbird dads and action movies with steely-eyed girls who yell "Go to hell!" to the guy with the gun to their head -- have, instead, a very clear and visceral memory of the universal scorn that will be heaped on them by showing women as anything OTHER than "bad-asses." I don't know if that universal scorn is anticipated from o…	/r/MensRights	24/10/14 07:29 AM
2	Ultra-feminist friend on Facebook posts this. Thoughts? Well, the blithe way that "groups like Stormfront!" gets mentioned in passing when discussing the MHRM suggests we're already there, in terms of ugly and wild mischaracterizations. Alison Tieman in her talks about the creations of "Threat Narratives" really woke me up to the usage of these kinds of slurs and what they really mean, their purpose. Any references made to "white supremacy" in relation to Mens Rights is pretty sinister; it clears us for "non-human" status ... "Who's the most odious g…	/r/MensRights	22/10/14 09:35 PM
2	What ‘Women Against Feminism’ Gets Right Thank motherlovin' God! I understood it, too! I get like .3% of references on Reddit! It's Deanna Motherlovin' Troi in Star Trek: First Contact! She's plastered and talking about Zephram Cochran, and how he's bananas, and how they don't have time to discuss the time it'd take to get Cochran to understand how pressing the time situation is in order for the first warp trip to ... well, you guys obvs understood the reference.	/r/MensRights	26/07/14 11:40 AM
3	As a woman, I came here expecting a load of bull, as the media portrays it.. Technically, it stands for "Shit Reddit Says." Somebody correct me if I'm wrong, but their thesis is that Reddit is, by and large, a pit of generalized misogyny, just social rejects who "hate women," and their r/SRS sub is therefore a running collection of all the unacceptable things Redditors say (unacceptable, that is, from the standpoint of gender feminism.)	/r/MensRights	12/06/14 04:47 AM
3	As a woman, I came here expecting a load of bull, as the media portrays it.. I watched a youtube from that aristocratic british teenager the other day. Which video do you mean? You say "that aristocratic teenager" as if she's somebody who's been talked about a lot lately -- I obviously missed it!	/r/MensRights	12/06/14 04:44 AM
4	Apparently feminists hate Shailene Woodley now for saying that she wants men and women to be equal I think this is a very important point to make. Too often these kinds of conversations get immediately bogged down in whether or not suchandsuch person "understands what feminism even is." But one thing almost no women bring up is how 2nd and 3rd Wave Feminism views family. It seems like a much more insidious and obviously unnatural aspect of the ideology, and one that really ought to make Feminism anathema to functioning adults. Anybody who's no longer a teenager, and who actually cares about t…	/r/MensRights	09/06/14 05:52 PM
9	I Never Thought I Needed MensRights... I appreciate this closer analysis. However, these posts which you mention, that condemn the one bad apple, make society- and sex-wide conclusions which do, in fact, sweep up all men together. If these critics and posters believed culpability for their negative experiences lay with specific knuckleheads, saying systemic misogyny or gender-discrimination or patriarchal norms or "teach men not to rape" would not even occur to them. A knucklehead is a knucklehead, and the trick in life is to address…	/r/MensRights	29/05/14 03:21 AM
15	I Never Thought I Needed MensRights... Context matters. The current context is: a narcissistic psychopath whom no-one had ever heard of commits a horrible, criminal atrocity that everyone unanimously condemns -- a crime with an infinitesimally small occurrence-rate (all crime is way down, including homicide and rape) -- and the resulting conversation is ... Toxic male entitlement Toxic masculinity Male privilege Male misogyny Men should shut up and LISTEN for a change Men's Rights is responsible Men should police each other Men are t…	/r/MensRights	29/05/14 02:45 AM
4	Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming! Well, if there's one thing the author of the book had more than anybody involved it was: direct knowledge of the case. Admittedly, I didn't read what that former classmate said on Reddit. But it's not like the book was written by someone who dropped in, took a look around, and dashed off the book. The only reason I got so much out of reading it was that the guy began covering the story within 30 minutes of the shooting taking place -- obviously, he wasn't writing a book, yet, he was just reporti…	/r/MensRights	28/05/14 12:47 PM
3	Want to help prevent another Elliot Rodgers? Speak out against male virginity shaming! The only school/campus shooting I've read about in detail was Columbine (I read the book by Dave Cullen, which I recommend.) The primary thesis of the book is that nearly all of the common wisdom people took away from that tragedy was wrong. The killers weren't bullied; in many cases it was they themselves who bullied. They weren't misunderstood loners; they had a perfectly ordinary circle of friends, almost all of whom were themselves healthy and conscientious. I don't know how much this differ…	/r/MensRights	28/05/14 05:53 AM
4	Official "MRAs blamed for UCSD mass murder" thread. Thank you for your comment and insight. (Though I think it's kind of a low blow to insinuate I find mental illness amusing.) My main point was that, while everyone is reacting with shock and outrage to the hateful and unnerving words this killer wrote, taking them at face value seems -- to me -- to be a very shaky bet. You seem to be showing a lot of empathy for this killer -- which I guess you should be commended for -- because you feel for anyone who suffers from a personality disorder that is…	/r/MensRights	27/05/14 02:47 AM
12	Official "MRAs blamed for UCSD mass murder" thread. From his writing and videos, this guy is the ultimate "Unreliable Narrator." He doesn't know what's happening inside himself -- much less understand it; he doesn't have a clue about other people; and his most fervent desires seem more like conceptual goals -- "things" to "want" in the abstract, primarily for status and to look "magnificent." The speculation about his being gay is distasteful and maybe irresponsible, but I understand why people are groping their way toward that kind of thing. Not…	/r/MensRights	26/05/14 03:53 AM
3	"Oh feminists, you so crazy..." Girl Writes What What I really wish somebody had bothered to address was the ugly way the philosophy professor, the young one in orange (McLachlan?), kept insinuating that these protests were some kind of boon for Fiamengo -- that now she was on "The Agenda with Steve Paikin." It suggests that Fiamengo doesn't quite deserve the platform she now has ... or exactly the same spotlight that she herself, McLachlan, apparently already enjoys (she's been on once before, I take it.) It's the basest hypocrisy; and, along…	/r/MensRights	22/05/14 12:24 AM