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Hey lady, welcome 🙂. Sorry about this situation, getting mixed messages feels fucking awful. Don't feel bad about pickmeisha behavior, a lot of us have been there, and we are all here to learn and grow. Honestly I think this guy is a waste of your time, the mixed messages are just unacceptable, he can be a big boy and use his words to communicate--he isn't treating you the way you deserve to be treated. This doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, it means he's just trash, as you read mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:21 PM
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Fucking honestly. These scrotes are just salty they get NO female attention online dating. Y'all can come crying when you literally get daily messages from men cheating on their wives and looking for unicorns despite having "NO THIRDS OR POLYAMORY" in the first sentence of your profile. Y'all can come crying when you don't get daily messages looking for kink or men telling you, "you must have looked so sexy when you were pregnant," when you also have NO KINK in the first sentence of your profile…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:08 PM
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I guess he's too busy to train his dog too, which explains the god awful dog bondage. Edit: what's with the pillow in front of his torso, is this how we are disguising our out of shape bodies now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:41 PM
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Scrotes real mad to see a gorgeous, influential feminist asserting her power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:41 PM
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I love your name and this comment lmao 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:36 PM
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Sure I'll step out of my comfort zone... when you manage to cobble together a complete sentence with correct capitalization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:05 PM
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Can I add dudes who mention in their profiles that they want to visit Japan or have pictures of visiting Japan. Do we have a fetish for Asian women or an obsession with anime? It's always one of the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:20 PM
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You're not missing much...it's not exactly the intellectual pinnacle of reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:12 PM
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Next time you can talk to them about the burning monks, it will really lighten up the mood 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:03 PM
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:D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:50 AM
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I think because it's online he will be fine, because those chemicals aren't there to really make him attached (your smell, sex, etc.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:48 AM
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Hey friend I'm glad you're hanging in there! I'm hoping someone more experienced with FDS jumps in but my gut instinct is that you're doing it because you're feeling lonely, down and insecure. I don't think you need to feel guilty though, I'm just not sure what advice to give. Part of me thinks that the flirting is ok if it is making you feel better, but I would want a second opinion just in case that contradicts FDS. He will be ok, I think it's good for you to at least have some safe fun, and b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:38 AM
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Are you me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:25 AM
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I have my bachelors in social work, and I agree with you. There are no perfect decisions in war.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:58 AM
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Dear gay men: we hate you, stop sexually assaulting us. Just kidding friends, get yourself some FDS strategies and don't take people's bullshit. And whatever you do, don't chase straight men. Love, a former pickmeisha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:33 AM
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Bahahahahaha honestly you're probably right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:24 AM
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Bahahahahahaha sucks to suck, Ian
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:21 AM
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He JuSt WaNtS aN eNdOrPhIn HiGh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:19 AM
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For fucking real. My dad, mom, and step dad are all trash. I've had a few nice step moms but the last one is too brainwashed to have a clue. I have 5 siblings, and only one has a relationship with my mom only. Have fun getting old guys, enjoy the nursing home and solitude 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:10 AM
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I really could not agree more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:06 AM
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👌🙌👏👏👏👏👏 honestly this is a sunk cost fallacy, either you have amazing sex and then you feel devastated when you lose it, or you have to tolerate some douche who doesn't know how to use his pecker. And that friend thing? Nonexistent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:39 PM
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I fucking hate that this poor woman feels gaslighted enough to even ask this fucking question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:07 PM
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Right? It's so weird to be unlearning all of this subtle bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:00 PM
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Arial needs to go back into the ocean and think about her choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:30 AM
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Oof good call, I can't believe I missed that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:12 PM
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I know right? Never have I ever read such seething delusion and rampant cognitive dissonance. And what's with this whole "women have no morals b.s.?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:10 PM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:30 PM
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Girl if they just make you feel bad cut your losses. Explain it to them if you think they can handle it otherwise just duck out, your mental health and wellbeing come first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:20 PM
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Don't forget, she is in charge of making him feel like a real man /s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:20 AM
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This. This. This. Dont tell a guy about your abuse because they will toss that back in your face the second they get pissed off enough. One guy told me, "I can see why your ex hit you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:18 AM
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I'm with you on this, that severe lack of physical care (chapped lips) really screams to me that something is going on at home. The lack of manners can be attributed to bottled up frustration and constantly on the phone says (escape) to me, much like I've been doing all day because I'm sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:09 AM
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I laughed really hard at, "form an orderly line " lmaooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:06 AM
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This is why I hate when people talk about buddhism like it's something so special and transcendent, like bitch, these damn lamas are pimping out their women followers. There was another quote I read about how Siddhartha told a follower there were nymphs in nirvana 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:37 AM
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Seriously, that's what dreams are made of, a cute, clean, minimalistic house to myself while they be disgusting alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:46 AM
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It's so true, I used to love cleaning, but there's just something about constantly cleaning a man's clutter that ruined it for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:37 AM
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I think you make a solid point about how we tend to want the superficial qualities because we expect so little. Like shopping for a cute cheap pair of shoes, sure they might look cute now, but that classy pair of pumps are going to be more comfortable and last forever even though you pay more for them initially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:36 AM
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Shhhhh, dont tell them 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:20 AM
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Jesus, did you see the ones from siddhartha gautama? I mean I always thought he was a fuckboi by the way he ditched his wife and child to feel s p e c i a l but damn. What a douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:21 PM
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LVM: hey are you hungry? HVW: yes I'm starving! LVM: cool, I'm going to get myself something to eat before we hang out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:12 PM
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You absolutely belong, we are glad you are here <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:10 PM
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What you are doing is so incredibly brave, it takes a lot of courage to stand up to an abuser so don't underestimate how far you are going to go in life with your resolve. The pain and darkness can feel unending, but I promise you will find your light again. Hang in there, and please go see a counselor if you can. You need more people to remind you how strong you are and how valid your feelings are. You need someone to remind you that you are normal and worthy of love and friendship. When all ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:47 PM
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Society tells women that we should pity everybody and forgive and forget. It's honestly the biggest load of crap I've ever had to shed in my life. Whenever you feel even mildly guilty remember you don't have to feel anything for anyone, you are allowed to be an autonomous human being and save your feelings for people who actually matter: you. And the only person in this situation who deserves a shred of your compassion, your love, your tenderness, is you. You didn't choose this and you didn't de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:21 PM
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Let's all go ahead and give a moment of silence for this scrote and say, "may you get what you deserve you putrid waste of human flesh." 🧘‍♀️ Nah sis, let him feel the consequences of being pond scum, enjoy the release of anger because he deserves that and more. You are not under any obligation to feel a shred of compassion for him ever again, and you are not any less of a caring and compassionate human for wanting to see him suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:06 PM
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that one final cold-blooded fuckboy who pushed you right over the edge into ruthless bitchville. Mine was a red pillar I chased after. He sure was a piece of shit. Did a number on my self esteem...thank god for FDS 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:58 PM
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I feel that way too a lot of the time, plus if someone has a gun pointed at your head you never hand them the bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:47 PM
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That honestly blows my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:36 PM
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Honestly I'm not sure it's an improvement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:31 PM
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Absolutely the truth. Patriarchies exist to control women, not to protect them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:30 PM
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That part pissed me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:16 PM
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want a long term sex toy with a pulse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:13 PM
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I have nipples Jack...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:12 PM
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This is solid advice, will be using, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:09 PM
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What really bothers me is I find most women in the online games I play are complicit in the weird male attention. I mean I get it, they're being the cool girl, but can y'all not have some weird flirty bullshit while I'm trying to land my skill shots and pay attention to the map? Also I think as women we should piss and moan everytime some low value manlet opens up a game with "I'm playing the hottest character here." Kill that bullshit with fire and report them. P.s. being a cool girl myself, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:59 PM
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I was shocked when I read your tough love post, not by you, by the callousness of the presenter. It was a good message even if it was delivered poorly and I appreciated your interpretation (most definitely not tough love) more than the original. I am a victim of CSA and IPV as an adult, and you know what? When I went to family court to fight my monster of an ex nobody gave a shit about what he did. I had a fierce case of PTSD and recovery was a struggle, but you know what helped? Realistic fucki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:49 PM
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Ugh. I'm dealing with the same issue with my son. Getting him to do the littlest thing is met with an absurd amount of resistance, and it's not like I accept that kind of behavior, I train kids for a living. But his father is so low level he's reached the earth's mantle and I suspect it's either hereditary or he has learned to copy his fathers behavior. His father ended up finding the epitome of a pickmeisha who is the breadwinner, cook, and maid (her first messages to me were spewed vitriole ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:32 PM
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Is that really a factor after a certain age though? I flunked a year of high school and still graduated with a college degree once I obtained some stability in my life. There are medications for ADHD that boys can take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:24 PM
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Ah ok, that makes sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:17 PM
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Lmao, that's a fair point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:31 PM
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Idk girl, some people are just too far down the rabbit hole...at least for now. I do feel for her though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:30 AM
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I used to suspect something was wrong with education because women are so much more educated than men, but I increasingly suspect it's a motivation issue. Why is it that both genders have access to education but women are the ones flocking toward an education? Maybe because Jessica doesn't want to get stuck with some loser Billy-Bob who she is going to have to clean up after, while he watches tv and drinks a beer, while he flirts with women half his age. Maybe it's because women are capitalizing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:21 AM
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This is why I keep telling you that you're making assumptions. I agree men are objectively more dangerous, and more numerous than destructive women. That's basic math.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:08 AM
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I love your username! Crossing my fingers for you on the new job🤞. Little steps add up to a lot of big steps so I'm happy and hopeful for you and your progress <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:41 AM
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<3 I love you more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:30 AM
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I also love cleaning the house! Look at all these cute homemade cleaning cloths and knitted sponges I made! 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:29 AM
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Speaking of big girl pants, you might want to remove the sand out of yours because you're making assumptions about my opinions, again. If you excuse women who molest and abuse their children you're nothing but an abuse apologist and if having a dialogue about toxic and abusive women is so upsetting to you then maybe you're the one who needs those big girl panties. Women are absolutely dumped on far, far more than necessary, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about the dangers of toxic and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:01 AM
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Damn your english is good! Never would have known! Girl, fuck this scrote. What a fucking asshole, rubbing it in your face like that, he is not HVM, trust me. You don't walk up to coworkers and talk about how much better another coworker is in comparison to them. That shit is not acceptable, and I know how vulnerable you are feeling (very understandable), but the next time you see him, take a dig at his ego to remind yourself how pathetic he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:16 AM
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Honestly. No fucking thank you, I can afford my house and my retirement, buh bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:06 AM
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Jesus, did anyone see this, ">Do these bitches all have that hundred cock stare? No. There's not many people even willing to make the offer compared to the number of wannabe women. Getting regularly abused is a privilege." Stay. Woke. Queens. Women on FDS: I want to be treated with respect so I keep my standards high to avoid being hurt. men on TRP: I want to fuck and use women. Women are disposable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:05 AM
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This was really an excellent article, thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:29 AM
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Bahahaha secondhand ashamed for them. I'm just ashamed of them, although I did see a few that were not I'll intentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:50 AM
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This was the article I really needed to read. When gamergate happened I was struggling to stay afloat, and was a hippie who rejected all media. Later, when I left the abusive relationship I was in, there was so much going on in my personal life I wasn't able to comprehend how it all fit together. I might come back and edit this comment, because I can feel the thoughts swirling around. Edit: I have a few specific thoughts here, one is that I think these communities are an echo chamber which radic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:32 AM
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Can you imagine if this wasn't a female only space? It would be an absolute nightmare. Why is it that these assholes can't simply be autobanned?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 12:15 AM
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You really are very determined to make this about my issues and how they've "ruined" my idea of women because you keep throwing out scenarios that don't even relate to me. You've never met me, you literally don't know me, and yet here you are dying on this hill that I somehow hate women more than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:49 PM
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Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:40 PM
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Hang in there girl, OLD is fucking brutal, just think of it as rinse, wash, repeat. Don't forget self care and to do things that are actually fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:36 PM
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Bahahahaha. I literally read this, looked up, and stared into space. This absolutely killed a few of my brain cells.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:34 PM
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Don't forget it's a numbers game! You just have to find one HVM worth your time, and it's just statistical probability, in dating form, absolutely nothing to do with you these dudes are all too LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:32 PM
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This seems like a fuckboi to me. It's all so low effort it hurts. Only a LVM would passively ask someone on a date, like he wants you to jump his bones and his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:29 PM
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I don't know what your problem is, but this isn't about you. I am under no obligation to forgive or accept anyone because of patriarchal influences and that's the kind of b.s. gaslighting that should be rejected from anyone. Some people grow up in horribly abusive households and never choose to abuse their children. If we don't hold women accountable for how they treat other women then we can't expect better from men because they were raised in a patriarchy too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:16 PM
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Absolutely! Either way I love the self-love, you go goddess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:19 PM
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Haha, an arsenal of protection, I like it. You're definitely not wrong, it is part of our body that makes us exceptionally vulnerable because we do bear children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:14 PM
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Yeah it would probably make more sense if i believed even slightly in any spirituality or religion, and there's certainly nothing wrong with feeling like your body is sacred
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:12 PM
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I would say I hate toxic people equally. Abusing others the way you have been abused is inexcusable. Just like a pedophile that abuses a child is not excused because they have been abused. That being said, nothing hurts quite as much as a betrayal from another woman, because I think we expect women to be there for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:09 PM
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Idk, I'm torn on this, I definitely think if you are a spiritual person with spiritual beliefs this is relevant, but the skeptical part of me is like, "Gerald Garner invented paganism around 1940 ish so he could see some boobs under the guise of 'liberation.'" I think seeing our womb and vagina as sacred is potentially male oriented instead of, "I already give birth, I don't need your dumb ass fumbling around with my plumbing." Why would I want my uterus being upheld like some sort of mystical f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:20 PM
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There is enough knowledge and therapy in the world that I just cant excuse some of that behavior. At some point women have to take accountability for their own actions and not blame the LVs who raised them and the shitty patriarchy that dominates our society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:19 PM
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Haha, ugh. Its true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:52 AM
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I would tend to agree, I'm referring more to parasitic LVW. I have no sympathy for a woman that actively sabotages another out of insecurity, but a misled pickme absolutely tugs at my heartstrings. But to have a LVW in your life it's definitely more of a mentor relationship, and less of a down in the dirt with you kind of relationship. Edit: I hate calling misled pickmes LVW, it just feels...judgemental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:21 AM
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Agreed, anyone trying to do better is good enough for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:54 AM
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Run girl, run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:45 AM
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Fucking gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:43 AM
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Lmfao, "after you've done the hard work of figuring out my emotions, and cradling me like a baby, I need you to let me have sex with you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:28 AM
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Me too! Toxic workplaces have this weird way of making you feel not good enough and like there isn't anything better. Just like an emotionally abusive relationship in how the dynamics work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:10 AM
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Real queens fix each other's crowns. I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:08 AM
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I'm not coming from a place of internalized misogyny. LVW can be just as toxic as LVM no matter the cause of their toxic behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:07 AM
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Heck yes, get rid of those LVW who don't want to support you and see you succeed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:05 AM
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Yikes, that's like a limbo dance level of low. I'm glad you're here and not with them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:03 AM
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That's god awful, and terrifying. My current boss (female) is an absolutely amazing human being and I'm so happy to be working for her, my previous boss (female) was a nightmare to work for. She outright lied to my face and went off on me for a mistake I didnt even make. When I put in my notice she retaliated against me and arranged the schedule so I ended up having to work a double. Thank god it's illegal for HR to give your new employers details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:00 AM
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Yeah, LVW are some of our worst enemies. My mother chose my abuser over me and gaslighted me when I called her out on her bullshit. It's easier when we can rally together and stand strong against LVM, but it's fucking difficult when the LVW in your life to nothing but drown you, so I get what you mean, some women don't stand a chance with the LVW that raised them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:06 AM
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I'm sorry girl but fuck that noise, your value isn't in how spotless you clean the house or robotically perform labor. Your mother can gtfo with that nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:36 PM
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Hell yes! Low value people take an insurmountable toll on your health, I'm glad you're feeling better and thriving <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:35 PM
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There is nothing that will make a woman, or person, feel crazier than some low level scrote gaslighting you. Keep trusting yourself and refuse to accept bullshit games people play, don't let them use your health against you and feed off your insecurities <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:33 PM
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Patience and balance my friend <3 Eventually you will realize you have to cultivate strength others don't have even if you cant bang 3 hours of laundry out in one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:31 PM
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You are so right, I've noticed that too, nothing like a pity party to make things better 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:06 AM
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Oh my gosh, I don't want to make this a heavily gendered thing, but seriously, how many guys do you know with mental health issues that literally never do anything about it? I go to the doctor, make 90% of my appointments, go to therapy, generally take my meds as described, work, go to school, and somehow manage to mostly function. People don't even know I'm sick unless I tell them, and we are supposed to settle for some second rate males who don't do half the shit we do? Hell no girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 02:05 AM
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Absolutely, I see other women with chronic illnesses on here feeling like they aren't high value, sisters, when you have a chronic illness you fight everyday to better yourself, and you have likely survived a lot in your life because chronic illness correlates with trauma. You are a bad ass and have no earthly reason to tolerate a bunch of b.s. it's not worth your health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:57 PM
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This is such a great example of how to weed out these losers, well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:48 PM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:00 PM
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Of course women are going to turn to prostitution when societal structures make selling drugs and prostitution more lucrative. Structures can be altered and changed. Not easily, but it is possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:13 AM
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There are some things I will never passively accept are here to stay. Things as dangerous as porn, misogyny, homophobia, and racism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:59 AM
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Porn and prostitution normalize treating people like sexual objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:50 AM
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I really like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:43 AM
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Just stick around FDS and soak it in :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:41 AM
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Sexual trauma can and does result in a high libido, if you were a victim. Honestly, your responses sound very trauma like, it might be helpful to head over to r/cptsd to get a better sense of what behavior you learned from your trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:23 AM
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It's a very codependent response to assume self esteem is narcissistic and I say that from experience. Free love can be another manipulation to allow people to be used and taken advantage of. Reframing your thinking to say, "you should be grateful for me," isn't narcissistic, it's protective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:43 AM
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I would consider it a very strong mistake to pick someone "better" than you because it automatically puts you in a pick me position and a position to be manipulated. Your attitude towards men should be, "you are fucking lucky to have me," but I also consider you worthy. I think you should reconsider the value of hedonism and consider how it's an attitude and a lifestyle that offers you no protection, pun not intended but I'll take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:36 AM
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I believe it, I am very adamantly not into any kind of kink, and very disinterested in sifting through areas with higher volumes of psychos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:32 AM
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Essentially you want to watch for boundary pushing, not just your boundaries but also socially acceptable boundaries. Is it normal for someone to act upset if you don't want to go their favorite restaurant? Probably not. Prodding at their insecurities can look like a lot of different things, but the goal is to see how they respond to criticism. But you're probably not just going to automatically know that people who manipulate tend to use pressure (often requiring you to respond urgently), or te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:31 AM
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It might be beneficial for you to do some basic research on how people manipulate and control, you're going to want to arm yourself venturing into the world of OLD. It's a lot of exposure, and that also means exposure to predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:19 AM
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Ohhhh that's why I never heard of fetlife, makes sense now. Here I was thinking it was just some nee shitty site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:15 AM
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It's always good to poke and prod their insecurities too. One dude on OLD told me he wanted to kill me and my family, always good to rule out the psychopaths in addition to FDSs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:10 AM
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Understandable, I just meant there's no shame in being new to something, and I didn't want you to feel like I was being critical. We all have to learn that awful lesson from thirsty LVMs at one point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:07 AM
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I don't think it's a terrible thing you aren't as jaded, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:40 AM
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Honestly I would have blocked the second he suggested a platform for exchanging pictures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:18 AM
6

I would consider things like u and or a dealbreaker, personally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:27 PM
40

Yeah that's a total pickmeisha move right there, and I've been guilty of it...being grateful for table scraps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 01:56 AM
10

I hope she called DCF on his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 01:47 AM
20

Only if by offer you mean slowly slide his married hands down your pants without your consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 01:25 AM
33

I don't have words. What a massive violation of boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 03:57 AM
2

Hmm, I can see that. I'm a single mom too so I feel you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:33 PM
7

I love this analogy, I'm so picky about purses, I need it to be classy, clean, secure, simple, and very functional. It needs to be useful in all settings and all situations and it needs to hold all of my shit--including clients' paperwork.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:58 PM
14

Light years better. Kevin Hart is one of the least funny comedians I've ever seen. Like I don't get why people find him funny...at all. Not the point of the post but it's hard to talk about KH without commenting on his "humor."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:54 PM
14

I really cannot emphasize this enough. My mother picked an abusive (physically and emotionally) LVM (my ex) over me. She made constant excuses for men and how they were all the same. Never tolerate a woman in your life who excuses bad behavior and competes for who has it the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:51 PM
3

Hey sis, we are in like the exact same situation, it's so weird. Mine was also "poly" when we first met and bot honest about it. He says his ex wanted it, and when he met me he very quickly left her (without my knowledge). I really don't know what to make of it all right now because there's a lot of good and a lot of bad, but I'm in graduate school and working very part time so I'm stuck here for at least a year. After that, who knows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:42 PM
4

Interesting, I've always thought waiting longer was better. I would make people wait months before going on a date because I just absolutely did not want to waste my time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:29 PM
1

I agree, that was my suspicion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 07:54 PM
14

That makes me immediately suspicious because if the children's biological mother is still involved she should be mom and the step parent should be called the step parent, like wearing white to someone else's wedding. If they got divorced, the step mom would no longer be in the child's life--thats not worthy of a mom title. It honestly sounds like attention seeking behavior to me, "look at how selfless I am! Look at how awesome I am!" Don't get me wrong, I expect step parents to love and care for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:46 PM
4

Oh I've only known people that had their own rig, maybe that was why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:31 PM
2

Yeah, toying around with a LVM will get him to stay, but that won't make him any better of a partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:47 AM
52

Can't you just hear the internal screaming from the wife? "HE PICKED MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:45 AM
27

I would be skeptical of truckers, it's a high demand and high paying job with minimal entry requirements. Not that I think people with degrees are better per se, just that grueling commitment does tend to weed out some low value people, where as if you are going for truckers there's more LVM because it's a low skill job. I also think people who have an interest in not being stable are going to be attracted to a profession like that. Edit: high paying if you've been working minimum wage and have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:44 AM
3

Yeah, I feel like this comes dangerously close to encouraging women to fix or prove yourself to these men because they're broken. Something about it just feels off to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:37 AM
62

I read through all those comments and thought, I'll tag u/theOGjammies, the one sane person, came back to the post and it was OP, lol. I love all of the assholes who have their own sexual issues and felt the need to normalize their kinks in OPs post, and also defend that disgusting behavior. How did all of these idiots read through that and think, "iTs JuSt A kInK?" The fucking dude said "you can't stop me from driving to your house," that is a red flag you can see from the fucking moon. Everyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:32 AM
44

He absolutely is, anything he can he will say to get his rocks off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:11 AM
79

I got this a billion times too, so fucking annoying. Yes I understand your selfish porn sick ass is allergic to any kind of selfless commitment but believe it or not there are actually normal men on the planet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:09 AM
18

Lmfao, his "lil brain," it really do be like that tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:07 AM
13

Incels are so weak minded and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:58 AM
14

It's about standards and safety. How many of us have been run over by total pieces of shit in our lives? These strategies are invaluable for weeding out abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:24 AM
21

Same, showed mine, no fucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:19 AM
21

100% agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:16 AM
22

Haha, it's true though. "Waaah she doesn't want me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:40 AM
136

"A solid 7, but at least she's thin." Bro this is why you are single, douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:22 AM
22

Also a lack of awareness, also a bad sign, she outright balked at his approach and he doubled down instead of being socially corrective. This also signals he only has his interests in mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:19 AM
35

It wasn't a question asking if she wanted to go to dinner, it was a statement, subtly controlling. It was also out of context, he went straight from a normal conversation to telling about dinner, this shows pressure, pressure indicates he is likely looking for a hookup and is only conversating as much as necessary to accomplish that goal. Edit: words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:15 AM
35

This makes me want to throw my phone at the wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:02 AM
7

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:01 AM
60

I think when he said aboriginal he meant unoriginal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:28 PM
3

You are absolutely right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:23 PM
3

Lmao, spray him with water, I mean it's an option regardless imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:22 PM
4

It was a porn addiction sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:22 PM
3

Omg I know, devices stay in our livingroom, but OTHER parents are often the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:21 PM
23

I honestly felt guilty roasting him because he posted asking for help Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:34 AM
4

Insecurity, just another extension of the pickme. But I'm so nice! Look at how nice I am to guys!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:16 AM
9

Hahahaha manlets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:11 AM
15

Never have true words been written
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:44 AM
10

This was also the classical projection era, where the female genitalia is assumed to fail in the same way as the male genitalia when the male has exposed himself to far too many little boys and his ability to become erect has become exhausted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:09 PM
80

Clitorious...was that the first example of a fuckboy in ancient greece?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:51 PM
3

I don't buy that shit, humans have evolved to be collaborative social creatures. This is just skewing biology to fit a b.s. narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:20 PM
17

I consider close female friends a giant red flag, and therefore a deal breaker. It could be a number of things, orbiting by the male or female, narcissistic behavior, or treating the woman like their free therapist. Whatever it is I don't want to deal with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:16 PM
9

Ugh. This reminded me of this. https://www.mic.com/articles/85201/the-surprising-way-the-netherlands-is-helping-its-disabled-have-sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:38 PM
6

What is blue pill libfem ideology and why is it bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:53 AM
28

Maximum density level hardness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 03:55 AM
11

Jesus, that is some next level control right there. Talk about emotional fucking manipulation, this asshole keeps her wondering if she's even enough to be loved. That's a big yikes from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:46 PM
25

Girl, I feel this, I've dated a number of Hispanic men and the results have been extra shitty. The toxic behavior that is tolerated in machismo cultures is mind boggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 04:00 AM
5

Tonight I said no to explaining why I didn't feel like being at a party with a bunch of people who have no interest in being quality people. I wanted to be hone with my child for New Years and relaxing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:49 AM
1

Ugh. Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:13 PM
27

Positive punishment, for fucking real though, this behavior should not be treated passively and service workers should have, and be taught by their employers, a plan for this. I remember being 15, working, and getting sexually harassed constantly from bosses and customers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:25 PM
2

He's a hot mess tbh, I'm pretty iffy about it right now, but yeah I agree her behavior is questionable at best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:07 AM
4

Oh yes, she has very few boundaries, she has asked me if SO (her son) is well endowed. She told me I was too healthy to have fibromyalgia (thanks I do my best to....function?) And she's made comments about my food allergies. Weirdly, if I cook something she's very critical, but loves anything SO cooks, but if she drinks, then my cooking is delicious to her. One day she straight walked into our house. No call, no knock, and no text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:56 AM
8

Ladies, I made it to the end! Here's the video! https://youtu.be/HuPFHQW8g3Y
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:51 AM
2

I think I'll have to catch her at a low moment, present my spiel, and send her here. Idk, deep down she's very insecure so I'm a bit afraid to poke too deep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:45 AM
2

I don't think so, she's very defensive about it. She absolutely does not want feedback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 06:41 AM
19

For fucking real. These damn scrotes thinking they can shimmy around a boundary if they solicit more information out of a woman. This is why no means no, because as soon as you say. "I'm uncomfortable, " you've already given this kind of douche an opportunity to manipulate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:33 PM
20

That's a lot of words for, "women don't like having sex with me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:31 PM
29

squints looks at date Oh my god This dude must be fucking cheesy at this point. The only excuse for going 5 days without showering is if you live in a third world country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:25 PM
1

Taking stock of both but specifically talking about LVW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:31 PM
1

Ye, it's the title though, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:43 PM
3

*LVW whoops
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 07:58 PM
1

He feels this way about you and every other woman he matches with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:53 PM
3

I love this sub so much, it's honestly been the best thing for my self esteem...ever. I've worked really hard to get a degree and overcome my circumstances, I'm overweight, but that's fixable, my SO should be damn lucky to have me, and if he isn't...bye felicia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:17 PM
2

J so, so agree, I love that no matter our backgrounds we are all strong and can handle honest feedback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:14 PM
11

I feel your pain. I have a 10 yo boy and it's like pulling teeth. At his age I was cooking and babysitting, but he rolls his eyes like a drama clean when I remind him to do his daily chores. The laziness is truly profound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:01 PM
26

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:44 AM
16

Sometimes those "special" vibes can indicate some narcissism happening. Also his story sounds like a blatant lie: almost like he was fishing you to bite at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:59 AM
3

This. All of this. Lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:04 AM
38

Let me tell you if the father is enough of a shitbag the abandonment is preferred
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:09 PM
36

You know what's even more fun than an absentee father? Deadbeat dads that get custody and then signgle mothers are left to raise, shield, and deal with these losers. It's like single parenting another, albeit really shitty, child. Everyone wants to act like custody is an entitlement, it shouldn't be, the best parent is the one that should get custody but in my experience you have to have boards of damning documentation to get a father's custody taken away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:06 PM
11

I'm not sure who was more uncomfortable, him being proposed to or me watching it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:37 PM
18

I agree. I'm a simple creature, I like to be busy and use my intellect for complex problems, and all I really want is an equal who respects me and treats me like a friend. I'm a minimalist and strive to reduce anything unnecessary. I believe in supporting others so being in a position to defend my worth isn't desirable, but experience has taught me how necessary it is. These strategies work, which is both eye-opening depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:29 PM
26

My favorite thing to say is, yes you can have anal sex with me when I get to use a strap on and put it in your ass. Do that a few times and you'll never get asked again :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:06 PM
5

"male"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:03 PM
13

To be fair it goes both ways, I've known men that have cats because it makes them feel extra special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:44 PM
10

That pained me the most looking at this. That poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:54 PM
9

Don't assign your value based on society's value, your intelligence is an asset and anyone who feels differently is threatened by it. Strong people build eachother up not tear eachother down. You are attractive and valuable as you are, and a lot of us are here because we have been pickmeishas. Ignorance isn't a flaw, it's simply knowledge you didn't have. You wouldn't be upset about not knowing some obscure scientific fact you never learned and you shouldn't be upset about engaging in unproducti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:38 AM
48

That article was absolutely infuriating. They glossed over the pain much like you never hear in sex ed., "you're going to get a period, bleed all over creation, and possibly have cramps 800mg of ibuprofen will barely touch. Then other womyn will tell you about how much you're supposed to enjoy your period and how much less pain you would feel if you embraced it." I'm sure plenty of people have a delightful time sloshing through muddy water, but it didn't feel like a fullness, it felt like the bi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:18 AM
2

I had to how find it after reading this comment, holy shit, the comments are a trashfire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:55 AM
3

I cant breathe lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:50 AM
3

One personal rule of mine is the second they compliment my looks they are done. Reason being, it's already implied, so if they are focused on it more so than my other traits that's a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:43 AM
18

Who the fuck is desperate enough to take this scrote up on that offer? Like there has to be a reason he feels like he can do that in the first place, right? Right???? That's an NVM right there: no value male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 12:58 AM
6

I'm agreeing with everything I see on this sub and it's really weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:20 AM
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