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What benefit is it to a woman to be in a committed relationship with a man? The answer of course is that it varies from relationship to relationship. In general, they both get a teammate who understands them, who cares for them, and provides support. Sure, they both could take care of themselves if they needed to, but humans are a social, pair bonding species and it’s nice to have a teammate. My husband gets the benefit of being the only man I’m intimate with, and someone who cooks for him and t…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 01:46 PM
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Take the time every morning to do your hair, apply mascara and lip color of some sort. It seems like so much work but it adds so much to your confidence and it makes people around you take notice and treat you better.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 03:29 PM
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I don’t think that’s true necessarily! A lot of college girls are trying to find themselves and look up to the girl who looks like she has it together. From the time I was a freshman I was called wife material bc when everyone else on my floor was puking and losing it on Saturday morning, I would take care of them. Following RPW doesn’t mean you should consider yourself above anyone else at university or that you can’t still be kind and friendly. I think if you can be the kind of woman represent…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 01:23 AM
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Sorry I was at work and missed the questions you asked but I'll answer them now since you're interested! 1) I personally found it really valuable and I know my husband did too. There's a different workbook for men and women and it helps open up discussions about things you didn't realize could be issues 2) It wasn't stereotypical of counseling, but that may also be because I really liked our counselor. He was our youth pastor and helped us go deeper than the workbook and the chapters 3) It was f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 11:48 PM
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I completed Symbis with my husband! It’s a faith based one but it was super helpful and I highly recommend it! You can find counselors near you for it online too
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 12:11 AM
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I love this! I’m a beginner in the kitchen and right now cooking takes so long, partly because of the planning. I’m slowly building up our pantry but right now we have a couple boxes of pasta, canned beans, mashed potato buds, and cans of soup and broth that I can use as a base for different sauces. In the freezer, frozen vegetables and berries are a must for a quick smoothie or side dish. I also keep a couple ciders in the fridge for him to enjoy after work. This is such a great thread though, …
/r/RedPillWives15/06/18 01:57 AM
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His smile :)) but I’m a dentist so I think I just always notice that. Also, his forearms. I love how when we sleep he always tosses one over me. I jokingly complain about how heavy his arms are but I love it, and it makes me feel so safe when I sleep.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 01:21 PM
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Hi! I’ve been lurking around RPW and RPWives for years. I’m 25 years old, legally married for a year but I still call him my fiancé for cultural reasons as we’re having the cultural ceremony next year. We’ve been together for three years so far and have been living together happily married for 1 of them. I really love the positive nature of this community and the focus on making yourself better so you can have a better relationship. Like the other posters said, the homemaking posts and how you s…
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 01:19 PM
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Yes, the tone I hear here sounds annoyed and tired.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 03:44 AM
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I did! Which is kind of what sparked my question. In the Surrendered Wife, the author says sex doesn’t need to happen every time your husband asks with the following metaphor “you don’t give your children a cookie every time they ask for it.” Both my fiancé and I have high sex drives and have sex pretty often. I can’t remember ever saying no except when bleeding heavily and even then I’d perform oral sex. So, I was just wondering how other women felt about that line.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 03:15 AM
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I think I would first ask if he was feeling okay, or if he thought he was starting to get sick. And I would ask him whether he wanted to drop the kids off at his parents place so he could get some rest. I’d probably try to make him some ginger tea and soup to settle his stomach and then just sit in with him for the night if possible. But, I doubt my fiancé would ever complain. He’s the kind of person who fixes things before even mentioning that he doesn’t like them.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 03:11 AM
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Do you ever worry that if you give too much, then your partner will become bored? Like for example, I have sex whenever my partner wants; is that off-putting? Do guys ever want girls to play games in long term relationships so the thrill is back? Sometimes I find that my partner is more affectionate when I’ve been busy for a few days than after I’ve shown him affection
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 02:20 AM
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Ah yeah it’s tough to balance! My fiancé and I try to implement a strategy where only one person can be angry at a time in a fight. That way it never devolves into a screaming match where neither of us feels heard and nothing gets solved. It isn’t always perfect but it helps because you deal with one problem at a time. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 03:02 PM
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These are really interesting discussions you bring up here. But to be honest, while I do believe in the value of TRP and understand why a lot of men choose to become MGTOW, it seems that these reports of women who are crazy promiscuous and inflating their value are not really the majority as presented in MGTOW? Of course, there are women who are like that, who cheat and sleep around and want a “good man” after all of that; but there are also tons of women who don’t do all of that. In my high sch…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/18 11:25 PM
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Hahaha no, we just have really high sex drives. We both use sex to unwind, and it’s usually how we both fall asleep at night/how he wakes me up in the morning before work.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 09:41 PM
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That was really well thought out and I appreciate it! I don’t think he’s condescending at all, but he is very type A and to the point while I tend to be more soft spoken. After reading your response, I think I’m starting to see how he might not even realize that I feel this way. I am not explicit when I’m saying my opinions, and I think your advice about making it clear when I need to be heard would appeal to him. Thanks so much for your input!
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 04:05 AM
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I think what you are saying is that he takes the lead and all the responsibility of our marriage. I think I disagree with you there though; he isn’t taking all the responsibility in our marriage. We’re a couple, the decisions that are made reflect on both of us. I do appreciate his leadership a lot, but theres many different kinds of leadership. There’s the leadership of a superior with his inferiors, and then there’s leadership within a team. In the former, the leader has more authority over th…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 03:39 AM
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Well, in the short term I’m paying most of the expenses. I’m a dentist and make a little over 150k, but he’s currently in surgical residency and making around 60k, but when he finishes in three years he’ll make well beyond what I’m making. Money isn’t really a huge issue with us though, we both live pretty frugally. The decisions that I’m talking about are things like which church to go to and how to do things around the house. You’re right, they are fairly minor things which is why I don’t argu…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 03:32 AM
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Yeah, I do understand that. I don’t want to take all control from him, but right now I feel like an underling and I want to feel more like a partner.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 03:25 AM
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It’s not that his decisions themselves cause me distress, but I feel like I’m not being heard in the relationship? I do feel like I am respectful in raising my concerns, but I haven’t really been able to bring this up to him. To be honest, I’m afraid there isn’t a a way to do that would be productive. I just feel like my opinions aren’t respected and it’s causing me to feel resentful. I wondered if the women here ever felt that way in their relationships, and how they dealt with it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 03:21 AM
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I’m so sorry for how you feel. My husband too had 3 sexual partners before me while I was still a virgin on our wedding night. To be honest, after that first time, all I could do was compare myself to the women who had come before. They were probably better than me in bed since they weren’t virgins, and I made up all of these horrible scenarios in my head like that he regretted marrying me because I was terrible at sex. I know most people say you should talk these things out with your husband bu…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/17 04:16 PM
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First, have a goal in mind, and write it down somewhere. For example: lose 20 lbs, learn to cook, look feminine every day. Next, write down EXACTLY what you need to do to achieve those goals; work out 30 minutes a day, cut down daily calories to 1400, take a cooking class, learn to do makeup everyday etc. Finally, get a routine down! Work in all of your steps and make them your habits. Be forgiving of slip ups and don’t make them excuses to give up. Don’t be afraid to start over repeatedly, beca…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 02:50 AM
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I tried to think of the thing I know he wants but would never buy for himself. He’s a pretty frugal guy but will buy most things that he wants/needs. But this year, he broke his favorite pair of sunglasses but couldn’t justify the expense of getting another pair (the first ones were a gift as well). So that’s what I got him!
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 05:03 PM
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Oh man, where to even begin? I can be extremely sensitive to criticism or critique. Even when my husband just changes his tone I can get flustered and not know what to do. And when I'm hurt, I respond by going quiet and withdrawing which makes the situation worse. Luckily, my husband understands this about me and definitely works to say things in a kinder tone, even when he's rushed and tired and I know I'm just being crazy. My husband saves EVERYTHING. Random scraps of paper, free samples, even…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 10:53 PM
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I shared this story with my husband before we got married. It's something we both do to make the other feel loved now. Around our bedroom, we write each other little notes about why we love the other. I write him notes on pink post its and he writes ones for me on green post its. When we find the other person's note, we put it away (I save mine in a box) and it's our turn to write a note for the other person until they find it. It's just a little tradition we have but I love it and it really hel…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 05:54 PM
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Accepting my femininity was the most liberating thing for me. It's not an act I put on, or something I have to do. For me, femininity is the model of the woman I want to be and accepting that rather than feeling I have to do better or want more. Today, women are told they have to do more than just be mothers and wives. They have to be strong career women and masterfully juggle their home lives and jobs. They have to do everything and be good at it all or they're not really "feminists." The value…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 05:44 PM
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My husband came home tired and stressed after a long day at the hospital. He kind of collapsed on the couch and told me about what had happened. I just held on to him for a while and told him how much I believed in him and how he was going to be a great surgeon some day. And after I was finished, he was quiet for a while and so I looked up at him and he was just looking at me with this look that kind of melted my heart. Finally he said "I don't know how you do it, but I really think you know me …
/r/RedPillWives08/11/17 02:40 AM
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I'm currently in dental school, so I don't know if it counts but I love it. I love science and working on the human body and the hands-on skills and problem solving that's needed. But one of the main reasons I chose to become a dentist is the great work-life balance. I see my patients, get to love my work, and then go home and take care of my family on a regular schedule. Working three to four days a week is normal and expected in the field, it's low stress and the money is steady. My husband is…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 08:54 PM
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Made dinner for my husband's friends from work and one of them was like "dang, you're a lucky man" to my husband and he kissed my head and said "I know" in front of them all. It made my heart melt
/r/RedPillWives31/10/17 03:04 AM
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Oh yeah absolutely! The most important thing about your story isn't how you met, but how you fit together! Rom-coms and Disney movies sell you this idea that for a couple to work, you need to have a "meet-cute." But my parents have been together for 35 years and they had an arranged marriage, and I've never seen two people more in love. Marriage and relationships are what you make of it. My husband and I had a spark when we met but it wouldn't have meant a thing if we didn't work on our relation…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 03:52 PM
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Yeah, I think that's the problem with a lot of relationships today. People go into them thinking that their partner is the One who will solve all their feelings of inadequacy or fill their need to belong and every other want or need in their life. But the problem is that there is no person on earth who can perfectly fulfill you or give you meaning. You have to find that on your own. Your partner isn't a fantasy; they are a living breathing person with wants and needs of their own. Relationships …
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 02:58 AM
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Yeah, work life balance is pretty tough. One thing we talk/fantasize about is both of us going part time when we're done with school. We are going somewhere for two weeks of his vacation time but it's a bit difficult to coordinate my school schedule with his vacations. As for help around the house, we're in a pretty expensive city right now so with school loans and his residency salary, getting help with all of that is kind of out of our range right now. But I actually don't mind the cleaning an…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 04:26 PM
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Absolutely! I know this post made it seem like I'm the one doing everything for the relationship but it isn't true. He sacrifices a lot for us and our family. The month before he started residency and I was still in school, he basically handled everything around the house and made sure all the bills were on autopay, that everything around the house was fixed etc so basically all I'd have to do when he was in residency was maintain. All this while the rest of his friends from med school were part…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 02:31 PM
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Well, for my husband and me, it is a very strongly religious institution. We don't divorce in our culture, period. Both our parents are still together and I know that while every marriage has it's ups and downs and we have to make it through. But at the same time, ignoring problems and not caring whether you love the person next to you because we're going to be together at the end of it anyway is kind of selfish. I want my partner to be happy to be with me everyday, not just because he promised …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 02:22 PM
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I am actually! That would be great, I'll definitely look it up!
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 02:00 PM
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Ah, he hates granola bars and energy bars. I know, it's crazy to me too because they're my favorite. I have made homemade energy bars that he ate once or twice and those were okay, but he still isn't going to eat those everyday. I usually stick an Ensure though (one of those weight gain drinks), a freezer burrito in case he gets time to eat (homemade, I make them in bulk every two weeks or so), and a ziploc bag of pretzels/cookies in case he just has a few minutes and is starving. But if anyone …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 01:56 PM
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We do have a lot of touching and stuff, and we cuddle every night in bed but yeah, I was looking more for conversation, to share problems and talk. My husband's love language is very strongly touch, so he always comes to me for comfort and I love to give it. But I really need quality time as my love language which is what makes this hard.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 11:15 AM
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Oh no, it's not that he would say no. I don't think he'd ever refuse me on something like this. But at the same time, I really don't want to ask. The pressure he's under and all, I don't want to pull him in an another direction when he's already so tired. I know he doesn't eat dinner in his study because he wants to, but because he honestly has to. I know he's the kind of person who wants to finish his job well and then relax, because I am too. These are just really sucky years.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 11:11 AM
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No kidding :( and he actually has to operate on people like that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 04:04 AM
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Actually you reminded me of an activity we did together during pre-marital counseling! Just asking each other four questions everyday and listening to each other. I think that might be a good thing to do before bed at least, and it might help me feel better about feeling left out of the loop.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 03:52 AM
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I think those are really good ideas! It's just hard to implement because while he would never say no to me if I asked him to go for a short walk or spend some time talking with me, I can see the exhaustion in his eyes and I know that any spare time he has, he would really like to sleep. And I completely understand where he's coming from and I want him to get sleep whenever he can too. We occasionally watch a show together if he finishes early but he usually falls asleep before the end :) I'm not…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 03:46 AM
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He does love cuddling a lot, and we generally sleep that way (if anything, I'm the one who has to roll away at night because it's too hot to sleep). I suppose I've been trying really hard to be the low maintenance-no expectations residency wife because I've seen the alternative and I hate it. Some of the wives and girlfriends are the most demanding people I've ever met, calling during shifts and arguing with their spouses and telling them to come home. I don't want to tell him he needs to make t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 03:40 AM
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Whoa no, I don't think I'm being ignored. I understand the pressure he's under right now and I know he's doing his best. My problem is that I miss my husband because he's so busy. The other problem is that there isn't much to be done about it; there just aren't enough hours in the day. But, I'm absolutely not whining about this because I want an excuse to seek attention elsewhere. He's the love of my life, and even just a few minutes with him a day is better than time spent with anyone else.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 03:25 AM
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Ahh thank you. I know this is the most useful advice I'm going to get. He is really doing his best and it's just that there aren't enough hours in the day for everything. He's just started right now in an integrated trauma surgery program so about 6.5 years to go. We met when I started dental school and he was a sophomore in the medical school next door. We got really lucky that he matched here at home so I know I have a lot to be grateful for since long distance would have been absolutely terri…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 08:46 PM
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Hahaha yeah I guess I did end up ranting a lot. No, I haven't told him. I didn't want to be another burden on him. He has told me that he feels like he can't keep up all the balls in his life right now and I know it would kill him to think that he's dropped it on our marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 07:56 PM
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We did try the once a week date when he began residency, and he was really excited about it in the beginning. But usually by the time he gets back from work, he's exhausted and though he puts on a brave face and says we can go out, I know he just wants to stay at home and rest. I don't want to force him to spend time with me, I like being someone that he looks forward to and not being another item on his to-do list.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 07:54 PM
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Honestly, I could gush about him forever. We've been married for five months now and he's been my rock. We're a little unconventional in that we have a temporary long distance marriage (I'm in school and he's in a surgical residency about 10 hours away, but I'll graduate in a year and be with him) and from time to time, the distance gets to me. But he always knows exactly what to say to encourage me and remind me how much he loves me. Even though he's in such a stressful program, working 18 hrs …
/r/RedPillWives05/09/17 03:03 AM
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