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 REDDIT HATES WOMENMaleddie/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:11 PM
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Maleddie/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 01:36 AM
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Thanks for taking the time to write this. It's nice to hear a bit of positivity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 08:48 PM
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Erm did he just suggest that Twilight is feminist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:19 PM
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I have to agree about Chris Rock. Some of the press about the event talks about Will Smith adhering to negative stereotypes of black men, but I think that ignores the really impressive dignity displayed by the host in what must have been a pretty upsetting and humiliating situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:02 PM
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I absolutely agree that you should please yourself, but don't forget how much more attractive men find women than vice versa. So your own judgment of yourself won't reflect the way men see you. I think the OP is sort of trying to get at this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 12:46 PM
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Bit of both, but more the latter. I'd turned 34, and we were in endless lockdown, and I was quite depressed about the passing of time as felt like I was just so far from meeting anyone let alone settling down. And my friends were talking about it (although none of them actually did it in the end, just me) and it piqued my interest. I then did one of those fertility check-ups, and my results weren't great, though not completely disastrous. There's mixed fertility in my family so I wasn't that sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 11:30 PM
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I just want to gently disagree about freezing eggs. It's certainly not the silver bullet, but the technology has improved a lot in recent years. Reliable statistics are hard to come by because a) most women who freeze eggs (which is still a small number) don't come back to use them, b) success of egg-freezing is hugely dependent on the age of the woman in question and how many eggs get frozen, and c) with the technology changing rapidly all the time, numbers from 5 years ago are probably not rep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 09:39 PM
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I invest in a low-cost global index tracker. It aims to have broadly the same returns as the global stock market. This means that it's really well-diversified, but simple, and you can just stick the money in and leave it over the long term. Please note, stocks are a higher risk investment and therefore should only be used if you're investing for a long time, e.g. at least 5 years. Sub-wise, there's UK Personal Finance which is great, but my fave for this sort of thing is FIREUK. I found out abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:55 PM
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This kind of anguish is awful, unbearable, but I'm actually happy for you that you're seeing things how they are. You're only 23 and it feels like you've learned an awful lot. Once this passes, and it really will, this knowledge will be a gift. Your future approaches to life and dating will really benefit from it and I'm sure you will observe other people making similar mistakes - but at much older ages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:51 PM
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43 year olds would have been settled into their careers prior to the housing bubble crash of 2008. 35 year olds tried to join the workforce during an economic downturn and redundancies. That age group, as a whole, will never recover from starting off on the wrong foot. Those who do are the exceptions. That doesn't mean we date down, it means we have a smaller dating pool (I'm 34). Such a good point. I'm 35 and totally agree. It's always been quite depressing talking to people 5 years older, who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:43 PM
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Successful women will ALWAYS be outliers. Our dating pool will be smaller, and we will spend longer without partners. Accepting it is the best way forward. Thanks, this is a good reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:37 PM
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Men are either mature in their 20s, and stay that way, or they're not. I've been trying to say this to my friends who criticise me for dating younger (mind, we're talking 5 years, and I'm mid-30s, so it's barely anything really). It's about base personality once you get to late 20s. When it doesn't work out one or two friends love to make a comment about the small age gap, regardless of the reason for things ending. And they wouldn't do this if the guy were older. Actually, I've had equally good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:37 PM
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The funny thing is, the couples I know where the woman is the older one by c10 years, there is no such discrepancy in energy etc as they age, and they're fine. But where the man is the older one, he loses his energy and wants to stay in while the wife is still really vivacious and active. This is totally anecdotal based on a few observations, but just something I've noticed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 09:32 PM
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Ugh god, that's so sickening. Unrelated, I like your username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:54 PM
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I've read this before! It's really hard to compute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:53 PM
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This is so sad. Perhaps the most depressing thing was how parents overestimate sons' intelligence and underestimate daughters'. If your own parents underrate you, what chance do you have of gaining good self-esteem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:16 AM
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There's a guy at work I avoid talking to where I can because he will talk AT you for the longest time. No self-awareness at all. But the other day he told me I was one of his favourite people in the office. My heart sank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:08 AM
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Do women not get any social security credits when raising kids? That's so fucked up. In the UK you earn national insurance credits (our equivalent for getting state pension) when you're a full-time caregiver. Mind, there are still other reasons to keep earning, e.g. so you keep your skills/CV relevant to the job market. If you take 15 years out to raise kids you will severely damage your earning potential.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 04:09 PM
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Absolutely this, all of this. This post was so sickening and depressing to read. Not least the way she was questioning if SHE was in the wrong for her normal and natural reaction. He sounds like a selfish shithead. Sometimes I get really bummed out by all the depressing posts on FDS and avoid it. But recently I've been feeling a bit sad and lonely, and reading this post made me feel much more grateful for my free and independent life, unshackled to some awful leech like this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 10:01 PM
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I've been wondering about this (I'm 35). There's a single mothers by choice sub (guess what the r/ is!) so maybe check that out? I've also frozen my eggs, which isn't quite as sure as an insurance policy but does help me to feel a bit calmer about the prospect of having kids later. I think if you're in good health, you can have kids at a slightly older age without materially negative consequences. (Note, am not a medical expert! But it's becoming more and more common.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 12:14 AM
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Christ, this is so disturbing. I'm really glad you got away and hope you and your child(ren) are okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:37 AM
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It wouldn't have occurred to me to do it, because a) I probably wouldn't have realised his door was locked, and b) even if I did, it's much less effort for him to just unlock the door with the key that's already in his hand than it is for me to throw my whole body across the seat to reach the little lock thing. It's a very weird test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:16 AM
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Jacinda Ardern :) Seems to be widely revered as extremely smart and capable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:48 PM
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curdled turds had me For me it was "fecal goop". I found myself thinking, I hope she's a copywriter or something, this phrasing is perfect. Further huge red flag (not that he needed any more...) was that he says he owns the house and she "lives in it for free".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:15 AM
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Hallmark movies are awful, but I have to say in their defence that ALL the characters are awful, the men included.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:39 PM
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Why is this even a question, it's obvious what the solution is...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:39 PM
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It's a great idea, and it sounds a lot like Future Self Journalling, which I recommend you look up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 08:05 PM
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It’s really comforting to read so many other’s comments about their fear of pregnancy/childbirth. IRL I have always just been shut down, gaslighted or dismissed. Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:29 AM
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Watching Lion made me really think about this - that conversation between Saroo and his mother where it turned out she could have had children naturally but CHOSE to adopt two kids from Indian orphanages. She said she didn't think bringing more people into the world would make it a better place but that she wanted to take a child and give him a chance. Just so beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:25 AM
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If it helps, I think about 75% of the time they've completely misunderstood what the word "spontaneous" means. Maybe a third of the answers to the "The most spontaneous thing I've done" prompt in Hinge are things that are obviously not spontaneous, e.g. "I did a PhD in Australia." Applying for a PhD is not something you can do spontaneously, it takes a shedload of time and effort and planning. Or they'll say they moved abroad somewhere you need a visa, etc. I think these people think that sponta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:47 AM
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The thing that gets me is that she didn't even really like him, she was lovebombed by him and flattered and then her friends, family, mentor and director pushed and pushed her until she gave in. All feels horribly manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:35 PM
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I'm curious who the actor is She mentions he has a movie star sister who is equally famous. And honestly, if you just google it a bit it's very clear it's him. Plus Taylor Swift wrote that song about him which makes it very believable that this story happened!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:34 PM
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Thank you for making this post - I have exactly the same difficulty. I really struggle between wanting to make an effort and wanting to look polished and "pretty", vs knowing that the whole idea of femininity as demonstrated through makeup and clothing is really a patriarchal concept. I was with some friends yesterday and one made a comment that being a woman is more "fun" than being a man because women get to do more with their appearance; and I found it really jarring because she made it sound…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:53 PM
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Hello! Sorry, I was logged off this account for a bit so only just saw this! Thank you for your kind comments :) I'm more than happy to answer. I found freezing my eggs a really fascinating process! I got much better with needles throughout, which was great, and I didn't take to the drugs too badly. I planned by doing a TON of research on the process and having mini consultations with various clinics to decide which one I liked. (if you do this ask as many questions as you can!) I'm also lucky e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 12:45 AM
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It takes a very very long time to get access to AskFDS - I requested it months ago and nothing, even though I'm active on FDS/FLUS and have never been banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 11:40 AM
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My friend dated a widower and was shocked to find out how recently the wife had passed. By the sounds of things he shrugged off her concerns along the lines of, "she would have wanted me to be happy." His wife had been an absolutely incredible woman who had been featured in a national newspaper for her charity work, and my friend found the article - she looked EXACTLY like my friend. It was so creepy. (Anyway, it didn't work out and my friend is now engaged to a great guy.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:17 AM
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Thanks for asking, it's a good exercise! I ran a PB 10k (beating my previous by 7 minutes!) and a PB half marathon. I froze my eggs and got a great result. I saved a hell of a lot of cash and had an offer accepted on my first property (although it's not gone through yet so mustn't self-congratulate too much at this stage...). I did some quasi-successful internet dating and showed myself that it doesn't have to be painful. As part of this, I dated a guy I found incredibly attractive and realised …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:30 PM
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I'm glad I've never had to deal with the herpes question. Apparently most adults under 50 have the virus - many people never display symptoms, and condoms don't necessarily protect against getting it. So it feels harsh to judge someone for having it (I mean, you could have it right now). That being said, I don't want to knowingly put myself in the way of getting it! I'd be devastated if it showed up on my body; but less because of the symptoms, and more because of the stress of the stigma associ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:10 PM
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It's genuinely a line in Titanic, set in 1912, that Rose doesn't need to go to university because she already has a fiancee. ETA: Loool, found it https://clip.cafe/titanic-1997/the-purpose-of-university-to-find-a-suitable-husband/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 06:49 PM
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Have you seen it? If not, I think she comes across better in the film. For example, wanting to be independent and rejecting marriage for this purpose even though she would have been under loads of pressure to find a husband (and noting her later inheritance was a surprise so she didn't have a fallback option at that stage). She's obviously a really competent woman and runs the farm very capably despite her huge disadvantage as a woman, and all the staff clearly respect her. The worst thing she d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:01 AM
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I think Boldwood is also pretty HV Yes, I felt so sorry for him! Michael Sheen is so likeable. I believe in the book he's much much older and it was a little hard to imagine the film character would struggle to find a lovely wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 12:58 AM
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I'm grateful for these early experiences because I was forced to develop a personality instead of relying on being attractive. I'm really pleased for you, but this sentence stuck out to me as an example of internalised misogyny - the [widespread] assumption that a beautiful woman will have a bad personality. Would you say the other beautiful women you know fit this stereotype? The beautiful women I know do not. It seems like an idea that's passed around to neg attractive women or make men feel b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 12:33 AM
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Thanks, I've never seen that before! Noted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:52 AM
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Oh no! I've not got to that bit yet - so far he's basically said you need to meet a lot of men since so few of them will be what you're looking for, and that you should keep your standards high. So I was enjoying it so far! Thanks for the warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:52 AM
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I'm listening to a Matthew Hussey audiobook about dating, and he specifically says you should allow men to do things for you and that they enjoy serving women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:18 PM
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I have a friend in this situation :( I've tried to tell her, but because he's nice when they're together and claims it's because he needs to put his family first, she thinks he's a lovely caring guy who will one day have more time for her. I do think it's coming to an end finally (after seven months of dating and sleeping together). I feel for her because our hometown is a dead end for men and she doesn't meet many men with her interests, which gives her scarcity mindset. It's been hard to watch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:40 PM
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I was watching season 2 of Sex and the City the other day and it's heartbreaking to see Carrie and Big together - there's one episode where he introduces her to someone as his girlfriend (bearing in mind they've been together for AGES by this point) and she is absolutely ecstatic as though he's done something amazing. Later in the episode she asks him for a huge favour and it turns out it's just having dinner with her friends...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:21 PM
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I noticed that each of their plots seems to be aimed at waking them up to keep growing. Carries happy ending is over. Miranda isn't who she wanted to be. Charlottes perfect family may not be perfect. I can see the pov that we want powerful women on screen but I also like the pov that women don't die when they're carried into the sunset and still have change and growth to do even in their 50s and 60s. I like this perspective! Fingers crossed you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:57 PM
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Remember how stern and rude Miranda was to her Ukrainian house keeper Magda? Yet she allows her scrotey son to have loud, obnoxious sex in her house? It is SO OFF BRAND for her character to be permissive about disrespect. I though Steve - as the husband - had better 'working class' respectful values than that. He really should be pulling Brady into line but instead he sits on the couch eating ice-cream and complaining about his declining hearing. Couldn't agree more. I'm disappointed by what the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 12:50 PM
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The original show was a pickme mess. I like that they put 55 year old women on screen, theyre integrating woc, and they killed you know who, so we'll see. It was, BUT ... there were some good lessons in there. Samantha's confidence was great and Miranda generally had a no-nonsense approach to men which I always loved. I'm a bit sad about how they've presented aging. Why are the women so out of touch and lost? Would Miranda really be unable to speak to a black person or listen to a podcast, when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 12:47 PM
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!! You know what, I've actually never seen Die Hard for some reason. I'm not normally very interested in action films but I've never heard it outlined like this before - you make it sound very worth a watch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 12:32 PM
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Blast from the past - I used to love this film! As I recall it has a really great soundtrack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 12:28 PM
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It's really awful, but I admit I did do a watch-along with two friends the other day so that we could rip it apart on WhatsApp. Which was satisfying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 12:26 PM
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:) Go ahead, it's all yours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 10:53 PM
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Jesus. I half expected to sympathise with him from the title, but he sounds absolutely awful. As does the mother-in-law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:30 PM
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Only half-related, but a friend and I years ago planned to set up an investment club on a Sunday with the intention that people would take it in turns to cook a roast dinner so we could discuss finances over food. We were going to call it Gravy Train, which in retrospect was such a good name! I really regret that we never went ahead with it... Solvent Sisters?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:27 PM
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The writers and producers allowed that man to be on set and expose the women in the show to him without doing anything about it. They most likely knew who he was. We know rapists don’t stop. Those are the people who created that character and who kept writing the female lead to be such a pick me…. So. To me it’s not dishonest at all. What they did is weird. That's ... not relevant to anything I said. I said it seems intellectually dishonest because it's a logical fallacy to connect real-life rap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 05:14 PM
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Hmmm ... I think conflating a character and an actor is a bad idea. Stanley Tucci played a child rapist/murderer in The Lovely Bones, and he made my skin crawl, but that's because he's an excellent actor, not because he is really a child rapist-murderer. This ISN'T to defend either Chris Noth OR Mr Big, but they aren't one and the same. Just seems a bit intellectually dishonest to suggest that they are. Regarding Chris Noth, as ever it's just disappointing when yet another man turns out to be a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:26 PM
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Thank you, I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:47 PM
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Her description is nightmarish to listen to. I can't imagine how a woman would be curious for that experience. To imagine that many men enjoy watching this is so incredibly disturbing and distressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 10:49 PM
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Your list is perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:41 PM
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I love this comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:07 PM
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Do you mean the woman who "mysteriously" drowned in a swimming pool on a holiday booked by her husband, even though she hated swimming, and shortly after he'd taken out millions of life insurance contracts on her life? And he got away with it? Honestly, few stories boil my blood like that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:00 PM
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Pre-nups aren't valid everywhere :( I think I would definitely visit a divorce lawyer in advance of getting married, just to understand what steps I could take to protect myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:57 PM
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100%. I find this article so chilling; I'm from the UK where pre-nups don't hold water, so can see how it could happen. At least it's a little reminder that being single isn't so bad. I can't even imagine the rage I would feel in some of those women's shoes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:53 PM
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I like Phoebe Waller Bridge's shows - they're so extremely female centric. It's refreshing, even when they're as crass as Fleabag's season 1 was. I feel that way about Girls as well - I know it's not without its issues, but it was so refreshing to see women behave like women actually behave in real life and not the boring sanitised versions who have no strong opinions and only exist as foils to male characters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:17 PM
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So Im excited because the person who wrote the article included some really solid info out of the handbook. If people can get past the website glitches to read it... Despite trying to paint us in a bad light, I think ladies who really read it are going to have some bells going off in their head. Theres some high quality handbook info they basically copy-pasted into their article. I couldnt read the 2nd half when they interviewed whoever. It kept glitching back to the top of the page. The bit sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:07 PM
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Very FDS friendly show if anyone’s never seen it I loved Desperate Housewives!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 01:54 PM
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You included it already, but to expand: two model-like women fighting over an extremely average, bland man. I actually hate any storylines of women fighting over men. It's reality TV, but I caught a bit of the US Ex on the Beach when I was on holiday in Cyprus recently and I found it unwatchable: the way it was the men sitting back while the women said catty things about each other because they were so desperate for the men's attention. Hideous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:56 PM
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I can't forgive you for including Desperate Housewives!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:54 PM
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I'm in the UK and always wondered if that many American high-schoolers had pools and drove insanely nice cars. And had parents always away so that they could have massive parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:52 PM
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I absolutely hated Grease as a kid because of the way she turns up at the fair near the end in the tight bodysuit and heels, suddenly smoking. (It was the smoking that did it. I was seriously anti-smoking and couldn't believe she would take up a dangerous habit for a stupid boy.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:50 PM
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Oh god. I'm ashamed to say I was this woman recently and felt a horrible stomach twist as I read this. I'm just so angry that women have to police sex because men behave so awfully. Unfortunately there is nothing to be done, so I'll have to learn my lesson and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 11:24 PM
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So true. Nature shows us the real order of things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:01 PM
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I love it too!! Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:01 PM
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A teeny tiny silver lining... there is a new Disney film coming out that is set in Colombia! Honestly, I think it looks a bit stupid, but it's something. Also, the main character is a girl and she looks kinda normal i.e. not insane barbie doll or really sexualised like in The Road to El Dorado. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CaimKeDcudo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:35 PM
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British women, don't marry broke, useless men unless you want to be propping up their gold-digging lifestyle for the rest of your days!! I'm British myself, and I admit I have some worries about this because I'm a high earner. I don't care that much if a man doesn't make as much as me (and in fact caring about this would narrow my pool of options considerably), but protecting my assets etc is tricky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:42 PM
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Sorry, just saw this! Yes, fertility clinics typically offer these sorts of tests. I shopped around and found they did vary in price a bit, so worth seeing what your options are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:29 PM
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No, but I only did it earlier this year :) I'm 34. The bits of the process that could be considered painful are: regular blood tests (I hate needles so was worried about this part, although the process made me much better with them! If you're fine with blood tests then no biggie) regular internal ultrasounds (actually completely painless, I didn't mind them at all, much nicer than a smear test. They put a sheet over me to maintain my dignity, they use lube and it's really not that big!) self-inj…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:43 PM
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I've been through this, would be happy to answer any questions if you like! (I'm not on Reddit all the time but semi-regularly.) I was initially intimidated but really didn't find it too bad at all, and it was fascinating as well. The worst thing was the cost!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:33 PM
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"Don’t waste your time with someone if you’re looking forward to going home to your own hobbies during the date" This really made me laugh, such simple but good advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:31 PM
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I just read a second ago that the whole reason they were pulled over is because a witness saw Brian slapping her on the street and called the police with a description of the vehicle. And yet the police still blamed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:57 PM
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Yes! I've thought this for ages. Baffles me how much most women seem to look up to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:56 AM
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Men seem to think women constantly have guys falling at their feet, sucking up to them, buying them shit, and being really gentlemenly/chivalrous (connected to the "living life on easy mode" lie) - and that women are bored of it and hate it. They therefore believe women will be impressed and intrigued by a man doing the opposite, not realising that actually men are just consistently rude and entitled and this behaviour falls into the same mould. Actually, if a man were to be gentlemanly and chiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:30 PM
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100% agree. I don't want to sound like I'm criticising the sub but I think sometimes it can overall come across quite negative, or at least leave me feeling quite negative. The podcast has such a fun and inspirational vibe, it's like a conversation with friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 10:04 PM
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Good for you! And thanks for posting this, it's nice to see good news stories and not just the usual despair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 10:02 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear that. And good for you for taking some time off from it, no need to rush yourself. Out of interest, have you ever watched the British Netflix series Sex Education? I guess it might stress you out given what you've said and the fact there is a lot of sex on it, but it covers sex topics in a really healthy way and there's a character on it who has vaginismus. (It's also hilarious and Gillian Anderson is brilliant.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:27 PM
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On a dating app, surprisingly enough. While these are against FDS principles, I was applying some FDS rules to it - i.e. taking a very passive approach (I always try to remember from FDS "dating should be easy"), only looking at profiles where someone had liked me and not searching, rejecting anyone who didn't send a message with the like (I made one exception and it ended up being a guy who kept "joking" about drinking warm cider in the park, so that didn't fly), and vetting the profile. I woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:16 PM
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I'm from the UK too and wanted to say I agree with all your answers! I do think that experience with men and misogyny will vary a lot depending on class and location. I work in London in a slightly nerdy professional setting where everyone is incredibly intelligent, and my male colleagues and most of the men I know are almost uniformly great and very respectful of women. But I'm in a liberal educated bubble. (Also it's pretty libfem so from a dating perspective I think the FDS principles are pre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:02 PM
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ere two extremely disturbed individuals but the comments were full of people saying they can't be too mad because there was consent. 37ReplyGive AwardShareReportSaveFollow Yes, the cannibal guy put him in a bath of ice while he was bleeding to death and then kept checking on him every so often apparently. It was a very interesting story as he seemed weirdly to care about this guy's comfort and consent even though he had participated in the guy's death. I'm sure I read years later that when Josef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:53 PM
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This was really hard to read. I'm so so sorry you experienced this. I hope you know (and I think you do from your writing?) that this is NOT your fault. On the other side of things, fucking CONGRATULATIONS for ending it so simply! Block and delete. Great move. Things will get better and better from here. On your vaginismus, I'm not a qualified medical professional and I don't want to annoy you by attempting any insights when you'll know so much more about the condition, but is it an issue when y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:43 PM
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JK said she regretted that they ended up together and that she did it that way because it was her original idea that she'd held onto. She admitted that Harry and Hermione would have made a lot more sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:27 PM
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I have to disagree with you there - I think he looks terrible as Loki, but in The Night Manager! Oof. As for moving to the US or Canada ... I'm not sure I believe they'd be much better. But please feel free to convince me otherwise (and if you have specific cities in mind just let me know...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:21 PM
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I've just started dating someone who plans dates, is generous, brings conversation but also asks questions and listens, etc. It's VERY early and I can't say if he's HV, but it feels like such a different experience. I have avoidant tendencies but his behaviour is really helping me to lean into dating in a way I've not done so before - it's been really hard to get excited by dates in the past with men's passiveness, either not talking or just speaking about themselves the whole time, weird game-p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:16 PM
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It's honestly so shocking and appalling that I find it hard to think about. I also cannot believe how many states (I think 13?) have political leanings towards these sorts of views. How has this happened in a country that has always stood for freedom? I'm from the UK. A few years ago our right-wing Conservative party made a deal with another right-wing party to enable them to take power in the UK (otherwise they didn't have enough for a majority). The other party was the DUP, a socially hard rig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:04 PM
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Did you ever watch the film Frank? There's this scene where he becomes obsessed with the sound of a squeaky door and uses it to make a track. Such an odd but good film!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 10:38 PM
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I've frozen eggs myself, so let me know if you have any questions. I think I was fairly lucky, but I found it a fascinating and not particularly traumatic experience. One initial point to make, although less to the OP than to any Brits reading this, is that over here there's a rule that you can only freeze eggs for 10 years. So there is an advantage to waiting a bit - you wouldn't want to freeze eggs at 25 and then be forced to use or lose them by 35. But! You COULD freeze them for 10 years, the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:50 PM
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Great article, though it made me do a big sigh. How depressing this all is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:58 PM
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To this day people tell me stories of the lives she saved. If she hadn't escaped she would have spent her life being a sex slave, instead, she became a doctor. imagine that. That's incredible! Can someone in your family write a book about this please??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:30 PM
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Well you won't find me disagreeing with that!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 08:40 PM
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Because cities like New York tend to have significantly lower obesity rates than other places in a country, and the population of New York City will make up a material proportion of New York state. And 63% is much, much higher than 36%. ETA: I just googled, it is 27%.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 12:00 PM
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Exactly this. I prefer a man to be under 6', but absolutely agree about wanting a man to be taller than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 11:46 AM
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The obesity rate across the US as a whole is 36%, so I doubt it is 63% in New York. ETA: Perhaps you meant overweight or obese? You actually don't need to be very fat at all to be medically overweight. People are terrible at judging visually where someone lies on the spectrum - they think an overweight person is healthy, an obese person is slightly overweight, a morbidly obese person is just regular obese, and so on. This is bad because people's idea of what a healthy weight looks like is skewed…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 11:41 AM
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Thanks for this, it's great to see. I don't want to shit all over the lovely list, but I've read some disturbing things about Bowie and taking the virginity of a 14-year-old groupie when he was in his 30s (probably more than one, let's face it...). Also Beckham cheated on Victoria. On the more positive side, while Bono can be a controversial character, he did write "The Sweetest Thing" for his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:08 PM
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The very existence of so many unattractive dudes is proof that someone's been fucking them. Apparently, though, more attractive people are more likely to have daughters. There are studies on this! So women are getting more attractive and men are getting more unattractive. Bad news for us...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:48 PM
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They also claim it's not fair because women can get by on their looks, as though that's somehow an advantage? So women who aren't incredibly beautiful will just be ignored regardless of their achievements and personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:44 PM
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I just looked this up on the strength of your comment, and you're right - it's a great video!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:42 PM
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This is the best Pickmeisha Hall of Shame I've ever SEEN. Holy cow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:16 PM
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Thanks for the reminder of how good single women really have it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:08 PM
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I just read a Purple Pill thread where someone was saying that men should raise their standards to force women to behave better (immediate LOL). Hilariously, tons of the responses were people saying it wouldn't be possible because a) men are thirsty i.e. dick is abundant, and b) women are much happier being alone than men are and will just stop dating and be happy while men drown in sexual frustration and loneliness. A few posters also pointed out that the problem isn't that men have too low sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:17 AM
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I read an article a while back that suggested that actually women are the ones who are programmed to sleep around, NOT men. This is thought to be because the confusion over whose child is born is a form of protection for the child (i.e. if a man thinks it's his offspring then he won't be violent towards it). There's also a theory that the penis is shaped with a head to scrape out sperm from previous lovers. The eureka moment for me was when they explained that there is obvious evidence for this.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:13 AM
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My grandmother? I don't think so... Also lol at "imaginary sins". Don't worry, I'm not crying, I have a great job. Expecting an oppressed class to snap out of the system immediately when they're able and do exactly as well as the dominant class is just stupid. And a man strike wouldn't exactly teach women that they organically need men, since (as the other poster pointed out) there's no reason women couldn't learn to do the stuff you mentioned. it would just be men flexing their oppression muscl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:57 AM
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Women were oppressed for thousands of years and weren't allowed to have an education or work for an absolutely huge amount of time, but for some reason you think that the fact that they've not flocked quickly enough to traditionally "male" professions (in the few decades where they've been allowed to have jobs) means they need to be humbled? Riiiiight.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:32 AM
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Are you seriously suggesting that men don't live as long as women because they spend too much money dating women? Being female is hugely expensive (pink tax, societal standards of fashion/grooming) and women earn less and have less money in retirement, so I don't see how it's relevant. No idea why sex drive was mentioned either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:20 AM
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Also, cause and effect are not necessarily that way around ... is it a coincidence that the worst-paid jobs are the ones associated with "women's work" (caring professions, anything to do with kids or domesticity)? No, they're underpaid and undervalued because women used to do it all for free. Women are still for whatever reason (nature or nurture) attracted to those jobs, therefore tend to make less money. I agree with you though that over time women will flock to the higher-paid professions mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:13 AM
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WHAT. I cannot BELIEVE that article. He thought it was a successful week?? Words fail me. "While I’m constantly thinking about both of us, he only ever thinks about himself." - I do think this is most men in most relationships. I recently went away on holiday with a male friend and I realised it applied in our friendship as well. Tiny little acts of consideration/courtesy you'd expect from a friend just weren't in his playbook at all. It was at least a low-cost way to remind myself of the import…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:19 PM
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About a year before I discovered FDS, I was sleeping with this much younger guy who used to send me sexual voice notes of his own accord. I found it absolutely baffling that he would give me this power to humiliate him (although obviously it's not at all the same as it is for women, it would still be very embarrassing if I wanted to do something with them). He tried to get me to send him voice notes too. Obviously I declined. He ended up trying to mess me around (disappeared for a while then sud…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:29 PM
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22ReplyGive AwardShareReportSave Agree, I read that there are a lot of "invisible" homeless women, who don't sit out in broad daylight like men do because things are a lot more dangerous for them. They don't get counted in the statistics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:00 PM
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