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Ok, sounds good! thank you Meglomaniac :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 10:52 AM
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Do you think I overreacted? He could tell I was sad by my face, and told him he could go home if he wasn't sure what he wanted to do... i feel i overreacted now and was too emotional.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 10:46 AM
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Do you think I'm saying that to be nice? He says I am too honest and blunt sometimes.. I wouldn't say that to please him. I do enjoy being close together and doing our own thing, just don't want him to feel guilty about it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 10:13 AM
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I told him last night that I am happy to do our own thing while together, and he agreed it's nice, but that he also likes spending time alone as well.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 10:12 AM
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I wish I could have been 'cool', I regret overreacting now.. I had been busy that whole week which is why we didn't see each other at all until Saturday evening. I'm going to pull way back this week and let him come to me.. thank you for bringing this to light.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 09:18 AM
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Hi, thank you so much for your response. I've been reading rpw for a couple of years now and was in nun mode as well, and yes want a captain. I want to mention, that he wanted me to go over to his place but I couldn't because didn't have my things. He also isn't a gamer, and just got this game a couple of weeks ago as two of his best friends moved away at the same time so it's their way of bonding. So I understand this, plus he is going through a bad stage right now... So I'm understanding of th…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 09:01 AM
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Thank you, I agree it's a one off and so let it go yesterday. Today, our date day, he said he wanted to go play again :( he could tell I was upset so came home to mine but I feel I shouldn't have gotten upset...
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 08:42 PM
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I genuinely like spending time together, but doing our separate thing
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 08:40 PM
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I have an update, thabk you so much everyone for your insights. I chilled at his yesterday (he asked me to come over as he wasnt feeling well so I made him soup). . I read my book and fell asleep early. Today we woke up late and went to the cinema, we planned to spend the day together. After the cinema he said he wasnt sure whether he wanted to come back to mine, or go home and play with his friends. I want to learn to be better, because he could tell by my face that I was upset, as we planned t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 08:37 PM
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I think that was my mistake here... Our plan was to spend Saturday evening together and then go to the cinema on Sunday and spend that day together. After the cinema he said he wasnt sure whether he wanted to come back to mine, or go home and play with his friends. I want to learn to be better, because he could tell by my face that I was upset, as we planned thisj day to be together.. So he's here at mine now, but now I feel like it's because he could tell I was upset..
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 08:34 PM
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I have a bit of an update, the reason he was too tired to see me today was because he was up late playing games w his friends, and I am afraid its going to be the same tomorrow as he's been playing for nearly 6 hours and no sign of stopping, 2am here... Can you please help give me advice on this, to understand!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 02:01 AM
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You did, I really appreciate it!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 09:01 PM
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True, I'm so grateful he was honest! It's the double booking and forgetting, cuz I was so exited to see him. All good now though :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 09:00 PM
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I quite like hanging out with us doing our separate thing :) I wouldn't wantchim to feel obligated, he looked very guilty for playing games while I'm here, but I really don't mind that as it isn't a regular thing.. Its more about the double booking
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 08:58 PM
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Should I talk about the double booking? Someone else on thjs forum suggested I do. I don't like arguing, prefer actions over words but maybe expressing how I feel is good... I wouldn't expect you to skip your bi monthly games! Did she get upset that you said no, or understand? Thank you for your insight, it's appreciated
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 08:57 PM
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Ok, he said I looked sad, because he ate by the laptop without me as his friends were 20 min late to the game session, but I'm fine now about to read my book and paint my nails... I may talk to him but should also learn to let this go
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 08:54 PM
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Possibly, I am very sensitive and have had therapy for this. I cry very easily over things like this, but over others I feel numb. It's the double booking that upset me, and then him choosing that after not having seen him all week. But it isn't a big deal, I am too sensitive
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 08:53 PM
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Heló, I like this suggestion. I made soup for him as he wasn't feeling well, however he ate it by the laptop as he was waiting for his friends to get online, but next time would be nice
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 08:51 PM
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I like this idea a lot. He isn't the most expressive so it could be difficult for him, but will ask him because id understand better
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 08:50 PM
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That makes sense and I'd do the same. The Canceling bothers me, I hope it doesn't become a habit!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 08:49 PM
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Thank you, he felt sick so went home early. I suggested I could bring him soup which he liked, so I'm here now at his about to read my book while he plays his game with friends :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 08:48 PM
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Yes you're right :) , it's a friend of his who's just moved to another country, and he doesn't have many friends here. But he's played this game 4 nights in a row. I actually don't mind him playing games, and would enjoy just relaxing at his. But it's that he seems to prefer to do this than see me... Not sure what to answer him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 04:28 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I am worried this will become a pattern, just not sure what to answer him as I don't want to come across as if he can cancel our plans like this.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 04:26 PM
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Well he ended things with me. Or he asked to rain check today, after being unavailable for the past two weeks, and then I said that hurt, and he said he was too busy with work and a family issue to commit to anything. He wouldn't tell me what the issue is, but I hope he is okey, and I will focus on myself now..
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/19 08:44 PM
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Thank you, this is golden advice. I am so glad I read RPW! ​ It would be a bit strange if I went to his to drop off food, I might interrupt him on something! But when I see him I will bring something over like chocolate truffles. ​ Love the 100% quote, I have been on dates with alpha males before and with my neediness have scared them away. This time am continuing to focus on my self worth and happiness such as heart meditation, exercise, cooking, art, yoga, and it has done wonders in reducing h…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 10:23 PM
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Thank you for your answer. He gets up at 6 to go to work, and sometimes is home at 8 or last week it was 11:30. I am not sure if that is a long term thing though or just because he is new to the role. I agree I would like to see him more. We live in a large capital city where there is always stuff going on, and he said that at the beginning stages he likes to take it slow as he has his life and doesn't want to give it up to someone new, until he knows them better.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 09:31 PM
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Thank you so much Zegiknie, such sweet examples. It's inspired me to make a post
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 07:25 PM
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I'd love to hear examples of where you have admired your man. Subtle examples preferred that you could say often for example.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 07:18 PM
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Hi, thanks for your comment. I did read the book, and it helped tremendously. I still struggle with this aspect though, with being specific. He works at a high intensity place where it's common to get fired, and he's been there for a few years which is not too common, so that is admirable. But he's so modest and doesn't seem to like compliments. Do you have any examples of how you have admired your man?
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 07:16 PM
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I am INFJ and 3w1, but close to 3w2 as well. Not too sure what this means but am reading up on it now, it's interesting!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 07:08 PM
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I love this post, thank you! I feel lucky to learn about all of this info while I'm in the early stages of dating someone who I truly find admirable. He is very ambitious and hard working which I admire, and quite high up in the company. I have complimented him on his intelligence, but not on all of this that I have just written. How would you say this? I feel a bit embarrassed to say this as we have only been on 7 or 8 dates.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 10:44 AM
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Welcome! Ive been reading for a while but rarely comment, should start! please remain on the sub, you seem great :) Also I'm so happy for you, exciting times! 😊
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:49 PM
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Aww that sounds tough, wish I could do something to help
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:45 PM
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I love this, so thoughtful of you, thanks for sharing
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:37 PM
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Thank you, that's a good idea! He just texted me asking when I'm free. I'm busy on Friday and he's taking his mum out on Saturday, and said he'd be in touch or if not then Sunday. Maybe I'll suggest he could come over to mine for dinner after he takes his mum out?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 10:36 PM
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I love this comment, thank you! How did you help him in the early dating stages? I've been on 7 or 8 dates with someone, he is so manly and very self sufficient. He does tell me about his challenges at work, but doesn't open up too much. Any tips?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 07:30 PM
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Exactly... I definitely feel tight and uncomfortable telling someone that they make me happy or that I like being around them. I feared that being vulnerable meant telling your dark secrets sooner rather than later, luckily that isn't the case. I'm going to work on expressing myself more however.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 10:33 PM
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ah no no you're right, thank you. I can be too literal sometimes hehe :/
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 10:27 PM
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I read this as recommended by a poster, https://markmanson.net/vulnerability/amp ​ Really useful!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 10:10 PM
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thank you. To say something like that at this stage seems a bit too soon though, no? I am not sure who he is yet, I want to date him to find out more about him and see if I want to progress with him or not
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 10:10 PM
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thank you, this makes much more sense and more honest. I will continue doing what I'm doing
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 10:09 PM
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I read a really good extract from Brenee Brown's book that makes a lot of sense to me, that vulnerability is not about airing your past trauma. This has made a lot of sense to me, because I've been reading recently about how being vulnerable with a man is necessary, and I was worried that to do this I should tell him more about my past. I think I will carry on as I am doing, because it feels manipulative otherwise. When the time is right is better, because if it doesn't work out I will regret te…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 10:08 PM
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Thank you, this was lovely to read! He sounds so sweet and caring. ​ In terms of vulnerability, how were you at the early stages of dating, the first two/three weeks?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 10:06 PM
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Thank you, I loved this! it inspired me to buy the 'daring greatly' and have been reading that today.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 10:04 PM
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Is there somewhere I can read this advice? I've read Laura Doyle
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 07:34 PM
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Do you think over sharing has benefitted you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 07:21 PM
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That makes much more sense, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 07:07 PM
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Ok this is reassuring to hear. I got a bit worried because I was doing research and some top answers on quora say to state your deepest desire for the man, and reveal your secrets sooner rather than later. What about the post on this forum a couple of days ago though, saying that the main way to a man's heart is to be vulnerable, and she gave an example of saying something that she suffered in her childhood? Some of the comments (by men) agreed that this was the main way they fell for the woman
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 06:46 PM
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Thank you for this, it’s very insightful. His other characteristics compensate for this I think. He’s really sweet and puts me first. He’s so kind and works hard. We share similar values and I’d be very heartbroken if this were to end. I told him not to worry about my cv that I’ll take care of it and He messaged saying I’m rushing him and he was going to message me tomorrow morning. I’m going to talk to him and tell him I’m scared I’m going to end up nagging him for things
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 11:54 PM
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Thank you, this is very helpful for me to see this in an empathetic way. I’ve been accepting him doing these promises and now I’m upset and can’t see things clearly. He did message saying I’m rushing him and he was going to message me tomorrow morning. A talk sometime this week is necessary I think
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 11:50 PM
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I wrote what you suggested and Now he’s said he will email me first thing tomorrow and has already given me things I can improve on. Why could he not tell me these things before as he’d promised, I don’t want to upset him by not being grateful though
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 11:00 PM
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Thank you, I agree with your comment and am feeling a little bit bummed out because I’ve invested in him.. He’s been at the park all day with his friends and I just texted asking if he’s seen it and he said he read it and wanted to email me with suggestions but is too tired, and will do it when he sees me next week. I haven’t answered , he will sense I’m upset if I say what you suggest but maybe that is necessary...
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 10:50 PM
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Small update: this morning he asked me to email him my cv and he would look At it today so I can send it off tomorrow to different agencies. It’s nearly midnight and he hasn’t mentioned it. I just feel like saying that he need not look at it anymore, I’d rather he just not.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 10:28 PM
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The trash example is really good and I will definitely implement this when we live together! We have plans to move in together in October. I feel it’s slightly different to this issue as the trash is visible, isn’t an empty promise that can easily be forgotten by him. If I withdraw from him he won’t know why I’ve done so. I suppose I could bring it up to him once and if he doesn’t follow through then I’ll have to think about this because it is hurtful when he does these, even though it isn’t mal…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 05:42 PM
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He does seem to do this with other peOple, I’ve seen him do it with his mum. She reminds him (in a kind manner) to do something he promised he would do and he takes a very long time to do them. I don’t want to break up with him over this but just don’t know how to handle it
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 05:40 PM
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Thank you for your response. I really like what your wife has said to you, it’s special and shows she appreciates you. My boyfriend can be like this with his mum for sure. I haven’t seen him do it with other people but he can be a bit passive sometimes in making plans with me. I’m going to see if he looks at my cv tonight as he’s said he would, and have the real talk with him next time I see him. I don’t like these confrontations :/ but he is very open minded and will listen to me
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 05:37 PM
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I agree... I sort of did this over the weekend. I buy food and cook for us, and recently we’ve agreed for him to do the dishes. Well this weekend he didn’t do the dishes so I told him it upset me because it was our agreement. He said I need to voice these things and just ask him to do the dishes, but then I feel like I’m nagging.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 12:14 PM
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THank you, how do you suggest I bring this up?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 12:12 PM
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Thank you so much! They sound delicious, going to make one of these next week :) <3
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/18 06:44 PM
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I made swedish meatballs last week. https://therecipecritic.com/2016/08/the-best-swedish-meatballs/ (I didn't make the sauce) Made 60 meatballs as I hosted a dinner party. My boyfriend and another guy were raving about them all night and ate most of them! I also make 'pita pizzas'. Tomato sauce from scratch, toast the pitas for a bit, add a bit of the sauce and toppings of choice and put it in the oven until the cheese is crisp. Soooo good and my boyfriend loves it. I like to be experimental in …
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/18 12:50 PM
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Your recipes sound amazing! Could you post the salmon en croute recipe please? also is there a link for the orecchiette barese and the mustard-cream sauce? Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/18 12:25 PM
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My boyfriend is how you describe, alpha but also emotionally open and talkative. When he started becoming a bit beta he began watching jordan Peterson. A poster above recommended him as well, he’s a really good read or watch. We watched the relationship video last night, was quite helpful. Wish you the best x
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/18 07:32 AM
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I think offering the idea of no phones at table would be a good start. I understand he likes to check is phone, the memes he looks at are very funny. At meal times is rude to me I find. I feel it’s not putting in effort into our relationship. Funny you mention this because we are looking at places to live! He wants to move into a place with me :) in around three months time which is exciting. And we have also spoken about marriage which is what we both want. But I would like to sort this phone i…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 08:09 PM
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Right now he is playing fifa but always grabbing my hand and involving me in the conversation with his friends, which I find really sweet. I’m reading my book meanwhile and in between breaks he is being very affectionate with me. This is why I like him, he’s so affectionate and sweet. But his constant need to check his phone is starting to grate on me. He doesn’t know I get upset by it every time, but he can’t go more than five or ten min without checking it. And it’s jist to look at Snapchat an…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 08:06 PM
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OK this is really good advice. when I read your comment I thought about it for a while, and it’s true that I’m sure I do things that annoy him. For example I’m a bit spur of the moment and don’t take time to think things through like he does. That annoys him. He hasn’t spoken to me about I but I can feel it. Today we went for dinner and I was going to apply the advice you told me of letting it be. His friends joined us so didn’t have a chance! Lol but thank you, insightful
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 07:53 PM
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That is true. I think I’ll talk to him next time it happens, but not in an angry way
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 07:47 PM
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I feel like overall my needs are met to an extent. Or what he offers makes up for this. I think being addicted to the phone is a deal breaker because while doing something so special, he is looking at memes and text messages which is something he can access anytime. What do you think?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 07:46 PM
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Thank you little known facts for your our answer. I agree with your last point, and now that I’m calmer I see it is spiteful of me for wanting him to feel how I feel. I don’t want to break up with him over this, because other than this we get on so well. Regarding your point on asking him questions. I read some rpw books a few years ago, and it helped me with this. I’m also naturally a curious person, especially about someone I care about. So we talk about him a lot, I know all his dreams and fe…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 05:39 PM
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Wow I’m sorry that happened to you. How long were you dating for? That must’ve been painful :( Luckily with my bf he is very open about what he is doing on his phone. He always shows me what he’s looking at and who he’s texting. Still hurtful and irritating though
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 04:32 PM
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Yeah it’s totally the millennial existence and I hate it D: I’m not from here, my family and friends live abroad, and I don’t connect with them when I’m eating with him, because I feel like if it would hurt me then it would hurt him. I’m not sure if the conversations are interesting to him. Perhaps I should ask him. But the most recent time he did this, the topic was an interesting one. He apologised and said he has a short attention span because he is addicted to the internet, but doesn’t try t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 04:31 PM
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