Manaminded Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	How do I navigate this scenario?	911	Manaminded	/r/askMRP	01/05/24 04:46 AM

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1	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 07, 2024 Thank you for this sage advice, 100%! The way forward is paved through selfishness, the lack thereof caused my fall from grace.	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/05/24 11:02 PM
3	Own Your Shit Weekly - May 07, 2024 OYS 1 Physical Stats: 180 lbs @ 5’10”, 10% bf. Lifts: I’ve been sick and still working my physical job in the ocean and felt weak this week. Here was my workout today: 330 5x5 squat, 90 5x5 dips, 10 sets of 10 L sit chin ups. Felt shaky throughout. Sidebar: I’ve gone through it once, but I admit I haven’t been able to act adequately enough in applying the knowledge. You can’t coach laziness and cowardice, both of which I am and is my biggest impediment in making any internal progress. It actuall…	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/05/24 07:54 PM
1	Divorcees - When Did You Know It Was Over? How did you repair/build your life once you left?	/r/askMRP	05/05/24 01:51 PM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24) True if this were the case no one would be and stay married.	/r/RPChristians	02/05/24 10:11 PM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? 100% true and accurate. In my own contemplations I’ve come to this realization of me not being husband material and I admit that it fills me with the deepest sense of guilt to see that I’ve become an object of derision in her life and that I’ve truly failed. I’m trying to save (cope) with any modicum of self respect I have left, but it’s total ego death. No way to cope through this. Thank you for taking the time to share these harrowing and sobering words, the sooner I accept this brutal reality…	/r/askMRP	02/05/24 10:09 PM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24) Based take, you are doing the Lord’s work! If it happened in the heart does it already de facto count as adultery? I’m going to have to meditate on verse 11!	/r/RPChristians	02/05/24 09:14 PM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? Brutal! But this is the harsh reality of my life. Can only work with what is in front of me. Do you think a hard ghost is necessary? Last night I was thinking of just packing my shit and fucking off without saying anything. Leave her to figure out her life own her own.	/r/askMRP	02/05/24 08:46 PM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24) Thank you for this wise counsel and for indicating of the way forward! We had a convo last night where I explicitly told her these steps of repentance, asking for forgiveness, and then reconciling. She said she doesn’t know if the attraction can be worked out because his resentful she is. She’s going to counselling today. This is all exacerbated by our lease ending this month and thus a wrench being thrown into what was supposed to be our future plans. I said stability would fix a lot of our iss…	/r/RPChristians	02/05/24 08:37 PM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? You’re being a good weather man making an accurate weather report: real fucking stormy forecast	/r/askMRP	02/05/24 12:44 AM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? This is the kick in the ass I need. It’s Ground Zero. This is some dark Freudian stuff. This (I) really is/am that bad.	/r/askMRP	02/05/24 12:42 AM
2	How do I navigate this scenario? Ouch but so obviously true	/r/askMRP	02/05/24 12:37 AM
2	How do I navigate this scenario? Thank you for this advice! Believe me she read me the delineated bullet point scroll of what has been and what is wrong with me for the past 5 years	/r/askMRP	02/05/24 12:37 AM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? I’m 30 and she’s 27.	/r/askMRP	02/05/24 12:35 AM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? Read it… but internalised? Even a bigger L to be honest, should know WAY better	/r/askMRP	01/05/24 11:01 PM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? It’s all a Freudian fuckery isn’t it lol	/r/askMRP	01/05/24 11:00 PM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24) She swears on God that she didn’t, but I think of Matt. 5:27-28. I’m not pure in this regard either, but I repent and strive towards the Godly standard of marital union and fidelity. What do I want? This same repentance. “I sinned, I’m sorry. I was wrong (she said these things). Let’s return to our marital union and revitalise it (she did not say that)” I can’t force her to do that. Medium Is the message, bottom line is she most likely just doesn’t want to be with me. I’m reading Hosea now. Extr…	/r/RPChristians	01/05/24 08:20 PM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? We’re an international couple that got together right before covid which made our relationship chaotic. When we first met I couldn’t leave her country from the lockdowns, which drained my savings and I couldn’t work. We had to leave where we lived and since I was useless in her country and around this time she got her visa to come to my country which allowed her to go through the lockdown. We moved in with my family since we starting from scratch which surprise, surprise, was a fucked up scenari…	/r/askMRP	01/05/24 07:24 PM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? 100% true! I have to defrag. Stats are true but what’s worse is my younger bro is just about the same as me. Essentially my wife was around someone as fit as me, but younger with more “tingles”. Worse part is I started him off on his fitness journey wtf	/r/askMRP	01/05/24 06:45 PM
3	How do I navigate this scenario? Thank you for this practical insight, straight to the point! Shit hurts but I gotta take it on the chin.	/r/askMRP	01/05/24 06:26 PM
1	How do I navigate this scenario? Lol this gave me a good laugh and I’ll use it as a silver bullet if any other shit comes up: “But you’re incestuous”	/r/askMRP	01/05/24 05:12 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24) OYS 5: I haven’t posted in awhile since in all honesty I didn’t feel like I was Owning my Situation. I felt like this week i finally hit a good baseline after struggling for some time due to the life circumstances of moving and everything that comes with that. But it has all come crashing down which I would appreciate some wisdom in navigating. Situation: I live internationally and multiple members of my family have come and have now gone. They were here for a month. I was going to return home b…	/r/RPChristians	30/04/24 02:41 PM
7	How do you game your wife? I would also say reverse psychology is incredibly accurate with women for better or for worse. If you have to flex your leadership explicitly she will spite you just based on the fact you did that and just because.	/r/askMRP	29/04/24 08:44 AM
1	LTR testing me every second A classic example of how reverse psychology is so effective on women. She cooked up this subconsciously manufactured drama to push your buttons, watch you squirm, and thus get a kick of your reaction (women are like cats in that they like to play with their prey). If you gave 2 shits about the hoodie it would have deflated this whole thing and she would shrug and forget about it, perhaps moving on to the next thing to torment you with if she’s that sort of woman. The more you react the more this…	/r/askMRP	23/03/24 10:49 PM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/24) OYS 4 STATS: Physical: height 5’10”, weight 80 kg (10% body fat) Lifts: Squat: 180kg 5x5, deadlift: 190kg 5x5, bench: 50 kg dumbbell 3x10. Physical fitness: I took a few more rest days from weights this week since I felt like my body needed them after training seven days in a row last week. The cortisol feels like it was chewing up my body. What I did instead was go surfing, which is one of favorite hobbies that I let slip since being married. Doing this filled my cup and made me feel more relax…	/r/RPChristians	07/03/24 02:42 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/26/24) Yes that's true, I don't have the greatest track record with decision making under pressure and this is the area I need to improve on the most. I realized I capitulate to her if there's strong emotions so I don't have to take responsibility for things in case they go south and I don't have a strong identity in knowing what I really want and then sticking to that. Originally I felt like I laid out a decent plan, but like you said, I got steamrolled by my wife (which I allowed her to do) in which …	/r/RPChristians	28/02/24 01:55 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/19/24) Whoa that was quite the read, very harrowing stuff! Thank you for giving me the hope that with Christ I can gain control of my ship regardless of what happens. It's an amazing testament to how powerful He is in regenerating us from a fallen state. It goes to show that a Bible based worldview is the key to a sound mind. God has used you in a miraculous way and I'm grateful that you are charitable with sharing that light with us. I took a lot from that post! Timeboxing will be a gamechanger for me…	/r/RPChristians	27/02/24 01:58 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/26/24) OYS 3 STATS: Physical: height 5’10”, weight 80 kg (10% body fat) Lifts: Squat: 180kg 5x5, deadlift: 190kg 5x5, bench: finally hit my goal of 50 kg dumbbell 3x10. Physical fitness: This has been another week of consistent and solid lifting, although my recovery feels like its been diminished by stress. Marital/mental fitness: There is friction and of course there is immense bleed through into my mental state. Last night my wife said that she doesn't feel secure both now and into the future, that …	/r/RPChristians	27/02/24 01:12 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/19/24) Thank you for sharing your personal journey with me, what an incredible journey you’ve been on! I’m grateful that you’ve taken the time and have the patience to share what lessons you’ve distilled with us. Even the boundaries link in your post was extremely helpful! Not gonna lie I got steamrolled by the reality of being/becoming the leader in my marriage, especially with your problem #3. Man what strength it takes! I embarrassingly read WISNIFG so many times out of frustration but it’s the issu…	/r/RPChristians	26/02/24 05:06 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/19/24) Thank you for this swift kick in the butt, it stings but it stings because what you say is true. I appreciate the practical steps of guidance you've provided in being committed to what is happening. I took a few days to pray for the capacity to be more decisive and why I tend to vacillate. It boils down to not wanting to rock the boat out of insecurity in how others around me will view me with the addition of not having to be responsible for negative impacts of decisions. This led me to James 1:…	/r/RPChristians	23/02/24 12:54 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/19/24) OYS 2 STATS: Physical: height 5’10”, weight 80 kg (10% body fat) Lifts: Squat: 180kg 5x5, deadlift: 190kg 5x5, bench: 50 kg dumbbell 5x5. Physical fitness: things are superb in this department. I did a leg workout of 160kg 3x10 followed by 2 sets of 5 (with other accessory work) and had solid DOMS. I’m an avid surfer and could barely move in the water while getting torched by waves which was equally funny and frustrating. I’ve always went to extremes in both lifting and surfing and will strive t…	/r/RPChristians	19/02/24 10:55 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/24) 1st RP Christian Post Physical: height 5’10”, weight 80 kg (10% body fat) Squat: 170kg 5x5, deadlift: 190kg 5x5, bench: 50 kg dumbbell 5x5 My current situation: I (a U.S. citizen) live in Australia with my wife, who is Aussie. I have permanent residency here (as of a few days ago) and my wife has a U.S. green card. We have lived back and forth a few times now. We live with roommates and my wife has understandably grown weary of it. We live in an extremely competitive/expensive area and were look…	/r/RPChristians	16/02/24 12:53 AM