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So give her comfort... Too much "Alpha" will kill a relationship and too much dread results in anxiety. Push and pull until you find a rhythm...
/r/askMRP15/11/24 12:30 AM
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Comfort test? Shit test? Act accordingly. Reread the sidebar and search blue pill professor videos on shit tests and married red pill
/r/askMRP14/11/24 09:26 PM
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The irony of her wearing the pants in your relationship... Do the work, read the sidebar and books, put them into practice, you'll figure it all out
/r/askMRP09/11/24 06:40 PM
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It's a bitter pill to swallow, but reality is better than falsehood. I had a woman who did the same to me when I was younger and threw me off the straight path. If you're still Muslim, then get back on it and walk it with confidence now that you're learning the truth about sexual dynamics. No person is worth your akhira.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/24 10:54 AM
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Sidebar. Read: No more Mr nice guy When I say no I feel guilty Watch: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1lJ9Z9nTem5Sj-5RROEKgBX-w1WR4Bam&feature=shared
/r/askMRP09/05/24 01:51 AM
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Sounds like comfort tests. You've been leading yourself. Now lead your relationship.
/r/askMRP17/04/24 05:20 PM
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Give her more comfort.
/r/askMRP28/03/24 05:09 PM
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Any program will get you results combined with good eating and sleeping habits. It's typically recommended to start with a linear progression program then move to a periodization program once you get to respectable weight or stall. Depending on your age and fitness level, you may choose one over the other. Since you do BJJ, I'd recommend tactical Barbell specifically the fighter protocol. The books are super cheap, and there's a subreddit all about it. Best of luck
/r/askMRP10/01/24 12:55 PM
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Listen to this married red pill basic course by bluepillprofessor: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1lJ9Z9nTem5Sj-5RROEKgBX-w1WR4Bam&feature=shared Then go through the advanced topics: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1lJ9Z9nTem6s7xDdDcTmRqS7GJZO-JKm&feature=shared They accelerated my journey tremendously, especially the episodes where he goes through gottmamn and then the behavioral psychology series. You're on the right track with how she's reacting, just stay in control of yourself and …
/r/askMRP08/01/24 02:50 AM
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Keep pushing yourself, you'll get there, brother. Start praising her good behavior and contributions, and coach her on what needs improvement. She sounds like she just needs a good fuck from you. Just go for it.
/r/askMRP03/01/24 03:32 AM
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Sounds like shitty comfort tests to me. I used to and still sometimes fuck up. It's not deering to show and tell her that you care but won't tolerate rude behavior. STFU is great, but you do have to be present in the relationship. You have to game her, lead her, get her emotions excited. The most important thing is that these situations have to be taken in context. There's no secret code to solve them. Are you attractive? Are you fucking her good? Do you handle your shit and lead your family? Go…
/r/askMRP02/01/24 06:52 PM
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Look up frame posts from https://www.reddit.com/u/Strategos_autokrator/s/m63DE15JOe Start at 0 and keep reading applying
/r/askMRP16/12/23 02:45 PM
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Thanks for sharing your feedback
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 02:30 PM
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You could be right
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 12:10 PM
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No motivation. That's simply what tactical barbell recommends for his protocols. He does say that anything above 5 reps skews the calcs. I based 1RMs off: SQ 225x5 Bench 205x5 DL 315x1
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 05:04 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 04:41 PM
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Why would I need to do that?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 04:40 PM
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OYS #16 38 yo, 5' 7", 190lbs BF (NAVY) ~19% (STRONGUR) ~ 22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM: DL 315 lbs BP 231 lbs SQ 253 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Started second cycle. Bracing practice and belt helped a lot. Also did limber 11 a couple of times for relief from back, glute, and hip pain. May go down in weight on squats due to the high reps from Mass Protocol kicking my ass - literally. Sleep…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 12:24 PM
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OYS #15 38 yo, 5' 7", 190lbs BF (NAVY) ~19% (STRONGUR) ~ 22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM: DL 315 lbs BP 231 lbs SQ 253 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Getting my ass kicked this week. Even though I used training maxes instead of true maxes, I am struggling with recovery. My squats especially, after 3x/week, I am starting to experience back pain. Watched some videos and read documentation and nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 04:50 PM
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Thanks for sharing your insights. The work continues.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 01:09 PM
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OYS #14 38 yo, 5' 7", 190lbs BF (NAVY) ~19% (STRONGUR) ~ 22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM: DL 315 lbs BP 231 lbs SQ 253 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Had to take a week off due to wife's hospital stay. Back at it yesterday after resetting. Goals: 1. Stay consistent with lifting and work towards 1000lb club WORK Rumors of layoffs on the horizon. I'm trying to let the stressful thoughts go since …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 02:22 PM
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Holy blindspots... Thank you for pointing these out
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 07:32 PM
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Yea, I'm scared if I feel sorry for myself, I'll drop the ball. I just have to keep going right now. What is IR IX? Regards the 2nd part - that's what I believe. What do you think it is?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 04:23 PM
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OYS #13 38 yo, 5' 7", 190lbs BF (NAVY) ~19% (STRONGUR) ~ 22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM: DL 315 lbs BP 231 lbs SQ 253 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Tested maxes and have a big improvement. Conditioning and diet has made a big difference. A couple hundred pounds away from the 1000lb club. Goals: 1. Stay consistent with lifting and work towards 1000lb club WORK Wife is in the hospital so doing …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 09:33 PM
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I'll be testing my maxes when I get back in town and starting the Tactical Barbell OMS from TB Mass Protocol. You're the man, and your traps are fucking huge!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 04:10 PM
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Here's the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/s/Ut850Ov7iu
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 11:18 PM
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Right now, I've only just learned "breathe from my balls" before responding or staying quiet. My emotions get the best of me and my ego flares up typically - I live a reactive frame. My goal is to develop and hold a strong frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 11:17 PM
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Thanks I didn't think of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 11:13 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement, brother. It's a shock how ignorant I've been my whole life about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 05:16 PM
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OYS #12 38 yo, 5' 7", 188lbs, BF (NAVY) ~19% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes ~6 weeks ago: DL 262 lbs BP 204 lbs SQ 169 lbs OHP 163 lbs ROW 181 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Ending 6th week of base training. Will be testing maxes this week before jumping into the next phase of TB OMS training - Strength. Goals: 1. Test maxes before next OYS. WORK Was invited to speak at a conference l…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 04:45 PM
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So I just finished reading through this entire thread, and yea, spot on. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 07:06 PM
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Thank you. "Caretaking [...] Tends to be a convenient way to offload responsibilities for your needs onto others." This is profound and in my case absolutely true. I've been avoiding dealing with my issues my whole life. In the past using drugs, alcohol, and sex as an escape, and I'm the present caretaking at home and over performing at work to get that validation and pat on the back that it's okay, I'm okay, I matter, etc. In the end it's gotten me nothing but a wage slave and plow horse filled…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 07:45 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. Yea the tism is strong with this one. I have a lot of work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:21 PM
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I'm with you on all the rest as I'm discovering these things about myself and acknowledging them so that I can work on them. But what serious issues do you think you see that are beyond the fucked up nice guy paradigms that I'm learning about?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:16 PM
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MENTAL/RELATIONSHIP The more you know, the less you do. I thought I was getting better last OYS, but that's because I didn't realize how fucking behind I actually am. I am not leading with confidence in my home. I am also my own cockblock. I have seriously weak and unattractive behaviors that I need to work on, and I have previously identified and continue to identify them. I've modified the plan based on what I've experienced this past week: Goals: 1. I will STFU instead of DEER - My wife is no…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 01:04 PM
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OYS #11 38 yo, 5' 7", 188lbs, BF (NAVY) ~19% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: DL 262 lbs BP 204 lbs SQ 169 lbs OHP 163 lbs ROW 181 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Ending 5th week of base training. Tightening the screws on nutrition. The high protein no carb diet thing was working very well, but my digestive system was messed up, I was fighting binging at night, fatigued, and had brain f…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 01:04 PM
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That's exactly it - I'm a bitch that needs comfort. My brain was literally a hamster all day tripping balls and feeling guilty. And it's not love, it's like a fear of abandonment and fear of being seen as the bad guy. It's fucked up. I ended up breaking and talking to her about it about an hour ago. I probably talked too much about my feelings too. Got work to do this week on my shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 07:34 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 05:16 PM
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Thanks. So I fucked all of this up last night... We were talking about our baby and how blessed after two miscarriages to have gotten this far, and I remembered a miscarriage she had 14 years ago before we were together that had come up during a doctor visit. My mind fixated on it so I asked, "who was the father of that miscarriage?" I could tell she was uncomfortable when answering, and noticed her start to pressure flip on me."I was relaxing, why would you ask this question?" Etc. I thought I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 02:13 PM
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What makes you say that I have a delusional ego?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 08:53 PM
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OYS #10 38 yo, 5' 7", 190lbs, BF (NAVY) ~20% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: DL 262 lbs BP 204 lbs SQ 169 lbs OHP 163 lbs ROW 181 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Ending 4th week of base training. Body is re-comping nicely. Quit smoking - Day 4. Just said fuck it and stopped after forgetting to put a patch on and realizing it was already 2pm. Was a dick for two days but held it together…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 12:52 PM
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Onwards forwards, thanks for the motivation
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 01:22 PM
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Thanks, man. I was overcomplicating shit in my head. The doc said my cholesterol is probably genetic based on my family and physical history. You may be right as for bf%. It's imperfect, but I use the navy method. 16.5" neck, 36" around navel, 5' 7" height. Since it won't calculate half inches, I rounded to 20% (18.6% @ 17" neck, 20.6% @ 16" neck). It's margin of error is +/- 3-4% so I may be as high as 24% bf Regarding stats, my 1RM are estimated from the app I've been using. I haven't done a t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 12:35 PM
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OYS #9 38 yo, 5' 7", 190lbs, BF (NAVY) ~20% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: DL 262 lbs BP 204 lbs SQ 169 lbs OHP 163 lbs ROW 181 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Ending 3rd week of base training. Work capacity has improved tremendously and shaved a couple of minutes off my pathetic 14 minute mile that I started with. Body composition continues to improve. Had follow up with doctor and c…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 01:34 PM
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That last part is on the nose.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 03:41 PM
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I don't understand what you mean
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 03:40 PM
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Your message initially pissed me the fuck off, but you have a point. I know I'm not shit, that's why I'm back here. I'd read and applied only what I thought I needed to get laid more regularly and had become a dancing monkey for a couple years before realizing I need to go back, put down my ego, and focus on application. But you are right that I can move faster if I dedicate more time. Thank you for the push. This learned helplessness is eye opening, and I spent time taking inventory of the area…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/23 11:39 AM
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Thanks for the reality check and introducing me to this concept. Going to do some research. Beyond therapy, do you have any tips or resources?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 09:57 PM
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I've been thinking about this for the past few hours. I think I'm using sex as a validation that I have value. I think you're also right that it's a form of avoidance. There are lingering feelings of inadequacy, abandonment as a child from emotionally unavailable parents, and getting cheated on by multiple girls in my teens and early twenties. The addictions numb it. The focus on fixer uppers makes me feel valuable. The sex makes me feel validated. I'm lacking.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 04:34 PM
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Harsh truth thank you. I do get bitchy when I don't get it. To clarify, the sex only happens when she initiates. I get shot down when I initiate - and I initiate often. I got work to do, but I'm blind to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 04:30 PM
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OYS #8 38 yo, 5' 7", 191lbs, BF (NAVY) ~20% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: DL 262 lbs BP 204 lbs SQ 169 lbs OHP 163 lbs ROW 181 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Measured my bodyfat percentage using US NAVY method, and it came out a hair under 20%. My waist at the naval has gone down a couple of inches in the past 3 months even though I've gained a few pounds. I'm adjusting my goal to 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 12:40 PM
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OYS #7 38 yo, 5' 7", 190lbs, BF (NAVY) ~22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: DL 262 lbs BP 204 lbs SQ 169 lbs OHP 163 lbs ROW 181 lbs Routine: Tactical Barbell Mass Protocol Switched routine to Tactical barbell after running PPL for 3 weeks on, 1 week off, 3 weeks on. I'm in the base building phase which is kicking my ass for strength endurance and low state steady cardio to strengthen my work capa…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 06:32 PM
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OYS #6 38 yo, 5' 7", 192lbs, BF (NAVY) ~22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: DL 262 lbs BP 204 lbs SQ 169 lbs OHP 163 lbs ROW 181 lbs Routine: 4-6x/week PPL. Upped my calorie intake the past couple of weeks to help with fatigue, and it's positively affected my performance. Problem is the weight comes with it. Tweaking to find a balance. Goals: 1. Find balanced caloric intake to recomp instead of cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 02:57 PM
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Dang, I didn't recognize it, but you're right that she was using peer pressure as further manipulation. It's relentless. Usually I just feel off inside, like something is wrong and as a result get angry, but this has been helping me to name what's happening. Shit happens at work, with door dash customer service, with kids, neighbors, all around me, and I just get mad. This was the first time I was able to slow down and see the shit for what it is. Someone trying to get their way at my expense. N…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 11:51 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I need to work on maintaining control when angry and find a way to express it without losing my shit. I scared the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 07:52 PM
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Agree. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 07:51 PM
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OYS #5 38 yo, 5' 7", 188lbs, BF (NAVY) 22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: OHP 157 lbs DL 239 lbs BP 192 lbs SQ 157 lbs Routine: 4-6x/week PPL. Took a few days off training to take family out of town. Did bodyweight exercises in hotel. Back at it as of yesterday and had a good strong day. Doctor put me on cholesterol medication. Although I've lost weight, eat better, and have gotten in better shap…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 04:30 PM
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Copy paste from last week. You are right though. I'm not done being judgemental. I realized that it distracts me from seeing my own issues when I focus on the negative in others. Caught myself several times last week. Thanks for info on what works for you for trt. I looked up ugl and seems it's dirty cheap but comes with risks. I'll see what the doc says for our next appointment. He takes trt himself and recommends it for heart health.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 08:36 PM
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Maybe. I use the navy method.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 08:32 PM
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You're right. She soothed me. I noticed that when writing this. I need to be my own compass,. I was 225 this time last year. Cut out pop and junk food, chips, etc. Started a 5k program and bodyweight fitness then got back into lifting winter of this year. Had to travel abroad several times this year for weeks at a time for work so I wasn't consistent with progressive overload just using hotel gym dumbbells. My plan is to continue progressive overload consistently and keep eating right. I stopped…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 08:32 PM
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OYS #4 38 yo, 5' 7", 188lbs, BF (NAVY) 22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: OHP 157 lbs DL 239 lbs BP 192 lbs SQ 157 lbs Routine: 4-6x/week PPL. Training is going great. Maxes above are estimated 1rm, so they will go up/down depending on how many AMRAP for the last set I do. Had my doc appointment and labs and they show high cholesterol and a low 400s total testosterone. Although I cut weight since…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 12:43 PM
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Damn, thanks for pointing that out. I always imagined I'm better than that, but you're right - I'm doing this. Looks like I need to stfu and work on my self awareness.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 02:46 PM
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OYS #3 38 yo, 5' 7", 188lbs, BF (NAVY) 22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH e1RM Weight Maxes: OHP 145 lbs DL 235 lbs BP 203 lbs SQ 150 lbs Routine: 4-6x/week PPL. I have been consistent with training blocks. Sleep is good one day, bad two days. Doctor hasn't scheduled yet after a follow up mid week. Goals: Continue working on sleep. Set telehealth appointment and get a list of tests to run at a local clinic. WORK Ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 01:37 PM
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Excellent insight thank you. It stems from childhood, and I've only recently begun recognizing it and recognizing that I need to watch out for it with my own kids. I fit many of the archetypes in NMMNG. It's the same old story - ny father never said he loves me or that he was proud of me. He constantly criticized me for normal kid behavior, blamed me for his anger and abused my mother emotionally and physically when she defended me. Then she leaned on me for emotional support. I always felt resp…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 05:15 PM
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Thanks for the suggestions
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 10:41 AM
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I compare the 2-3x a week to the past where it was much less and Starfish at that. It is good now, but I would like it more often. I don't want to do this for that though. That was my dancing monkey program a few years ago when I was on here last...
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 10:37 PM
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You're right. I do need inner game. I give too much of a fuck about what others think of me and have a nagging feeling of inadequacy no matter how far I've come. Every milestone is if I reach this, I'll have arrived. Then it's on to the next one, and the cycle repeats.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 10:30 PM
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OYS #2 38 yo, 5' 7", 190lbs, BF (NAVY) 22% Married 11 years, 3 kids MISSION To become a better man and create mental and physical balance. FITNESS & HEALTH Weight Maxes: OHP 140 lbs DL 235 lbs BP 190 lbs SQ 125 lbs Routine: 4-6x/week PPL. I have scheduled regular blocks in my schedule to get my workout in. I still moved things around twice last week to accommodate wife and kids, but I'm getting better at boundaries. It took until the weekend, but I've improved my sleep schedule by hitting the sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 02:56 PM
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The point still stands. Unless his mission, life philosophy, or belief system, rational or otherwise from anyone else's point of view, give him a reason for marriage, then he has none.
/r/askMRP22/07/23 03:58 PM
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It depends on your philosophy and belief system. To a Muslim, marriage is half of faith. We believe that women and men are complements to each other and cannot live a fulfilled life alone. We were created from one soul and join to complete the circle and elevate the soul to a higher starus. Think yin and yang. Perhaps it's because you have to learn to be a better man to make a marriage work, or perhaps it's like we joke that it's because it takes half your faith to deal with a wife. That doesn't…
/r/askMRP22/07/23 02:59 PM
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OYS #1 Late 30s, 5' 7", 190lbs, BF (NAVY) 22% Married 10+ years, 3 kids FITNESS & HEALTH Weight Maxes: OHP 140 lbs DL 235 lbs BP 190 lbs SQ 125 lbs Routine: PPL Although I get 4x/week in, my days are not consistent. I find myself being a nice guy and moving things around for the wife, kids, my boss, and any other opportunity to be a hero. Of course it builds resentment since I'm being a caretaker with covert contracts. I also got a fitness tracker watch and it shows that my sleep schedule is ter…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/23 12:45 PM
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