MarcoMarti1981 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	What did getting divorced teach you? Everyone HAS an opinion…and it must be communicated often to you, just in case you didn’t get it the first 100 times. Family…isn’t always there for support, especially if they are afraid of the children involved.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/03/26 02:28 PM
2	Did divorce change how you see yourself as a man? Finishing my coffee…Enjoying my coffee	/r/Divorce_Men	24/02/26 05:26 PM
5	Did divorce change how you see yourself as a man? Agreed! Put some water in your damn wine sometimes, you can’t always want to win an argument or a point of discussion. At a point sometimes now, I just stare blankly into people when these situations occur and take an early exit. Sanity and calmness abide, as the Dude would say.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/02/26 08:15 PM
1	Does anyone else feel like "a looser" despite "winning" at most things in life? Keep at it, the important part is that you are at peace.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/26 08:50 PM
1	Does anyone else feel like "a looser" despite "winning" at most things in life? Like others have mentioned, it’s all in your head brother. I get it sometimes when things go into autopilot and you start rewinding things in your head. Don’t second guess yourself, keep at it and with time, these episodes do calm themselves. Keep doing what you do, follow your daily routine. Listen to music, smoke a J, read comics, spend as much quality time with your son, get a FWB, anything to let out steam. Eventually, this also turns into a routine and will get you better until you are read…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 03:22 PM
1	Expensive hobby after divorce? Read what you like brother. Dive in, start slowly. Venom, Hulk, Thor, etc.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/25 07:01 PM
1	Expensive hobby after divorce? Do what you need to do to be YOU again! In my case, I dove back into comics and collecting. Set a budget and go with it. Most people in my circle do not understand it, however, at my age, it’s therapeutic and it helps. You got this!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/25 05:10 PM
5	Went back to my first love Good for you bro! Enjoy the motorboating 🤪 I’m sure she’ll always abide 🤟	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/25 03:29 AM
7	Thumbs Up Emoji I use this one all the time: 🤔	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/25 12:14 PM
2	Dreams at night becoming very vivid and lucid Please seek help mate. I did, and a lot of men here did as well when they were going through dark times during their ordeal. There’s no shame in it. Put yourself and your wellbeing first. Talking to a professional is your first step, do this for YOU! Good luck!	/r/Divorce_Men	01/06/25 07:10 PM
3	Bitch and moan about inequalities in divorce Agreed!	/r/Divorce_Men	24/05/25 11:06 PM
5	I made the mistake of talking about my experience with people that don’t understand This 100%. I made the same mistake and it was used against me further down the line. Lessons learned.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/25 10:51 PM
1	Anyone willing to share their 3-4-4-3 schedule... Been using it for over 2 years, my son is 12 now. It’s a juggle for sure, especially with school and all, however, so far, it works for us. Try different ones that fit both your schedules. Kids of all ages crave a routine and discipline. You got this!	/r/Divorce_Men	16/05/25 12:01 AM
1	Anyone willing to share their 3-4-4-3 schedule... 5-2-2-5	/r/Divorce_Men	15/05/25 09:11 PM
1	I'm worried my kids are being coached This 💯 When your kids (11 year old son in my case) see you as the stable, rock solid parent that doesn’t engage in pettiness or drama, trust me, it doesn’t take long for them to grasp it and actually follow your lead. There is a lot we cannot control in life, especially if the ex is coaching or dramatizing them, stay true to yourself and the children will eventually see it. Keep at it, don’t give up!	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/25 06:56 PM
7	I told her I wanted a divorce. It did not go how I expected This 💯 If there is no attraction physically, there is a somewhat lack of respect somewhere there inside. These are issues that should be addressed. I made the mistake of ignoring it for years, by then, it was too late. Don’t put yourself in that position. Sending OP positive vibes, but this looks like it will end badly.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/25 02:06 PM
5	2nd wife?” Jesus Christ my friend! 🥺 I am sending you positive vibes from my end and hope that this will settle itself soon.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/03/25 04:06 AM
12	2nd wife?” I guess we are all in the same position. The separation and divorce took a very big portion of my savings, pension and investments. Stuff I did by MYSELF for the family while the ex lived the good life and saved next to nothing. And I had to give her half?!?!?!? Such is the system…it’s broken, that’s my opinion. It’s a pride thing for us men. Work hard and save, play by the rules, however, things didn’t go our way and some people will find a way to get the most they can and claim it to be “equit…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/03/25 03:52 AM
2	2nd wife?” Same	/r/Divorce_Men	24/03/25 03:39 AM
3	What did you do with the engagement ring she left behind? Sell it my friend and start clean again, should the situation arrive in the future. Turn the page and move on. Treat yourself!	/r/Divorce_Men	02/03/25 05:26 PM
2	Nobody knows the pain of divorce Projection maybe?	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/25 01:57 PM
2	Do you ever just randomly cry? No man, when you got to cry, you cry. I’ve done it on a few occasions over the course of my journey. As time goes by, the pain lessens. You can’t hold onto it, just let it out.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/25 02:11 PM
7	Happy 1yr anniversary Don’t give up and take it easy man! Always remember moving forward: “The quality of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” Marcus Aurelius	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/25 09:47 PM
5	‘The more perfect we are, the more pain we feel’ In principle I agree with you. With my case, she had no issues in taking as much as she could and drag things down because in her head she was making me suffer. Things she wasn’t entitled to! The lying, stealing money, wild accusations, calling cops and child services, I was the evil one in her head as she was trying to justify her actions. Listen, I was no saint either, but I wanted it to work, I put in the effort, she walked away after 20 years. Sometimes, there is no justice in that sense bec…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/25 03:58 AM
1	Reason for divorce Been through it. Communication is key, both parties have to be on the same level and willing to put the work in. Don’t despair, keep at it.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/25 03:52 AM
1	Mediation experiences I hear you man and agree that mediation should always be the first step.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/25 03:48 AM