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| 3 | Why do (straight) men try so hard to appeal to the male gaze on dating apps?Because men only love other men. Jokes aside. It's probably because they are low effort and don't care to think what women would like to see | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 10:10 PM |
| 3 | The only man I will consider having sex withSO WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IS THAT... There are men out there for who sex= any physical touch ? OMG. Now everything makes sense as to why they would jump on their nerves when I would barely touch their shoulders in public but in private I had to literally get them off me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 08:52 PM |
| 3 | 👑 Queen Simone Biles lifts up Jordan Chiles100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 08:14 PM |
| 7 | Bought this mug a few years ago, big FDS energy. I love it.Ooof. I needed this so badly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Pregnant feminist who makes a lot less than bf but will "pay for herself" in the name of equality.I love the fact that the second comment is from a man telling her about his goods sharing with his wife | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 01:20 PM |
| 2 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.This reminds me of Ted Bundy confessing about his porn addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 04:00 AM |
| 2 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.This reminds me of Ted Bundy confessing about his porn addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 04:00 AM |
| 3 | She has his children and made her entire identity about him. SadSounds like she has depression to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 03:47 AM |
| 3 | What do you ladies think ?Fucking gross. The fact this type of people can't grasp that this women have to be paid to be there just fucking wows me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 03:44 AM |
| 14 | Run from men who use phrases like “Have no Expectations’OMG THIS IS SOOOO TRUE. There are men out there using this line is sickening to my stomach | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 03:08 AM |
| 134 | DAE have the hardest time genuinely connecting with men? 👥🧔🏽⚡️You can be 100% honest & simple with your use of words with them AND clear, yet some of them will be like "you seem like a complicated woman". Ok. What a C R E E P. It's like we aren't even talking the same language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 02:37 AM |
| 5 | Pickmeishas in Psychology, courtesy of Dr Robert CialdiniThank you for the lecture ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:08 AM |
| 11 | Pickmeishas in Psychology, courtesy of Dr Robert CialdiniI know! I'm learning to listen to it again and get out of the "go with the flow" shitty mindset (In terms of relationships). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:08 AM |
| 12 | Another post to say "thank you" and to say to the newcomers, Give it time!! Also this might be some helpful advice for recovering kinkme's.This is one of the most adorable comments I've read 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:23 PM |
| 7 | Billie Eillish on ugly guysFinally, a real role model for the youth. Meanwhile, little girls/boys hatting on her for this be loving Hayley for sticking with Justin Bieber and his bs. "hAyLeY iS dE BesT wIfE ever" Poor girl... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 08:32 PM |
| 7 | FDS saved my lifeYou are an inspiration now! I'm proud of you 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 02:20 AM |
| 28 | Thank you mods!Thank you mods! 💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 02:12 AM |
| 10 | I'm so happy to have found this communityI'm 25 too! We are here to support you 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:43 PM |
| 43 | Are you doing the Pickme Backslide?Ugh I needed this so badly. There's a guy I've a crush on (met him while I was depressed and before FDS) and it's so hard to get him out of my head because he was so manipulative, he even kissed me on the forehead on our first meeting. And I knew he wasn't doing that because he was sweet. Thank you for reminding us! I'm on the phase where I just want to have fun, meet people, and level up. That's it, I just want some peace of mind and not this stupid oxytocin messing with me. Lol Edit: typos | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 01:48 AM |
| 24 | Always felt Electra complex had something off about it. Now it makes so much more sense. I feel many other women can benefit from knowing this anecdote. From "Why does he do that?" By Lundy Bancroft.I remember when I told my psychiatrist about how as a young girl while I was playing videogames with my male cousins, they would start touching my shoulders and kissing them. She said "Oh but that's common, you weren't actually traumatized by that, right?" I felt so empty and stupid. At that time I didn't knew what my cousin was doing and I just kept playing. I also didn't knew what was happening when one of my older cousins locked me up in my room with another older male cousin , all while my m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 09:15 PM |
| 19 | Are men even attracted to women?I want this so badly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:24 PM |
| 31 | "If he wanted to, he would." Stops hurting so much in time when you see it for what it is.Stupid oxytocin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:24 AM |
| 43 | Denial and censorship on pornI accidentally found porn in our family's computer when I was very very young. Besides that, boys at school would look for us females to watch porn with them. Then I started using more the internet and started consuming porn until I found out it was actually not healthy at all and then I understood the gravity of the issue. Most parents or adults deal with porn as a Taboo, as if it wasn't something to be named. But it is so so important to talk about it when you suspect a kid or teen was exposed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 02:41 AM |
| 3 | It's okay if you make a mistake. Growth isn't linear.I definitely get you. The deepest pain I carry in my heart was inflicted by a girl that wouldn't stop calling herself my Bff, soulmate, etc. While at the same time mocking my looks all the time, talking bad about me behind my back, using me to get free meals & goods, using my support to do better but not giving the same support back. Looking at me with disgust when I started to get out of my depression hole. Yeah. I think labels are nasty sometimes. I don't really take them too seriously. But I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 01:01 AM |
| 3 | It's okay if you make a mistake. Growth isn't linear.I'm rooting for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 12:53 AM |
| 29 | You owe it not just to yourself but also to your future children to only be with a HVMUgh I love this. I don't want to compromise with anyone right now. Like... Only when I feel ready to be a mother And wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:22 PM |
| 5 | My dad is an anti-feministI totally get you. Nevertheless of how many male role models were in your life while growing up. Your father is going to be your ultimale rolemodel for dating. We just gotta acknowledge this and work through it! 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 12:25 AM |
| 41 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨It's super super toxic and abusive. If you really want to learn more about them DO NOT fall for their bullshit dogma. Just use it as a mean to never get close with a rpiller | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 12:08 AM |
| 86 | Porn is blatant abuseBe aware of men who call themselves "feminism's supporters" who actually love hardcore, disgusting porn videos, and then be like "but the female artists absolutely love it". Like come on dude. Wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 12:01 AM |
| 99 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨Oh fck you hit right on spot about 30yo dating 19yo to elevate their fragile self steem | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:55 PM |
| 17 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨Love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:53 PM |
| 138 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨"Oh, so you are already past 24yo?" BIG RP red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:52 PM |
| 77 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨If you do make a more extensive post about shitests, it definitely needs to be on the handbook, and be one of the top ones. Thank you! 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:42 PM |
| 86 | 🚨 Male shit tests and the pickme radar 🚨You got me at alfalfa Lol 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:37 PM |
| 121 | Daily reminder that he ain’t shit.I'm 100% feeling this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:33 PM |
| 8 | Ain't that the truth. 💅🏽😙 It barely takes an year to figure that outI'm so happy for you after reading this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:15 PM |
| 11 | Self Appreciation or Gratitude: what do you love about yourself?I'm thankful that I finally went to a psychiatrist this year. She and my endocrinologist have seen through my low low low self steem, told me I have a lot of emotional intelligence, that I'm smart, beautiful, etc etc 💜 I'm even tearing up rn because I used to be around people who would always put me down and I would accept it. It was so sad. I'm thankful that I was brave enough to be alone rather than keeping this awful friendshits. I'm thankful of my intuition, which I'm going to listen to even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:54 PM |
| 31 | You aren't "making him wait" to have sexI love your comment I 100% relate to you. I'm still virgin at my 25y because I just haven't found someone with who I can be real trusthworthy friends with and at the same time feeling attracted to them, it's either just one of those. I also have two amazing male role models (my big brothers) and it's so easy for me to see through men's bullsht. (Most of the time lol) Edit: typo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:37 PM |
| 38 | You aren't "making him wait" to have sexMe too 😭😭😭 I'm not gonna lie, there are men out there that turn on my biological clock instantly. But EVEN when I'm starting to get intimate with them (hot men I'm attracted to) I can't get out the feeling of wanting to just get to know them better, I feel like I'm kissing a ghost or something, like I'm kissing a stranger, and that does not feels good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:21 PM |
| 30 | From an article about courtship in early America. Marriage (and relationships with men in general) is and always has been a prison for womenOMG "marriage trauma" that's it! That's exactly what I felt once. I met this guy and as soon as I saw him my whole body started sending me signals lile "this is the man, you should provide him children" I KID YOU NOT LOL. Ok so, I tried to get close to him and what happened? As soon as he started giving me more attention and wanting to talk with me about marriage, future plans, what he liked in a relationship... I started trembling for about a week, I couldn't sleep (nightmares), I couldn't eat … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 07:16 PM |
| 28 | From an article about courtship in early America. Marriage (and relationships with men in general) is and always has been a prison for womenUggggh I thought I was crazy for thinking the same. It's just AWFUL. I just want to grow and grow and if on the way I find someone with who I'm madly in love with then I might consider marriage. Either way big no. I have never seen or met any stable married couple and I have enough with my own mental issues for now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:59 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Check-inOh fuck never thought about that. I think he's even PA (yesterday he told me.he likes hardcore and gangbang and I yewk...) and has told me he can't get hard because of "antidepressants" but Idk if I can even believe him on that... Thank u! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 12:41 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inBingo. He ignores me a lot, and I think that's some of the reasons why it kept me addictive to get a response from him while I had depression. Thank you thank you 💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 12:37 PM |
| 1 | How to guide for detaching from a NVMI needed this. Such an inspiration! Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:03 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-inThat must have felt awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inWould you make a LVM a FWB? I went through a very depressive mental state while I met this guys, I checked his social media and have found he actually lies to me about the smallest irrelevant details. But nevertheless when I first met him in his apt he gave me massages and I just can't get him out of my head even tho I really don't want anything serious with this person, he's 30 and I'm 25 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:48 PM |
| 22 | We hit over 160k! Thanks for driving traffic here, scrotes.I'm one of those girls who came to know about FDS through men's hateful propaganda. And I am SO in love with this community, I've never ever felt I belonged anywhere because of low self-steem and a pickmeisha's mindset. I'm taking my first step to Queendom, and for once I can see things from an empowering perspective. (And not fear or intimidation thanks to LV men) Thank you all! 💜😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 02:04 PM |
| 3 | A report on the consequences of OnlyFans by a member of the websiteI wonder who made this app, men or women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Went on a lot of coffee dates in my pickme days.. never again!Omg right??? I completely hated it. I was in a bad mental state last year and I'm working through it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:39 AM |
| 5 | The NVM I was with would complain about celebrating my accomplishments. My HVM just celebrates being with me! Thank you ladies ❤️I'm so happy for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:01 PM |
| 6 | FDS saved me and my daughter from abuse. These are the things you should watch out for:I can't grasp enough how incredible is intuition. Not fear per se, but intuition! I'm currently reading The Value of Fear, because just as OP, there are some of us who need to shake a bit that "over-empathetic" even when we see huge red flags. Thank you so much for sharing your story | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Not everyone has a heart like yours 💌I wish I knew about this before. I once was so out of touch with reality thinking too well of a man who just upon meeting me told me "Did you have any crazy toxic ex recently?" Mind you. That was in a job interview, he was the interviewer. Like wtf. I later tried to get to know him better and he would constantly ask me about traumas, always talking about traumas. He even went further telling me things like "Homosexuals usually have childhood traumas I can assure you, ask your gay friends if they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 02:25 AM |
| 8 | “If he makes you feel low about yourself, it’s not because YOU’RE not good enough, it’s because HE is not good enough...”I needed this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 03:02 AM |
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