| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 542 | Unconventional red flags | RED FLAG 🚨 | Marionberry12345 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:59 PM |
| 201 | Be the first one to pull away | STRATEGY | Marionberry12345 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:53 PM |
| 53 | Successes, failures, and lessons learned this week? Let’s discuss. | LESSON LEARNED | Marionberry12345 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:51 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 14 | Le PoWeR woRDs...😂Unfortunately, this is probably real. An old friend from high school got butthurt that his girlfriend “allowed” a mutual male friend bring her lobster he had caught on a fishing trip. He said that as her boyfriend, he should be the only one fishing for her and bringing her food. I asked if he knew how to fish, and he said no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:27 PM |
| 0 | Be the first one to pull awayI think it leaves more room for attraction when you leave when you’re still having fun instead of overstaying your welcome. Think of the houseguest that leaves while the visit is still going well as opposed to the one who stays for an extra 3 days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:44 AM |
| 10 | After my abusive marriage I stopped singing. You ladies have made me want to start again. Here’s a cover of Lady Gaga I did withhold my kids playing in the background. Thanks for helping me find my voice again ❤️You are so talented!!! Thank you for sharing your gift with us. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 05:18 AM |
| 56 | What are phrases or strategies men use in order to use the hope of marriage/kids to keep you around without ever giving them? Not dating now b/c of covid, curious for futureThis hasn’t happened to me, but I feel that men should know what they want and express that they want to marry you after one year, and propose by the second year at the latest. Especially if you’re over 25 years old. I know someone who had dated her partner for almost eight years throughout high school and college, and he kept delaying the proposal. “Wait until I’m done with undergrad... wait until I’m done with law school... wait until I feel settled in my new career...” She finally gave him an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:27 PM |
| 9 | Lingerie collectionI buy it for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:12 PM |
| 14 | What do you tell yourself when you're trying not to fall for a LVM?Don’t talk to him or engage with him. Delete him off social media. Fill the time you would spend thinking about him with other interesting things. I try to think of things that I wouldn’t have been able to do with the LVM. (IE: He was a super type-A control freak? Do something spontaneous. He was super emotionally closed off or unavailable? Have a heart to heart chat with a friend.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:11 PM |
| 1 | AirfareDon’t let him order you like an Amazon package. The expense of the ticket that he has already paid for (or mostly paid for) isn’t demonstrating any effort. Effort means he needs to drive to the airport, go through security, and get on a flight despite all the hoops related to Covid. And as someone who travels often, you can get flights very cheaply or even for free. Don’t assume that he dropped loads of money on the ticket and then feel indebted to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:32 PM |
| 7 | Is it okay to not pay on bf's birthday?Get him a gift, but one that’s appropriate for your relationship and level of investment. A baked good and a card would be appropriate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 05:02 PM |
| 10 | Millionaire Youtuber Asks His Part-Time Model Girlfriend To Split The Check.He’s so condescending and it’s clear he doesn’t respect her at all! Yuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:12 AM |
| 3 | Relationships aren't charities for undeserving peopleI have a friend who’s dating someone with a plethora of physical and mental health issues. My friend goes above and beyond to support him, but he gives little to nothing in return. And despite how loving and devoted my friend has been for the last five years, he is no less miserable and self-absorbed than he was before. If anything, his behavior has gotten even worse. Example: Screaming and whining at my friend after an elective surgery where she took time off work to care for him. Without meani… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 07:44 PM |
| 6 | Was he just after sex?This guy is gross and manipulative. General rule of thumb: most men are scared of commitment to some degree because they don’t want to lose their independence and freedom. It’s believable they’d talk about wanting a relationship, but chatting about marriage, finding their soulmate, or looking for “the one” at the beginning when you don’t know each other is a GIGANTIC red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 07:26 PM |
| 83 | Unconventional red flagsMultiply this by 100 when he’s possessive of his phone/devices. I had someone accuse me of trying to steal their laptop password when I was zoning out and stating off into space. They were so defensive and made an intense speech about their privacy. I felt blamed when I hadn’t done anything wrong. Very sketchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 07:16 PM |
| 12 | Unconventional red flagsThis!!! I used to feel so boring for being the first to leave the party/club. It’s because I wasn’t using stimulants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 07:12 PM |
| 7 | A High Value WomanInvesting in myself. Cultivating hobbies, reading books, traveling the world, pursuing my career goals, learning to cook, working out, applying to grad school, and working hard to be the best friend/daughter/sister I can be. It’s harder for men to shake my confidence when I know how cool I am and see what I have to offer the world. I used to feel like I didn’t have much to offer anyone, and that being giving, easygoing and nice were my best qualities. I worried that if I stood up for myself, I’d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 07:10 PM |
| 29 | Unconventional red flagsYou have to listen to your gut, but talking about specific moments where they saw a special quality in you, little mannerisms you do when you’re feeling a certain way, or unique things they appreciate about your connection. It shows they’re really paying attention. “I knew you were a kind person when I saw you playing with your cousins” is a lot more personal than “you seem nice.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 06:44 PM |
| 7 | When a date is lying about SOMETHING. AKA you don’t need to wait until you have all the infoI’m so happy you did the research! Always trust your gut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 07:41 PM |
| 19 | Online DatingThere is no surefire way to know except the test of time. You didn’t read him wrong, it’s just part of the vetting process. It’s not what they do that matters, it’s how you respond. It doesn’t matter what site you use because most men use multiple apps. Beyond that, here are my tips: Don’t assume they’re being honest about their age (or anything else). Look up their college graduation date on LinkedIn and use it to calculate their age. I’d recommend doing a background check to see if they have a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 07:22 PM |
| 6 | Please share your list of deal-breakers and must haves in terms of values, career, physical, etc.Age Range: 28-33 Must Haves: *Stable career *Good circle of friends *Has own place *Good relationship with family *Well educated *Positive and cheerful *Has hobbies and passions *Well-traveled *Well-read *Compatible sense of humor *Sense of adventure *Outdoorsy *Athletic *Strong sense of integrity *Consistent *Romantic and affectionate Dealbreakers: *Lying of any kind *Bad temper *Critical or judgmental personality *Drug addict or alcoholic *Criminal record *Negative attitude *Overweight *Kids f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 04:55 PM |
| 134 | Periodt.This! It’s better to become less available and start seeing other people than to “have a conversation about the relationship/situationship/etc.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:30 PM |
| 3 | for those who we're the " chill/ cool" girlfriend what happend and Is being the cool/ chill girlfriend ever worth it ?My personality is naturally chill and easygoing. But I’ve always regretted being that way with men. Little red flags or mistakes that I forgive or overlook always get WORSE with time, not better. The man respects me less because they know they’re behaving badly and that I’m allowing them to get away with it. I become less high value because I become more insecure and miserable as time goes on. Asserting myself either pushes the wrong men away, or encourages quality men to try harder. It’s also m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: August 8 2020 💜I kept thinking that I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone like her. A person who complains a lot and sees the negative in everything isn’t fun to be around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 07:08 PM |
| 2 | LOLIf someone who’s supposed to love and cherish me is comfortable with making me feel unhappy/disrespected/ignored/etc. on a regular basis, he doesn’t deserve to be in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:56 PM |
| 1 | “You’re so sensitive”I manage to be calm in a variety of settings. Work, travel, family functions, parties, emergencies, and the list continues. If I’m seeing someone who is making me upset enough to clap back at him, I know it’s on him and his behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:53 PM |
| 7 | What do you do when a man is late?This is one of my biggest pet peeves because it communicates their time is more important. For context, I live in a city with horrible traffic. If he’s running late without texting me: I give a man 15 minutes, and then leave. If a man texts me that he’s running late: I will wait 30 minutes from the originally appointed time, and then leave. If a man asks to postpone our date by an hour or two for any reason: I cancel the date. Your absence is the biggest message you can communicate to them. Stay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:41 PM |
| 43 | Step right up for LVM Bingo!Dated a CEO who loved giving me “feedback.” What is this, a relationship or my annual performance review?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: August 8 2020 💜How he treats people beneath him will be how he eventually treats you. Gigantic red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:23 AM |
| 2 | Anytime I see “hang out” or “coffee” I already know it’s a red flag.I used to like these types of first dates for OLD because they seemed casual and low pressure! 🤡 Now I’m shocked by how much men resist jumping through hoops. I always say that I want to have a FaceTime call before meeting, and that scares lots of them off. And then I say I don’t do drink/coffee dates, and some of them redirect to another low effort date at their place. “My apartment complex has a pool... we could drink together there.” They’re not even hiding the fact they aren’t trying, and I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:22 PM |
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