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| 1 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?I'm looking. They all want to get married. No wonder. Matriarchy!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/23 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Abolish the matriarchyEvery woman thus far who I have ever met between and after my four marriages has opted for us to be married. I think woman as far as marriage goes are black widow spiders. In all cases my wives took me for everything except for my first and my last, I am still married. She is presently in a mental institution and had been declared incompetent. So I cannot get a divorce unless I hire a high priced attorney, And for the fact she no longer lives in Florida I wonder if Florida laws still pertain to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/23 01:00 AM |
| 1 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?I am 66 years old and way smarter and more informed. My ex's wouldn't join me for counseling so I went myself. I never gave up looking but didn't realize until too late they are wrong for me. Not only that, I jumped in each case from the frying pan into the fire. Has anyone ever been on the "rebound"? It was in all four cases except my first. Although I considered it at the time "true love" I was seeing it through the eyes of an alcoholic and an addict. Today I have been clean and sober for over… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/23 12:49 AM |
| 1 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?Well, you said, "Like I knew my ex wasn't gonna be down for sex on our anniversary and that's how the conversation began" I guess I took that to mean the fight/conversation began from the point of sex. Sex must be based on intimacy. That's where it should begin. If the only thing you two have together is sex, it won't last. That's my professional opinion. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/23 12:35 AM |
| 2 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?Good thoughts. Keep on Truckin' | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/23 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Abolish the matriarchyBecause of patriarchy and matriarchy. It has created a reason for the wife to go back to her mother and father when things get too rough. It has been my experience four times that until a woman has developed confidence in her husband she will always go running back to mommy and daddy, is my experience in all of my four marriages. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/23 12:27 AM |
| 6 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?Holy fuck, That sounds like a nightmare. I hope you have recovered. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 04:26 AM |
| 2 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?Sorry for your sorrow! God Bless! It does get better. I decided to never give up looking for my perfect match | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 04:24 AM |
| -5 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?That's the cowards way out! I had to face it head on because they would never communicate any of their dissatisfaction on my part in all four cases. I think I would prefer a text in that case, but I also would be cowardice. Any time I ever expressed any dissatisfaction in all four cases it was always dismissed. And we never communicated. Communication, I had to learn too late was probably key to a successful marriage | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 04:21 AM |
| 2 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?I wish I had texting back then. I don't know if it would have been easier but in all four of my marriages I had to initiate the divorce. I think I knew in all cases it was over but never wanted to believe I failed again. I had to learn it wasn't my fault. We were both to blame. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 04:15 AM |
| 0 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?I firmly believe that a relationship that is only about sex will be doomed to fail. There has to be intimacy and honesty, besides communication and total disclosure, Sounds like you may have needed some sexual counseling. Both of you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 04:12 AM |
| 2 | For those that wanted the divorce, how did you start the convo?In my four cases the relationship basically dragged on until we both arrived at the realization that nothing was going to change and the relationship began to continue to deteriorate until in all cases I was the person to actually file because, well there was money involved, and also lawyers to contend with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 04:01 AM |
| 0 | Abolish the matriarchyCan you please clarify what your question is relating to? What did you mean when you said, "I’m not sure what the second half of your comment is relating to with what I said."? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:57 AM |
| 2 | Abolish the matriarchyZapped2311, you said, "WE'RE. NOT. THE. SAME. Men and women have NEVER been the same, and that shit needs to be put front and center. We each have our roles, and you know what? History shows the truth of it: regardless of the 'era', Men go hunt, Women keep the home fires burning. Each have their importance. It's the responsibility of the two people involved to get that shit squared away... and it's equally important that we each realize, understand and ACCEPT that we're not the fuckin same, and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Abolish the matriarchyI agree with everything you said there. I believe there needs to be separation of the sexes. That doesn't mean actually that one rules over the other but roles within the family do need to be defined. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:43 AM |
| 0 | Abolish the matriarchyI believe there has to be some separation between the sexes. Again, I refer back to an old sitcom of the 70's. All In The Family was a perfect example of where we were and because of where we were, we are where we are now. We have basically allowed woman to not only rule the home but also now we see women in high positions in large corporations. There are many female CEO's and in various other higher up positions in the workplace. Men are doing the same thing to themselves that America has allow… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:40 AM |
| 2 | Abolish the matriarchyThere's a lot to that thought. Why is it that a prenuptial is not part of the pre-requisite for marriage. In other words how many of you men would agree that it should be harder to get married than to get a divorce. The laws are somewhat twisted to protect the female and to fuck with the male. I was basically cleaned out in all but my first marriage. In Florida, the law states that assets and liabilities must be equally shared between husband and wife. My number four, actually caused my credit s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:19 AM |
| -1 | Abolish the matriarchyWell, let me ask you this! What did you agree with? I can definitely relate to the idea of abolishing the matriarchy. Let us not forget that we do not marry the woman necessarily, we marry the family. Back in the seventies there was both the matriarchy and the patriarchy. My parents hated my wives parents. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 03:18 AM |
| 3 | This has been the hardest day of my lifeI also have had to begin to practice meditation and being mindful. In other words, I try to stay in the moment. It's okay to think about the past but we must also be mindful of what is before us. Exercise is good if you're in good health. In my case, that is my reality. I was recently diagnosed with neuropathy in my feet so exercise can not only be difficult but also painful. That's why I have chosen a homeopathic path for my recovery. Good luck and God Bless. The Hopeless Romantic | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 02:51 AM |
| 3 | This has been the hardest day of my lifeI am sorry for your sorrow and totally support you. I have issues with anger and also trust so I can definitely relate. God bless! The Hopeless Romantic | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 02:44 AM |
| 2 | This has been the hardest day of my lifeI think that I have to agree with you that it was never about you regarding her decision to become a lesbian. I was taught that is something biological. In other words she was born to be with a woman. She just had to come to the realization, is what I suspect from even my ex's husband at the time. The Hopeless Romantic | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 02:41 AM |
| 2 | This has been the hardest day of my lifeWow! That must have hit you like a ton of bricks. My number four, her ex-husband during their marriage took off to Thailand to have a sex change operation. I am certain that affected our marriage too. I would probably not want to dwell on the past but see if there were maybe hints that you would have not known or seen at the time. Good luck to you, my friend. That's tough to deal with! Did she give any indication as to when she became a lesbian because Lisa always felt as though it was her fault… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 02:36 AM |
| 4 | This has been the hardest day of my lifeBe careful as I too was on the rebound. Being vulnerable I had to be careful of woman who might sense that. The last thing you would want is to come upon a group of ladies camping out. That's how I met number three. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 02:30 AM |
| 7 | This has been the hardest day of my lifeGood advice but I think after twenty years I would have worked hard to learn to move on. And don't beat yourself up. It takes two to tango. Maybe, she could have been more supportive is my only thinking at this point. I think the biggest thing I learned from being married four times is that, basically , "most woman are all the same". Today, I have to say that I am a different person. I know what I want, and what I don't want. I also had to learn that a relationship has got to be more than just a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 02:26 AM |
| 2 | This has been the hardest day of my lifeMan, dude, as I read that I kept saying to myself, "Dude, you're not alone". I myself have suffered since my high school days having then been diagnosed with ADHD (but of course they didn't call it ADHD back in the seventies). Many were basically reluctant to do anything to support me. They basically threw their hands up in the air wondering how to help me. I'm stressing and feeling some anxiety having had to recall my past but alas it's good for me because it is a simple reminder to look out fo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Sticky Sidebar for Visitors on New Reddit LayoutOne of the things I had to learn is that you're not marrying the woman. You're marrying the family. I am probably much older than many of the men on here but I don't know if anyone ever watched All In The Family back in the 70's. Well, that's how things were in the 70's, There was very little examples of Father Knows Best but I do recall my own high school sweetheart who had a very loving couple for parents and her family was a fine example of a great marriage, Beth, would have made a fine wife.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Sticky Sidebar for Visitors on New Reddit LayoutMy next marriage, if there is one will include a prenuptial. I actually feel it should be a pre-requisite for marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 01:36 AM |
| 6 | Sticky Sidebar for Visitors on New Reddit LayoutI hope I am not off base with this post. I would have to say that having been through four past marriages I can definitely relate. My problem... is having difficulty having to be politically correct all of the time. Also women who pretend to be someone they aren't which is another subject altogether. You see my greatest problem coming out of four divorces now, is trust. I would welcome companionship rather than marriage but every woman today wants to get married. And all the younger ones want an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 01:35 AM |
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