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That's the most level headed response i've seen for a long time.
/r/askTRP10/04/21 05:33 PM
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They've probably been burned by woman in the past and now try to vow them off completely, but can't because... Well, people generally like the positive factors of women, men like femininity etc. They're literally terrified of women and resentful due to past trauma and it's a coping mechanism of sorts.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/21 03:02 AM
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It means that about 50% of men don't have regular sex and have maybe a lifetime of 2-3 partners.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 10:56 PM
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Correct me if i'm wrong but as i've seen it often goes like: "Why aren't there any nice guys" -> rejects guys who actually want to be nice and not do degenerate shit like choking and spanking and fucking hard because "it's haaaawt" -> "you're too nice, I want something exciting!" -> goes for abusive guys because "soo haawt" -> guy is abusive -> "where are all the good men?" -> rinse and repeat. It's a larger sociological issue of 1) how the fuck do we keep the few men from being abusive? 2) How …
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 04:14 PM
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Again 1) Why did her mother pick a terrible father? This is a larger sociological issue - why do women pick the 10% of men who are shitty? 2) I have no idea why people pursue "passion" rather than wholesome shit.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 03:17 PM
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yeah absolutely, but for me these are two red flags. 1) Why would a person not pick a decent partner who isn't abusive? Why would someone pick someone who is abusive? The answer wouldn't be "she didn't know" - there ARE red flags that one should vet for in a relationship. "He was confident and hot" isn't an answer imo. 2) Why did she want to have sex in order to forget an abusive partner? Why would one use other people as objects when one was used as an object? Wouldn't self reflection be a bett…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 02:50 PM
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Should've added the very few I've been attracted to enough.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 02:17 PM
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Of course I do find people "attractive", but it doesn't mean I want to stick my dick inside someone or just randomly make out without feeling like shit afterwards. But what is the solution? How the hell do I find a partner? I've been social, fairly popular, decently attractive - I just don't fit into the "sexualized" system and I just don't get it, but like you said, It's a curve and I don't feel like I'm asexual and it makes me even more confused. It seems like I just can't be able to "like" wo…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 01:48 PM
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Tbh, I've had 90% success w/ all the girls I've actually approached romantically in my life, but the thing is - I just cant find any who I'm truly attracted to. Never had a "brooootal" rejection (well... maybe once when I confessed to my friendzoned friend who had apparently no clue I had a crush on her lol)
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 01:43 PM
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Like... I'm a virgin who is not that interested in sex and wants an average girl. How the hell are these high standards?
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 12:38 PM
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But I'm NOT asexual. I'm sex negative, yes - I just find it hard to understand how come people want to have sex with so, so many people. Like I read a post from a girl who said that it's normal for girls to have like 5 partners a year and one guy every couple of months is not that much. Like... Do you really like a person every 2 MONTHS? Maybe every two YEARS, i'd get it, but... How the hell do you like a person every two MONTHS? I get a crush every 2-4 years maybe
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 12:30 PM
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But I'm not asexual nor have I a particulary low sex drive.. Or do I?. I just find romantic love way, WAY more fulfilling than sexual
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 11:47 AM
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I've been in college, lived in 4 different major cities, had decent social circles. Where?
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 10:34 AM
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Not really IMO. Of course, there are extremes, but I'd just like to have one partner treated as pretty much equal, to whom I'm not the "nth stick for pleasure and fun", and raise a family. I really don't care if a woman wants to have a career etc. I just don't want to be cheated on and I just don't find "fun" girls attractive.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 09:09 PM
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As a guy who TECHNICALLY is an incel - I wholehearthedly agree! It sucks that there is absolutely no way to come out of it.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 09:03 PM
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I can speak as a "healing" guy with this mentality. It's NOT about sex. It is NOT. About. Sex. Or sexuality for that matter. Maybe I AM the minority, but I would guess that incels would love to be wanted in a ROMANTIC sense and don't care that much about the lust part. It's not that "incels hate that women are promiscuous with other men and not them" - it's more that "incels hate that sexuality/lust behaviour exists and they would love to have one partner equal of looks to just love in a romanti…
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 09:01 PM
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Jup. That's what I don't understand about TRP and most of these "manosphere" communities - "all women are sluts brah" -> "I fucked a married woman brah I have like 10 plates brah 8 of them have boyfriends"
/r/askTRP19/02/21 05:49 PM
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I just hate constantly having to "hide" my true intentions when talking to girls (or even people sometimes) - I have had to kinda "learn" what other people find "hot" and then pretend I want to be like that :D as in "yeah.. I totally wanna smash that ass. That's soo hot brah, I don't want to... cuddle and shit brah that's dumb. I'd rather have sex and sex is awesome brah. I can't live without sex"
/r/askTRP19/02/21 05:01 PM
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I get it - I have decent male and female friends. It's just that the passionate, sexual side seems completely foreign to me.
/r/askTRP19/02/21 04:41 PM
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Jup, but I don't want to do these things irl. A good comparison would be to watch a James Bond movie, loving the stunts etc. But would you really want to do these yourself? Hell naw
/r/askTRP19/02/21 04:40 PM
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II know that and that's what I've seen from other people, read etc. But it's never something I personally wanted - I feel alien in a sense that people have completely different urges compared to me. My friends have told me that yeah, you gotta keep the passion alive and if you're in a ltr, you don't care much if you're cheated on etc (meaning that it'll suck but you'll get over it, as in there are way worse things in life) What I've always gotten from trp, my life etc. That both men and women wa…
/r/askTRP19/02/21 04:36 PM
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Thanks! Yeah, I tend to get in my head when in isolation (due to covid). I often forget that it's mostly "be attractive, don't be unattractive", "if she cheats, she cheats - it's not the end of the world" and "focus on your goals". Pretty simple (but not easy) if you ask me.
/r/askTRP18/02/21 01:34 AM
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You can’t use results from years ago. I’d get them checked again. But yes, your last test result was very good. With that level of test, you’d build crazy muscle at crazy rates if you ate enough and trained hard. Nice to know. I've always been very skinny and have had really small bones, but muscle growth has been relatively easy. Gotta eat more. The only way for you to get a girlfriend (remember you can’t want a ltr, only be open to one) is for you to do serial monogamy. That's kinda what sucks…
/r/askTRP18/02/21 12:34 AM
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You are probably low libido as opposed to asexual, but honestly, dude— you can’t know until you have had sex. I'm like this weird bastardization of "male hypergamy" - I won't be able to have sex because I don't find any girl "good enough" to do it with. I have no clue on why I'd rather wank than actually have sex with a girl - it seems borderline repulsive to me (risk of STD-s, pregnancy, "ruining her" in a sense, etc.) I get turned off so easily - when I know a girl has had a lot of partners (l…
/r/askTRP18/02/21 12:26 AM
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List what you want in a partner. List what you don’t want. Lift. Continue reading to better yourself. That's good - most of what I'm doing already. STFU. Better your wardrobe. Lift some more. Define your mission. Fair, lol. Ask other ladies on dates. Vet women for Green & Red Flags. Have done that literally maybe once or twice in my life. I'm rarely attracted to women if the only thing they exhibit is sexuality. Develop a Pipeline of women for dates— go on dates. You don’t have to fuck all of th…
/r/askTRP18/02/21 12:23 AM
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I completely agree with you. To me, there isn't any "true alpha" - it's mostly used to describe a guy who is sexually wanted. I am trying to accomplish my goals (music, design, fitness etc.) but apparently, according to this evo-psych stuff, red pill and current cultural norms, the goals that I want to accomplish w/ girls (just have a decent girl who is not that sexual) is apparently impossible - meaning that "she'll branch swing", "hypergamy kicks in" etc. So yeah, like I said in another commen…
/r/askTRP18/02/21 12:18 AM
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No shit you have to put in the work (or you know, be attractive). That wasn't my question, though
/r/askTRP18/02/21 12:11 AM
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Go back to my first question— what are you actually doing to accomplish your goal of having an LTR that you will inevitably lead to implode in the future? What CAN I do? I'm clearly not interested in the "new traditional" system of hooking up, online dating, "daygame" etc.
/r/askTRP18/02/21 12:05 AM
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I've read NMMNG, but not the other one.
/r/askTRP18/02/21 12:02 AM
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Ah, that's pretty good actually.
/r/askTRP17/02/21 11:58 PM
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And if you just want to keep being a beta then you do you man, but don’t come back here cryin if your girl cheats on you because hypergamy kicked in That's what sucks. I don't want to be beta or alpha etc. I know that yeah, there are biological implications, but what sucks is that It seems that I have to be a person that I don't want to be in order to get the results that I generally don't want, but the opposite of it would be a "beta" and be cheated on etc.
/r/askTRP17/02/21 11:57 PM
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A man who is desired by many women but chooses one is admirable. TRP is here for you to understand female sexual strategy. Even though I'm decently attractive (I've been told that by my friends and girls) I'm definitely not desired by many women. There have been maybe some instances where girls have made moves (like at parties, a group of girls comes to you and starts flirting), but it doesn't happen often. Do you want to be the guy she fucks on the first date or makes wait? I don't want her to …
/r/askTRP17/02/21 11:55 PM
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It’s one thing to not be into rough sex, it’s another to find it repulsive. Jup. I've always "passion" in a larger sense a turn off. Maybe you’ve also been convinced that masculinity is toxic and are trying to reduce it for the SJWs? (Even though sjws crave the most masculine and the most degrading shit you can think of). Nah. I've had a decent childhood - noone has told me that being masculine is bad :D My parents have even encouraged me to hit the gym, be social etc. (to have "fun" in college)…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 11:49 PM
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Prime example of DEERing. Review Dare vs DEER. It’s not weird to me how you have been studying PUA stuff for over a decade, but you still DEER— you want feedback, but don’t have the Frame to accept it. Frameless DEERing wi dry up panties quicker than the Sahara. That's true lol :D I did that. You aren’t doing anything to vet a potential LTR candidate. You have a goal that you aren’t actively pursuing— big oof. Can’t find an LTR, if you don’t pursue women. True. I have a really hard time finding …
/r/askTRP17/02/21 11:44 PM
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You’ve never experienced heartbreak I have. There have been girls who have rejected me. cheating, branch swinging There have been girls who have wanted to cheat with me - which imo, is also fucking traumatizing. I don't want to fuck over some guys girlfriend - no matter how shitty or "nice" he may be. constant shit tests I mean, I get them even from some of my female accointances (not friends though - they don't do that shit) You’re a virgin. That’s the reason you have all these sad sad feelings…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 11:25 PM
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Lol, pretty much the response I thought I'd get. I don't thing you understand. I've been into all that "self improvement" stuff for years - I've know about the red pill for years (there are a lot of things I agree with, a lot of things I disagree with etc.). I've read all of the freaking PUA books since I was 15 or so, I even paid a coach lol because I wanted to get a GIRLFRIEND. When I found out that all he wanted me to do was that typical "hit on a lot of girls brah" I stopped. Most of the PUA…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 11:22 PM
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Honest question: why is it always so terrible NOT to like women who have been promiscuous WHEN you yourself haven't had many partners and you've always valued long term relationships over hook-ups? I personally don't give a shit about the "it only matters what's now" thing - I care about EVERYONES past. I don't hire a person for a job (for example) for a long term job if he/she has already had 10-20 short-term jobs. It's not being judgmental, it's literally just being rational. I don't want anyo…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 01:23 PM
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Do you feel human when doing something like this? Honestly, I've had chances too (with girls who had LTR-s), but I always bluntly rejected. Even then I just don't feel human.
/r/askTRP19/07/20 11:51 PM
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It fucking sucks because I as a man hate it :D
/r/askTRP19/07/20 11:47 PM
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Like, I don't get it. Your friend is ALSO psychotic for wanting to do something like that :D Like... I could never hook up with someone who had a boyfriend and I've had my chances - when I find out (before I did anything with her), I immediately stop hanging out with her. Stuff like this can make people suicidal. I never understand when people don't have morals - like the reasoning is always "but wuhmen du it tuu!!" You're a fucking man not an animal :D You're programmed to feel like shit when y…
/r/askTRP19/07/20 11:46 PM
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Being "red pill =! being alpha. You can do whatever you want in bed.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 05:47 PM
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Being "red pilled" doesn't mean that you're automatically an alpha guy imo. I've known how women work since the 7th grade, yet I still get oneits, puppy love, want romantic shit etc. I even get that If I make the right moves, but I also know that It wont last forever - If a cooler guy comes along, she'll probably switch over. Men are emotional creatures, I've just accepted that.
/r/askTRP01/05/20 05:39 PM
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Nice =! Not being assertive. In this context, nice =! being genuine and straightforward
/r/askTRP25/04/20 02:10 PM
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So now the height requirement is 5 foot 8? I thought it was at least 6 foot.
/r/askTRP25/04/20 02:07 PM
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Exactly the same for me. It took me SO FUCKING LONG to realize that. I always thought that I was missing something (yeah, I'm still not attractive enough etc., I have to be a douchebag) while the ONLY THING that helped me was being genuinely honest, flirty, sexual. Like, straight up make your intentions clear. I read Mode One and it changed me. For me, it literally was Flirt a bit (tease, you know the usual stuff) -> check if they respond -> if yes, ask if she has a boyfriend (I know, girls lie …
/r/askTRP25/04/20 02:04 PM
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Dude, it's the exact same for me: only the times where i've been genuinely happy, completely content etc. i've gotten the girl. It only happens when I stop thinking about theory and when I stop reading pua/blackpill/redpill material. But yeah, like you said, i've focused on my goals at the time (hit the gym regularily, good sleep schedule, good social life etc.). Your natural IDFAG attitude takes the lead and you stop giving a fuck about being "alpha" - I literally do what I want. (I'd suggest "…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 10:34 PM
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The biggest flaw is that you're asking people on the internet what your flaws are. You're overthinking - do whatever makes you happy. You already know all of the answers, trust me :D You're on the right path.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 09:31 PM
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Mr Rogers for his calmness. Guy could hold his frame and amazing confidence, even though he wasn't all about fucking women. He had a goal and he did the things that he needed to get there. Bruce Lee for his discipline and voice. Listen to his interview, the way he speaks is calm and confident. The father from "To kill a mockingbird" (forgot his name). A great father figure, knows when to be rough and when to care. The Rock for his overall positivity (even if it's just a public image) some parts …
/r/TheRedPill19/08/17 01:56 PM
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By skinny I mainly mean this: http://www.tressugar.com/files/ons1/301/3019466/26_2009/821507a2a53b9e4b_malemodel.jpg Of course, this guy is toned, which means that he still works out. But I understand what you mean ("become the best person you can be, including the body") Why is TRP so obsessed with stoicism? Would you really rather feel nothing than pain? A little story: when I was 10 years old I had a major operation, because I had a physical condition and my legs and feet weren't working prop…
/r/askTRP12/12/16 07:59 PM
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My "niceness" comes from usually not flirting with girls/being sexual, which comes from not having sexual interest in girls which probably comes from the madonna-whore complex. I have a rather hard time combining romantic feelings and sexual feelings, as in girls that I am romantically interested I don't find usually sexually attractive. It's even difficult to have sexual fantasies with girls that I have a crush on. It's a vicious cycle of falling in love/becoming romantically interested -> not …
/r/askTRP12/12/16 05:02 PM
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Yeah, you're right. I have absolutely no contact with women outside my family right now (and it's going to be like that for at least a few more months) as I don't attend an university right now. So yeah, my brain is really confused, because it knows that it has to have human (female) contact (romantic and physical) but when it doesn't, it gets confused and the primal brain is saying: "wait, why aren't there any humans from the opposite sex? Am I alone in this world? How am I supposed to procreat…
/r/askTRP12/12/16 12:29 PM
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Thank you. Haha, I don't think I would be completely happy when i'd be the opposite person that I am right now, because it would mean that I would stop pursuing my passions :D But I understand what you mean. Writing this, I have also understood that yes, many of my problems DO come from depression and OCD and I should get help, because the only things that I DON'T like about myself is the fact that I am depressed (which leads to being anxious and anti-social) and that I can't get laid. I've read…
/r/askTRP12/12/16 12:43 AM
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Thanks for answering Doing it already. Heh, i've read most TRP books, but It often seems really bitter to me :D So lifting really is super important? Why? What about all the guys that are super skinny who get the girl? Because many girls do not like muscular bodies, many prefer tall and skinny types? What if you yourself don't want to be fit and want to be skinny because it looks cool? (That is a hypothetical question, I don't like being skinny, I do work out) So you're saying that i'm just miss…
/r/askTRP12/12/16 12:35 AM
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Yes, I couldn't find answers to the questions that I have.
/r/askTRP11/12/16 11:57 PM
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I know that, but I don't understand it. The only time i've had moderate success which means that girls flirt back, is when i've been kind of a flirty dick. Not rational, not myself, just annoying (for me in 3rd person). I just feel like that girls don't like the person that I WANT to be, they like the person/traits that I don't like being.
/r/seduction06/10/16 07:41 PM
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Yes. I would rather feel fear and discomfort than nothingness. Why be alive anyway? ANYTHING is better than nothing (speaking about emotions), because i've felt the nothingness while being depressed and I never want to feel that again.
/r/seduction05/10/16 12:39 PM
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Like... How?
/r/seduction05/10/16 12:33 PM
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But how to change that?
/r/seduction05/10/16 12:32 PM
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So that means that you just have to stop feeling any emotion? Where's the fun in that? Fear is better than nothingness imo
/r/seduction04/10/16 09:37 PM
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I dont have money, nor do I know how to make money (haven't finished hischool yet) and there is no way for me to get physically fit YETbecause i'm poor and lack basic cooking skills/a kitchen. I'm sadly also severely underweight (50kg, 180cm tall :/ ). I really hope when I finish school I can start working out, because 60% of the day I'm hungry (proper diet and gym membership costs a LOT in my country)
/r/seduction07/03/15 11:21 PM
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The thing is... I don't want to become the typical PUA like the guy on almost every youtube seduction video is. I want to do my own thing. I am happy when i'm being "girly/gayish" but i'm sad because when i become someone I'm not happy being (the manly guy) I see results. I don't like talking to random girls/people, because it's pretty stupid imo. I wouldn't want a girl randomly talking to me. I would like for things to develop gradually from friendship to a relationship but i'm not sure if it's…
/r/seduction05/03/15 10:13 PM
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