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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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9	How long did your divorce take? 1 year. Adult kids. I had vehicles so nice, I bought them twice. 🙄	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/26 10:09 PM
3	When the divorce was done, what did you do ? Bought the motorcycle I’ve had my eye on.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/26 08:00 PM
2	How do you not lose your shit completely? I enjoyed the holidays for the first time in a long time. It was hell this time of year, grew to really dread it. My kids are older now, and have nothing to do with her now. Going with my GF to Cabo this year for Christmas!	/r/Divorce_Men	22/11/25 05:10 PM
1	Loss of purpose I hear you. Message sent	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/25 07:16 PM
2	Tell me I’ll be ok That is all external. It’s inner work. Looking at your shadow, (see Carl Jung) figuring out why you make the decisions you do, what those motivations are, what is really important to you, your life goals, how another person plays into that, what you would want from them, what you have to give, what your boundaries are and why, your core beliefs and why you are the way you are and what you want your life to look like. That also means looking at the reason for any additions and how you plan on get…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/25 12:04 AM
6	Tell me I’ll be ok Don’t worry about the next person, just work on yourself. It will work out	/r/Divorce_Men	07/07/25 10:23 PM
2	How long did your divorce take? About a year. Kids grown and out	/r/Divorce_Men	26/03/25 04:25 PM
24	66 year old man. Wife divorcing me after 40 years of marriage. Married 37 years. 1. Maybe-I thought I was, lost half of everything including pensions, and had to buy my cars and motorcycles. (The bike so nice I bought it twice). Get legal advice. Divorce can bring out the worst in people. 2.Turns out kids only had a relationship with her in order to see me. They basically cut her out of their lives and now keep her at arms length. When we are all at an occasion, everyone is cordial, professional.We get to meet her man du jour. 3. Yes, very contentious. 4. F…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/11/24 10:51 PM
1	What were the ethnicity/race of your ex-wives? 100% German.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/09/24 08:02 PM
5	Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay) Glittering is correct. It will be hard before it gets easy, but in the end, you’ll regret it more if you live like this for another 20 years. I did, and it drove me to brink of just calling the whole life thing off. A couple of ‘dark night of the soul’ later. I actually look forward to the future, have a pretty girl who loves and respects me. It was worth the pain. There is no growth without some pain. My $0.02.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/24 10:35 PM
6	Resentment You’re not alone there, brother. Subjugating your life to another is a dead end.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/24 02:50 AM
1	First time alone Find something you love to do, or have always wanted to do. Learn something, get back into a hobby, rabbit hole something you find interesting. Take interest in improving yourself. You won’t notice the silence, you may find it to be your zen time.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/09/24 02:48 PM
6	Advice needed: Meeting ex’s boyfriend at my own kids birthday party. Be cordial. Like a business gathering. That’s it. I was in the same situation, but the guy was the one sleeping over a week after I left. Anxiety inducing situation, for sure.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/09/24 10:55 PM
19	Friend of mine recently died of cancer at 47. He spent 20 years in a toxic marriage afraid to leave because of finances. Life is short, get out of you can. And she ended up with all of it. He should have got out, kept his 50% and enjoyed the time he had. Has anyone ever said they got out too early? Most say they should have gotten out sooner.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/24 12:38 AM
5	Surviving the Process: What are or have you done to keep your mind off of divorce? I did something that I wanted to but “we can’t afford it 🤣 (never mind all the crap she bought) and I don’t want you hanging out in bars” I bought a bass guitar. Something I wanted to learn for decades.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/24 06:55 PM
8	Are you doing better than your ex? I have no idea. I just do my own thing, I no longer care. Comparison is the thief of joy.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/24 02:30 PM
2	I figured out that the divorce really is my fault but it’s not what I thought it would be. A lesson learned Brother, I’ve been there.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/24 07:27 PM
3	Would you ever reconcile with your STBXW just out of obligation to your family/ kids? Nope. He is a lose-lose situation. Cut your losses.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/24 08:08 PM
11	What red flags did you see at the very beginning? Anything that shows a lack of respect	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/24 04:41 PM
14	How long did it take your ex wife to move on after you initiated divorce? -11 months. She moved on before I filed.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/24 11:25 PM
2	Talk Me Out Of It Boys This ^	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/24 09:32 PM
3	How old were you when you get divorced? 61	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/24 08:40 PM
5	I wanted to believe it wouldn't happen...but you guys prepared me. Yup, married 36 years, she started having overnight guests a week after I moved out. I filed shortly thereafter.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/24 06:52 PM
1	Therapy One of the reasons I like MBCT over CBT. MBCT was more in line with stoicism.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/24 12:17 PM
4	Therapy Between that and stoic philosophy, it gave me hope. Momento Mori Amor Fati.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/24 12:58 AM
2	Need advice on potential divorce You loved her at one time. Why? What has changed? Figure out what you need, (with or without a counselor) and have a “come to Jesus” meeting with her, and express those things. Nothing to lose if you are ready to call it quits. Don’t assume she knows what you are feeling. Put it all on the table. This works both ways. The conversation will make it clear what you need to do. Just some advice from a guy who called it quits after 38 years and wished I had done this 28 years earlier.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/23 02:06 PM
3	How do you mentally cope with paying alimony? This is a great response. 👍🏻👍🏻 Stoicism	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/23 01:16 AM
5	Let's be honest here. No macho answers, and no judgement. In reality, how many guys here would be happy to get validation from your ex that the divorce was not your fault? 2 apologies in 38 years. If you count “I’m sorry you feel that way” as an apology. LOL	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/23 01:04 AM
1	If there is any human that is literally the devil, it’s my soon to be ex wife. Time wounds all heels	/r/Divorce_Men	15/07/23 09:04 PM
1	Go do something you have always wanted to I ended up getting a BMW R1250 RS. Second thing I gave myself after the divorce was final. You never see a motorcycle parked outside a psychiatrists office.* *unless it the psychiatrists.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/23 01:52 PM
1	Go do something you have always wanted to Ghost Rider: the road to healing by Neil Pert is excellent too.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/23 01:50 PM
2	Go do something you have always wanted to A solid choice. Enjoy every minute of your ride.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/23 01:45 PM
2	How much did divorce cost you? $45k for the lawyers, the house, 1/2 my retirement, pension, and SS. Was supposed to retire this year, now working 7 more to pay of spousal support	/r/Divorce_Men	05/07/23 05:05 PM
5	How much did divorce cost you? Prenups are not iron clad. And if you both start with nothing, and one makes something of themselves and the other is a leech, you get f*cked.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/07/23 04:58 PM