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| 30 | I get degraded by the girl I rejected. What does this mean? | Maxarc | /r/askTRP | 06/08/15 06:57 PM | |
| 12 | Do guys shit test other guys? If so, why do they do it? | Red Pill Theory | Maxarc | /r/TheRedPill | 14/06/15 05:59 PM |
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| 2 | Q4W: Why do women care so much when a man prefers inexperienced/virgin women?If you see this trait as feminine you usually (but not always) see the opposite of having lots of experience as masculine. This is problematic, because in order to become more valuable as a man you must then necessarily suck it out of someone else. So women do men a favour and those men then reward them by seeing them as lesser. Doesn't seem like a good deal to me. In fact, it seems rather unhinged. But if you don't believe men need lots of experience then there is no problem with the preference… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 02:26 AM |
| 2 | This sub is toxic for women (as well as men)By remembering myself that I need to touch grass. These kinds of forums select for certain kind of individual that is not your typical person. Average people probably don't find much value in having nature/nurture debates with rando's on the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/22 06:20 PM |
| 2 | The reason that the disparity in sexual privilege between men and women is so obfuscated not because there's any real doubt about it, but because of the solutions it impliesReality is complex and boring. Yes, the sexual revolution brought its problems, but that doesn't mean it's inherently bad or a stemming from a plot to overthrow the West. People make mistakes; change is shitty, asymmetrical and slow. That's about it. If you follow one of the many many academic threads, then yes, you can trace one of them back to Marxism. But an often made mistake is that there are so many other influences that either have nothing to do with it, or are even critical of it, such a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/22 05:18 PM |
| 7 | The reason that the disparity in sexual privilege between men and women is so obfuscated not because there's any real doubt about it, but because of the solutions it impliesI feel like you're absolutely correct. Traditions and their accompanied institutions largely died off in many places, but we seem to have forgotten what parts of them were beneficial to us. On the one hand we're more free, but on the other we lack stability and connection. I feel like it's absolutely possible to have the best of both worlds. To feel like you're part of something and also be free and accepted for who you are without fear of judgement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/22 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Well funded audio-based dating apps have all flopped. That's proof that personality isn't as important as people say it isPersonality is important, but we just care more for comfort and ease of access. We always do. We just want a quick hit with as little effort as possible. It's how we're wired. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 08:29 PM |
| 1 | I see a lot of "call outs" where women wish men would share their emotions more, and now men are pushing back saying when they do, it's weaponized against them. What's the healthy balance?No worries! It's a very interesting topic to think about. Thanks for reading! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 03:08 PM |
| 2 | I see a lot of "call outs" where women wish men would share their emotions more, and now men are pushing back saying when they do, it's weaponized against them. What's the healthy balance?I see men not being able to express themselves authentically as a serious social problem and no matter how much we say men need to open up, it's just as much a problem of those that socially punish or reward them. Claiming men need to open up and calling it a day is a very cheap way to score brownie points, because it's an overly addressed and oversimplified solution. The reason people choose to act a certain way has just as much to do with the path of least resistance. Those offering that resis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 02:19 PM |
| 2 | Do you think the same thing as in Japan is gonna happen to the entire world when western lifestyle/values/culture spreads everywhere?Sounds like an awesome assignment that would help a ton of people, including me. I agree that it's truly an art to condense difficult stuff to something both understandable and short. I use the internet to practice and test my writing chops. It's something I enjoy and the feedback or expansions from the people that engage with it are actually very valuable to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/22 07:23 PM |
| 2 | Do you think the same thing as in Japan is gonna happen to the entire world when western lifestyle/values/culture spreads everywhere?Thanks for adding this. I wanted to add something about instrumental reason, but I already found my post way too large and circular. I'm not the best in keeping things short when I go off on charades. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/22 01:43 AM |
| 3 | Do you think the same thing as in Japan is gonna happen to the entire world when western lifestyle/values/culture spreads everywhere?Nah, Baudrillard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/22 01:40 AM |
| 28 | Do you think the same thing as in Japan is gonna happen to the entire world when western lifestyle/values/culture spreads everywhere?Yes. However, I don't think men or women can be blamed for it. It's rather alienation that's gradually getting worse, which is driven by how we relate to our production. Our governments have no idea how to increase economic efficiency without also eroding our communities and sense of belonging. Our societies gradually slide towards being decentralised, broken up and smeared out to maximise our national performance in the rat race. People are either being crammed into cities too densely populated… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/22 12:34 PM |
| -1 | Men (and women if applicable) who became successful with the opposite sex after being unsuccessful in their young to adult life, did it make you bitter, cynical, or spiteful towards the opposite sex?Depends on what you count as successful. I have a modest share of options but I'm picky AF and when it comes to most people: I'd rather be alone. This is exactly what my dad is like and I'm not sure if that's a good thing, but it sure as hell strips people of their power over me. I notice that the more socially capable I got, the less I care about outcomes and validation. It's quite liberating and chokes off resentment as well. It didn't make me bitter or cynical. To the contrary, it made me lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 01:41 PM |
| 13 | Why do people assume that men that don’t get dates are basement dwelling neck beards?This can be so true at times, especially when I got older, and even for people I didn't pursue. Back in film school I had a classmate that I would describe, and I don't want to be mean so I'll keep it at a minimum, as looking bewildered and quite a bit older than she actually was. Definitely not someone I'd describe as pretty. But she was so god damn authentic and gave such little shits that I noticed I started admiring her. At one point she made a little film about a fucking cactus and the teac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 12:46 PM |
| 2 | The dating market place is changing simply because women don’t need men like we need women.True. And the solution to this is being the change you want to see. Hug your bro's and normalize talking about your feelings to reduce the leverage others have over you in terms of intimacy. Your life will be better for it if we just become less dense about shit that doesn't matter and act authentically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 02:26 AM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?You are correct. It's fucked up and a serious failing of the justice system. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 03:10 PM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?Agreed. There are some seriously fucked biases going on in the justice system that need to change. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Men and women, have you ever been the "Chad/Stacy" who she/he was cheating with? What are your feelings on it now?I have been grinding on the edge three times. I don't think you need to be that archetypical "chad", or whatever, for this to happen either. I don't think I am. But I believe you're more likely to roll into it if you provide something that people are typically missing in a relationship. As a guy this probably means being emotionally intelligent. Guys that grew up with many women around know what I'm talking about. When you got people that talk to you because you are good at listening and making … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 02:57 PM |
| – | Do you agree with the right to have financial abortions ?This is true. However, it's important to understand that the laws around child support and such are not designed to be fair, but to protect the child. Edge cases like this are super painful though and they should be patched up with special state programs in my opinion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 12:52 PM |
| 3 | What are some examples of female privilege?No worries mate, and thanks for being open to my arguments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 10:52 PM |
| 2 | What are some examples of female privilege?Yes, there is male privilege too, but lets be real, most of it is biological. Sure, men have more upper body strength and are taller on average, but this is not what privilege means. It's the way institutions, culture or society, ascribe value to any such trait. It's prescriptive, not descriptive, which means that it necessarily cannot be biological. You could argue that by being stronger you automatically gain privileges in any given culture, but this isn't necessarily true either. For example,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 10:28 PM |
| 1 | What every man wants and what very few get….perhapsFully agreed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 02:40 AM |
| 5 | What every man wants and what very few get….perhapsIf we flip this story, does a guy become a dad when his wife is emotional? It suddenly feels different to me. I think we can find answers in the fact guys have to suppress a lot of stuff which results in emotional outbursts when they're with the people they trust most. If we want to get rid of this, we must broaden when and where men are allowed to express themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/22 12:04 PM |
| 2 | If you find it uncomfortable and feel threatened when men come up to you to strike conversation, it’s your own issueIt’s not a logical emotional reaction to be afraid when somebody approaches you. I'm not going to let you get away with this intellectual laziness. Every female friend I have has had at least one experience with a predatory guy that could not let them go after rejection, which either resulted in stalking behaviour or public humiliation at best, and at worst being flat out assaulted, lured to a secluded place, or even roofied. You could call it unfair to default to a careful attitude because most… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 04:06 PM |
| 5 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.Damn you're actually unhinged | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 04:53 AM |
| 7 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.I was referring to you saying that OP is in a cult because they showed one sign. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:58 AM |
| 5 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.You're gonna need data to know how rampant it is my man. Video's and headlines have a distorting effect on how we estimate the scale of problems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:55 AM |
| 1 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.Yas. Let's all collectivise for our own economic rational self-interest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:45 AM |
| 7 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.Here's a piece of advice: tune out of the moral panic treadmill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:08 AM |
| 7 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.No. That's just one variable dawg, we're gonna need more than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Hollywood is guilty of influencing men to bend over backwards for women who aren't that into themI agree, with the addition that I believe this is a narrative trope that is actively damaging for everyone's romantic expectations, including women. For men, because of the reasons you stated. For women, because it creates the idea that if a guy is pushy enough he can win her over. Because even though she may reject a guy, he won't take no for an answer as he secretly believes pressing the right buttons can flick a romantic feelings switch in her head. Almost like throwing enough coins in a vend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/22 05:29 PM |
| 2 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotThe Netherlands, and the standards are average guy with average woman. It's kinda boring, really. I do agree with your final statement, but by the way you frame it you seem like you put a hyperfocus on the short end of the stick of men in particular. Gender dogma is kind of fucked in my opinion and I feel like both men and women have their own sets of problems that come with it. For instance, if you look at the shadow side of your example it's not a stretch to see that this means women are being… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 04:45 AM |
| 3 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotI don't believe they have particularly insane standards, but I do believe guys are often forced to compete with one another which could make it feel as such. To your latter statement: yes, I believe they do -- but generally not to the same extent as women. I also never said they didn't have this desire. I think the vast majority of people do, regardless of gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 03:58 AM |
| 16 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotWhile I understand you feel a need to be desired, you're also framing this from the male gaze. It's just generally the case that men are deemed less physically attractive right now. It's also generally accepted that they can therefore compensate with other characteristics if they're lacking in this department. Check out the several looks ranking studies, for example. There generally is a very big inclination to rank men low on that scale, but that doesn't mean as much as it would for women when … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Your opinions: Men using their vulnerability as a sh*t test?There are nuances to be found here. I think you can be someone that is against trauma dumping, while also being in favour of vulnerability in your partner. A big reason men trauma dump is because society doesn't allow them to be vulnerable, which then makes all that pent up steam release into a person they trust, usually their parents or their partner. This means that trauma dumping is not actual vulnerability, because it's the safest way to express yourself without judgement. To the contrary, e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/22 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Is crying a turnoff for you?The reason men get socially punished for being emotional is because we associate masculinity with flatlined emotions. With so many men having mental health issues that tie into suppressed emotions and underdeveloped social skills, it doesn't take a genius to see that this social standard is cartoonish and needs to go. You're ahead of the curve, my guy. Don't let them stop you from expressing yourself. The reason this meme about women telling you something and then acting on it differently exists… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/22 02:18 AM |
| 0 | Do women really date “gross” and “unkempt men?I hope we both agree that society is harsher to women that are unhygienic, and I hope we both agree that there must be a reason for that. If you do, you can fill in the blanks for yourself if you're not satisfied with my hypothesis. Maybe you'll come up with one that's better than mine, who knows. When you present such a dismissive and strong opinion, it's probably wise to come with better arguments than two anecdotes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/21 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Gender professor claims men can never truly "Like" woman. Do you Agree?You're almost correct, but your conclusion doesn't follow. Sex is bimodal, which means that there are two peaks of characteristics that slope into one another on the sides. The result of this is that most societies, sort of logically, construct two genders around those peaks for social utility. Gender identity is something you're probably born with, most likely depending on how your brain develops in the womb. This means that it's, like you correctly stated, true that when you change someone's s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 03:15 AM |
| 3 | One of the reasons why men check out from society is because there is growing, unjustified hostility, disrespect and depreciation against men in general.I totally missed this reply for whatever reason! But thank you for your response. I also really feel like we could be drinking a beer with one another, as I feel like we're both really nuanced in our approach. Honestly, it's kind of refreshing to meet someone online with such openness for intellectually honest dialogue. I really appreciate that. Sometimes it's difficult for me to see the "other side" (for lack of a better term) not as an enemy. But people like you remind me that dialogue is real… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/21 08:37 PM |
| 2 | One of the reasons why men check out from society is because there is growing, unjustified hostility, disrespect and depreciation against men in general.Hey btw, I was doing chores today and was listening to this video: https://youtu.be/rGFK1DAgal0 My mind somehow wandered to our conversation, and I thought "Maybe it's cool to share this one with him." It's a psychiatrist that talks with a guy about men's problems - I really enjoyed listening to the conversation and I agree with many of the things Aba is saying here. Maybe there's something in it for you as well! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/21 01:39 PM |
| 5 | One of the reasons why men check out from society is because there is growing, unjustified hostility, disrespect and depreciation against men in general.Thank you for the interesting reply. There are several things I would like to get into, because I feel like we agree for the most part with a few key differences that I like to address for the sake of perspective sharing. For easy reading I've cut it up in two parts. It's quite long, but there simply were many things I wanted to talk about. 1. Merit, gender and the workplace The first thing i would like to get into is your merit argument in regards to the wage gap. If I recall correctly, Farrell… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/21 06:02 PM |
| 5 | One of the reasons why men check out from society is because there is growing, unjustified hostility, disrespect and depreciation against men in general.Ah! That's a name I haven't heard in quite a while. I haven't followed him actively in recent years, so take what I say here with a grain of salt: I feel like he is a genuine person that brings important topics to the table when it comes to men's liberation. His angle is quite unorthodox from an academic perspective, as his focus flips third wave feminism on its head, namely: using men's issues as starting point (I'll come back to why this is unorthodox). But I don't think this is bad at all, as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/21 02:20 AM |
| 4 | One of the reasons why men check out from society is because there is growing, unjustified hostility, disrespect and depreciation against men in general.Women's issues can not be solved without solving men's issues and men's issues can not be solved without solving women's issues, this is what it means to live in a society. You absolutely nailed it. It's interlinked, and as such intersectional. I feel like we agree for the most part, even though we may be using different labels, or have a different focus. As long as you're a bridge builder and peel your eyes for what other identities struggle with, you are a political ally of mine. A while back … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/21 01:35 AM |
| 12 | One of the reasons why men check out from society is because there is growing, unjustified hostility, disrespect and depreciation against men in general.Intersectional feminist here. I usually try to avoid this label because it lacks utility outside of academia, but for this post it's important to know from what angle my critique comes. Anyone that advocates for personal attacks on any man, makes anyone apologise or atone for nothing they did, or judges someone by the attributes of their gender alone is an absolute dead weight to the movement. They should be deplatformed and disavowed. At this point, my tolerance for this shit is completely gone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/21 07:28 PM |
| 16 | Have you learned anything valuable from this subreddit?I like to observe in what ways people generalize and point fingers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/21 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Simps have ruined the dating market.People are generally not respected when they grant you each and every wish. The attention of people that matter is valuable and scarce, which makes you want to work for it and happily meet them in the middle. It brings us authentic connection, as there are certain character traits that remain unchangeable by your presence. These attributes are why they want to be with you, because you give them something new and something they lack. You enhance their life, instead of being a mirror image of it. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/21 05:20 AM |
| 3 | Romance novels, including the romanticized abuse one, show the opposite of what the Manosphere claims. The male love interests are very attractive simps and beta males, not alpha males.There's a dichotomy between an object of desire and relationship material. So what we're seeing is that fictional men are constantly threading the line between being dominant and powerful, as well as having a soft side and being a care giver - but only for the woman of interest in the story. This is so that it makes them holistically, and unrealistically, appealing. A fighter, but a caregiver at the same time under the right conditions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/21 03:39 PM |
| 5 | WGTOW - why do some men resent this?Did you just unironically call other people dumb and then substantiate that with an appeal to nature? Okay then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 03:55 AM |
| 1 | There are no "intimidated" men.I'm pretty flexible on this as well. Very comparable to how you're viewing this, I think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/21 01:49 AM |
| 2 | There are no "intimidated" men.Interesting you see it like that. I feel like that's a healthy and secure way to frame things. In my personal life I'd say it's a solid 50/50, whereas the more traditional men fall on the side of being intimidated by skilful women more often (though, there are exceptions of course). We may get stuck on a semantics discussion, so this is how I would substantiate the word "intimidation" in this context. Feeling intimidated means: made to feel timid. This could be physically the case, like you poin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/21 07:48 PM |
| 4 | There are no "intimidated" men.Why is that when women don’t find a man attractive it’s the mans faultbut when a man doesn’t find a woman attractive. He’s just intimidated or has a small dick Because society tells us that manhood is based on power, and femininity is based on submission. It follows that if you accept this societal norm, you must accept the double standards, because many are created by it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/21 02:26 PM |
| 37 | There are no "intimidated" men.Isn't it pretty easy to change your view on this? It's, of course, context dependant. Some women use it as copium, others use it as legitimate and true criticism. Of course men can be intimidated by women, it happens all the time. This is because society teaches them that they are less of a man when someone decreases their relative power. This often makes more traditional men intimidated by intelligent women, women that earn more than them, or women that had more sexual experience. In the eyes o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/21 02:11 PM |
| 1 | The fundamental problem with this subreddit is that people here project their own views of the world to represent their entire genderHoly shit. Are my eyes deceiving me? A post on /r/purplepilldebate that at least tries to account for more variables than semi-made up nature claims? I never thought I'd live long enough to see the day. I feel like the main thinking error on this sub is that users are blind for variables they are unaware of. This is totally understandable, because you can't be aware of a negative and reality is incredibly complex. There's are reason the social sciences has a replication crisis right now. It's be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/21 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Why do guys need sex to feel validated?Lol if that doesn't validate him, I don't know what will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/21 02:02 AM |
| – | Why do guys need sex to feel validated?Are you looking for an answer on micro or macro scale here? Because both answers are very different. Let's start by saying that I think it's a mistake to think that men don't feel validated if you're attracted to them. Most do, and it's important to note that one validation doesn't rule out the other. Though I do feel like men generally feel more validated by sex than women and women feel more validated by romantic attraction than men. I therefore feel like a more precise question would be somet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/21 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Are relationships with large financial, physical, or status gaps as creepy as relationships with large age gaps?Thanks for your reply, I like talking with people that ponder on this stuff, regardless of our disagreements. Anyway, here goes. feminism has no mandate to support the rights of men if women are unaffected or adversely affected. It's inherently an unbalanced stance. I believe this is a good critique, and I share it. In all fairness, this is an unfortunate consequence of addressing these issues from a perspective of power. However, a counter argument I would give is that this critique isn't stati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/21 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Are relationships with large financial, physical, or status gaps as creepy as relationships with large age gaps?With this I respectfully disagree, though I do feel where you're coming from. I also think this is going to warp to a discussion about semantics and will be quite long, so I hope I'm allowed to chip a little bit of time from your day, because I sincerely hope I can contribute something of value to your beliefs that I believe already point in the right direction, namely our similar starting point of equality and freedom. There's a TL;DR at the bottom, if you're short on time. Let's start by sayin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/21 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Are relationships with large financial, physical, or status gaps as creepy as relationships with large age gaps?I consider myself an intersectional feminist, and I absolutely agree with your observation. Some peoples' attitude on this is so far removed from academic discussion that it makes me physically cringe. It's like they read it and then lack the proper contextualization skills to grasp it. This is totally fine, it's difficult stuff, but in the same breath they weaponize that same literature they don't understand. It's either that, or they copy rediculous 150 character Twitter takes. As you may know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/21 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Are relationships with large financial, physical, or status gaps as creepy as relationships with large age gaps?(/s/s/s/s/s/s) Thank god. I sometimes legit can't tell if someone is acting unhinged or ironically unhinged on this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/21 01:13 PM |
| 13 | How can loyalty exist if hypergamy is realI'm sorry but this sub really goes off the deep end sometimes. What makes you think it's normal for someone to think a one night stand is worth over betraying someone they love? Do you perhaps think women are remorseless psychopaths? I mean sure, this shit happens and cheating sucks, but do you really think it's a gendered tendency? This isn't how normal brains function my guy. Let alone the miniscule chances a woman even meets a rando at a bar she finds more attractive than her actual partner s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 04:46 AM |
| 1 | If virginity in men is a red flag for you, after which age would you consider it a red flag and why?Yep it's deeply contradictory. Also the reverse happens. Some women see a man that's a virgin as a red flag. Virginity as social credit legitimately has to go. As a guy I've wasted so much energy on worrying about this stuff, back in my early teens. I also know women who feel like they messed up when they slept around for a little while. It's just absolutely ridiculous. Just have sex with whomever and how much ever, and if you haven't had any that's okay too, I literally don't give a fuck and I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/21 02:51 AM |
| 2 | If virginity in men is a red flag for you, after which age would you consider it a red flag and why?To your first point: I don't believe tendencies in preferences are contrarian on default, as I don't think the tendencies you state behave in a dialectic. I haven't thought about it much though, so I may be missing something crucial. If I come up with something that disproves this I'll be sure to shoot you another reply to elaborate further on it. Let me ponder on this for a bit. However, let's say hypothetically that you have some kind of social movement that wants to get rid of a certain gende… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/21 08:23 PM |
| 12 | If virginity in men is a red flag for you, after which age would you consider it a red flag and why?I've pondered on this topic for way too long, and my current position on this is that the value we prescribe to virginity is absolutely contradictory and therefore absurd. This post explains why I believe this. There's a TL;DR at the bottom for those that lack the time and energy to read the philosophical positions of some internet rando. Anyway, here goes: Judging and looking down on male virginity but valuing female virginity is a side-effect of deep seated contradictory beliefs in society. Bo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/21 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Telling people "it will get better" is the worst advice"I never liked you and I still don't like you but all the people I actually wanted are taken so I'm going to have to settle down with you by force". Are there really that many people that feel compelled to enter a relationship that makes them miserable? Fuck me dude, I'd rather be alone and do my thing and so do all my friends who can't really find a suitable partner at the moment. If you have that frame of mind I think you may have some serious pathologies going on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/21 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Summary of every debate on purplepilldebateLmao true. And then pointing to all kinds of wild assumptions about what the study says, while it doesn't actually say that if you read more than just the title. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/21 12:57 PM |
| – | Why has the amount of sexless men 18-30 increased more than the amount of sexless women 18-30?We have a breaking down of gender roles, mainly through social punishment, but women didn't adjust their gender expectations for these new standards yet. This makes it so that there is now way too much pressure on men to make all the moves and not being problematic or making mistakes. This isolates, atomises and makes them feel disposable with all kinds of mental health problems as a result. While I support the steps we are taking culturally in deconstructing gender expectations and toxic behavi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/21 12:35 PM |
| 0 | Has the 80/20 rule turned into the 90/10 rule or 95/5 rule in recent years?she was dating a guy who already had a triple digit body count at 18 Lmfao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/21 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Take a little break from your thoughtloopGo on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/21 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Men tend to be delusional about their sexual attractivenessFor sure! But the thing is: I ended up with the girl he was crushing on, which he even asked out on a date before me. It's weird how things play out sometimes. And I'm just some average looking bloke that's good at talking to women. I rarely get approached in bars though, if ever. But I did have my fair share of women in university that somehow were interested in me. That contrast between school/work and clubs is a weird dichotomy for me personally. This is why I have a really strong belief in l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/21 01:00 PM |
| 0 | Men tend to be delusional about their sexual attractivenessI believe what you're saying here is somewhat true, but I also think it is way too blackpilled. The reason I think this is because women are conditioned to be passive. It is less socially acceptable for them to approach men. In addition, because they are generally pushed in a more passive/selector role, there is a smaller chance a woman hints at digging you. If they are approached they are seen as more favourable by their peers, while if they chase they are generally seen as desperate. So they a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/21 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Biology versus Cultural Conditioning. Female perception of Men showing Emotion and opening up and masculine Men.The problem with this mindset is that biology disagrees. Women are hardwired to seek protectors and providers. I'm just going to blatantly copy this from a YouTuber with a degree: "If experts say something, and you disagree with them you can have three beliefs: The experts are incompetent The experts are in on a conspiracy The experts know something that I don't and I need to find out what that is. Hint: try option three first." You need to substantiate why you make that leap to a hardwired natu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/21 05:02 PM |
| – | Masculinity is not toxic, the lack of masculinity is.I would agree with you here. I generally believe the academic language used to describe these things is super bad for social movements. It basically hijacks the conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/21 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Masculinity is not toxic, the lack of masculinity is.Fuck, I wrote an entire response but Reddit bugged out and destroyed my comment for whatever reason. Anyway, I think we largely agree on most things but our different perspective is in the semantics of the word "masculinity". I'd argue that what this word means is socially constructed and therefore difficult to clearly and objectively define, but I still agree that there are average differences in men and women. Though I believe that "what it means to be X or Y" is generally constructed by cultu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 07:08 PM |
| 11 | Masculinity is not toxic, the lack of masculinity is.I think you put too much emphasis on innate characteristics of masculinity, while overlooking many socially constructed aspects. You claim that men need good mentors and good father figures, which is absolutely true. But it disproves your point about it being some kind of innate natural phenomena. Since apparently, sons and young men need mentors to learn how to be properly masculine. At this point it becomes a semantics game. What is "more" masculinity? If you mean taking responsibility for you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/21 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Yes, environment does indeed play a huge part in how easy it is for men to get partners.Thank you for writing this out. This sub sometimes makes critical errors when they compare the personal with the systemic. These two scales are almost completely incompatible for analysis because the further you zoom out the more variables start to emerge that require different lenses and solutions. This is why psychologists usually aren't qualified to make academic claims about population clusters, and why sociologists usually aren't qualified to make academic claims about lifestyle choices. Ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Why the sexual market place will ALWAYS be skewed towards women in a free society.There are several studies that indicate what you say is true, but there is -- and this sub makes this leap often -- no proof that this is biological. In this study, for example, it is found that women's sexuality is more malleable and adaptable to outside stimuli and that this might have cultural reasons due to them inhabiting the passive role in our culture that either says "yes" or "no". If you are filling in this role it is entirely possible that your brain adapts to that, because if you get … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/21 01:03 PM |
| – | You are not getting sex because people don't want to have sex with you, the rest is just noiseThere is no solution on a macro scale There must be a systemic root cause, because average numbers of friends and sexual partners are dwindling. In other words: there was something systemically different in the past that made it so that people had more friends and more sexual partners. Therefore, we can address it on a macro scale. increasing or decreasing sex for any specific demographic should not be a goal. I technically agree with this, but let's use some sociological imagination on this o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 08:00 PM |
| – | You are not getting sex because people don't want to have sex with you, the rest is just noiseWhile I think it's good that you address entitlement, there must be a distinction made between the micro and macro scale, because both these things operate under different sets of rules. This is a mistake many people in this sub make, but also outside of it in political discourse and here's why and how: If you tell a friend to pull himself up by his bootstraps and give him tough love, this can work perfectly well. You might be able to help him and he might even be inspired by you. If you punish … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 1 | What kind of man would you want your daughters to date?I don't give a fuck as long as she's happy. It's creepy AF to be that possessive of your kids when they're old enough to date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Women telling men to uplift each other is a red herring, men do uplift eachother.Men get way less compliments than women, but ascribing that to other men only is indeed a red herring. Men not getting enough compliments is a problem that goes way deeper than other men simply not doing it. Men have a tendency not to do it to other men because they are sometimes seen as competition and women have a tendency not to do it to men in fear of the guy thinking she's flirting with him. The reason men get little encouragement and compliments is because they are seen as the active gende… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/21 10:54 AM |
| 8 | Women blame men who get rejected for having bad attitudes to avoid appearing shallowGood call. Usually when heterosexual women talk about how they like tender men, they don't mean trading in masculinity, but rather having a non toxic version of it. They basically mean someone like Aragorn from Lord of the Rings, or Zagreus from the game Hades - to name some random fictional examples that show these traits. Basically a guy that is kind and tender because he is that secure in his masculinity, not from a place of insecurity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Not Only Conservatives, Feminists Too Want to Police and Control Sexualityfor them male sexuality is mostly predatory, while women are seen aspassive (even defenseless) receptors of male sexual advances Got anything to back up this generalisation? Most third wave feminists have an intersectional approach. This means they want to abolish female passivity too because they are usually anti-essentialist when it comes to gender. To be fair, maybe you're referring to the "yas gurl" uninformed white middle class variation that copies their opinions from Netflix shows. But if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 01:54 PM |
| 10 | Europeans on this subreddit. What do you think about American dating culture?I've only been in America once as a Dutch person, but I do read a lot of stuff online. To me it seems that Americans are extremely alienated from one another, due to varying factors including rigid individualism (yes, this includes the modern left) as well as their economic system. The society seems, as a consequence of this, atomised and polarized for this reason too. I also feel like this atomisation, combined with a more progressive dating scene, creates tremendous amounts of confused expecta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/21 05:45 PM |
| 1 | If you believe the core tenant of masculinity is the subjugation of others, you can’t be upset that many thus associate masculinity negatively.Testosterone causes aggression. So aggression is manly. The validity of this claim is complicated. While it's true that testosterone generates more violent tendencies, it does not paint a complete picture. We are a social species too. In fact, we are the most socially complex animals out there. We are the only species able to create culture and use complex language. Culture can warp many natural tendencies we have, because our brains are very adaptable and generally shape according to what promo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/21 12:26 AM |
| 1 | If a man is entitled to hold out for marriage until he finds a virgin, is a woman entitled to date only men who don't watch porn?Both are entitled to want that. But I am entitled to believe that both positions are cringe AF and are, at their core, a product of extreme insecurity. I'm sorry, but if you have an ego that fragile, you probably rob yourself of many great experiences in life - probably including other things outside of dating too. Either work on that inflated ego, or accept that you'll have a shitty AF dating experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/21 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Are women progressively dressing skimpier by personal choice or by social influence?There is something hidden in your premise that I would like to address. There seems to be some kind of dichotomy between how women act and social influence. However, these things mostly (but not always) mean the same thing. It's tough to explain why without typing out a huge essay, so bare with me: For my claim we need to make two true statements about human nature: We are social animals and we; generally do whatever promotes survival. Therefore, the social rules we set up for ourselves are most… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/21 02:52 PM |
| 0 | What are Your Physical Deal Breakers in Guys ?To each their own! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/21 03:07 AM |
| 1 | What are Your Physical Deal Breakers in Guys ?but hairy legs and arms are just disgusting I have some bad news for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/21 10:44 PM |
| 3 | The only men getting consistent action are men with no/ loose standardsResearch has proven men have looser standards in general for women. (See swipe app data). This seems to be true for sex. However, keep in mind that dating app data is very skewed because of the male to female disparity. This market dynamic allows women to be way more picky. There also was a study in where they had women on these apps rate men on their looks, which was brutal but unhelpful for general claims too, because again: the skewed supply and demand creates a suction effect for picky women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/21 12:31 AM |
| 0 | CMV: social media and online dating have completely destroyed the dating market, it cannot be repairedAgain: nice ruse to cover up the fact that there is, in fact, no majority of people who meet through dating apps. Which was the claim I made before you barged in with a study that actually proved my point. I am willing to grant you anything you're trying to retort, but my original point still stands and remains unrefuted. The numbers don't add up. Are you really going to die on this hill with some rando online? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/21 01:31 PM |
| 0 | CMV: social media and online dating have completely destroyed the dating market, it cannot be repairedThis doesn't refute anything and my argument still stands. This quote shows no boundary constructed around online dating apps and there is no majority who meets online. Nice ruse though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/21 11:42 AM |
| 1 | CMV: social media and online dating have completely destroyed the dating market, it cannot be repairedDid you read that article, or did you just googledump this on here? For one: it doesn't single out dating apps. And secondly if you read it, it states 39% of people meet online. The reason the article states it's "most popular" is probably because they made a distinction between different ways you can meet in real life, but clustered "online" as one thing. Which is not only an incredibly disingenuous way to title your article, but also very flimsy research methodology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/21 03:05 AM |
| 6 | CMV: social media and online dating have completely destroyed the dating market, it cannot be repairedWith 4 men for every 1 woman on any of these apps, your numbers don't add up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/21 06:18 PM |
| 0 | “If he really wanted me, he would approach me” Do y’all really believe this ?Well yeah, this happens. But it just as well happens when you're a guy. It's just an inevitable risk, because some people are kinda shit unfortunately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/21 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Men are overly criticized in society compared to womenI think it's more socially acceptable to degrade men in public, while it is more acceptable to degrade women behind their backs. Attacking men is therefore more visible in day to day life, but this does not mean women don't deal with it. Far from it. The reason it happens more publicly for men is because a large part of men being deemed "manly" is in their ability to deal with criticism and banter. To a certain extent I believe this can be quite funny if you have the social skills to deal with t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/21 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional societyI understand what you mean. My experience with "critiques" on feminism is almost always in the form of caricatures which really annoys me because it's a thought terminating cliché that destroys any form of healthy public discourse. What also annoys the fuck out of me is people that critique something without even knowing what they're critiquing or even coming close to having a 101 understanding of it. But instead of doing their research, they clutch onto the "the left is taking over our institut… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/21 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional societyI should have perhaps stated it differently by saying "the feminism popular in our culture" or something like that. I'm aware that there are large bodies of work of third and fourth wave feminists that address exactly what I'm talking about. Case in point: I think we both agree on the fact that we desperately need an intersectional approach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/21 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional societyI'm actually a feminist myself, so don't feel too attacked. And yes, all the things you state are true. But look at our culture and ask yourself: did we really address this enough? Being critical of something doesn't mean I think it's not a worthwhile effort, it means I'm looking for windows of improvement. It's very clear that the frustration of men comes from somewhere and it's probably the double edged sword that is dating. Many things remain unaddressed and lay dormant at our feet. This does… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/21 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional societyThis comment exactly illustrates my post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/21 04:00 AM |
| 4 | Why does it seem that men appreciate/respect a muscular or fit man more than women ?Secure men do. You can spot insecure guys in how they react to your achievements. The smart ones stay quiet, the dumb ones degrade you publicly - which often gets punished harshly if others hear it. In terms of muscles I'd be a bit more lenient in this judgement though, because if you're not into lifting it's kind of difficult to understand how much work it is and we're conditioned to not compliment men on their bodies. But it definitely goes up for things like being skilled on an instrument, be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/21 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Women are the reason why high beauty standards for them still existI think the problem here is corporations that somehow have the ability to spawn beauty related problems out of thin air. The problem is us collectively nodding along to the fact that it is somehow acceptable that we get indoctrinated by this bullshit every waking moment of the day. From the time we stand up and check our phone, to the billboards next to the read to work, to the coffee machines at the cantina, to the television shows we watch when we get home. The problem is that we somehow think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/21 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional societyI agree with you. And the shitty thing is: I met so many awesome Americans in my life. They are genuinely friendly, welcoming and high energy people. They do not deserve this at all. I just think America's system is a failed democracy and a ticking time bomb at this point. There are people that believe things that they should not believe because of the market failure of online engagement and sensationalist media. The profit motive is going to destroy every sense of public discourse if nothing wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/21 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Most of TRP "truths" are symptoms of America being a dysfunctional societyDutch person here who has also visited America and is very involved with American politics and culture. I fully agree with this post. There is this idea under historians that it is often very hard to see what is going on historically from an insiders perspective. It's like trying to make sense of the very thing you are a product of. It's very difficult to unravel a self-referential system from the inside, because everything reacts to everything - including the behaviour and thoughts of you and m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/21 04:52 PM |
| 5 | Two rational but opposing hypothesis about beautiful women.Ugly and or fat men develop bitter, angry personalities and become hostile to everyone. Lol, can confirm for short guys too. I'm just average looking, but I had many guys be salty at me because I am tall and slim lmao. A friend of mine who is even taller than me (2m or something crazy like that) even had some random guy walk up to him at work that told him he didn't like him, but they never even talked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/21 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Two rational but opposing hypothesis about beautiful women.Like you pointed out in the end of the post: this is a false dichotomy. It could be the case that both are generally true, but with different emerging properties. For example: it could be the case that less attractive people more often develop things like an inferiority complex, social anxiety or PTSD. But at the same time: attractive people could have a stronger tendency for developing bad communication skills, narcissism, or general traits of anti-social behaviour. We do whatever we must for s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/21 11:27 PM |
| 7 | Women's dating/relationship standards are warped by social media the same way men's are by porn.but I have heard of women with height requirements, hair requirements, facial hair requirements, etc. I agree with this, but I want to shine a light on another angle. While it is true that it is way more socially acceptable for women to do this, I find that these standards are stretched on a whim if someone makes them feel right. It seems like women are extremely picky when it comes to looks, but when someone peaks their interest through merit of character, this entire notion of look standards s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/21 08:52 PM |
| 5 | Most women want something serious once they are above 30 while men want nothing serious when above 30. Why?This is essentialism. Relationships can be unstable. Sometimes people try to settle down and it just doesn't work out. Some people have temporary mental health problems that removes them from wanting to date for a while. Some people are picky and just don't find the right person. Some people change their mind about what they actually want by the time they turn 30. Some people just flat out fuck things up in a relationship that was supposed to last. Some people are late bloomers. Some people chan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/21 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Why should a woman have sex with you? What do you have to offer her?Because sex is enjoyable. Why does everything have to be reduced to this cringe mechanised market system? If everyone stopped being dense about this topic we would have way less frustrated men, and way less women who feel ashamed by their sexual desires. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/21 06:31 PM |
| 3 | CMV Social media and dating apps have skyrocketed womens SMV - Hollywood celebrities, billionaires, athletes have open access to pretty much all attractive slim women in their 20'sImagine filming yourself, dolled up, to publicly brag about being matched with someone on a dating app; publicly shaming them in the process. Did it daunt on her that people aren't random objects you can flaunt with? People - yes, even Ben Affleck - have wants and needs for god sakes. So what is the function of this video? What is its utility? It shames someone for no reason, it makes men resentful about their options and women insecure about their physical appearance. The only utility that rema… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/21 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Why are women doing "body enhancements" seen as normal but men doing it are seen as "insecure"?It's very normalised to generally just shit talk men to their faces, while it's normalised to shit talk women behind their backs. I believe this is the case because we live in a culture in where women and men alike constantly feel the need to test other men's boundaries, or see how they react to hostility. It's deemed masculine to be unreactive or witty about it, and therefore some women are conditioned to constantly try and push buttons in the hopes of getting a masculinity showcase. Men seem t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/21 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many men lust after the "goth" aesthetic/lifestyle?🤴🏻 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/21 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many men lust after the "goth" aesthetic/lifestyle?"I cannot give you what you seek." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many men lust after the "goth" aesthetic/lifestyle?That's true in a purist sense. Though, I suppose that this look is a blend of the two and somewhere on that spectrum is one of the more common aesthetics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 05:00 PM |
| 23 | Why do so many men lust after the "goth" aesthetic/lifestyle?I think punk girls are sort of lumped into the same aesthetic. Many subcultures started to bleed into one another since the internet. What is deemed Goth at the moment is very fluid because of this. If we take a look at the subreddit you mentioned I would personally describe many of them as a having sort of a punk aesthetic too. I think the reason it is so popular amongst some men is is because of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl (MPDG) trope. It's a cultural phenomenon in where we seem to be attracte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 02:43 PM |
| 1 | What is the percentage of cheaters in your female friend group?It sounds like that's for the better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/21 03:46 PM |
| 3 | What is the percentage of cheaters in your female friend group?I have ADHD and I had my fair share of impulsive encounters, but I don't think that's an excuse. If you know you behave like that you should protect others by not committing to a long term relationship, period. I just can't get over the fact that some people care so little about others that they do shit like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/21 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Why is Online Dating is Dispassionate and Cynical?How did millennials settle for this? Complete alienation; living in the dead-zone between online life and offline life, not really able to adapt to either of them. Developing unhealthy social habits. Too nihilistic for worthwhile relationships, yet caring too much for it to accept others having the same attitude as you. Dating apps slowly turning into commodified slot machines, warping authenticity into an act of self-branding. Not fully remembering how it was before this, yet not being able to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/21 04:40 PM |
| 5 | If men here are so bothered by educated and careerist women, why don't they date someone from a lower class?I have no data to back this up, so I have no way to make this claim universal. However, for me personally: I want to date someone that has an intelligence level that is at least in my proximity. It is more likely that the women I will date will therefore be at least middle class, even though I don't care about money. The reason I (usually) don't care for women who are lower educated is because most of the time talking to them kinda bores me. This is not always the case, however. Lower education … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/21 01:49 PM |
| 7 | CMW: Most men (especially those who struggle with dating) vastly underestimate the importance of style and aesthetics in luring in women to date or have sex with.Why are those transformation video's so fucking cringe to me? I feel like I need to write an entire essay to figure out why, exactly, it is so fucking cringe. It has something to do with them being full of themselves but not having self-awareness about it. Like all I think about when I see a video like this is how, when his parents were gone shopping, this dude spent an hour of his life for some internet self-wankery. Lmao, like what the fuck. To each their own I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/21 11:41 PM |
| 1 | What is the worst dating advice you’ve gotten and why was it so bad?Displaying attractive behavior always trumps “being yourself” Depends on your goal. If you're trying to get laid, this might be the case. If you want to connect with people and look for long lasting partners or friendships, then I'd disagree. In fact, the best dating advice I have ever gotten was focussing precisely on congruency. It made me way more successful in making long lasting friendships as well as getting into relationships. It made me realize that congruency very much is attractive beh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/21 03:32 AM |
| 32 | What is the worst dating advice you’ve gotten and why was it so bad?It's a statement that's both true and false at the same time, in my experience. So it's either vapid or correct, depending on who gives the advice. If by "being yourself" they mean: "Act like you do when you're alone and nobody is there to watch you." or: "act like you do with your family" then it's absolute shit advice. It ignores the fact that we are different people depending on who we interact with. That doesn't mean we're inauthentic, it just means we behave in differing authentic ways depe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/21 02:11 PM |
| 2 | "I know ugly guys who get laid all the time" How true do you think this is?The numbers vary from country to country. There are countries in where it's 8 to 1, even. I decided to pick a rough number that was somewhere in between. But case in point: men outnumber women. It seems to be a trend everywhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/21 12:55 PM |
| 2 | "I know ugly guys who get laid all the time" How true do you think this is?Do you perhaps have a link to the IRL study? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/21 01:35 AM |
| 0 | "I know ugly guys who get laid all the time" How true do you think this is?If I recall correctly: this was a study on Tinder profiles. It isn't accurate data because of this, because the numbers are skewed. For every one woman you have like 5 men on there, which creates an environment in where the supply/demand is tilted. This could mean that it makes women behave more picky on looks, because they simply can, while still getting matches. My rough guess is that these numbers are roughly equal to men outside of Tinder. If conducted in a controlled and anonymous environme… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/21 12:51 AM |
| 0 | "I know ugly guys who get laid all the time" How true do you think this is?I soy boy still unironically used? TIL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/21 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Why are so many young men falling behind on the dating market (and just life in general)?There are many articles written about it though. Those were just three I took the time for digging up on google scholar. I am unfortunately not allowed to share research from my University library. But believe me when I say the topic is regarded as a problem. Since I'm just some rando on the internet I don't ask you to take my word for it though. But there is also more to be found on Google Scholar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/21 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Why are so many young men falling behind on the dating market (and just life in general)?second paper has only a little more than 200 reads. Are we seriously gonna attribute the validity of research to the amount of reads it has on a random-ass journal website, instead of it being peer reviewed or not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/21 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Why are so many young men falling behind on the dating market (and just life in general)?I'm sorry, I misquoted the first bullet point. I would still like a source about that though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/21 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Why are so many young men falling behind on the dating market (and just life in general)?I don't know if you have access to all these papers, but here are a few: https://search.proquest.com/openview/cba48c741b22ee83999db3ea60aa6f75/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=26506 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00221546.2012.11777271?journalCode=uhej20 https://www.nvpsychology.org/assets/docs/Men-a-Growing-Minority.pdf (I cannot find if this paper has been peer reviewed, so take this one with a grain of salt. But it's also a field specific article.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/21 12:45 PM |
| 11 | Why are so many young men falling behind on the dating market (and just life in general)?Young women are now outearning men Citation needed. getting more college degrees True. and succeeding more in almost every metric. The world is far too complex to make a statement like this. This is a narrative you tell yourself. We all tell ourselves narratives, but the reason I am pointing this out is because it can do serious harm to your outlook on life. Is this really true? There are tons of things I can think of from the top of my head women don't succeed in as much as men do. I also think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/21 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Are all women disgusted whenever a man opens up or is vulnerable? Like subconsciously?I believe your view of how people work is warped. Check out my reply comment about whining underneath. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/21 10:57 AM |
| 3 | Are all women disgusted whenever a man opens up or is vulnerable? Like subconsciously?Exactly dude. Your point about not being whiny is very important too. Whining is a form of insecurity because you feel the need to constantly signal to your surroundings how hard you have it. This drives people away, because it isn't an authentic mode of communicating your feelings. It stems from a pathological fear of not being understood by others, or using it as a weapon to dodge responsibility. Underneath that whining is a fear, and that fear needs to be expressed. A fear that you aren't hea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/21 02:33 AM |
| 48 | Are all women disgusted whenever a man opens up or is vulnerable? Like subconsciously?Does it matter if they are disgusted? You gotta ask yourself this, is a woman who flees the relationship the moment she realizes you aren’t a robot worth keeping? A thousand times this. If that really was the reason she left, OP dodged a fucking bullet. A thousand women aren't worth the mental turmoil of bottling things up. Fuck that. With this being said: if O.P aligns with this line of thought, he should find a girl that is more dislodged from classical gender roles. I don't share his experien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/21 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Women are right about being to picky. That's the way of evolution.Jesus, there is so much to unpack here. First of all this is an appeal to nature because it conflates an is with an ought. Just because it is descriptively true that women spawn offspring and need to reserve their bodies and resources for 9 months, that does not mean that they should be selectors in today's societal standards. This doesn't logically follow. Women got overpowered and abused by men in the stone age, should we do that too in the 21st century? Apparently it was our nature state. Let… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 12:35 AM |
| 5 | How do you identify your looks match as a man exactly ?This sub ascribes way too much objective value on how to determine how good someone looks. We know that symmetrical faces and smooth skin are more attractive on average. But keep in mind, this is an average, not an absolute. Some people don't care for that; some people do. With such wide tastes it's impossible to truly determine your place on this imagined totem pole. It's a construct you create in your head based on your own taste and the opinions of an incredibly small sample size of close fri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/21 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Taking biological sexual attraction to its natural end, will a certain percentage of men always be inherently undesirable?My argument is precisely about a minority of people rapidly spreading their genes and tilting the average. They were a minority, of course, but there were enough to have a serious impact on these statistics. Having little, but not too little of these people only solidifies my argument. In slave societies there was a very sharp split between those who had, and those who had not which created the conditions for a huge pool of slaves, but also a huge pool of those who reaped the benefits of these s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/21 01:48 PM |
| 4 | Taking biological sexual attraction to its natural end, will a certain percentage of men always be inherently undesirable?Both marriage and the abolition of slave societies are examples of socially enforced monogamy. Excellent point. I have to agree with this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/21 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Taking biological sexual attraction to its natural end, will a certain percentage of men always be inherently undesirable?Socially enforced monogamy evened the odds a bit. I think this is a bit of a jump in your reasoning. For a very long time the aristocracy hoarded women (especially slave women) inside their polygynous households. In your average Ottoman city it wasn't that extraordinary for a rich man to have 10 wives. This happened in many cultures across the globe, long before and during the middle ages. While the church found a more egalitarian way to enforce the distribution of mates through marriage, there … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/21 03:26 AM |
| 1 | TruthYou said we can change beauty standards like they are something independent of biology when they are just emergent phenomena of our biological make up. I never claimed that beauty standards are completely dislodged from biology. If you read my post I even specifically stated that things like symmetry and binary gender characteristics are a biological phenomena. What I claimed was that this binary tends to warp and be stretched out by social constructs. Nobody is denying biology here. Btw I am Ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/21 02:57 PM |
| 1 | TruthHumans are animals and can be modeled by science, get over it. I don't necessarily disagree with this claim. What makes you think that my post proposes something different? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/21 01:57 PM |
| 1 | TruthThis statement doesn't really add up. If women leave the app because they settle down, then a man should automatically leave the app too. This means that it doesn't explain the gender disparity. Also, happy cake day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/21 12:59 PM |
| 1 | TruthThat's the reason women are so comfortable with imagining that men approaching them in public are predatory. They don't need extra attention because they get to select whatever they want online for free. What if we flip this hypothesis on it's head for a moment? A 2018 study showed that there is a serious gender disparity in male to female ratio's on pretty much every dating app, Tinder being the worst with a 9 to 1 ratio (source on the bottom of the article - Note that this study is being condu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/21 11:29 PM |
| 1 | TruthNo. But that isn't my point. My point is that it shouldn't have to be this way if we collectively made an effort for change. Furthermore, we weren't even talking about dating apps lol. Do you legit think dating apps are an accurate portrayal of the dating pool? If so: I got good news for you if you're a guy, and bad news if you're a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/21 08:43 PM |
| 0 | TruthThe reason is because beauty standards are partly a social construct, and by pointing it out you add to the solidification of said standard. In today's day and age it's even more the case because of the hyper virality of social standards. In the 1700's high heels and a more narrow jawline was the beauty standard for men, as depicted in this picture: https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/5f/Louis_XIV_of_France.jpg/300px-Louis_XIV_of_France.jpg In the 1700's chubby and a more ecce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/21 01:34 PM |
| 0 | TruthI don't see how it doesn't make sense. But good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/21 02:24 AM |
| 2 | TruthYes, but don't wallow in it. By wallowing you perpetuate these standards that do nothing but make society even more dysfunctional than it already is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/21 02:13 AM |
| 30 | TruthIf you see enough posts like this it will seriously fry your brain. It's incel propaganda, dude. Beautiful people are more attractive. I know, I know, it sucks, but is it really that big of a deal and really that surprising? Look around you. Take a step out your door. Stop hyper focussing on aesthetics like the mainstream media wants you to and see how people actually behave and what they actually find attractive. You are the main character of your own movie, stop caring about these side charact… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | It seems like a lot of people view sex as something valuable that women give to men, which men then have to make up for in other ways.I think male sexuality is generally seen as being worth less than female sexuality. To the point that when a man and woman have sex, it is seen kind of like a gift, like the woman has given something to the man. I see this sentiment often pop up on this sub. But I have never experienced this at all. Is it a cultural thing? I'm not from America. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/20 09:51 PM |
| 4 | "Simp culture" is being normalized to benefit OnlyFans creators & Twitch streamers to the detriment of everyone elseI agree that the exploitation of sexuality of both men and women is a problem. But the root cause of Simping and being able to make money off of lonely guys isn't a problem that knows a simple solution or cause. It is many intertwined things. The root cause is a market that has a tendency to commodify over fixing cultural issues. Not simps, not women and not corporations alone. But a symbiosis between the three. Way more fundamental causes that cannot be solved by simply pointing to a party that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/20 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Women feel bonded after sex. Men feel rewarded after sex.I often see posts pop up that try to wrap up the nurture vs. nature debate in a given topic. The truth is that it's incredibly hard to tell. This post doesn't prove nature vs. nurture, nor deny it. We are conditioned to release dopamine when we get rewarded in videogames, or win in sports because of socially constructed rules and rewards (A trophy, for example, or respect from our peers). Therefore, this still begs the question if men could be conditioned in seeing sex as a reward or a prize - w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/20 01:23 AM |
| 1 | What have we learned about women now that they have economic, social and sexual freedom?It's not because of economic freedom alone that everything is skewed right now. It's also a culture that adapts slowly. We are in a limbo, with women that have economic freedom, but at the same time we are still half-stuck in old gender norms. Gender norms are broken down with feminism, but it has created a confusing vacuum. At the moment we are at a point in history where men are still preceived as the initiators and the assertive party, but at the same time risk being judged by it. The rules a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/20 03:09 AM |
| 2 | The scariest part about subs like this is people with little to no dating experience think everything here is 100% factual and the truthI gotta agree with you. If you plow through it enough you find some gems every once in a while. But for the most part it's like a shit throwing contest that's quite amusing none the less. I find that lots of ideas that float around here are an oversimplified idea on how social, and sexual dynamics work. It's almost like they do it to make sense of it in their own heads, in an attempt to find certain ground rules in orthodoxy. But it's almost never intersectional, and almost always promotes behav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 02:43 AM |
| 1 | The scariest part about subs like this is people with little to no dating experience think everything here is 100% factual and the truthwith an ounce of critical thinking Ah, so like almost nobody in this entire sub. Gotcha. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 02:25 AM |
| 4 | Relevant titleI'd go even further and argue existentialism is way better, because it stood the test of time. Same goes for stoicism. Alot of self-help revolves around some guy without any academic or intellectual credentials blabbermouthing about how he made it, while conveniently forgetting survivorship bias. Alot of self-help books also have a knack for weird pseudo-scientific detours, that talk about why it's good to daily cram 12 vitamin pills in your mouth, or why you should stay away from WIFI routers (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 02:00 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Physical attraction is more problematic that most people make it out to beAgreed. At this moment, I believe, the biggest problem is not the message of overcoming ones weaknesses, but rather the disproportionate reward that awaits for those who are at the top. There should be indeed a balance between inspiring to be better, while at the same time not denying the humanity of those who cannot achieve it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 02:46 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Physical attraction is more problematic that most people make it out to beHit the nail right on the head man. I fully agree with your addition. It's a truly toxic aspect of society in my opinion. At times, it denies the humanity of those who cannot, or don't want to excel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 02:11 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Physical attraction is more problematic that most people make it out to beI would like to point out that there is hierarchy in alot of other things, other than physical attractiveness. You point out, for example that if the same would be true for intelligence, people would be outraged. But I'd argue that this, like many other attributes provides overcompensating priviledges. I'd argue that people who are intelligent are vastly more priviledged and are treated more humanely in every aspect of society. From income to being taken seriously in social settings (if you have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/20 04:28 AM |
| 6 | Women don't like sensitive men. But rather men with a *sensitive side*.I don't know man, I'm a pretty sensitive dude. Raised by my mom with a sister. When I fought against who I was by acting like I was more tough or more manly, no girl would ever be interested in me. But when I stopped resisting that shit in my 20's, suddely everything clicked into place. With that being said, I'm also quite stoic at times, maybe that's a factor. In the end It's about congruence, I believe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/20 12:54 PM |
| 3 | [Q4M] how many of you can honestly say that you would date yourself if you were a woman?Like everything socially, it's intersectional. The way both genders treat oneanother elevates their problems and differences. It creates a form of sexual dichotomy, and a dichotomy in our wants and needs. If men and women didn't need something from one another their behaviour would be widely different from what we see today. What you now see as a tendency for problematic behaviour, would be abolished because men wouldn't put women on a pedestal anymore and women would stop acting entitled and re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/20 10:39 PM |
| 5 | Normal, well adjusted young women do not go for older men or significant age gap relationships.A thousand times this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/19 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Being an Interesting and Engaging Person is more Important than being Nice or and AssholeI have come to believe that the key to being attractive is authenticity. In our culture, this is especially the case for men, but women aren't ruled out. Philosophers like Sartre and Heidegger talk about this concept in great detail. They both link the authentic actor to being more free. But what does this actually imply when we look at dating? Let's have a look: Absolute authenticity esentially means that the individual is dislodged from outside pressures that force him or her to adjust behavio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/19 03:28 PM |
| 0 | What would the dating market and the world in general look like if everyone looked the same?On your last point: The person you commented on appears to be refuting the normative claim Peterson makes about hierarchy, not the descriptive observation about the lobsters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/19 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.The data appears to be aligning with what you say. At least the data I know of in regards to victims of street violence and crime in general. Yes, men are more often targets. However, the reason for this might be (and this is speculative on my part) that women tend to avoid situations that highers their risk of being a victim, due to being conditioned as the weaker sex. Furthermore, the claim I presented is more of a reflection on a psychological reality. I mean if I would be 30cm shorter and we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.I'd say both of them look and behave conventionally feminine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.Agreed with your last point. Lots of data suggests that women aren't in more danger than men in particular when it comes to violence. However, I'd argue that if one feels weaker, one tends to be more on their toes due to being conditioned to be more careful. This point is highly speculative though, I don't have any data to support this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.Tough question for me personally. But I am pretty sure most people will align with your thought process. At least in the country where I come from. It's quite distressing to think about as a man, actually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 04:30 PM |
| 5 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.It's not completely comparable, but it's the best qualitative data we can collect in terms of overall shifts in treatment. Due to having both experience as how one is treated as a man, and how one is treated as a woman. If one looks and acts like a woman, one gets treated as a woman in a day-to-day setting. Which is the very core of the argument I am making. I am not making any onthological claims about what it means to be a woman, but how one tends to be treated if they are perceived as one. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 04:25 PM |
| 128 | Being a young women isnt as fun as people on here make out.While I agree that women have their own set of struggles when it comes to dating and life in general, I want to add something quite notable. I know two trans women, and I follow one trans woman on YouTube (ContraPoints), and they all tell me the same story in how it was to transition from male to female in terms of treatment. It generally boils down to this: as a woman you feel unsafe, as a man you feel invisible. They all tell me that feeling invisible is the worse end of the deal, but this is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 12:35 PM |
| 2 | WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS WHEN A WOMAN TURNS THIRTY (AS WRITTEN BY A MAN)Magnum opus of purple pill debate. It makes me realise we only just began to tap into the true potential of art. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/19 12:57 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Flirting with girls is fucking easy if you already know how to make friends with other guys. The only guys who feel like it's a "performance" to get girls are socially inept.Lots of sociological data also suggests that there is a corrolation between having friends and developing an identity earlier in life. Since an authentic and a well-rounded identity, along with having trained social skills, highers your chances of people finding you interesting, this makes lots of sense. But I do believe that you need to be able to build a certain type of tension if you have romantic interests - however having authentic social skills makes this so, so much easier. So much in fac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/19 04:28 PM |
| 1 | "A true RP man would never let you know he's RP"Then we have a strong disagreement here comrade. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/19 12:20 PM |
| 0 | "A true RP man would never let you know he's RP"Drawing a line between freedom and equality is a false dychotomy. Read up on bottom-up, libertarian leftism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/19 12:13 PM |
| 6 | "A true RP man would never let you know he's RP"It was an honest question because I am not living in America, that's why I asked. I therefore have no clue what kind of people liberals generally tend to be in your country. However with this being said, I still believe that there is a reasonable chance that you have created a caricature of liberals inside of your head. Because how is the conservative crowd who eats up Fox News any different? Or people who unironically believe in the great replacement, or cultural marxism, for that matter? I'm n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/19 03:26 PM |
| 6 | "A true RP man would never let you know he's RP"Honest questions: Don't you think equality is a noble goal? And why do you think lying to liberals is easy? Do you believe political orientation affects ones susceptibility to lies? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/19 02:15 PM |
| 1 | As a Non American Man I believe that in America Men over value sex.Like another post already pointed out, this is a side-effect of romanticism. Romanticism is truly something that refuses to die in Western culture. It's this notion that love transcends all, and that with it, sex is part of the sublime. It's also highly disturbing how our capitalist system commodifies it to levels that are, in my opinion, borderline insane. We have collectively made sex a pathological activity that tells us how loved or valueable we are. From the James Bond franchise, to parfume… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/19 01:27 PM |
| 2 | What should men's strategy be with women, once they are fully red pilled and aware of female sexual strategy?Liberals*. There are a shit ton of leftists that are libertarians. The left ≠ top-down per definition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/19 01:39 AM |
| 4 | CMV: The Single Most Important Trait a Man Can Develop is an Internal Locus of ControlFunny how your ethics are totally different in your words than in your behaviour. Take responsibility for me misinterpreting you, my dude. Don't blame my autism. Blame yourself for me not understanding you. Take all responsibility, only thing you have control over, right? ¯\(ツ)/¯ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/19 04:20 PM |
| 6 | CMV: The Single Most Important Trait a Man Can Develop is an Internal Locus of ControlYour argument is a false dichotomy and you are strawmanning. If you blame others for their mistakes, it does not rule out self-reflection. You can self-reflect and adjust behaviour to reduce your chances of being t-boned again, while at the same time pressure others to do the same and take responsibility where they should. If you take all responsibility for everything that ever happens to you, you are susceptible for others taking advantage of you. And yes, you are right in that nobody else is g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/19 02:04 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Bloops assuming "insecurity" is the reason men can't get dates is unfairly blaming them for their problems.I agree. But you could argue that doing it all the time steps back into the realm of incongruence. If you use self deprecation to pathalogically signal to your surroundings that you are inherently flawed and nothing more, it gives off the signal that you see yourself as unworthy of anything. Like most things in social interaction, it should be used authentically and at the right times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/19 01:46 PM |
| 18 | CMV: Bloops assuming "insecurity" is the reason men can't get dates is unfairly blaming them for their problems.I don't agree with the "men shouldn't show feelings" thing, but I do understand where you're coming from, so let me try to elaborate: In my personal experience showing emotions is actually really attractive to women. It's just that most men confuse showing emotion to being whiney or extremely self-aware about everything they do (which admittedly is pretty hard to break out of, and not really your fault if you had a bad childhood or looks that perpetuate this). Showing emotions of vulnerability, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/19 02:33 AM |
| 2 | Why do Red Pillers fetishize traditional masculinity?I am not calling you out specifically. It's just an observation I did when people talk about this issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 01:04 PM |
| -5 | Why do Red Pillers fetishize traditional masculinity?Alot of you guys have this idea of Traditional Masculinity from 50's capitalist propaganda. There was alot of toxic shit going on back then that you don't see because feminism hadn't made the private public yet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 11:31 AM |
| 3 | A Persons Pill Color is Directly Tied to Their Native Socioeconomic ClassGreat post. We need more class awareness in this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 08:08 AM |
| 3 | Leftists and the male sex.Good question. I think the same question goes for democracy in general. In order for it to function, you need a pool of people that is at least a majority. I don't think it is ethical to force anyone into it, but I am convinced that class awareness is key to create a majority. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/19 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Leftists and the male sex.Depends on the leftie. For me, I am in favour of syndicalism. This means the deconstruction of undemocratic power structures on the workfloor and flipping the pyramid on it's head, so to speak. If you do not want to participate, that's fine, but it indirectly also disqualifies you from having influence (just like in a capitalist system basically, when you have a low-wage job - or in a democracy) The main goal of this system is to make the economy serve the people instead of the people serving th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/19 04:55 PM |
| 8 | Women typically have lower self-esteem than men.Womens depression is not a meme. Most, if not all, statistics show that women are more often depressed than men. The difference however, which could be supported by your anecdotal evidence, is that women tend to have better and bigger support systems to deal with their issues. They often don't need anonymous platforms for support, because it is socially acceptable to talk about them in the real world. This could also skew the data on depression cases. Men, on the other hand, tend to hide their p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/19 03:21 PM |
| 2 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.I don't think hate is the right word. But rather unaffected, or distant. How old are you if I may ask? If you don't mind, I can tell you a story about my experience with early-life insecurity. Alot of problems with insecurity can be dissolved later in life, but some need the right training. Me personally, I thought about this for very long and chose a specific party where I did something that tremendously helped me with my validation seeking insecurity. I wanted to be kind like always, but activ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/19 09:24 PM |
| 5 | People take the nice guys bullshit too far.It all has to do with framing in my opinion. I wholeheartedly believe that kindness is undervalued in todays society. My main social value system therefore is to be genuinely kind hearted and always trying to bring people something of value. I was your typical nice guy in high school and didn't get attention from girls at all, which kinda hurt. But I still stuck to my core values in college, and added other things on top of it. like being outgoing and experimental, actually slightly caring about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/19 12:14 PM |
| 0 | Should I 'own' nerdy things, or try to hide them from women?Fucking own it dude. Nothing is dorky if you own it. True dorkness stems from being ashamed of your hobbies. The stuff you own cannot, and will not be unattractive. | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 12:13 PM |
| 3 | I get degraded by the girl I rejected. What does this mean?Out of sheer curiosity and intrigue. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/15 11:34 PM |
| 2 | I get degraded by the girl I rejected. What does this mean?Both comments so far make a lot of sense. There is a sidenote I have to make about this. There are some days, like twice a month, in where she is extremely fucking clingy all out of the blue. Constantly wanting to hug, constantly touching me and following me when I go for a smoke. Does she do this out of frustration? | /r/askTRP | 06/08/15 07:16 PM |
| 1 | 4th PartyThe first thing that comes to mind is: move around a lot. This is a simple, but effective way to establish spacial dominance, assertiveness and social status/capability. Spice situations up for yourself, never stick to a specific place for too long within the room(s) the party takes place in, even if that means you need to abandon the people you know. The ideal situation would be if some of your friends start to pick up on your assertive behaviour and follow you around like sheep. However, don't… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/15 11:00 PM |
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