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I know why people would be willing to date me, and I know what I have to offer. I'm nobodies first choice if they don't know me. I have a severe skin condition on my face neck and chest (although it's goimg away for the first time in 8 years it seems) a permanent limp, a disfigured leg, and I smell and look bad most of the time. However, wherever I am, I stand out, I get noticed. Regardless, I never have trouble keeping or finding a partner because I find what I need and what is realistic and ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 07:45 PM
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I can run a business in a field where women had very few opportunities to enter or learn (apprenticeships denied) up until the last 10 years. When I got out on my own at first, clients were much more likely to turn me away when they found I was a woman, it's only happened 2 times in the last 3 years. Even how I got my apprenticeship was fucked. But I got a real shot at a real apprenticeship once I had proven myself as more than capable, but it involved my prior mentor having to become severely i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 01:21 PM
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I actually got into RP to help my two closest male friends and colleagues. One going through an extremely nasty divorce and the other just moving his child to another state and breaking the agreement they had with his newborn child because he all of a sudden wasn't 'Christian' enough (hamstering.) I throw a bit of the RP their way 1-2x a week. I'm not anti-feminist, I know RPW should be, but kids, marriage and children aren't for everyone, including myself. I give good solid, unbiased advice usu…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 01:11 PM
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I mean, I hate to be that person, but he could just throw the pizza box out. RP relationships are generally focused on defined gender roles, but it's still a team effort and honestly, it's easier to throw away a pizza box than to be a dick about it. Really, I just hate fighting tbh and don't see the point in it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 01:23 AM
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I quit college after my parents divorce. I had a 4.0. My father was suicidal and my sisters and I watched him in shifts. My youngest sister is special needs and didn't handle the change well either and my grandmother later got systemic staff infection and went into a coma after my dad moved away. I never went back. I just kept taking shitty jobs to keep the family afloat. Then my suster got knocked up and the father got put in prison for being a child sex offender, so I felt I had to help for th…
/r/askTRP22/06/19 09:08 PM
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Sorry, I'm a little townie as I grew up on rural ranches. I'd say a 'bit' as in near every day from age 9-12. I live in the America, mostly in Texas.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 09:00 PM
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I can only say what I've seen and experienced. I grew up poor af and most of my friends were too. And yes. I got groped plenty, raped a bit, molested, as did many of my friends griwing up. The wall was the best thing that happened to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 01:41 PM
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I'm not around a lot of women because I work inan area where I'm the only gal for a 3 hour distance each way, and I don't go out often with women unless it's my sisters. My friendships are with colleagues mostly, and I've a few friends from highschool, but they are make too, aside from my sisters. My sisters see me as the 'leader/organizer/planner' so it's not a problem there. My partner works in the music industry and yeah, chicks touch his beard, slap his ass, try to talk him up but it doesn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 01:38 PM
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I think I've noticed 2 good looking guys in the last 9 years. I've been with one of them for 8 years. I notice beautiful women all the time though. I mostly work with and am around men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 01:27 PM
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I can't afford not to be picky. I have every reason to be pickier. Thankfully, I've had a LTR for near a decade that I believe I chose well on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 01:25 PM
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Not all people can slim down to a size 0-2 and still be healthy. I'm a size 0, but I'm also a very petite person. I work very hard to gain weight because weight is power in my career. However, I've known gals with body types, hips, asses etc that kept them from ever squeezing into anything smaller than a size 6 and they were still skinny and ribby af.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 01:16 PM
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You are young. Try your A game with the nose, improve yourself, try different styles of hair/facial hair etc. I've known many successful, admirable men with prominent noses. If you give it your best try and still want surgery, get it. It's your life, your decision.
/r/askTRP15/06/19 02:54 AM
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Mostly we shoe horses or build knives. I shoe horses and rarely make knives. I got a job holding horses and cleaning shoes for a farrier, learned everything I could and then got an apprenticeship with a farrier that was willing to teach me. I went to college, had a 4.0, but paying all that money for a degree so I would likely have to intern and work for others and be their bitch and MAYBE, maybe start my own practice if things worked out didn't seem right for me, especially after seeing others g…
/r/askTRP12/06/19 04:39 PM
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Or you could utilize your time learning a skilled trade. Then you can go make the money and keep it. (Aside from taxes, but my mentor taught me cash is harder to track and tax.) I'm a farrier/blacksmith by trade. Yeah, I only got paid $200 a day while apprenticing, but part of the apprenticeship was that I was owed an education in exchange for my time/body and once I got good enough, he threw accounts of my own my way. I work as much as I want to, which is a lot, but many just work enough to liv…
/r/askTRP12/06/19 04:24 PM
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For us it was simple, we both agree there is no reason to bring the givernment into it. If it ends, we can handle it ourselves. We want no children, marriage does make the paperwork and bureaucracy involved much easier and less problematic. Neither of our jobs offer health insurance, health insurance is a reason we would consider making it legal. Marriage status can make a couple be seen as more serious , stable and otherwise committed regardless for big purchases among other things. This isn't …
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/19 01:27 PM
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I've paud the whole bill when my current LTR and I were first seeing each other. I tend to pay for everything but his car payment and phone but it makes more sense in our situation. I will say this, having many guy friends, my male friends are more expensive to take out to eat than my girl friends. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 01:21 PM
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8 is actually enneagram, but most usually understand it. 8 is enneagram for challenger archetype
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 01:45 AM
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Talked about our stance on marriage (against it) first encounter (8 years ago) we've been happily not married since. It's best to get that talk out of the way as early as possible before you invest too much.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 07:46 PM
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Pay off debt. Talk to your superiors in the field, look at their careers and what qualifications you need to obtain the more desireable ones. There are lucrative and far more stable jobs in oil than rigging (which in my state is a feast and famine ordeal, men blowing their money on big trucks and partying and then getting laid off due to the mercurial nature of the job.) Grind and save until you've decided. Talk to people that are getting their shit together and those that succeeded and are livi…
/r/askTRP11/06/19 05:52 PM
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My mentor in the farrier world once told me he admired that I 'always took the path of least resistance.' It sounds submissive, but honestly, I just don't play games I can't win and I'm willing to get physical or confrontational if that's what will get it done. I understand heirarchies, but I definitely don't put myself at the bottom in many of them. When I do, I'm getting something from it. I am generally more dominant in my family, they're dysfunctional and bad at life, but it's not self-impos…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 04:58 PM
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Honestly, I'm just interested in RP philosophy, and even the women that adhere to it. I'm not generally what most would consider feminine, and it started as a possible way to learn more about what being 'feminine' even entails. I have a happy LTR, and the RPW gives me a more in depth look at the reasoning in so many feminine things I lack or have rejected. Personally, I take what I like from RP and try it out, I view situations through the lenses and perspectives offered in RP to gain more insig…
/r/askTRP11/06/19 04:07 AM
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Gamma males are my favorite. RP pushes this either/or dichotomy between alpha and beta pretty hard, but it's not like those are the only men that exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 01:28 AM
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Don't have sex with men that refuse to wear protection. I'm on BC pill and my LTR of 8 years still wears a condom EVERY TIME, and when the condom breaks, I go get the day after pill after I stop shaking and recover from the panic attack. Sex has too much risk and it's pretty much killed my libido because no doctor wants to perform a tubal ligation still.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 01:24 AM
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I'm actually pretty low SMV tbh, I have a skin condition on my face, neck and chest that makes me look a bit like Freddy Kreuger, a disfigured leg and a limp, throw the body of a 12 year old boy in there and that's me. Beefy lumberjack is pretty spot on for my partner though. You don't have to be opposites, you just have to show what you can bring to the table that they can benefit from themselves. For me it's nurturing, organizing, being thoughtful and supportive as well as a good advisor (my p…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 06:21 PM
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Also, tge dynamic in my relationship is I'm masculine in some areas (ambitious, driven, goal oriented, aggressive) but my partner is even MORE masculine. He's an ESTJ 8 (challenger) archetype if follow MBTI. So it helps to know and vet what men you want.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 05:44 PM
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I'd highly suggest you read some of Carl Jungs work on the anima and animus. Women are capable of being masculine and do have it within them (our animus) but sometimes we are raised in it and it overshadows our anima (femininity). It's a survival technique of men and women and has a function (like viking women, women in the wild west etc when the men went away, they had to step up into more masculine roles to keep it together, but when the men came back, roles went back as well.) RP tends to see…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 05:42 PM
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I'm similar in some ways to you, I was raised the 'boy' out of my families 3 daughters. My father took me to work and taught me his trades, all my serious jobs were mainly dominated by men as those jobs pay more. Even in my current career I have to drive hours to be in the same area as another female farrier. However, my mother was a woman, a woman that could eat a man at 5 ft tall, she tended bar most of my life. She did teach me her skills in slinging alcohol to mostly men. What they want, how…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 04:25 PM
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Not really, I'm Discordian by religion, but logically stay and be continually hen pecked for marriage and children, or leave and start over. She has a limited time to have kids, women pry for committment to ensure security. But men don't have a limited time to have children, and women of fertile age can be attracted to high SMV older men. He could do what he wants but have to start over or he could be lazy and henpecked. She's not the only woman in the world.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 06:07 AM
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My sister does online dating and usually proceeds to selectively narrow down her options through how well the text communications go. It's always one at a time, but it's her biggest deciding factor/stage in the process. You get through that you have a fine shot. 1) Don't be weird. 2) Girls that decide through text want to wait to select further / "know you better" / vet you before they meet you. You either have to either just 'WOW' them, or go through the critical process.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 03:01 AM
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Ah, not quite burned, broke my femur and everything went wrong with the surgeries and developed hormonal and extremely severe cystic acne that I've spent thousands trying to fix with very little success. It's really not that bad as its made life easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 11:33 PM
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Thank you, but I assure you, I'm a PITA and a horse gal, so crazy af to boot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 10:56 PM
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I've never really lived inside the FSM. I'm in there, I'm sure, but I work with men, in a male dominated industry (and almost always have because that's where the money is) and because of this I don't really meet women outside of my friends and colleagues girlfriends and wives or my customers. I did bartend and wait tables on the side to help control my social anxiety and stay busy. I always end up in leadership positions somehow regardless of gender dynamics. People like me and respect me and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 08:15 PM
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Leave her. It'll be best for both of you. She wants kids, she has limited time, you don't have limited time.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 07:55 PM
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Different, but marriage is in decline and I think the flexibility of language allows for terms to be reallocated or allocated in general. If there is a need to differentiate seriousness in non-marital relationships, it may turn into something. It's like we usually view cohabitating pairs as more serious than non cohabitating pairs now days.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 03:07 PM
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I'd have to agree. I always identified and went to work more with my father as I liked the outdoors abd animals and got along best with my dad, I have mostly worked in jobs held by all men, but even bartending and waiting tables, I was dealing with the wants and needs of men. My SMV went and stayed extremely low after 22 (severe skin condition on face, difigured leg, permenant limp) and still, I have many men that rely on me in my life and a great partner. Men like what I have to offer, but it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 02:50 PM
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I'm very low SMV, but have high RMV for a specific demographic. I maintain, improve and operate from there. I have a face like Freddy Kreuger, a permenant limp, a disfigured leg and always look like a homeless, white trash chick. The men I attracted before my looks and youth went all fucky were shit, and I passed up on all but one. Looks were getting in the way anyway. After my shit got fucked up I was attracting men of a quality and standard I desired, but there were less of them, which was als…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 02:07 PM
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My partner and I call each other just that, 'partners' it happened not long after shit got truly serious and we became financially and otherwise more seriously entangled in each others lives. We both run our own businesses, so if we split we can each survive, we have no kids, no reason to drag the government into it. Sometimes he mentions marriage, but that's not what we agreed to at the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 01:54 PM
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I usually don't care to shave or invest unnecessary money into my appearance, also, I have 0 time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 01:08 PM
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He has told me his preference on body hair many times over the last 8 years. I don't usually shave unless I'm wearing shorts or tank tops and even then... And it's regardless of oral, which is a rare occurence for me to receive from him anyway. He's got a lot of sexual hang ups anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 01:07 PM
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I like sex, I really like orgasming more though, and I have a business, and groceries, and a house to clean and family (I don't have kids, I coparented my niece for 6 years and took in a homeless teen until she got self sufficient and they really do kill the mood and occupy your mind too much at times for me.) It's much quicker and rewarding to just masturbate, plus my partner always wants me to shave and look nice for sex, I work 10-16 hrs a day 6 days a week. He's pretty vanilla and tired all …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 02:58 AM
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Church, really rural (and/or) poor places, ranches (although these women tend to be more hard working and less docile.) My half sister was homeschooled, but finding those gals of appropriate age and out of school would probably be an online ordeal.
/r/RedPillWives04/06/19 07:57 PM
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Mine would be more like a mix of old world match making and personal self-improvement, knowing what you are looking for and vetting for it, knowing what you have to offer and what you should work on. I say this as a very low SMV business woman, so it would be somewhat similar to my approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 05:38 PM
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When I was 22 I ended my engagement. Things had been rocky for a while, we were hs sweethearts or some dumb shit, been together 5 years. I had stopped living with him and moved out on my own 4 or 5 months prior to this. I still paid my share of rent and bills though. I didn't talk to him any more than necessary and then I just had a huge nervous breakdown and ended it. I didn't tell him or anyone why. It didn't matter. Anyway, I was the bitch, and I'll always be the bitch for breaking his heart.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 02:02 PM
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C, except sigma men exist so... not really a problem for me. Also, I could just date chicks too. I'm better at pleasuring myself anyway, so celibacy isn't an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 05:23 AM
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I didn't find my current LTR of 8 years attractive at first. I tend to go for chubby but string guys that look like they work hard outdoors all day. This dude was bony and scrawny, he has a huge nose, huge crazy eyebrows, a weird mole and visible psoriasis. I'm no prize either myself. But... He had an extremely expressive face. He's very excitable, had his shit somewhat together and we have a lot of very niche things in common. I don't find like minds often. I know a good deal when I see one. He…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 05:16 AM
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Cancel the whole thing.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 05:06 AM
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I'm glad it went well! Just my extra 2 cents, if the relationship fails, at least it was fair pay wise and no one feels resentment. BUT If the relationship goes well and turns into more, you have two people that are willing to put in their share of money and effort into shared goals. We've bought 2 cars, worked on our credit, taken vacations, as well as groceries, rent etc. Money and finances are considered one of the leading causes for divorce so it's nice to establish that dynamic when the sta…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/19 07:37 PM
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I always pay my way. I don't get along with guys that aren't cool with it so I just don't bother with them if they aren't chill. I actually got my current guy by turning around and buying shots after he offered. I'm an assertive gal, my partner is an assertive guy, but not insecure. We get shit done. It's rarely problematic if you vet dudes and are willing to pass on the ones who aren't cool with it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/19 02:05 PM
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I always enjoyed the brief and to the point descriptions of love from psychological perspectives. So much gets lost in trying to romanticize, anecdotalize, explain metaphorically or any lengthy speech on 'what is love' that I think we don't see the skeleton of the thing itself. Consummate love - intimacy, passion, committment (Familial/friendly love is intimacy (being close and vulnerable not necessarily sexual) and commitment, fatuous love is passion and intimacy, empty love is passion and comm…
/r/RedPillWives01/06/19 08:26 PM
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I actually hit the wall very early, (26 years old at the time, severe skin condition, disfigurement and crippled) but have found it somewhat freeing. That's easier to say in my position, I've had a long term partner for 8 years now, and red pill thinking has given me a lot to improve my relationship. The little things can really matter to the right man, and with the right support, a man can achieve much more and enjoy life more (at least from my perspective.) I wish you the best, and just saying…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/19 07:28 PM
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I already have a LTR so it's just interesting reading and a lot of the elements are interesting to think on. Plus, I'm pretty dang post wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 12:31 PM
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My male partner is much more likely yo show 'childlike' emotion. He's passionate and joyful. I wouldn't say it's immature. He gets excited by things he likes, and we've a life set up for his enjoyment. I love how enjoys things. I'm much more reserved and risk averse, so I'm not one of those 'bright, happy full of life' gals my partner has mentioned. He enjoys when I enjoy the few things I enjoy, and while I'm not near as open or enthusiastic about it, he still loves my 'skeptical, donkey-like' n…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 02:02 AM
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I'm already in a LTR relationship, but being intriduced to red pill philosophy has made me reevaluate a lot. 1) I notice behaviours and ideas expressed by the men in my life and compare them to if they are close, off or spot on with RP philosophy. 2) I do think of the motives of my partners behaviour when it seems like 'dread game' especially. I think it is interesting to hypothesize why he would try to make someone as low SMV as me jealous, but in a way I think it's kind of healthy and normal b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 01:49 AM
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I think certain men like certain things in women. I'm extremely low SMV (crippled, deformed leh, severe cystic acne on face, neck and chest for 8 years), yet I've maintained a healthy LTR for nearly 8 years. I'm difficult, challenging and extremely laissez-faire with my partner who is way above me in looks, and very masculine. He likes a challenge though, he's an ESTJ enneagram 8, for those into MBTI and enneagram, we help each other grow, which is our prime directive in a way as a couple; grow,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 01:30 AM
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I've actually scoured all the red pill info I could for advice on 'how to be more feminine' I had no good role models growing up and my social circle and area aren't ideal places to find one. It always boils down to: How you dress If it's what your man thinks is feminine. My man is afraid of words like 'fallopian', not going to take advice on what femininity is from him obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 01:20 AM
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Sorry, I was referring to her receptiveness to TPR principles in their relationship.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 10:36 PM
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INTJ 5 (age 29) in a LTR with an ESTJ 8 (age 33). I have no clue how to be feminine. I excel at keeping men (work, friends, relationships) happy without compromising myself, so I never tried to be more feminine until now. My partner likes girls who are 'bright, happy and full of life' I am none of those things, even on my best day.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 08:26 PM
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If you both discuss RP theory, why not initiate and ask for more variety with your LTR? A year imto a sexual relationship you can both stagnate, or you can keep escalating and trying new things.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 07:46 PM
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I didn't see anything in the rules against females posting per se, but if I am in the wrong here let me know and I'll delete. I recently got into the RPW because I have no clue how to be feminine and a lack of role models to learn to be more so. So far it's been enlightening, more so than other sources I've checked out.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 05:16 PM
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I've been building my business since before I met my LTR. I've been making more than him for 7 years. Honestly, it's a non issue with us. My money is our money, but I manage it as I'm better at saving. I've always unintentionally out-earned my partners, but it's rarely ever been an issue. I tend to use my situation to allow my partner to focus more on building a lucrative career he will be happy with without having to worry about being the provider at the same time. I've helped him buy equipment…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:52 PM
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I have a similar situation from my knees down. I used a lot of scar healing oils/lotions (mederma was honestly the most effective.) I got tattoos to cover up most of it, but my partner isn't redpill adherent, so he's not really worried about the implication of tattoos. He did not like the scars at all though. I like looking at the tattoos a lot more than the old scars and am a little less self conscious because of it. Just my experience, but at the end of the day, it's up to you and you have oth…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:36 PM
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My goal for this month was to try to be more feminine dressing/hygeine. I've still yet to figure out what that even entails for me, but I've shaved daily for the last month despite hating it and never really bothering before so that's something.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:17 PM
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To be honest, I never wanted kids, once I became ok with not wanting kids but knowing the future may change that, I was able to be more comfortable around kids. I co-parented my niece for the first 6 years of her life, my partner also has a niece who who see often. I work around kids and get to teach them things every now and then. Kids are cool, kids are the future, but they aren't for everyone. Long story short, keep things framed in a realistic perspective, honestly think of the possible futu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 05:05 AM
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INTJ as well, new to red pill thinking though. I'm totally lost on how to be feminine or if that can even be integrated into my life at this point in time. My LTR is ESTJ 8, so that helps, in comparison to him I do feel more feminine than typical, as well as compared to most of my colleagues. I don't feel that 'feminine by comparison' is good enough though.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 04:54 AM
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You are right, and I am working towards an achievable future where I don't. In the meantime, it's a service I offer. I excel at keeping things on their path and removing obstacles. Those around me appreciate it, it's a weird thing I guess, I'm trying to find the middle 'healthy' ground, like this gal.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 12:21 AM
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I'm naturally somewhat like that anyway. I have serious anxiety and depression so it's best to put it toward constructive use.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 11:59 PM
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Honestly, I had this problem for a long time until I got into MBTI (Myers Briggs Typology) and learned the archetypes. I attracted male and female feelers as friends and partners (people that more often make emotional based decisions as opposed to more logic based decisions.) I wasn't happy with my social life. I learned to spot people that had more qualities that I valued more easily and how to appeal and relate to them. I'm actually dating a guy that's probably the same type as you. You probab…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 11:46 PM
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I'm naturally very attentive because my mother was very critical and abusive. I work for a very demanding man half of the week and my partner is extremely demanding and self oriented as well. I thrive with these people by using what my close friends call 'Chicken Little-ing' I work myself up by thinking of all the things I could mess up and do wrong and how it will affect everyone else. I just stay in that state of mind until I get Saturday afternoon alone, which is my 'me' time. I literally wak…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 10:21 PM
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If it's working, I wouldn't change it. He might enjoy how candid you seem. Just stay honest and you're fine.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 04:07 AM
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I pay all the bills aside from his phone and car. I also work 6-7 days a week. He only works 2 or 3 tops. I give him free reign over what groceries and other necessary items are purchased. Anything he forgets, I go get. If he needs something like clothes, I give him the money and go with him if he needs me to. Anything he doesn't clean, I clean. He generally cooks for himself as I work past dinner. If you aren't around a lot, they remember they know how to take care of themselves. I do my own la…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/19 04:37 PM
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