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Men are extremely selfish. Of course he bought you a “gift” of something he wanted instead of getting you something you’d enjoy. Actually, a birthday gift that my NVX gave me was what made me realize that I had to dump him. He gave me a T-shirt of HIS favorite band (I hated his music and he knew this,) leggings that had a video game printed on them, and a video game. That’s the moment that I realized that this man didn’t know me at all, even after giving him 3 years of my life. He honestly traum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 02:28 PM
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This USED to be me! I would go out of my way to give my NV ex these amazing & expensive gifts, meanwhile he would always get me something cheap or something that was usually for him (for example: a video game, I don’t play video games.) Now, I never spend my hard earned cash on men, I make them spend their cash on me by taking me on meaningful dates. I spend my money on MY bills, MY savings, MY future and MYSELF. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:25 AM
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I agree. My ex loved his dog and was very good to him. However, he hated any other dog that wasn’t his and he was a narcissistic, racist, selfish jerk with a grandiose complex. Being good with animals doesn’t mean anything. Leaving him was the best thing I have ever done in my life…I get queasy even thinking about him. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:50 PM
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Exactly! I didn’t even let the scrote touch me! Also, he broke one of my deal beakers so I blocked him…the next day he called me 3 times from a Google voice number & he texted me. Blocked him again without responding. He was definitely gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:54 PM
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I recently went on a date with a guy that told me he bit off a hang nail and then his nail got infected to the point it fell off. 🤮 He then said “I went to the doctor and they told me to always wash my hands and mouth after I bite off a hang nail.” I immediately added him to my “ick” list and never saw him again. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:48 PM
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And women are the ones that supposedly are “indecisive” & “weak.” 🙄🙄🙄 They’re the ones that easily crack when they’re under pressure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:24 AM
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Oh for sure! Which is why I blocked him. He can’t fool me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:13 AM
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Perfectly stated! I recently met a man & when he asked me out, he said “we can go do something fun like go bowling. That way it’s not like a formal date and there’s no pressure.” 🚩🚩🚩 I said to him “So it’s a date but not a date? Sorry I don’t do that, I only go on actual dates.” It was crazy how quickly he flipped and said that he would actually like to take me on a real date. Needless to say, his initial words turned me off completely and I decided to block him. I’m not kidding when I say that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:01 AM
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I spent about 20 years with a strange sensation on my face & I would have “attacks” where my mind would be very foggy, I would feel electrical shocks on my cheek and my face would spasm. I would go to the (male) doctor and he would just keep prescribing me anti-depressants and he would always tell me it was anxiety or depression. I KNEW something was wrong with me…I could feel it inside of my head. One day, I got an attack that wouldn’t go away, on the fourth day of being in agonizing pain, I we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:25 AM
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Bravo!! 👏🏼 Well said! When a man disrespects you once and you forgive him, it just gives him the green light to continue walking all over you! Don’t tolerate the disrespect, not even once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:57 AM
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You are spot on! I immediately recognized that it was his attempt to make himself feel better. I healed on my own without his apology long ago, I think he can figure out how to forgive himself on his own for how awful he was to me. And if he doesn’t, well it’s not my problem anymore. I have no desire to “hear him out.” Also, how awful for the man that date raped you to come back to tell you that…all for his own validation. I’m so proud of the fact that you healed and were able to see through his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:36 PM
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My NVX that I wasted 4 precious years of my youth sent me a friend request on social media 8 years after we broke up….& 2 months after he got married. He wanted to “apologize” and see how I was doing. The question is “Why though?” If you’ve been married for 2 months then you should be happy with your new spouse and not thinking about an ex girlfriend! I stopped thinking about him months after we broke up. Most men truly are trash and they almost always have ulterior motives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:00 PM
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Yes, this has happened to me many times unfortunately. I always just keep blocking them until they disappear forever. I do remember one time when I was in high school, I told this disgusting scrote to leave me alone, wouldn’t listen so I blocked him. I worked at a restaurant & I lived very far from him. Well one day, he showed up at my job as a “customer.” I was terrified. I told a coworker & she waited on his table (he still saw me.) I was so scared, that after he left, I unblocked his number a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:17 PM
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My NVX put me on a diet without me knowing. He would portion out my food, count my calories and would give me “healthy” foods. He would always eat chips, chocolate and junk food in front of me (to taunt me.) I’m human, and naturally, I wanted some of the junk he was eating. Whenever I would ask him if I could have some chips, he would always count 5 individual chips for me, meanwhile, he would gobble up the entire family size bag of chips. I didn’t realize what he was doing to me until I visited…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:45 AM
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My birthday was a few weeks ago & a scrote that I was in a “shituationship” (AKA: FWB…this was during my pickme days) with years ago, sent me a “Happy birthday” message on social media. I have this scrote blocked on my phone & all of my social media accounts. He made a new account just to reach out to me. The best part was that he wished me a “happy birthday” the day after my birthday. I entertained this scrote with commitment-free sex for years (cringe) and he still couldn’t remember my exact b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:15 PM
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🤮🤮🤮 I almost threw up my lunch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:10 PM
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Oh my goodness! The audacity of that scrote to ask for a ring that YOU paid for!!! I also took a NVX on an expensive international trip (something I regret deeply) but I learned to never do that again. I don’t care if I meet the HVM of my dreams, I will never put my credit/money towards a man. It took me a while to get out of the financial hole but I was able to do it. I’m hoping all of the best to you!! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:36 PM
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I agree! It’s a huge gamble that I’m not willing to take. I will figure all of that out on my own. I don’t need/want children in order to live a happy & fulfilling life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:24 PM
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Right?! I’m so glad I left that NVM. He was a pompous narcissist that walked around thinking he was an amazing & rare “king.” Meanwhile, he was already bald in his late 20’s, had ED (which he blamed on a medication he was taking,) and treated his mom extremely poorly. He’s a terrible person. He repulses me to my core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:16 PM
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Same here! I worked in education and that did it for me as well. I don’t want children. For me, this world is becoming more corrupted and scary with each passing second, why would I want to bring a human into this ugly world?! In my culture, if you don’t have a child, then you’ve technically “failed” as a woman. I’m constantly being told “you need a child, who’s going to take care of you when you’re old? Who’s going to bring joy to your life? Etc.” My answer to these questions is the same: mysel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:49 AM
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My NVX once “bought me” a designer purse for my birthday. The purse was on sale ($140) and he only paid $100. I had to pay for the rest of MY birthday gift. Fast forward to a few months, we were arguing and he said that he treated me “great” since HE bought me a designer purse and that not many men do that anymore. 🤡 I told him that I paid $60 for it (the $40 plus taxes) and he got so angry! Started telling me how I still wouldn’t have had the purse if it wasn’t for his $100 (when in reality, I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:40 AM
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This reminds me of my NVX! He would make me watch the same movies & shows every weekend (of course, only shows that HE liked! And I was the biggest pickme so I went along with it.) He knew I hated a specific show that he would force me to watch every day (he was trying to get me to like it by forcing it in my face daily. 🤡) Since I was bored, I would naturally get on my phone to text my sister and he would get so angry. He wanted me to pay full attention to the show (which I hated) or to the sam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:43 PM
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😂😂😂 I love your version! I definitely have a lot of friends that are in “relationshits!” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:18 PM
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That is correct. I wasted years of my youth being loyal to men that didn’t even care about me, they just lied, manipulated and psychologically abused me. I’m done with being loyal to selfish men that don’t show me the same level of loyalty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:17 PM
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I started typing “situationship” and I felt like “shituationship” was more appropriate for these types of “relationships!” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:40 PM
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I saw this on Instagram earlier today & I immediately started laughing! 😂 I’ll be “loyal” when there’s a damn ring on my finger! Unfortunately, there’s many pickmeishas that do that...they’re loyal to a man that they’re only sleeping with because they “don’t want to ruin” the “shituationship.” 🤡 Meanwhile the man is running around town with multiple women! Ladies, we need to stop this behavior! Stop showing loyalty to scrotes that don’t deserve it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:27 AM
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Sounds so similar to my situation! My texting “buddy” (or should I say scrote instead) would get extremely angry and jealous when I would go out or if I talked to other men, yet he “wasn’t ready for a relationship!” 🤡 They truly are getting bolder and bolder with their audacity...that’s why blocking them works so perfectly on these LVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:40 PM
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Yup, that loser better be blocked by now...that way, he won’t be able to slither his way back to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:58 AM
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YES! That was my situation too! I would see him about once a month, it was always on the days HE wanted to see me and always after 9pm!🤦🏻‍♀️ Looking back, I can’t believe I disrespected myself like that for that long! I think that the good thing is that we both know better now, and we will NEVER allow men to treat us that way ever again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:56 AM
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That man is a straight up CLOWN!! 🤡 You definitely dodged a bullet with that LVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:19 AM
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Textationships are a waste of time...trust me! I was in one for 3 years! 🤡They’re just another way for men to have power and control over you while you literally get nothing from them except for low effort texts throughout the day! Don’t engage with men that do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:16 AM
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I just blocked a guy I was talking to for this reason! 😂(And also because he made a sexual reference after talking to me for 3 days. Disgusting.) I just can’t stand it when men don’t know how to spell or use correct grammar. I speak 3 languages and I always put thought & consideration when I type something out. The bar is so LOW for men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:16 PM
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I’ve noticed that it’s always the men that have one or two pictures on their profile that always ask for more pictures....I’ve also noticed that if they do have a second picture, it’s just a zoomed in version of the 1st picture.🤦🏻‍♀️ Ridiculous. I always ignore men that don’t have multiple pictures on their profile! I’m so glad that you stood up for yourself! 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 12:06 PM
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I took my LVM ex on a trip to Europe. Looking back, I wish I would have gone by myself. One thing I learned from that experience is that I’ll NEVER do that again for a man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:17 PM
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My LVM ex once told me, “you would be the perfect woman if you lost weight.” 🤡LOL!!! He had the audacity to tell me this while he was also overweight. 10 years later, he’s now obese and I lost 40 pounds and hit my target weight! LVM are quick to point the finger, but they are unable to point it at themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:45 PM
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Googling a man’s behavior is how I discovered FDS! So in a way, I’m glad I did it because I would have never found this amazing sub had I not googled his LVM behavior....now, I don’t google anything that has to do with trying to understand the male “mind.” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 03:51 AM
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It doesn’t at all! LVM never make any sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:00 AM
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I’m hoping so too....however, based on the rest of his profile, he’s definitely a LVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:07 AM
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I LOVE Kygo!! He has been my favorite artist for years!!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:32 AM
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I can confirm that this is true. A guy I really liked ghosted me a few years ago after love bombing me and him giving me false sense of our “future.” I was extremely hurt, especially since I had never been ghosted before. Then, 6 months later, he texted me and apologized, he said that he “realized that he lost an amazing woman,” that he wanted to do things “right” by me and he practically begged me for another chance. I (stupidly) went on a date with him. He took me to dinner and a movie. Then a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:20 PM
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I think that what matters are the last 2 words you said: NEVER AGAIN! We will never let a man manipulate us, take us for granted or mistreat us! I’m happy & proud of us! ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 05:29 PM
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I agree! The old me would have double (or even triple) text him to try to keep the conversation going and in turn, I would have wasted months of my life on a LVM & I would have ended up feeling upset. Not anymore! I’m glad that you’re also sticking to your boundaries! We gotta show men that we will not tolerate mistreatment or low effort behavior!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:03 PM
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This week, I blocked 2 LVM that I was casually chatting with. I was starting to think that one of them had some potential until he ghosted me and since it’s been 24 hours, I blocked him! I’m feeling great! 😎I know that I don’t deserve to be ghosted and I’m so glad that this community opened my eyes to so many things that I used to ignore. Onto the next....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:05 AM
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Ewww....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:31 PM
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I had an NVM ex send me a similar email 3 years after we broke up. It seems like all of these NVM use the same email/text template when they try to contact us again! They are so unoriginal! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:30 PM
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Ha ha! Exactly! I don’t think I’ll ever reach that level of audacity either! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:30 AM
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EXACTLY! What an idiot! 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:31 AM
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I just read that in Danielle’s voice! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:57 PM
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The stupidest thing I ever did was taking my NVM ex on a trip to Italy...that I paid for ALL by myself. The scrote had the audacity to tell his friends that “we” paid for it! 🙃He cheated on me, was disrespectful to me and didn’t appreciate me. He told me once that I would be the “perfect woman” if I lost weight! 🤡Thank goodness that I grew out of my pickmeisha ways and leveled up! Now, 10 years later, he’s severely overweight (I’ll just go ahead and call him obese) while I lost 40 pounds & reach…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:31 AM
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Me and my ex had different opinions on politics. He would always shut me up & would tell me that his views were “correct” and mine weren’t. That’s one thing that I feel very strongly about and I have now decided that I won’t date someone that doesn’t share similar political views with me. This man has shown you a lot of red flags! BLOCK & DELETE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:11 PM
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Yes, they’re not talking about the love languages theory...to them physical touch=sex. And they also have other indicators on their profile that makes it obvious that they’re creeps. I agree, it’s so hard to find a consistent man that follows through with his word. I refuse to settle for a mediocre man, if his actions don’t match his words then just throw the whole man away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:45 PM
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Every time men answer the question “my love language is” on Hinge, their answer is ALWAYS “physical touch.” GROSS! I always cringe when I see that answer because to me, that means that all they want is sex. I would love to meet a man that puts his words into action but unfortunately, that has never happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:30 PM
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Thank you so much! I got my code and made an account. However, I haven’t gotten a confirmation email and I’m unable to log in, I’m assuming it’s due to high demand! I can’t wait to participate on the new website! ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:32 PM
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Oh trust me, I do. I consider her son my nephew and if that loser ever does anything to harm him, I’m going to report him. I just don’t understand women that put men’s needs before their own children’s needs. It’s disgusting behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:02 AM
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I agree! If I had a child, my child would be my main concern. Unfortunately, for pickmeishas, their losers come before anyone and anything. It’s horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:41 AM
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It is so crazy! My friend is the ultimate pickmeisha...it’s quite sad. She just wants a relationship so badly that she doesn’t care who it’s with. I tried to get her to open her eyes but she refuses to see the reality of her situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:21 PM
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Oh wow, this perfectly describes my friend’s situation! She met a homeless & jobless loser OLD & moved him into her home within 2 weeks because he is “the love of her life.” One year later, he still lives with her, she pays all of the bills, he treats her son (from a previous relationship) poorly, he doesn’t contribute at all and she’s contemplating filing for bankruptcy BUT she decided that she wanted to have a baby with this loser. She took her IUD out and got pregnant within 2 months. Oh and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:11 PM
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This happened to me during my “situationship.” He would get extremely jealous whenever I’d go out and he didn’t want me talking to other men, YET, he wasn’t “ready for a relationship” and he also had multiple female “friends.” Men want all of the benefits of a girlfriend but they don’t want to put the effort into actually creating & nurturing a relationship. I vowed that I would never have a FWB again, I don’t need the unnecessary drama from a man that I’m not in a relationship with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:50 PM
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I agree with you! And I’m so proud of my mom, she has come such a long way! And yes, I hope that FDS gets even more exposure after all of this. Every woman on this planet would benefit from this amazing community!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:47 PM
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Yes she would be! And most LVM are messy and disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:08 AM
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What is going on in these scrote’s minds that makes them think that these pictures are “cute” or “attractive” to us women?!🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:59 AM
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This is hilarious! I’m picturing my NVM ex being tossed by Marie Kondo into a pit of fire! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:51 AM
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Good job! I know first hand how hard it is to move out of your parents house when they don’t want you to. (My parents were very strict & traditional. They didn’t want me to move out of their house until the day I got married. It was so hard when I finally left at 23 but it was also so worth it. Now, 10 years later, my mom praises me for my independence and she’s so proud of me!) Keep focusing on yourself and you’ll see how every aspect of your life will naturally become better! I also have a lot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:30 PM
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Thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:23 PM
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Exactly! He was a narcissist and he manipulated me for so long, until I finally “woke up.” But that “gift” was what did it for me. I couldn’t fathom waking up next to him for one more day. I left & I had no where to go, so I crashed at random friend’s places for a few weeks until I found my own place. All I knew is that I couldn’t stay with him for one more day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:31 PM
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My NVM ex got me a t-shirt of HIS favorite band (even though he knew I hated his music,) a video game (even though he knew I didn’t play video games, he’s the one that played them) and Tetris leggings (ummm...what?!) for my birthday. That was the tipping point for me. At that moment, I knew that he had NO CLUE of who I was as a person, even after being together for 3 years. My best friend would have never given me those gifts because she truly knew me. I broke up with him a few weeks later and I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:04 PM
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This is so upsetting. FDS has helped me in so many ways. I wish I would have found this sub sooner, as it would have saved me from the many LVM I encountered in the past. I’m on reddit for FDS only and I will also be deleting my account if it’s banned. I will be looking forward to reconnecting with all of you amazing ladies on the new website!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:00 AM
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Exactly! And believe it or not, music was always a topic that would turn into an argument between us. He liked very dark, obscure music and I was not into it at all, I actually hated his taste in music. He started to control every facet of my life, even the music that I listened to. So I was appalled that he tried to suggest songs to me when he KNOWS I hate his music. Men sure don’t know how to communicate & definitely don’t know how to have mature conversations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:59 PM
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I ghosted my ex that I was with for 3 years. I voiced my needs, he didn’t meet them. I moved out, and he still continued to contact me (& I stupidly responded for a while, this was back in the day when I was still in my pickmeisha vibes & was too afraid of hurting men. 🤦🏻‍♀️)Then one day he text me his usual “good morning” text & I decided I had enough. I blocked him. I actually saw him in December (5 years after our breakup) and he tried to talk to me & he gave me a list of songs “I should list…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:26 AM
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I’ve been single for 5 years and I’ve never been happier! The only person I have to please is myself and I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 07:45 PM
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Yes, it’s disgusting behavior. Always keep your guard up when a man uses those words to greet you. That is not a normal greeting, it’s actually inappropriate. If a man greets me with “hey trouble” it’s an automatic block from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:00 AM
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I agree! A former coworker started sliding into my DMs and he always “greeted” me with “hey trouble.” He’s married and just wouldn’t stop messaging me so I blocked him. Most men that use that “greeting” are in relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 05:30 AM
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This literally makes me sick! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:45 AM
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I have been called intimidating by many LVM before. They also have said that I “scare” them due to how “intimidating” I am. 😂 In my opinion, they can see how bright you shine and they know they can’t manipulate you. They also know that you won’t take their crap so they’re automatically intimidated by your presence. When a man tells me this, I just smile and look down upon them like the little pest they are. Then they disappear. It’s great because the trash takes itself out...without me having to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:30 AM
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I agree. I don’t understand this desperate behavior. Some women just want a man...and by that I mean ANY man. I refuse to settle for less than what I deserve which is why I’ve been single for 5 years. This same friend of mine keeps telling me to “stop being so picky.” I tell her that I have standards that I’m not willing to put aside and she just stays quiet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 11:18 PM
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My good friend is a hardcore pickme. She met a jobless & homeless loser on OLD, moved him into her apartment within 2 weeks, his car “surprisingly” breaks down as soon as he moves in so she has to drive him around town like you would a teenager. A month into their “relationship” she told me that he is “the one.” This man does nothing but sit on the couch all day, smoke weed and play video games while she pays for the rent, groceries and bills on her own. For his birthday, she spent $400 on prese…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 05:24 PM
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During quarantine, I decided to do makeup tutorials due to the fact that I was bored in the house and I love makeup. Well one of my male “friends” (someone that I’ve known for years and actually considered a good friend before this incident) decided to send me a private message after he saw one of my tutorials to tell me that I “should do porn” because I “had the perfect voice and face/body” for it. I was immediately disgusted and horrified. He even went into detail about it and also added that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:11 AM
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Yes, only a LVM will have these feelings towards a HVW! A HVM wouldn’t say these types of comments. You’re right, let the trash take itself out! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:27 PM
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