MayPerkins Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
10	CMV: Feminism isn't as egalitarian/equitable as it thinks it is. Where's the middle ground movement?	CMV	MayPerkins	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/15 12:18 PM

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1	Let's talk about money. I want someone who understands how to live on whatever he's earning, or what we earn together. So. "No existential fears" would cover my needs in a mate. If you want to splurge on me, I would like a doctor who can fix it so I can travel again. Grateful forever. I guess if you want a woman who won't stray, find one who's known real financial insecurity (like no health care, like "will we be homeless?") and fix that for her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/15 03:55 AM
1	about four or five women reproduced for every one man. [Hypergamy, bateman, redpill] At least they won't miss my cracked eggs? And there were probably a lot of lords exercising droit de seigneur. ;)	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/15 03:45 AM
2	CMV : In the future the genders will mostly be segregated but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Most of us are completely asexual and aromantic? Huh. That's a new one on me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/15 03:23 AM
1	CMV: Tough love and criticism greatly benefits men, but destroys women I wanted the holy-shit-son criticism. I wanted to hear, straight up, what I did badly, and it needed to stick. Feelings were, as another poster said, for later. You suck it up, buttercup, and you go on. See also most of the rest of my life, though. Not always going to be time for a sob in the middle of a shitstorm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 07:55 PM
3	CMV: Tough love and criticism greatly benefits men, but destroys women Was it a suburban or rural school? I'd like to see whether young women in tougher situations need to be treated like princesses. I'll add the maybe-I'm-weird caveat yet again: I begged for actual criticism when I cared about my work. How else do you improve? By magic?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 07:14 AM
1	Shit tests! Women are doing this shit all the damn time and don't even know they're doing it. From the woman you're dating to the women you work with. Pills, what's you're perspective? The psychic reading would be a welcome change. The neg will get you a response but maybe not the one you were looking for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 06:17 AM
2	BP: Do you believe women give "Shit-tests"? I probably wouldn't go back to his apartment "for coffee" if I knew it was likely to mean he wanted sex I wasn't ready to give. YMMV.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 02:17 AM
1	Less and less men are willing to marry. In the future, when this phenomenon reaches its apex, how do you think it will have changed society? I believe you are correct, yes. I apologize.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 01:24 AM
5	How would you describe a feminine woman and a masculine man? One quality I think may be particularly feminine: looking for common ground instead of raging needlessly. fiatlux mentions "Soft/Flexible. Collectivistic." I agree with his assessment there. "Mindful" is another trait that contributes to the diplomacy. I hesitate to define a woman as underconfident or passive -- a green girl is those things; a woman is secure in her self-worth without tumbling over into cockiness. Cautious? Perhaps yes; I know I am, but that may be nurture over nature. I'm not r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 01:21 AM
1	Less and less men are willing to marry. In the future, when this phenomenon reaches its apex, how do you think it will have changed society? See, I've got a disability that means both of us bringing home equal bacon will be difficult. I'm not, uh, married to the notion of children, but I could raise existing kids. Or foster. The system's so packed and my heart is a hemophiliac. My ideal relationship structure allows me to contribute to society without asking me to give up my health for the almighty dollar. It also involves togetherness for the long haul, two people working together for common happiness. In that I don't believe we're …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 01:09 AM
1	Less and less men are willing to marry. In the future, when this phenomenon reaches its apex, how do you think it will have changed society? We will have to disagree on this, as I think it should be just as much "make sure your partner is not running for the wrong reasons." We're not all evil harpies who just want your money in trade for no sex. Some of us just want a home and a family that you can't just ditch when we get stifling -- and we'll commit to the same rules.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 12:38 AM
1	Less and less men are willing to marry. In the future, when this phenomenon reaches its apex, how do you think it will have changed society? And if her body doesn't work, through no fault of her own? Is she only good enough to be a bit of tail, then?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 12:33 AM
1	Less and less men are willing to marry. In the future, when this phenomenon reaches its apex, how do you think it will have changed society? What is the ideal ease of leaving? Is there room for trying to make things right? If putting lawyers between what's not working and the urge to run makes room for working out what's not working, is that so bad?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 12:23 AM
1	"Dear future husband" and unrealistic expectations I've heard of postmodernism, but that's a little OTT. ;) I suppose my socially constructed ideal is a touch closer to the men I actually know and interact with. Is that fair? And no, I'm not in LA or NYC.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 12:03 AM
1	Less and less men are willing to marry. In the future, when this phenomenon reaches its apex, how do you think it will have changed society? Notice I said "security in a relationship", not "his money becoming mine". That's not to say I'll let him go scot-free if we've got a mortgage together and he expects me to pay it off myself or sell at a loss. Those debts should be split evenly. Can that equitable solution be reached if we're just cohabiting? What I feel marriage does is remove a weapon for relationship suicide ("I'm leaving!") from the reach of whichever partner feels like ending it on an impulse. Ideally, no, it never comes to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/15 12:01 AM
1	Less and less men are willing to marry. In the future, when this phenomenon reaches its apex, how do you think it will have changed society? Will we? Because marriage, to me, is symbolic of security in a relationship, not romance. Perhaps I'm very old fashioned. Positively medieval! But I don't think romance in and of itself is what makes a marriage worthwhile. Women can get that providing they don't expect it to last.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/15 05:28 PM
0	Less and less men are willing to marry. In the future, when this phenomenon reaches its apex, how do you think it will have changed society? I think women have been complete idiots to throw away their power by fucking around. If we're saying "We love ONS!" out of one side of our mouths and lamenting the lack of marriageable men out of the other, what does that say about how happy we've really been made? Sure, we shouldn't be shamed for sex before marriage, but there's a point at which it goes too far: too much, too soon in a relationship (risking being left once he's done with her), too low a standard. Men's standards haven't had to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/15 05:24 PM
1	"Dear future husband" and unrealistic expectations I don't need rich. I just need to know he's not counting on me to support him, and that he's responsible about his money, because that breaks relationships. I do need some kind of physical attraction, but so does he! And he needn't be red-pill-level masculine, but let's find the happy medium between alpha and beta, yes? Whatever happened to being satisfied with reality? [sigh]	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/15 04:56 PM
1	CMV: Feminism isn't as egalitarian/equitable as it thinks it is. Where's the middle ground movement? Yeah, there's a problem with the big-tent, we fix everybody movements: they aren't adequate. They do take on too much. And being an Xist and a Yist shouldn't have to be mutually exclusive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/15 08:59 AM
1	Nightclothes He was a furnace, which meant I seldom had to care about nightclothes at all. Surprising how well that works on several levels. :)	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/15 07:39 AM
1	CMV: Feminism isn't as egalitarian/equitable as it thinks it is. Where's the middle ground movement? I can do that without having people jump on me for MRA content that isn't? Because so far it's worked out badly in practice. O.o Hence wanting an actual, viable middle way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/15 07:28 AM
2	CMV: Feminism isn't as egalitarian/equitable as it thinks it is. Where's the middle ground movement? You make a good point: feminism as I see it happening is Western-centric. I would like to see more of a focus on the problems of women in non-Western countries, but I don't. I see feminism doubling down on what's happening to Western feminists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/15 10:04 PM
1	CMV: Feminism isn't as egalitarian/equitable as it thinks it is. Where's the middle ground movement? Assuming I don't like Laci Green (I really don't) and don't have time to browse a bajillion articles, what's my takeaway here? And which issues other than rape are feminists ameliorating? The "problem" of having to grow up instead of expecting women to go weak in the knees over being bowed and scraped to? Because that sure never got any of the manchildren I knew laid. Well, not by me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/15 09:48 PM
2	CMV: Feminism isn't as egalitarian/equitable as it thinks it is. Where's the middle ground movement? Heresy. I like that. I could be a heretic. :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/15 09:42 PM
2	CMV: Feminism isn't as egalitarian/equitable as it thinks it is. Where's the middle ground movement? This goes back to my question, then: why does feminism bother to include that it cares about men's problems? Because it clearly has priorities, and men's problems are pretty far down on the list -- mockably so, in many places I've been. Which, yes, made me angry as a supposed feminist. Why not just drop the "we care about men too"?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/15 09:39 PM
2	CMV: Feminism isn't as egalitarian/equitable as it thinks it is. Where's the middle ground movement? I'm just now coming to see what havoc I've wrought -- but I have to give you love for making me grin with the story. "Well then!" I'll remember that one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/15 09:22 PM
1	My theory on creep shaming, Challenge My View My instincts must be broken. Of course if I'm not attracted to him, I'm going to say "Thanks, but no thanks." But if he's good-looking and still fails to pay attention to my profile, I'm probably going to respond negatively. I'm going to ask him to please go back and read the profile. Maybe that's how I gatekeep: anyone can be good-looking. Can he be good-looking and see me as more than a face on a computer screen?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/15 11:40 AM