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McLearner/r/askMRP20/02/18 04:43 PM
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Can't even remember the last time I jacked off... So, yes, you can. It isn't hard. Learn to channel this energy into something else.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 03:59 PM
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Point noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 11:41 AM
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I'll take your advice and turn it into a post. First nuclear talk was more like a series of small sour talks which ended in a longer one where I said I wanted plurality, she said she couldn't cope with that and we spoke of divorce. It all started cuz I was "still talking" to this girl after wife said she wanted me to end it. It looked like an emotional affair to her and she couldn't eat the fact that I told someone else things I wouldn't tell her. I dunno if she sees my new SMV at all, or how sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 10:55 AM
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On point for the future part, will steal that line. As for the fucking/romance difference, I agree. Wife even told me as much a while ago, when I was just talking with this girl and not yet fucking her. Some days I think my wife could live with me fucking girls on the side (given it doesnt become emotional and obvious proper hygiene stuff) and some days I think she'd leave on the spot either way. Strict education, she has principles. But so did many girls until they accidentally fell on Chad's d…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 06:01 PM
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Can't even begin to describe the look on her face when I told her...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 04:10 PM
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We had a first nuclear talk around NYE. Said what I had to say, that I didn't see myself into a monogamous relationship anymore, that she didn't fulfill my desire and probably never will, etc. She said she couldn't stay with me if I ever fucked someone else. Divorce word was said, I offered my thoughts on this and I had a plan ready for minimal damage to the kids, which I exposed. Couple days later, she said she wanted to work on "saving our marriage". She joined a gym that same day. Sex went up…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 03:59 PM
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I already do that, I just caved in installing a new game which proved itself fucking well done and challenging. Eventually after three days I had the whole thing figured out and wasn't as much compelled to play. Plus I play more piano and like it better anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 12:12 PM
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2018 Week 19 Fuckedups : Relapsed into gaming last week. Spent three evenings in a row gaming instead of doing better stuff. Slept late, was tired, lifting was harder, felt grumpy... Good point : Felt miserable after those three days. Situation : Post main event. Or was it only the first ? Sex went down lately, mostly because I initiated less and my interest for passive, vanilla sex as dropped to an historic low. Must be related to doing kinky stuff with plates my wife never agreed/wanted/felt l…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 08:23 AM
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Thanks for stopping by, I started lifting seriously earlier this year. I've been pretty constitent so far, sticking to 5x5. Without doxing myself I can tell you I live in a top west-european country.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 11:58 AM
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2018 Week 17 Situation : Post-main event. A couple years into RP but 3 months into new MAP. Deadline for improved mariage is by the end of the summer. Sex is a couple times a week with unsollicited BJs. Guess she finally got it is a necessary part of a relation. Was on vacation last week, along with my parents. Small flat, no intimacy so no sex. This week we have my mom at home to babysit, so no intimacy as well. However I managed to pull wife to blow me into the bathroom and we ended up fucking…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 04:22 PM
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I saw this comming...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 02:39 PM
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2018 Week 15 Situation : Post-main event. A couple years into RP but 3 months into new MAP. Deadline for improved mariage is by the end of the summer. Sex is a couple times a week with unsollicited BJs. She keeps asking for more sex. Guess she finally got it is a necessary part of a relation. Introduced more kinky stuff this week, she played along quite well. She admitted after that she was a bit uncomfortable this it was a first but will do better next time. Keeping watch of what she does, givi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 01:35 PM
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Pretty much what I have realized. I went quickly from "omg this is so good how could I live without" to "this is good but I got better things to do". (Which stands for pretty much all kind of entertainment, actually) But sometimes I just want to get a good fuck so I plan a thing with my plate and some other times I prefer hanging out with friends or just be at home. The thing is I CHOOSE, and sure want to keep it that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:32 PM
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True enough. I am always facing the "too busy dilemma". Right now I priorize lifting and spending time with bros. If only the sex with plate wasn't so good, kinda addicted to that. But I see it as her sexual strategy. She is good to me, brings hot sex and value to keep me in her life. Whereas wife takes things for granted and thus make much less efforts. I was ready to move out at some point, maybe I should remind subtly remind her of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 10:10 AM
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I've been there for years but with moderate efficiency. Hence why I mentally reseted to january, when I effectively switched to heavy lifting. Everything I did before now seems like half-assed effort. I have been too long in this state of mind, where I wait for her to change but somehow thinking she is not enough and won't ever be. That's one of the reasons I made the move to fuck on the side.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 10:04 AM
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2018 Week 13 Situation : Post-main event. 2 month in new MAP. Deadline for improved mariage is by the end of the summer. Sex is a couple times a week, unsollicited BJs. Still working on breaking the status quo at home, being more active toward her. I noticed she is initiating sex more than I am, this need to change even if I am still not very attracted to her. I think she knows, she has been acting a bit differently lately. She is texting me when she goes to the gym, she asks me how she looks in…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 08:34 AM
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2018 Week 12 Situation : Post-main event. Resetted my MAP as of Jan 2018. so I am 2 month in. Deadline for improved mariage is by the end of the summer. Red week, no sex but very good BJ this WE, unsollicited. Major shit test as well. I went with the boys to buy furnitures, we had a lot of fun together. When we got back, wife went FUBAR about the fact we didn't bring her something. I just said I don't express my attention with unneeded gifts and kept going. She sulked for a while, then came sayi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 10:05 AM
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First round is on you, though I tend to stray away from beer in favor of stronger stuff
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 10:25 AM
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I was ready the first time, I still am. Even if I see things differently now, in the end I know what I am doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 10:17 AM
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Well, last year was basically the turning point for me. It only takes one, then you realise it is easy and enjoyable. Though I find it challenging to handle more than one/two girls + your wife. If you have other fulfilling activities and want to spend time at home, that is.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 10:13 AM
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1- I don't meet many girls since I don't go out that much but I am confident. Anyway I don't really care, I am not very actively pursuing girls but I will push if I come across one who seems interested. 2- I know, my OPSEC is pretty solid. In the past I noticed that fucking aside actually helped me in the house. I felt better, was on happier mood and generally had more energy. 3- With who ?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 09:17 AM
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I don't feel butthurt but I figured I had to get out of this circle. I actually feel a lot better now that I have fixed myself this goal. I get your point on the ultimatum, if she is to improve it should be natural, not forced by a deadline. I will stick to it but keep it to myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 08:14 PM
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TLDR: I am officially reseting my RP journey as of january 2018. Everything I did or said before is irrelevant, I was still but the shadow of a real man, mostly BP with Alpha sprinkles. I am now two months in, which means I have 4 months to go before I reach the 6 months-mark. I will most likely extend this to 8 month to match with summer holidays, already planned. This means I have to come to a conclusion by September, and I have to inform my wife of this or it will end up being a covert contra…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 05:23 PM
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2018 Week 10 Situation : Post-main event. Sex is often. Even though still vanilla-flavored. Less BJs this week. Still working to breaking the status quo, by initiating and being less mentally checked out. I still struggle with this, since my attraction to her remains very low. Most of all it is her attitude, no effort at all. Like removing her panties is the ultimate form of action she can make. I have way more expectations than before where I just didn't care. Meanwhile I feel like spinning pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 01:43 PM
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2018 Week 10 Situation : Post-main event. Sex is steadily increasing, BJs almost everytime. Wife is upping her game slightly, sexy underwears are back. I'm working to break the status quo, by being less mentally checked out. I noticed I have more expectations though, compared to before where I just didn't care. Must have gotten through since wife is asking for my validation on many things. Stats : (progress over past 2 weeks) 6,1ft 168lbs (+3). ~13% BF Navy. 8 weeks into 5x5 SQ 187 (+22) BP 105 …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 02:56 PM
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Reading this it seems you do nothing is the house, have no hobbies and sleep less than 7 hours ? Cutting on sleep time, I tried. Felt really bad at some point. Edit: and you don't help with dropping/picking up kids either ?
/r/askMRP21/02/18 09:13 AM
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Following this line of thought would mean it was just preliminary. She accepted my frame only partially and is still fighting. Or she was ready to enter my frame completely but I failed to pull her in because I was checking out mentally.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 09:08 AM
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As I said, I lost interest at some point, even though I admit the most practical solution would be my wife stepping up to my expectations. Which won't happen as long as I stay mentally checked out. As for her, well she is chinese but grew up here. Traditional education, strong father but he died early (before we met, she was 20) To her, sex was meant for babies. She said herself she went full time mom zero time wife since our first was born. Classic story. I would add she is very self conscious,…
/r/askMRP21/02/18 09:06 AM
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I knew the story but thanks anyway, was a much needed refresher.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 06:52 AM
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I see what you mean but even priorization has its limits.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 06:50 AM
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Let me elaborate, I let her do preliminary scouting, she likes it. But I ultimately choose what/when/where.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 06:48 AM
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Break the stalemate... Guess I have to force myself just for the heck of seeing what happens. Kind of hard when there is not much desire or attraction left. But you're right.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 10:00 PM
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This isn't the first time I get picked out on the busy part. I'm not "busy" as in "doing too much stuff". I am just lacking actual TIME to do stuff. A typical day: 7am wake up. 8am out to drop the kids at school by 8:30. 9am arrive to work. Which is actually LATE in my line of work, I am usually among the last to come in. I usually leave work around 7pm, which means I get home around 7:30pm. Now we got to have bathed and fed, spend some time with them and put them to sleep, ideally before 8:30pm…
/r/askMRP20/02/18 09:52 PM
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Some years ago I used to spend way too much time texting, now I'm down to almost only logistics . As stated above, I know I should game and sext her, but I think she doesn't really deserve it. Plus she isn't texting me much either. Any reason I should go initiating on this when she doesn't do her part ?
/r/askMRP20/02/18 09:33 PM
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Same point as above, I know I tend to check out mentally. I know what I should do, but I sometimes I think she's not worth it.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 09:24 PM
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She thinks I am mentally checked out because I mostly am. You added "if she is good to you", since main event she went from bad to bearable but still far from good, from my PoV. I know I so much NGAF that I tend to stonewall, but should I go out of my way to please her ? I feel like rewarding bad behavior. You could say I'm back to angry phase, except I'm in no way angry . But I get your point about inner workings.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 09:21 PM
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Actually, no. But I understand why you'd think that. It is more like "I've just seen a debit of $$$, do you know what it is ?" or "You said you were going to buy groceries tonight. I need xxx and yyy". Or whatever details of housekeeping I give to memory space to.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 05:03 PM
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2018 Week 8 Situation : Post-main event. Still no further talk about marriage/divorce. AFAIK Wife is still on "save our marriage" agenda. Some subtle changes, but much work left to be done. She is now overtly "asking" but not "acting" for more sex. Sex slowly increasing but I'm still dealing with my low attraction to her. Stats : (progress over past 2 weeks) 6,1ft 166lbs (+0). 12-14% BF Navy. 7 weeks into 5x5 SQ 165 (+33) BP 99 (+11) Row 121 (+11) OHP 72 (+0) DL 226 (+17) Weekly routine : Gym on…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 03:45 PM
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My bad for not adding a reading section to my OYS, will do from now on. And yes, I read. I am a compulsive learner.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 09:57 PM
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I get your point. But I also use my OYS to track Wife's progress, or lack thereof. The only reason I'm still in my marriage is that I realised I'm still way off the best version of me I could be given the current situation. After main event the unbearable stuff disappeared and I am currently living by "hope for the best, prepare for the worst". I have stated divorce terms, made plans money-wise, etc. She said she wants to "save our marriage". I've been clear about what I expect. So I work on mys…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:37 PM
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2018 Week 7 Situation : Post-main event. Still no further talk about marriage/divorce. AFAIK Wife is still on "save our marriage" agenda. Some subtle changes, but much work left to be done. She is now overtly "asking" but not "acting" for more sex. Sex slowly increasing but I'm still dealing with my low attraction to her. Stats : (progress over past 2 weeks) 6,1ft 166lbs (+0). 12-14% BF Navy. 6 weeks into 5x5 SQ 149 (+28) BP 94 (+11) Row 116 (+11) OHP 72 (+6) Worked on form at 60-66 for a week, …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 09:45 AM
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I know I have to leader but the issue there is that my attraction to her has dropped a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 07:43 PM
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"Enforce" as in : I should have stated that she either comply or isn't welcome to the family-time ? It seems too big of a leap right now. But then... I see I OI'd to the extreme : since I don't care, why would she comply ? I am not punishing her for what is - to me - a bad behavior, so she doesn't see it as bad behavior and thus has no incentive to comply. Let me play this again Me: "We're are having dinner out. I'll get the kids ready, you go put on a tiny skirt and find your heels" (nota: she …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 05:47 PM
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I should have expected this and provided more context : We got the kid's grades last week, which were through the roof. I decided to take us all out for a family dinner, nothing fancy but something different. At some point I said "I'll get the kids ready so you have some time to put on a sexy outfit and finf your heels". I said this in my usual playful tone. I didn't expect her to actually do it, since she never does. There is always a "good reason" not to, w/e. TLDR: she didn't, as usual. No bi…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 12:56 PM
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2018 Week 6 Situation : Post-main event. Still no further talk about marriage/divorce. AFAIK Wife is still on "save our marriage" agenda. Some subtle changes, but much work left to be done. She failed an opportunity to dress up for a dinner. I didn't make a big deal of it but stated she could have been better dolled up, which she admitted she was lazy to do. She is verbally communicating interest in more sex, tho not really acting that way. Sex slowly increasing but I'm still facing low attracti…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 03:21 PM
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I am experiencing this as well. I see this as them double-triple-checking our frame. It is a loss of power for them in a way. They used to have this power over us, to make us butthurt litterally at will. And here you are now, "taking that away from her". Ofc she is resisting. This is also a nice example of how messed up they are in the head. If you look at it : * You want something and express so * She doesn't and say so * You DNGAF and go do something else SO SHE BASICALLY GOT WHAT SHE WANTED e…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 10:15 AM
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As un everything that you cab money if, like SEO, web marketing, dropshipping and the like
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 07:55 PM
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2018 Week 5 Situation : Post-main event. Still no further talk about marriage/divorce. AFAIK Wife is still on "save our marriage" agenda. Some subtle changes, like she did put a babydoll last night in stead of the usual dirty PJs. She is still "initiating" at inconvenient times. We had sex once, where she went down to blow me on her own initiative, and longer than usual. Also tried experimenting at this, which I made a point to encourage. When she came up and I said I liked whatever-new-thing sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 04:52 PM
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I've read multiple times that the bulk/cut routine tends to prevent attaining golden ratio-ish physiques. Is that total BS ?
/r/askMRP25/01/18 06:06 PM
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I will sort of hijack the thread to talk about BF% Me : 36y/o, 6.1", 164lbs. SQ 105 / BP 72 / Row 94 / OHP 66 / DL 187 Rather clean diet, no smoking/drinking, currently adjusting to more prots. Weekly schedule : 3x lifting sessions, 3h tennis, 150km biking. On topic : Navy's formula gave me 12%BF 3 weeks ago, now down to 10% since I started 5x5 and stopped high volume/low weights dumbells-at-home. (Waist at navel : 31 in / Neck at narrowest : 15 in) But I still have my (rather small but there) l…
/r/askMRP25/01/18 05:02 PM
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2018 Week 4 Situation: Post-main event. Still no further talk about marriage/divorce since last time. AFAIK Wife is still on "save our marriage" agenda. She ain't doing much though. She tries to initiate but always at incovenient time, like when I'm already asleep. Red week so no sex. My sexual interest for her has dropped very low, I think I'm locked in the "w/e, sex will be bad anyway so I'd rather sleep" mindstate. I'm still thinking about my lack of perspective. Affair: No see, no fuck this …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 03:35 PM
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2018 Week 3 Situation: Post-main event. No talk about marriage/divorce since last time. AFAIK Wife is still on "save our marriage" agenda. Had sex twice this week. I'd rate it a slight bit above average. BJs both times but I know she does it to please, not because shes likes it. I teased her ass briefly once, she said "not today but I promise we'll try again sometime" I didn't really notice since I didn't expect anything but she then said we should look up the net for secret ways to make it less…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 03:28 PM
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Okay I get your point on this one. As far as pussy go, I only ever had asian pussy. Another thing for which I lack perspective. I'm not sure I can get rid of this gutfeeling
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 08:22 AM
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I don't how this falls under "negociating", I thought I merely stated my opinion ? I didn't offer anything. AKAIK I have OI since I don't expect it to happen. Did I miss something there ? Just finished a book about so-called "Non-Violent-Conversation". It's main point is to adress people's failure to convey their real feelings/intent of understand other's. Supposedly done by rephrasing one's sentence with words that connects to mutual ground/feelings, which each participant in the convo (shoulds…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 04:32 PM
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2018 Week 2 (format temporarily off for some reason) Situation: Post-main event. Wife want to "save our mariage". I'm not willing to compromise. We had sex twice since. First was meh. Second was bearable, she seemed to enjoy it (or faked it better). After: *She "Did you like it ?" *Me : "It was OK" *She : "Just OK ?" *Me : "I liked the part where you sucked me" *She : "OK, I'll try to do that more often" *Me : "Everyday would be a nice start" I think she added one more "I'll try or something" af…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 02:20 PM
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Trying as in "working on myself, STFU'ing, initiating, applying DEVI, gaming her, w/e I learned here" As this point I just cannot cope with starfish, especially since I have easy access to 100x better. So I made my point and now I'm getting ready to move out while she hamsters. She had a dinner out last night while I went to bed early to catch up on sleep. She came home late then half naked to bed and went rubbing herself against my back (her vision of initiating) but I was too damn' tired and j…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 01:12 PM
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Started today.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 01:00 PM
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She said much, but we don't really put much value in that, right ? Radio silence today, then text'd "i want to save our mariage" Still waiting for action on her part.
/r/askMRP04/01/18 06:25 PM
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Mariage I feel she can't/won't give me what I want. After so many years trying, I caved in and started fucking another girl on the side. Main event happened yesterday, went thermonuclear into "I want to save our mariage". On one side I feel OK with leaving. On the other, I can't help but thinking about it : my wife ain't attracted to me, that's a fact. I want to think it's because she sees me through the shades of my "old me". But it must also be because I am failing hard somewhere. Failing is o…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 05:05 PM
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I already have made my move. I proposed shared custody with me moving out nearby so we can limit the impact on kids as mush as possible. Boys are 9/5/2
/r/askMRP04/01/18 08:27 AM
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Both, actually.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 04:33 PM
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I should have anticipated this but thanks anyway. By sex-frenzy I meant we had more sex, as in quantity, the quality was average at best. I guess by that time my expectations were already way higher than what she could provide.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 04:33 PM
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I meant I didn't write about the beggining of the process, not that I skipped it. About being muscular, I meant that "big" is subjective. Some tell me I'm muscular but I rather I am lean compared to other people I see. Same goes with your definition of "too big" As for killing the puppy, in retrospective it's true my mindset when I started writing was like "I am right, right guyzz ?" but putting my thoughts on paper, re-re-reading helped. I had already made up my mind, just needed to accept it. …
/r/askMRP03/01/18 04:20 PM
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Yeah I knew from the start. But after 3 years trying with but few results, I feel like giving up on my wife. In less than 3 months fucking the new girl, I did more than in 10y with my wife. Yes, it sounds like the easy choice and I feel reluctant if only just for this reason but I honestly think there is a limit to how hard you can beat yourself. Someday you get to that point where enough is enough.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 09:28 AM
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Well, we knew all along this was a possibility. As someone stated above, get out or endure a starfishsex life "for the kids". Choice is obvious to me. Ad for the new girl, I like her. I like how she opened up to me and let loose her inner slut. I can see us doing many things together but as far as the feelz... I don't know. Honestly I came to question whether I actually love(d) my wife at any point, or anyone. Even though I genuily think I love my kids. Sooooo, sometimes I'm there thinking "I re…
/r/askMRP03/01/18 08:41 AM
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Been there, read that. Multiple times. As for attractiveness, it's subjective but I am positive I am better than ever and I can spot IOI here and there. Might land more girls if I was in a more "open" mindset, who knows. PS: wanted to add, for all those doubters, DEVI works. period.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 08:31 AM
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Of course I wouldn't want that. I stated as much quite a long time ago. It's not as much as wanting her to savagefuck me, as much as WANTING to. But she can't want to want or whatever sense that made.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 08:29 AM
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Actually, I have no interest in "punishing" her or hurting her in any way. First, I still like her as a human being and I can totally see myself staying on friendly terms with her. And second, it wouldn't serve me in any way. I wouldn't get any benefit from hurting her. Reason why I would not never tell her I cheated on her. There is just no fucking purpose.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 08:26 AM
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What did I figured out ? Sounds obvious now but my wife ain't gonna change. Either she can't or she won't, or both or whatever. I have the power to make her happy, but the opposite just ain't happening.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 08:23 AM
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Ofc, I cut a bit of the starting process. I'm currently at 74kg (163lb) for 1.86m (6.1 ft) 13% BF. Muscular is subjective but I'm quite lean with defined enough muscles. 2018 plan is to bulk up a little, esp. upstairs. Not too much, fucking tired of changing clothes sizes every other month
/r/askMRP03/01/18 08:22 AM
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Did that. Sex frenzy ensued, like for a week. Then she "tired out" and it went back to the status quo.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 08:17 AM
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opened my eyes to the fact that what I want does in fact exist Exactly what happened to me. Your story is enlightening and reflects my thoughts. I've come to the conclusion that my wife just can't/don't want to meet my expectations. Deep down I know my decision was made months ago but as you said, we are still decent human beings and it held me back. And yes, I hope we can part on friendly terms. Would be better for the kids anyway.
/r/askMRP03/01/18 08:15 AM
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