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| 18 | In a matter of weeks I went from "I can't wait to marry my fiance" to Postponing the wedding, to ending the relationship on Monday. | Me-Not-Drinking-A-V | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/24 11:17 AM |
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| – | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/12/24)OYS #25 My mission is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature to help lead, teach, and walk alongside other young men, and the youth of my church and others in my city, to grow them in their knowledge and understanding of Christ and his character, and to equip and encourage them to do the same. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220x3, Bench 135x7, OHP 90x4, 10+ chinups, 6~ dips. No porn, no masturbation, low lusty thoughts. First proper workout in a couple weeks, new benc… | /r/RPChristians | 13/08/24 11:58 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/24)Spiritual: Assurance of Salvation: 10/10 Quiet Time/Devotional: 4/10 Bible Study: 6/10 Scripture Memory: 5/10 Prayer: 6/10 Evangelism: 1/10 Fellowship: 8/10 Bit better this week. Not at all to take away from the value of disciplines (which I did get back into better this week) but I've really had a greater sense of peace over the last week compared to the couple months prior, and thats after the aforementioned less than ideal financial decisions, being sick, and finding out my dog (probably) has… | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/24 09:45 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/24)OYS #24 My mission is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature to help lead, teach, and walk alongside other young men, and the youth of my church and others in my city, to grow them in their knowledge and understanding of Christ and his character, and to equip and encourage them to do the same. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220 220x3, DB bench 45x7, DB OHP 45x4, 10+ chinups, 6~ dips. No porn 20 days, no masturbation 21... I've been sick this last week which would usua… | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/24 09:44 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/24)All ticks bar porn and understanding how to lead better, but that might come with practice. There was a couple "ideal but not necessary" standards well like self defence training, savings targets, haven't got any of them sorted as of yet due to injury and being out of work. Yeah I reckon I agree with the flirting thing, I just get caught in it some times and don't want to send the wrong message you know? Sharing the porn part with whom? The girl? Hell naw | /r/RPChristians | 01/08/24 12:45 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/24)Spiritual: Assurance of Salvation: 10/10 Quiet Time/Devotional: 3/10 Bible Study: 6/10 Scripture Memory: 4/10 Prayer: 5/10 Evangelism: 1/10 Fellowship: 8/10 Very slack this week overall, still reading consistently, still continually refreshing memory on scripture but haven't gotten any new verses. No really study, no real quiet time. I did have another quite long conversation with my new osteopath about faith though, he's asking a lot of good questions, I'm not sure where he's coming from with t… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/24 12:32 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/24)OYS #23 (missed last week) My mission is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature to help lead, teach, and walk alongside other young men, and the youth of my church and others in my city, to grow them in their knowledge and understanding of Christ and his character, and to equip and encourage them to do the same. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220 220x3, DB bench 45x7, DB OHP 45x4, 10+ chinups, 6~ dips. No porn 10 days, no masturbation 11. General lustful thoughts at a… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/24 12:32 PM |
| – | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/15/24)OYS #22 My mission is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature to help lead, teach, and walk alongside other young men, and the youth of my church and others in my city, to grow them in their knowledge and understanding of Christ and his character, and to equip and encourage them to do the same. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220 220x3, DB bench 45x7, DB OHP 45x4, 10+ chinups, 6~ dips. Porn x3, masturbation x3. Snapped myself out of the porn twice, went for the "empty h… | /r/RPChristians | 18/07/24 01:47 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/08/24)OYS #21 My mission is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature to help lead, teach, and walk alongside other young men, and the youth of my church and others in my city, to grow them in their knowledge and understanding of Christ and his character, and to equip and encourage them to do the same. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220 220x3, DB bench 45x7, DB OHP 45x4, 10+ chinups, 6~ dips. I'm in my 2nd week of my new workout period, mostly all new exercises, gonna retest m… | /r/RPChristians | 11/07/24 11:35 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/01/24)Spiritual: Assurance of Salvation: 10/10 Quiet Time/Devotional: 2/10 actually went for a drive for some alone worship time in the car. Bible Study: 4/10 Reading every day, thinking about what I've read instead of just wiping my brain as soon as I put my bible down. Scripture Memory: 3/10 Same 5 but I've got the references down pat, next 2 are ~40% in my head. Prayer: 5/10 Same same, need a list of others needs to keep in the car, gym and bedroom. Evangelism: 1/10 Got to have a really good conver… | /r/RPChristians | 03/07/24 10:01 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/01/24)OYS #20 My mission is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature to help lead, teach, and walk alongside other young men, and the youth of my church and others in my city, to grow them in their knowledge and understanding of Christ and his character, and to equip and encourage them to do the same. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220 220x3, DB bench 45x7, DB OHP 45x4, 10+ chinups, 6~ dips. Porn/masturbation twice since last OYS. Just being an idiot, nothing else to add ther… | /r/RPChristians | 03/07/24 10:01 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/24/24)I wouldnt personally turn down interest from women despite still dealing with porn and nice guy traits I agree, although I might not have phrased it super well, my b. I won't turn down the interest, and it is a bit of a bolster for the abundance mentallity, but I do get "stuck" on chicks once they do express interest. So yeah like you said it is just the dedication. By "not doing anything about it" I just meant I wouldn't pursue it because I haven't had the time/discipline and I don't reckon I w… | /r/RPChristians | 28/06/24 05:56 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/24/24)OYS #19 My mission is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature to help lead, teach, and walk alongside other young men, and the youth of my church and others in my city, to grow them in their knowledge and understanding of Christ and his character, and to equip and encourage them to do the same. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220 220x3, DB bench 45x7, DB OHP 45x4, 10+ chinups, 6~ dips. 0 porn or masturbation since my last OYS, only 5 days, but I'm feeling fresh and good… | /r/RPChristians | 25/06/24 10:55 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/17/24)OYS #18 (missed last week) Still on the hunt for a definable, measurable mission. I've mentioned before that I'm leading in my Church's youth ministry and that really is where I see myself making an impact, and I'm passionate about teaching my boys group to act righteously and think biblically. I have a passion/desire for teaching and leading, but really need to tune and hone those skills. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220 220x3, DB bench 45x7, DB OHP 45x4, 10+ chinups… | /r/RPChristians | 19/06/24 10:04 AM |
| 6 | What scriptural proof is there that having sex with multiple women in a lifetime is sinful?This passage isn't telling you its OK to sleep with someone outside of marriage, it even calls this particular instance a violation. It's the course of action that the nation of Israel is to force on the man for having done the wrong thing. | /r/RPChristians | 11/06/24 10:01 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/24)I feel tragically underqualified to be in the position of mentoring anyone right now. Even with guys a couple years younger, some of whom I try to help out where I can, I feel like I can't help. I feel I'm being hypocritical if I give advice to them, at least on relationships and porn. I was part of an absolute trainwreck of a relationship, and have had very limited success with porn in recent months. | /r/RPChristians | 11/06/24 11:39 AM |
| 2 | What scriptural proof is there that having sex with multiple women in a lifetime is sinful?Now I focus on the exceptions to the rule: I have heard and read that sex out of marriage is allowed provided one married the woman of choice immediately after. This means one can have sex, but only with the intent to marry her. I'm not sure where you've heard or read this, but without scripture to back it up, I wouldn't take this as true. The only scripture I could think as coming anywhere close to this is 1 Corinthians 7:9 "9 But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is bett… | /r/RPChristians | 11/06/24 11:26 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/24)OYS #17 Still on the hunt for a definable, measurable mission. I've mentioned before that I'm leading in my Church's youth ministry and that really is where I see myself making an impact, and I'm passionate about teaching my boys group to act righteously and think biblically. I have a passion/desire for teaching and leading, but really need to tune and hone those skills. Physical: 164lb, 17.7% BF (navy method), Squat 175x3, DL 220 220x3, DB bench 45x7, DB OHP 45x4, 10+ chinups, 6~ dips. Got a re… | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/24 12:00 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/24)OYS #16 Still on the hunt for a definable, measurable mission. I've mentioned before that I'm leading in my Church's youth ministry and that really is where I see myself making an impact, and I'm passionate about teaching my boys group to act righteously and think biblically. I have a passion/desire for teaching and leading, but really need to tune and hone those skills. Didn't do book order, borrowed a bunch of books instead (not necessarily RP but still all (presumably) good Christian books) P… | /r/RPChristians | 30/05/24 10:49 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/24)Spiritual: Assurance of Salvation 10/10 Quiet Time/Devotional 2/10 Bible Study 4/10 Actually reading consistently again, and at least thinking about the word I've just read instead of just going on about my day like I didn't even read. Scripture Memory 5/10 6 verses. Prayer 8/10 Everyday, twice a day. Evangelism I might actually be seeing more opportunities here soon. My new boss runs a charity is in the business of giving down and out people a a helping hand and also a firm reality check. I've … | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/24 11:19 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/24)OYS #15 Still on the hunt for a definable, measurable mission. I've mentioned before that I'm leading in my Church's youth ministry and that really is where I see myself making an impact, and I'm passionate about teaching my boys group to act righteously and think biblically. I have a passion/desire for teaching and leading, but really need to tune and hone those skills. Going to be doing a big book order this week as I've gotten my first full size paycheck in months. yeehaw. Physical: I'm getti… | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/24 11:18 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/24)OYS #14 I've really not been happy with how vague my mission has been in my OYSs, its a good structure sure, but it seems milktoast, and I want to be more specific and measureable. Physical: No real changes on lifts, lifting isn't great this week with work/projects, and my hip is still giving me grief. I'll be booking a scan for my hip at my next physio appointment. No runs, no rides (riding tonight tho) No porn or masturbation. I've been chatting with a mate every couple of days whose been chec… | /r/RPChristians | 15/05/24 09:46 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)Why not? I was going for the better part of last year and I just didn't find it productive. I did better by forgetting that porn existed instead of being reminded of it once a week. They've also pushed a fair few non-biblical ideas, such as "the damage of porn is worse than pre-marital sex" , you should tell your missus when you've looked at porn (1 guy is now separated and on the verge of divorce, one guy is on the verge of separation), and if the pastor who started the group isn't there in the… | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/24 10:22 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)Mental/emotional tl;dr: Still feeling stale. Only done a little bit of re-reading sidebar+taking notes. Started new job. New job is great. albeit a bit of a loose setup. It's coming with its challenges as I've been thrown in the deep-end for admin type stuff as I'm basically working out the entire building process on my own as an apprentice who was being micromanaged like crazy only 2 months ago. I see some great learning experiences ahead, but the stress definitely already got to me today, I ob… | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/24 11:57 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)Any ideas on why I can't seem to make a regular comment since this UI update? OYS 13 Fortnightly is a bad idea, I am not going as well as I would like to think (shocker). Mission: My mission is to use and develop my God charisma, fun-loving nature, and my ability lead and desire to teach to help lead others in practical and personal ways, discipling them as friends, and hopefully later in life as mentees as well. I desire to have a family, if it is in God's plan for my life. I want to lead them,… | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/24 11:57 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/24)Mental/Emotional: tl;dr: Still solid. Feeling a bit stagnant. Reading has been good. Feel like I'm learning pretty steadily. A bit confused on mission. Got a new job, I think. I've (hopefully) found another job. It's a little unconventional, as its still in my industry, but its through a friends uncles mate, and I'll be working for the uncle, but on his mates books just so I can get my qualification.. bit of a cowboy set up but its honestly more in the specific sort of area that I want to work i… | /r/RPChristians | 23/04/24 12:02 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/24)OYS 12 Missed last week due to laziness. Mission: My purpose in life is to use my God given charisma, fun-loving nature, mixed with my ability to lead, teach, and encourage others in real, practical and personal ways to bring others to Christ, and to develop them into disciples. One day I want to have a family, and to use the aforementioned abilities to lead them as a family unit, and to bring in other couples and families to the body of Christ. Physical: tl;dr: No porn, 1 count of masturbation.… | /r/RPChristians | 23/04/24 12:02 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/24)I prayed for your job situation. I don't know how it works there, but the last time I was looking I applied to over 70 places. The prayer is much appreciated, and it seems those prayers may have been answered. Got on to a kind of funky but quite unique opportunity through a girl from church. Looks like I'll be restoring a 200 year old barn on a farm for the remainder of my apprenticeship if everything goes to plan. As for frame, are you doing what you want to do? Do you even know what you want? … | /r/RPChristians | 20/04/24 10:51 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/24)Mental/Emotional: tl;dr: Solid. Unbothered despite less than ideal circumstances. Poor on reading. Re-realising I'm in recovery from white knight and nice guy behaviour, and that just because I've read some RP content it doesn't make me some guru. Probably still giving her too much mental energy (surprise) but there've been 2 gatherings (post church hangs, friends birthday) with my ex in close proximity and I have experienced 0 negative emotions after either, even with some interactions and some… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/24 01:23 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/24)OYS #11 Reddit pooped the bed for some reason and wouldn't let me comment last week. Been at youth camp so reading dropped off a bit. Lots of free time now so I should be banging stuff out. Mission: My purpose in life is to use my God given charisma, fun-loving nature, mixed with my ability to lead, teach, and encourage others in real, practical and personal ways to bring others to Christ, and to develop them into disciples. One day I want to have a family, and to use the aforementioned abilitie… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/24 01:23 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/24)Something seems off here but I will stop pressing. I mean I probably could have done a better job, but even my SIL (her cousin) is having a hard time with conversation/connecting her in. You are still white knighting. You are giving her so much head space even though she showed her true colors. It is possible for a woman wait for you to lead an encounter, but she did not. She gave into her sin too. You were not helping the relationship, but neither was she. I think I get it now, however I'm goin… | /r/RPChristians | 02/04/24 01:49 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/24)Why limited success? Not sure. She just dipped. You can lead a horse to water vut you can't make it drink. If she met a Chad she would be over you, and you would probably be pissed. I'd actually be thrilled, unfortunately there's not a lot (i.e none that I know/of) in the churches in my city, they're all already married. To AFC and average woman I also don't stack up so bad, and her perception of me was definitely way better then how I actually was, so I think her standards may have been skewed.… | /r/RPChristians | 31/03/24 10:55 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/24)I hope you acted like her host there and engaged her in conversation etc. You had a chance to DHV by introducing her to others, etc. How did you do? Engaged yes, ecnouraged one of the bloke's whose house it is to be a bit more hostly, and also tried to introduce her to new people. All with limited success. I have zero context, and I don't care too much, but you are shaming yourself for her feelings. They are her responsibilty. Context (for the small part that does care): We were engaged, I broke… | /r/RPChristians | 30/03/24 12:14 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/24)Self programmed based on what I like, whats comfortable with injuries, and psrticular areas that are lacking. Always open to feedback. | /r/RPChristians | 30/03/24 11:59 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/24)Monday DB OH DB Bench Dips Lateral raise Wednesday DL Lat crossover Face pull DB curl (thinking I'll change back to chin ups once I fix my wonky shoulders) Friday/Saturday(depending on time convenience) Back squat RDL Hip thrust Sissy squats Also doing dead hangs and handstands every day. | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/24 11:29 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/24)OYS #10 >Says he's starting from scratch >structures it the same way Yeah righto Mission: My purpose in life is to use my God given charisma, fun-loving nature, mixed with my ability to lead, teach, and encourage others in real, practical and personal ways to bring others to Christ, and to develop them into disciples. One day I want to have a family, and to use the aforementioned abilities to lead them as a family unit, and to bring in other couples and families to the body of Christ. To make th… | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/24 11:25 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/18/24)OYS #9 I'm basically starting from scratch on how I'm doing my OYS. It was feeling useless because I have been making it useless. Mission: My purpose in life is to use my God given charisma, fun-loving nature, mixed with my ability to lead, teach, and encourage others in real, practical and personal ways to bring others to Christ, and to develop them into disciples. One day I want to have a family, and to use the aforementioned abilities to lead them as a family unit, and to bring in other coupl… | /r/RPChristians | 21/03/24 11:49 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)I'm not trying to attack you. Literally what are you doing with your time, do you work, go to school or something else productive? Oh right. Work (inc. getting ready/travel) is roughly 6:30-16:30 mon-fri On lifting days its grab a snack, have some pre workout, quick shower, start lifting before 17:15, hopefully finish before 19:15 (definitely lose time on my phone during rests) Then its dinner/dog walk/shower and that basically has me wrapped up til like 20:30-21:00 depending on how long the wal… | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/24 03:14 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)I genuinely laughed when I read that, you do make an excellent point once again, and I've realised how dense I may look. I think of it as posting for feedback on a Christian subreddit because I'm seeking wise counsel. Sexual strategy is secondary at this stage Like I said, I just got out of an unhealthy relationship that was unhealthy because of both parties. My unhealthiness was in both spiritual and emotional immaturity, being a huge simp, and, yes, having poor sexual strategy. It's on the lis… | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/24 07:42 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)I'm confused where all your time is going. I have a job, family and I lift 2-3x/week, bjj 2-3x/week and have other stuff going on too. I read this and my brain melts. I've been wondering how the married blokes on here fit in the same stuff I do AND have a family. Blows my mind, I must just be losing time to small things throughout. Have you looked into ADHD? Your dialogue here sounds like you have it Briefly, but I'm not a fan of self diagnosing and didn't want to go to the doctor to ask about s… | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/24 07:35 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)I may just be dense as anything, so I just might be missing the point. I don't need a woman. I don't currently want one. Why would I pursue one? | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/24 03:41 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)Because that's what it is. You say you want to get married, have a sex life, have a family, etc. What is your plan for making any of that happen? What did you actually do this week towards those ends? I didn't see anything. That's all true; that is a goal and I haven't moved towards it since I started OYSing. I would like to be in a position where I'm happy to live and die single. Right now thats not the case. I just spent the majority of the last 2 years finding my satisfaction in a relationshi… | /r/RPChristians | 15/03/24 01:46 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)OYS #8 Mission: My life purpose is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature, with my (in development) ability to lead, and practicality to be someone who encourages, teaches, and leads others to help realise their God given purpose in life; to love God, love others, and make disciples. I see an eventual side goal of mine to have a family, for the purpose making disciples, and disciplers, out of my possible future wife and children. Sidenote: I feel like I'm getting the whole point of OYS wrong. … | /r/RPChristians | 14/03/24 11:20 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/24)OYS #7 Mission: My life purpose is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature, with my (in development) ability to lead, and practicality to be someone who encourages, teaches, and leads others to help realise their God given purpose in life; to love God, love others, and make disciples. I see an eventual side goal of mine to have a family, for the purpose making disciples, and disciplers, out of my possible future wife and children. Physical: Stats: 5'7", 165lb, 20% BF, Squat 143 (on hold), DB … | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/24 11:28 AM |
| – | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/26/24)Cont. Reading: Picked up an old podcast series I was listening to around a year ago. It's 2 chicks (unbased, I know) that were raised Reformed/Presbyterian. I'm not a huge fan of everything they say but it does offer some good insight. I have not so much as touched any hardcopies I have, BMB is collecting dust, as is NMMNG, so I haven't been doing any breaking free exercises. I'm gonna put this here as a mark to say I made it through this much OYS in a single night. 3 days later (spongebob trans… | /r/RPChristians | 29/02/24 11:01 AM |
| – | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/26/24)OYS #6 (missed last week) Edits done on the night of posting are in italics. Mission: My life purpose is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature, with my (in development) ability to lead, and practicality to be someone who encourages, teaches, and leads others to help realise their God given purpose in life; to love God, love others, and make disciples. I see an eventual side goal of mine to have a family, for the purpose making disciples, and disciplers, out of my possible future wife and chil… | /r/RPChristians | 29/02/24 11:00 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/24)Now I'm picking up what your laying down with this part, I've probably worded it poorly. All that to say that all this time I've thought that the extent of my mental needs was to either simply "do better" or see a psych, and that this part of my life is becoming that "one thing" that when its fixed I'll be peachy. Now I'm thinking that that is not so. I would absolutely say that I started with a closer-to-correct perspective without realising, but then lost it. Reading the 400's has helped me ac… | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/24 01:57 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/24)Mobile sucks, bear with me. Thank you again for advice. Are you at least making progress with upper body work? Yes, weight is moving easier on each lift, but working through the imbalances is a dog. No one working out with me and no mirrors means I'm finding some awkward angle to film myself on to check form, then watch the recording back and try to guess what I actually need to fix. The rise of CBDCs may impact that in a negative way. I would rethink this. Duely noted. Can’t manage your money e… | /r/RPChristians | 14/02/24 01:58 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/24)Reading: Finished the "Post Series" sidebar content. Onto singles content. I've already mention some stuff from the 400's series in the last 2 sections, but they really have just been a general eye opener for a lot of things that, once reading them, feel like they should be just inherent things to understand because they are so intuitive. I despise "motivation" as a concept, but for lack of a better word I'm lacking motivation to read the singles/married content on the sidebar because I feel as … | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/24 11:15 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/24)OYS #5 Mission: My life purpose is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature, with my (in development) ability to lead, and practicality to be someone who encourages, teaches, and leads others to help realise their God given purpose in life; to love God, love others, and make disciples. I see an eventual side goal of mine to have a family, for the purpose making disciples, and disciplers, out of my children and my possible future wife. Physical: Stats: 5'7", 165lb, 20% BF, Squat 138, DB Bench 3… | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/24 11:15 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/05/24)Man, you are good... I'm pretty consistently taken aback by the quality of feedback here, so once again, thank you. The prayer needs list is a top notch idea, I'll get on it. Also the emotional response one, yeah that makes sense, and I guess feedback like that is good one here, because it teaches you to do that emotional check without the pressure.. neat. | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/24 07:15 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/05/24)Both of the above issues likely stem from the amount of time you spend in front of a screen every day. Get off the computer and touch some grass each day. Ah yes, I've forgotten the type of breed that you'd normally be giving advice to. I've got no more than 2 hours each day on a screen. Most of that is reddit (on this sub or askmrp) or Facebook (including messaging people). I am a full time grass toucher. A budget would be good. I would recommend doing one by yourself and then have your broth… | /r/RPChristians | 09/02/24 06:27 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/05/24)OYS #4 Mission: My life purpose is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature, with my (in development) ability to lead, and practicality to be someone who encourages, teaches, and leads others to help realise their God given purpose in life; to love God, love others, and make disciples. I see an eventual side goal of mine to have a family, for the purpose making disciples, and disciplers, out of my children and my possible future wife. Physical: Stats: 5'7", 165lb, 20% BF, Squat 138, DB Bench 3… | /r/RPChristians | 08/02/24 10:45 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/29/24)Ok yeah now that you point it out I can see how that comes across that way. I'm definitely guilty of a pessimistic/self defeating view on myself. I also however have an incredibly short memory for strong emotions, so I entirely forgot about that experience and typing it into my OYS, and only yesterday (after nearly a month) did I even remember why I ended my relationship. One last question surrounding the scarcity/oneitis issue. Given the position I'm in, in regards to mission/frame/spiritual ma… | /r/RPChristians | 03/02/24 01:00 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/29/24)Excuse my density once again, but what is doomer thinking? Google says pessism about life problems. Also yes, I did think that in theory this is preselection, but surely you could see how this actually works against me, right? "He has commitment issues and he's broken some poor girls heart" On some level there would have to be "Wow he's good enough quality to be engaged to" but the vibes just aren't right. Is my way of thinking just so far removed from RP thinking that I can't wrap my head aroun… | /r/RPChristians | 02/02/24 09:02 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/29/24)Have you read this post on Oneitis? Yessir. At the risk of sounding like a compartmentalising fool, I'm struggling to identify with much of any example given, I must assume my hamster is getting some mileage in order to be of that mindset. The only thing I've really gotten from this is the cures of mission and satisfaction; to look to God and his purpose for my life over anything else. Until you develop abundance by taking risks and asking other girls out, you will experience scarcity, which c… | /r/RPChristians | 02/02/24 11:41 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/29/24)Thats a little reassuring, I guess. How did you go about the 'breaking free' exercises? Someone from the sub or a friend/family member, or just doing them solo as best you could? | /r/RPChristians | 30/01/24 06:40 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/29/24)OYS #4 Mission: My life purpose is to use my charismatic, fun loving nature, with my (in development) ability to lead, and practicality to be someone who encourages, teaches, and leads others to help realise their God given purpose in life; to love God, love others, and make disciples. I'm achieving this by serving in my youth and Sunday school ministries. I'm looking to find a mentor to help develop my leadership and teaching skills. Currently this is a little bit blind leading the blind, but w… | /r/RPChristians | 29/01/24 11:28 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/22/24)Rightio, I should have been more specific. My clapacks are usually something that adds to the other persons joke, which I guess you would class as A&A Is A&A from a particular book like some of these other communication skills or is it just independantly recognised as good practice? I think I learned of it a while ago from a youtube channel. | /r/RPChristians | 24/01/24 12:25 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/22/24)OYS #3 Mission: To make disciples. Whom from? Unsure. How so? Unsure. I have a long way to go before I see myself as the slightest bit qualified to be leading people in such a way. I plan on bettering myself to such a point through consistent efforts in OYSing, Bible study, reading sidebar material, and putting to practice to the knowledge I gain from these things. The primary goal is to better know God and his plan for my life, through prayer and study, and trying my best to emulate Jesus. Miss… | /r/RPChristians | 23/01/24 10:26 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/15/24)Mobile sucks so I can't quote text but those third and fourth paragraphs are particularly helpful, its all stuff that I've learned before to some extent but you've put it very practically. As for the frame stuff, I think I understand it to the level of emotionally dictated vs factually/biblically dictated, and being active and not reactive, but I'm sure I'll learn more as I read more and gleam knowledge from practice. If I've got the wrong idea I would to have that pointed out now instead of lat… | /r/RPChristians | 19/01/24 01:28 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/15/24)OYS #2 Mission: To make disciples. Whom from? Unsure. How so? Unsure. I have a long way to go before I see myself as the slightest bit qualified to be leading people in such a way. I plan on bettering myself to such a point through consistent efforts in OYSing, Bible study, reading sidebar material, and putting to practice to the knowledge I gain from these things. The primary goal is to better know God and his plan for my life, through prayer and study, and trying my best to emulate Jesus. Ph… | /r/RPChristians | 17/01/24 09:09 AM |
| 1 | In a matter of weeks I went from "I can't wait to marry my fiance" to Postponing the wedding, to ending the relationship on Monday.I'm not sure how to respond to all of this stuff without making excuses, so I just won't apart from saying thank you. Having an entirely outside, disconnected view has been very helpful. Idk where this idea came from that guys should tell their spouse about their porn use. It has to be the dumbest thing ever. This idea was pushed by a men's group that I joined, the groups purpose was to help men through their porn problems. I don't know if there is any guy in that group, after nearly a year of i… | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/24 11:08 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/08/24)OYS (technically #4, its been 8 months, I deleted my first 2) Stats: 23, 5'7", 167lb, 18.8% BF Lifts: 100x6 Bench, 180x6 DL, 135x 6 Squat, 10 solid chin-ups. Lifting has been poor since a couple months into my last relationship (probably started to dwindle late 2022) I have had a couple injuries in there, but nothing that could have caused the poor performance I've had. 165 is my ideal weight, but as long as I'm looking and better and feeling I better I could go either way. Diet is fairly clean.… | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/24 02:28 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/15/23)For starters this is my first OYS in nearly 2 years. I did it twice, cracked the sads and stopped. I deleted them out of embarrassment, realised I shouldn't have because hey if you're embarrassed there's probably a good reason for it. Anyway... PHYSICAL: 23, 5'7", 160lbs, 18%~ bodyfat. Gyms been poor, wrist and elbow injuries that limit what I can do, leading to (apparently) overworking what I can do, another injury. I'm out for a few weeks until my body decides it likes being alive again. no su… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/23 11:13 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/22/21)OYS WEEK #2 STATS: 21, 5'7, 160lb, 220lb deadlift, 140lb squat, 110lb bench, 80lb OHP. all lifts between 5-8 reps. PHYSICAL: Only going to get 2 workouts in this week because of my brothers wedding (missed Monday, won't have time Saturday). Diet is a bit up and down, between working (Carpentry) and working out I need around 3000 calories a day, so most days I find myself eating whatever I can to meet my calories. I still get the nutrition I need but there's a fair bit of crap in there as well.… | /r/RPChristians | 25/11/21 12:22 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/15/21)Sorry for multiple walls of text. Any and all critique and advice is greatly appreciated. Basic info: 21, single, 5'7", 160lb, Navy method says 15% BF but I'd guess closer to 20-22%. Lifts: Don't really do 1RM, all compounds are between 5-8 reps. 220 deadlift, 140lb squat, 110lb bench, 80lb OHP. PHYSICAL: Lifting has been pretty inconsistent since September. My aim is 4 workouts a week, only been 2 or 3 a week for the last 2 months. Diet, weight, BF are all good. I had an issue with porn, includ… | /r/RPChristians | 19/11/21 08:56 AM |
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