Meetmeinthe Archive

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1	Why is it so easy to give in and think women are too good for you? Redefine your happiness as the equivalent of taking actions. Dont base happiness as success and failure or rejection or acceptance. If you take actions every day, then you're the man. Of course theres always desensitize method like ask stranger what time it is or location of a restaurant to get over approach anxiety. Another aspect people rarely talk about on here is having a spiritual practice also help. Best of luck.	/r/seduction	01/01/21 11:33 AM
2	How do you know what to listen to? Set out what values you want in a girl, for example compassion, honesty, well traveled, spiritually inclined etc. Work toward those same values as a person. Simultaneously talk to girls at the same time and try to attract what you put out. Find the common ground and start from there. This is is you want a partner for life. If you want hook ups then it is different. Regardless of technique use, I would say do everything with grace.	/r/seduction	25/12/20 03:21 PM
1	JUST BE HONEST! Indeed model is so simple and powerful. I felt like everything else over complicated and make me analysis paralysis. After model I was able to apporach and be "myself"	/r/seduction	23/12/20 11:52 PM
4	How to avoid feeling as though you’re interrupting someone with a cold approach? Be confident but not cocky. Affirm yourself before approach that you're a kind man with good intentions and want to elevate people moods or something like that. Volunteering has helped me where I have to approach and ask people if they want me to pray for them or not. Taking comfort in the absolute truth that you have good intentions regardless of how they react.	/r/seduction	20/12/20 03:19 AM
1	6 Signs Someone is Attracted To You That's true in a perfect world all humans are rational and should and able to be direct without fear of rejection. But we are not. Sometimes men need some signs to gather more courage. And sometimes coming on too strong is a turn off.	/r/seduction	12/12/20 05:36 PM
1	12 months Porn Free A better analogy would be if you dont stop eating ice cream, you will never get to enjoy steaks or any other foods because all you think you can get is ice cream.	/r/seduction	12/12/20 06:47 AM
10	The number one sign that a girl likes you is proximity The number one sign is if he talks to you and hes not gay. Or if he gives you compliment, go out his way to talk to you. Sometimes he might be nervous. If he teases or make fun of you that's a good sign too. But in the end everybody is so different it's best to assume attraction until proven otherwise, and ask people for phone number and eventually hang out.	/r/seduction	10/12/20 09:34 PM
2	Has anyone here overcome social anxiety, lack of confidence, inexperience, etc? Everybody is inexperienced in some fields shapes or forms. There might be guys that were good eith girls in high school but after high school it's a different kind of game. They do have an advantage over 0 experience guy due to past positive reinforcement though. I had no girls experience until 25. I had major social phobia and anxiety and couldnt talk to anyone. I had to take small steps by saying hi to strangers and felt like I would pass out every time. Eventually I manage to date some girl a…	/r/seduction	06/12/20 03:42 AM
1	Exercise to escape woman’s approval I was reading op post as more of being outcome independent and not put girls on pedestal. Your worth and happiness shouldnt be based on girls and if they reject you or not. But yes chances are you will only be able to attract girls with similar physical attractiveness as you.	/r/seduction	06/12/20 02:44 AM
1	Fellow men, how does one become a more interesting and thoughtful/thought provoking person? 🤔 Read and listen to podcasts. Start a podcast you'll be surprised how easy it is to maintain a conversation as you develop your podcasting skill. Get your best friends to be on it and talk as long as you guys can.	/r/seduction	01/12/20 08:14 AM
2	How do I get out of my own way Those are good things that you should do. But dont think like you should finish doing those to deserve love or fulfillment. We often have this mindset that "if we do this, then we will be happy". Often time this can be detrimental to your inner self of worth. No amount of works can lead to self actualization. Of course it doesnt mean you dont work toward self improvement. But it means having peace and serenity regardless of your current situation is what ultimately what you want to achieve. Enjo…	/r/seduction	28/11/20 01:04 PM
3	I tried to approach and FROZE With gym, you better talk to everybody, guys and girls, make friends with front desk receptionist and gym goers. This will develop social proof as well as make you more comfortable in that environment over time.	/r/seduction	28/11/20 11:38 AM
15	How do I (F) express that I'm sexually interested in a guy I met? If you dont have courage to tell him. You can ask to hang out with him and watch tv together on the couch and just get close to him and then lean on him.	/r/seduction	28/11/20 01:16 AM
5	So the first time we’ve hung out (ever) was at my place. It wasn’t meant to be a date per se, but check out what happened, and let me know what you think. Last minute resistance is common. She might want something serious with you and dont want to feel like an easy chick. She might realized she forgot to shave. She might want to get to know you better. It doesnt really matter the reason because unless she flat out ignore you, shes still interest in you. She messaged you afterward so that's a clear sign she want to continue to get to know you. It's more about what you want to do from now on. You know shes receptive to you, so if you want to date he…	/r/seduction	28/11/20 01:12 AM
2	Hey guys I(21m) would like to understand how can I better myself in my approach to women based on my situation Search on this sub "social circle" you will see multiple advices thread. Right now it's hard due to covid. Meetup.com, social media, churches, joining a volunteer group are good way to meet new people. Stop the mindset that people dont want to talk to you. That's not healthy. You make the move and open up people. Be interest in their lives and practice good listening communication skill. Know that to build a good social circle takes a long time but it worths it. Currently I have yoga class circl…	/r/seduction	27/11/20 10:00 PM
5	Co-worker (F) at the grocery store I hope you got her number already. You can just say in person Hey I like talking to you, let's get some coffee or tea or anything you like to do. Then text her the logistics. You dont have to say would you go on a date with me. Also it's better to make an assertive statement. You decide the specific location and time etc. Men should lead the logistics. This show her what you want and that you have strong decision making ability, ie. enhances your masculine energy and it allows women to be more f…	/r/seduction	26/11/20 11:32 PM
2	If I got compliments from women does that mean anything Not sure if troll post but if you're for real I think you might have some self images issue. Women dont compliment for no reason. Even if you're not good looking, you can get good haircut, fit clothes, work out to make you look as good as possible. Having bad body images is unattractive. Do what you can to improve your body and dont let it bother you. Your interaction with any women should be fun and masculine regardless if you're actually an ugly duckling or not.	/r/seduction	26/11/20 07:52 AM
2	stop TEXTING women I would ask her out in person if possible. If she says no or make excuses then you move on. If yes then set up logistics through text or call. You get better chance of saying yes when you ask in person and even if she says shes make excuses like "I'm busy" it will build your confident for next time. Easier said than done though.	/r/seduction	23/11/20 08:34 PM
4	stop TEXTING women Your message to her doesnt really ask for a respond unless she is really receptive to you already. Then she might say it was nice to meet you. If shes neutral or unreceptive she will leave on read. The general rule is to be vulnerable and polarize her fast so that you will know quickly if she gets receptive or not. This is from the book mark manson models. Be careful at work place dating though dont make her feel awkward	/r/seduction	23/11/20 07:36 AM
2	Does therapy really work? Yes it works but you still have to put in the work. They can help frame things and help you see things differently. Most college campus have free therapy or counseling resources. I haven't met anyone that say they regret taking therapy. Though it might require you to search for the right one that compatible to your personality. Having a good social support group is also good. Group support like Dharma recovery and 12 steps program can be helpful as well. They are free to attend (now mostly on zo…	/r/seduction	22/11/20 05:36 AM
10	My biggest insecurity: Not having close friends or friends in general since I moved after college, struggling to find a social circle to fit in. Anyone had any experience with it? By using meetup I was able to join a yoga group and make friends through there. Its harder now to pandemic but my tips is be consistent with meeting new people. It does take awhile to form bonds and make friends. You have to see them months depend on how comfortable you are. I also go to churches and meet new people. It's pretty easy to join a group and do volunteer activites together, eat together will help making friends easier. It might not be for everyone if you dont have a relationship with…	/r/seduction	20/11/20 09:40 AM
1	I (F21) want to seduce my bestfriend (M21) but idk how to... Guys are visual creatures. We judge girls attractiveness based on looks alone. Assuning your personality isnt a dumpster fire he will not friend zone you. Girls judge guys based on behaviors. Theres nothing left to do for you but let him know and ask him if he want to date. You can ask more people for advice but majority of people will tell you the same thing.	/r/seduction	18/11/20 10:51 PM
1	I (F21) want to seduce my bestfriend (M21) but idk how to... If its been 3 years, he knows how he feels about you. Theres not much else you can do to change how he feel. Its time to be vulnerable and tell him	/r/seduction	17/11/20 10:57 PM
1	Social circle vs cold approach Yoga, boxing, improv, even sewing class. Meetup.com was great pre corona. Volunteer events is good too. You will have to go to these for awhile and talk to everybody, not just girls so it will be less pressure.	/r/seduction	12/11/20 04:12 AM
3	I am so tired of being bad at small talk Go to a different setting perhaps. Volunteer events, yoga, boxing class, anything you might enjoy.	/r/seduction	12/11/20 04:07 AM
2	How to stop being needy Treating the root cause is key. Finding the right therapist or having a spiritual practice will help in the long run. Be very patient and compassionate with yourself.	/r/seduction	11/11/20 09:08 AM
1	Do you guys have any confidence tips Thank you for sharing. Can I ask if you have been feeling anxious your whole life? Or because of circumstances, you developed anxiety? Also how and where do you suggest to go meet people to make plan in the first place?	/r/seduction	11/11/20 08:44 AM
1	do i look Manly™ enough to get girls? Felt like you have more of a self image issue. 5 6 and 130 is healthy. You can work toward building more mass (working out should be part of your lifestyle anyway) but inner confident and outcome independent mindset is key as well. You cant control your height so dont even mind that. As for your face, you look fine. The vibe that you project, your maturity, and your spirit is way more important to the type of women that you will attract. For long term relationship though, money will be key. So w…	/r/seduction	14/03/19 01:07 PM
3	How to respond when she says "I'll think about it" Youre on a list of guys shes talking to. Dont text again. Approach other females. If like a week or two later you still want to try again, you can. But yea shes just not that into you.	/r/seduction	27/12/18 06:13 PM
4	How do you build your self esteem when all your friends look better then you? You have to plant the good seeds and speak to yourself positively. Many rich people prefer honda civic over lambos because its more functional and efficient, also easier to maintain. Figure out what youre good at and pursue it. If you don't know what youre good at, then stop doing things that you know you shouldnt be doing ie. Drinking or eating too much, negativity, laziness, etc. Put yourself in the right environments like go to meetup or hobbies where you can meet single women. Overtime hope …	/r/seduction	27/12/18 04:39 PM
1	At what age does remaining a virgin start to get weird? Am I a lost cause? Mindset is everything. I told a girl im a 25 years old virgin and she wanted me even more. Switch your frame. Dont think it as insecurity.	/r/seduction	27/12/18 05:46 AM
6	Do magicians seduce girls? Love spells? Uhm no...theres no such thing. You probably like him because hes mysterious and charming and different. Its infatuation and maybe quote on quote "love at first sight". If he figure out there is such a thing as love spells though, thig guy would be stinking rich. Its ok to feel that way about him though. Maybe ask his friend about him and if he into poly. Source: I am an armateur magician.	/r/seduction	24/12/18 06:20 PM
35	[F28] SHY GUYS: How do I tell a potential (but extremely shy) guy that I'm in an open marriage and want to play, without scaring him away? If he really that shy i think if you mentioned open marriage he might not accept you. Not because he doesnt like you but he propably prefer traditional single women. In either case you have to be honest with him and communicate so that you dont hurt him or you in the long run. If he really likes you, that open marriage wont be an issue. But i think it will from the way you described him. Regardless he probably still enjoy the company of a friend like you. Source: i was voted as the most bashful …	/r/seduction	23/12/18 04:57 AM
5	What does it mean, when girl has " :I " expression on her face, and looks at me without blinking? Only 1 way to find out...have to say hi and approach	/r/seduction	06/12/18 04:25 PM
1	Is it normal as a man for girls to NEVER flirt with you or express interest in you? I litterally started talking to girls at age of 24. Before then when i look at a girl i would get so embarrassed my face would turn red and felt like im gona vomit. Im sure you have your own battle but the real fight is you versus you every single time. You can switch the mindset and become better or continue the same path. Best of luck.	/r/seduction	25/11/18 09:01 AM
0	Emotion + Logic Nobody ever really "make" it. We always want more and more. Its human nature. Enjoy the journey because it is better than the destination. The journey is beautiful and it is what living all about. The fact that you are going out and improving yourself is a lot more than most people can say. Even if you feel like youre not good enough, you trust in the process and ignore that feeling. Im speaking from personal experience by the way. So many people told me to fake it till you make it. But those sa…	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/18 02:27 PM
3	There's a gorgeous girl who works at my local gym that I want to ask out, but don't know how... If you talk to everybody at the gym and she sees you at being social, you have a better chance of getting her number. This might take awhile though. If you make a move now and she says no, keep talking to other girls and guys at the gym and build up that social circle. Abundance mentality!	/r/seduction	31/01/18 01:54 PM
2	[Discussion] What separates the boys from the men? I used to feel every men was older than me and i felt like a boy. Until i get more experiences which lead to more confidence and formed my own identity. Im 25 and still feel like a lost boy sometimes. But i think most men do feel like a boy at times. Going out of my comfort zones and pushing myself is what makes me feel more like a man. However, it is a never ending journey because I will keep failing over and over again. I am ok with that though because to me life begins when discomfort takes o…	/r/seduction	31/01/18 01:50 PM
1	Pickup is Painful Definitely takes extreme patience. Everything that worths it in life always take hard work and patirnce. Every men will experience frustration and even question their manhood. Its ok when that happens. Trust the process. The pain separates men from boys. Keep at it. Keep smiling and enjoy the journey!	/r/seduction	29/01/18 09:07 PM
3	Do PUA techniques actually work or is it too much of being a “set method” for every situation? Its like reading how to play basketball versus actually playing. It helps but nothing beats practicing and playing the game.	/r/seduction	24/01/18 07:23 PM
2	When another guy is trying to steal your girl. Do you really want to be with a girl who jumps from guys to guys like that? If you still do then you should be ok in letting her go and approach another girl. If she is worth your time she wouldnt do that.	/r/seduction	25/12/17 03:39 AM
3	Its sad, there are more women than man out there and yet i still find a reason not to open them It will always be scary especially at first. You have to dig deep, figure out your passion, hunger, and drive and realized that everybody on this planet at the end of the day just want to be understood by other people. We all want to be happy so go make yourself and her happy!	/r/seduction	14/10/17 10:17 AM
1	Girl who's freshly heartbroken, need advice Then go with her and escalate physically!	/r/seduction	10/10/17 03:09 AM
1	Girl who's freshly heartbroken, need advice Always flaking. And she said i just like talking and flirting to you and thats it. At least she was honest. Most girls wont say it flat out.	/r/seduction	10/10/17 02:24 AM
1	Girl who's freshly heartbroken, need advice Went through the same thing with a chick I used to talk to. Realized that she was wasting my time so I shut her off. And have more time to focus on other girls. I think having abundance mentality is key. Let her have a lot of time to work herself out as shes vulnerable right now. You cant force her. It's up to you if you still want to be her friend or not and keep talking to her. But I wouldn't let her be the only girl that you focus on.	/r/seduction	09/10/17 11:39 PM
6	First time approaching a girl in 5 years - Nerdy Introvert Infield - First recording ever How do you get 500 first dates and this is the first approach in 5 years? Online dating?	/r/seduction	09/04/17 01:52 AM
1	People who've had to go through depression/addictions beforehand. What did you do and how long did it take? For me, getting a job at the zoo where I have to talk with customers and interact with people a lot was a big step for me. A lot of my co workers are young college students, so I made a lot of friends and start hanging out and doing new things. Then I would hit up my old friends and try out volunteering. Its very hard to stay consistent though. I recently got a ps4 over black Friday and got back into video game. I can feel the addiction building. One thing I do constantly is I work out 3 times a…	/r/seduction	08/12/16 01:57 PM
4	People who've had to go through depression/addictions beforehand. What did you do and how long did it take? Having an addictive personality can help you of you get addictive to positive things. Working out, eating healthy, do something creative. Volunteering, do martial arts. Going out and trying new things helped me with my 5 years of depression. Sometimes the darkness calls me back though. Creating a busy life style is what you should be doing. Try meet up.com for opportunities. Groupon.com to buy cheap classes.	/r/seduction	08/12/16 01:02 PM
1	I fucking did it. I'm the man. I finally had sex. Maybe try to go to a gym instead and get use to seeing and interact with some fellow gym goers. Should be easier for you because you seem knowledgeable with working out and cooking already	/r/seduction	17/10/16 12:06 AM
4	Is it true to say that the more a girl knows about you personally, the harder it is to fuck her? As with all things I think it depends on the girl. A more conservative shy girl would probably wants to know a lot about you before sex	/r/seduction	17/10/16 12:02 AM
2	Excluding physical things like working out and wearing better clothes, how do you "work on yourself" to become more dateable? Not the op. But some things I do that scares me is I set up challenges with my friends where we do stuff that an average person would never do. We start off with small things like saying hi to strangers. Giving people high five. Complimenting people. Approaching girls in different ways. Dancing in public. Join toastmasters. Volunteering. A year later, now I'm doing stand up. I'm still not good with the ladies, but my anxiety and fears have gone down a lot. I still have a long way to go. I watch …	/r/seduction	21/07/16 12:11 PM
57	How to kiss? (Clueless girl here) Male here. 24 years old and I had my first kiss 6 months ago. She doesn't know it was my first kiss. She said im a natural. I just emulate what she does. Pucker up and no teeth. Its easier than it looks. Have fun and smile with it!	/r/seduction	30/03/16 12:15 PM
1	What do you do when you're down? (Doesn't have to be because of a girl) My snap name is weneverlose if you want to see some moves. Warning I'm terrible!	/r/seduction	26/01/16 12:52 AM
7	What do you do when you're down? (Doesn't have to be because of a girl) Beside the typical work out, hang out with good friends, reconnect with old ones, meditation, at night before I go to sleep I snap chat myself dancing in the mirror with different songs. I think it helps to look at myself in a happy way. It reinforces that I am happy and the end everything will be okay. Also body language is very important if you dance and smile your brain will think that you are happy. I've been doing it for a month now and I think its the best routine I could have come up with…	/r/seduction	24/01/16 07:55 PM
1	How to respond when Girl is sending sexy pics? "Another one" DJ khaled	/r/seduction	10/01/16 02:45 PM
5	How did you guys make new friends and grow your social life after college? I'm lucky to have a job at the zoo. My co workers are very young so that's how I increase my social circle. But you can try to make new friends of your current friends. Like go to a. Friend party and just talk to people. Also, if you want people to invite you to parties or hang out, you're going to have to invite them first. Meet up.com is also very good to meet people with common interests.	/r/seduction	02/01/16 03:48 AM
1	shes interested in me..but i only have sexual interest in her The same thing happened to me. Im a virgin and started dating a girl who was interested in me romantically. She seems promiscuous so I only wanted to get experience. I told her that straight up. She still wants to date and hoping to convince me to be her boyfriend. I saw she started to have feelings for me. I started to feel something too. Before I could ask her to be my gf, I found out she has been dating another guy and now has a bf. I took too long to ask. Your situation might not be the same…	/r/seduction	29/12/15 03:10 AM
1	[FR] First kiss for 3x year old virgin. Amazing man, you sound like a natural. Just go to keep going. However, Porn might have ruined you. I read many similar stories in /r/nofap. I strongly encourage you to head over there. Look at the top posts and FAQs to see if stopping porn and masturbation is something you want to consider. I know it changed my life for the better.	/r/seduction	28/12/15 10:54 PM
6	What does it mean when a girl says they hate you in a deadpan tone? Assume attraction mate	/r/seduction	05/10/15 03:04 AM
1	Mixed signals. Eye contact? 22 and 27 is fine. Now if she was 16 and you were 21 that would be different. I wonder why she was reluctant to give you her age though.	/r/seduction	15/08/15 03:14 AM
2	Best summer job for picking up girls? Zoo	/r/seduction	15/08/15 03:08 AM
1	Mixed signals. Eye contact? Its up to you to determine how fast to go because it depends on the girl and how you feel. Seeing that you asked that question, you are probably taking it too slow and want to speed things up. I say go for it my man!	/r/seduction	12/08/15 10:46 AM
2	Mixed signals. Eye contact? Always assume attraction. Don't ask, she will tell you if she has a bf or not.	/r/seduction	12/08/15 01:49 AM
4	So, I just went to the gym and approached for the first time! good stuff man, now just keep it up. i just got my first phone number from a girl last week. i used the tip dont give her a choice, and just give a command. i gave her my phone and tell her to "put in your numbers" and it worked. not sure if i was suppose to did that but oh well:O	/r/seduction	27/10/12 09:21 PM