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Melodic_Show_4766/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 01:59 AM
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We didn’t even use a mediator. I simply drafted up all the documents using a template. Had them notarized and submitted them to the court. Marriage was over in less than three months after submitting the paperwork.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 12:49 AM
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I did post divorce. For me it was very physically painful procedure. I hear others were painless. It was a great decision. No regrets. No desire to have more kids.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 01:59 AM
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also, if you are drinking or taking drugs, stop. You don’t need that coming up in the divorce settlement. as others have said, do not move out of the house. A lot of other great advice above from others.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 10:43 PM
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That is the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 09:02 PM
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I say wait, but not because you are still married or living in the same house or need to suffer more, but because you seem to be in a rush to be in a romantic relationship? You will be a better partner in your next relationship when you are first happy being alone. Do the work. Also, yes, the pool is so much smaller when you were living with your ex and still married. I speak from personal experience.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 05:17 AM
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I can’t tell you how many texts I have written up to send back to my ex that have never been sent. Never text when angry. Just seeing her text is triggering. Sometimes when I see the text message, I won’t even look at it for hours. I feel like I have to be in the right mind space to read her messages.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 05:03 AM
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got divorced four years ago. All five of these are right on. 1) I stopped drinking for months. 2) I waited five months no six 3) sold all the bedroom furniture, got a smaller bed, new sheets, and repainted the bedroom. 4) stuck with friends who were a positive presence 5) lifted weights and took care of my body and mind. Other things I did Recognizing that this was as good of a time as any to make some resets, I 1) improved my fashion 2) got an physical and bloodwork to make sure everything was …
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:36 AM
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I also had a no-fault divorce. I received the divorce decree three months after my ex requested a divorce after 20+ years of marriage. I don’t think people realize that, for no-fault divorces, the process can happen so quickly. Everything crashes so much quicker. There is no required separation, no required talk of reconciliation, and little time to process. After the divorce, we were still living under the same roof, in separate bedrooms, and with children. I still had to see her every day. I l…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 09:50 PM
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I identified greatly as a married man and a good provider. I identified as one of those people whom people look at as examples of a successful marriage. When that came crashing down, my identity came with it. I felt lost. I did not know who I was anymore. Instead of trying to find a new identity, I detached from the idea of having an identity. It is a very eastern way of thinking. It doesn’t mean you don't have values. You still focus on emotional growth and being the best person you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 09:11 PM
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In every failed relationship there was one thing in common… Me. I don’t think it is about forgiveness. I think it’s about personal growth. Mistakes and failures are a part of life. A divorce sticks out as one of those huge failures. I don’t think you have to necessarily forgive yourself or even forgive your ex spouse but rather you need to grow from the experience. You lost those years and you’ll never get them back, but you have so many years ahead of you and you owe it to yourself and your nex…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 08:55 PM
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It has been over four years since my divorce. The last 10 years of my 20+ year marriage was incredibly difficult. My ex-wife had multiple emotional affairs over the years, and we were not on the same page raising our children. We grew apart, both emotionally and physically. One day, you wake up, asking, “Who the fuck are you?” The divorce was very hard on me and the kids. I lost half of everything I financially built with an ex who was a stay at home mom. I self identified with being a married m…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 08:44 PM
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