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So the way re-fi would work: House is worth 2x. I owe x. Re-finance for 1.25x, mortgage payment for ten year mortgage should be roughly the same. Take out the .25x in cash for remodel, pay off car, some rainy day cash also. I spent most of my 20s and 30s in profligate spender mode and think I know a little better this time around. I realize it is debt, but it is completely covered by the house value.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 01:29 PM
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Steel, I will give the tester a try. The light hasn’t been working for a while, $20 or so to try and save $180 or more isn’t a bad choice. As far as the loan thing, I will respond to Litz in more detail. Wife’s company has been bought by Gordon Gecko style corporate raiders who are firing people left and right and stripping the company for its assets to sell off. Writing is on the wall that it is only a matter of time before she and everyone else is let go.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 01:25 PM
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OYS July 31, 2018 6’0”, 240, 42 years old, 24% body fat. SL 5x5: SQ 270, DL 195, BP 230 (5,5,5,3,4), BR 230, OHP 150 Physical: I know it just says I am one percent down on the body-fat, but I am feeling pretty good about how I look. (I know, I know, kill the ego, still fat fuck, Chad has a six pack). Mrs. MG decided to start on the SL 5x5 program, so I was coaching her on some of the lifts when we went to the gym on Saturday. I still need my early morning weekday workouts on my own, but it is ni…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 01:37 PM
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Excellent suggestion as far as counting calories every day and taking it day by day. The last time I lost a lot of weight I met the goal, got complacent and it inches back up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 04:54 PM
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-the frame problem again. So much of my head talk is about what people will think, is this or that generally acceptable, etc. etc. Fence sitting is an accurate description and one I need to root out.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 04:52 PM
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Used in the slang meaning of first-class or highly valuable.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 03:02 PM
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OYS July 24, 2018 I am six months in. Here is where I started: 01/25/2018 6’0”, 258, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 105, SQ 75, BP 55, OHP 55, BR 85 Here is where I am now: 6’0”, 242, 24% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 190, SQ 255, BP 225, OHP 150, BR 235 I have missed probably two workouts in the last six months. On squat and deadlift, I got to a higher spot, crashed, and had to start building back up. I was joking with my buddy about getting to the iron temple, and I told him I don’t love it that much yet, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 01:50 PM
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OYS Weekly 06/26/2018 6’0”, 241, 25% BF, 42 yo. DL 1-2 SL 5x5: DL 160, SQ 200, BP 210, OHP 135, BR 225 Physical: Yup, still a fat fuck. But, I am also still going to the gym 3x per week and keeping calm and keto-ing on. (Confession: I usually go off the rails carb-wise one day on the weekend.) My goal for the year was to get to 225. If I keep up at the current pace, I can get there. Reading: You know what, I have consistently been screwing the pooch here. I was challenged to re-read NMMG and act…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 03:42 AM
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You are right, of course. I have been chewing on this advice all week. Then, today, I almost completely lost my frame of reference and went down a rabbit hole about how my earnings are not where they would be if I wasn't such a screw-up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/18 12:23 AM
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06/20/2018 6’0”, 240, 25% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 155 (deload, couldn’t complete any reps at 310 last time), SQ 190, BP 205, OHP 135, BR 215 Physical: This is tough on the ego. I got up to 285 or 295 on squats and had to deload. Now, failed a set on deadlift at 310, dropped back down. Still progressing on BP, OHP, BR. Thinking of switching to the Starting Strength program or another linear progression. Dropped another pound. (I got to 239 the week before thanks to a stomach virus, popped back up af…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 02:12 PM
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For me: Prayer is more talking to God. From how I was raised, I am always thinking I am doing it wrong. It usually has some sort of agenda: “help me not to screw up again today.” I have a weird relationship with spiritual stuff. Definitely believe in God, but from a lot of growing up stuff it is a weird, tenuous thing. Meditation is more about quieting the mind, focusing on breathing and getting centered. I used to lay on the floor and just feel it supporting me. Be aware of things but not worry…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 10:51 PM
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06/05/2018 6’0”, 241, 25% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 295, SQ 160, BP 200, OHP 130, BR 210 Physical: I hit the “wall” on squats two weeks ago, I had been stuck on 295 for three workouts, got through one set and then failed on the second set. Wanted to finish the workout so I dropped back to 135 and finished the sets. I am still working my way up from there. Squat is a beast-y thing. It is one of those which makes you dig hard into yourself, look your fears in the face. Summon every bit of energy and po…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:49 PM
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OYS 5/15/18 Me: 6’0” 245, 42 years old. 26% body fat per Navy Method calculator online. Lifts: SL5x5: SQ 285 lbs; BP 180 lbs; DL 275 lbs; OH Press 140 (failed last rep) Row 190 Physical: Last Friday, I had an awful workout. Failed on the last set of squats and OHP. I had gained some weight after I found out I passed my exam and over-celebrated. Made it back in this Monday, got a pretty decent workout in. I have a bit of knee pain, but I am old. Bought some copper-lined knee sleeves, they seemed …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 03:00 AM
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Self Imrpovement goals: implement my reading study Monday-Wednesday evening: spiritual one night, MRP/self development (I need to finish WISNIFG) one night, finances one night. Working on getting some guitar chops back as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 05:56 PM
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Well, I went back. Punched something wrong in the body fat calculator. It says 27%. I wear a size 48 sport coat.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 05:53 PM
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I am a proponent of keto. I got on it based on suggestion here. It is less of a diet thing as it is a lifestyle thing. Once you get "fat-adapted," you will notice you don't really get hungry every few hours and so forth. Check out the subreddit for some tips and so forth. It is going to be weird for a few days to get your body adapted.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 03:46 AM
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OYS 5/01/18 Me: 6’0” 243, 42 years old. 25% body fat per Navy Method calculator online. Lifts: SL5x5: SQ 270 lbs; BP 165 lbs; DL 265 lbs; OH Press 140 (failed last rep of last set) Physical: Sometimes I am tired, I get up and get to the gym. I feel a lot better. I am haunted by the old me who would decide it was ok, I was tired, I needed some sleep. That guy got fatter and more out of shape. Can’t go that way anymore. So, if I am tired: I go to the gym. If I am out of town: I find a gym. It feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 03:42 AM
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Are you saying that you don’t need to worry about dread since you cheated or care close once before and she already thinks you will do it again? I haven’t been in this RP world that long, but I took it that dread was that she can see you are high value and capable of attracting another woman now. If you are sitting on the laurels of your past cheating attempt, it is not going to be long before she starts realizing that whatever tail you might have been able to pull before you got married because…
/r/askMRP27/04/18 06:00 PM
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Now that you say that, I think you are right. She has been commenting recently on my changes: she likes the muscle development, she is fairly astounded by my interest in style and clothing, and she asked me why I have been more of a smart ass lately. Maybe that is a bit of dread? I still lag behind her on the SMV department, but I am coming up.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 07:33 PM
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04/17/2018 6’0”, 245, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 250, SQ 240, BP 155, OHP 130, BR 165 Physical: I finally broke through and got the full 5x5 on overhead press 130. I am now solidly in two plate territory on both squat and deadlift. I am struggling with a mind game that tells me, “you progressed very quickly so far, you will probably start failing reps soon.” Mrs. Mg has noticed, she was eye-ing my legs and commenting on them the other day. She told me I look like the character in the God of War vi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 02:50 AM
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04/10/2018 6’0”, 247, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 240, SQ 225, BP 150, OHP 130, BR 160 Physical: I hit two plates on both squats and deadlift this week. I know it isn’t much for some of you guys, but it feels good to make a bit of a milestone. Down another pound in weight. I only got 4 reps on my last set of 130 OHP, so we will see how the next one goes. Started drinking protein shakes the night before workout and to supplement my protein intake. (check out this guy!) I took some of my shirts and p…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 11:46 PM
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Alright, man. Fall down seven times, get up eight. Puke and rally, get that shit out, make a plan, do better next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 03:06 AM
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04/03/2018 6’0”, 248, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 235, SQ 210, BP 145, OHP 125, BR 150 Physical: Still hammering out in the gym. Numbers are still going up. I am enjoying the routine of it. Funny thing happened today: I set the weights for my deadlift and then wandered over to the water fountain for a drink. Start walking back when I see a guy thinking about pulling the weights off and doing some other exercise with the bar I had set up for deadlift. I catch his attention, tell him one more set, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 02:58 AM
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I am working on the style thing (Tanner Guzy) as well. I am learning that I have a long way to go style-wise.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 04:03 AM
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03/27/2018 6’0”, 248, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 225, SQ 195, BP 135, OHP 115, BR 145 Physical: three more pounds down. Got to two plates on the deadlift. It is getting tougher, but in a good way. Mental: Started new job/career last week. I realized today I am dealing with a bit of imposter syndrome, so I read up on that a bit. I reminded myself of past successes, tried to use some systems (outlook/folders) to keep on top of assignments. Last week, I had a quick storm of depression about some life…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 03:52 AM
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Re: Fitness, 5x5. What are your numbers and how many weeks into SL5x5 are you? I have been doing SL since January and I am just now getting to where it feels hard and I have real soreness after a workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 02:27 AM
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Thanks, u/Reject444. Yeah, it is easy to lose perspective on stuff like that. There is no such thing as the perfect trip, but it was such a contrast to my bro-trip where the only bad thing was the speeding ticket in a podunk speed trap town.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 01:40 AM
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03/20/2018 6’0”, 251, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 205, SQ 175, BP 130, OHP 105, BR 135 Physical: I made a commitment to get in three 5x5 workouts for the rest of the year. I managed to get in three workouts a week each of the last two weeks despite two out of town trips. Patting myself on the back a bit. Mental: Started new job/career yesterday. I am working with people I know and was very welcomed into the office. Office overlooks a golf course. It is going to be some work, but I think it is good …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 01:57 PM
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03/06/2018 6’0”, 253, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 185, SQ 150, BP 115, OHP 95, BR 120 Physical: still hammering on the 5X5 and weights are still going up. No weight loss last week, I was out of town for the big three-day exam, but I managed to stay keto. My waist at navel measurement is one inch down, so maybe some body-recomp going on? Mental: I am in a bit of a weird place. Just shifted from focusing almost 24/7 on preparation for the exam, now that is over. I found myself having put my son to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 06:48 PM
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The world is a different place for kids nowadays (said in old man sitting in a coffee shop voice). I will say this, though: Thank God for you guys here. BP advice is to be sensitive and work through kids' feelings, etc. Nope, that is what Mom is for. Dad can set some boundaries and enforce some rules, the way it should be. Dad can still be fun, but it feels good to man up!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 12:23 AM
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I was also going to comment on the son not talking yet. Remember to put things in boxes as far as what you can and can't control. You can't control whether he will have problems learning to talk. You can control how you react to it. My sister didn't talk until she was almost four but she has made up for it since then. Point is, you can't control whatever is going on with the kid, but you can help the kid work through it. Stay positive, keep frame, be on top of appointments and so forth with the …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 12:05 AM
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02/27/2018 6’0”, 253, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 175, SQ 145, BP 110, OHP 90, BR 110 Physical: started SL 5x5 four weeks ago along with keto. Y’all called me a fatass and I took it to heart. I am still a fatass, but the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step. I have taken about four steps. Even went to the gym today even though out of town. Reading: Read NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook. I also started working through Scream Free Parenting on suggestion from u/TheBlueStare. Listened to the 21 …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 11:11 PM
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Agreed. Wrong word choice. Seven year old.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 12:55 AM
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Just an old habit I have to kill. Brain says, I am sitting on the couch relaxing, what could be more relaxing than stuffing my face? It is a brain pattern. I am working on what to do when I am not faced with some kind of impending deadline or imperative. If I am busting it for a goal or something, I can stay on target. If I think I can chill out, I go full neckbeard cheetos and mountain dew on the couch.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 03:56 PM
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Tebulus: your input is much appreciated. As far as kiddo, I was on the passenger side of the equation. Not sure if other guys wives do this, but Mrs. MemberedGrizzly can do this exorcist thing where she goes full on anger/no rationality mode. She was there. I was trying to get in the middle and prevent anything crazy from happening. No doubt, you are right. I can focus on being more active in the whole process. I have been sort of sitting out a bit due to the time spent studying. Needs to stop. …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 02:52 AM
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Awesome! I have that book in my Kindle. I had started reading it years ago and apparently got about 25% through it. I remember liking a lot of the ideas. I think it ties in well with having frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 10:20 PM
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On passing the exam: you are right. I mentioned in another post, that has been my life thing: focus hard on some goal, get there, it isn't all it's cracked up to be, move on to something else. You are right, I shouldn't call son a moron. I do my best not to say it to him, but I should choose something else. Kids will be kids, they need a grown up to reign them in. Responsible for no one else's happiness: Totally agree, at least mentally. I have a lot of old patterns of thinking otherwise, trying…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 08:49 PM
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On kid with "ADHD on turbo mode" at the movies...I think if he has something like that to focus on, he can sort of still some of the craziness. As kind of crappy parents, we use screen time to get a break from constant everything. He seems to go from bouncing off the walls, do everything at one time to couch potato pretty easily. I love to take him to the park with a ball...baseball, football, soccer ball, etc and we can spend hours playing around. Unfortunately, we have had crappy weather and t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 08:48 PM
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02/20/2018 6’0”, 254, 27% BF, 42 yo. DL 1-2 SL 5x5: DL 155, SQ 125, BP 105, OHP 80, BR 105 Physical: Did three SL 5x5 workouts. Weights continue to increase. I ate like a pig with a glandular disorder on three out of the last seven days, so I was lucky to see any decrease in weight, used IF yesterday to pull it down for today (18/6). Mental/Frame: A little background: I went back to school for the last three and a half years. Graduated December, and I take professional exam next week. It feels l…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 02:39 PM
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fellow hairy-back bro here. I did waxing for a bit, it is painful and you do have the redness issues and so forth. May I suggest https://bakblade.com/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIsJnM3Mmj2QIVB7nACh1QVQowEAAYASAAEgJMMPD_BwE I use it every other day in the shower, doesn't take too long and you can stay pretty well groomed. Much better than screwing around with a regular razor.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 07:02 PM
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Covert contracts again, dammit. The old, I will be happy if I achieve x level of success. People say, do xyz and you will be successful. I do it, don't feel successful. I have to find my own drivers, stop listening to what people say my drivers should be. As Rollo said, no prescriptions.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 04:03 PM
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OYS Weekly 02/13/2018 6’0”, 255, 27% BF, 42 yo. DL 1-2 SL 5x5: DL 135, SQ 110, BP 90, OHP 75, BR 95 Career Beta. Working on becoming who I want to be, losing covert contracts, stop being scared. Physical: no change in weight. Hit the gym three times. Lifts are slowly but steadily going up. Mental: preparing for this exam is screwing with my mind. I have confidence that I will do well, but I have two weeks of intense study remaining and I need to devote myself fully to that. Career/Work: I found …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 02:49 PM
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I am a bit newer to Red Pill stuff, but I did not come from deadbedroom either. But, I definitely have swallowed so much blue pill. The Oak imagery is dead on. It is amazing how well it works to go from, "Honey, can I do such and such this weekend?" to "Honey, I am doing such and such on Friday night. Do you want to join me?" I am not there yet but I am moving that direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 10:17 PM
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You know a lot about what you don't want. Sounds like most of what you have you don't want. You are here because you don't like where you are or where you are headed. That's what gets guys in here. It sounds like there are two roads ahead for you: stay status quo, probably end up with a screwed up liver. A relative of mine died due to alcoholism in his 50s. He died bloated up to twice his normal size in a machine that rotated him every few hours so he wouldn't get bed sores. This was after being…
/r/askMRP07/02/18 07:35 PM
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I do the number zero trim. Usually do it myself, but I took the kid to get a haircut and decided to let them do the trim. It is nice to have someone else do it for me and get the nice neck trim and have it all squared away. She even blended from zero guard into my beard!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 03:49 PM
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02/06/2018 6’0”, 255, 27% BF, 42 yo. DL 1-2 SL 5x5: DL 125, SQ 95, BP 75, OHP 65, BR 90 Career Beta. Tired of busting my ass to fulfill covert contracts and getting nothing in exchange. Physical: I am doing SL 5x5 and Keto right now. The weights are going up. I have gotten up early twice to get in my workout. It hasn’t gotten really difficult but I am hoping to get form/stabilizer muscles going by increasing 5-10 lbs per session. Reading: Have read: NMMG, MMSLP, most of Rational Male Year One. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 02:33 PM
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Yeah. February I haven't really set a financial goal. Big stuff coming up is completing tax filings, then figure out whether to pay off a car with some of that. I should get on budgeting better because what gets measured gets done.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 06:26 PM
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01/25/2018--First OYS 6’0”, 257, 27% BF, 42 yo SL 5x5: DL 105, SQ 75, BP 70, OHP 55, BR 80 I am a career beta who knows there is a better man somewhere inside me. I feel as if I am Michelangelo looking at the stone and seeing the sculpture inside. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, and I am taking some steps. u/man-in-the-world challenged me to get on it and start posting here. Physical: I am doing SL 5x5 and Keto right now. Went a bit off the rails on the diet at BWW on …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:59 PM
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M-i-t-w, I took some time to think this one over. Weighed over the post about fuck off and leave or leave and fuck off. I don't want to do either. I thought about just going away, but that isn't the future I want. I tell my son that we should do the stuff we have to do before we do the stuff we want to do. It applies to chores and homework for him. I feel like the folks here are saying, the stuff you have to do is the basics: Lift, STFU, read. So, step 1: joined the gym again, did first night SL…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 06:23 PM
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Alright. RP is not always easy to swallow, harder to internalize. I am trying to figure out where I fit in this redpill world. **Fuck where I fit in this world, it is about making myself who I want to be. The world can fit around it or not. I have started working on RP principles and trying to "man up" by sitting at the head of the table and being more decisive, but it is taking some time. **Mealy-mouthed BS. puts the message before the medium. Actions instead of being? I think they like me ther…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 04:48 AM
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m-i-t-w, I am not here to improve my marriage. Marriage can come or go. I am looking to become the shadow me, the badass I envisioned myself being when I would daydream in elementary school. Inside me somewhere is a man my kid can look up to, who follows his own muse and gets shit done. That's where I am going. Thanks, though. I need a reminder of what I am not going for here.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 03:18 AM
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After posting on here, I realized my "lifting" was probably weak. I hate the effing gym. I have been working out at home, high reps low weight: -75 reps bench press of 15 lb dumbbells in each hand on exercise ball -65 reps squats with 15 lb dumbbells -50 reps overhead press with dumbbells -30 reps front shoulder raise, same dumbbells -35 curls with the dumbbells each arm -deadlifts with the dumbbells to 50 reps. -rows, 75 reps So, yeah. I am seeing the need to move it over to the gym and bust it…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 02:49 AM
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