MermaidPassion Archive

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2	This kind of thinking does need to stop. Same! I tried therapy before my divorce and she blamed all the problems on me even tho he was manipulative and sexually abusive! She didn't even hear my side because she would let him talk over me the whole time!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/07/20 01:44 PM
2	This kind of thinking does need to stop. Whether it's being dismissive or acting like it's "cute" or "feisty" that I disagree, I'm not having any of it. My ex husband used to do this to me all the time and it would make me so mad! He didn't understand how it felt degrading and dismissive when he was like "you're so cute when you're angry" ect. I tried to get over it because I justified it in my head as he wasn't really saying anything mean so how can I get angry? But in the end I couldn't do it and all the things built up until I left.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/07/20 01:39 PM
3	So many times I blamed myself 😡 I said I felt this wasn't going anywhere and we should end it and he said if that is what I wanted he would respect it but he wanted to try. If anything he is the one trying here because I've basically stepped back and said I don't think I can do this anymore with how it is going and feeling emotionally unsatisfied. I didn't ask for him to read or do anything further at this point, he was really upset and did it himself. I don't think I'm strong arming him, if anything I gave him the out that we…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/20 01:54 PM
2	So many times I blamed myself 😡 I agree with you and I've told him he is just lazy in relationships. He doesn't tell me we've been thru so much, that's me telling myself that to be honest. When I ask why he wants to keep trying now he says because he loves me and we have a lot in common and he has fun with me. I actually showed him all of this yesterday and we sat down and had a real honest conversation about everything. I told him I feel so empty and he's not meeting my emotional needs and it has affected my feelings for him …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/04/20 09:55 PM
2	So many times I blamed myself 😡 Thank you so much. That means a lot 💜	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/04/20 06:38 AM
7	So many times I blamed myself 😡 I know in my heart you are totally right. It's the hardest thing to tell someone you don't want to try anymore when you have been fighting for it for so long. I think I have fallen into the "relationships are hard and take work" trap of thinking this difficulty is completely normal, especially when the last 2 guys I dated were avoidant. I do totally believe that we can work to change and make this relationship better but the reality of it is the only time he ever really tries is when I am ready …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/04/20 02:16 AM
11	So many times I blamed myself 😡 Yes I am anxious attached and I have read the Attached book and several others as well. We have gone to counseling together several times and read the book together and talk about it as much as he will allow but honestly I feel like this will always be an issue between us. It started out with bigger issues we worked through mostly but has slowly infiltrated a lot of our day to day life to where I feel like a crazy person for getting upset so often. It feels like the issues are on such small thin…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/20 09:42 PM
6	So many times I blamed myself 😡 What did you do to level up in this? I am in this situation now and struggling with a disorganized / avoidant attachment man. He has a lot of good qualities but the avoidant ones really trigger me hard and it's getting harder for me to let it go. I feel like it's getting to a point of contempt which is not where I want to be in love...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/20 06:46 PM
14	Rant: Stop making excuses for dusty ass losers Men who are not ready to commit still want companionship and to spend time with other people. We are social creatures so thinking just because he doesn’t have sex and hangs out means more than that is not doing yourself any favors. I have a close friend (ex boyfriend) who is like this. He isn’t ready until the perfect women comes along but until then he’s mostly content to spend his spare time with girls he likes until “the one” comes along. His last ex he had almost 0 problems with but still en…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/10/19 08:49 PM