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It’s fine for some admin help and general legal discussion, but please remember Ai’s can hallucinate and provide misinformation. I highly recommend to use a lawyer for any actual action you may take.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 06:48 PM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s going to take some time to adjust. You’ll need time to grieve the loss of the marriage itself, alongside the home. Starting over isn’t easy for anyone. In my case, it took a while for my nervous system to reset, so be incredibly gracious and patient with yourself. What’s on the other side of this though, is a completely fresh slate. When we become untethered from our partner, we often feel lost. After a while, that feeling turns into freedom. Once you’re…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 11:41 PM
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In Canada, unless you’re doing something shady; nobody can really stop you from declaring bankruptcy. It just is, what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 07:23 PM
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I had literally nothing left. They will review your circumstances and assets, etc.. I guess mine was rather easy as we had sold the marital home at that point.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 07:21 PM
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As difficult as it was to accept that, especially at my age. I do have to admit it was rather freeing. You can’t get blood from a stone 🤷‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 07:02 PM
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Well I guess the simple answer is, when can no longer afford to pay your debts. In my case, I burned through all of my savings via legal fees and literally could not afford to keep up with all the payments. Started to fall behind and just filed it once the collections got really aggressive. In my case though, this happened after the divorce, literally a month after.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 07:00 PM
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I can’t offer any legal advice, I’m in Canada. I feel like the comment above had the perfect steps to take. My divorce took 4 years and landed me in bankruptcy, so I feel your pain. Sending you positive vibes.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 06:54 PM
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Good luck bro. You’re going to be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/25 06:51 PM
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FYI I was also working two full time jobs, it’s not a reasonable expectation on anyone.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 10:30 PM
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It’s wild you have to pay her legal fees? This isn’t avoidable?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 09:11 PM
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Sorry you’re going through it, my divorce put me into bankruptcy. I feel your pain for sure. Focusing on the principle of things drove me insane, the injustice of it all. Best thing I can say is - there is definitely something to be said of the power of letting things go. You’re clearly capable and competent, and perhaps you can earn more money down the road somehow. As hard as it is, try not to compare your life to hers. She has support from her parents, that in itself goes a long way, especial…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 05:37 PM
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Don’t worry man, divorce rates are like 50-60%. We all have red flags, including all of the women at this age. Best thing I can say is this- we all want to “tether” ourselves to something. Partner, job, religion, whatever it might be - when you become “untethered”, at first you feel lost - but after a while you will realize that, you aren’t lost, you’re free. The biggest mistake people make post divorce, is not healing fully before you start dating again, and the risk is carrying over that traum…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 01:24 PM
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Send them both an autographed D-Pic 😭
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 02:58 PM
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When they form the Ex-Wife Avengers is just because they miss the D so bad they need a support system. Well done sir.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 12:15 PM
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My rating is 2400 and the divorce still whipped my ass 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 04:07 PM
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Ok my bro take a deep breath. I’ve been through this twice now - the court is now involved so unfortunately you have to accept that you are not in control here. Making a post to TikTok will only make your problems worse, because now you’re committing a crime and posting about it. That’s the last thing you need right now. In court remain calm at all times, as annoying as the process is - it is in fact specifically that - a process. You have the opportunity, if not now, then later; to defend yours…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 01:30 PM
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You’re going to be ok. It will come in waves and eventually there is less time between them. It’s also ok to not be positive all of the time, you’re going to grieve for a while - the loss of the marriage etc,. The most important thing is to be easy on yourself, don’t expect too much too soon. Dating and buying a home are not things you need to address immediately. Self care is now your top priority - not only is it survival but also; the better and stronger you are, the better for your kids. Adj…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 04:39 PM
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I feel your pain. I was in a similar circumstance - look at it this way; $500k is a deal considering where your wealth will be in 5-10 years. Imagine this happened then and instead of $500k it would be $25m or wherever you will be. Divorce can be very costly BUT I say it’s worth every penny.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 03:28 PM
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I know exactly how you feel bro, for me; I felt like she didn’t deserve my kindness in coparenting. But the truth is, your children will suffer from it mostly. Save yourself some heartache; don’t let your hate for her overpower your love for your children. Eventually, you will be indifferent about her and her life. Focus on you, and the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 02:38 PM
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And all of those innocent child sex slaves, or innocent victims in general are being tested too, I suppose?
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 06:45 PM
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God doesn’t have a plan for you. It’s just a thing people say to themselves for comfort when bad things happen to us. It’s just cause and effect. Make your own plan, if there is a god, he’s equipped you for the task.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 05:08 PM
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What’s this talk of healing first before dating? Go out there and get laid, then heal lol. In fact, I’d argue that it’s PART of the healing process. What you’re going through is pretty natural, but it won’t change until you do.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 04:05 AM
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Sauna boys
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 05:24 PM
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You’re a better man than me, perfect approach.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 04:46 PM
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When there is no path, make one
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 04:24 AM
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Ah bro it’s there if you want it. Lots of lonely women out there just looking for a good guy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 04:24 AM
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Don’t worry my friend, it’s just like riding a bike. It comes pretty naturally; no pun intended. Confidence comes from a lot of different things, I suggest hitting the gym, or some sort of exercise. It will get your blood flowing, and your testosterone in gear.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 04:23 AM
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Well probably at least a year or two. Moved right across the street from her best friends. Mom and all her friends live in town, I left all of mine for her. The best part was, when her and her friends sorta ganged up on me and terrorized me out of the house! It’s been a long 2.5 years in court.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 01:33 AM
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Same exact thing happened to me, and the answer is yes.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 01:02 AM
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I don’t agree with this at all, I’ve been through it; he doesn’t have to accept this. He should talk to his son and explain it when he’s able to understand.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 09:36 PM
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He has no control over what happens there true, but he does have control over what he tells his son.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 09:35 PM
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I remember my ex trying to brainwash my 2 year old son, by telling him her new boyfriend was “the dad of her house”. LOL the thing is, there’s no way of knowing if they will last, ironically they broke up a year later. Good thing I wouldn’t allow it either. I mean she tried, but when I saw him I would explain it to him and he understood that I was his real father. Like I said, they broke up. Shame on these terrible women who would try and replace us real dads. I would NEVER make my child call my…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 09:34 PM
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Sometimes we have the tendency to feel as though our happiness is directly connected to a person; but the secret to a happy life is being content with yourself first. I used to be uncomfortable when we first split, I wasn’t used to being alone in a quiet house. Then I realized I was just in bad company 😂. I needed to learn how to love myself, I was so accustomed to having someone else define that within me. Nobody, and I mean nobody deserves your love more than you do. And getting a pet is a goo…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 03:27 PM
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Yes you are getting screwed. Hard. With no lube. Don’t move out, hire a lawyer asap.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 06:21 AM
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You aren’t broken bro, I feel the exact same way. Once bitten, twice shy, right?
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 03:21 AM
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Get out now - and whatever it costs you, it’s worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 02:24 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 12:32 PM
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We were in the middle of our split, I was living in the basement. One morning I was sitting at the kitchen table minding my own business, quite depressed because I had just lost my work contract and had no income. My ex wife came up to me and said “if you’re going to kill yourself, do it in the basement so the kids don’t see” This from a licensed psychologist, whom I supported through Uni while she got her masters. I also paid all of our families bills, while also managing the kids as I ran a ho…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 11:20 AM
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It’s going to be ok bro, I’m 45 and have gone through similar circumstances twice, and from both sides (not an affair, but another man raising my son and vice versa) My ex wife had a son who I raised from 2-12, his biological dad wasn’t around much, he focused all his time on making money. After we split, my step son moved in with his bio dad, who is now a multimillionaire. Now he lives with him full time, and my ex has to pay him support. Focus all of that energy into yourself, improve your lif…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 07:37 PM
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You aren’t alone, I thought I was too. This is the time where you focus on yourself. This will pass, your children are still in your life and you can build a new one. The FIRST time I went through the child custody thing I was 21. At that point, I felt exactly like you do, I was only able to see my son twice a month. It used to depress the hell out of me, fast forward to today. I’m now 45, and I was/still am an active part of his life and we hang out all the time. Life is short, but it’s a lot l…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 11:24 PM
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This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 12:10 AM
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My brother and fellow King; life is long. You have an open road in front of you and the path ahead is yours to make. Don’t write yourself off so quickly when it comes to your children, if they’re young, you have time to work and save and see them as you’re able to. Right now there is only 1 way to go and that is up. Your living situation will change once you get steady work again, and make no mistake you absolutely will. Money can always be earned. Think of a future where you’ll have your own pl…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 05:45 PM
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