Metrodomes Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
22	Reddit supporting and sharing stories of men who paint their nails	Progress	Metrodomes	/r/MensRights	28/03/21 11:11 AM

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2	What was the definition of feminism before bell hooks? "From Chivalry to Terrorism: War and the changing nature of Masculinity" is a book that covers what you covered talk about. Don't think it's from a feminist perspective but just focusing on the masculinity side, but based in what I read and what you're saying, that seems to add up to me.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/05/24 03:48 PM
-1	'Trickle-down' feminism I don't think this is answering my question to OP? I want to know what his understanding of where the homophobia and attack on gay men comes from. If we don't understand it, we can't address it. Atleast they have a theory for it around masculinity and femininity and stuff. What's the non-feminist theory for it other than 'people are evil' which tells the victims they just have to accept it.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/09/23 06:04 PM
-3	'Trickle-down' feminism I'm curious what you think is the reasoning for why so gay men are killed by men? You've criticised the feminist take on it, which is fine, but what's your (anti-feminist?) take on it then?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/09/23 02:56 PM
1	Have you guys ever noticed this trope and double standard with male or female characters fighting over a boy or girl? Have you considered that it's a protagonist and agency issue? I'm both of your instances, usually the protagonist or main character is male, but so they're given the spotlight and agency to enact change and have the world revolve around them and be in charge of changing the world. In so when women are fighing each other over him, it's up to him to address it because he's the main character who has the ability to change things. And when men are fighting each other over a woman, it's because it's …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/08/23 11:41 AM
-5	Why is the issue of men not approaching women, always have to be negative? If it's okay to assume things the way we like then I assume people who claim "false accusations are not as common as some think" are okay with false accusations, don't care about the victims or false accusers themselves. You are assuming too much based on too little information. If me saying that bothers you in wider society, then so be it. Wider society understands this, so you'd be in the minority, and if you'rs okay with that, cool. Most people, men and women, agree with this point. That's no…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/08/23 03:42 PM
-7	Why is the issue of men not approaching women, always have to be negative? What is wrong with being concerned about false accusations? especially less experienced and introverted men have this anxiety even though they are creepy. Besides false accusations have little to no repercussions so it is a valid concern. The next paragraph addresses this. Here's a part of it. Again, if a man has experienced this and has concerns or whatever, that's fine. But like... You gotta communicate it in a healthy way. No it doesn't, you are just jumping to conclusions. What do you mean n…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/08/23 03:22 PM
-13	Why is the issue of men not approaching women, always have to be negative? Some men say they don't approach women because they're working on themselves, but and I think that's great and not an issue at all. Or fi they're dealing with porn addiction or whatever, fine, they're working on it, cool. But mine and many others issues when men blame others for their concerns. Like being afraid of false accusations and such. You could easily spin that in a more constructive and healthy way and say that you want to make sure you meet and get to know someone you can trust and gro…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/08/23 10:45 AM
2	Am I the only one that gets triggered by "toxic masculinity"? Because of the men and women failing you as a child, letting the young boys think violence is okay as a boy, you were forced to defend yourself. They were the ones that upheld shitty ideals of masculinity that allowed them to bully you, forced you to fight back, and never placed a premium on being respectful and chill. You can take it personally if you want, but it's bigger than you. You were failed by the adults around you. You can internalise things you hear and make it abiut you, but I think …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/08/23 08:45 AM
7	My therapist responded to me, I'm not sure how to interpret his response about my opening up to him, so I'd like to share it here and get some input. You need to be honest and open and communicative about this stuff. If you have concerns about the angle in which he might approach things, raise that with him. If you're confident and happy in how you percieve things then you should be able to have that conversation and see where it goes and make a judgement. And if you don't, then hopefully the conversation is one that let's you explore that in a safe and confidential and respectful environment. You want to address an issue, but attached that i…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/05/23 12:15 PM
12	My wife hits me.. regularly, then the next day she is super sweet... This is an abusive relationship. Their pattern and behaviours are exactly that of an abuser. They're abusing you in multiple ways. There's no justification for it. You deserve to be with someone who never ever hits you. Never threatens you. Never encourages you to harm yourself. Nobody deserves what you are going through. There's no fixing this. It will only get worse. Domestic abuse always gets worse. There's nothing here for you but a future that is darker and more violent than it is now. You …	/r/MenSupportMen	26/10/22 09:47 PM
1	It’s time to talk about the social outcasting that is done to autistic boys. I know you mean well and even agree wit some of your advice, but I think there are some social standards that we can break down. Recognising that there's a diversity in neurotypes for example, and that because someone acts strangely, it doesn't mean they are strange or weird but just approach the world differently. If someone had done a lesson on what autism is and how it displays in people, for example, I would have learned I was autistic as a child and not learned that I am autistic in my late…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/10/22 02:16 PM
2	It’s time to talk about the social outcasting that is done to autistic boys. They're needs to be more education and inclusivity for people who aren't neurotypical. Same goes for people who aren't heterosexual or cis, or people who aren't white. We're slowly getting more education there, but unfortunately not enough is done to tackle ableism yet. Its so baked into our society on so many levels. Doesn't help that we also live in a capitalist system where your worth is defined by how much you contribute to a society based on neurotypical norms and expectations. I also want …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/10/22 02:09 PM
1	Why are there so many anti-men women, and how do I deal with them? I hear on an almost daily basis from women “I hate men”, women who are almost always straight and/or have boyfriends. That would be enough for most men to realise that it literally and demonstrably doesn't mean all men. I have a deep rooted belief that masculinity is bad, and I am a bad person for wanting to be masculine. Hopefully you can figure that out. Plenty forms of healthy masculinity exist. And I think it's silly to believe that masculinity isnt seen as hot to many people. I believe ever…	/r/MenSupportMen	02/10/22 09:57 AM
1	was I abused? It's abusive behaviour, and I'd call it abuse. He had anger issues that went unaddressed so it sounds like all he knew what to do was to be angry and aggressive. Not sure how old you were, but no kid needs that. No adult needs that either, but as a kid, you're still figuring things out and you'd hope that family can be peoppe who you'll trust and respect you and my make you feel like crap every day. I don't blame younger you for crying alot, I would have done too. Alot of our elders thought 'tou…	/r/MenSupportMen	10/06/22 05:48 PM
2	Has anyone tried online therapy... i.e. Betterhelp (this turned into a rant, but I just needed to let it all out) I mean, firstly ignore mom and grandma. You don't live in the same society they did at your age. They mean wl I'm sure lol, but life is hard and sometimes meaning well isn't enough. The world is very different and hostile to younger folk, so don't be afraid to just slow things down and work things out a bit. You rush into things and it'll take much longer to undo what you did. That's not necessarily a bad thing, as ofcourse you'll have an opportunity to learn from your mistakes, but you don't wa…	/r/MenSupportMen	30/11/21 11:11 PM
5	You would never say that to a woman Plenty of people do recognise that society, and the various structures that uphold it, affect men negatively. You need to surround yourself with people who actually call those structures out and work to change them. It looks like you and maybe the people you have surrounded yourself are only interested in seeing men as a target, with no interest in tackling the systems that affect men and others in our society. This is why intersectionality is important. You knockdown one system, say lack of men…	/r/MenSupportMen	29/11/21 11:44 AM
7	Survival Hey, I'm sorry you're going through it right now. Reminds me of the times I was working in some horrible jobs where I'd just wake up, work, come home, try and eat, sleep, repeat, for what felt like forever. It wasn't even that long ago but I get that feeling of life just feeling like it's flying by yet nothing is happening. That's not how anybody deserves to live. We shouldn't be alive just to work and do nothing else. I hope that internship gives you a break, a moment, a breather where you can …	/r/MenSupportMen	28/11/21 01:35 AM
1	Why is it wrong to prefer to have traditional gender roles? That's an economy issue rather than a social issue. Everyone has to work way harder than they used to because pay is crappy, everything is expensive, services are all markets that try to take as much money from you as they can, anyone who is a millennial or younger is probably not going to own a home for a long time yet, delaying kids because they're too expensive or can't be looked after because we're all busy working, many people working multiple jobs just to earn what used to be one job's wor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/21 11:20 AM
4	My parents raised me as a girl and it’s still humiliating and painful 18 years after You moving away sounds like a chance to start over in a small way. You'll bring alot of baggage with you, but n your parents will be largely out of the picture, and you can work on bring the person you want to be. It'll be difficult, as you can see, but it's not the end. Far from it. It's the beginning of you figuring out who you are, who you want to be, steadily working towards it bit by bit. Your parents are flawed human beings, like we all are. They did what they thought was right, but they d…	/r/MenSupportMen	16/11/21 05:16 PM
1	"Put your finger in the coffee, it'll make it sweeter": endearing or Harvey Weinstein? Some nice ableist language there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/21 05:01 PM
1	"Put your finger in the coffee, it'll make it sweeter": endearing or Harvey Weinstein? So 'owners will do what suits them' and 'servers will do what suits them' but somehow severs are to blame and are the target of your ire? Its like there's a power dynamic here where one can control the other to a degree. So I'm not sure why you wouldn't advocate for owners to get their shit together and be consistently not-shit so servers can consistently have a not-shit time in their jobs. Instead, you're advocating for owners to screw over servers however they want, and then getting mad at som…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/21 04:59 PM
2	"Put your finger in the coffee, it'll make it sweeter": endearing or Harvey Weinstein? I've noticed that you frequently raise the intention to be sweet as a counter to people saying it's creepy. There are plenty of things people can think are nice and sweet but are incredibly creepy and gross. I could literally be like, 'damn look at your ass my guy, pull your pants down for me' while you're not able to be rude to me as I'm a customer and just "joking" or "complimenting" you. I think I'm being sweet and jokey, but you might think I'm being weirdly sexual and making you feel uncomf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/21 04:49 PM
12	"Put your finger in the coffee, it'll make it sweeter": endearing or Harvey Weinstein? "Just can't give women comments anymore. I told her that she looks really fit and healthy but she just gave me the dirtiest look. What? The context? Uh I guess it was 3am, we were walking the same way for 4 blocks down some quiet streets, she looked nervous, so I thought to crack the ice and decided to comment on her outfit. What's wrong with that?" Obviously I'm being hyperbolic, but some guys just have no idea how they come across and have no ability to put themselves in someone else's shoes. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/21 04:35 PM
3	Emotional Support Issues Venting can require energy from other people, and not everyone has that energy. Or, it can move into an area that people don't know how to deal with. For example, i'm almost 30 and I'm still learning about how to talk about difficulties i'm facing. I usually default to trying to deal with things myself so I find it hard to reach out for help and talk about my issues. With the people in my life, I can lend an ear, but there are times where I'll also still say the wrong things too. That kind of 'a…	/r/MenSupportMen	24/10/21 12:05 AM
1	I am very confused about women Yeah... I don't have that issue exactly, but I have something similar about understanding certain social dynamics. Its difficult, but we gotta figure out our coping mechanisms, ways of wording ourselves better to people who might not understand why we can't understand, and just recognising that people are rarely being spiteful on purpose. They're acting out of ignorance and probably aren't even aware that you're processing the situation differently to them. And even when they are aware, it's jus…	/r/MenSupportMen	23/10/21 02:17 AM
2	I am very confused about women "I get told by women that sex is wrong" Can you elaborate on this? Alot of men are attracted to women, and alot of women are attracted to men. They have sex quite alot, especially considering there's a few billion people on this planet which is a result of having sex. Not all men are attracted to women, or exclusively attracted to women. Not all women are attracted to men, or exclusively attracted to men. But I don't think this is what you're referring to. Are the women telling you this religiou…	/r/MenSupportMen	23/10/21 01:51 AM
6	I'm having issues regarding MGM Circumcision in some societies is more about masculinity, often going alongside various other rituals designed to symbolise the passage of a boy turning into a man. I'd call it toxic masculinity as the boys are pressured to show no pain, no fear, because they want to prove that they are men. I think I've heard of some boys in Kenya being told to "prove" that they are now a man by having sex shortly after being circumcised too, so I think alot of it all intertwined. It all seems to revolve around…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/10/21 10:25 PM
2	Women in one breath will say: “ I see average looking dudes with beautiful women all the time “ then right after say :”men shouldn’t complain about being single if they are chasing more attractive women “ HUH ? While I dont know how I feel about those phrases, I don't think they're contradictory. And not all women say this, so you're generalising but meh, let's go with it. First one is a descriptive statement. 'I see lots of well behaved hippos with their big dinosaur friends'. The second one is a normative statement. 'Hippos shouldn't complain about being alone if they chase after the big dinosaurs'. You can literally reverse the two statements and they still make sense lol. "Men shouldn’t complain ab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/21 01:20 AM
2	Being a white man in online (left wing) spaces and its affect on mental health I get that. But once you get a crowd that understands you, it isn't that bad. Oh lord, totally agree. I see so many brilliant things and I can never find them again. The hashtag system I personally never use, but I can see its positive and negatives. I mean, there's plenty of nazis and sexist, homophobes and whatever too. Unfortunately, like all social media platforms, they're all pretty diverse and it depends on what you follow. One positive benefit for me has been that I followed more and more…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/07/21 12:45 AM
0	Being a white man in online (left wing) spaces and its affect on mental health Ha ha, fair enough. If you don't mind me asking, why not? I personally prefer it to reddit, even though I've been on reddit for much longer.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/07/21 09:18 PM
1	Being a white man in online (left wing) spaces and its affect on mental health Yes. More or less, a small number of them were forced into it by the rest of them. Just looking at the numbers and power involved, it should be clear that this did not happen as a white-vs-black thing; if "white men" had banded together as a unified force and decided to crush the slave rebellions, they would have succeeded. Rebellions need support. They don't succeed if they're horribly unpopular. Agreed. There were white men on either side of the debate. It wa always a tiny crowd of them who op…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/07/21 11:08 AM
0	Being a white man in online (left wing) spaces and its affect on mental health Either they had the power and couldn't be forced or they didn't have the power and everyone can shut up. The civil rights movement had to morlaly shame the people who had power into giving black people equal rights. You admit that white people has the power and you admit that they "gave" black people rights, but that didn't occur in a bubble. They had to morlaly shamed into giving them rights. No. Civil rights were demanded, but not taken. They were given. What? Yeah, because white people had br…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/07/21 10:44 AM
-11	Being a white man in online (left wing) spaces and its affect on mental health Woman have the vote because white men CHOSE to give it to them. Black people have equal civil rights because white men chose to give it to them and fought a war to make it stick. So white men had the power and just happened to give it to them of their own free will... Or did they have to be forced into it? Regarding black people, you might want to check your history because you're conflating the civil rights movement and the civil war to end slavery. Both of them required white men to have their…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	20/07/21 02:15 AM
-2	COVID-19: Why are men not prioritized for vaccination? Why do you think it would be difficult to prioritize for sex in a system that is already set up to prioritize for various factors? Because its adding complexity to a system that is already imperfect, and as I addressed in my comment that you have ignored I believe the UK to be pretty incompetent and the people who can do the best aren't well resourced or contacted. Additionally, once you start adding to what is already a prioritising of age and health, you then will have multiple debates about w…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/05/21 02:14 PM
-1	COVID-19: Why are men not prioritized for vaccination? They did it the easiest and fastest way possible. Same reason why they didn't prioritise people from ethnic minority backgrounds who were overwhelmingly more likely to catch covid due to their jobs, suffer worse effects due to healthcare being biased against them and health issues, pass it on to others, etc. Also prioritising it by Age would save the most lives and be the most efficient way of doing things. Prioritising it by age, gender, ethnicity, type of job, etc would be kinda complex. Would…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/05/21 11:30 PM
5	Media anti male bias 101: because men are more disadvantaged the Guardian choose to compare between women today and in previous recessions instead of making a comparison between men and women TODAY. The article points out that women tend to be in industries that are adversely affected by the pandemic, that and I think men are generally more prevalent within the workforce anyway? Yes, there are job losses happening everywhere and more men are losing their job, but I think they'd commenting on the vulnerability of certain groups. The article also says 6 in 10 job losses are women losing their job. It also looks like women were furloughed more than men, statistically speaking, even when there …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	04/05/21 07:01 PM
1	I’m not sure if what I did was right, but I did it anyway. I'm talking about the first friend. Explain what your point was by doing that? As for the second friend, I've already addressed in my first comment.	/r/MensRights	27/04/21 12:11 AM
1	I’m not sure if what I did was right, but I did it anyway. What was the point you were trying to make? She was commenting on vaccines and the difference between vaccine autonomy and bodily autonomy. Your response is to mimic her, erase her, and insert your own body into it. For no apparent reason. It just appears totally random. Even if you have a point about how some men get circumcised when they're young without gaining consent, what has that got to do with her for you to just randomly bring it up out of the blue? Imagine if someone says "ha ha, I don…	/r/MensRights	27/04/21 12:08 AM
2	I’m not sure if what I did was right, but I did it anyway. That person literally said OP is right but he just did it in a poor way, and the response to that is "someone told someone who told me that they're a troll!!" lol.	/r/MensRights	26/04/21 11:31 PM
-2	I’m not sure if what I did was right, but I did it anyway. What? She's talking about one thing and you randomly bring up your body that has nothing to do with her. I don't understand why you would do that. Did she circumcise you without asking? Edit: I'm getting downvoted but I'm being serious, she's talking about vaccines and wanting autonomy over her body and you're response is 'but what about my penis?!'. You have every right to be angry about being circumcised against your will, but that's not her fault. You're not helping raise awareness about forc…	/r/MensRights	26/04/21 11:10 PM
-7	The grievance studies affair. And why it's important. Okay, we'll have to agree to disagree on the racism. What do you think of the rest of my original post thatg highlights theor deeply flawed work?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/04/21 11:45 PM
-16	The grievance studies affair. And why it's important. "Racism of the woke", gotcha.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/04/21 10:47 PM
-13	The grievance studies affair. And why it's important. Boghossian, I have some issues with, but I'm mainly referring to Lindsay. Right winger engaging in cultural Marxism conspiracy theory BS, doing everything he can to deride black liberation and people of colours attempts to fight for equality. He maybe doesn't realise he's a white supremacist, but he's absolutely doing his job in upholding said structures when his whole career is spent doing poor quality attacks against anti-racist thought and movements.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/04/21 10:29 PM
-12	The grievance studies affair. And why it's important. Firstly, not sure why we're getting racist white supremacists posted in here, but hey ho that's not surprising. Clearly the 'left wing' doesn't stand for much here. Secondly these guys are a bunch of hacks and failed at their own game. They only won praise from intellectual mights such as Rave Dubin and Joe rogan. https://www.haaretz.com/amp/us-news/.premium-hitler-hoax-academic-wokeness-culture-war-1.9629759 They tried to pass of a rewriting of meinkampf through a feminist lens but they did so …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/04/21 07:34 PM
12	We should push for more male teachers to help improve schools after the teaching union said they were toxic. Tbf, calls for more men in teaching has been going on for a while. I'm fairly sure, even since I was a child, that there has been a lack of male teachers in education. https://schoolsweek.co.uk/why-we-need-more-men-to-become-primary-teachers/ https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-37552056 https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/amp/entry/male-primary-school-teachers-role-models_uk_5ae81441e4b04aa23f267365/&ved=2ahUKEwjsw_mwmfLvAhWg8rsIHTv_A1EQFjAMegQI…	/r/MensRights	09/04/21 10:36 PM
22	A patriarchy thought experiment No, because tokens exist. Clearly women have the power in your thought experiment. It's a matriarchy. Electing a black president doesn't suddenly mean the US doesn't have white supremacy running through the fabric of its very being.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/04/21 11:52 AM
1	Fucking bullshit. Act like a decent human being, get accused Jesus, what a sad life you live when you're terrified of people online who havent done anything to you. Please go outside, meet people, learn not everyone (man or woman) is out to get you. Sorry that you're so scared of a guy who's doing some minor commenting on a post but you are overreacting. Like her, you're seeing comments and extracting crazy scenarios out of it that chill your soul, lol. Go outside, get off the Internet, my friend. And I don't have to support anyone. Everyone acted poorly …	/r/MensRights	08/04/21 10:04 AM
-1	Fucking bullshit. Act like a decent human being, get accused I'm sorry that my commentary on how a guy maybe didnt realise how he came across over a dm at 2am and a rant about he he won't be nice any longer has disturbed you deeply. Don't worry, I have no interest in meeting you so we're both golden, and we're on an anonymous forum the chances of that happening are astronomically small. And the women around me would be happy to know that I think OP becoming antagonistic at 2am at night over DMs is a bad thing. But again, apologies that you're scared for y…	/r/MensRights	07/04/21 10:06 PM
1	Fucking bullshit. Act like a decent human being, get accused Completely agree! If it wasn't for the response, I'd say he was in the clear and good on him for not reacting poorly. Controlled the conversation and walked away innocent. But he didn't. He justified what she was saying and just landed himself in even more trouble. Instead of playing it off, he snapped and lost it and now if and when she does report it, she can be like 'see where he completely loses it?'. Atleast he had plausible deniability and could have proven he was innocent, but reacting so…	/r/MensRights	07/04/21 09:01 PM
-1	Fucking bullshit. Act like a decent human being, get accused Victim of what, sorry? He was being weird, he got snapped at, and then he snapped back at her. Everyone failed here.	/r/MensRights	07/04/21 08:22 PM
-1	Fucking bullshit. Act like a decent human being, get accused Maybe they overreacted, but this is a weird thing to do on your part. If you really wanted to message her, usually you can message directly on the area that you're group working from. By the looks of it, you went to a private chat to do that? That's a bit weird. Also, "Can't sleep?" might be meant well but it is pretty low effort on your part. If your going to randomly (assuming you aren't close to them already) message someone in the dead of might, don't be creepy/low effort about it dude. A tw…	/r/MensRights	07/04/21 05:30 PM
1	The statement "men suffer under patriarchy too" is a statement that disproves the validity of the patriarchy theory. It's doublethink and self contradictory Can you define what you mean by hyperagency and hypoagency, and why it isn't part of the patriarchy theory?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/04/21 02:55 PM
1	The statement "men suffer under patriarchy too" is a statement that disproves the validity of the patriarchy theory. It's doublethink and self contradictory The statement is perfectly fine and logical. Your issue with it is that you reject the premise, and that's your prerogative. Just because you reject the premise of the statement though, the logic is fairly sound. For example, men can't be stay at home husbands in a society that has systematically forced women to not take part in war, or upper echelons of organisations, or academia, etc. Men are forced to constantly perform, constantly be there, constantly lead, constantly take on burdens, consta…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/04/21 02:25 PM
1	Everyone's Invited doesn't seem to invite boys I mean yeah, men's sexual assault should be looked into too. But the sexual assault, domestic abuse, etc that men get are unique and not well understood or fully looked into as much as it is with women's assault and abuse and such. You can't just apply the methods of looking into women's sexual assault on men because men won't even show up in the data at that point. I'd rather a specific focus is paid too what men experience rather than a report that has a tiny paragraph on men because they didn…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/03/21 10:45 AM
1	United kingdom: the creation of an All Party Parliamentary Group for Men and Boys. Yeah definitely! I just think it's a bit disappointing that there aren't more members on this. Tons of potential!	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/03/21 10:19 AM
8	United kingdom: the creation of an All Party Parliamentary Group for Men and Boys. Plenty of good work to be done here. Should have seen more cross party support to present different views and perspectives though. I don't think an almost exclusively right wing group will recognise the alienation that men are facing partly due to our economy. But it is what it is and hopefully more will join up.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/03/21 07:19 PM
1	Everyone's Invited doesn't seem to invite boys What's the problem here, sorry? They are investigating issues and things are coming to light. Not all organisations can, do, or even should look into all issues. We need more men's organisations looking into issues men face.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/03/21 07:04 PM
-34	If the 2020 BLM protests achieved anything, it's being undone by the response to the Everard murder Equating the difficulties men face to those faced by black people just harms any attempts for wider society to discuss men's needs. The inequalities and suffering faced by both groups are very different.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/03/21 05:00 PM
0	Genuinely curious: how is this not sexism? Except the mere fact of being stronger doesn't mean someone is in more danger. Agreed. Someone being more likely to be in danger means they're more likely to be in danger. Anything else is irrational worrying rooted in either anxiety, trauma, or bigotry. They made it clear that they're talking about specific circumstances where they're weighing up the threat of a man versus a woman at night, and see a man as being more dangerous to them in that instance.They're logic is fairly sound. They're lik…	/r/MensRights	24/03/21 01:52 AM
0	Genuinely curious: how is this not sexism? They said they're more worried about men than women due to physical concerns. I stated that men tend to be physically stronger than women. That is a biological fact that men tend to be stronger than women. And if they're worried about physical issues, then my comment is perfectly relevant and uncontroversial. If a man said "I'm more nervous when walking near a woman" in terms of physical threats, then that should be questioned due to human biology. Maybe they can justify it, but common sense and…	/r/MensRights	24/03/21 12:39 AM
0	Genuinely curious: how is this not sexism? This really isn't eugenics. The idea that a man is generally physically stronger than a woman is common sense. The idea that a man has more testosterone is common sense. I dunno how much that affects behaviours but you're completely missing the very basic points about why men would and should be concerned of other men more than women.	/r/MensRights	23/03/21 11:08 PM
0	my mom just called me a sexist piece of garbage because i was complaining about how you get attacked on twitter if you even breathe as a man With all due respect, saying "you get attacked on twitter if you even breathe as a man" is quite the nonsense statement to make. I understand being bothered about all the rhetoric, but you have to be tactful in how you adress it because you just end up generalising and making bombastic statements like the people you dislike. Not defending your mother here either, she overreacted too. But your statement was just setting yourself up for criticism.	/r/MensRights	21/03/21 09:53 PM
-1	British Army soldier, 24, hanged himself after being told to 'man up' when he asked for time off to look after his four-year-old daughter during lockdown while his nurse wife worked on NHS frontline I mean you're assuming my issue is dignity and honour when I never mentioned those things. Just putting words into my mouth and acting like those are my issues when they're not. And lol now you want to play respectability politics after you do the whole "people like you" assumption thing. Considering you're not addressing my points and aren't making any arguements of substance, I feel like our discussion is done.	/r/MensRights	19/03/21 09:20 PM
-19	British Army soldier, 24, hanged himself after being told to 'man up' when he asked for time off to look after his four-year-old daughter during lockdown while his nurse wife worked on NHS frontline I mean the military has always only let men go to war and let men die for shitty reasons because they didn't want tk let women fight. Sucks for women AND men. If "people like you" wanna think small and make strawman arguements, go ahead but the whole hierarchy is about exploiting poor forgotten boys. It benefits the military when they fuck over northern towns and don't give them any opportunities.	/r/MensRights	19/03/21 09:04 PM
-24	British Army soldier, 24, hanged himself after being told to 'man up' when he asked for time off to look after his four-year-old daughter during lockdown while his nurse wife worked on NHS frontline That's not how modern day warfare works. All about technology and drones and decreasing boots on the ground. Nobody is going to invade the US and the west in traditional ways lol, not when Russia is successful spreading chaos from their own part of the world and China has successfully inserted itself across the whole world. Proxy and technology wars are the future, not shipping our boys abroad to die.	/r/MensRights	19/03/21 08:49 PM
-47	British Army soldier, 24, hanged himself after being told to 'man up' when he asked for time off to look after his four-year-old daughter during lockdown while his nurse wife worked on NHS frontline Get rid of the military. Breeding ground of toxicity where men are supposed to be emotionless killing machines, nothing more, nothing less.	/r/MensRights	19/03/21 08:23 PM
-1	Losing female friends because you believe in men's rights. It's all in the framing I think. I don't think OP did anything explicitly wrong, but male mental health is something that men and women don't talk about so bringing it up randomly without a single comment is a bit weird for people going through their own crap. Don't get me wrong, men are always going through their problems too, but there's been so much toxicity around male mental health discourse that I feel like we have to just get that framing right because it's such a taboo topic. We have to …	/r/MensRights	19/03/21 05:16 PM
-5	Losing female friends because you believe in men's rights. The analogy isn't perfect, my apologies. The point is the offensiveness and/or disregard for men's mental health. Edit: I think people here would argue that content in recent days does fall into those two categories. We can get into semantics but that misses the point I'm trying to make that sometimes people say and do things that cause people confusion. Too often we all don't react well. Including me, I know I would get annoyed if a friend turned around and started distrusting me.	/r/MensRights	19/03/21 04:01 PM
-5	Losing female friends because you believe in men's rights. You don't know what shit she's going through, and she doesn't know half the shit you're going through. That's how these falling-outs happen. It's a sensitive time for everyone, so when her friend just throws his hat into a crowd of people that she doesn't know, you can understand why she would react that way. Flip the picture around: suddenly she starts posting stuff that criticises all men and you find it offensive or full of disregard for your mental health, and you now feel hurt and confused …	/r/MensRights	19/03/21 03:09 PM
-7	Losing female friends because you believe in men's rights. There is alot going on right now. You absolutely can and should talk about male mental health, but you have to do it respectfully. Too many men are being abusive pieces of shit and attacking women for the slightest of things. If you want to talk about male mental health, you gotta make it clear that you're not trying to undermine what they're going through, you just want to spread positive messages about male mental health while supporting everyone else too.	/r/MensRights	19/03/21 12:56 PM
2	Just a reminder that TERF's ARE feminists. And their beliefs are based in Feminist Misandry. If this is the route you wish to take, then you have to be held accountable for incels, and in turn, the incels who go on mass murdering sprees of women. I know you are going to defensively try and reject that idea, but that's literally the logic being peddled by OP here. Guilty by association nonsense.	/r/MensRights	18/03/21 12:10 PM
0	I've seen a lot of feminist posts recently talking about not all men Is the issue just the analogy and ths generalising aspect? What do you think about why women are upset, if we look past the analogies?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/03/21 02:04 PM
4	Hey guys, I just wanted to share this incident which happened to me today. It's my first time posting here. This sounds like they're your generic assholes who don't know the harm caused by randomly approaching people with and putting them on the spot. This isn't a gender issue, rather it's a society rewarding people being shitty issue. Sorry that you had to go through that. Reminds me of the happy slap phase where British teens would record someone getting slapped randomly. Seems like you got quite unlucky. Hope your anxiety settles down. Next time you know to just politely decline any videos from any…	/r/MensRights	14/03/21 04:10 PM
-12	For the feminists who lurk here: If you truly believe that feminism helps men too, give us 40 shelters/help centers around the world that were created by feminists that cater to men as victims and as the main priority. I don't get why you wouldn't then support feminists like her then? There are alot of feminists who recognise both women's and men's issues. But alot of people here treat feminism like a monolith. People here don't like that some people view MRActivists as being the same as incels or the MGTOW lot, so why approach feminism with that exact same mentality? I would say that original woman who set them up was way ahead of her time, and now is the time to support those women too. Sorry if it feels lik…	/r/MensRights	13/03/21 09:14 PM
3	For the feminists who lurk here: If you truly believe that feminism helps men too, give us 40 shelters/help centers around the world that were created by feminists that cater to men as victims and as the main priority. Sorry for the late reply. I guess before I address your comments I want to first say that I absolutely believe in your own personal experiences. I believe you there and I trust you on whatever you have had to go through. I'm not a fan of "prove this, provide evidence" etc because we can just end up going in circles. So on the individual basis, I trust people. My wider issue is more that I think men who have struggled and faced injustices need to make sure they're tackling the machine and not the…	/r/MensRights	13/03/21 07:56 PM
-2	For the feminists who lurk here: If you truly believe that feminism helps men too, give us 40 shelters/help centers around the world that were created by feminists that cater to men as victims and as the main priority. I'm a dude. I don't see how I'm reducing my "rights". But more seriously, i criticised the basis of the question on various points. If i said "can all the men in here give me 30,000 instances of how men are oppressed", you can (and should) point out that my question is flawed for various reasons. It would then be ridiculous if someone said "you dodged the question" when you've explained your issues with it. Feel free to engage with my comments raised about the OP's question.	/r/MensRights	13/03/21 06:49 PM
-5	For the feminists who lurk here: If you truly believe that feminism helps men too, give us 40 shelters/help centers around the world that were created by feminists that cater to men as victims and as the main priority. Feel free to read my response to the question and then explain what your issues with my response are.	/r/MensRights	13/03/21 06:33 PM
9	For the feminists who lurk here: If you truly believe that feminism helps men too, give us 40 shelters/help centers around the world that were created by feminists that cater to men as victims and as the main priority. Okay, this is an interesting take. I disagree with the idea that there wasn't a problem at all, but let's just work with it for a second. What do you mean "left men hanging"? By your logic, there was no problem. So why is everyone here desperate for shelters when there is no problem? Why would women make a solution for a problem that doesn't exist, and then not help men with a problem that doesn't exist? Alternatively: they "created" a problem, and created a solution. Why don't men here create a…	/r/MensRights	13/03/21 06:16 PM
-37	For the feminists who lurk here: If you truly believe that feminism helps men too, give us 40 shelters/help centers around the world that were created by feminists that cater to men as victims and as the main priority. This is a bit dumb. What you're saying is that before feminism, there were no mens or womens shelters, and then feminism came along and started creating shelters for women. A) women have helped set up shelters for men, and you'll probably find more women in the industry of helping the vulnerable than you'll find men. And B) why is society creating a situation where shelters are needed, and why aren't men creating shelters for themselves more often? (Edit: And the most obvious one, C) why werent …	/r/MensRights	13/03/21 05:23 PM
1	Women at my work get a womans day bonus, men do not Ah okay, yeah maybe there is no pay gap in your company then. I personally don't have an issue with women's day, but i do think it could be used in a better way rather then just dishing out a bonus and leaving it at that. I think if it was the other way around, I'd rather have the day to discuss men's issues rather then just get a random bonus on international men's day.	/r/MensRights	11/03/21 01:31 PM
7	Women at my work get a womans day bonus, men do not Good point, I agree with that!	/r/MensRights	11/03/21 01:15 PM
-25	Women at my work get a womans day bonus, men do not If you want to understand why the company justifies paying women the bonus and not men, then maybe understanding what they say about the pay gap would be a start. Just sticking your head in the sand isn't going to bring about equality.	/r/MensRights	11/03/21 12:42 PM
-32	Women at my work get a womans day bonus, men do not I'm asking the OP what his company says the pay gap is.	/r/MensRights	11/03/21 11:03 AM
-45	Women at my work get a womans day bonus, men do not What's the gender pay gap at your company and how long has it been that way? Could be useful in determining how much money should be given.	/r/MensRights	11/03/21 10:35 AM
3	Why do redpill men care so much about a womans "body count? As a guy, it's probably a mixture of insecurity and feelings of being compared to others. I might rationalise it with toxic ideas of STDs and 'cleanliness' and stuff, but let's say that person had protected sex each time and got tested before the relationship, what then? I think I could default to some other bs reasons or just go straight to the point and admit that I might be compared to the others and I'm afraid of that. I think those people need to stop being so insecure though (assuming they…	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/20 12:26 AM
5	Men Under 33 are "Useless" One thing I don't understand is why you and others need to see people "speak out against it". I wouldn't ask white boys to speak out against school shooters. I wouldn't ask all muslims to speak out against Muslim terrorists. I wouldn't ask men to apologise and speak out against male rapists. Etc. Also do you think that silence means automatic agreement? There are plenty of things that you and I see every day that we just ignore because it isn't worth our time. You've focused on some women who sh…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 05:52 PM
6	Honest question, how can I avoid building resentment against women after bad dating experiences? The fact that you think you have to scour the Internet for finding evidence of one of your core beliefs, tells me that your core belief is just built on rhetoric and anecdotes. And you're right, you can agree and give points against what they're saying. It wasn't clear that's what you were doing, and I and others misinterpreted that. I thought you were agreeing but then ignoring what was said, my bad. Regarding race, I've been following the tons of deaths of black men (and women) by police in th…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 02:47 PM
4	Honest question, how can I avoid building resentment against women after bad dating experiences? You agree with her in the first sentence, but then go on to bring up examples purely about women again. You are talking past her because you agree with her that it's a male and female issue.. But then continue to focus on women again. I'm going to ignore the anecdotes because we can all bring up our personal experiences and we should realise that they can sometimes be unique and not always in line with what is happening in wider society. Can you provide some evidence for women contributing to me…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 01:56 PM
6	Honest question, how can I avoid building resentment against women after bad dating experiences? You're talking past the person that is responding to you. Read what they said and then look at how you agreed yet pretty much ignored their point by continuing to act like it's only women. On a side note: as a black guy you do have issues that other white men and women might not get. But again though, that's not just women. That's society; both men and women create those difficulties.	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 01:31 PM
3	For some reason I find women physically disgusting now I don't know if this is an option for you but therapy is always a good option. I was going to jokingly suggest that you might not be into women and might be bi or gay or asexual, but you're serious and I think you should get serious help for it rather online advice. After all, that's possibly why you're in this situation in the first place if you take into account looking at the red pill too much. How much time do you spend on the Internet? How much of that time is spent in toxic places? I'm inc…	/r/ExRedPill	05/09/20 10:20 PM
6	How can you "leave" red pill when the evidence is happening everywhere around you? I think you're confusing common sense with red pill teachings. Let me fix some of what you said. People like physically attractive people - check People like charismatic people - check People don't like unwashed, smelly, rude, gross people - check People resent their partners & some people resent their partners and go on to cheat - check People who get partners aren't cliche niceguys - check Some people play games because they enjoy it and think it makes them more interesting to others- check Pe…	/r/ExRedPill	05/09/20 09:42 PM
9	Is Redpill really bullshit? I mean redpill is just bastardised psychology and advice. You could have found that elsewhere. I think it feeds into a slightly toxic side of masculinity, but if you're only goal is to get laid, then sure it can work. It totally can work but I don't think its healthy in the long run. As for long term relationships. You need more than just being attractive (physically/intellectually/socially) in the short term ofcourse. My advice would be to make sure you're a well rounded person and just go into…	/r/ExRedPill	01/09/20 05:03 PM
3	Is RP something most people are aware of or is it a small minority? I don't think so, but it might do one day. Younger people spend so much time online that it plays a fairly major (but not dominant) role in their lives. Kinda hard not to be slightly aware of these terms if you do spend time online alot. Incel has slowly caught on with younger people and adults, but those characteristics were always around in society. I think the Internet gave a place for the more extreme types to form an insular group online and circle jerk about their situations. It was an onl…	/r/ExRedPill	21/08/20 09:18 AM
13	I think redpill broke my brain. I just want to remind you that you're in a relationship. I don't think there's solid data on Redpillers, but I think you're already way above their level. You shouldn't be spending time on there. You don't gain anything from them, whilst they get to make themselves feel good by pulling you down to their level. Stop engaging with those types of people because you sound like you're in a good place, just you need to change your perspective on things and focus on the actual issue and not all the sur…	/r/ExRedPill	20/08/20 04:43 PM
4	What red pillers and mgtow guys really look like What threads? If you're looking for debates that's fine although I think you're going at it the wrong way. Debates aren't there to come to an understanding. They can be done well, don't get me wrong, but more often than not its just a shitshow lol. Opinions don't have to be logical. Maybe they make sense to internal logic, but to others it might not. If you have a deeply held belief, you're reasoning might be sound but you still might strongly believe in something that you ultimately can't prove…	/r/ExRedPill	18/08/20 08:25 AM
16	What red pillers and mgtow guys really look like Honestly, you can't help them unless they want to be helped. And I think many of then desperately want help, but they won't accept it from non red-pillers in most instances. They've built up this pseudo-science, cherry picked defense for the beliefs that they feed each other. Its like a cultish multi-level marketing scam where they drag each other down and feed them "science", and stories specifically enforcing their victim status as white males in society. It isn't a healthy or logical worldvie…	/r/ExRedPill	17/08/20 08:04 PM
53	What red pillers and mgtow guys really look like Some of them might look like that. But there's plenty of normal people who have found themselves caught up in it that can be helped.	/r/ExRedPill	17/08/20 05:05 PM
4	6 months alone in quarantine with no socialization...I don't like who I am becoming Dude, you have plenty of time to find someone. 21 is nothing. You only think that because of your hyper focus on people in relationships and selective ignorance of people not in relationships. Make sure you get out and get some sunlight, whether it's a walk around the block listening to music, or going to the shops, or whatever. I enjoy running while listening to audio books, specifically fiction (im listening to the dark tower series by Stephen King). You're keeping healthy by lifting weights w…	/r/ExRedPill	08/08/20 09:37 PM
3	Does anon have a point? I don't want to be bitter, but what do we do about the role men are still forced to occupy in society? Ha ha, he doesn't have a point. He's viewing all relationships as one specific dynamic. Imagine viewing human society throughout all of history as being "sUrViVaL" and ignoring everything else. Alot of relationships are founded on each person wanting someone to mental and emotionally close with, as well as physically. Sure, there are those that want traditional gender rules, but the world is changing, bucko. Supressing women and forcing them into a specific gender role of housewife isn't what al…	/r/ExRedPill	08/08/20 09:03 AM
8	These red pill content creators are hilarious How have "radfems" influenced the vast majority of western governments? Sure they're favored in divorce courts, but actually getting to the divorce courts isnt entirely in their favour, I imagine. And you're ignoring all the advantages men have if you think that divorce courts advantage is a big thing. Don't get me wrong, it does suck for men, but they do have many advantages when it comes to marriage as a whole. Please don't use the MeToo movement as a case for radical feminism. You'd be totall…	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/20 07:29 PM
14	These red pill content creators are hilarious I like the analogy but I think it's worth pointing out that it's alot worse in practice, maybe? Would be like saying, white supremacy is like black supremacy. Which is fine in a bubble, but in a western state where white people are the majority and hold many of the important positions... The consequences of it are alot and they're not quite the same.	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/20 01:55 PM
10	Ugly men have a right to be angry just so you can win the argument Sorry to focus on this, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Subjective and contextual. I don't think approaching this discussion as an "argument" to win or lose is healthy. And most normal people will happily accept that their 10/10s might just be a meh for others.	/r/ExRedPill	01/08/20 10:48 PM
3	Unfairness of the dating/hook up culture Have you had sex before? Serious question. You can't go from no sex to sleeping around. That would be like going from never having built anything to building different things every day.	/r/ExRedPill	29/07/20 09:17 AM
3	Unfairness of the dating/hook up culture Become a singer or celebrity if those are the people you're aiming to be.	/r/ExRedPill	29/07/20 09:12 AM
2	Unfairness of the dating/hook up culture None of us are perfect, so don't worry about that. What is the highest value that you're living by, though? And how are you living by it? As in, how does that manifest itself through your everyday actions and what you say and do and what your goals are, etc. Personally, anybody who starts talking about living in a certain way, I think it can come across pretentious. Alot of people have read philosophy, alot. Most people come away with expanded world views but are still just themselves. But those…	/r/ExRedPill	29/07/20 09:08 AM
1	Unfairness of the dating/hook up culture How are you living virtuously?	/r/ExRedPill	29/07/20 08:58 AM