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As a woman who has the opposite body shape of today's beauty standard (I have narrow hips, chicken legs, broad shoulders, small butt, pudgy waist), I have oscillated tremendously between feeling insecure and confident. I look in the mirror and I sometimes think to myself how much I like my petite shape, despite it not being hourglass and not having a flat waist and big butt/thighs. But then I hear all the men gloating about how they are "ass men", and it can get into my head. But you're right. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:13 PM
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I have had two guys try to use that as a form of manipulation to get me to see them on the spot. "Yeah, we can meet on Wednesday. That sounds fun. Or, if you want to be spontaneous, we can meet right now? ;)" Nah, I don't want to meet right now. I am not a call girl. And no, I don't care about you thinking about me as cool and spontaneous. That manipulation isn't going to work on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 05:09 PM
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I just moved to a new city to restart my life, and before leaving I made an instagram to connect with all of the people from my hometown so that I wouldn't lost contact, and I reconnected with a guy from high school who was in my chorus class. We barely even spoke to each other then. We were merely acquaintances. Within a day of us "reconnecting" as friends over a funny photo on instagram, he was calling me every single day to talk for over an hour and was constantly messaging me on instagram. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:22 PM
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Woah, I had no idea that this was the ratio on Tinder. This explains so much of my experience on the app. Holy cow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:14 PM
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Yeah, I was going to say this too. He was definitely negging her by saying that. He wanted her to feel ashamed. Fuck that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:02 PM
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I couldn't imagine having sex with somebody who enjoys me being in pain or uncomfortable. I feel bad for all of the women that have been pressured into this new bullshit. Ugh. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:28 AM
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And the way she describes the saliva covering her face is revolting. Disgusting porn sick world we live in. I am floored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:24 AM
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Yeah, I read this earlier and it made me sick to my stomach. He doesn't even sound that remorseful, honestly. That is the most disturbing part for me. He just wants to be told that it is okay and that it's not his fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 06:40 AM
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I am working up my courage to be able to pull off a boss move like this. I don't know if I am there yet, but with practice, I think I can level up to your status. Bravo for being a badass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:46 PM
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Notice how it is always women in their prime talking like this? You never see older middle aged women putting out these videos. Hmmm. I wonder why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:38 PM
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It makes me so sad and angry that she is even doubting herself. If my husband said anything remotely close to that, I wouldn't need anybody else's validation. I'd be filing for divorce the very next day. There is no man worth this bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 08:08 PM
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This was inspiring to read. It isn't always obvious to ourselves the impact that trauma can have on our own sense of self worth years later. I am so happy for you that you were finally able to reach out to somebody for help, and then do something about it. Props for finally standing up for yourself. I hope your future continues to be bright, luv!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:38 PM
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It's interesting to me, because I am not into these types of gestures myself (never wanted any proposal at all, didn't have a wedding and just eloped, etc), yet I have absolutely no problem with other women wanting those things. Why would I care? So something has to be important to ME in order for me to consider it important to somebody else? Why? That makes no sense. What debbie downers they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:23 PM
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Please send this to his wife. He's pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:03 PM
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Yeah, I honestly have no pity for her because she knew what he was and still decided to go through with the relationship. Ladies, you need to listen to somebody when they are communicating to you that you are not compatible. Don't just gloss it over hoping that they didn't actually mean it or that they will change for you. Not to say that this guy doesn't deserve to be single. He absolutely doesn't deserve to have a gf if he doesn't put in any minimal effort. But at some point, we all have to ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:56 PM
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I've never thought about it like that. When my husband is frustrated at his work desk, once in a blue moon the stress gets to him and he sort of has a break down and slams something (never to the point of breaking it though). It's always his own things, like his desk or his computer. Never mine. I never noticed that. When he's angry and stressed, it's always taken out on himself (it's usually when he's frustrated with something not working in his code or being overwhelmed with deadlines). He nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:15 AM
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The "no nagging for a week" reward really makes me resent her. That is just so....pathetic. She should be ashamed of herself for that alone. I would rather be alone forever than have that little respect for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:19 PM
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I sometimes feel like women are desperately out to prove that they are personally responsible for problems in the world too, so much so these days, that they are willing to throw the rest of us under the bus to do so. It's heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 09:48 PM
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Agreed. Insecure women often mistake confidence in HVW for bitchiness and insecure men often mistake confidence in HVM as arrogance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:22 PM
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It is just one of those things where the bad people of a group can ruin it for the majority of good people in a group. I used to be super outgoing and friendly to men I didn't know all of the time, until my freshman year of college, I was taking an intro course and I exchanged a hello with the guy next to me before class started. It was quick and to the point. We just exchanged names and talked about what we majored in. I didn't think anything of the conversation. Well, he would go on to stalk m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:52 PM
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I love that she is propping up her aunt like that. That's so sweet. There are too many young women these days just trashing older women so I love to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:00 PM
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That's a good point. Why is she coming to the internet, when she's clearly unhappy? Women need to listen to their gut more often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:19 PM
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If my husband insisted that his mother would need to be there, I wouldn't allow him to be there either, because I could no longer trust him to respect my wishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:48 PM
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Let's make a deal with them. We will ban this subreddit if they fight to ban ALL porn and porn-adjacent related subs. 😘 That way they can prove to us how truly committed they are to gender equality on this website (which we all know is none at all).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:18 PM
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I'm sorry to your friend, but like, TWO KIDS???? What, was the first kid not enough of a sign that he should marry her? Omg. I couldn't imagine waiting that long for him. It's insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:38 PM
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But don't you understand? The girl is really nice to her, so it must be okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:12 PM
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Them calling her a Becky or Karen over this pisses me off. Now men just found another way to shame and control women while still being considered "woke". Women need to wise up to this new type of misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:56 PM
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Now I am imagining a little boy and his mother walking outside together picking up litter and it's so wholesome and sweet that I can't stop smiling. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:09 AM
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This is a great idea! Oh, and you sound like a really sweet dog owner, btw. I love the way that you describe your dog and her "hobbling around" to "enjoy the world of smells". She is lucky to have you. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:05 AM
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It doesn't even improve what she looks like, it just makes her look more like a cartoon. WTF? This is bad on so many levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:21 PM
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My brothers are misogynistic assholes, but at least they would have beaten the shit out of him for even showing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:07 AM
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I 100% approve of this program. We need more of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:59 PM
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As somebody who just helped her SIL get out of a relationship where her ex destroyed her credit and left her with over 80,000 dollars in credit card and car loan debt, this enrages me. Like, this is so stupid that it must be a joke. Please somebody tell me it's a joke. I just can't with this irresponsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:53 PM
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I see it in my 15 year old niece. I don't think she even knows what FDS is, but I know that her and her friends have this general attitude of self perseverance, which I am all here for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:38 PM
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Holy shit what did I just read? That is utterly heartbreaking. :( Those poor girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:37 AM
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I learned the hard way. I hired a male therapist for dealing with my generalized anxiety disorder and social phobia. During the first session I was telling him how I have a lot of performance anxiety whenever I do anything in front of people, whether it be at work, or with friends and family, and he smirked at me and said that performance anxiety refers to having anxiety about performing sexually in bed. He had this devious look on his face and I just stopped in my tracks. I just said "Oh? Reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:04 AM
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This is exactly where my mind went too. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:56 AM
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My parents are both terrible cooks so I learned how to cook from YouTube and Google. Shit, there are even YouTube videos that show you how to cut an onion for Christ's sake. So in today's world, there is absolutely no excuse for not learning how to live. Anything you need to know is on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:56 PM
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I fucking love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:57 PM
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Her naivety enrages me for some reason that I don't quite understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:42 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. And you are absolutely right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:32 PM
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I have been dealing with a mood disorder for a decade and my husband has never uttered any of these phrases to me. This reveals a severe lack of empathy in their partners. Why do they just accept this lack of support? Like, damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:34 PM
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He is legit one of the coolest dads I have ever seen in my life. I would have thrived with a dad like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:05 PM
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Yeah, he reminds me of my dad and older brother. I know what you mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:33 PM
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Yep. And there is a legit problem of sexual abuse in nursing homes and group homes for severely disabled women. The idea that only attractive women get assaulted is laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:28 PM
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I'd rather be single than feel so unloved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:32 PM
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And it actually seems to be a smart strategy, considering that women live longer than men and often have to live alone in old age. I'd be down with that solution if it came my way. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:48 AM
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Damn, your friend is impressive! Good for her. I love hearing stories like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:00 PM
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It's funny that she used the example of running a marathon because that has been a goal of mine for a while and I plan on running my first half marathon this fall at the age of 32. And when I imagine life accomplishments that make me feel energized and that I value, running a marathon would probably be the achievement I would be most proud of. In fact, I broke my foot 3 months ago and I am currently going back to square one because I need to regain my ability to use my left foot again. I have fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:54 PM
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Right? I wish I could foster this poor girl and give her the proper care and love that she deserves. :( This story is so heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:29 PM
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It's refreshing to behold a spine so strong and sturdy for once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:24 AM
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What really got to me is when he guilted Jessica for her also possibly liking Mark while he was playing three woman at once, and then when Jessica responds by cutting off Mark to get him he just rejects her. Amber was okay with this scummy behavior so they deserve each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:31 PM
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Yeah I thought both of those matches were perfect for each other. I wouldn't want to see any of the high value men or women with low value men or women so that worked out. Cameron and Lauren were so damn adorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:28 PM
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Oh my goodness I am so sorry that you experienced that. :( I hope you and your son are okay now. That is terrifying how well they can put on an act for so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 03:21 PM
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In retrospect, were there any small signs that he would turn out to be LVM after having kids? Do you have any warnings are specific advice that you think could help other women detect a LVM in waiting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:41 AM
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Oh hell yes! Props to your mother. She sounds like a badass. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:26 PM
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Yeaaaahhhhhhhh, exactly. My mom was a terrible cook, so although she had me making my own grilled cheese sandwiches and boxed macaroni and cheese by age 9, she didn't know much else to teach me. I never once saw her using a spice that wasn't either ground cinnamon or Season-All. So I taught myself when I moved out at 18. Now I'm pretty decent at it at 30. YouTube is a gold mine. There are recipe sites galore. There is no excuse in this day and age of the internet not to teach yourself basic life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:03 PM
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This right here is why I hate that Love Languages book. It gave so many dudes like this one an out for their obnoxious behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:51 PM
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Hmm, I wonder why she is the first woman to have ever lived with him. It's a mystery, I tell ya. A complete...mystery. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:41 PM
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Yeah I'm genuinely confused why he did that? What was he trying to accomplish with that? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:24 PM
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Oh excellent catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:48 PM
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Not only was your dad being a good husband to your mother, but he was teaching you how to be treated. Phenomenal. I know you don't need me to tell you this, but never take him for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:27 PM
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I can't get over how happy she looks. They are both such sweethearts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:44 PM
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God these two people are my heroes. What a wonderful example they both set. Does it break any rules in this subreddit to say that I miss them so much? *sobs*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:20 PM
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I love your responses. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:49 AM
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Boston pride! Hell yes. The way he looks at her the entire time... Beautiful. And he is adorable. He seemed so proud of her accomplishment of being a cardiologist. The fact that they are highschool sweethearts is sweet too. And the fact that she cared that they might be inconveniencing the people there before she knew they were apart of it was precious as hell. They deserve each other and I wish them so much happiness. I'm not crying. YOU'RE crying! 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:59 PM
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Disgusting. He must be good friends with Anthony Weiner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:51 PM
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"I'd also say he had more character and integrity at the age of 9." Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:25 AM
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Yeah, when I told my husband about this without giving him my opinion first, he immediately said "Clever way to use feminism to manipulate your wife into getting a hot nanny. lol. Wow." And I agree about the experience. I would hire a nanny who is older and who has had kids. And that is what makes this even more ridiculous. It isn't like she is going to sacrifice on qualifications for this by kicking somebody older, so his objections make even less sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:23 AM
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No apologies needed! Thank you for caring! It is really kind of you. They are super close today because my brother is now 33 and is an exact replica of him. Even their mannerisms are the same. He treats his own wife and kids terribly. He is a MAJOR misogynist. It sucks. Rather than turning his back on him, he just emulated him. :( In fact, my brother cheated on his wife last year, left to go live with his affair partner for a while, then came back when the grass wasn't greener. He still feels ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:14 AM
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Yep. Also, when you have a new baby it is one of the most stressful times of a marriage. It tests even the best of marriages. Lack of sleep, tension, costs, etc. Here is how this goes. (I know it because my dad slept with my babysitter when I was a kid. My brother, who was 9 at the time, walked in on it. He told on my dad and my dad lied and beat the shit out of him for it.) Husband feels "abandoned" by wife because she is too busy healing her body after childbirth and nourishing her children. H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:58 AM
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Exactly. And if your husband's reaction to you feeling insecure when you are in a vulnerable place is to shame you by calling you sexist rather than putting you at ease, then he doesn't have good intentions. If that were my own husband trying to guilt me over this, I would immediately start feeling distrustful. Like, why does he care so much? Why is he standing up for these random young women over my own feelings of comfort? She has a right to feel comfortable in her own home. She has a right to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:35 AM
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That post is either fake, or this guy has some severe delusions about how he looked and acted before he started working on himself. And he doesn't even discuss with her why he is divorcing her? Bullshit. He just wants to go and get laid with new women now that he thinks he is capable of getting them. Or else he would have not waited TWO years to have this "epiphany". HE is the one who is bored. I hope he struggles to find women willing to sleep with him. She better not take him back when he inev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:00 AM
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And you are going to kick this year's butt! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:31 PM
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Yes. Red Lobster. A meal for a king. lmFao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:40 AM
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Jesus. I bet by his definition, long term means however long it takes to get into your bed. Fuck. That. Shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:09 PM
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Omg! I am so sorry you have to deal with this level of disgusting behavior. Ugh. I am glad that you aren't tolerating that nonsense. Stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:01 PM
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Oh wait. He isn't just saying this to one of his bro dudes? That would have been bad enough. But he is saying this to a WOMAN? Ho-lee-shit. This guy is pornsick or something, because he clearly doesn't understand women in the slightest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:53 PM
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I have been married to my husband for 6 years and we were together for 6 years before that. I am subscribed to this subreddit out of curiosity of what dating culture is like these days for women. Also because I personally know SO many women in my life who don't know their worth and it kills me, so it is refreshing to see women who genuinely value themselves for once. He knows I am subscribed to this subreddit. He doesn't care in the slightest. He can see where you all are coming from and even ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:17 PM
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I think you make a great point about weight. People tend to have an easier time being skinny in their youth and take that for granted. I wasn't one of those people. I was a chubby ugly duckling between the ages of 13 and 20. Then I was marginally more attractive between the ages of 20 and 25 as I slowly lost weight over time and improved my lifestyle. Now at 30, I have already developed healthy eating and exercise habits, and I look way hotter now. There is no question. I can tell by all of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:59 PM
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Right on! I have never tested one before. What was your favorite feature?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 04:52 PM
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Yeah, seeing so many people say "guys, you should never buy your wife exercise equipment". Uhhh... Speak for yourself. I would be ecstatic if my husband bought me a cool exercise bike. Then again, I love being fit. I don't need to lose weight. But I still care about my cardiovascular health and my strength and flexibility levels. This idea that you only workout when you want to lose weight is exactly why this country is so obese. Everybody should be working out, regardless of how skinny they alr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 05:47 PM
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