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Thanks man, yeah I've considered doing the youtube thing but I don't like the idea of becoming dependent on a platform that's run by SJWs. Maybe at some point though... I'm also not really sure about the whole copyright situation of using background video taken from other people's stuff. I believe you're allowed to do it if your video is purely educational, but I'd be doing this to promote my blog, products etc so seems like I could be liable to a lawsuit. It is a good idea though and one I've t…
/r/TheRedPill15/02/18 01:16 PM
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Also, I promoted my blog in the Warlord post and you left it up. Why?
/r/TheRedPill15/02/18 01:11 PM
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Can't do it my man. If I'm gonna spend 3 straight days working on a post here there's gotta be something in it for me. It's a shame I won't be able to post here any more, but I'm not running a charity. All the best - Mike
/r/TheRedPill15/02/18 01:09 PM
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nice one mate, take care
/r/TheRedPill14/02/18 02:16 PM
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Thanks for the comment dude, glad it could be of some help!
/r/TheRedPill14/02/18 02:16 PM
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np man thanks for the comment
/r/TheRedPill14/02/18 02:15 PM
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Thanks dude, glad it could be of use to you!
/r/TheRedPill14/02/18 02:14 PM
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Cheers man, glad it could give you some inspiration
/r/TheRedPill14/02/18 02:13 PM
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Very interesting, never know there'd been studies done but doesn't surprise me. Will definitely look that up
/r/TheRedPill14/02/18 02:11 PM
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This post refers to COLD APPROACH, not girls you already know. I wrote a pretty long comment on text game here in response to a question, can't link to it because TRP deletes comments that link within reddit, but you'll find it if you look
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 05:10 PM
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Yeah as I said, these things are spandrels, I agree with you. I was being conversational when I said it's "like anything else", not making a formal biological claim.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 04:13 PM
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It really depends on the intent behind it. If you're doing it out of desperation, or because you feel like you "have to", it won't work. If you're doing it from a sincere and real attraction to the girl, it will.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 04:12 PM
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Approaching with a wingman or some of your buddies is optimal unless you absolutely have no other option, in which case solo is better than nothing (that being said, I've gotten laid a good bit from hitting up clubs solo, so it can work -- but I'd recommend against if you can avoid it)
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:50 PM
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I still approach women and flirt with them for fun which my girl is cool with, I'm not out banging women though. For the first 2 years or so, it was more of a friends with benefits thing but as we became more serious I stopped fucking other girls
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:49 PM
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Oatmeal, sweet potato, brown rice, mainly. Yeah if you need to lose fat you'll definitely want to cut carbs to some extent. Just a word of warning though that no carbs at all is generally viewed as not being good for T levels. Get professional advice on this one from a trainer or nutritionist about how to find a balance -- or at the very least, research it online. Best of luck
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:47 PM
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Thanks for your thoughtful feedback on the post, asfasfsadzzzz
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:18 PM
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Yup exactly, your lays are never going to be as evenly distributed as you'd like, though of course the harder you work it the more consistent you can be In my case I believe I never really hit the potential of what I could have done with cold approach cos I got into a relationship. Obviously I'm happy now, but if I had stuck with it there's no doubt I would have gotten more consistent
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:17 PM
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what I'm saying here is universal and comes into play if you want to lay girls who are above a 7, each to their own
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:15 PM
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Lol man, the protein shake is just one part of it. There's like a dozen little things I do for higher testosterone. To answer your question, I take a whey isolate + oatmeal shake before my workout, plus I usually have like 4-5 eggs for lunch (or 2 chicken breast), and then a big steak (or salmon or chicken) for dinner and tons of greens and brown rice. I find my sex drive is at its highest if I also take another protein shake before bed. I also do nofap religiously, I lift heavy weights 5 days a…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:14 PM
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Show me your best contribution to the sub, maybe I can learn something from you
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:08 PM
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Interesting, why is being a salesman a bad thing? You're not a communist are you?
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 03:01 PM
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What I'm saying comes into play if you want anything higher than a 7 That applies to getting one LTR or multiple lays a month I just made it about the "total 10" thing to give it a singular theme and focus, but it's applicable to all game
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:57 PM
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https://media.giphy.com/media/26tknCqiJrBQG6bxC/giphy.gif
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:56 PM
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Hahah yeah that's an old Tyler line, I've used that a few times on women who blew me off always makes me laugh my fucking ass off lol
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:55 PM
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Interesting, tell me more. Should I try to make people feel bad? Is that what will help them get laid?
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:50 PM
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Thanks for your comment bro, yeah I agree with what you've said here. It's like I said above, there's big difference between putting her on a pedestal and having a strong sex drive that gives you a desire to possess that woman. The first weakens you, the second strengthens you
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:49 PM
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I agree with the philosophy of persistence, but I think it’s important to emphasize “only with attractive girls you’ve just met”. Yeah bro, I strongly agree with you. I should have made it much clearer in the original post that this is applicable to COLD APPROACH ONLY “only if you’re attracted to the girl”. Feels like you’re putting pussy on a pedestal A few people have said this and I really don't understand it. I think it's a testosterone thing. When I see a pretty girl I just have this intens…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:47 PM
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Thanks for your comment, yeah these kinds of experiences really blew my mind too. It's good because after it happens a couple times you really just stop taking her reactions to you all that seriously and so you're rock solid no matter what she throws at you
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:43 PM
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No problem mate, thanks for getting in touch
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:41 PM
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Thanks man, yeah let me know how it goes. I fucking envy you for getting to game at carnival in brazil, I'd say thats wild!
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:41 PM
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Cheers mate, yeah it's also a lot of fun to "hate fuck" a girl who's been an irritating little brat to you all night lol Where in Ireland you from? I'm in Dublin, south side
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:39 PM
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Hmmm, I dunno about this one man. I'm not saying it can't work (obviously your friend's example demonstrates that it did). But that's just never been how I've rolled with women I know, so I can't really give you great feedback on this I will say this, though. A great attitude to have with chicks you know is "I'm a man, she's a woman. Anything can happen. Always" And in even in my own case, I met my girlfriend on about 4 different occasions (each one months apart) and she never showed any interes…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:36 PM
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You need to get more life experience
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:31 PM
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Thanks man. Yeah I definitely could have worded this better so as not to be misinterpreted, but you live and learn. The negative comments will allow me to communicate these ideas more clearly in future As far as the difference between persisting as an alpha and being an orbiter, it's really a matter of how good your game is generally -- e.g. is your posture good?, is your eye contact good?, are you able to make women aroused using your body language and eye contact alone?, do you tease girls?, d…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:29 PM
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Cheers man. Yeah some girls are definitely testier than others. As an alpha (or at least a guy who has internalized alpha traits) you need to look at these tests as her doing you a favor -- because it's giving you an opportunity to show her that you're NOT REACTIVE, which is actually going to be the fastest way to fuck her.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:25 PM
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Whats up Dr, good to see you! Wtf happened to your blog, you get taken down by the thought police?
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:19 PM
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THE TITLE IS HYPERBOLE -- NOT MEANT TO BE TAKEN LITERALLY
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:17 PM
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Thanks man, planning to write here more often
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:16 PM
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Loser mentality. Don't focus on what she'd do with other guys. Their life is none of your concern. And yes, to answer your question, I know at least one natural alpha "hot" guy closely, and I've seen him get eviscerated by girls. You'd be amazed at how bad the reactions he sometimes gets are, despite looking like Don Draper
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:14 PM
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Yeah definitely, it can misinterpreted though because going in with a goofy try hard smile is worse than no smile. It has to be a "sharky grin" -- kind of predatory and self-amused.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:12 PM
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Yeah, you see the funny thing is, if you try to RESIST the feeling that you like her, it will actually become stronger, making you "needy" But if you GIVE IN to the feeling, and just say, "ok, I have a strong desire for her because she's highly feminine and attractive. That's good, because it's good to feel passion", then you paradoxically gain more control over the feeling and don't act in a needy way. Excitement is good. Passion is good. Strong emotions are good. Emotions are contagious and wi…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:09 PM
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Thanks. This isn't how evolution works. In most cases it is, with the exception of "spandrels". Not an expert on this, but I'm pretty sure narcissism is not a spandrel. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spandrel_(biology)
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:03 PM
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Thanks, yeah from what I've heard snapchat can work wonders for this kind of stuff. Never used it and never will though! (obviously I'd be more motivated to if I was single)
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:01 PM
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Yeah man, to be honest with you I suspect it's a difference in testosterone levels. When I see a pretty girl, I HAVE to fuck. My physiology just won't let me bitch out. And so I'm willing to put effort in, I'm willing to charm her ass off, I'm willing to put up with her bullshit little tests and then flip them around on her. But if a guy doesn't have this level of sex drive, I can easily see how he'd feel like it's not worth it.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 02:00 PM
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Can't agree with this enough. I'm a big fan of TRP but if there's one thing which I think this community lacks, and which (for all its faults) the old PUA community did have in spades, it's the idea that "you must test and prove everything for yourself". To be honest, criticisms on this post like "this isn't red pill" are a joke to me (though I respond politely). The question is not "Does this confirm my ideology" it's "DOES THIS WORK?" You can only find out by TESTING. If guys TEST this, they'l…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:58 PM
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Yeah man, that definitely sounds like low T (used to suffer from it myself, and like many people misdiagnosed it as "depression") I know nothing about keto, but be careful with that -- I think I read there's evidence that low carb diets lower testosterone.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:53 PM
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yeah it's the biggest undiscovered secret in game!
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:51 PM
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Yeah I see what you mean. Let's see, back when I was single, after I'd actually started to get decent at game, I'd typically approach around 20 girls a week, get laid with a 7+ every 2 weeks or so (this is not including women already in my rotatation) These are very rough averages though, like anything else you'll go through "feast and famine", like having one week where you fuck 3 different girls in a week, and then have a month long dry spell, and so on
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:50 PM
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if you're meeting hot girls who are "obsessed with you from the get-go" then you clearly don't need to read any of this advice in the first place
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:45 PM
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They are entitled to their opinion, I welcome all discussion and debate! Cheers for the feedback, and yeah I plan to start writing here more often this year
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:44 PM
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Hahah nice, I really had no intention of people using the post in that context but sounds like it worked out nicely!
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:42 PM
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Thanks! yeah I agree, esp with what you said about texting, ughhh I hate that shit.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:41 PM
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Hmm, sounds a bit like putting the pussy on the pedestal to me. I have had LTRs and STRs with top shelf women and I still told them they were lucky to have me, not the other way around. I agree that you need to have a mindset of being the prize. I have a HARDCORE prize frame, believe me. What I mean when I say you must have an aching desire for her is (to put it in the simplest possible terms), you must be REALLY FUCKING AROUSED by her. This is not putting the pussy on a pedestal. It's called ha…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:38 PM
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Thanks man. Yeah, at the beginning it's tough. You need to make APPROACHING your ONLY CRITERIA FOR SUCCESS. So if you go out and approach 10 girls, boom, that's a success. How they reacted is irrelevant -- the fact that you got yourself to approach is what matters (because this is all you can control) Approach often Read about game online Based on what you're learning, adjust your approach until you start getting better feedback. Also, read the sidebar, and make sure you're hitting the fundament…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:32 PM
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Thanks yeah, a lot of guys would be surprised by how far they'd get if they just put a LITTLE more effort in
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:28 PM
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Cheers bud. Yeah the 4 Times Rule for sure is a great heuristic, very useful
/r/TheRedPill13/02/18 01:27 PM
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Hahah nice, that's probably what I'd do too https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CuMZSXIXgAANB8j.jpg
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:45 PM
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Thanks for the feedback man. I answered this question in the FAQ under the headline "what constitutes a real rejection?"
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:43 PM
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Np man, just focus on basic stuff, really small wins. Start approaching women on a regular basis. Make approaching your only criteria for success. In other words, you go to a bar, you approach 10 girls, they all reject you. SUCCESS. You approached 10 girls. This is how you have to view it. There's no rejection, only results. Eventually as you take more and more action, your brain will automatically stop doing things that don't work, and focus on the things that do. Take continuous imperfect acti…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:41 PM
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Ignore this post in that case, it will be too advanced. Focus on the basics. Read the sidebar, lift weights, approach.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:33 PM
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Yeah if it helps you, by all means. Just don't let words and concepts become a mental barrier that prevents you from behaving in the most effective possible way. This unfortunately happens to many people, their mind is so focused on the map they can't see the territory itself
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:32 PM
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Yeah, I should really have made this more clear in the post: this applies to meeting and fucking women through COLD APPROACH. It's not necessarily as applicable to women you already have some form of history with. In this case I actually do agree that it's a "fuck yes or no" as you said
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:28 PM
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Cheers man, let me know how it goes
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:26 PM
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Agreed but be careful! women are sneaky and will sometimes say stuff like this to bait you into going full beta, then unceremoniously next you. Many such cases!
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:26 PM
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Love Todd's stuff, it's rock solid. He's one of the only pickup guys putting out content who still has my full respect (many have fallen off - sad!)
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:24 PM
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It's true that your power comes from your ability to walk away -- though this only really applies ONCE YOU'RE IN SOME KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITH HER (i.e. you've had sex with her at least once) Before that happens, walking away accomplishes jack shit, because she gives zero fucks about a guy she hasn't slept with yet -- believe me. Would you rather look needy sometimes and sometimes get laid? Or never look needy and never get laid? This whole thing of avoiding looking "needy" is, imo, a massive w…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:16 PM
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Thanks for the comment man, I appreciate your enthusiasm. I especially like what you said about PASSION. This is important, and it's not covered nearly enough in pickup literature. On the other hand, I can't really get on board with you on monogamy being best for everyone. It's definitely been good to me -- however I spent a LONG time doing the player thing and not only was it not meaningless, but the journey and lessons I got from continually improving myself to hone my skills and get hotter an…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:09 PM
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"If he can handle my attitude, I'll like him. That's hot in a man". I like this quote, it sums a lot up nicely. Girls have told me similar kinds of things over the years, eventually you hear enough women let slip something like that and put it together with your field experience and you get massive epiphanies. What makes it hard is that in 99% of cases, the girl herself has zero clue what's really governing her behavior, she's just responding to her natural impulses and as a guy you have to keep…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 08:00 PM
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Cheers bud. Yeah agree re: the authenticity thing. Something I've actually started experimenting with more often these days (purely for fun) is to go straight up "method actor" on a girl and literally just play a certain role to see how she'll respond. For example, sometimes I'll act extremely gruff and hostile to a girl for no reason, acting like I'm actually ANGRY at her -- and she'll get super turned on by it. It's very interesting to watch. Then, as you said, once you've mastered it you can …
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:54 PM
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Thanks bud. Agreed, and every single year a new batch turn 18 and come onto the market ;-)
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:50 PM
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Yeah I mean narcissism is like anything else, it wouldn't exist if it didn't provide some evolutionary advantage, but if it's unconscious then it becomes a blind spot which can fuck you up in other ways. A perfect example of this is a natural friend of mine, highly narcissistic. Does GREAT with women in some conditions (like, pulling 9s and 10s effortlessly if he's on a roll), but if he gets rejected once it completely destroys him for the whole rest of the night and he can't recover.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:44 PM
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Yeah man, no I agree 100%. This ain't my first rodeo, I'm going into this with eyes wide open, believe me
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:36 PM
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Yeah man, that's a really great analogy. That's exactly what concepts like that are for -- they help you get out of the blue pill mentality, but once they've been internalized you can let them go. Nah, thanks for offering but I don't take donations. I sell a product on sexual escalation called the Domination Principle (I won't spam links to it here but if you want to buy it you can find it if you look on my site). Take care
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:33 PM
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Lol, does it make a difference if I was the one who posted it On a more serious note, no to marriage, yes to children (with the right woman). I won't get into details of my personal relationship but she's been 100% solid for 5+ years
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:30 PM
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Thanks bro. To answer your question, use lots of push/pulls. It's important to get her chasing you too. Push/pulls will do this. Tease her. Make fun of her. Mock her a little. Give her compliments, but balance it out with teasing. This will flip the dynamic so she's the one chasing you. To be honest with you I feel like this whole idea of "avoiding neediness" has been overdone. I never think about neediness. Ever. It's just not a word that ever enters my mind. When there's a cute girl in front o…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:28 PM
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I feel you, that was my mentality for many years too and it's a healthy one
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:23 PM
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I did a pretty long post on this elsewhere in the comments here. Can't link to it as TRP will automatically delete any post that links within reddit but you'll find it if you look
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:22 PM
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age of consent where I live (Ireland) is 17. Why you sperging out on me bro? You realize the number one porn search above anything else is "18 year old girls"? Cut out the phony morality
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:21 PM
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Cheers mate, appreciate the feedback
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:11 PM
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I definitely had some positive reinforcement in the form of getting the occasional number, date or makeout in the club. how is your daygame statistics now? Not a good question. The whole "pickup artist batting average" focuses you on the wrong things and is ultimately self-defeating. For example, if you only approach women who you're positive will like you, then you could approach 1 girl a year, get laid once a year, and have a "100% success rate" On the other hand, you might have another guy wh…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:08 PM
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Yeah, this is what I strongly advocate for. You'll also find that when you lead hard on the first interaction, even if you don't wind up having sex, it makes the number 1000% more solid
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 07:01 PM
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I appreciate your honest feedback. Is this not a common test for provider traits? First of all, it IS a test for provider traits. But that's not necessarily a bad thing. If you are all lover and no provider, the girl may feel that fucking you isn't worth the emotional turmoil of being pumped and dumped. You have to provide a balance. It's the old game idea of "Comfort vs value". You need both. Some girls need more comfort, others need more value. The advice at the TRP is strongly balanced toward…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 06:59 PM
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why? (legal drinking age in my country is 18 btw)
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 06:43 PM
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Extremely loud, packed nightclubs where it's literally impossible to talk to girls.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 06:20 PM
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There is no "one right answer". I'm giving you what's worked best for me personally. Others will tell you what's worked for them. TEST EVERYTHING FOR YOURSELF and you'll find what works for you. This goes for absolutely everything you read here.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 06:19 PM
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I get you man. The point I was trying to get across was that this shit was NOT easy for me to learn and took me almost unimaginable pain to get through, but it was worth it in the end. It's a message I think a lot of people who are struggling need to hear
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 06:16 PM
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The problem is not approach, you or your state or your game. The problem is the nightclub itself and extremely stimulating environment, which is full of things that make you invisible or very hard to distinguish from the surrounding people. Cue peacocking, social proof and working the club to get on her radar. Agreed. Until you spend a certain amount of time talking to the girl, you are pretty much just a VAGUE BLUR to her. I had a whole section about this in the original post but it was too lon…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 06:14 PM
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Don't know what to tell you man, I was a hard case. To be clear, I'm not saying I didn't get laid at all during that first year and a half. I got around a dozen or so lays from girls I went on dates with who I met through cold approach -- but it took me around a year and half to get my first SAME NIGHT lay (which is what I really got into game to learn)
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 06:06 PM
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The simple answer is that texting girls is not good. It immediately puts you in a weak position. If you absolutely have to do it, however, then the way I'd approach it is this: set up the date in person WHILE you're taking her number. Example, you meet a girl in school, you hit it off, you're talking. You say, "let's do XYZ" [something specific that paints a picture in her mind, e.g. "let's get coffee together on Friday"] if she says no or is resistant, don't ask for her number. Let it slide. Yo…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 06:03 PM
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Yes, absolutely. This is not meant to be looked at as a "complete guide" to game or anything like it -- just one part of the bigger picture. Push/pulls, emotional spiking etc is all GREAT
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 05:29 PM
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Thanks! Lol, editing the fucking formatting until it looked right was by far the most frustrating part
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 04:59 PM
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Cheers! Yeah, I've been in dozens of similar situations (maybe even hundreds), it's just part and parcel of learning game. You get better at knowing the score through experience. What's very important to realize is that these "tests" are almost always completely UNCONSCIOUS. In other words, the girl herself has no idea what she wants and wouldn't be able to explain why she's behaving in a contradictory and confusing way, giving mixed signals, etc, even if she tried. However, overall, it function…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 04:56 PM
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Thanks man! Yeah, imo a big part of mastering game definitely comes down to attaining balance between two seemingly contradictory paradigms -- being able to "hold two conflicting thoughts in your head at the same time", so to speak.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 04:44 PM
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Thanks, and yeah I generally agree. I don't like chasing girls over text, it's not a good look. Don't want to get too into this, as text game is a different topic which requires playing by very different rules, might make a post about it in future. The "too high value" thing is basically like another way of saying, "You're taking yourself too seriously, and it's making the girl tense." DUMB YOURSELF DOWN a bit to relate to her, by being goofy, silly, saying stupid non-sensical stuff and you'll g…
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 03:33 PM
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Correct. Text game is a very different beast.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 03:24 PM
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This is a good question. I'm not really referring to "requests" like asking a girl out -- I'm more referring to "attempts to get her to engage you" in an approach. However, I have definitely found that asking a girl to go out multiple times after she says no the first time DOES make her more responsive. The trick to it is to ask in different ways -- not just repeating the same request again and again. Also, leaving some space in between each ask, like several days, plus texting back and forth.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/18 03:21 PM
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There's something about the excruciating pain that transmutes a man's energy into a masculine essence. It manifests into your face, demeanor, your posture, your expectations. It's like coming back from military boot camp. A complete transformation. This is very true. You actually change physically. It is a literal transformation.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/18 02:04 PM
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at this rate it will soon be illegal to have sex without video taping the whole thing and sending the tape to a panel of experts (feminist professors) to determine if consent happened or not every day, in every way, I get a little closer to converting to Islam
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 11:40 AM
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"Who keeps you up at night?" a report asked General James Mattis, current Secretary of Defense. Without hesitation he shot back, "No one. I keep others up at night." Mattis is such a bad motherfucker.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/17 02:00 PM
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Fuck man this gave me chills, great post. Much autism in the comments!
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 08:14 PM
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Your question strongly suggests you have never had a girlfriend, no offense. Fyi I have a website, you can find pics if you search hard enough
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 07:26 PM
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I've never worked in sales as I went straight into being an entrepreneur from college (which at this stage of my business means I'm working on marketing stuff about 95% of the time). A sales background will help tremendously and is ideal if you're doing direct response marketing. This, in my opinion, is the only kind of marketing that isn't bullshit, because it's actually about making people BUY -- not building "brand", "awareness" or other nonsense that doesn't help the bottom line. Direct resp…
/r/TheRedPill19/10/17 06:29 PM
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Great post. Single guys need to print this story out and stick it somewhere they'll see it every day. If you're not getting the girls you want, you need to burn this story and its moral into your mind until it becomes part of your essence.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/17 04:00 PM
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I like this idea. As someone who knows a lot about marketing (and internet marketing specifically) the idea of "the hook" is just about the single most important thing in selling a product. Marketers (in the circles I'm in anyway) talk about "the hook" constantly. If your product has a good hook, it will sell even if it's a crappy product and even if otherwise it has shitty marketing. However, your product could be the best in the world, have unbelievable marketing, but if there's no hook or a m…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/17 03:58 PM
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Thanks man, glad you liked the piece
/r/TheRedPill14/02/17 04:10 PM
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Thanks, glad you enjoyed it.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/16 04:43 PM
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Understandable. The problem is that most men have had the experience of getting a "no" from a woman, continuing to persist, and then ending up in a relationship with that girl. In fact, that's how every meaningful romantic relationship I've ever had started. It's quite possibly how your parents met.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/16 04:38 PM
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Nice, great to see you're taking action.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 04:02 PM
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You can keep trying up to 4 times of being "rejected", brushed off, whatever. You'll often find she brushes you off the first 1 or 2 times, but if you keep persisting she quickly becomes warm and friendly. Persisting more than 4 times though -- that's where you get into creepy territory/just wasting your time. So I generally play it by the 4 Times Rule. (I didn't invent this rule, a guy called Alex did, but I've found it to work.)
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 04:00 PM
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Re-approach later. Text game is a separate question and requires too long to answer here. Never mix up real life interactions with text interactions -- they operate by two completely different rules book ime. I'll do a post on it in future.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:35 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, glad you got a system that works for you!
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:32 PM
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Fucking beautiful. Congrats on being an action taker, I'm really glad this got you some solid results.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:29 PM
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Read the Selfish Gene. Women have an instinctive urge to be impregnated. It's not something I like to play with much because by putting the idea in her head you're almost inviting her to get herself pregnant with you. But it is powerful. Tell a girl you're going to shoot a load into her and put a baby in her belly during sex -- feel how wet she instantly gets. It's instinctual.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:28 PM
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No doubt.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:25 PM
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Cheers!
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:24 PM
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Thanks! Glad you liked it
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:24 PM
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Very common question in these replies. Will be the basis of my next post on TRP.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:24 PM
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I enjoy their femininity.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:23 PM
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Thanks man! Glad to hear you're taking action.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:23 PM
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3 options here: (1) Learn to get good at pulling on the same night. This is not easy, but it's possible. And when you do it a few times, it becomes effortless as you transition from "conscious incompetence" to "unconscious competence". Flake rate is close to zero with girls you've already fucked. This option requires that you build the skill of leading. (2) Run VOLUME. You can get laid just by taking numbers and going on dates, but you have to approach it like a marketing funnel. Know in advance…
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:22 PM
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Best ways I've found to raise T: (1) before bed in each night, take a shot of liquid cod liver oil, vitamin D3, zinc, spoonful of grassfed butter, 3 brazil nuts (for selenium) and 20 or so almonds. Found this in Tim Ferriss's book the 4 Hour Body, (google Tim Ferriss "triple your testosterone" to see the science behind it) -- always it puts me into beastmode. I also take this about 2 hours before going out to the club or whatever. It has a major impact. Makes me hornier, more dominant, etc. (2) …
/r/TheRedPill05/12/16 03:12 PM
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Fucking beautiful. Saved for future use.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 03:53 PM
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Yeah that's a great question, and one that isn't covered enough. It's the difference between understanding an idea theoretically and actually INTERNALIZING it. I'll probably do a post on it in future because it's a deep topic that requires more than a superficial treatment. In the meantime, I'd highly recommend that you go on youtube and search for a video by a guy named Alexander on this topic. It should come up if you search "Alexander you are enough". I got this frame from his teachings, and …
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 02:40 PM
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Thanks man. Yeah as I was writing it, I realized that you could really argue frame is EVERYTHING -- not just in relation to girls, but to all human relations, social dynamics, politics, etc. I mean look at Trump. The recent election is the prefect example of a FRAME WAR. The establishment's frame was that Trump was a joke, didn't want to win, couldn't possibly win, etc. Their frame was strong because it was backed up by all the historical evidence -- a candidate like Trump (who was basically an …
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 02:30 PM
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Solid post. I agree with everything you've just said. Especially: B) Preselection is god. I remember this one time I was in the zone at a club. Was making out with a random chick (maybe a 7), took her by the hand and then walked up to a 9, and made out with her instantly while still holding the other girl's hand. The 9 in question was about an inch taller than me -- the type of girl who would have blown me out straightaway normally, yet now there was instant compliance, instant making out withou…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 02:22 PM
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Thanks man, I appreciate the kind words! Master Persuader Hypothesis is pretty much my BIBLE for understanding the world currently.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 02:14 PM
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Yeah, something that really flipped my perspective a while back was when I heard Alexander (then of RSD) say: "Your good game is your BAD game, and your bad game is actually your GOOD game." Meaning: if the girl is responding "well" you, it means she's not nervous around you and not trying to make a good impression. Whereas when the girl is responding "badly", it is often a sign that she's nervous and self-conscious around you, stuck in her head, overthinking things, and trying to seem "cool" --…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 02:10 PM
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hahaha oh for the days when Vice was actually good. Gavin McInnes is a beast
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 05:52 PM
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I'm average height, around 5' 10" or so. Naturally I'm extremely skinny and putting on muscle is hard but I've been lifting for long enough (half a decade) that I've got a fairly athletic physique. Face-wise I'm probably average, big nose, kinda funny looking, ugly smile, but I clean up well. I look kinda Jewish or Arab (which is weird because I'm Irish) which some girls dislike but others are into.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 03:12 PM
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Nice one! Thanks for commenting
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 03:08 PM
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Cheers, you're a gentleman and a scholar
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 03:07 PM
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Nice man, yeah I'm in a serious LTR and I find it's just as applicable
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 03:07 PM
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I'm the same, man, to tell you the truth. And it's healthy for a man to be achievement oriented in the context of goals, career, etc. I actually think a little bit of "dissatisfaction" with your current level is healthy and necessary. But when you go out to pick up girls, it pays to have a very different mindset -- one which is based on acceptance and appreciation.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 02:18 PM
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Act as if she's being friendly and normal to you, in spite of the actual reality, and very often she'll fall into your frame and start acting friendly and normal. It's kind of trippy. This is related to the concept of reflexivity in social psychology. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reflexivity_(social_theory) We largely act the way we believe others expect us to act.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 02:15 PM
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No problem, glad you enjoyed it
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 02:13 PM
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Ok dude, sorry to hear it wasn't helpful to you. Thanks for your feedback.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 02:12 PM
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I'm building a red pill media company. That requires that I build an audience. Building an audience requires that I offer value to people. So right now, I do that by writing about my experience with game. "you either don't have an SO or you have constantly failed at attracting / keeping a valuable mate." No offense but I think you might be projecting, mate.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:51 AM
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"You intentionally emphasized your "looks don't matter" message to specifically target the scrawnies and fatties here, whetting their appetites with fantasies of banging 10s just by confidence and frame." The opposite is actually true. My post is primarily directed at guys who are already in decent shape, work out and take care of themselves, but still aren't getting results. You're right that lifting weights is a prerequisite. Not even necessarily for looks reasons, but simply because if you've…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:44 AM
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In the context of meeting women at bars and nightclubs, if you take a girl to get food with you and your buddies, then you all go back to an afterparty, and at 3am it's you and the girl, she'll fuck you even if you're average looking. Why? Because you're the last dick standing, and in that moment it feels better for her to cuddle up with you in bed and have sex than to sleep on her own and be cold and lonely. It's that simple.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:35 AM
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Having sex with an average looking guy feels better for a woman than not having sex at all.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:27 AM
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I love Scott Adams' writing. That's just about the highest compliment you could give me. Thanks!
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:19 AM
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"If you want a woman that's full of crap, get one without a filter." That's a fucking great way of putting it.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:13 AM
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"Let's deal in reality." Ok, here's the reality. Our minds are wired in such a way that we will find confirming evidence everywhere to support what we already believe. This is called confirmation bias. If you believe (like I once did), that women are ONLY attracted to looks-height-money-status, you'll see confirming evidence for that everywhere, while unconsciously blocking out any evidence that contradicts it. This is how normal brains work. I have found that viewing attraction as if it is pure…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:11 AM
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I welcome all debate!
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:01 AM
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Nice, thanks for the feedback
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:01 AM
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Let me put it this way. You approach a girl and she gives you a dirty look. You approach her later that night again, and 2 hours later you're fucking on her couch. Now imagine that situations has happened to you nearly a dozen times. That's been my experience. Caused me to change my perspective on shit. Now I simply can't go back to looking at in in the conventional way, because it no longer adequately explains my own experiences.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:00 AM
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Thanks, I hugely appreciate that!
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:57 AM
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Hahaha I love it
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:57 AM
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Read about evolutionary psychology. We're still wired for the ancestral environment.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:56 AM
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Yep, I've never gone on TRT but have been running my own experiments in raising T levels naturally for years. It really is like the secret to life in many ways.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:55 AM
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Thanks, yeah enough people have asked me that that I think I'll probably do a followup post answering that question. It's a hard concept to pin down verbally.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:52 AM
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Nice, thanks for reading
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:50 AM
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Yep, completely agree. I find I do best with hot girls when I just act kind of silly and play it dumb. Ultimately if you get in relationship with this girl, what's it going to look like? It'll probably look like the two of you sitting around watching Netflix, being silly and goofy, play wrestling, having thumb wars, and just acting kind of dumb. So why not go in with that vibe from the beginning? Don't take yourself or her too seriously. Guys treat hot girls with this kind of "awed reverence". T…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:49 AM
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"Tell me how one should get high test levels, but don't tell me that crap of go the gym, sleep 8+hrs, don't fap, not eat processed meat etc." What you're saying amounts to "tell me how to get rich, but don't tell me any of that crap about working hard, learning to sell, and bringing value to the marketplace" On a serious note, if you REALLY have been doing that for 3 years and your T is still low, look into testosterone replacement therapy.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:43 AM
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Notice that I said in the post looking good WILL help your game, WILL make getting laid smoother, and WILL increase your probabilities of pulling hotties. Nowhere did I deny that. And yeah, I lift and take care of myself like anyone else here. That's MANDATORY for a man, for more reasons than just looking good. My experience is this: I've been ugly (skinny, small, bad acne). I've been semi-"handsome" (some muscles, decent face, nice clothes). The reactions from women are not all that different. …
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:39 AM
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Nice one man, appreciate you taking the time to comment. That last tidbit you mentioned is gold.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:32 AM
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Sorry to hear it didn't connect with you
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:09 AM
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Hot girls have a stronger frame because society conditions them to have one. Women and beta males get their frame from the external environment. They accept whatever the environment tells them about themselves. If the environment (society) tells a girl she's hot and high status, she accepts it -- giving her a strong frame. The environment tells a beta male he's low status, he accepts it and thus he actually becomes low status. But an alpha male builds his own frame. His strength of reality is de…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:07 AM
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Thanks man, glad you got value from it!
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:03 AM
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Thanks, hahaha I see what you mean. At the same time not everyone has to agree with me, conflicting views are welcome
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:02 AM
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Approach one girl a day for a month. Within 30 days you'll be unstoppable. It's all about MOMENTUM.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 10:00 AM
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Use common sense. Don't harass people. Don't be overly aggressive. Don't follow women home in the street at night.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:58 AM
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Testosterone is the biological cause of masculinity and everything masculine. Research testosterone and persistence, as well as testosterone and mood. Testosterone levels determine your personality. There's a lot of science on this. If you experiment with raising your testosterone (naturally), this will become clear.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:42 AM
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Hahah you got that right. I've got straight up psychological SCARS from the amount of shit I had to take before I got this down. Glad it was useful to you
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:38 AM
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Good to hear it man. Those first few approaches are scary but I can honestly tell you that the year or two in which I learned game and started doing cold approach regularly was the best time of my life.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:37 AM
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Not my experience but if it works for you, roll with it
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:35 AM
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Patrice Oneal was a beast, I'll have to look that bit up
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:31 AM
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You're a gentleman and a scholar
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:28 AM
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You'd have to be more specific for me to give you a proper answer. I mean if you freak out on a girl and start screaming at her or something, then yeah, it's over. But in most cases, no, it's fine, keep calm and carry on.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:25 AM
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Nice one mate, I appreciate it
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:23 AM
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Thanks, glad you enjoyed it
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:22 AM
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Left or right doesn't matter, the point is that when you focus on staring at one eye it makes you better at maintaining a sexual vibe through eye contact without wavering
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 09:21 AM
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Thanks! Really appreciate you saying that, that's the exact effect I was going for
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 08:31 PM
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It's hard for me to give advice if I can't actually see your approach so anything I say might be way off base. With that caveat in mind, I can tell you how I get the number in a way that works 95% of the time. Maybe it will work for you too. After I've been talking to a girl for a while, I take out my phone, unlock it, then hand it to her. She takes it and while looking her in the eye I say "put your number in my phone." This works in the vast majority of cases. Getting the number not to flake i…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 08:31 PM
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Yeah, this is how I run my nightclub game. This is actually geared for nightclub game specifically (though it works just as well in daygame, college campuses etc).
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 08:26 PM
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Yeah each to their own, I just find that the easier the frame is to maintain, the more energy I have, and the more relaxed I am. Left eye or right is irrelevant. The point is to stare deeply into one of her pupils. Deep pupil to pupil eye contact builds sexual chemistry and gives the interaction a "man to woman"/"we're going to fuck" vibe rather than a "friend to friend" vibe.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 08:23 PM
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If women would rather fuck weak handsome men than dominant ugly ones, ugly men would have been bred out of existence by the remorseless logic of natural selection. Instead, we see the opposite. "Ugly" men outnumber "beautiful" men by 100 to 1. This indicates that throughout our evolution, the female humans who chose to mate with men based on preferences which superseded facial symmetry out-survived those who cared about looks alone. Maybe it turns out that in the jungle, having Ghenghis Khan as …
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 08:14 PM
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Yeah it's a good question, and one that I avoided answering definitively because it's quite hard to put into words. You're basically right to define it as your worldview, and how you behave as a result of holding that worldview. There's other elements to it as well, though. I realize the irony of the fact that I've just written a post about how frame is the key to all of game and yet I can't properly define frame, but what are you gonna do, haha. It's late in my part of the world. I'll probably …
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 08:07 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. Good to hear you're doing well for yourself! Yeah, a lot of people don't realize it but the ability to deal with this kind of bullshit is just the price of admission to dating super hot girls. Of course, once you've passed that initial bitch shield barrier, they then become super sweet and feminine once you're involved with them, so it all balances itself out.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:54 PM
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Most definitely. The other thing people don't realize is that approaching regularly builds your WILLPOWER up so much that succeeding in other areas of self-improvement becomes practically effortless in comparison. When you regularly put yourself through the FIRE of approaching a hot girl in a difficult situation, getting off your ass to go to the gym just doesn't seem that intimidating in comparison.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:51 PM
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Yeah on reflection, I agree with this. People are crazy. Shit man, read the news. Moms kill their own babies, people eat each other, etc. Stuff like that happens every day. The world will make a lot more sense when you realize that the MAJORITY of humans are dealing with mental issues of some kind on a periodic basis, some more severe than others. Irrationality and weirdness is the rule, not the exception.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:46 PM
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That's a great goal, each to their own. Every man walks a different path to success in life.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:42 PM
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Yeah, I totally agree. I plan to write a lot more on those points in future.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:41 PM
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Yeah, and the thing about that is that it's like creating fire -- you need FRICTION. If there's no challenge, no messiness, no friction, there's no arousal for the girl. It needs to be a little bit confrontational at times, to the point of "verbally sparring" with girls, while at the same time always being balanced out by an overall chill, positive vibe.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:36 PM
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Wow thanks man, as this is my first ever post on this sub that's really flattering, glad it was useful to you
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:32 PM
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Thanks for reading, glad it could be of use to you.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:31 PM
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Yeah, GLL is legit, I dig that guy's stuff a lot. He also has great stuff on developing "killer instinct" and going for the pull super early that is really, really good.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:30 PM
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Yeah, the "you are enough" frame is absolutely critical -- it's the "dark matter" that makes all of this work. I should give credit where it's due: my thinking on that has been informed a lot by a guy called Alexander, who used to work for RSD. He does his own Youtube channel now. I strongly recommend watching his videos on this topic because he covers this in WAY, WAY MORE DEPTH than I had space get into here. He's actually a genius, but not great at marketing or packaging his ideas in a digest…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:28 PM
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That's an intelligent question. This is actually an extremely important topic which is rarely covered in enough depth, and I don't want to butcher it with a half-assed explanation. I might do a followup post on it.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:23 PM
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Thanks man, that really means a lot to me. I put a lot of time into rewriting this over and over, so it's great to know it connected.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:09 PM
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YES. Got it in one. A good salesperson understands that he needs to give the prospect TIME and SPACE to make a decision -- via not fucking off the moment he hears a no. That might look "persistent" or even "stubborn" but actually it's not an aggressive thing at all. He's giving the prospect's LIZARD BRAIN time to calm down, think through the situation and realize that he needs the product. It's an act of compassion and patience, not of force.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:06 PM
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Thanks! The repetition is deliberate by the way, it's a form of hypnosis ;-) Smile or not: I tend to go in either already laughing/smirking like a bastard (from joking with my friends from before or whatever), or if it's daygame I'll approach with kind of a half-smile. I think all these things are pretty subjective to the person, however, and the demands of the situation. I tend to come across as overly aloof and uncaring in my default mode, so I smile and act "friendly" to correct for that. But…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 07:03 PM
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Haha good point. Long story short I added her on FB a couple months later, we got to talking, I sent her some light flirty banter, asked her to come get a drink with me, she flaked on me, I asked her again and she met me. We hooked up that night and have been together ever since
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 06:55 PM
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Impossible for me to say, I wasn't there. Seduction theory works great for strategy, but is terrible for post-mortem, not to mention pointless. Focus on building your skills and understanding in the present. Later when you look back you'll be able to figure out what happened, although by then you won't give a shit.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 05:08 PM
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Don't plan. Take action. Observe the results. Alter your approach until you get what you want. Pickup is messy. This is just a guide. But a guide can teach nothing, it can only give direction. The only way to learn is by making mistakes. Then when you come back you'll see that the contradictory information was actually not contradictory at all, but complimentary.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 05:03 PM
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Thanks man, I appreciate that!
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 05:00 PM
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As for the "team of men", I dunno, I can see how that would help your frame but 99% of my friends are super bluepill and not into pickup so it's never really been a thing with me. But yes, you are 100% right that you need to be STRONG. More specifically, you need high testosterone levels as well as strength. That is the biological basis of having a stronger frame.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:59 PM
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I agree that the older girls get, the less they test. I personally amp up the teasing and push/pull on younger girls a lot as they tend to respond well to it. You're definitely right that as a mindset it can make you kind of lazy. Personally, my solution to that is just the natural sex drive I get when I haven't had sex for over a week or so. That tends to get me in killer instinct mode fast.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:57 PM
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No one "wants" to be sold something by a door to door salesman, yet billions of dollars of goods are sold by door to door salesmen every year. Use common sense. Don't harass women or be aggressive.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:54 PM
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My advice is don't be too overt when closing the deal. Give the girl plausible deniability. Make up a silly excuse for her to come home with you. "Let's go to my place quickly, you have to meet my cat, you're gonna love him, blah blah blah. You can't stay more than 30 minutes though, cos I have an early morning tomorrow so don't think anything's happening between us tonight because as soon as I let you pet my cat I'm kicking you out." Etc. The girl KNOWS she's coming back to your place for sex. …
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:51 PM
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Thanks, I really appreciate that.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:47 PM
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Thanks a lot, I appreciate the feedback! Yeah and the funny thing is that a lot of hot girls actually get approached LESS than mid-tier girls because they're so intimidating to most guys, so when you simply walk up to them, say hi and be normal, they see you as having massive balls.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:45 PM
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Thanks mate, I appreciate you taking the time to comment.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:42 PM
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Thanks for reading. It helps to lift weights and maintain your appearance, and I do, but I've just seen too many counterexamples in my life to subscribe to the belief system that it's always necessary without exception. There's a deeper level to reality than that which is visible. And in male-to-woman dynamics, that deeper level is the power of FRAME.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:41 PM
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Exactly. And I would further add: stare calmly into the blacks of her eyes. It creates a smoldering sexual vibe.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:39 PM
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Yeah I 100% agree with this. It's funny, cos I used to think all men pretty much had the same preferences I do. But after hanging out in the PUA community for a while and seeing the kinds of girls guys HONESTLY view as "perfect 10s" I seriously think there's a much bigger discrepancy even among male preferences than people generally think. (And women's preferences vary even more radically in my experience)
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:37 PM
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Active tests / "shit tests" = investment. Passive tests (like the girl giving you a weird look) are not about investment. It's the girl feeling anxious and socially uncomfortable and not knowing how to act. When you remain calm and don't react to her negative reaction, she often becomes more attracted to you as a result. Many of the hottest girls I've been with gave me a disgusted look initially, but when I saw them later and re-approached they reacted well. Mere exposure effect plays a role. Th…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:32 PM
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If she says something like that and you are truly non-reactive (calm gaze and continuing to talk to her normally), she'll become more attracted to you than if she'd never said anything bad at all. Meditation helps with cultivating non-reactivity.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:28 PM
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I'm sorry it didn't resonate with you.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:25 PM
3

Thanks for reading! Yeah it's funny, at this point the way I look at it is that if I'm not generating those kinds of tests, I must be doing something wrong and might even need to actively provoke them.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:25 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate the feedback. 100% agree. It's very difficult for us to conceptualize because it's rare for us to get physically aroused by a girl's (non-sexual) behavior. But girls really are wired to get physically turned on for guys who behave in a way that assumes authority.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:23 PM
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You're in the jungle. You're a female. You have two choices: (a) the leader of the tribe, who has authority and power over other men because he has charisma and personal magnetism. This man is "ugly" (b) a young guy who looks like Justin Bieber but who has no authority, no charisma, and who is therefore low in the dominance hierarchy Over history, women have chosen (a) more than they've chosen (b). That's why "ugly" men make up the vast majority of the male population, while "beautiful" men are …
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:20 PM
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Thanks, yeah that was a major sticking point for me too. It's counterintuitive, but I find I actually get more confidence from the understated frame of "I'm just a man" than I do from trying to impose a narrative onto myself that I'm some kind of high value alpha. (Of course the ironic thing is that you end up SEEMING to be more alpha to other people, who don't understand how your frame is so unshakeable.) What is a rejection? Rejection is a word. It does not refer to any objective reality. The …
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:16 PM
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Thanks! That's a hell of a compliment for my first ever post on this sub
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:12 PM
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Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoy the content! I'll have to look into that mobile thing, it reads fine on my iphone, are you on android?
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:12 PM
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Thanks, that's the primary goal!
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:11 PM
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Yeah for sure. Other thing I realized after being with a few "9s and 10s" is that EVER GIRL IS A 7 when she's in her natural state (no makeup, sweat pants, greasy hair, acne, glasses, etc). This applies even to the hottest of the hot.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:10 PM
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I'm gonna be honest with you, that's pretty dope. "Possession of the Ass is 9/10th of the Law." I love it
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:06 PM
20

Thanks man, yeah I plan on expanding on that concept a lot in future, because I only touched on it briefly in this post. Looking forward to posting more here in future!
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:05 PM
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Thanks for reading. Yeah, that was personally the big insight for me that took me years of approaching to finally get. Glad you got the main message I was trying to drive.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:04 PM
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Wow thanks man, that means a lot.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 04:00 PM
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Thanks man. A solid opener I saw recently on the seduction subreddit is "Are you as interesting as you look?" That's good because it's challenging and flirtatious at the same time. Personally, I tend to just walk up to the girl with relaxed dominant body language and good posture, make solid eye contact (as in: unwavering, pupil to pupil connection), then shake her hand and say "I'm Mike, who are you." In terms of topics to talk about, I'll mainly alternate between a mixture of fluff talk and pu…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 03:58 PM
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Text game is a different animal. Personally I would focus on gaming her properly in real life. Women aren't evolved to choose mates on the basis of text conversations, so if a girl isn't standing directly in front of you there's about a zero percent chance of moving things forward. Tease her in real life with push/pull, misinterpretation, negging, etc. When she's at an emotional high, lead her to come get a drink with you (after college or whatever). Venue change. Escalate. Pull. "At what point …
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 03:50 PM
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"What does a real rejection look like?" No one can reject anyone. The reality of the world is that we're atoms and particles colliding with each other in empty space. Rejection is a mental concept which you're imposing onto that. Eliminate any mental concept that doesn't serve you. Delusional? Maybe, but it's worked out well for me. "The boyfriend excuse, is it best to just abandon set after that or keep trying?" Not intending to spam the comments here but I coincidentally just wrote a post on t…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/16 03:34 PM
2

Underrated post
/r/seduction16/11/16 03:03 PM
1

haha nice
/r/seduction15/11/16 04:54 PM
1

Cool, thanks for reading!
/r/seduction15/11/16 04:54 PM
3

I agree with this guy. Do what you can with what you have, and adjust all advice given to your own situation.
/r/seduction15/11/16 04:53 PM
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Thanks mate, that means a lot! I'm completely new to blogging so I appreciate the positive feedback. It's great that you've used the breakup as an opportunity to improve yourself by getting back in the game in a proactive way. If I were you I'd keep hanging out in places like this just to get ideas and motivation, and take a lot of action. That's really all there is to this game. Get a good mental model of what works, take action consistently, and modify your behavior until you succeed. You'll g…
/r/seduction15/11/16 02:08 PM
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Thanks for reading and commenting. Yeah if that frame works for you then more power to ya!
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:25 PM
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Hahaha yeah another one I like to use when she says she has a bf is to immediately fire back "that's understandable, you hadn't met me yet". Has to be delivered with rock solid frame though, otherwise it's pretty try hard haha
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:24 PM
1

Nice one mate, my pleasure!
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:22 PM
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Wow thanks, glad it was useful to you!
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:21 PM
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Good question, I'll have to think about it. I may do a post about that in future. For now though, I'd check out this post https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2q3nvk/the_ultimate_tinder_cheat_sheet/ I was reading it the other day on this sub, it's gold. It's technically a guide to Tinder but the second half has a lot of great lines and tips for funny conversation that could work greater either online or irl
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:20 PM
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Haha yeah it's definitely a more empowering and funs lens to view it through than how we're programmed to think about getting girls by society
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:17 PM
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Thanks! Appreciate the comment, I was actually going to make "focusing on the process not the results" the last point, but I figured the post was too long already hahah
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:16 PM
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Cheers mate! Yeah I thought using the gaming metaphor would be a fun way to give a fresh take on some of the core fundamentals. Ultimately success at anything is 80% just doing the basics!
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:14 PM
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You're 100% accurate. However, I'd add that everything on that list is something I've personally used that got girls texting me back and allowed me to continue leading the relationship forward. I'm a results driven guy so if something that works is cringey I'd rather do that and get laid than seem cool and slick but still have her ignore my tests. Thanks for reading!
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:12 PM
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That's a great point. I'd also take it even further in that "rejection" itself is rarely as final as it seems. I've approached girls who brutally rejected me, then saw the same girl in a bar a month later, approached her again, makeout. Also, at least half my same night lays from club game were from girls who "rejected" me on the first approach but when I re-approached them later they were friendly and cool and we ended up hooking up. Thanks for reading!
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:10 PM
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Thanks, haha yeah it definitely works for girls, it's certainly worked on me many times
/r/seduction15/11/16 01:06 PM
2

"Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway." — Robert Downey Jr.
/r/seduction14/11/16 04:40 PM
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Send her a question mark, nothing else. If she doesn't text back, let it rest for a few days, then start sending her random "value offering texts" like funny memes and such. When she starts texting back, then ask her out again. Do it decisively, e.g. "Let's get a drink tonight." But don't ask her for the date again until she starts texting back. Text something non-pushy, wait for her to engage, and when she does, lead.
/r/seduction14/11/16 04:36 PM
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Correct. But I don't write for those guys. I write for the 1% who have white hot desire in their heart and will not be denied. If you're one of those guys, get onboard. If not, I wish you all the best on your long journey to the middle. I skimmed your post history btw. I like your no bullshit style.
/r/seduction05/10/16 04:58 PM
2

With enough momentum you can do it. It's not easy, but it's not impossible.
/r/seduction05/10/16 04:43 PM
1

Did you try the tactic IRL? I recommend it. Very good for getting your verbals going and getting unstifled fast
/r/seduction05/10/16 04:42 PM
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Sorry it didn't resonate with you! Thanks for the feedback
/r/seduction05/10/16 04:40 PM
1

Try it. It opens the floodgates of your verbal ability.
/r/seduction05/10/16 04:07 PM
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Glad you've got a system that works. If it gives you results, stick with it! Regarding long text, I've posted short articles on this site and long articles. In my posting experience, long articles get around 250% the amount of upvotes as short articles. I don't claim to know why -- I just go where the data tells me!
/r/seduction13/09/16 02:57 PM
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Thanks for your comment, glad to hear the article resonated with you! I personally find it difficult to communicate the idea of feminine energy because it's so intangible, but I'm happy to hear that someone got where I'm coming from with this!
/r/seduction13/09/16 02:46 PM
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Thanks for reading mate, sorry to hear you didn't get any value. I'll make an effort to provide more actionable tips and steps next time. You're totally right about supply and demand. Obviously not every guy can fuck a supermodel. It's just not feasible. My aim with the article was to show guys the mentality that I've used to fuck/date, say, the top 10% of hottest women in a club, or on a college campus. And provided you're IN that club, or ON that college campus, and thus in a position to speak…
/r/seduction13/09/16 02:42 PM
1

Strongly agree. "Out of your league" is a toxic mentality. To clarify, I use terms like "out of your league" and "9s and 10s" just to connect with the average guy who thinks in these terms. (Necessary to meet the reader where they ARE, not where you WANT them to be.) But you're absolutely correct that you need to get these kinds of limiting language patterns out of your head and never let them in.
/r/seduction13/09/16 02:33 PM
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Sorry to hear you didn't connect with it. Thanks for reading!
/r/seduction13/09/16 02:29 PM
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That's the goal ;-)
/r/seduction13/09/16 02:29 PM
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Cheers mate! Glad you got some value from the post. Yeah I've posted both long, "vague" conceptual types of articles here like this one, as well as short, punchy "step by step" posts. The more conceptual ones like this one have been upvoted HUNDREDS of times more than the punchy detail-oriented ones, so it seems like the silent majority agrees with you!
/r/seduction13/09/16 02:28 PM
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Yes, exactly. Wish I could upvote this a hundred times. Unfortunately as a pickup teacher, it's very hard to communicate what being masculine is -- because most of it is based on NON-VERBAL cues, in my opinion, which are difficult to convey in writing. But yes, you've absolutely hit the nail on the head. And if you come from a very sharply defined masculine polarity, you'll naturally attract women who are extremely feminine -- which TENDS to be the quote-unquote "hottest" girls (though not alway…
/r/seduction13/09/16 02:14 PM
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My girl feels what I tell her to feel. Jk, but in all honestly if you have a strong frame you can get away with anything.
/r/seduction06/09/16 11:52 AM
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sounds like sour grapes to me bro :) (i'm just teasing)
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:32 AM
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Yeah, something I've learned over the years is that it's the subconscious where all the limiting beliefs are stored. Like, consciously, you know "there's no reason to be afraid to approach". Why do we feel fear? Well, a lot of it has to do with beliefs and ideas we accepted a LONG TIME AGO (think childhood/early adolescence). We didn't have the mental capacity to screen these beliefs for actual logic, but they end up getting lodged down in the subconscious. And now no matter how much you conscio…
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:19 AM
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Yeah, I totally agree. I also feel it's gotten REALLY out of control on the more "redpill"/manosphere side of the web too, these days. I like a lot of the red pill stuff, don't get me wrong, but when they start making all these insane rationalisations about women, I'm out. It's just not going to help you get laid -- the precise opposite, in fact.
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:13 AM
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Got it, I'm sorry to have upset you, have a nice day
/r/seduction06/09/16 02:26 AM
2

How very dare you
/r/seduction06/09/16 12:54 AM
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That's not a pitch for my book -- it's a link to a free blog post. I called it a "guide", which I now understand is probably confusing. But there's no sales pitch here. I'm just linking to my blog -- all of which is free.
/r/seduction06/09/16 12:45 AM
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Ok :) http://insurgentmedia.tv/image/jen1.png
/r/seduction05/09/16 09:00 PM
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for real -- my experience too
/r/seduction05/09/16 08:59 PM
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If this girl is an 8 where you live then I need to move there right away http://insurgentmedia.tv/image/jen1.png
/r/seduction05/09/16 08:56 PM
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Yeah I agree it's highly silly for me to be replying to these kinds of comments. On the other hand, though, I did write a post on getting 9s and 10s so the onus of proof that I'm actually ABOUT THAT LIFE is on me.
/r/seduction05/09/16 08:55 PM
1

Your wish is my command http://insurgentmedia.tv/image/jen1.png
/r/seduction05/09/16 08:53 PM
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Reasonable request. Check out the girl pictured in the post I linked to. I feel comfortable posting her picture because she's my gf of 4 years and she doesn't mind. However, I'm reluctant to post images of other girls I've been with on a seduction forum out of respect for their privacy.
/r/seduction05/09/16 06:22 PM
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You're right that what I wrote is neither new, nor complicated. Mastery and remastery of the fundamentals (i.e. the basics) is 80% of success in any endeavour.
/r/seduction05/09/16 06:19 PM
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Show me the girl you're dating and we'll compare. If you go to my Twitter (https://twitter.com/TheMikeHaines) you'll see a pic of me and my gf in my handle.
/r/seduction05/09/16 05:36 PM
5

Tell me exactly what you'd like to learn and I'll cover it in my next post. Honestly asking.
/r/seduction05/09/16 05:35 PM
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I'll write another post on the topic if you like. What would you like me to include in it?
/r/seduction05/09/16 05:33 PM
5

Exactly. Thanks for getting the big idea.
/r/seduction05/09/16 05:31 PM
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Nice catch. Fixed
/r/seduction05/09/16 02:16 PM
1

Thanks for the advice man, really appreciate you taking the time to answer. Love your channel, you're doin great things!
/r/seduction02/09/16 12:01 PM
1

Yeah being overall happy with yourself is absolutely key -- no question. Happiness is a BIG topic, though, and I don't have time to give a proper answer to this question here. For now, I'd start with these videos by Owen of RSD (who I'm not affiliated to in any way, just that they helped me when I was starting out): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1od-xp8MfmE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTjww638BM8
/r/seduction29/08/16 06:01 PM
1

Nothing in life is guaranteed except death and taxes, my friend. Though if a man would rather be celibate than learn game, you won't hear me complaining. More pussy for me
/r/seduction29/08/16 05:57 PM
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"I read practically every post on this sub, and other subs." More information will not help. The way you're going to turn your situation around is simple: keep going out, keep approaching. Observe what's working and what's not working. Eventually your brain will figure out what works. This happens automatically if you keep taking action, trying different approaches and seeing what works and what doesn't. You say in your post that you went out tonight and approached. That's fucking AWESOME. You'r…
/r/seduction26/08/16 01:17 PM
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To be honest I don't prepare at all. I just do what I would do on a normal day after work: lift weights, meditate and eat a fat steak. Then I'll fuck around online or read till around 11pm when I hit the club. I've been doing cold approach for 5 years though, so my inner game is fairly tight. As a beginner, there are some great pre-game "rituals" which I used to find really helpful. 40 minutes of meditation is one. A self-hypnosis / NLP exercise called the "swish pattern" is another. These days …
/r/seduction25/08/16 04:28 PM
1

Bingo
/r/seduction24/08/16 07:44 PM
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Killer vid bro, fuck the haters. Positive and negative spikes are such a key skill -- once you've mastered it it's like having superpowers ime. P.S. How hard is it to film infield footage in a club? I want to get into doing it myself but am unsure how to get started. Do you hire a camera guy or just get a friend to do it or what?
/r/seduction24/08/16 07:28 PM
2

So? You can have fun with dumb girls, and women with low self esteem know how to fuck
/r/seduction24/08/16 07:23 PM
1

I usually kept it pretty short and to the point. Roll up, look her in the eye, say "you're cute", then get into a brief playful conversation which I'd sustain for about a minute before saying "What are you doing later?" Usually she'd say nothing, and I'd say "let's get a drink", take the number, work out plans and call her later. Worked more often than not.
/r/seduction23/08/16 05:21 PM
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Thing with life is that you're gonna die a lot sooner than you think. Embarrassment weighs ounces, regret weighs tons.
/r/seduction23/08/16 10:01 AM
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Hahah yes, that would definitely be a bad idea. I probably should have made that clear. I usually take public transport to the club and back (though I get a taxi home if I pull), so it's not an issue for me.
/r/seduction23/08/16 09:58 AM
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In my personal experience, college is the BEST place to daygame by far. I used to pick up girls in the library of my college all the time, it was sick, met some of the hottest girls I've ever dated there. One word of advice: Keep it chill. Don't go overboard with escalation or being sexual. A little bit of sexual tension, light touching, etc is good, but in an environment like college don't do anything that might harm your reputation. Of course this advice goes for all daygame, but is obviously …
/r/seduction22/08/16 05:36 PM
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Lol, people who think there's any lie you can tell a girl that would make her want to sleep with you. If that were true then this sub wouldn't exist. Get out more.
/r/seduction22/08/16 04:56 PM
0

Lol this reads better than Bukowski
/r/seduction13/08/16 01:34 PM
1

Nowhere in this article did I ask anyone to give me money. I pointed them to a promotional offer for a FREE book. I have more class than to pitch on reddit.
/r/seduction22/07/16 10:25 AM
1

What's wrong with sex? It feels good and it's why we're all here
/r/seduction22/07/16 10:24 AM
1

Google "emotional contagion" and "mirror neurons"
/r/seduction22/07/16 10:23 AM
1

Great book. Definitely recommend
/r/seduction22/07/16 10:22 AM
1

nowhere did I mention hypnosis anywhere in this article
/r/seduction22/07/16 10:22 AM
0

I am not a biologist, but I assume that the earliest multicellular organisms which reproduced through sexual reproduction had not evolved anything that we would describe as "fear"
/r/seduction22/07/16 10:20 AM
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Nope, I'm from Dublin, Ireland. My only connection to Atlanta is that I'm a big Gucci Mane fan lol
/r/seduction21/07/16 03:59 PM
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"I would legit go through about 20+ girls to simply get one hook up" I hate to burst your bubble but if you can approach 20 girls and get laid you're doing better than 98% of the people on this forum. That's how it works! You go out, talk to people, build social momentum, find a girl you click with and bang. Everything else is really just a repetition of that. And of course you get better at it with practice, in the form of being able to get laid more consistently, with hotter girls etc. So real…
/r/seduction21/07/16 03:56 PM
1

Be chill. Don't get emotional. I once met this absolute stunner -- perfect 10, has done modelling work etc. She did to me exactly what this girl did to you. I didn't freak out. I just played it cool. Eventually she agreed to meet me for drinks. She is now my girlfriend of 4 years. Moral of the story: Don't sweat the small stuff, and it's ALL small stuff
/r/seduction21/07/16 02:23 PM
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There are two answers here. There's the right answer. And there's the answer that sounds good. The answer that simply "sounds good" and that many people are about to give you is that you need to work out, socialise, get hobbies, become a more well-rounded person, blah blah. All of that stuff is true and it's good. But it will NOT on its own get you girls. Here's what WILL get you girls (in the fastest possible time): Make a program for yourself. Resolve to approach 5 girls a day. Or to go out 2 …
/r/seduction21/07/16 02:17 PM
1

Good! Then you're already 2 steps ahead. Victory is near.
/r/seduction21/07/16 02:05 PM
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This is actually one of my weak points and something I'm trying to work on so my advice here may not be entirely solid. However, something I've found super helpful in building rapport and understanding people is something called "active listening". Essentially, whatever they say, listen to them in such a way that you could SUMMARISE everything they just said in a couple of sentences. Not add anything to it. Not "give your thoughts". But simply REPEAT what they said back to them in different word…
/r/seduction21/07/16 02:02 PM
1

Joke around with her, keep it light, then take out your phone and put it in her hand. Give her a cheeky smile and tell her: "Put your number in my phone." Some girls will say no. Some girls will say yes. Of those who say yes, some will be open to going on date with you when you ask em out via text later. So take em for drinks. Repeat the above process many many times. Make it a daily habit. Within a few months you'll be getting laid more than anyone you know. It's a beautiful thing.
/r/seduction21/07/16 01:33 PM
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Cut her out of your life completely for at least 1 month. Write her number on a piece of paper, hide it somewhere, then delete it from your phone. Defriend her on social media. If she asks why, don't be mean about it. Just say, "Hey, I still want to be friends but for the time being I don't want to be focused on what we had together, because I'm trying to open myself up to someone new." Be polite, yet slightly cold and indifferent. Now work on yourself. You feel pain, correct? Use that pain as a…
/r/seduction21/07/16 01:24 PM
2

This is an intelligent question. However, it's also an INTELLECTUAL question. Game is not intellectual. It's intuitive and non-linear. "Mystery" and "vulnerability" are just word labels. They don't actually mean anything. The truth you look for will be found IN THE FIELD -- through dozens or even hundreds of interactions and relationships with real girls. Then you'll develop an INTUITIVE understanding of the answer, which is that it depends. It depends on the girl, it depends on the vibe, it dep…
/r/seduction21/07/16 01:15 PM
2

It can be little things. For example, I used to be extremely introverted. So if I was sitting in class in college before class started, I would force myself to just make small talk with the guy sitting beside me. Or I would smile at the cashier in the coffee shop. Little things like that. It sounds inconsequential, but for me I was so shy at the time that was actually AGONISING. It really required me to push through the pain and do it, FOR NO OTHER REASON THAN TO PUSH MYSELF (unlike in pickup wh…
/r/seduction21/07/16 12:38 PM
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Actually, how about this. You tell me what YOUR biggest sticking point right now is personally, and I'll write a post about that trying to fix it. How's that sound?
/r/seduction21/07/16 11:30 AM
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KNAWLEDGE!! Haha love Tai. Yeah bro I'll PM you the link
/r/seduction21/07/16 11:27 AM
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I was not aware this was posted here before. I'm sorry it hasn't helped you. For me, it was literally the most important thing (aside from actually doing the approaches) -- and I'd never seen it talked about in PUA/seduction circles so I thought I'd contribute. As to "advertising" my product -- you'll see that I'm not charging for it. My goal is merely to get testimonials from real people. Is that such a crime?
/r/seduction21/07/16 11:26 AM
1

I'm a young dude (25) but in my experience, many of the biggest alpha males I've ever come into contact with were: (a) old, bald, fat, ugly, or all four (b) had a CHILDLIKE SPONTANEITY and PLAYFULNESS which drew exquisitely hot 18-25 year old girls to them like a magnet You can absolutely MOP UP at this age -- just so long as you keep that lightness and playfulness, as OP described extremely well. An example from real life: Silvio Berlusconi, former Italian prime minister. Bald, fat, old guy. Da…
/r/seduction21/07/16 11:24 AM
1

For the lulz :)
/r/seduction21/07/16 11:14 AM
2

upvoted for "learn how to dance. How to move your body" Man, a girl who can dance sexy just fucking SLAYS me bruh. It adds an extra 2 attractive points. Seeing a hot girl dancing sensuously is like one step down from seeing her butt naked kneeling in front of me with her ass presented in the air
/r/seduction21/07/16 10:03 AM
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If handled right, the fact that you fucked her friend is an ADVANTAGE. Women have a weird little bug in their brain called PRE-SELECTION. It means, in layman's terms, WOMEN WANT WHAT OTHER WOMEN WANT. Your target will feel guilty about banging someone who her friend was with. But trust me, her pussy will be a lot wetter than if she didn't know you from adam. Watch and learn. Biology doesn't lie.
/r/seduction21/07/16 09:56 AM
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I don't buy this at all. All's fair in love and war. Follow your gut, go for the women you want. Let the chips fall where they may. Fuck everybody else.
/r/seduction21/07/16 09:52 AM
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SOCIAL SOCIAL SOCIAL. Get pictures of you hanging out with people in a social environment -- girls and guys. Next time you're out at a bar, just take as many pictures as possible with different people you talk to. Of course, you want to include a couple of (FLATTERING) photos of you on your own so the girl knows who you are. But most of your pictures should consist of you WITH people -- ideally fun/attractive looking people.
/r/seduction21/07/16 09:49 AM
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Read a lot. Develop a voracious curiosity. Start getting a lot more AMBITIOUS. This is the most important part. Women aren't attracted to success: they're attracted to AMBITION. If you're successful but with no ambition, girls often get turned off. If you're unsuccessful but with MASSIVE ambition, you'll attract women like a magnet. Push your comfort zone. Not just in pickup -- but in all areas. Do something every day that scares you, if even just a little bit. (I have a theory that getting out …
/r/seduction21/07/16 09:41 AM
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Two answers can be given to this: the real answer, and the one that sounds good. The real answer is that you just need to cold approach girls again and again (perhaps hundreds of times) until your body and intuition sort the good experiences from the bad and figure out what to do. The answer that sounds good, on the other hand, has to do with specific technique. I won't give it away here, but if you want a clue, focus on: deep unwavering eye contact, light touching, and being able to spin small-…
/r/seduction21/07/16 09:36 AM
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Some of the hottest women in a club will be like this. It's just how women's brains are wired at 18-21.
/r/seduction20/07/16 04:51 PM
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Hmmm, in that case you present me with a difficult problem as desire is the only thing that can't be taught.
/r/seduction20/07/16 04:35 PM
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Yep, just sent you the link through DM
/r/seduction20/07/16 04:22 PM
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haha thanks man, appreciate it, yeah I put a lot of work into it
/r/seduction20/07/16 04:19 PM
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Nofap!
/r/seduction20/07/16 04:00 PM
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Go to a bar or club with your FB. Get her to point out the girls she's attracted to. Approach one of these girls with your FB on your arm. Tell her, "my girlfriend thinks you're hot". Flirt and run game on new girl like you normally would. "Dare" the girls to kiss. When they do, make out with your FB, then make out with both girls at once. Hang out, drink, party in the venue for a while, then bring the girls back to your place. Dual induction massage to transition to threesome (Google it)
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:55 PM
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This has been my experience too. The absolute dimepieces can actually be EASIER to approach and pickup, and as you said, they're just more god damn PLEASANT a lot of the time. Only problem is they're so rare, statistically.
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:46 PM
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Follow your intuition.
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:43 PM
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If I had only hit on girls who showed interest in me first my lay count would be in single digits instead of close to a hundred. Also wouldn't have met my current GF of 4 years.
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:41 PM
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Numbers flake. It's a fact of life. The only solution is to either (a) run MAD VOLUME, or (b) learn to same day lay. I recommend (b).
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:38 PM
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Nofap
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:36 PM
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Bingo
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:36 PM
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Hey dude, I strongly recommend checking out the following videos by Tyler of RSD: -- "How To Be Happy And Fix Addiction To Bulls**t Thoughts & Emotions Without Pharmaceutical Drugs" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTjww638BM8 --"Tyler's Tips For "Hardcase Newbies" - Social Anxiety, Depression, Weird Vibes, Toxic Negativity" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5OVZ9xk1B-o --"How Rising From A Prison Of Depression / Social Anxiety / Negativity Is Like Crawling From A Pit" https://www.youtube.com/watch…
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:35 PM
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One thing is certain: if you have Asperger's you won't be able to have flings or casual sex. Owen Cook (Tyler of RSD) has aspergers and is one of the greatest pickup artists who ever lived
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:28 PM
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I've banged tons of older women and not once has it ever been a problem. My thinking here is that it's POSSIBLE that when the chick finds out you're younger, it might trigger low self esteem such as thinking you only want to use her for sex and throw her away because a younger guy would never be into a woman who's past her prime. This then triggers her to "reject you first" to avoid being hurt, even though she really likes you. If this is the case (which I suspect from your post it is), you need…
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:25 PM
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This is all solid. I'm not really into older chicks but I've banged tons of them -- was banging women in their 30s when I was 19. If it ever comes up, just reframe it. Every objection can be reframed into a positive.
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:21 PM
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If you can't talk to a drunk girl at a bar, what makes you think you will pick up that sober girl while volunteering for the jehovah's witnesses? This is exactly correct. I just don't get this irrational fear guys have about hitting on chicks in a bar. It's the most simple, direct EFFICIENT way to get laid. Why fuck around with art courses etc? No shade to dude who wrote the article, but I just don't get this anti-bar and club ideology.
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:18 PM
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Because there's no female audience for guys who are socially awkward and can't get their lives together. You strike me as a guy who has a lot of "anti-theories" -- i.e. theories for why you CAN'T do this and you CAN'T do that. Anti-theories are poison in learning success with women. Just absolute poison.
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:16 PM
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Classic test. Wants to see if you'll react. Don't. Best way to pass tests like this (and almost all other tests) is not with witty lines but simply ignoring her completely and changing the subject. Don't even indulge it.
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:12 PM
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Sexual compatibility DEVELOPS over MANY sessions of sex. Most of the girls I had the best sex of my life with were initially boring and awkward in the sack. You need to fuck a girl dozens, maybe even hundreds of times before you start to have REALLY good sex. Your body and her body need to learn how to be in synch with each other. It takes practice. First 10-15 times I banged my GF it was pretty good, but not phenomenal -- still not completely relaxed as we were still getting to know each other.…
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:10 PM
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Very true, and very profound. Most of the women you approach (most human beings in general) are basically like WOUNDED ANIMALS. They have all kinds of scars and trauma and negative programming from pain that you have no idea about. When you approach someone, it can unintentionally spark some of that pain and they can become very vicious, very nasty. The key is to be PATIENT with people, keep talking to them normally without reacting, and eventually they will submit to your love and become passiv…
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:04 PM
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I don't know who said that but it's bullshit advice. Most of the girls I've banged from 1NS, I told them they were hot, cute, gorgeous, adorable etc within first minute of talking to her. That being said, there IS some truth to it... depending on the STYLE of game you're playing. It can be very effective to get a girl chasing you and worked up into a frenzy of seeking validation by not complimenting her or giving her any statements of interest. But taken on its OWN -- not as part of a context of…
/r/seduction20/07/16 02:00 PM
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bingo
/r/seduction20/07/16 01:57 PM
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Couldn't disagree more. Sex feels good and it's why we're all here. What's wrong with sex as the goal? Having sex with a beautiful woman without some foundation is "shallow and depressing"? Get your testosterone checked, son. (No offence intended btw, I've been with my girl for 4 years and love her to bits so I get where you're coming from. BUT -- I never would have gotten her if I hadn't had that ANIMAL INSTINCT testosterone-driven sex drive to approach her in the first place and pester her unt…
/r/seduction20/07/16 01:56 PM
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Used to be in your exact situation. How I got out of it was 1. Going to nightclubs where there are a lot of cute girls all concentrated in the one place 2. Approaching 10-20 girls a night. 3. Repeat for 3-6 months. Do that and you will SLAUGHTER daygame, mate. Trust me. I prefer daygame. However, I don't think it's good as a primary method for a complete newbie. Girls at clubs are basically there to meet guys, flirt, get fucked. Girls on the train, cafes, etc are generally NOT. I love this forum…
/r/seduction20/07/16 01:52 PM
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Love going out solo, I get better results on my own. Most of my pulls with the hottest girls were from when I went out alone. 2 keys to making this work: When you get to the club, FORCE yourself to open a girl immediately after getting in there. This is so, so important. It sets your brain in the right mould. Force yourself to approach at least 3 girls before getting your first drink. It's really critical when you're alone to get in the habit of being social IMMEDIATELY, otherwise you'll end up …
/r/seduction20/07/16 01:42 PM
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Women aren't attracted to success, they're attracted to ambition.
/r/seduction22/04/16 11:34 AM
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If you feel like smiling at that moment, do it. If not, don't. The important thing is to have relaxed body language, no tension. Also, get in the habit of walking very slowly. An alpha male is never in a hurry. This was something I observed a natural buddy of mine doing in college. He wasn't a good looking guy but he was always getting female attention. I noticed that everywhere he went, he walked extremely s-l-o-w-l-y. So I decided to do the same and see what happened. And walking slowly, plus …
/r/seduction21/04/16 07:41 PM
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Watch a couple of YouTube videos of Russell Brand being interviewed. Notice how he doesn't wait for feedback? It's just Bam - Bam - Bam, he keeps hitting them with non-sensical shit, and people eventually just break and can't stop laughing. He winds women around his finger this way. That's how you gotta flow. It's a habit. You only get better with practice. Something I do is just to keep hammering the girl with compliments, intermixed with playful little teases. Compliment, tease. Compliment, te…
/r/seduction21/04/16 06:41 PM
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Single biggest difference is the necessity in nightgame to be LOUD. Really project your voice. What fucks guys up in nightgame is they talk way too quietly. You're a lot louder in your own head than you are in real life. A soft voice is submissive. Speaking loud + eyefucking the girl will make her horny, regardless of conversational content. It always comes down to the fundamentals: lazer eye contact, speaking loud, and a little kino. If you're weak in any of these core areas, you can get away w…
/r/seduction21/04/16 06:10 PM
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It's hard to put into words, you have to actually do it for a while to see what I'm talking about. Often women won't maintain eye contact in which case it's fine to look away. But sometimes they'll look back at you and hold eye contact for ages and there's this intense sexual charge to it. It changes you. It can't really be described in words, either try it or don't. Basically 90% of game is non-verbal. When you're able to do NOTHING except look a woman in the eyes and see her get turned on, it …
/r/seduction21/04/16 05:57 PM
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Yeah no it's a great question, it's not the type of book I'd normally go for but Tyler of RSD always recommended it for pickup, so I gave it a shot. Basically, PON is a user manual for how to turn off your thoughts and attain a flow state. And if you can do that, provided you have a little bit of skill with game, it's pretty much a recipe for social god mode
/r/seduction21/04/16 05:22 PM
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Got it, was just saying what helped me with that specific problem
/r/seduction21/04/16 12:54 PM
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I want you to do a little social experiment for the next 4 weeks: Never be the first to break eye contact with a woman. Wherever you are, whether at work, the gym, Starbucks, on the street. Walk with your back straight, eyes level, relaxed body posture. Look every woman you encounter in the eye. If she looks away, you look away. Sometimes, however, she'll let her eyes linger on yours, and you'll end up staring each other down in a very intimate way. Just try this little experiment. Don't do anyt…
/r/seduction21/04/16 11:16 AM
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