MikeMangum Archive

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3	CMV: The Male Sexodus is Good for Women There is a small group of people who are talking about the phenomenon online, largely in an attempt to persuade and change the culture. The vast majority of men who fit the topic, the ones whose choices actually have impact (because they happen in non trivial numbers), aren't attempting to convince anyone of anything; they are simply making a rational choice that in aggregate impacts family formation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/15 11:06 PM
7	CMV: The Male Sexodus is Good for Women The ones who actually matter aren't the ones who you hear talking, and most of it is NOT men who suddenly decide that they want to do without women entirely. The real impact is from those men who quietly choose not be husbands, fathers, providers. There are a fair number of men that are simply eschewing marriage but are more than willing to be in long term relationships, depending on the common law spousal laws in their state. There are other men that are really only willing to be in FWB or casu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/15 07:39 PM
2	RPW input requested Rule #1: you can only change you.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/12/14 12:29 AM
2	A question of marriage... It is your life. "Thank you for the advice. I will keep it in mind when I make my decision regarding my future with the man I love."	/r/RedPillWomen	24/12/14 12:27 AM
1	How has your weight affected your relationship with your SO? My girlfriend has lost over 40 pounds in 10 weeks on a keto diet with just a small amount of walking as exercise, and it is awesome. It is much easier to keep to a diet when that diet consists of meals like ribeye and broccoli, spinach and gruyere quiche, lettuce wrapped hamburgers, portabellos in a sauce of heavy cream and gorgonzola, etc. The hard part is that she can't have anything that has any sugar, so even things like bacon are out (cured with sugar). Not even balsamic vinegar, so salad d…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/12/14 12:23 AM
5	[Field Report] My Red Pill Paradigm Shift - Who Knew I Would Be Happier? in turn he's more relaxed around me and happier in general now that he feels more "free" to be his own person instead of someone always tip toeing around my landmine quirks or demands. As someone who has been in this situation, it's like an incredible weight being lifted off of your shoulders when you don't have to walk around on eggshells. I didn't realize how bad it was until my (now ex) wife left town for a trip and I felt so much more relaxed without her around. It is the major reason she is…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/12/14 12:33 AM
2	Advice about sex I've offered oral sex and he says again, he isn't interested in me giving him oral sex because I feel guilty that I have no sexual interest. He has never wanted me to give him oral sex without also receiving oral sex or vaginal sex. I get this, because I was this way for pretty much my entire adult life. If my partner was going to give me a BJ, I wanted to reciprocate in same way. It wasn't until my current GF that I was able to just relax and enjoy it, and it was all in the way she acted. She l…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/12/14 02:08 AM
2	Aren't redpillers just the male equivalent of feminists and feminazis? I could give a long list of specific changes, but it basically boils down to "care less what she is thinking", which paradoxically ends up making her happier.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/14 10:23 PM
1	Aren't redpillers just the male equivalent of feminists and feminazis? I'm saying that at least some of red pill seems to be accurate to me, but mostly I was responding to the ad hominem writ large that is the original post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/14 08:14 AM
3	Aren't redpillers just the male equivalent of feminists and feminazis? Yes, I am. Very, very much so. I'm finally getting both the constant, great sex AND the emotional intimacy I want. I always had to choose between those two before. And my girl is very happy, which is important to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/14 08:11 AM
3	Aren't redpillers just the male equivalent of feminists and feminazis? In the same way, redpillers are just men who cannot achieve the success of alpha males but celebrate them. I blow your theory out of the water. If all I want is pussy, I can get that extremely easily. I am tall, strong, athletic, attractive, intelligent, charming, damn good in bed - and humble! ("I used to be conceited, but now I'm perfect" is my motto) My issue has always been with long term relationships, specifically with shit tests and with demeanor once in a relationship for a while. If I w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/14 02:20 AM
1	What do you think of the success of the r/marriedRedPill subreddit. Or you could read the actual study referenced in the quote. Edwards and Booth 1976 The highest correlation for infidelity in the study was when one spouse had threatened to leave. The second highest correlate was if the relationship was female dominated, there was a statistically significant increase in the likelihood of the wife cheating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/14 01:15 AM
1	How to deal with constant, tiny little corrections that are valid, but don't really matter? "There's a closer parking spot up there." "Are you afraid of walking a few more feet?"	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/12/14 11:30 PM
1	What do you think of the success of the r/marriedRedPill subreddit. No, it was a study of infidelity that determined, amongst other things, that women (and only women) who got their way more frequently in a relationship were more likely to cheat. There was not the same finding for men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/14 10:44 PM
2	This is such a silly problem, but I don't know where else to turn arg, conundrum. Should I be feminine/delicate and receptive to his care? or a strong wife who can still serve her husband? False dichotomy. You can be both. Be strong and capable and only ask for help when you truly need it, but when he offers, accept his love and care graciously, because that's what it is. You carry his child. As a father I can tell you from personal experience, that is often something very profound to men. Think of it as an extension of men's protective instincts.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/12/14 09:37 PM
1	Do you think a person might be called a "hypocrite" for their dating standards? Is requiring something you don't have from your potential partner wrong? I don't have a vagina and yet that is a definite requirement of anyone I'm willing to date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/14 08:47 PM
2	What do you think of the success of the r/marriedRedPill subreddit. Except that the result of those who "get their way" more often cheating more often did not apply to men, only women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/14 08:33 PM
0	What do you think of the success of the r/marriedRedPill subreddit. if there is truth to red pill, the published studies will follow. Follow? Hell, they are already here! They've been here for decades. Tsapelas, Fisher, and Aron 2010 “Infidelity: when, where, why.” Sociological and Demographic Factors Associated With Infidelity The imbalance of power in the primary relationship has been associated with infidelity. Edwards and Booth (1976) found that wives who reported that they “get their way” more often during disagreements were also more likely to have extrama…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/14 01:08 AM
2	The Sexodus, Part 1: The Men Giving Up On Women And Checking Out Of Society (X-Post TRP) i'm not involved in education at all, but my opinion is that boys have no real role models in these tricky years and this is huge problem. It's more than that. Men need a reason to work. If there were no women, the vast majority of men would simply sit on their asses doing nothing. The need to build wealth and status for the purpose of attracting a mate is why men work. The standard, collective life script of go to school, start a career, meet a woman, get married, have children, take 2 weeks of…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/14 10:24 PM
2	I allowed myself to become a plate. Help. Agree. Speaking from experience, if a relationship starts off as purely sexual, with no intent on the part of the man to commit to a relationship, that will color the relationship forever, even if you can get him to commit later. It will always impact how the man views the woman, even if only a tiny bit. That's why it is so important to get that commitment first, if that is what you are looking for.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/12/14 07:38 PM
4	Would you cheat on your SO if you knew you wouldn't get caught? No. Cheating would be as much of an offense against myself as it would be against my SO. I don't stay faithful because it might cost me my girlfriend, I stay faithful because it is the right thing to do and self respect is the most precious commodity in the world.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 09:55 PM
3	Question: How do you feel about "never say no?" Man here...I was married for 12 years, 10 of which were almost completely sexless. I will never go through that again. Ever. As far as I'm concerned, I have a 3 strikes rule, reset every year. If she is sick or in pain, it doesn't count. Probably hyper-vigilance against a repeat of a dead bedroom, but I'm not waiting around for the situation to generate bone crushing despair before I bail. "Sorry, it doesn't look like we are compatible."	/r/RedPillWomen	02/12/14 04:22 PM
1	When does it become slut shaming? I understand the PC grandstanding on slut shaming, but I don't give a rip. 1) Decisions have consequences. 2) people are free to judge you based on your behavior. If you don't want people to think you are a certain way, don't act in that way. If you don't want people to believe you are an asshole, don't be an asshole. If you don't want people to think you are selfish, don't be selfish. If you don't want people to think you are a slut, don't be a slut.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/14 01:53 AM
2	Why get angry and frustrated if a woman doesn't present herself the way you want her to? OK let's say it's disgust + anger. Why is it so...strong? I don't feel any anger if I see a woman who has been tatted up, but I do feel a bit of disappointment. Not personally, as if I had lost anything, but more along the lines of "what a waste". Like if you see someone who took a '68 Cobra and put a giant wing on the back and a lowrider suspension. It's just such a shame to see something beautiful and classy made trashy. But in this case, it is a person that has made themselves trashy. (Actual…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/14 10:15 PM
1	Why are some universally-recognized-as-bad men so romantically and sexually successful? I don't see men falling over each other to talk to no shy girl You really think shy is a trait that bothers men much? "She's got a smoking hot body and she looks gorgeous, but she's too shy" is a sentence said by pretty much no man, ever. Unless by "shy" you actually mean "prude".	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/14 12:28 AM
2	People who actively dislike /r/TheRedPill do a discredit themselves by arguing that it doesn't work, when it so clearly does. TRP is the belief that AWALT and thus theres no reason for you NOT to pump and dump her. No, it isn't. RP is simply a theory of human sexuality. Different people will use that in different ways. Claiming that TRP is the belief that pumping and dumping is ok is like claiming the theory of supply and demand says that creating a monopoly is ok. It is a non sequitur. I'm still not sure how much of the theory of human sexuality known as "Red Pill" is even slightly accurate (I just don't know), but ev…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/14 11:02 PM
1	Why do men say they don't like make up on women? The secret to makeup is to use enough to enhance but not be noticeable. If you are using makeup and a guy can't even tell (beyond mascara or lipstick) then it just looks like natural beauty. The smoky eye and things like that may make a woman look more attractive, but it also makes her look more cheap. If the first thing someone notices when they look at you is "she's quite attractive", it is very different than if the first thing they notice is "that's a lot of makeup". As an example, go to goo…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/11/14 03:13 AM
8	Is it too late for us? Feminist ideas ruined my relationship Just so that it is clear... If you are in a monogamous relationship, regardless of gender, you don't have close friendships with members of the opposite sex who are not blood kin, except where the two of you are doing so as a couple. You do not either give or receive emotional intimacy with members of the opposite sex who are not blood kin. You don't spend time alone with members of the opposite sex who are not blood kin unless it is some place public and safe, like at a coffee shop. You absolut…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/11/14 02:12 AM
1	What TRPers miss is that 'Beta Bucks' is actually a sexual strategy 1) marriage vows 2) children	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/14 01:06 AM
1	What TRPers miss is that 'Beta Bucks' is actually a sexual strategy Sex in a LTR relationship is only dead when you give up You realize that both parties need to consent, correct?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/14 01:05 AM
1	What TRPers miss is that 'Beta Bucks' is actually a sexual strategy Not necessarily. She may very well be horny, but that doesn't mean she will be horny for a particular person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/14 01:01 AM
3	Why does Sweden have the highest rate of rape in Europe? I remember reading an article about a decade ago about rape in either Sweden or Norway, can't remember which, but it was written by a woman of Indian ethnicity who talked to groups of young immigrant males. She was able to pass herself off as being of their ethnicity and their religion and they talked openly to her. They would engage in gang rapes of ethnically native women and actually referred to it as engaging in warfare against the natives. I'm assuming they felt marginalized, etc., etc. but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/14 01:17 AM
0	What should our daughters learn? That sounds more like correlation than causation. That would indeed be something very difficult to determine. I read the summary of a study that showed some genetic influence on number of sexual partners and infidelity, and that they were linked. I also read part of a study that showed "sexual personality" and infidelity were linked. There have been studies that have approached it from many angles and I don't think there is a definitive answer of why (which I think would be difficult since we ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/14 04:00 PM
1	RP and BP, what do you think of women "marrying down"? If it works for the 2 people involved, great. I just don't think there are many people for whom it would work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/14 06:21 AM
1	I want to be a RPW but the adage that men are more logical doesn't really resonate with me. I'm interested in PPD's thoughts on the topic especially any RPW if they're here. Men are more likely to be systemizers whereas women are more likely to be empathizers. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathizing%E2%80%93systemizing_theory That doesn't mean than any particular person is going to be one or the other based on their gender, just like men on average are taller than women but there are many, many cases of women who are taller than the average man and men who are shorter than the average woman. A generalization (assuming it is actually correct) tells you something abo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/14 01:47 AM
2	Is "AWALT" the RP equivalent of "just be yourself" Not a red piller, but I see AWALT as the equivalent of the gun safety phrase "all guns are loaded". Obviously, not all guns are actually loaded, but it is wise to assume any gun you are handling has a round in the chamber at all times and to act as if it does.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/14 10:23 PM
3	What should our daughters learn? No one except potential romantic partners. The greater the number of previous sexual partners, the lower the statistical chance of having a high quality relationship/marriage, and the greater the statistical chance of infidelity. The last study I looked at showed a 7% increase in the chance of infidelity per previous sexual partner. That is not trivial. "You can either be a sensation seeker OR be someone who focuses on meaningful personal relationships" is one of the many things I will be trying…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/14 10:18 PM
1	New to RPW and Open to all your Advice I'm the one making decisions and my goal is to make decisions that work for both my woman and myself. To do that, I need complete and accurate information about what she wants and needs, what she likes and doesn't like. And preferably I get that information before it is time to make the decision so that it doesn't turn into an argument. There are good ways to give that information and bad ways. "This is information you need for when you make the decisions" versus "you're doing it wrong". I would…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/11/14 07:47 PM
9	Hi RPW, long time lurker, first time poster(long), field report about the effects of my behavior changes since finding the RPW. because I had been pushy it seemed he started second guessing his instincts to lead Someone can only lead those willing to follow. Allowing him to lead ties into... He seems to have SO MUCH more confidence There are few things that will build confidence in a man better than his woman implicitly showing that she trusts him and believes in his judgment and competence enough to follow his lead. Ignoring the details of the things that you do, it essentially all boils down to: you make him feel like …	/r/RedPillWomen	15/11/14 01:25 AM
3	Would potential husbands frown upon my decision? but the hours were terrible. I had to work overnight graveyard shifts, go to day meetings for work which would interrupt my sleep, and I was told a completely different story about the hours when I was hired. ... I feel like men will see me as a quitter or a loser because I didn't stay with my job. No. They won't. You were sold a bill of goods and stood up for yourself. You didn't let someone take advantage of you. You aren't sitting at home watching Oprah and eating Cheetohs.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/11/14 12:45 AM
1	I need a pick me up and to be told I can turn this ship around. Number 1, cut yourself some slack. I'm sure your husband does! Let him know that you are concerned about your body and want to work on improving it for the both of you...and then cut yourself some slack. It takes work and time. Let him know that you are concerned with giving him the attention that he deserves now that there is another human who requires a large chunk of your focus. If you let him know those things (hell, have him read this post) his response is probably going to be along the lin…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/11/14 12:10 AM
2	Brief question both pills, what do you think of public exposure sites like this? My only concern is that private conversations are being published. There is rather an expectation that a text message you send to someone, especially in the context of a romantic/dating relationship, is private.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/14 04:15 AM
0	Does the Red Pill drive men into the arms of abusive women? If, however, it includes intentionally flirting with other women as if to say, 'I could drop you at anytime,' with the intention of instilling emotional terror and fear of abandonment in someone you supposedly 'love' (lol), then, well, fuck you. I'm not sure I disagree, but I'm curious why this applies to men and not women. Google results for "how to make your husband jealous", 94,000+ Google results for "how to make your wife jealous", 9	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/14 04:06 AM
11	Does the Red Pill drive men into the arms of abusive women? This seems to me to be 'excusing' bad behavior under the guise of "women will be women." The TRP Mods, Endorsed Contributors, and Side Bar material all paint women as being disloyal (i.e. hypergamy), incapable of genuine love (i.e. users and abusers of men), and self-centered (i.e. 'female solipsism), all of which are abusive behaviors. If TRP really feels that these are at the core of a woman's true nature, I am no longer surprised by the misogyny. Those kinds of behaviors make me angry, too. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/14 02:43 AM
3	How does TRP think marriage works if girls can't resist hypergamy, trading up, cheating, etc.. Divorce was indeed possible, it simply required cause. The person who had provided cause for divorce ("grounds for divorce") very much got the short end of the stick during a divorce in terms of assets and maintenance. This meant that the person who wanted to keep the marriage intact had a greater measure of control of the situation, whereas now the person with the least desire to keep the marriage intact holds all the cards. It also meant that there were much stronger incentives for people to n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/14 08:39 PM
4	Is Marriage still worth it? No, it isn't worth it anymore. It used to be a contract that was enforced on both parties. Now it is a contract that is only partially enforced, and that really only on one party.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/14 08:28 PM
3	Another funny thing about TRP hypocrites Feeling insulted over being viewed as a "good provider and husband" is the same as if women were insulted by being considered "good mothers and wives". You forgot one very important word: "only". she only thinks of him as a provider	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/14 04:56 AM
4	I'm 3 months into TRP and this is what I've learned plus a list of grievances and why I think many men join. Story inside. I'm not exactly a follower of TRP, but I do agree that women simply aren't held to account for a lot of shitty behavior by our culture. http://imgur.com/a/kKpwa Read the reviews of Accidentally On Purpose... Her book good-naturedly traces some of the early hurdles of her experience, such as telling the Grinch (her father), finding out the sex of the baby and trying to sneak into a film screening with her infant. Candid and unaffected, Pols provides an important lesson about not being willing to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/14 01:43 AM
11	Thought experiment: how would you feel if we had a "nice girl" stereotype? That's because "nice guy" isn't actually describing a nice person, generally. It is usually used to describe a passive aggressive man who does things for a woman (without her necessarily even asking) and then feels that she now owes him something. Basically guys that create unspoken contracts without ever asking the woman if she agrees to the terms and then get pissy when she doesn't deliver "her end of the bargain". That isn't actually being nice, that is trying to buy something without having …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/14 06:28 PM
1	An example of why for all intents and purposes normal people can nevertheless be receptive to redpill ideas red pillers have to come up with games to lure/seduce because they are repellant people without a capacity (self awareness) to see they are repellant. I wouldn't call myself a red piller, but I've learned a lot about relationships from reading about the red pill. I'm the exact opposite of what you seem to think. I have no problems getting women, if all I was interested in was sex. My issue has always been with long term relationships. When I've been with someone long enough to fall in love, that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/14 06:36 AM
1	Is there a male equivalent to AF/BB? Do you think there exists a class of (not necessarily single) men that are perpetual white knights for random attractive women and derive pleasure from chivalry and developing emotional connection to them? No.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/14 01:22 AM
7	Serious question from a third party male This is the first time I've read this subreddit, and I've never even read TRP, and even I know more about the subject than you do. TRP is nothing more, and nothing less, than a theory of human sexuality. It is, to the degree it is accurate, simply knowledge...which can be used in many ways. A man can use that knowledge to get a string of meaningless one night stands, or he can use it to improve his relationship with his wife, providing a healthy and happy long term committed relationship as a fo…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/10/14 02:41 AM
1	Some thoughts on keeping male friends and the role of maternal instincts The rules, assuming you believe in monogamy and respect your significant other, are the same regardless of sex. There are many people who wind up falling in love with someone other than their SO and end up having an affair. They say "it just happened". No, it didn't just happen. They allowed it to happen. They actively fostered it, even if they didn't purposefully do so. You do not put yourself in a position where you can develop romantic feelings for a member of the opposite sex other than your…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/10/14 01:30 AM