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This is true. BUT...if she remarries, she forfeits the right to collect on your SS.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/22 06:31 AM
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Always remember the takeaway from the Seinfeld episode that gave us that phrase: Lloyd Braun: You know, you should tell your dad that 'serenity now' thing doesn't work. It just bottles up the anger, and eventually, you blow. George Costanza: What do you know? You were in the nut house. Lloyd Braun: What do you think put me there? George: I heard they found a family in your freezer Lloyd: Serenity now. Insanity later.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/22 04:48 AM
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And then there's Social Security. If she doesn't remarry, she can collect on your SS.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 11:25 PM
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Sad but true.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 09:03 PM
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Oh much better! I just celebrated 10 years with my new wife. It will get better.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/21 10:32 PM
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No, and it was the biggest mistake I made, for the one I jumped into was with a woman who was about 20x more toxic than my ex.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/21 03:49 PM
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In the words of Warren Zevon, "Send lawyers, guns, and money; the shit has hit the fan."
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/21 06:19 PM
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It took me five years, but she ended up spilling the beans to my new wife when we started dating...Confirmed my suspicions, at least.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/21 05:28 AM
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Consider the metaphor of marriage being "the two become one flesh". In that sense, marriage is almost like an amputation; there's going to be some phantom pain for awhile as you get used to that part not being there any more. All I can tell you on that note is try not to let the pain become who you are. I've seen too many men who just ceased to live after the breakup and are just existing. Think about what you want to be doing when the hurt subsides and take steps to do it. Without something to …
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/21 05:19 AM
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Dodged all those bullets except #2, and that one left some exit wounds!
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/21 05:42 AM
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My ex thought she HAD to change back. Pain in the butt. I offered my new wife to let her keep her maiden name to save her the hassle of changing everything. She declined and took mine. NOW she has to explain to everyone how to spell it since it's not exactly spelled phonetically and complains when they misspell it. (I spent my entire freshman year of high school correcting a misspelling of my name in the official files.)
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 04:15 AM
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In Illinois, it's six months. Ex and I spent that time living separately but working out what terms of separation needed done. PS--it sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/21 04:54 PM
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Going on 13 years out now. While I and my ex-wife in spite of the water under the bridge maintain fairly good relations, I've since remarried and for the most part, the marriage I have now is almost a different world from what I had with the ex (in a good way).
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/21 04:45 PM
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Yep. My sister got caught in that one. Lived with a guy for 20 years until he died, but since they never got married, she damn near ended up homeless at 65 because his family came in and sold the house out from under her.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 02:35 AM
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TBH, the ex has done quite a bit over the years to maintain friendly relations; it's not nearly as one-sided as I might make it seem. There have been some major league acts of goodwill on her side too that I haven't mentioned.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 04:26 PM
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That's awesome! There's a similar song called "The Rodeo Song" that was on my FB feed this morning that does the same thing...the original is NSFW but that only makes the bleeped one funnier while you try to fill in the blanks... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bAwVWLgbUcg
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 05:19 AM
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It is a LONG story, so buckle in. We set out to at least stay civil to each other. As it was a fairly amicable divorce with little assets, we knocked out the divorce in about nine months (six months of which was a "cooling off" period before we could actually file. At that point, I was like "you I can deal with, but your hippie boyfriend is another thing altogether". Post divorce, I started dating an old friend...who turned out to be somewhat bitter (it's hard when your sister gets kidnapped, ra…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 03:48 AM
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divorce starts out amicable but doesn't end that way It takes BOTH parties in a divorce to have an amicable divorce; that's why it rarely happens. My ex and I (and it took a boatload of work on my part to keep from throttling her when I got a load of the guy she considered an "upgrade") made that call because we had a teenage daughter we didn't want caught in the middle. Because of that, one non-negotiable I had for future relationships was that she at least had to tolerate the fact that my ex w…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 11:09 PM
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I had to work like crazy on it for about a year. It helped that I had a number of people around me to give me support, as well as moving back home where it wasn't in my face 24/7. Another piece of advice my minister (who had been through a nasty divorce himself) gave me was to get out of the house on a regular basis and do something you enjoy. (Granted, after disposing of a quarter-ton of household stuff and paying lawyers, it may have to be cheap entertainment...) And finally, when the anger is…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 10:53 PM
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At the same time, you've got to be very damn intentional about trying to avoid settling into bitterness. Be angry, lean into the anger when it comes and move that energy toward something positive. Keep asking yourself the question, "What do I want to be when this is no longer a problem?" and set yourself toward becoming that person.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 08:20 PM
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Just as long as the AP wasn't Fauci...
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 11:54 PM
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And I was thinking "there's an anti-vaxxer joke in here somewhere"...
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 11:53 PM
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Some scary stuff over there.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/21 11:13 PM
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It was pretty wild. That was 10 years ago; things are much better. Ironically, we found the place where we live now thanks to ex's intervention. (There's a LONG story about what all has happened in between then and now.)
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/21 04:27 AM
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Well, much of it was after she dropped the bomb on me, I moved to the next county to save money by living with my parents. The "evidence" was a phone call from my kid and I was like "nah, not with THAT guy". Fast forward a couple of months, she fessed up. It was THAT guy. Later, when my new wife met her, ex admitted the whole thing to HER that she was testing the waters before she gave me the boot.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/21 04:13 AM
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I suspected from day one. Had some evidence a few months in when my daughter came home to find them "together" but not enough to say for sure. It was a few years before my ex admitted there had been some shenanigans before she called it quits on the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/21 03:38 AM
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That's probably not a battle you'll win. After ex-wife lost her apartment and moved back in with her parents (I'd already moved in with mine), both of us were a half hour from where our daughter was going to school. As she was in high school in a small town, and both of us would be living in districts where the high schools were huge, we both agreed that putting her in a new school was not going to be an option. One of her friend's parents were willing to take her in, so I paid my daughter the c…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 06:15 PM
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I'll do you one better. After years of suspicion on my part, when my new wife met my ex, ex admitted at the very least she was having an emotional affair that apparently went from 0 to 60 the second I hit the bricks. Wifey #2 and I got a great laugh out of that one later...
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/21 04:39 PM
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I would have posted "It's Raining Men" in response, but most of the country's getting snow and ice, so...
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/21 09:42 PM
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Actually it's neither. If you're keeping the house at this point, that's one thing and it's a bit of a risk depending on your stbx. If she's keeping the house and living in it with the children, all's fair. I mean, I got the boot and I had to live somewhere, so I moved back in with family in the next county. What they have problems with is permanently going outside a reasonable distance that makes visitation problematic.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/21 04:32 AM
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I made much less than my wife. If I had had to pay rent, I wouldn't have been able to pay any child support. We had one girl who had just turned 16. That being the case, I didn't get much time as I had moved a half hour away and she'd just started dating, hence time with Dad was pretty low on the totem pole the first year. That wasn't my ex-wife's fault; it took the daughter about a year to realize that I wasn't quite the bad guy my ex's mother made me out to be. As it was, since I was "living",…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/21 05:09 AM
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I was married for 28 years when my ex dropped the D-bomb on me. Skipped alimony because she had a higher income than I had. When we separated, my mom (a widow who was desperate to get one of the kids to take care of her) talked me into moving back home, which saved me a boatload on rent and actually made child support doable. When I remarried, mom took it well. I ended up moving back home a second time, though...Mom went into senior care and needed someone to take care of the property, which was…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/21 01:30 AM
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"I'm getting divorced" with no additional info.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/21 10:15 PM
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If that was representative of her offerings, I'D also pay not to see them!
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/20 07:07 PM
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Let us hope.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/20 03:01 AM
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That said, most if not all of these red pill types wouldn't have a chance of even conceiving a daughter OR a son!
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/20 12:58 AM
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I got hip deep in that stuff when I first got divorced. A couple of months and I realized that if I went all in with that MRA stuff, I'd be alone for life!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 10:39 PM
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From my own experience and most of the divorced people I know, the actual signing the final decree is almost anti-climactic after all the stuff leading up to it. When the judge banged the gavel and announced it was final, I was like "that's it?" I was under the impression from the court papers we had one more court date, but judge said, "no, this is it." Just walked out in more of a state of "ok NOW what do I do?"
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/20 06:18 AM
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The other side of the "amicable divorce"... I get bounced so ex can go middle age crazy with some whacko guitar player. At that time, she had the better job and I was struggling. Adios, amigo. We genuinely worked hard to have the divorce be amicable because we had a daughter. Fast forward 11 years. I remarried three years after the divorce, ex is single. When I met my new wife, I introduced them to each other because I assumed because daughter, the three of us were going to be in the same place …
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/20 06:09 AM
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Whoa hoss. She does appear to have one in that pic...even more creepy.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/10/20 05:16 PM
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I've been looking at too much QAnon conspiracy crap lately. I see child sexual abuse and "some desolate island" in the same thread and wondering how soon Jeffrey Epstein plays into this...
/r/PussyPassDenied15/08/20 10:47 PM
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"That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works..."
/r/PussyPassDenied14/08/20 08:03 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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