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Same, sis! I'm also a bit of a late-bloomer and I get hit on more in my early thirties than I did in my twenties, and often by men in their early twenties. A recent story that I think was super funny: some 21-year-old who looked even younger than that was blatantly hitting on me at a coffee shop. I asked him how old he was and he told me. I just kinda smirked and jokingly said, "I'm old enough to be your mother." He smirked right back, gave me a once-over and said, "Trust me, my mother looks not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 11:04 AM
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I have experienced something similar but a lot milder. Met this extremely handsome scrote back home when I was visiting to attend a wedding. I was not interested at all anyway (he was too young for me, I'm not into LDRs, and I'm currently not looking to date anyone at all), but HE decided that he was definitely into me. We were both in the wedding party and plenty of opportunities arose for us to talk to each other. Instead of being polite or just politely expressing his interest in me, he proce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:57 AM
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They do it because there are zero consequences for their behaviour. So many men I've known have been inappropriate with me in a professional environment and have faced no consequences for it even when I reported their behaviour to HR. We are just objects for them to consume, whether it is I a professional setting or outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 10:24 AM
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Yep. Learned it the really, really hard way myself. Literally no one is coming to save you, and even blood relatives straight up have too much going on in their lives to constantly be there for you. If you DO have people in your life willing to show up for you often enough, that is a gift and a rare one. I only have a small handful of these people in my life and I consider myself to be extremely lucky because of it. I've realised recently that all the shit I've been through could have been easil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 12:08 AM
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I'm just here to say that I love your wisdom and I bow to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:54 PM
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Story time! Around four years ago, I was invited to join a book club by a very good friend of mine. The club was entirely made up of white American expat women, and I was the only non-American WOC expat who had ever been asked to join. In hindsight, I HADN'T been asked to join - my good friend had merely informed the group that she wanted me to join, and since she was one of the original creators of the group, everyone else kind of felt that they had to go with it. I was still pretty naive back …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 01:10 PM
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The F is an important part of it, too. OP's post was a very good reminder of that. A sidenote: I'm trying my hardest to put an end to my pickme ways, but even I wouldn't put down a 'celibate cat lady'. You are perfectly allowed to figure out your way to whatever you want without putting down other women. I would personally rather be a celibate cat lady than to be that woman who brings other women down. At least a celibate cat lady does others no harm. OP, I agree with you. The process of levelin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:03 PM
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I am also in the process of trying to end a relationship with a man who ticks so, so many of these boxes. It's a terrifying place to be in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 01:24 PM
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I'm willing to bet anything that he DID lie about this story he told you and switched to "I was only touching her in a NON-SEXUAL way!" when he had probably been trying to sexually harass her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:10 AM
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Why do women always jump in with some teeny tiny perceived 'wrong' that they apparently did and claim, "Yep, I did that, THAT'S ON ME!" Like this poor woman. She gave this man two children, kept a house together for him, stayed with him for almost a decade, and when he said he doesn't want to get married, 'it's on her' that she couldn't bring herself to ask why. "Whoops! He took me on for a fcking ride for SEVEN FCKING YEARS about the marriage question, but it's on me that I didn't break myself …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 09:58 PM
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And on the same note, the hardest pill for me to swallow was that I have never had sex with someone who actually loves me. I've only ever slept with one man. I married this man when I was just 24 years old and was absolutely and completely loyal to him while he cheated on me with multiple women. I bought into the lie that if I stayed loyal, maintained my looks and home while also maintaining two jobs, and basically continued to stay bent over backwards for him, he would love me. He didn't, thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 10:48 AM
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Ooh, and forgot to add: I don't think we get to change people after we get into a relationship with them because we don't date potential. We date people as they show themselves to be. If we like what we see (and feel), we stay. If we don't, we walk away. It's the fairest thing to do for all parties involved and HV behaviour, in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 09:27 PM
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I'm also a conventionally attractive, extremely fit woman. Personally, what I would look for in a partner is how that person makes me feel. Does this person make me feel good? Safe? Protected? Taken care of? Is he generous with whatever resources he has available to him (time, money, love and emotions)? Also, do we have things in common? I am an absolute fitness freak and I'm at the gym a minimum of five to six times a week. My ideal partner would be enthusiastic about health and fitness, at the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 09:19 PM
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I've gone through something quite similar. 8 years of insidious abuse that just creeps up on you, until one day you go into his phone to look up the cute pictures that the two of you took together on a date YOU had taken the pains to arrange in order to 'reconnect' - only to find that his female coworker is messaging him at 3 a.m.. You had worn a figure-hugging red dress that showed off every curve of the body you work extremely hard on, while he had showed up in the watered-down version of what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:07 PM
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Quite a bit off-topic, but does anyone else get SERIOUSLY upset and properly SAD when men touch you without your permission as a way of flirting with you? I get almost...disproportionately upset and hurt when that happens to me. It makes me feel less human, and as if my body just exists for random men to make grabs at. I haven't seen my friends or other female acquaintances get AS upset over being touched by men without their express permission. Most of the time they don't like it as well but th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:12 AM
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I really love this, and I've recently noticed myself thinking along the same lines. Almost every man I run into now pretty much gives me the ick. Not necessarily because they aren't physically attractive or anything, but because of the way they behave around me or other women. There are so many subtle cues that you can watch out for without even going out on a date with men. I just haven't found a single man I can respect enough to want to date. I do know two or maybe three HVM, but they are my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 11:42 AM
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This is why I never wanted children. These two sound like decent people, and look at what their son turned out to be. Happy to see them standing their ground, though. We need to see more of this in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:07 AM
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I don't use dating apps at all, but I even deleted Bumble BFF. A lot of women I spoke to on it who live in my city were putting in extremely low amounts of effort into the conversation and that got exhausting really quickly. Also, I felt that a lot of these women were looking for other local women to make friends with, and I'm not a local. It's super off-putting when one of the first questions they'd actually make an effort to ask was, "Where are you from?" What does that actually matter, unless…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 05:43 AM
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They want us for our beauty, and hate us for at it the same time. Just like they need us to give them children and hate us for our ability to bear those children. Pakistan also has the same acid-throwing problem, but having lived in both countries, I will say that I was actually more terrified of the random acid-attacks in the UK. In Pakistan, you don't actually hear of men going around flinging acid at innocent passerby (I literally never heard of it happening once in my 24 years there), but th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 09:31 PM
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Men across the board cheat "down". They don't think they can do better - they've already got the best they could have gotten, and use cheating as a method of controlling the woman they are with, who is clearly out of his league in every way possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:08 AM
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Yep. I've seen it time and time again - loyal, beautiful wife, clean, beautiful home, oftentimes smart, well-behaved, beautiful children thrown into the mix, and a cheating scrote behind the scenes, sticking his dick willy nilly into anything that moves. They have the need to fuck things up. The need for drama. Any attention is attention, even negative attention. And when their wives give them ACTUAL attention, they are too busy staring at their phones with their hands down their pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:05 PM
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Girl, don't even get me started. I'm South Asian. After years of trying to escape it, I recently went back to my home country (quite unavoidable - my younger brother was getting married). It's been more than a decade since I have lived there and I barely ever visit, so the changes in my appearance were a surprise to a lot of people who knew me from before. I did not even know that I had curly hair until I turned 28 because my mother always taught me that I had to keep it straight (because straig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:09 PM
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I love thrifting and even I would be weirded out at the suggestion of going thrifting as a first date. If you do not have the skills required to keep a light, engaging conversation going for the duration of a 90 minute meal, please don't ask me out. I certainly have the skills to do that and I will not go out with anyone less than my equal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:45 AM
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However, let this not be your only vetting strategy. My abusive soon-to-be-ex husband always made a huge fuss over me if I fell ill in public or if he knew that my family or close friends knew that I am not doing well. However, the minute the world's backs were turned, his mask dropped. While he would do things if I specifically asked him to do it (like get me something to eat), he would do it with ill grace. He would leave me to fend for myself otherwise. Oftentimes, he would outright deny that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:57 PM
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And if a man is abusive, he will only get worse after marriage. If you have already married your abuser (I'm not judging - I did the same thing), please do not have children with them and find the quickest, least painless way to get out of the situation. I guarantee you that things will get even worse after children, even though you thought that wasn't even possible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:47 PM
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None whatsoever. They cheat because the other woman "fulfills unmet emotional needs" and he doesn't let the wife go because he has "hope" that one day she will meet his needs, too. Oh, and his relationship with his wife is otherwise "loving and happy". Poor men. I wonder how they deal with all this trauma inflicted on them by their loyal, unsuspecting, loving wives, whom have now also unknowingly been exposed to STDs in their husband's quest for getting his "needs" met. 😪 Just...my heart breaks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:38 PM
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One of the worst dates I have ever been on was with a below-average looking dude. I am a conventionally attractive, very fit woman, and he spent the entire date talking about how he had lost hope of finding any beautiful women in our city before he met me. He said all of this with his mouth full of food and his face shining from sweat that had broken out because of the gusto with which he was eating said food. He also ordered more food and more EXPENSIVE food than I did, drank alcohol when I did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:17 PM
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