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No I mean like it's overwhelmingly creepy grown men that will follow a high school girls instagram
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 06:08 PM
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Men are not the problem as a whole but there is a sizeable minority that ruins it for literally everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:45 PM
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Men are raised believing women should serve them This hasn't been true for a long time. Culturally the zeitgeist is that women rule the roost and get their way. The "yes, dear" bumbling husband is such an ingrained trope at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:39 PM
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That sounds like you inferring something that wasn't actually said
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 10:22 PM
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This is how I look at it. I don't expect to meet a woman at my local Warhammer store or something. But I probably will meet someone whose sister is single and looking for a guy or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 10:19 PM
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I think the issue is that adults are becoming more and more isolated, so it just doesn't work as well
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 10:18 PM
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Also just makes you a better, happiet person
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 10:16 PM
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while women are 100% expected to give a lot more during child rearing, I also think the problem gets amplified in the US because the expectations on child rearing have never been higher. Compared to other western countries, american parents are killing themselves with the effort put into parenting nowadays. IMO its one of the least talked about things here with huge implications. Europeans raise kids from a goal of fostering independence, while americans tend to foster dependence. And as the chi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:29 PM
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id have to guess that some things are simply more important than others. If partner A (man or woman) is good with money and has been the agreed upon budget master, then any situation that partner B is the obvious choice for decision maker still has to answer to the money situation. I also think that it's very rare for both partners to have complimentary strengths that are perfectly equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:12 PM
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I mean, I think both partners should look up / admire one another. why be with someone that doesn't have positive traits that you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:08 PM
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Depends on how much the woman brings in relative to how much more space she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 09:11 PM
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Men sucking at sex should impact their ability to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 09:03 PM
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What will be enough to make me think like 50% of the population are actually giant assholes instead of just you? Realistically nothing, because the premise is so deep and stupid I have to gag and admit maybe the red pillars are right when they say "solipsism"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 10:41 PM
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Peak schizo posting. 7/10, we'll done. "My periods hurt, so men are advantaged" Pretty sure my grandfather felt more lain than you when he died in France in WW2.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:39 PM
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If you walk around smelling dog shit everywhere, check your own shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:34 PM
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Yes, for the 18 months where they will literally die if not doted on, sure. By the time they're 5, they should have some understanding that the family does not revolve around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:08 AM
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Im also going to be annoyed when you act like a false grip is a revolutionary new technique and not something I knew about 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:26 PM
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Totally. My ex wife was better at me at a lot of stuff I liked. I had a Warhammer mini painting phase, and she was just always better at it than me despite not even having to really try. What drove me was crazy was the things I was clearly better than her at but she acted like she knew what to do better than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:24 PM
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Child being your priority doesn't mean that you have to stop caring about your wive/husband. I know that to well, I made the mistake of priorizing my child too much and I neglected my wife. We end up getting divorced. Did I made a mistake? absolutely. Did she also make a mistake by refusing to communicate with me that she was feeling neglected? absolutely. Its much better to think of it as the child is joining the family than as the parents now subservient to the whims of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:01 PM
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Honestly you shouldn't prioritize your child over your partner. This is a very american attitude to have and pretty much every study shows it leads to worse results for parents and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 08:59 PM
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Sex isn't a need like food and water. That's the obtuse idiots way of interpreting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:44 PM
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Remove kids and its maybe 5 hours a week
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:20 PM
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be my mom go to the container store buy a ton of containers nobody thought we needed bring containers home. spend all day moving food from the perfectly fine containers they were already in complain nobody helped her do this made up task nobody asked her to do
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:19 PM
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100%. My ex wife used to have Sundays booked solid for cleaning. Didn't matter if we even used some rooms, had to scrub the whole room down. Magic Midwest cleaning said it best: you shouldn't be deep cleaning regularly if you do a little bit here and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:10 PM
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If you needbto hours of chores a day, that says more about your ability to create mess than it does about how much cleaning should actually be necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:08 PM
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would guess that, but the time resentment has built up, there is a pretty decent understanding of what the "base for cleaning" is. No, its almost always partner 1 saying "this is how it is" and not moving an inch.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:07 PM
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Having to tell another grown adult what needs to be done is exhausting on its own. Usually because a lot of the things that need to be done actually don't need to be done. While men should generally do more, people should generally do less. And this seems to backed up by the latest surveys in divisions of household labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:05 PM
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this subreddit is generally a beacon to weirdos who have bad luck in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:30 AM
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You could argue bits easier for men because most men do not take decent xarebof themselves as they age. It's not that as a 40 year old you could look 25, its that's as a 40 year who has been exfoliating and using reint9l or something you could look 37 as opposed to looking 50
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:28 AM
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An older person is, on average, more likely than a younger person to have more money, to have an established career, to have a professional network, to own assets, and to have knowledge about how systems, processes, and institutions work. literally none of that stuff matters for average people. My career as a mechanical engineer means absolutely nothing to someone who isn't a mechanical engineer, my 401k doesn't buy me the protection of police, and I don't know what "systems, processes, and inst…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 05:20 PM
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Age gaps can have a power imbalance that favours the younger person I would really like someone to explain to my why an age gap is consider a power imbalance in and of itself. I'm almost 40. I have literally 0 power over the average 25 year old. Hell I have 0 power over the average 15 year old. I would know, because the little shits that skateboard outside my favorite constantly tell me to go fuck myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 05:16 PM
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the issue of intoxication is also complicating. If a women is beyond a certain level of drunkeness to where she can't consent, what if the man is drunker?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 05:13 PM
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What's the problem with living with sandwiches? What you're doing is taking an ideal, abstract notion of what an adult "should" do and projecting it onto everyone. Problem is, you can just roll this out to where there are infinite tasks and chores to do. Being an adult means prioritizing the things that matter to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:13 PM
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And the reality is that women these days are still expected to work and do the majority of household labour The reality is that the amount of household labor you "need" to do is almost entirely up to you. IME my ex wife did the majority of the household labor because she was a neurotic lunatic for whom the household labor could never end. I swear every study on it shows that no matter how much work men do, women still do more, because the amount men do doesn't change how much women do. If the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 06:10 PM
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On PPD, we're always hearing about women staying with “chads” who do absolutely nothing for them. In the real world, I encounter tons of men who are with women who do absolutely nothing for them. It's not really a gender thing. A shifty partner will just take and take.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:59 PM
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I think all men would be happier single too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 04:16 PM
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that's just regular day to day planning. Emotional labor wasn't really meant to describe things in a relationship, the word got hijacked and thrown around all over the place. It was originally coined to term a kind of work (as in, a paid job) that requires unseen effort. Like a waitress/waiter needs to be courteous and polite and sociable even if they're having an absolutely terrible day. Everyone knows that a coal miner breaks his back all day and is exhausted from physical labor, emotional lab…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:06 AM
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this is overwhelmingly where the emotional labor nonsense comes from: partner tries to micromanage their partner, gets mad that partner needs to be micromanaged. I literally just do not believe that the above poster doesn't know any men that can use a washing machine. I absolutely can believe that she knows a bunch of control freaks who don't like how their men do laundry.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:00 AM
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sigma males are hilarious to me, because they clearly buy into the alpha/beta dichotomy, and then realize that they aren't actually alphas by their own definition. So instead of saying that whole thing is stupid, they come up with a new way of describing how beta they are that sounds cooler. "yeah man being an alpha male means you're confident and charismatic and a natural leader people gravitate to" absolutely fail at that "you know what, I'm actually a step above that. I don't have friends or …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 05:51 AM
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It's like you're actually dumb enough to think some guy is going to walk into a Thai police station with a bag labelled "bribe money" or something
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:17 PM
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Thinking that a foreigner who probably has almost no knowledge of the local language or legal system is somehow in a position of power is peak sheltered american
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 09:22 AM
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People spend too much time on child rearing and household chores. I will die on this hill
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 05:39 AM
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This guy loves posting stories about assholes and insisting they're on another level of emotional maturity or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:58 PM
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Feminism is the movement about freedom of women from oppression based on their female sex or woman gender (depending on the branch of feminism) I thought it was about equality?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:53 PM
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in my mid to late 30s, a lot of people are back on the market as marriages are starting to fail. Of my 5 closest married friends, 2 are already divorced, 1 is on his way to divorce in a few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 05:57 AM
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Recently divorced at 37. I am doing significantly better than I was in my mid 20s with a few caveats: I've aged very well physically and mentally. Most men don't do this. Most men don't have a skin care routine, they don't know how to dress well, ect. The demographic I'm into is women of my age +/- a few years. I am not drowning in college girls wanting an almost 40 year old guy. I am getting attention from the creme of the crop of single mid 30s to early 40s women I have a well paying and stabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 05:54 AM
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What if I don't want the labor done? That seems to be the missing piece here: women do things that men don't care about and then get mad that the men don't care about it. My ex-wife used to insist on vacuuming the whole house once a month. It used to be every week, which is fair. But I bought a Roomba that does 90-95% as good a job and takes 2 minutes to start and then empty. To me, that's fine. I don't really care about the extra 10-5%. Only she did.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:46 PM
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You can certainly finish your daily chores, but there’s always deep cleaning, household repairs, food prep, errands, and family management to be done. This sounds like you're running head first into chores and other obligations that you don't need to do. Anytime someone talks about "deep cleaning" I'm immediately skeptical
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:41 PM
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Seriously. I got mad at .y ex-wife because she could never turn off her chore list and actually spend time with me. The Dadvocate summed it up really well: it's your household, you can manage it however you want. If you can't be intimate until the dishwasher is loaded, that's a you problem. There's so much "this has to get done!" and it really actually doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:18 PM
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These aren't mutually exclusive. Most condescending dickheads are indeed socially awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 10:28 PM
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You get into an elevator with a coworker on Monday. You ask him if he had a good weekend. He literally just ignores you and starts scrolling on his phone. The elevator is now awkward. You can't just "not try" in social settings without being socially awkward because not trying is socially awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 10:22 PM
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yes, im sure the red pill is full of male rape victims and not a bunch of insecure dorks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:29 AM
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you literally described someone who is socially awkward. At the end of the day, social skills are skills that need practice. If you never interact with other people you won't be very good at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:25 AM
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really making the strong case that red pill is full of butthurt insecure dorks tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 01:10 AM
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Trauma is a subset of negative experiences. No. trauma is a response to a negative experience. All trauma is caused by negative experiences, not all negative experiences cause trauma. good grief you people need to learn to google
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 12:49 AM
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Nah, recently single after being in a 8 year relationship. Way easier in my late 30s than it was in my late 20s with a few caveats: I've aged well, physically, emotionally, and financially I'm mainly interested in women in their late 30s and not in their mid 20s I'm less interested in a relationship so I find dating in general much less stressful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 12:46 AM
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you don't get to choose what is valid trauma or not. yeah trauma is a word with a clinical definition. it's not "something bad that happened to you."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 12:35 AM
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because that's not what trauma is
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 12:34 AM
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not only is it less work, people can respect an authentic dork. Nobody seriously believes that mark zuckerberg is a tough guy because he does MMA or that Jeff Bezos dressing like a biker makes him cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:42 PM
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It's way more than that. Maturity, wisdom, life experience, self-confidence, etc. These are very attractive traits! this is one of those "must be this tall to ride" sort of things. Those things are attractive, but if the baseline attractiveness isn't there, then it doesn't matter. A young, ugly woman can have these traits, but it doesn't really matter because she's still ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:33 PM
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i like peoples, places, and things. i like things that I enjoy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:26 PM
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Ezra Klein had a tech journalist on a few weeks ago who talked mainly about Musk but about the ultra wealthy tech billionaires instead and said that they're all deeply insecure and try to project this ultra macho image because they had been dorks and losers most of their lives. so it wouldn't surprise me that jeff bezos hits the gym, takes a ton of testosterone, and wants to wife up a "traditionally" hot porn star lookalike as a projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:24 PM
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I think real "high value men" (god I hate that stupid term) probably have entirely different criteria that most red pillers don't even consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:21 PM
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you can be a smokeshow in your 50s if you take care of yourself and age well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:18 PM
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Habsburgs definitely collapsed because of degeneracy and "dating problems"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 08:31 AM
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I think that "metrosexual" just morphed into "men who take the most basic actions of hygiene." Yeah, I get my eyebrows done because unibrows look awful, I have a skincare routine because I don't want crows feet at 40. I floss because I'm an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 08:30 AM
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Its thirsty behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 08:21 AM
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What are the odds that many marriages are genuinely objectively bad and unreconsilable? Flawed premise because bad is fundamentally not objective.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 08:19 AM
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Nobody is going to say or think they divorced because they were bored. It's the truth, but zero people will ever, ever cop to that. they do all the time. the amount of relationships ending around me that are overwhelmingly caused by a breakdown in intimacy and a "roommate situation" is very high, and they're valid reasons to end a relationship. if your partner just woke up one day and said "I already got 'em, I can phone this shit in now" you can bet your ass you'd be packing your bags as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:58 PM
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a bad marriage can extend beyond abuse or infidelity. that's a very childish view of marriage and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:56 PM
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James Sexton largely agrees with this. Especially with kids. Women are much more willing to date a single dad than men are to date a single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:55 PM
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Unironically the worst outcome is being in the wrong romantic relationship. I was never lonelier than I was with my ex wife. that was unbearable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:53 PM
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Then why when a woman asks a man out he starts talking shit about women having masculine energy? i don't think the people that do this are the same people that get rejected constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:52 PM
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All posts like this feel like attack on a women and like men are offended that they have to do something to date or have sex. I kind of view this as an attack on men, which is justified IMO. I'd say the root cause is the hypersexualized culture we have now. Being thirsty extends beyond dating apps. It's the millions of guys that are subbing to onlyfans or amplifying "influencers" whose only marketable trait is being attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:51 PM
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yes but society is basically running on hypersexualization at the moment though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:44 PM
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unironically thirsty guys ruin everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:44 PM
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Boys don’t cry, they have to be the rock, they’re supposed to focus on winning not on how they make others feel is controversial now? very outdated. but please, tell me of your many experiences growing up as a boy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 05:23 AM
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How is it a surprise that if boys are raised to ignore or suppress their own and others emotions, that it’s hard for them as adults to start doing that in a healthy way? they aren't. if another fucking woman on this sub starts telling me all the things that men supposedly do and don't do I swear I'm going to just start shitposting because this place can't get any stupider with this level of insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 05:14 AM
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So finger pointing at women when talking about the things men do wrong since theyre the ones bitching that no one wants to hear them. really it's more of a "stop bitching and making stupid blanket statements like an idiot." Your entire premise rests on an arbitrary assumption that there things that "men do wrong" that women do right. And that's actually fucking stupid. That's literally the entire point of my reply. it's fucking impossible to even have a debate here when everyone just spouts thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 05:12 AM
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In a lot of couples women do perform the majority of household management there you go again, pulling more shit out of your ass and presenting it as fact
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 05:09 AM
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yeah, it's the same old tired BS that without a woman to hold their hands, men basically devolve into toddlers. without a woman to do it for them, men just wouldn't shop for food or cook, or go to the doctors, or remember when mothers day is? IME, women run head first into stupid shit they don't have to do and then get mad that nobody is helping them with the stupid crap they could have avoided, which then becomes the "emotional labor." this is the epitome of my ex wife: buying a stupid containe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:08 PM
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so literally everything is a flow chart that leads back to men not pulling their weight for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:06 PM
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makes blanket statements about men gets told those blanket statements actually apply to women gets butthurt a third behavior that is overhwlemingly done by women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:58 PM
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honestly there's no productive conversation that can come from talking about co-opted terms in online spaces. things liike "toxic" and "gasllighting" have essentially lost all meaning as just "things I don't like"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:39 PM
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went to a gay bar once for a gay friend's birthday it was awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:29 PM
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When he doesnt help himself and constantly using people as a free therapist, yes. It is labor. this behavior is overwhelmingly done by women. men can't open up and express themselves, but they also do it too much apparently. Yet again, men want empathy but cant be bothered to give it to others. also a behavior overwhelmingly done by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:25 PM
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First of all, emotional labor isn't just about emotions. The term was intended to include the managing and micromanaging the household. You have to remember the dates, write grocery shopping list, making doctor appointments etc. this is incorrect. emotional labor was intended to mean labor that is emotional as part of a job, ie a waitress has to put on the front of being happy and polite whereas a factory worker or office worker doesn't. basically it's another level a job demands that most peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:23 PM
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I’m sure they would have done the same for you. he probably wouldn't have done that to them in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:18 PM
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I seriously have become every partners emotional punching bag and vent release. it absolutely sucks when i have to come home and listen to just an hour of bitching about work or something
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:18 PM
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I think innocent flirting is a skill you need to keep up on. Growing up my parents could offer me no examples or advice on how to flirt or talk to women. I had no idea how to do it until I was in my late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 02:23 PM
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I'm 38 and I'm the only guy I know who even has a skin care routine
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 02:13 PM
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You also have to be silly enough to deal with a college girls nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 02:10 PM
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that makes more sense, I can agree with that. When I ex and I were looking at buying a home, we had completely different standards of what we wanted. Not at odds, per se, but different. She cared a lot about how the inside would look, I was much more concerned with the location and neighborhoods. So we both put in a lot of effort and research, but none of it went anywhere because we were more concerned with what mattered to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:51 PM
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the existence of your ideal man doesn't mean that the man you have is that ideal man. i wanted my wife to be a kinky insatiable sex goddess. what i ended up with was a low libido tiktok addict. the existence of kinky insatiable sex goddesses doesn't mean that my wife is one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:47 PM
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this post is ridiculous since dating apps are based on looks and algorithms, not about profiles before i met my wife, i tried to maximize my tiner elo score. It worked beautifully. the only drawback was to maximize it I had to swipe right on like 2 women a week and reject the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:44 PM
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I thought rule 1 of being a bi girl was to exclusively date men but insist you're bi because you think sabrina carpenter is hot or something? in all seriousness, the amount of bi girls I dated who never dated a woman is probably about equal to the number of straight women I've dated. I think a lot of straight women confuse finding beautiful people beautiful with being bi. I think jimmy garoppolo is a good looking guy, but it doesn't mean I like men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:42 PM
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he's secretly been taking lessons for months, just waiting for the perfect moment to "play around" in front of you and knock your socks off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:37 PM
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Picking up hobbies and interests on my own gave me the confidence to end my relationship. 10/10, wish I learned how to draw and paint way sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:32 PM
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People try to use boundaries as a way to control other people, but you fundamentally can't control other people. All you can do is control yourself, and communicate clearly what you will do in various circumstances. 100000000% this. A boundary isn't something you set on another person, it's something you set on yourself. You can't stop your partner from doing X, Y, or Z. BUT you can refuse to engage with them while they're doing it. "my partner can't use porn" isn't a boundary, because they have…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:27 PM
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so you'd tantrum to get your way in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:16 PM
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That’s just a way to justify opting out of shared responsibility and look like an incompetent idiot to her. it's important that the shared responsibility is mutually agreed upon. Too often it's dumped on one partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:15 PM
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So you fundamentally want your partner to be different than the partner you have. Then you get mad that he is who is and not the idealized version of himself you have in your head. Honestly sounds like a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:11 PM
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can we apply this to sex as well? I have never been in a healthy relationship where one partner uses the "it matters to me so it should matter to you." that's like textbook manipulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:07 PM
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then compromise or break up?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:04 PM
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if the mental load of women is burdened with utterly inconsequential crap like dead vs fresh flowers, then that 100% sounds like an OCD issue. the amount of things that need to be remembered to keep a household running is actually very, very small. The amount of things that don't actually matter but one partner things they do is incredibly high.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:03 PM
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What if what she wants is a partner that gets to know here and what she likes, and wants to make her happy by doing unsolicited nice things for her? then she should expect what she gives out tbh. If one partner is always giving and the other isn't, that's a problem. If no partner is giving and one is made they aren't receiving, that's not a relationship problem, that's a personality disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 06:02 PM
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He obviously saw the dead flowers He probably didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:54 PM
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I only ever complained about my wife's cleaning when she was doing something that didn't really need to be done. Cleaning was either a weird ritual or something that she did to avoid something else. Im a big believer in spot cleaning to avoid big cleans that are annoying. An example is I have a dish sponge with dawn and vinegar in the shower, and while I leave my shampoo or conditioner in, I just wipe down a wall and rinse it when I'm done. The shower can go a long time between formal cleans thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:50 PM
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The only thing I would nitpick about this post is this part: There are hobby and meetup groups- however these tend to be attended by older people or else people are already coupled. The ones which are specially targeted at younger people do seem to be more promising… but these are intermittently scheduled and not abundant- and many are overcrowded with men looking for women. I went to one last week and it was like this. Hobby classes like cooking lessons are mainly attended by married people, in…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:26 PM
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You weren't good at something you never tried? Shocker
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:17 PM
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I honestly think this is just a result of no risk/low reward incentives being chosen over low risk/high reward incentives. It's just easier to watch porn and sit on discord than date and make friends, and it's all the younger adults have ever known. Then it sort of gets compounded when everyone else your age is doing the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:16 PM
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Only 40% of students work while taking classes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:11 PM
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He also had neurosyphilis and died in an asylum
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:51 AM
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"work sucks and I don't want to do it" is a pretty solid reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 12:58 AM
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are PCPs really making that much? That seems really high. My dad works with a neurosurgeon who makes more as a legal consultant than as an actual surgeon. always thought that was kind of cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 12:56 AM
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doesn't that more depend on the specialty? A neurosurgeon and a PCP are both doctors on paper but I would never expect them to make remotely the same income.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 07:13 PM
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however around 20% of the American population earn that amount this is, by definition, not a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 07:04 PM
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I agree. There's an economy to relationships. They don't have to be equal in terms of what they bring but they should be equal in terms of what the partner wants or needs. I'm a relatively high earning man, I don't need or even want a high earning woman. I want a woman who will help me manage my home because I just don't have the bandwidth sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:57 PM
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then your research is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:56 AM
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I think women are attracted to ambitious men with passions and goals and follow through to make them happen. That doesn't mean you have money. There are a lot of starving artists who have no problem with women, but those traits are more often than not correlated to having some financial stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:55 AM
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I’ve never seen a good looking man with an overweight woman… there's a viral couple that is exactly this and the woman is hilarious. these goofballs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:49 AM
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When it comes to genuine attraction, women don't give a shit about money. while women don't give a shit about money, all things being equal, they do generally gravitate towards traits that correlate with making money. An unemployed guy who plays video games all day and smokes weed all night is unattractive because he has no ambition or goals. Without ambition, goals, follow through, ect, you aren't going to make a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:48 AM
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Most people also say "I could less" incorrectly as well
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:23 PM
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Talk to new dads who have a romantic partner but found that their social circle shrank significantly overnight. Loneliness is a very common complaint over on parenting or daddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 08:40 PM
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This all day. I have close friends that I see regularly, but at work, I'm an independent contractor, so I'm not really part of the company I work at and I change sites a lot. When you go into work and literally don't say a word to another human for 8 hours, that's a bizarrely uncomfortable feeling. And that's just work! I might see friends later that day! Having no friends at or outside of work sounds horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 08:39 PM
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I've honestly always interpreted it to mean men have a lack of close platonic friendships with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 08:34 PM
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parental leave in sweden started in 1974. france has less friendly family policies than its neighbors. It isn't the parental leave. it's entirely unrelated to family friendly social policies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 03:37 PM
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providing services and support doesn't incentivize babies though. we should do it just to do it because it makes society better, but there's no evidence it makes society bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:26 AM
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Payouts don't work, but what works is free daycare, improved infrastructure and support for parents, parental leave reforms. This is a very empirical question. free daycare Google tells me Denmark, Iceland, Norway, and Sweden lead the world on public spending on childcare. fertility rates: Denmark at 1.55, Iceland at 1.59, Norway at 1.41, Sweden at 1.52. All below the US at 1.66 parental leave reform Sweden has the most generous at 480 days of total leave between both parents. Norway has 49 week…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:24 AM
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Free daycare, free medical expenses, free classes for new moms, other support? How entitled, your baby is not my problem. Lots of countries do this and they have even worse fertility than America, and in America it's the richer people having fewer kids, not poor people. I said this elsewhere, but in the 21st century, the opportunity cost of having kids is absolutely brutal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:14 AM
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Then why not say “Make sure you have time for romance” instead of pitting a child against a lover? because prioritizing your relationship goes far beyond just romance. Think about it like this: a child joins a family, but it doesn't define the family., and the family doesn't revolve around the child. Thinking that is a very American thing. Basically whatever the couple was doing before the kid, they should be shooting to do like 51% of the time after the kid. It can very easily be argued that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:10 AM
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My mindset is that my kids are a priority, and it's my obligation to take care of them and make sure they have everything they need. nobody interprets this as letting your kids starve on a diet of gruel while you and your partner go to a steakhouse. It's based on 2 main ideas: the first is that loving your child is largely unconditional for most people. Loving your partner isn't. I need to choose to love my wife, so a conscious effort is needed to avoid the default of just the kid. The second is…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:36 PM
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Nobody needs nor will get unconditional love. So if a man in a relationship loses his job, decides he'd rather be a kept man and just play video games and smoking pot all day his wife is just supposed to keep on loving him as he slides into loserdom? That's ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:07 PM
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It is saying if its between your spouse and your child, you choose your spouse. nobody interprets it that way except incredibly obtuse people. It's a very simple hierarchy of needs and wants. Childs needs > spouses needs > spouses wants > child's wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:05 PM
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too nebulous a statement to have any meaning. intensive parenting arguably leads to worse outcomes for kids while also monopolizing more of the parents time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 07:02 PM
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which comes back to people making choices to add more labor to their lives. really not sure where you're going with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 06:57 PM
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the kind of women who were onboard with 4B were also not the kind of women who were really on anyones radar in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:48 AM
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then don't have 2+ kids
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:47 AM
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yeah, given that poor people have more kids, even in developed countries, it's all opportunity cost. richer people have more opportunities they turn down when having kids, unless you're so damn wealthy it doesn't even matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:14 PM
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more people = more laundry yes, but I generally find that adding more people doesn't have a huge impact on laundry or cooking. Adding more food is marginal. Bacon and eggs or spaghetti and meatballs for 3 doesn't really take longer than for 2. Same for laundry. It's more clothes to fold, but lets not pretend that 99% of the work is done by pressing start on a washer and a dryer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:13 PM
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Probably depends on the kind of parent. We're both on the same page with free range parenting as she gets older. Most couples I know the husband leans free range and the wife leans helicopter. I could see that leading to issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:07 PM
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No, the number stays almost the same with children. Are there more things that need to be tidied up with kids? Yes. Should you expect your home to look the same as someone without kids? No. We also manage by not allowing out daughter to accumulate junk. She has more toys than she needs, so some go into a tote in the basement, and she can change them out once a week or so, but she usually forgets she has a reserve unless we remind her. But that's mainly clutter. Having kids didn't really move the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:00 PM
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However, the majority of men are still not contributing equally in the home or with child rearing. I'm always skeptical of this claim. A good 50% of the things to do around the house exist because of choices my wife made. Realistically, you can keep a 1500 square foot house clean and tidy with like maybe 4 hours a week of work if they're smart about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:02 PM
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I've always suspected that the declining fertility rates weren't because kids are more expensive, but because they represent a huge opportunity cost for people that do have options. Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter, but I also know that the door to, say, live in Sicily for months at a time while working remote permanently closed once she came along. The thing is that living in Sicily while working remote was a complete fantasy even 15 years ago. Now it's a very real possibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:57 PM
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extraversion, neuroticism, openness, conscientiousness, and agreeableness I can't help but think these are all somewhat related. Someone with high neuroticism also likely lacks confidence, and is therefore low extraversion and low openness. I think the best way to describe personality is unless you naturally have an extremely open personality, how outside your comfort zone do you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:34 PM
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I always thought of the loneliness issue as men not having strong bonds with other men, not men being unable to find a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:28 PM
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yeah that really stuck out to me too. Sort of just a "I'm handsome and reasonably sociable, why can't I get a date?" And just frankly, nobody cares how much you can bench press. I would guess the average woman has no idea what that really even means. Not to creep, but I did give his post history a glance and he had a few r4rs that were also just incredibly low effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:26 PM
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someone can also become worse over the years due to a variety of factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:17 AM
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I swear 90% of this is "grass is greener" on the other side. I know a couple that are in their early 40s with a toddler and they constantly complain that they wish they had a kid in their 20s instead. Then my niehgbor who did have a kid in her early 20s will say she wished she was older and more established
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:15 AM
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Nope, but without a good sex life it is
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:28 AM
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worse take. None of that is relevant to the discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 07:53 PM
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honestly, dating an older woman who has her shit together is amazing. Every red pill man i see say how only youth and beauty matter makes it really obvious they haven't talked to the average college girl in a decade
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 07:51 PM
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bad take. sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, but when it's missing it's a big deal. Nobody would say the steering wheel is the most important part of a car, but without it, you aren't going anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 07:48 PM
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This doesn’t negate the argument that no other animal’s genes have some kind of interest to not want to replicate If an animal can't have sex without replication then this is a baseless assumption. Also, lots of stuff other animals do humans just don't. We don't have an instinctive urge to migrate south during the winter, we don't eat our partners after sex, and we don't abandon a child because someone else touched them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:35 PM
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I think there are serious desensitization issues and that porn is so abundant and accessible to young people is where the problem really lies. When I was in middle school, I had a few Victoria secret magazines in my room that were more than sufficient. An 8th grader watching hardcore throat and anal fucking just seems . . . A bit much and not particularly healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:24 PM
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Other animals are wired for sex. Sex and reproduction is not synonymous. Pretty much as long as humans have existed they have been trying to have sex without reproducing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:43 PM
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Given that the rate of failed marriages is over 50%, Is rather be single than with the wrong person
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:39 PM
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Because it's more than just a cost of living
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:35 PM
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Yeah it seems like you would need to untangle the general unhappiness trend hitting the US. Claiming that women are unhappy and ignoring that men are in crisis seems disingenuous at best
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:32 PM
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She said no single cause. Listing multiple single causes means there is no single cause
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:30 PM
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Hormones underpin everything. Every desire, urge, and behaviour is rooted in hormones and neurotransmitters, nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:31 AM
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Nah, horny people screw regardless of the culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:21 AM
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Lol seriously. I'd argue that even caring about "the red pill"is some tacit admission of being low status. All the guys that got laid growing up that I knew wouldn't even have "how to maximize dating strategies" on their radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:10 AM
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6 foot cutoff is just because it's a common round number. I can't imagine European tinder having "182.88 cm" cutoffs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:05 AM
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Tell me you've never dated an immature broke girl who lives with her parents without telling me you've never dated an immature broke girl who lives with her parents
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:01 AM
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What kind of "high value man" would prefer a woman who doesn't have her own place, doesn't have her own car, needs to ask her dad for money to travel, only eats takeout, and thinks her midterms are stressful?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:09 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:47 PM
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Yes they do
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:29 PM
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Dating a 20 year old sounds absolutely horrible. Have you talked to a 20 year old in the last few years?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:27 PM
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I offer tons of emotional support and romance to my wife and feel like I get almost nothing of that back.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:03 PM
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This is actually a great point. I remember going to McDonald's once and the cashier was absolutely gorgeous. Her working a dead end job had no impact on my attraction to her at all. Things like lack of finances, lack of ambition, and limited social circles aren't nearly as problematic for women as they are for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 09:22 PM
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I did, and I actually think it's stupid to suggest that men dating younger women is synonymous with men pursuing 14 year olds, so I gave you the benefit of the doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 05:13 PM
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Genuine question: what if your kids are unreliable shitty losers you can't count on? My daughter has zero obligation to act as my care taker in my old age
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 05:09 PM
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The argument of well it’s different when it’s your kid Honestly it's not. When my poop machine daughter gets cranking it's still stinky gross poop
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 05:07 PM
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I don't particularly see how this is relevant. It's silly to suggest that a closeted pedophile in his 50s who is attracted to 8 year olds would look at a 25 year old and say "meh, close enough I guess."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 05:03 PM
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Can you blame a young, attractive woman for not wanting to date some weird older guy who is socially awkward and inexperienced? No, but is this usually the demographic of older men that date younger women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:58 PM
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Id honestly question whether this stereotype is even true. I'm in my 30s and the consensus of younger women (25 and younger) is that they look and act like children.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:54 PM
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It definitely made things harder when I was dating my wife. Also showed what a huge maturity gap we had
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 12:00 AM
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I 100% think it is, but in general it's not as frowned upon IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:31 PM
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I've heard this situationally but never as a chronic condition. A woman in her early 30s living with mom and dad and still being bankrolled is just more socially acceptable than a man doing the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:38 PM
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My wife wanted to be married, but never really wanted to be a wife. I'm basically an NPC in her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 03:00 PM
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I think it depends on why the decision to never date again comes from. I'm stuck in a crappy relationship I hate because I have a terrible track record of ending relationships or standing up for myself in them. So if I ever get out of my awful marriage, I know I'm basically too spineless to ever risk getting involved again because if it turns bad I feel stuck
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 02:58 PM
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Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:45 PM
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I meant lawyers. I have fat thumbs
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:53 PM
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Decades of communism can't break a millennia of Confucianism Okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:53 PM
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I would say 90% of life is dumb luck falling into things, good or bad
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:43 PM
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They didn't consider the mass abortions of girls The government is on paper communist. Ostensibly gender shouldn't matter
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:37 PM
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Non sequitur There's no point in them if you're not rich, there's nothing to protect. Nothing in your statement about liars 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:36 PM
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I'm not rich but I bought a home before I got married. That's something to protect
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:46 PM
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I owned a home before I married my wife, and I wanted to keep it as a rental property after we bought a home together. That's in the prenup, along with my retirement accounts. I didn't contribute any money to those accounts after we got married, as everything went into joint accounts. If we divorce, she has no claim to that first home equity or my initial retirement accounts. Seemed fair tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:45 PM
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