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FIELD REPORTMinimalistDreamer/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 12:36 PM
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ADVICEMinimalistDreamer/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 07:26 PM
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ADVICEMinimalistDreamer/r/RedPillWives26/04/24 11:15 AM
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Well some women are just jealous! I think I've read somewhere there's a concept where some women view other women as competition, if you're dressed properly you're probably at an advantage over them or they're just insecure. Honestly screw that, you do you! You know you're looking good so who cares what other women think? Specially if they're giving you nasty/jealous looks.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 09:30 PM
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I'm a woman and when I look at a well dressed woman, it's to appreciate their style that's all. There's nothing malicious about it, at least for me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 03:36 PM
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About the nails, you said you kept them half peeled. I'd suggest no nail polish and trimmed nails, or some sort of gel (stays on longer) because the peeling unkempt look makes you look messy. As for clothes, it really depends on your style and everything, but as someone else said, it depends what feminine means to you. Stay away from coarse fabric like jeans and leather, opt for more flowy clothes and dresses/skirts (with flat shoes, sandals or classy boots but not sneakers). Chose delicate jewe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/24 09:19 PM
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You can always ask questions on things he's well versed in, not to necessarily learn, but to let him show his expertise (it's an ego boost). Things you don't necessarily have an opinion on, or agree with him on.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 12:01 PM
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If he told you to jump off a bridge, would you? It's no excuse. You're still a functioning adult being with a brain, you can make decisions. You can be submissive and still have discernment. You made a bad decision, because he told you to (probably in frustration/in the moment).
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 10:14 PM
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Stop talking shit about your SO to your family and your children. You've wrecked that poor man's reputation. The thing about telling your family and friends about your shortcomings with him is that they will NOT forgive him as easily as you do. That's why you work things out between the both of you before looking for your family for comfort. There are exceptions like domestic abuse, but in this case, it doesn't seem like he has done anything wrong besides a few unkind words and asking you to sla…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/24 09:34 PM
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So YOU slapped your kid that YOU've put against him and it's his fault? Take some accountability, damn... As for how to repair this, grab a book like Fascinating Womanhood. You need to completely change your attitude. You're blaming him for your mistakes, that's not cool.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 09:27 PM
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If he's all about equality, he's telling you who he is. Never go into a relationship if you think you can or will change him. Another thing is that any change will have to start within yourself. If you have a masculine personality, embrace your feminine side BEFORE you expect to be guided by him. In fascinating womanhood, the author says that basically, a man's provider/hero instinct will come out when you have qualities that make him feel like you need to be protected. If you've always done thi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 09:44 AM
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Hello! Welcome! You'll find all that info in the sidebar :)
/r/RedPillWives25/04/24 05:29 PM
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Just a question here: who is in charge of the finances? Like who keeps books? Is it you or him? In fascinating womanhood, they suggest letting the husband set up the budget and pay the bills so he actually knows what goes in and out, realistically.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/24 11:36 AM
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Just saw that! Thanks for pointing it out. They obviously don't have the same goals and seems like she's getting played...
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 06:41 PM
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He could've taken it as you trying to pressure him into saying it back. I'd keep behaving as usual and not make it a big issue right now as so that he doesn't feel pressure to say it. He might just need some time to say it back, it might make him think about what he feels, who knows how it will play out. There's no way for us to know what's going through his mind. Disclaimer: I didn't date with a RP dynamic in mind so take my advice with a grain of salt.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 09:53 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear you feel unhappy. Maybe you should take a break from the IVF and some time off work and go on a little vacation with your husband. It does sound like you might be in the beginnings of depression as well so maybe a therapist could help with coping mechanisms.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 07:39 AM
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He doesn't need religion or weed, he needs to see a therapist so he can manage his mental health properly. That should be his top 1 priority. I also feel like you're not in the head space to look at this situation objectively. You talk about how he deserves love, well when you love someone and they're sick, you take them to the doctor. Have you suggested this already and what was his reaction to going to a therapy?
/r/RedPillWives16/04/24 10:13 PM
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My husband is an amazing cook and it brings him so much joy, so I let him do his thing. Alternatively, I bake, do the grocery shopping (he says what he wants to eat and I buy the things he needs) and wash the dishes/clean up. I'll also assist him by handing him cleaned veggies or anything he might need. I always make sure to compliment him extensively because he does such a great job and I'm so grateful he's taken that burden from me. I do still cook often when he doesn't feel like it, and somet…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/24 07:17 PM
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Yeah I agree with you! In your case, you adapted to your partner, which is what I'm doing also. But I do notice I have taken a pretty aggressive approach to life in general, specially after working as a manager, and being an opiniated hard-core power woman. I'm done with that, I want to stop fighting the world, and I just want to not stress about everything (it's hard to turn off that constant mind grind when you've lived it for pretty much all your life). I want to be his little lady, and as I …
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/24 07:00 PM
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I love that for both of you :) and sure, it takes time but it is so worth it!! Compassion is definitely a game changer, especially if you have high expectations of a man who is no more, no less than a complex human being with his own up and downs.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/24 05:00 AM
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Women set the mood in the relationship. She needs to stop nagging and start showing him some love. He needs to feel respected and accepted so he's motivated to do better for the woman he loves. That's like step 1 in every book I've read so far, specially in Fascinating Womanhood. Why assume he's too comfortable, why assume the worst about him? All of that based off on her assumptions and views on the situation? It's way too easy to base ourselves off of what she's saying, she left out all the wo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/24 04:55 AM
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Girl, just accept him as he is. You can't change him, only yourself. If you married him, you obviously saw something positive in him. Go back to those qualities and admire him. He probably feels he can't talk or breathe at home without WW3 breaking. How can he want to have sex if he's afraid of disappointing you? Why would he keep working out if he can't do it enough for you? What I'm reading here is: husband does all he can to please wife, but wife doesn't value any it, so husband becomes depre…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/24 07:32 PM
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Great suggestions! I will add them to my to-read. Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 09:41 PM
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Great, thank you! I already had both in my to read list. I'll start there :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 08:05 PM
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My opinion is to let him pay for the meals so he's not embarrassed that people will think he's not footing the bill, but if you want to give back, you can buy him small thoughtful gifts so you're spending some money on him, if you feel that would even it out a bit. Even if my husband and I have joint bank accounts, whenever it's time to pay and we're together, if I'm the one carrying our debit card I give it to him and let him do his man provider thing. Edit: setting the precedent and learning t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 08:29 PM
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Yeah, gotta start somewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 08:59 PM
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Uhhhhh I love this, exciting!!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 09:36 PM
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Dunno much about that but my sisters and I are lil rascals to each other when we bicker even if we love each other, and gosh do we annoy each other sometimes haha but you can't compare siblings dynamic with partners dynamic. It's completely different. Repeated behavior is not the same thing as a one time thing either. If you forgive someone and they keep doing it, were they ever sorry in the first place? But again, if your partner is the typical man (not an abuser or narcissist), that shouldn't …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 04:13 PM
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Our partners behaviors will most often reflect ours. A man that respects you will not call you stupid out of the blue. On the other hand, if he somehow loses his cool and calls you a name, a simple "ouch" or telling him that was painful to hear, should be enough to get an apology. Now I've decided to embrace submission to my husband not in the sense that I'm a doormat, but in the sense that I prioritize his needs and do unto him what I want him to do unto me - love, appreciation, respect, forgiv…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 03:50 PM
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I don't have any advice as I wasn't following these ideas when I got engaged myself, but I wanted to congratulate you for that exciting new step! And one thing is for sure, keep doing what you've been doing because it's working 😁 as for specific advice, I'll let someone more knowledgeable give you the right one. Congratulations once more, so exciting!!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 12:01 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 07:36 AM
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Thank you! And I can see what you mean, and I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 07:36 AM
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Oh I just read your history to see what else could be going on and yeah, the swinger thing is pretty much of a big deal. It seems it's not that he doesn't want you anymore, he just can't get you to get drunk while your pregnant OR you're refusing to indulge into his kink which is completely fine btw in this case since it involves other people/monogamy issues. I don't have experience in situations that envolve swinging so I can't really advise you more. But there's definitely more to this than wh…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 07:17 PM
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First of all, congratulations on the pregnancy!! My thought about the pregnancy is that he simply might be afraid to hurt you or the baby, even if it's safe to have sex. I understand his fears. Unfortunately, if he really finds your unattractive because of being pregnant, that's not a thing you can change. Wait until baby is here and when you're ready, slowly work your body back to what makes you comfortable. As for second guessing you on the running and such, again it sounds to me like he's wor…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 06:26 PM
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Girl I just read your post and I love all that you've got going on for you as well. It really feels so good, right? To know we're making a positive difference in their lives :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 04:59 PM
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It's so true!! I never expected such a drastic change in both of us.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 04:48 PM
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Thank you! Good luck with your husband!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 04:46 PM
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Absolutely, and I see that now. I was always focused on my needs, but now that I look back on some of my attitudes and behaviors, I understand I was being selfish and asking for something I wasn't giving him in the first place (even if I thought I was, it was an eye opener to read the book). It feels amazing, I can't wait to learn more and see where all of this will take us :) I'll do my best moving forward!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 04:21 PM
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Thank you 🙏 it's a blessing
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 12:49 PM
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