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SELF IMPROVEMENTMiserable-Read7597/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 05:24 PM
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DISCUSSIONMiserable-Read7597/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 04:08 AM
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ADVICEMiserable-Read7597/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 05:29 AM
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Yeah…definitely, a red flag to hide and become angry.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 02:56 PM
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I really respect your willingness to work through the issues in your relationship. The reality is about 50% of relationships experience infidelity. So, the answer is not always to leave. If you and your partner are willing to put the work in, it could be salvaged (about 25% of the time). As I’m reading your post, I see you’re doing a lot of things to cope with these tough emotions. Do you have an outlet (i.e., therapist/journal) to truly express your anger or hurt? Not necessarily to him, but fo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 01:27 AM
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he’s not serious about you. Get some other options.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 08:42 PM
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I think it’s best to have a conversation with him about how this makes you feel. It’s important to have someone who is sure about you and willing to commit. After a year, it seems like you two are at a crossroads.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 01:27 PM
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If cheating is a dealbreaker for you and you’ve moved on emotionally, you should definitely leave your ex.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/23 02:07 AM
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So you and your ex were cheating on each other. You broke up with him and are moving on with this new man? Based on the research, relationships that started with an affair partner have a low survival rate. You of course can choose to still date your affair partner. It’s your life and your choice. If you are financially able, it would be most appropriate and wise to move in on your own. In my own experience, it’s best to begin a relationship from a place of health and wholeness, not chaos. Please…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/23 10:05 PM
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Yes!! I experienced the same with my ex. This is so common. I read infidelity can cause ptsd like symptoms like these intrusive images that happen over and over. The one thing that helped me was journaling about all the crazy stuff that was going through my mind and not avoid it. Sounds counterintuitive but it came to pass after a week or so. I think it’s so painful to experience cheating and betrayal, our minds keep bringing these images up to try to make sense of it all. It’s so heartbreaking …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 06:56 PM
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I‘ve gone through the same thing! I know how hard that is. I’m glad you listened to your intuition and found out a year in to the relationship and not several years in. It’s his character flaw. It takes a lot to cheat, lie, deceive, hide and manipulate. You lost nothing. Take some time and heal. Get into a good routine. I like to listen to audiobooks and podcasts to keep my mind busy and to stay learning.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 01:21 PM
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Agree with this point. Treat it as a yellow or red flag. Insecurity can manifest in ugly ways in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 09:27 AM
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Any changes in his behavior or level of consistency when away?
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 09:10 PM
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getting enough sleep physical activity daily routine with (reading? or something enjoyable) therapy can help you close this chapter & not take any negativity with you
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 03:14 AM
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I love that. Your mom sounds lovely.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:33 AM
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yes yes 🙏🏾
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:30 AM
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Very good point! Thank you for being open. I noticed a slight forehead wrinkle and freaked out lol. I’m grateful for the shift in things people value as they age too
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:29 AM
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Love this! Thank you for sharing. I notice a lot of women who value fitness age beautifully
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 02:24 AM
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Wow! love this 💗 thanks for sharing her wisdom with us
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 07:27 PM
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I would recommend consulting with multiple doctors to determine minor (or the most minimal) tweaks that could help with your appearance. Research and invest in a really great surgeon. Please keep in mind possible negatives like tissue death, infections, healing times being delayed. Try to find positive features about yourself that you like and change your self-talk about your appearance. I say this because surgery was not a cure for insecurity. It also won’t magically make you more feminine. Tho…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 02:02 PM
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dental hygienist? 1.5 years plus an exam and 65-85k a year for salary. Administrative, customer service, or support staff in a school or hospitals are great "no school needed" options. It's never too late to invest in yourself educationally or otherwise! Get a solid fitness routine and start reading books on personal development...you'll be in a relationship in no time!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 04:51 PM
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Read the Surrendered Single! Someone in this sub recommended it to me. I read and took the advice and my husband found me 6 months later ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 12:02 AM
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Vulnerability I have practiced with people closest to me and that I am comfortable with first. So practicing sharing parts of my story and also how it made me into who I am. Also, how what I’ve been through has made me passionate about certain things (e.g. being a good/mentally well mom, etc.)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 11:17 PM
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I can relate to your post so much. I’ve found talking to others at work, practicing small talk, saying hello to others as I’m walking into work helpful. For more pleasant social interactions, I smile more. Try to keep the conversation positive. For example, saying I love doing x or have you ever eaten at x…it’s so great. Asking the person questions and being curious. Connections can form from those shared interests. Invitations to hang out outside of work happen naturally. The more I practice, t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 11:15 PM
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Thank you so much. I actually tried this and my boyfriend responded to it well :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 01:35 AM
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Thank you so much for this. saving your comment :) I’ll take some time for myself and journal a bit. Aw! yes LDRs are tough but you’re right it’s so worth it w the right person
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 02:53 AM
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ooh awesome! I’ll read. Thanks ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 03:19 AM
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I started feeling this way about 1-2 weeks ago. He has been doing those things out of kindness for over a 1 year. So completely separate. They’re not accommodations. He’s just a great guy
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 03:18 AM
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Thank you! I’m in therapy. This post more so came from being self aware and wanting to check myself early on. I had a hard time “shaking this” and wanted to know if anyone had any advice that’s helped them in the past. I appreciate your words. Therapists are great, but I needed some real (brutal) honesty on this…so I posted here lol. But, I haven’t been accusatory in any way. I wanted to go through his phone but resisted…cause it’s just not healthy and opens up a whole new can of worms. so that …
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 11:18 PM
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No no no….I should clarify. I didn’t request these things bc of my insecurity. He has just done these things without me asking or mentioning. I was giving those examples to show how great he is. & I wanted to go through his phone, but I didn’t. I check myself on that. I absolutely realize he doesn’t deserve to be controlled and deal with toxicity. This is more me sharing that sometimes these thoughts come across my mind and I want to PREVENT being crazy and controlling. But that’s a good point a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 11:09 PM
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😂 oh my! it was mutual. He wanted to make sure when we’re out separately I made it home safely. So he shared his too just because. I definitely don’t require that lol
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 11:04 PM
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That’s true! This response hit the nail on the head & made things “click for me” I felt I was getting a little too caught up in my head so rather than doing that…I needed to reach out for some solid advice. Thanks for this!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 10:59 PM
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To clarify, we mutually talked about sharing locations and he chooses to call me often. I didn’t request those actions because of trust issues. In no way have I punished him. I started feeling this way about 1-2 weeks ago. He has been doing those things out of kindness for over a 1 year. So completely separate. He’s just a great guy
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 10:53 PM
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thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think you are right to focus more on myself. I have been focused more on his actions and our relationship. I have struggled with codependency in the past, I’ll definitely reread the Beattie book. I’ve always been the girl to ‘lose myself in a relationship’
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 10:48 PM
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Congratulations ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 05:30 AM
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Good point with the Inositol. Some people are prescribed Ozempic to help with weight loss as well.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 11:11 PM
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Thanks for sharing this. So honest. I have definitely been there from getting fit-then becoming depressed- and then back to square one. One thing that has helped me tremendously is minimizing looking at the scale. Now, I have a scale that sends my weight to an app that tracks and graphs my progress. So I can check my “average” weight over the course of 1 week rather than daily. Something that I’ve tried is to challenge my own belief that “weight lost = success.” For me being consistent, valuing …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 11:09 PM
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Definitely the gym!
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 09:28 PM
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How does he act when you set boundaries? or express you’re not comfortable with something? Make any small critiques about your appearance?….all controlling behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 03:59 AM
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Ok, sounds good! Best wishes
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 05:54 AM
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To echo some of the great comments above…i always have followed the rule: don’t do legs and cleavage. Don’t put everything on the table at once. Make sure your clothing shows your shape, but is not suffocatingly tight. Never underestimate what slipping on a pair of heels with a dress or even jeans can do. Feminine earrings and perfume Look up silhouettes that are flattering to your body type Take pictures in outfits as you try them on & look back at them later with fresh eyes to see how you like…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 05:30 AM
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I have definitely been someone who has been attracted to status, confidence, and security. A lot of times for men those qualities comes with age. In this day and age having those “luxury” experiences are sought after by women due to social media. So, who knows how genuine the attraction is. As i have gotten older I have come to value a man’s kindness, character, and his treatment of me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 03:37 PM
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I agree with the comments above. Research shows diet change is the most important factor for losing weight while exercise is great for maintaining weight lost. Seeing a nutritionist can help as well. Especially for figuring out healthy meals you will enjoy long-term & managing eating out while keeping your healthy eating habits. Im in the U.S. I have Blue Cross Blue Shield for health insurance and they offer apps for weight management for free. My favorite has been the Omada app. So that could b…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 03:22 PM
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👏🏾 as a therapist I wish I could tell so many people this. Things may happen to us but we’re in control of how it affects us. The choice to remain the victim will take years off of your life. We have to make the decision that others’ b.s. won’t define us. Receive the help to address the emotional neglect you’ve experienced and go get the husband and family you desire! ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 02:32 AM
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Adult children of emotionally immature parents is a great book/place to start
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 02:21 AM
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Attraction can definitely develop over time, with more of an emotional connection. A woman’s influence on a man’s appearance, style, health can also be considerable. I think it’s important to consider the valuable long-term qualities and be open to guys that are not necessarily your type (but are still good looking).
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 02:18 AM
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Occasionally brush teeth with baking soda to make them whiter. Vaseline on lips and use a soft toothbrush to gently scrub. Wipe clean…softest lips ever. Retin-A (derm prescribed) for wrinkles and acne Start exfoliating shaven areas (for about 30 seconds per area) a couple days after hair removal to prevent ingrowns Practice good posture. Put lotion then oil on feet. Put on a pair of socks for a few hours to soften feet.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 04:05 AM
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Your last sentence! 👏It’s so frustrating when people live in misery and don’t see how they are keeping themselves in the same cycle. Great suggestions to build up her self-esteem 💛 I’ll definitely try those things
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 03:41 AM
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Wow! The rewriting the trauma piece is so accurate. Her traumatic experience was on a date. So, that’s likely true. Thank you. I’m hoping that rings a bell for her too when it’s the right time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 03:38 AM
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