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Not that we are particularly frugal, but we both have excellent credit scores and no debt aside from our shared mortgage. Our friends who all have recently purchased homes as well were a little skeptical about our first home, as it is not a starter home by any means, but it was a priority for us. We don’t drive new cars, we don’t have designer wardrobes, I rarely wear expensive makeup, and we usually pack our lunches.The things we do aren’t really sacrifices, just our lifestyle that we naturally…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 10:15 AM
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this was a really fun read, thanks for sharing this story! this certainly shows some red pill truths in action.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 02:07 AM
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early 20s wife/mama/registered nurse here with some input. firstly, you’re amazing for going the hard path of becoming a physician and I commend you for that alone. RNs have it quite a bit easier as far as flexible scheduling, so I will never fully know you struggle as a MD/DO. what i do know is that I have met a 3rd year ED resident in the lactation room in the hospital who is married and has a child under 1 year old! So it’s possible but from what she was saying, very challenging. I would agre…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 04:17 AM
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That’s a great point, although my messiness has been an ongoing issue even in the apartment. He definitely didn’t want to spend as much as we did on the house, but ultimately it was his decision. I stopped going with him and the realtor to look at houses because he was being so picky. After talking with him a little about it, I think my income is bringing a lifestyle he’s not accustomed to/comfortable with yet so to speak. He’s said to me: “I’ve never lived in such a nice house. It doesn’t feel …
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 03:39 AM
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I ended up bringing it up to him and he said “bad housewife” may have been a poor choice of words but I definitely am not good with household chores or general neatness. I think he’s becoming agreeable to the outsourcing which should help a great deal! I still will have to work on picking up after myself as I go but having another set of hands cant hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 03:13 AM
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this comment is SO spot on!!!! funnily enough, I have started the one habit at a time idea already. My first habit was putting shoes away when coming in the door. I bought a nice bin and that habit has really stuck! Then I asked my husband to pick one habit he wished he could change and he said no clothes in a pile on the floor. I haven’t been 100% about this yet but i’m getting closer everyday. This comment is a great reinforcement and reminder to trust the process! I’m hoping these things beco…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 03:10 AM
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it’s so hard to keep emotion out of it!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 01:10 PM
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I’m fairly lucky so far and can get about 5 hours on days I work. Hubby works 4am-12pm so I can sleep once he’s home and when the baby naps. Plus my mom helps out on weekends while he works. I know most night shifters have it worse than I do so I can’t complain. I like your phrasing there. That’s a great goal not to put things off until “after”, because inevitably something else will pop up.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 02:41 AM
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smart thinking! we have an insta pot, so one pot should equal one mess... in theory. I’ll try this!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 02:19 AM
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I’ve been told cleaning up after me is a full time job! All jokes aside, how do I tactfully bring this point up? He doesn’t see our son like a full time job. Baby naps a lot for long periods still and can somewhat play well by himself in his play area, but we treat that downtime differently: For example: my husband will get things done around the house, pay bills, or what not while baby sleeps. So when I come home or wake up, I have to either microwave something I cooked the day before or go get…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 12:26 AM
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When I’ve asked for specifics, it’s usually something like: not putting water glasses away before getting a new one, messy kitchen when I cook, leaving towels in random places after showering or bathing the baby... I could go on. Basically things that, I’m told, most people do without being asked. I’m a little scatter brained so I don’t get things done like I should I guess. I think you hit the nail on the head with that last statement. Each time I make an improvement the bar is set higher with …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 12:11 AM
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This validates the feelings I get sometimes, thank you. I know he’s stressed out as much as I am but i think we handle it very differently.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 11:06 PM
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I do agree to an extent. I recognize that I am messy and have made huge strides to improve this trait. I feel like I don’t have the hours in the day to get everything done and our priorities are very different. For example, when we’re both home I’m looking after the baby in addition to whatever I’m trying to get done, which is usually dinner. Sometimes I leave a couple utensils out in the process or some spices spill on the counter. I’m more concerned about getting it made and the baby happy in …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 11:01 PM
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very true!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 10:54 PM
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I’ve asked him about it before, he says he’s okay with it but I suppose that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true. I figured that since he was raised by a single mom who made more money than his step dad once she remarried, he was more open to this dynamic than most guys. I’ve thought about it before and I just don’t have it in me to be a stay at home mom. I worked very hard to graduate nursing school after having a baby on christmas break, got hired to my job at 39 weeks pregnant, and still someh…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 10:54 PM
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yes i agree with you, but my comment may have been unclear haha.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 10:40 PM
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I have used the “ouch” approach before but maybe I used it in too minor of situations and it made me look overly sensitive. I’m going to try it again! The maid idea is looking better and better to me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 04:00 PM
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I’m not really sure either but I appreciate your emotional support! ;) your username works perfectly for replying to mine, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 03:58 PM
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That’s a great point and I’ve brought it up to him as well but we rely on my income especially with the new mortgage. He says that he feels like he’s picking up after me and doing all the work whereas I feel we have a division of labor that works to our strengths. How can I better explain my feelings? I feel like my phrasing is off.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 03:37 PM
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I always tell him that a baby is a full time job for many people! Thank you for this comment, I was worried that there was some secret to doing it all that I wasn’t clued in on yet. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 02:47 PM
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I’ve brought up the maid idea before but he originally said it would make our son messy like me because I grew up with maids doing weekly cleaning. I think he may be more open to it now because his cousin is looking to make extra money and mentioned working for us! Thank you, I think I do put high standards on myself sometimes in addition to my husband’s expectations. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 02:45 PM
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I wear mostly nothing, maybe a t shirt and underwear, but that's because it's still so hot out where we live and i'm too pregnant to get dressed unless i have someplace to be! I don't wear makeup unless we go out either. I'm interested to read what other gals do!
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 03:27 PM
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It's up to you if you want to disobey/upset your grandmother in this situation. I won't advise you either way on this issue but I can give some non-technological suggestions if you truly can't talk to him per grandma's rules. When my fiancé was away for a month on military orders I wrote him a "daily devotional" styled book to read each morning. I had the date at the top and a heartwarming message on the page. I included a wallet sized picture of myself as the bookmark so he could keep track of …
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 09:34 PM
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"I really appreciate all that you do for me." "I've noticed how hard you've been working lately and I wanted you to know how proud I am to stand by you." "I really respect that. It takes guts to [insert act here]." Men want to be appreciated for the things they accomplish or how hard they're working toward something.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 01:32 PM
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Thanks, I like that one too! It's like my mom always says: "A year is going to pass whether you're do something about it or not. Where do you want to be in another year?" Even though I haven't told her about this yet, I'm sure she'll say it when I do!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 08:39 PM
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thank you! Complaining while still expressing needs, I like that goal. I'm going to aim for that too.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 12:59 PM
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Yes. I've just double checked and the last two clinicals I need that the accelerated program does in December and January are offered to the traditional students during the spring semester. I'll definitely be talking to my advisor about this in a month or two.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 09:17 AM
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That's a tough situation and sticking up for yourself is hard. I hope I'm able to channel that gumption! I know students and CNAs really get put through a lot; many of my coworkers worked up until their due dates as well so at least they'll understand. The professors are going to be a lot harder to stand up against but it is, like you said, an absolute must!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:35 AM
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That's reassuring! My clinicals are 3 days a week (8 hours a day) so I'm hoping I'll be fine at least up to December then as long as everything is routine. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:18 AM
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That sounds awful! I've only had a couple moments of nausea and I haven't actually throw up yet, but I'm sure I'm jinxing myself now. I think that's great advice though. I'm a debbie downer sometimes, at school especially, but particularly since I am choosing this difficult journey I need to remember not to take it out on anyone else. Asking for help is definitely gonna be a tough one for me. Recognizing and admitting my own weaknesses may just be the first step!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:01 AM
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Yes this is the tricky part! I'm finishing up the hardest semester now. It's just clinicals, a couple online, and some seminar classes from here on out. Not that it'll be easy but my days won't be the 12-16 hours of class/lab/studying/work that I am doing now every day. I'm due just before Christmas and technically we should've been on break before that but they're throwing in a rotation then but due to the nature of the setting I'm thinking we'll have some time off for Christmas. Hopefully my p…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:54 AM
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i'm so happy you responded since we have a similar work/school background! I plan on telling the administration and instructors in the nursing department probably in August before Fall clinicals start. I'm due late December. Hopefully since it's my first child, I go past the due date a few days and (health permitting) I'll be able to come back after the holidays when we start the last clinical in January. Should this plan not work, I'll discuss the option of graduating with the traditional BSN s…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:48 AM
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thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 02:34 AM
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I bet we have seen some shit! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:30 PM
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I'm a nurse's aide and in school to be a registered nurse. I think what that says about me is that nothing grosses me out and I am a people person. My SO is a custom welder and in the national guard. He works hard, is a visual/kinesthetic problem solver, and is able to wake up at ungodly hours. We are both extremely busy and motivated people, which is what brings us together.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 12:21 PM
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Your friend could be onto something with the no phone thing. I once left my phone in my car before a 6 hour school function without texting my SO yet that day. Much to my surprise my guy texted and emailed me to ask if my phone was broken/I was okay! He's a pretty big talker/texter for a guy but it still felt very freeing not to think about my phone at all. In my past relationships I definitely had clinginess issues but now I'm in school and working part time so I'm gone 12 hours a day during th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 09:47 AM
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My high school relationship ended just before my third year of college because I realized I didn't want to live "happily ever after" with someone who did everything I said but couldn't make a decision for himself. I began chasing after the kind of guys who never listen to anyone which also did not work for me. Then I found TRP and RPW: I realized a beta personality would never make me happy, but that my aggressive personality was not tolerated by the alpha guys I liked so much. I realized that I…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 09:18 AM
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Sounds like you're in love! :) I introduced my SO to my parents when I was staying at their house for the weekend. (SO & parents live in the same town, I am about an hour away) He was picking me up for a date about a month and a half into the relationship. He said hello, brought flowers for my mom, and then whisked me away. It was easy! When I met his parents it was a bit more intimidating as we went together to their house (about 5 hours away) for the weekend. It was the first trip we took as a…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/17 12:15 AM
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Sometimes I like to get fancy in the kitchen, but my favorite things are super easy (recipe-less) recipes!!! Breakfast: Sausage gravy pound of uncooked pork sausage (this will not work with turkey sausage or another lean sausage. the key ingredient is the fat!) flour milk Brown the sausage in a large skillet. Once it is browned, start adding flour until all the fat is soaked up. (it will be very thick and look like a paste/dough consistency) Then stir in some milk to reach your desired consisten…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 12:20 AM
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Yes that situation would seem more frustrating to me too than just leaving short term and coming back. From watching my mom during my dads deployments/time in the field, I can tell it takes a lot of strength. I was never really sure if I would be cut out for it myself but sometimes you just have to dive in and believe in yourself when you meet someone worth it! Haha thank you, that is the ultimate goal!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 04:28 PM
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BLC is the basic leader course for enlisted army to become noncommissioned officers.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 04:19 PM
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welcome (officially) to the sub! What you said about communicating is definitely going to be key. I think going to the gym is something I need to get back into doing as well and that's a great suggestion. great first comment I can't wait to see more from you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 12:59 AM
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yes yes! that's definitely the plan. :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 12:56 AM
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Those look really tasty!!! Thanks for the recommendations. Yes, the precision is what gets me every time. Cooking is an art but baking is a science!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 03:34 PM
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I've always thought the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach! I like cooking and can manage that pretty well, but baking is another story. Any tips for easy desserts?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 05:39 AM
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Hmm... that may be tricky since he lives in a small town with mostly just pizza places and he's very strict about eating healthy during the week. He did enjoy when I brought ingredients to cook for him on the weekend and put the leftovers in his fridge. Maybe I could do that again?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 01:45 AM
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So far so good!!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 01:37 AM
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Thanks! I'm happy that I took a step in this direction.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 05:09 PM
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Even though I'm not married, I read both! While The Surrendered Wife has a lot of stuff that can be applied to LTRs, I found that The Surrendered Single had a lot of good information for taking your relationship to the next level. For example, she write in detail about waiting on the proposal and accepting that you can not control it! You can clearly express your desire to be married but then you gotta let it go and be patient.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 12:32 PM
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I just finished reading The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine MD. It highlights the differences between men and women in an easier to swallow pill. Everything she writes is based off her practice as a psychiatrist and she really gets into the physiology of it all when highlighting the biological differences between men and women. Even if your wife isn't interested in reading it, you could always read it to better understand her. I'm not sure how I would present a book to her if you're hoping to …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 03:59 PM
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Yay! That's awesome! I also love to sew and have done this before I ever knew what RPW was. Definitely a feminine act of service and I'm sure your man appreciated it. I'm in a new relationship and we do not live together, but when I stay at his place my SO loves to cook for me. I'll offer to help him cook ("Would you like me to help?"); he may ask me to chop vegetables or just sit down and wait for him (he's in the zone!) As soon as we finish eating I'll gather our plates/silverware and wash the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 04:20 PM
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I updated the post now, but he just meant work was not fun. I was totally overthinking everything regarding this post but I'm glad I let out the overthinking anonymously over the internet instead of getting on his nerves about it!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 04:06 PM
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I agree so much with this! That's why I don't prefer texting but we work opposite hours so it's something to hold us over until we can talk on the phone or meet up.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 03:59 PM
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I think in the beginning when you're vetting the guy it's not a bad strategy but after he committed I think i should've started initiating too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 03:30 PM
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The advice I gave is canon with RPW (not TRP). This is a site for discussing FEMALE sexual strategy. You ARE in fact attacking me if you are replying to the only other post I've made, which was 19 days ago.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 03:12 AM
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Putting aside your unfounded assumptions about me, I can see your advice has a piece of truth to it. "Allow yourself to be loving or vulnerable to someone who has (apparently) been straight forward and respectful of you". Calling me a self-absorbed little brat because I wanted advice about what I should do to fix my slip up is not constructive. If that was actually true I would not have been so worried about how I made him feel to post this in the first place. Do you also make fun of fat people …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 03:05 AM
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Yes, I was worried that had already happened! I called him to clarify everything and he was not upset with me at all. He was actually concerned that I was being too hard on myself and worried about me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 12:58 AM
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Thank you so much for this comment! I took your advice, I called him, and (you were right) work sucked today. As soon as he answered it was clear that the issue was not with me at all and he didn't mean anything by it. In the future I won't be so quick to assume the negative, that's really great advice! :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 12:54 AM
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Yes I definitely feel the same way, just hoping it's not too good to be true.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 12:43 AM
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Should I call him? So far I have stuck strictly to waiting for him to initiate contact, but he has asked me why I don't reach out to him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 11:25 PM
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My policy is not to initiate conversation over text or phone unless I have a specific reason. For example, I've sent a "good luck with your interview today!" text first thing in the morning but I wouldn't just call to say Hi or send a good morning text. As for making plans, I never initiate planning a date or meeting up. Patience is a virtue in this method because sometimes you wait a little longer than you wanted. Like many have already said: when the man makes no effort at all to make plans, d…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 07:22 PM
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