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Sure, but that also implies that this successful man isn't working on his dating life. You can be highly successful in multiple areas in your life, but that doesn't magically mean you'll be good at speaking with women. You have to practice and put yourself out there to develop your dating life
/r/seduction26/01/25 09:52 PM
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It really isn't. Ultimately, his advice is to have an abundance mindset as opposed to a scarcity mindset. Guys who focus on 1 girl usually tend to put them on a pedestal. I've seen it. I've done it before myself. One of the best thing a guy can do is have options. Especially in the dating phase. There is nothing at all wrong with his advice.
/r/seduction26/01/25 09:49 PM
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I am really disappointed by the comments here, and the state of this subreddit in general. Not a single real response to his question. OP, my advice is to bring a friend with you and have him observe you. You not doing anything extremely wrong when you are approaching and interacting with women. So that implies you're doing something subtle, or something you yourself are not aware of. So bring a friend and have him watch you interact with these women and see if he can pick up on some things that…
/r/seduction12/01/25 06:50 PM
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Wow, I think you really hit it in the nail dude. At least for me. Mist of my issues never really stemmed from comparing myself to others. It stemmed from where I am or who I am, compared to what I knew I could be, or what I knew I could do. What's helped me was setting daily tasks that I did everyday that in some way shape or form was related to where I wanted to get to. When you're constantly working towards where/what you want to be, you are already there. Your future self is the result of his…
/r/seduction19/06/24 02:10 PM
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Agreed.
/r/seduction01/11/22 11:08 PM
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I didn't even think you were gay until you felt the need to bring it up🤣. But seriously, your right. Kissing really is just that: 2 people smashing lips. What really does it for me is doing it with someone I really like. It's the same thing when you eventually start dating a hot girl. They're people, who shit, and fuck up, and have insecurities. Just like us. The issue starts when men begin to put girls on a pedestal. Or when they segment how they interact with women solely on how they look
/r/seduction31/10/22 02:50 PM
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But on a real note, just send her a message. Like you said there's nothing to lose. I don't think the odds are on your favor, but at least this way you're shooting your shot. But get out of the mindset you're in. Yeah, she might be hot, but if you're going in with the attitude you have, you're inevitably going to put her on a pedestal. Finally, you're asking what someone with high value would do. If it was me, I wouldn't really think about what a high value person would do. It's a little meta, b…
/r/seduction27/10/22 02:15 PM
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Send her a dm saying "found you"
/r/seduction27/10/22 01:57 PM
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Bro I live in NYC dude. Which part are you in? I can show you this weekend how easy it is. And I could probably even bet money I could get you laid too. There is absolutely no reason you shouldn't have success getting girls in NY of all places Edit: I also do agree with 80/20 rule. I've seen it work in my business, and it's something you see occuring all the time in the natural world. Where I would disagree with you in the 80/20 would be in what factors puts men in the 20%. I can go on a limb an…
/r/seduction26/10/22 04:42 PM
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False again. I promise I'm not trying to be an asshole. Just trying show you holes in that train of thought. And I'm doing that to help you. There is physically no way for the top 1% of men to handle 100% of the female population. Human population is about 8 billion. Out of that, 4 billion are females. So let's take 4 billion women. 1% of 4 billion is 40 million. You mean to tell me 40 million guys fuck with all 4 billion of women? Now of course these numbers are rough estimates that don't accou…
/r/seduction26/10/22 04:21 PM
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No dude. Just because it's not happening with you doesn't mean it's not happening. Seriously think this through. Girls spend hours in the bathroom putting on makeup. They spent hours finding the right clothes. They spend money to get these clothes and makeup. And you think it's to impress their friends? If they just wanted to have fun with their friends there are simpler and less costly ways to do that. And they do in fact do those other things. My point is that going to the bars, more likely th…
/r/seduction26/10/22 07:00 AM
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Just learn to approach people in groups. That's what I did. Because you're right. Most girls aren't at the bars by themselves. And if they are, chances are higher they're just waiting on someone else. Looking at a group and thinking to yourself "welp, I definitely can't approach her now" is like shooting yourself in the foot. Think about the situation you're in. A girl decided to go to the bar, a social venue. Why? To drink bloody Marys with her friends all night? You really think she put on all…
/r/seduction26/10/22 03:26 AM
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That's not the point. The point isn't really to validate her with compliments. The point is to express interest. And as he said, direct openers are very good for that. The only caveat for that is this: if you're doing it right, indirect openers should also include you expressing interest at some point. As In you start with an indirect opener but at some point in the conversation you should actually say something similar to what you would say as a "direct opener. Direct openers are good for begin…
/r/seduction26/10/22 03:03 AM
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Can confirm. My ex fuck buddy literally stained my bed with shit when trying anal. We were both drunk at so I didn't realize until the morning after. She was a 9/10. So again, I can confirm that women do in fact take shits
/r/seduction30/09/22 10:18 PM
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Lmao, everyone thinks they're a comedian now on this subreddit.
/r/seduction29/09/22 09:25 PM
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You really don't understand the misunderstanding? Your definition of texting and mine was different. You really came and left insulting me every step of the way when, after understanding your definition, I agree with you. I can recognize with what you say and how you say it that you have experience with women. Game recognize game. But your ego is ridiculous. You felt like I was attacking you with every comment I made when I just wanted clarification. Like you don't have to use so many logical fa…
/r/seduction21/09/22 04:21 PM
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Absolutely. Girls eat that shit right up. But now we're getting into a completely different topic. Send a girl a Literotica and let me know how that goes though. She's not potentially fucking the guy in the Literotica. It's all fantasy. All masturbation.
/r/seduction21/09/22 04:05 PM
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You're making my point though. They had other ways of gauging your personality. Not just from "letters on a screen". That was literally the point I was trying to make. The first girl (who you haven't met, mind you) had your IG story to go off of. She can create a story in her head of what type of guy you are based on that. I can make the argument that the reason why you guys haven't actually met, aside from her moving, is because you didn't build a strong enough connection with her past texting …
/r/seduction21/09/22 03:52 PM
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So They both were able to gauge your personality from other mediums other than text?🤔
/r/seduction21/09/22 03:35 PM
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Have you ever spoken to or called either of these girls? Have they ever heard your voice?
/r/seduction21/09/22 03:21 PM
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Yeah you can. Literally just send me proof, or even a hypothetical example, or explain a hypothetical scenario. My point is, I believe using text to get a girls pussy wet, build tension, or create a connection is highly ineffective. In comparison to just meeting her face to face (or, hell, just video calling) it's unnecessary to even try. You're saying that that's false, and I just suck at texting. I'm open to be proven wrong, but not unless you're willing to show me compelling proof of your arg…
/r/seduction21/09/22 02:29 PM
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Ok buddy. Give me an example off how that would work. I'm open for a discussion
/r/seduction21/09/22 02:01 PM
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One thing that should be stressed with this response is HIGH INTEREST. And he's absolutely right. I usually wait a couple of months until I know the girl is both highly interested and highly consistent before I start having conversations not directly related to logistics or setting up a date. If she's neither, you're over sharing. This can cause her to lose interest for 2 reasons: 1)You say something stupid or something that turns her off (talking yourself out of the room). 2) You give too much …
/r/seduction21/09/22 07:40 AM
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Be direct. When you're indirect, the girl doesn't really know why you're talking to her. One good example. Imagine this: let's say you're walking out in public and some random dude stops you and starts talking to you. You guys don't talk about anything in particular. It's just seems like he's asking you questions. You'd feel pretty weirded out, right? You'd probably wonder if this guy is selling you something. Or that he's a beggar. Point is, you have no idea what his intentions are. Being direc…
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:19 PM
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Experience, and practice. And an abundance mindset. You probably find a g itl you like and put all your attention on that one girl. That's no good. Never put too much energy and attention on any one girl. Start approaching other girls. Get rejected, get back up. Try again. Get a number. Have her flake. Try again. Get her number. Set up a date. Have it go bad. Try again. Learn from experience (and advice from others. Check out ag hayden, and check out Tay social on YouTube). Get her number. Go on…
/r/seduction01/09/22 06:06 AM
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You guys are all followers. You see 1 comment roasting the OP, and you decide to play along. If you don't know the answer, don't fucking respond. Literally makes no sense. Literally just wasting space with shit post. Disgusting. To answer your question, OP: No I don't know any places. Never been.
/r/seduction31/08/22 06:25 PM
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Hey what's going on. This is going to be kind of long, but I feel like you might be able to take something away from this so please read everything. If nothing else, you can skip over my background and just read the advice portion of this response. Here's a little bit about me before I tell you my advice: Black dude, 6' tall. Lean and athletic. However I'm not really into watching sports (more into playing them). I used to love anime in highschool (I'm still into it now in college but not as muc…
/r/seduction31/08/22 11:25 AM
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That is in fact true. Guys who say "I'm over girls once I've 'won' the prize" are ultimately shooting themselves in the foot. No one wins.
/r/seduction29/08/22 01:11 PM
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I don't doubt that. My whole point is that comparing cold calling to Approaching women are fundamentally different. You're not building sexual attraction with a potential client or lead.
/r/seduction25/08/22 12:49 PM
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No, I run a webdesign business as a marketing consultant.
/r/seduction25/08/22 09:52 AM
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Because it's anecdotal and coincideental to my own experience. I actually get better results with women then sales if we're talking pure numbers
/r/seduction25/08/22 09:50 AM
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I have really good results with cold approach. And I also do sales (I run a business) The idea of comparing sales in business to approaching women is idiotic. For starters, even sales in business is relative. For every 10 cold email I send, I get 2-3 respond backs and at least 1 sale. So from my own experience, if I were to compare sales to women, you can say that I can sleep with about 1 out of 10 women that I approach. I don't know about you, but that's good numbers. That's why it's stupid to …
/r/seduction25/08/22 04:40 AM
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Not just about looks dude. You missed his whole point. A handsome guy who acts like a nerd or dweeb with no confidence WILL turn a girl off. How do I know? I have a twin brother. Identical. He used to get more girls than me. And I always thought it was because he looked better than me. Turns out I was giving a lot of insecure energy. I'm not saying that looks don't play a part in attraction. It does. But the fact that you ONLY mentioned looks in your reply implies that you think it's the most im…
/r/seduction25/08/22 04:11 AM
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This field report is the epitome of what game is: consistency. A lot of guys would have been done by the first 1-2 rejection. You kept pushing and eventually found someone to hookup with. Most guys should be able to hook up with a girl every night they go out if they have decent game. It's really a matter on how many girls you're willing to approach that night. Props for writing all of parts to game, the rejections and the success. The guys who get it will realize that this is what game is all a…
/r/seduction25/08/22 04:03 AM
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Peacocks also don't like gimps
/r/seduction24/08/22 11:49 AM
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It's not even his turn. Dude sounds like an incel.
/r/seduction22/08/22 12:01 PM
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Damn, that sucks homie. Maybe find another therapist
/r/seduction21/08/22 03:56 AM
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They're not anecdotal ramblings dude. All the facts he stated are Statistically true. Men DO die more on the job than women. Men ARE incarcerated at a higher rate than woman. Men ARE more likely to commit suicide than women. Your argument is that women suffer more than men. He gave you a counter argument and stated facts. In return, you're using logical fallacies in response to the facts (which were all true btw. Fact check me) that he gave. If you can't back up your statements with facts or sta…
/r/seduction15/08/22 04:22 PM
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Name checks out. He knows what he's talking about
/r/seduction12/08/22 01:48 AM
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If what you're saying is true, then I would say it's time to find outside help. As in finding a wingman, or even hiring a coach. You need someone who can view your interactions with these girl and will be able to give you constructive criticism. There's obviously SOMETHING wrong. But it could be anything. It could really be the size, or your clothes, but it could just as easily be your verbal or non verbal behavior that you aren't aware of. My point being, getting outside help from someone who c…
/r/seduction20/07/22 03:31 AM
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You're calling my own experience that I experienced bullshit? Ok. Seems like you know me better than I know myself.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:00 PM
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Bro what? Did I not say I'm speaking off of my own experience? Why did you feel so personally attacked by this, buddy
/r/seduction15/07/22 04:47 PM
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I agree but I think you're missing the point of what the real issue is. It's not whether or not 1 shot of alcohol is effective (and as a side note, for someone who is generally anxious, one shot will help them be more social. I'm speaking from my own anecdotal experience, yes, but I A/b tested this with being sober back when I had social anxiety). The issue is relying on alcohol altogether. When I was younger I found out that I was more charismatic when drunk then while sober. So being the young…
/r/seduction15/07/22 03:10 PM
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Do not text her unless it's related to the logistics of the date. I know it feels weird, and I explained the male psychology behind it in another response on your post, but you're in a good spot right now.
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:24 AM
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This. I think the whole idea of "I should text her so she can be comfortable with me and stay interested" is an insecure point of view in male culture. Most of my guy friends make this mistake. The key is really in building high interest the moment you met her in person. If you didn't do that, I'd say the chances of her meeting you is slim regardless of whether or not you text her. The only other exception I've found to this is when a woman have really high interest in you from the getco. Maybe …
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:22 AM
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So one thing no one is pointing out, which I think is the most important mistake you made is this: you didn't fuck her right after making out with her. Making out with someone at the bars doesn't always necessarily mean someone wants to have sex with you. I've had countless make out sessions with both strangers and friends that led nowhere ( because I didn't escalate, or because she wasn't as down to fuck as she seemed). If you don't close with trying to take her back home to fuck her her, you s…
/r/seduction05/07/22 11:37 PM
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But there are also other countermeasures. There is going to be no major changes aside from maybe the first month when some girls will make a stand. But it won't last? Why? Because girls are just as much sexual creatures as guys. There will most likely be more girls on birth control in the tree states, the difference in the amount of people having sex will be negligible compared to a blue state. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there will be girls out there who will use that excuse towards certain gu…
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:39 PM
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These aren't secret dates bud. She's consuming attention from you because her boyfriend can't atm. Will she cheat? Probably. But will she cheat on her boyfriend with you? I'm almost positive she won't. You're giving needy energy.
/r/seduction17/06/22 12:29 AM
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Not only that, but there's something else I've noticed with girls who actually like me and want to see me. Even if they are busy, they will usually offer a counter date. I.e, "hey sorry I can't make it on Tuesday, I have a lot of homework. But what I'm free on Friday". The point I'm trying to make is this, they will make it easy if they actually like you. If they're busy, they will more likely than not offer another date to setup a meetup. If they don't, then I usually take it as disinterest
/r/seduction11/05/22 07:38 AM
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Likewise. Very good book
/r/seduction05/05/22 12:33 AM
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Oh my God bro. That last part was hilarious
/r/seduction04/05/22 08:30 PM
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A book that will help is, unironically called "no more Mr.nice guy by Robert Glover
/r/seduction04/05/22 01:47 PM
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Absolutely, it is for hooking up. But from my experience, starting every date first on a sexual note helps build the foundation to a better relationship if one does develop between the 2. Any relationship that starts from a simply romantic (not including sexual) or even worse, a platonic starting point tend to end in up going no where. Maybe the friend zone. And when it does go somewhere, it grows into a relationship where the other party is with you for a reason other than simply sexual attract…
/r/seduction03/05/22 10:28 AM
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Don't go to the restaurant as a first second or even thrid date, dumdum Lead the conversation and the date. Me personally, I have 2 spots I take a girl on a first date: drinks at my local bar, or drinks at my place.
/r/seduction03/05/22 01:08 AM
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Dude. Don't over think it. Just say something like "hi, stranger" or " hey what's up". And take it from there. Main thing is, you want to setup a date withing the first few text you send her. Don't draw it out. Ask her when she's free this week and set up a date. She will either give you a date, or she'll tell you some stupid excuse. Here's how you know whether or not she actually wants to meet you. So let's say you ask when she's free this week. If she says she's busy all week and that's it, I …
/r/seduction02/05/22 03:13 AM
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Ok bro
/r/seduction30/04/22 04:12 PM
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Whatever you say bud
/r/seduction30/04/22 04:10 PM
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Bullshit. It's easy to be on the outside, and call someone a moron, after the fact once he gets played. But trust me when I say the average girl has way more game (game being the ability to navigate and impose what they want in a relationship) than MOST guys. Most guys will get screwed over (i.e cheating, being a glorified sugar daddy, drama, lack of sex in the relationship, etc). That's because most guys have 0 awareness on how to deal with women. You think it's easy for most guys to turn down …
/r/seduction30/04/22 04:08 PM
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This. In fact, there's an even higher chance for someone to attract the wrong type of girls (i.e gold diggers) if they have money but no game. You'll run into girls who end up gaming you and taking chunks of that wealth. Using your financial situation as an excuse to not practice getting good with girls is a pretty big lapse of judgement. There's really no harm of learning game AND getting your finances up. You just have to manage your time.
/r/seduction30/04/22 12:03 PM
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Maybe you're just messing with girls with smelly vagonas
/r/seduction28/04/22 10:34 PM
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Be creative. I promise you, the chick doesn't really givea fuck if she's feeling you. I've fucked in some of the craziest places.
/r/seduction28/04/22 10:09 PM
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Pretty much this. Anyone I've ever seen get really good with women learn early on that giving a fuck about what others think is detrimental to growth. I'll tell you guys right now. You're going to be seen as a creep sooner or later by someone. It's gonna happen. You're not for everyone. Some people will just not like the way you look. Or your behavior. Or your voice. There will be times when people are put off by you. That's the name of the game with seduction, if you're doing it right (i.e pola…
/r/seduction22/04/22 01:27 PM
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Changed my life. Not even joking
/r/seduction20/04/22 10:05 PM
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Hey man. I'm 90% sure you're suffering from the "nice guy" syndrome. My best advice: Read the book "no more mr.nice guy". We can give you superficial advice but I promise none of it is gonna stick if you dont follow through with it. And you won't go through with it unless you get over your hang ups.
/r/seduction20/04/22 01:39 PM
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I understand how you feel. Guys more or less are used to rejection. Girls tend to be less acclimated to it. But you gotta understand that there's 2 options. Either you wait for something that might never happen, or you try and see what happens by taking a little initiative. Those are the 2 options. Let's say you take the initiative. Anything other than you just placing his arm you will be too try hard. Place his arm and see how he reacts. That might just be the push he needs to take the lead
/r/seduction18/04/22 10:59 PM
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THIS. Girls don't necessarily like assholes. But they'd rather deal with that over a "nice guy" who isn't really a man. Girls like assholes because they're polarizing. They establish a "man to woman" relationship. Like canadian_seductioner said, you can be the qualities that women are attracted to without being toxic. You just have to be a god damn man. confidence in oneself is key. ​ As a side note, I find it very funny how so many inexperienced guys are so confident in their claims on what the…
/r/seduction18/04/22 05:11 PM
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Not a brag post. You only feel that way because it triggered you in some way.
/r/seduction17/04/22 09:36 PM
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I think his point is you're stressing over something that doesn't concern you. Why is the way she's choosing to live her life going to affect you if you're deciding not to engage her? Is it because you don't want other men to get caught in her trap? Rest assured, if a guy can't see her for what she is then he deserves whatever comes his way. And he'll get over it. It really doesn't make sense to stress yourself over someone who you don't have to associate with. Someone who you're aren't fucking,…
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:05 PM
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So short answer is no. But long answer is it depends. Like don't look like a bum, but you absolutely don't need expensive clothes to date. I have 0 clothes that are truly expensive and my body count is pretty high. With that being said still dress well with the clothes you have. As in dont wear pants an and shirts and shoes that simply look awful with each other. Have the different parts of your clothes complement each other
/r/seduction16/04/22 05:01 AM
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Why are you being rude dude?
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:57 AM
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Absolutely. Good choice. There's a quote that goes like this: a girl falling in love with you isn't something that you do to her. A girl falling in love with you is something that the girl does to herself when you're not there. The point is this: in general, the more time you spend together, the more she will tend to take you for granted. And on that same note, the less time and attention you give her, the more she's able to build that feeling of falling in love with you. I mean just look at you…
/r/seduction12/04/22 04:27 PM
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All good man. We've all been there. One general advice is this. If you want to know how attracted a woman is to you, look at what she does (behavior) rather than what she says.
/r/seduction11/04/22 09:26 AM
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Main thing is to get distance. There's this saying "a girl falling love with you isn't something that you do to her. Her falling in love with you is something that happens when you're not there". What I mean by this is that, if you want to milk this as long as you can, practice distance from her. Go a couple of days or even a week without her seeing you. Ontop of that you can even practice witholding sex. As in teasing her more. More foreplay. stopping everything just before you guys fuck and ju…
/r/seduction09/04/22 01:07 AM
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So I'm going to be honest with you. He's not that into you. And it could be anything. But one thing is that it's not because of the hickey. Look at it objectively. It'd be one thing if you guys lost your job because of it, but that didn't happen. There's obviously ways to get around not getting a hickey. For starters, not kissing on the neck. Why would someone straight up just use that as reasoning to not even try to make see what could happen in a relationship. Now let's switch perspectives. I'…
/r/seduction01/04/22 05:02 AM
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No I disagree. You should not text her dude. She left you on read my guy. You could argue that you have nothing to lose, but I would say that's not true. You're giving up some of your self worth when you hit up a girl who's clearly not interested. You're telling her and yourself that ghosting is ok because you don't value yourself enough to know that you can find a girl who will not do that to you. Yes, physically, you have nothing to lose. But internally, you are creating a habit of putting wom…
/r/seduction31/03/22 05:17 PM
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It's a bust bro. Forget about her. But that's the beauty in learning seduction. One of the lessons you learn is to never focus on any one girl in particular. Because let's look at things objectively. If you were extremely interested in someone , would you leave a message on read? Let's look at it from a girls perspective. If she was interested in you, would she leave your message on read. You know the answer, but you want to keep pushing because on some level you have a scarcity mindset. You thi…
/r/seduction31/03/22 05:12 PM
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I approve this comment
/r/seduction30/03/22 03:32 AM
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Couple of things: 1) you got to learn to stop looking for others for validation. Or rather, you have to put what you think of yourself above what anyone else thinks of you. You have to have high value of yourself. You do that and it won't matter what others you think because you know you coming from an authentic place. And some people will be turned on by it, and some people will be turned off, which brings us to my next point 2) Not everyone is going to vibe with you. You'll have some people li…
/r/seduction29/03/22 02:02 PM
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Your call if you want 7. And tbh, it is better to wait until day of (in the morning) to ask. It makes more sense, but in the future have specifics down pack when you ask a girl out via text. Also decide now if you want to pick her up or meet her there. And then tell her you intentions. Don't ask. The main point I'm trying to get you to understand is taking the lead. Don't ask her what you guys should do. Tell her. Not in the fucked up, "your doing this and you have no choice" way But in the " I …
/r/seduction29/03/22 07:17 AM
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My only gripe is that you didn't specify on time. She gave you 4 or 5, and you were basically like "yep yep". So here's what you don't do. Don't ask her what time works for her. Don't let her decide. Pick a time after 5. Like 6. And do it as soon as you can. Don't wait until the day of at 4.
/r/seduction29/03/22 07:07 AM
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Part 3: Conclusion: the hard part is technically over. From your post, you already have the ability to attract girls via online dating. So getting a date shouldn't be hard. And to answer another concern you have, I don't think you're ugly. Online dating is inherently a superficial place. The only real info girls have of you is some bio, but mainly your pictures. If you're getting girls to match with you and are having them go on dates with you, that's an indicator to you that you're appealing en…
/r/seduction29/03/22 12:55 AM
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Part 2: Step 3: Polarize her If the girl already has very high interest in you(i.e showing sexual interest, i.e playing with her hair, touching, flirting with you), then step 2 is enough. You don't have to over do it. In fact, you should also get into the habit of always doing the bare minimum. As in dont over do anything. Only speak enough to get a point across. And if there's something you can get across with just your facial expression, do that. I digress. The point is, have a regular convers…
/r/seduction29/03/22 12:54 AM
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Hey bud, my post was to long so I'm going to split it up to 3 parts to satisfy the post limit. Also will send it to you via chat just in case the order gets mixed up with others replying to it. Part 1: I feel for you brother. And I also respect you. Because you did what most people on here who complains don't: you actually put yourself out there. You have a sample size of experiences. You've been on 25 dates. I've even been on 25 "official dates". But I have slept with over 40 women so far. I'm …
/r/seduction29/03/22 12:54 AM
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1) always listen to what a girl does, not necessarily what she says. 2) Most girls, touch, kiss, and fuck on the 1st night. The majority. It's just that they don't do that to YOU. One girl could be telling you that she doesn't kiss on the first date, when yesterday around the same time she just finished sucking some dudes dick. If a girl isn't allowing you to touch her or escalate, it tells you she isn't attracted to you. if she's trying to act like a good girl (or even worse, you get that respo…
/r/seduction28/03/22 10:42 PM
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Please bro, don't use this subreddit for advice and help on seduction. 80% of them are just as lost as you are, and they are usually the loudest. Send me a pm and I'll send 3 YouTubers that I can swear by that will set you on the right path
/r/seduction28/03/22 12:45 AM
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He's talking about abundance mindset. For example, I'm learning how to ride this eBoard called the one wheel. When I first started, I was ass. But what I didn't do was get on it, fall on my ass, and decided that this thing just isn't possible to ride. I got back on and tried again. And I fell. Then tried again. Then fell. Then tried again. Until I was able to stand. Next I tried to ride a little. Same thing. Fell, get up, rinse repeat. My point is that there were no limits to how many time I dec…
/r/seduction27/03/22 04:34 PM
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Simple mathmatics
/r/seduction27/03/22 04:22 PM
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The main issue is just whether or not she will give you accurate feedback. On top of that, she's just one person who has who own taste of what turns her on. Thirdly, she's married. If you're turning her on, and she's letting you do it, how would the husband feel about. Not that it matters to you what he thinks, but you're indirectly going to affect their relationship if you do end up turning her on. She might end up ending things with you out of respect to her husband. Finally, un- ironically as…
/r/seduction26/03/22 07:05 PM
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That's what it boils down to. I would even go as far as to say your issue isn't just self doubt. But also a lack of self esteem. There's 2 books that you should read "no more mr.nice guy" And "Learning to love yourself" by gay Hendricks. Start with these books while you start getting out of your comfort zone when approaching women. On top of that, I'll give you a practical guide on how to begin to be comfortable with women in real life and to approach. Don't just go balls deep and try to do adva…
/r/seduction21/03/22 08:40 PM
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That's pretty funny.
/r/seduction19/03/22 02:02 PM
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Make a joke out of it. I've drunk called a ton of girls before saying far worse. Which makes me induce that other guys have done the same before. Which then makes me deduce that if that's true then a lot of girls are used to getting drunk phone calls. From my experience, it's not a big deal if you don't make it one. Just make a joke about it. The fact that she texted you after all that says she still wants to continue interacting with you.
/r/seduction19/03/22 02:01 PM
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Pretty much this. Age is still just another factor. You just gotta find the girls who don't give a fuck
/r/seduction14/03/22 03:30 PM
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How is he lame? Because he wants to casually date. At 30? What is lame about that?
/r/seduction14/03/22 03:28 PM
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Exactly. u/knowthetruthh really brought up a lot of extremely good practical game. I'm actually extremely surprised by how on point his advice was. You don't see that too often on this subreddit. But getting back to your question, yes it could be anything but obviously you don't want her to do something extreme. Something like "hey get mail for me from my mailbox", "do me a favor and get my phone from the car", or your example. All really good examples. You also want to make sure you word it cor…
/r/seduction13/03/22 05:39 PM
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Do you guys see how op is setting himself up for failure. Dude already thinks he's a piece of shit. I looked at you video post online too and you're not a bad looking dude. You're just egotistically insecure. You are so sure that you're a failure that you impose anything that anyone does to you as validation of you sense of self worth. You don't need to learn game. You need self love first. And possibly therapy. There's nothing anyone can say on here to change your mind. Which makes me wonder wh…
/r/seduction05/03/22 09:20 PM
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Likewise. I would say my biggest strength right now in conversation would be in how easy it is for me to polarize and build sexual tension quickly. Used to be really bad at it. But in general, I'd say I'm really good at building initial and short term connection, but pretty bad and establishing long term and more intimate ones. For example, it's easy for me to have a one night stand, or even a consistent friends with benefits. But when it comes to a deeper relationship with a women, or even deep…
/r/seduction03/03/22 02:49 PM
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I believe we have 2 definitions of being an entertainer. What I mean when I say it is someone who is looking for validations and do so via non verbal communications, like hyperactivity. Men tend to do that both to avoid (what they see as) awkward silence, and to try and keep her entertained. People who fall in this category tends to use their hands a lot and seem almost hyperactive. I agree, though, with everything you said. The fact that you use your hands, doesn't in of itself imply uncomforta…
/r/seduction03/03/22 05:29 AM
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The issue with that though is the risk of being an entertainer. And yes, you can come across as less threatening, but it could also kill sexual tension (which is needed for sexual attraction). Movement isn't bad. Like you said, it's a tool. But should be used sparingly. This was something I myself struggled with. And it goes back to self confidence for me. The more relaxed I am in a situation, the less I move. The less, the more I move. The best situation you want to be in is when the girl is be…
/r/seduction03/03/22 03:48 AM
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You already know the problem, and someone already mentioned the solution to you in the very first post you made. At this point, what's holding you back is yourself. I know this because I struggle with the same issue. Difference is, I'm not deluding myself by ignoring the answer right in front of me. The problem: superficially, the problem is your personality. I know you think you say all the right things on dates and are able to attract girls, but if you're not getting a second date what does th…
/r/seduction23/02/22 04:15 PM
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He never mentioned his deformity past the title. I believe whatever it is is more of a mental block. Most guys who think they're ugly are really just average people comparing themselves to models in social media.
/r/seduction23/02/22 02:20 AM
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Bro, what. Then why even create this post
/r/seduction23/02/22 01:02 AM
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Who hurt you dude? I know some pretty good coaches who are actually pretty decent.
/r/seduction22/02/22 11:47 PM
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For sure. Glad I could help.
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:44 PM
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So here's why it's hard to do research on this sort of stuff. Girls have an idea of what they think they want, while also having a natural desire and attraction to what they actually want. I'm living proof that girls put confidence in oneself, and polarization above looks. Here's my proof: I have a twin brother. If you were shown pics of us, people would definitely say that we were both pretty good looking. And no one were able to tell us apart for a couple of months after meeting us. My point i…
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:43 PM
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Extremely false. Approaching strangers can work if you practice and learn legitimate game. Above all else, it works if you're self confidence and authentic. I'm proof of that, and I'm sure their are others who attest to this. Clubs and charities aren't bad options, but they are limiting. And the idea of joining a club or charity with the intention of getting girls don't sit right with me. Even if it's not your full intention
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:29 PM
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Hey man, listen. In general, I think it is fine to be hitting on the girl and even tell her that your friend is cheating. She could then decide to start a situation with you. But it also could not happen. These are the most likely scenarios that could happen if you pursue this option: 1) you guys will definitely stop being friends. If you're fine with that then go for it. I mean it obviously seem like you guys don't really match anyways. Good riddance tbh. The biggest concern and risk is this: 2…
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:16 PM
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100% truth. You never know what it's going to be.
/r/seduction01/02/22 12:43 AM
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It's good that you have matches. And I'm also assuming you're getting matches at a good rate continuously. That's also good. Tbh, the hard parts over. This is how you actually turn the matches into dates: Always be intentional when you message a girl. What do you want from the dating app? You mentioned dating, so every message you send her should be with that in mind. Setting up a date asap. Which means you want to vet out any girl who will waste your time. 1st message: say hi and then give her …
/r/seduction31/01/22 06:37 PM
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Congrats on listening to Corey Wayne. Dude has a lot of good information. First thing you have to do is decide what you want out of this situation. This is very important. You can't have a "let's go with the flow" vibe because if you aren't leading it, she inevitably will. And most girls want their men to lead a situation. So what do you want? Just a friends with benefits? To get back together with her? Once you figure that out, internalize this statement: " it's my way or the highway". In other…
/r/seduction17/01/22 04:26 PM
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Trying to be first friends with a girl you're attractive to is a recipe for disaster my friend. Let's even say that you get past the friends zone (which, chances are you won't) the foundation of the relationship won't be stable. Think about it this way. Let's say you meet a girl who you aren't sexually attracted to. But as you get to know her you really start to enjoy her personality, what would you do? Of course you would just remain friends with this person. No amount of clever conversation wi…
/r/seduction17/01/22 04:04 PM
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No it isn't. It's not like a certain type of girl uses tinder and all the good girls are at home reading Shakespeare waiting for you to find her. Girls and guys are fundamentally different, and situations like can happen with a girl you met at a mall, via a mutual friend, at your cousin's quinceanera, tinder, etc.
/r/seduction17/01/22 03:11 AM
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Go to his website and join his email list. Right after you get the book just unsub from the email list Edit: here it is. I am in no way affiliated with Corey Wayne. I just respect his work. https://understandingrelationships.com/free-ebook
/r/seduction06/01/22 01:31 PM
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Pretty much this. Sorry to say, but it doesn't make sense for her to be interested in you if you guys have been talking for months over social media and you never once met in person. Sexual attraction and connection isn't built through text. It's built through presence that you can only get by meeting the person. But in your case specifically, I feel like you're asking a very irrelevant question. It tells me the type of guy you are: inexperienced. Which is ok, since we all have to start somewher…
/r/seduction06/01/22 11:28 AM
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So essentially you're saying to not sleep with girls at the bars? That makes no sense. I think what you meant is don't sleep with girls that are completely wasted out of their mind, slurring their words and stumbling as they walk. 98% of people at bars are drunk. You can't honestly think that it's wrong to shoot your shot with them
/r/seduction31/10/21 09:06 PM
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Pretty much. If you really want to grow as a person. Use this month to practice socializing with her. And if it so happens you guys end up hooking up then cool. But if not, you will have learned a lot about socializing that will stay with you forever
/r/seduction04/09/21 05:25 PM
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Not trying to convert. Im poly and that works for me though. What I'm saying is going into a relationship with this sense of trying to prevent someone from cheating is an already losing battle. There's 2 things I've learned from messing with a lot of girls 1) you can't force a woman to do anything. They have to want to do it. Like you've experienced, even if they tell their man one thing, they could be sucking another dude's dick while on the phone with him. 2) women (and even men. Pretty much e…
/r/seduction04/09/21 05:23 PM
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I get what you're saying dude but you're missing the core point of his post. OP is just one guy. You can judge him for it, but that doesn't change the fact that the situation he's talking about is a very real thing in dating: which is the fact that a LOT of girls cheat. To the point where I've seen guys swear that it would never be their girl cheating in them, only for their girl to cheat on him. OP, is to answer you question I will say this: what is sex to you? Like really? If you're as much of…
/r/seduction04/09/21 05:10 PM
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Op, please check out the message I sent you
/r/seduction15/08/21 04:14 PM
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If the dates still on, go and don't spend too much money. Or agree to pay separately. But if she hasn't confirmed the date this while week up until now, she's most likely gonna flake. If you haven't already, text or call to see if you guys are still good to link up. If you don't get a response, or if she gives you some bullshit reason why she can't make it, stop talking to her. And listen to me: the leaving her part is going to be the hardest part for you, but you have to do it. Because if she w…
/r/seduction30/07/21 02:43 AM
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Op is right. I've recently realized that most people on here are beginners and are speaking from that perspective. But op, what you wrote is very advance game. Guys who are actually trying to build their game, please internalize what op said
/r/seduction27/07/21 07:14 PM
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Bro. I've had so many chicks come over my place without getting to know me. Maybe you're being facetious. But if you're being serious, then I can attest that attraction beats common sense. A girl will come over your place if the attraction is there. 9/10 if she doesn't and gives some kind of excuse it's because she's not fully attracted to you. Very similar to flakes. If on the day of the date she gives you some b.s excuse, you should drop her like a bad habit. Think about it this way: For you s…
/r/seduction27/07/21 07:12 PM
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Sorry dude. That post response was made for someone else.
/r/seduction11/07/21 06:03 PM
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https://youtu.be/OBOCoQ2NhrM
/r/seduction11/07/21 06:00 PM
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Very good book. Also, I recommend 2 really good dating coaches on YouTube Corey Wayne Mr locario They both have a wealth of free content on their YouTube channels
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:00 PM
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Lol. My point is that I'm not an 11/10 and I've gotten girls from saying crazier things..you're emphasizing looks and my argument is that it's confidence and self assurance
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:53 PM
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It's moreso I'd rather take a quick rejection than a rejection 2 months down the road, after spending money on dates, and time. And you can say "well maybe she will like you after 2 months" but in my opinion that is a backwards approach to dating for high value men. The point I'm trying to make is that if you look at rejection as bad and getting the number/hooking up as good, you will always end up giving up after a couple of weeks/months. Getting rejected is not a bad thing. All it is an indica…
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:07 PM
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Not true. You can be average and pull this off. You just have to be extremely self assured in yourself. Ive said one of the wildest things to girls (i.e letting you know now I'm an axe murderer but I only murder on Tuesdays, so your fine) and actually ended up hooking up with them. Confidence, eye contact and polarizing a woman is paramount. Will you get rejected? Of course. There will always be girls who find you unattractive. The key is to quickly end conversations with them so you can find th…
/r/seduction11/07/21 01:11 PM
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Don't listen to this dude. He completely missed the point. Regardless of what you've said to that women, results would likely be the same. What happened to you is actually a good thing. You WANT to get rejected. Think about it. Imagine going the safe route. Trying to be friendly towards her. You guys become friends, talk for a couple of weeks/months only to find out she's not sexually attracted to you. You just spent all that time and energy for a dud. Let's continue on. Let's even say when she …
/r/seduction11/07/21 01:04 PM
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With tinder, yeah. But that's a whole other discussion. Most people aren't successful mainly because they post unattractive pictures. That on top of the fact that they aren't direct with what they want to the girls makes for small amounts of results with girls
/r/seduction23/06/21 07:47 PM
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Also to address your comment on your looks, check this out: https://photos.app.goo.gl/UyFXC9BmE4oejEJk7 That's me and my twin brother. Could you tell us apart if you saw us? Could you tell who's more attractive? I actually posted this pic on a subreddit that rates people's pictures and different commenters thought I was more attractive. Some said my twin was. But the consensus was that we were both pretty good looking. Here's the rub. For the longest time up until maybe 2/3 years ago, I thought …
/r/seduction23/06/21 04:00 PM
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So polarizing is kind of a huge topic, but I'll try to simplify it. There's masculinity and there's femininity. Polarizing is essentially you expressing or radiating either of those energy fully. Both femininity and masculinity can be polarizing but in context of our purpose let's talk about polarizing masculinity. We can do that by first talking about what it's not (and please excuse my language in the next explanation): trying to be her friend. Talking to her In a way that's friendly and "safe…
/r/seduction23/06/21 02:51 AM
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It's cliche but literally just be yourself while expressing sexual interest. You can express sexual interest in a couple of ways, but what I do is polarize a women. Don't talk to her as if she's your friend. Talk to her like an attractive men would talk to a women.
/r/seduction22/06/21 11:04 PM
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Pretty much this. A lot guys main fear in this subreddit is coming off as a "creep". They don't realize that this very fear is what's holding them back. You can have the best intentions and try to come across as cool to everyone, and I guarantee you that someone is going to still see you as a creep. Chances are not too many people will want to be your friend. And even less are the girls who would any form of intimate relationship with you. Seduction isn't about getting every single girl you talk…
/r/seduction22/06/21 06:43 PM
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I'm 24 right now. Slept with exactly 25 girls (have a burn book) Lost my virginity at 18, was in a monogamous relationship from 18-22, and just went ham after my ex and I broke up. I'd say I've gotten the most hookups now, at 24. Once you start to gain momentum, everything just tends to build into itself. One thing I will say is that once you start sleeping with a lot of girls, you realize that sex is not that big of a deal. And once that happens, you REALLY start to get more sexual opportunitie…
/r/seduction11/05/21 11:49 PM
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Yeah I can vouch for this guy. Crazy enough Omegle definitely helped me as wellwith social game and the idea of getting rejected. Most people can't handle Omegle with their webcam because their insecurities start to come out. A lot of people won't ever understand true game if it slapped them in the face. Some will get it eventually. A small percentage will completely understand it and thrive with it. Good advice man
/r/seduction10/05/21 05:23 AM
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You gotta be ok with making it weird dude. That's what polarizing is.showing your masculine intent and giving her the choice to either be attracted to that or not. Some girls are gonna find your forwardness weird, but I guarantee you those same girls were never into you in the first place. I have a guy feeling you're main issue is the fact that you don't want to be "that guy" who makes move on girls because your female friends told you that. Let me tell you this: that's bullshit. Girls love gett…
/r/seduction08/05/21 05:31 PM
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Being black is not a disadvantage. Especially as it relates to seduction. As a matter of fact, if you have the right frame, you can use it to your advantage. And one more thing you should keep in mind. A lot of girls say they have a type, but when you look at their history of guys, they don't really correlate. What I'm trying to say is that what a girl consider "attractive" vs what they're actually attracted to can be completely different in a given moment with a certain dude. Women love masculi…
/r/seduction23/04/21 12:36 PM
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One thing that has helped me is to go out everyday with the intention of speaking with 5 strangers.it can be anything from asking for the time, to casual small talk. As long as you make conversation with 5 strangers, you've completed your task for the day. And this can be any stranger. From a random girl on the street to an employee at the cash register. Now. Knowing the rules and requirements of this technique, anything else go. Maybe the first week. All you do is ask people the time all day. T…
/r/seduction20/02/21 03:46 PM
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Pretty much this. The saying " you'll never bake the pie if you keep opening the oven to check on it" really hit home with this post. A lot of guys think they need to keep the girls attention so she doesn't get bored with them, but it's counterintuitive. Just have fun when you guys meet, and then give her about a week 2 think about it. Text her after that week to plan a date, rinse repeat. You do that until she pulls the "so what are we?" Card and proceed from there however you want.
/r/seduction04/02/21 02:46 AM
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Nice guys finish last. Good men finish first
/r/seduction07/01/21 10:42 PM
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Very well said!
/r/seduction04/01/21 10:38 PM
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100% facts.
/r/seduction04/01/21 10:38 PM
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Pretty much this. And a lot of time, this is what distinguishes masculine energy from feminine energy. Masculine energy moves inspite of emotions, while feminine energy reacts to emotions.
/r/seduction07/12/20 08:16 PM
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You shouldn't base your self esteem on whether or not you get rejected. Think about it. The game is about YOU. Not about what some girl thinks of you. Imagine going out every day for 3 months talking to at least 3 girls a day. Imagine going out there simply to learn and hone your skills. Of course you'll get rejected. But as time goes on you'll also succeed . You'll realize that it's a numbers game and it's all about attracting the girls who vibe with who you are . Anyways if you go out there wi…
/r/seduction21/11/20 07:12 PM
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Pretty much. It's Expressing your masculine nature and getting either a hell yes or hell no from girls. Nice guys tend to beat around the bush with girls they like and aren't honest with how they feel. Usually because they either don't want to come across as a creep, or because they don't want to get rejected. A consequence to that is almost definitely ending up in the friendzone. The thing is that's what you want. You want girls to reject you asap. That way you can sift through the hell no girl…
/r/seduction16/11/20 04:28 AM
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Solid advice. Extremely solid. was at a lounge once, approached her and had the most boring conversation with her. However I maintained very strong eye contact and started caressing her while doing it, getting more and more daring. Ended with her tongue down my throat for pretty much the whole night. She practically followed me throughout the bar whenever I decided to go to some other part of the bar and she found an excuse to make out with me again. Got to the point where her friend she came wi…
/r/seduction15/11/20 05:47 PM
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I would say I started pickup personally because I was extremely insecure around women after highschool (I was 18 at the time). I'm 23 at the time and I'm at the point where I'm beginning to get a lot of results with women. I'm dating multiple women at once casually. From my perspective, if he's started pickup around the same time as me (18-20), I don't think you have much to worry about. He's into self improvement and he's dating you. That says something. He has had and probably currently has mu…
/r/seduction05/11/20 06:49 PM
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Correction: not necessarily if you're hot. A better statement is if SHE thinks you're hot. If she's attracted to you, she'll like your seduction (if it's good). If she's not, it most likely will come across as creepy . One girl can call you seducing her creepy, while another girl finds that same tactic charming. Never take one girls reaction as facts of who you are. In fact, don't take any girls reaction of you as intel of who you are. You're the man whether or not they're partial to you're sedu…
/r/seduction05/11/20 12:07 AM
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From my experience, the best way to do that is to start off by having a casual relationship. This might be a little bit of advance game but I'll explain it anyways. The fact that you want to start a relationship with a girl you don't really know yet says a lot about you from her perspective. You don't know her personality, how she behaves, etc etc. All you know from a girl you just met is that she looks good. So pretty much what you're portraying to this girl is that you're only requirement is f…
/r/seduction04/11/20 08:54 PM
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Pretty much what everyone said. You won't be friendzone if that's not your intentions, conscious or otherwise. Think of it like that. You don't just end up in a business relationship. Both parties have to mutually agreed to involve themselves in the venture. Same things with friends. Let's use same sex friends as an example. If you don't want to be friends with this dude, but he really wants to be friends with you, what happens? You don't just go along with whenever he asks you out. You literall…
/r/seduction04/11/20 05:32 PM
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You're cringe. Do you understand what subreddit you're in
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:07 PM
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What?
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:04 PM
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Not a sales man homie. Just trying to help you because you remind me so much of myself 2 years ago
/r/seduction23/10/20 05:02 PM
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You obviously don't know women at all. You can't sit here and tell me you do when you have 0 experience with women past platonic. You've said it yourself, girls don't even know what they themselves want. So why do you listen to girls when they say that want a really handsome man? That isn't to say they don't. It's just that, as a man who's fucked a lot of girls and as a man who's been people watching at bars, I know what they want is a dominant masculine dude. They value that over just looks. Ye…
/r/seduction22/10/20 02:16 PM
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I'm saying bs because it is bs. Your either extremely over exaggerating your experience, or literally spewing nonsense. And I already sent you multiple chats offering to coach you for free, you haven't responded. It's not that I can't see from your POV. It's that I can and am trying to get you out of it. Your current perspective is 100% correct relatively speaking from your perspective. Thing is , it doesn't have to be that way. You don't realize that your perpetuating your own misery. I make al…
/r/seduction22/10/20 02:06 PM
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This is probably the most accurate thing I've seen you post ever
/r/seduction22/10/20 01:53 PM
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I'm actually really surprised to see a post like this on here. Even more surprised by how well received it is. This is a really good sign of growth in this community 😊
/r/seduction21/10/20 12:55 PM
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One thing I really felt was the part about most of the myths and misinformation being perpetuated by guys who haven't really gotten laid. It really are the dudes with the least amount of experience that tend spew the most righteously inaccurate information. Things like "if your ugly, no one will like you" and "there is no such thing as game". It makes me sad because younger people, or those starting out with this kind of thing sees a post like that and don't know what to believe. They get lost i…
/r/seduction21/10/20 12:49 PM
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Same. Either way, check my pm bro
/r/seduction20/10/20 04:58 PM
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Send the pic
/r/seduction20/10/20 04:56 PM
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Also, I just want to clarify anyone to anyone who follows or ends up reading any of backagainforthe1time comments on other threads, he's not an ugly dude. He's average at worst, but has a really bad sense of fashion. His hair isn't really made, and his clothes look like his mom picked it out for him. He's a little on the overweight side. He did say he was at work when he took this pic, but even if it explains the clothes, it doesn't explain his hair. He wasn't smiling in the pic. I will bet mone…
/r/seduction20/10/20 02:36 PM
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You just sent me a pic of yourself, you're not ripped. Can't speak on you being 6"4 tho. Send full body pic. You can blur the face and any background objects. So already I can tell your perpetuating a belief system not because you yourself has experienced, but because you've gathered results from the internet. Please prove me wrong. Show me a pic of you when you were ripped, with the same face you sent me on the last pic. You do that, I will take back my words right here on this post. I already …
/r/seduction20/10/20 02:26 PM
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Shitpost. Don't listen to this comment op. Check out my most recent post
/r/seduction19/10/20 03:08 PM
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Having a nice body and being tall are actually 2 really good features that girls in general find attractive. But based on your post OP, it seems like you're worried too much on what girls think of you. Speaking from experience, what attracts girls is guys who has the "do I like this girl" mentality rather than the "does this girl like me" mentality.
/r/seduction19/10/20 03:07 PM
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This is false. Women don't take JUST looks into consideration when seeing if they want to fuck someone. That's like me saying girls only like me if I have a big dick. Different girls have different criterias for how they choose who to fuck. And on the top of nearly ALL their list is confidence. If you're a hopelessly insecure pretty boy, you might as well be ugly. And I'm speaking from my own experience
/r/seduction19/10/20 03:05 PM
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Does your attraction rating change from women to women. Can one girl see you as an 8, while another can see you as a 4? Also, can a woman's attraction change over time? Can they originally see you as 4, but eventually see you as a 7? Vice versa? I already know the answer to that? And it's yes.
/r/seduction19/10/20 03:01 PM
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It's funny how in the othervPosts, you were saying that attractive guys can do anything to get girls, but here we see a "attractive" dude struggling with women? Isn't that funny, backagainforthe1time? Why do you think that? I wonder? Maybe insecurity?
/r/seduction19/10/20 02:59 PM
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I agree with this. Main takeaway is abundance mindset. Guys who have a scarcity mindset tend to have it the worse with women. Men who believe that girls don't like them will try to latch on to the girls that shows even a little interest. And when that girl inevitably leaves because of your own insecurity, it breaks your heart. And eventually you begin to create a negative belief around it, that begins to self perpetuate itself. Where in reality the issue isn't that you yourself is disliked by al…
/r/seduction19/10/20 02:57 PM
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Ah man homie, I just read through your comments from other posts and I can tell you have A LOT of negativity. Shoot me a pm, if you want I can mentor you, or at least have a conversation with you
/r/seduction19/10/20 02:43 PM
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I Used to think that buddy. But I'm gonna have to disagree with that. My situation was a perfect experience to prove that opinion wrong. I'm a twin. We're identical. And I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that it's not simply about being "attractive" . We looked pretty much exactly the same, and unless you knew us for a couple of months, you'd have trouble telling us apart just from looking at us alone. That being said, 2 years ago, my brother was getting ass left and right, Like literal…
/r/seduction19/10/20 02:39 PM
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I would tell him this: 1) It's all a numbers game. It's not about if you'll get a girl, but WHEN you get a girl. And the more girls you talk to, the more likely you are to find someone interested. But the key to this is to talk to girls. 2)Break your goals down into bite size pieces. I wouldn't expect the me from 2 years ago to be able to go out to the bars and approach hot girls like it's nothing. So Instead of giving yourself goals you'll know you wont be able to maintan, give yourself mini go…
/r/seduction18/10/20 06:41 PM
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This is an unpopular opinion: It is possible to get girls while homeless. In fact I had a friend use tinder/ approaching women on the streets to hookup with girls and then have them feed them and let them use their shower. He was in a very similar experience as you. The issue you face right now is your own limiting beliefs. I can already tell from what you wrote that YOU YOURSELF don't believe it's possible. That's why you posted on here, and you got responses that you probably expected because …
/r/seduction03/10/20 04:58 PM
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Pretty much this. You can definitely make things happen in the workplace, but you just have to be more mindful than if you were meeting girls on the Street. My advice, on top of what rustoof said, is to banter and flirt with them and see who catches the bait. Always flirt open handedly until they start flirting back. From there just invite them for drinks. After you have her Somewhere outside of the workplace environment treat her like a regular girl
/r/seduction01/10/20 03:59 PM
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This. You're goal should not be to find a way to get more people to like you. You're goal is to just do you, and find the people who fucks with you. Like the other commenter said, you're polarizing people. You're pretty much finding out if they like you/vibe with you or not. Same with flirting. Instead of spending 50 minutes talking to a girl at a bar only to find out she has a boyfriend, flirt with them and I guarantee you'll find out within that minute if she's dtf. Polarizing is not a bad thi…
/r/seduction01/10/20 03:54 PM
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So rather than one particular moment that completely got rid of my approach anxiety, I just began to do this specific technique every time I planned on approaching girls that day. It eventually turned into me doing this everytime I went out. Here's what it is: SOCIAL LUBRICATION let's say I decided to go out to approach 5 girls that day. And let's also say I took a week break so I'm kind of rusty. If I were to go out and try to approach someone, best believe I'd be feeling anxiety. And those who…
/r/seduction27/09/20 09:29 PM
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I knew it was gonna come across that way, but I'm genuinely interested in the psychology
/r/seduction16/09/20 05:04 PM
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My opinion. I don't think you did anything wrong. One of the most invaluable lesson about dating and game is that it's a numbers game. Guys who fall in love with their crush, it even guys who don't approach many women usually feel like there is an issue with themselves when they don't get the girl that wanted. Whether she flakes, rejects you, ghost, etc; guys who don't approach or have many women tend to be so focused on blaming themselves. Yes, maybe there was something you could have done to g…
/r/seduction06/09/20 01:03 AM
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I will bet you 100 bucks Chris brown will most definitely get away saying something like that. I k ow that because I'VE gotten away saying something like this. I agree that you have to be your best self, but not because you want a girl. You should have already have been striving to be your best self. You mean to tell me when she's not around, you're going to go back to being your old self? She should not be the reason why you change yourself. Please do me a favor and read the book "no more mr.ni…
/r/seduction02/09/20 09:22 PM
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You might be too early in the game to understand this. People tried to explain but it went over your head. Which is fine. I'm sure most of us were where you are . Like a lot of the men here said, you're probably going to lose her because of your mindset. You're so worried on trying to get her to like you. Your main focus should be this, "do I like her?" Imagine approaching her from that mindset. You wouldn't really care of her thoughts of you. I'm going to give you an extreme example. Let's say …
/r/seduction02/09/20 09:15 PM
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Check out "tay social" on youtube. Look at how he builds attraction naturally. Honestly, it's just about bringing out what you feel inside and owning it. So for example, when a lot of beginners approach girls, they have thoughts like "I gotta find a way to get her number" or " I wonder if she likes me". You should have thoughts of " I want to fuck this girl." Or "it's only a matter of time before I throw you on my bed and dick you down". Those thoughts have to be in alignment with the emotion of…
/r/seduction29/08/20 09:42 PM
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Go for it. I wouldn't say that I'm an expert, but I'm intermediate and know a lot about inner game
/r/seduction29/08/20 08:32 PM
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Responded to the other dude. Check his message out. But flirting and eye contact pretty much.
/r/seduction29/08/20 07:40 PM
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Honestly, I don't really have anything like conversation starters. And tbh you can say damn near anything as long as your grounded, confident and masculine about it. My best example is when you're talking to your best friend. You literally just follow the vibe a blurt out first thing in your head. That being said you do want to keep things in mind: Other than touching, flirting and solid eye contact is a panty wetter. Was at this loinge/club like a year ago. Saw this who was checking me out. I w…
/r/seduction29/08/20 07:39 PM
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Lmao, same. I feel like the "crush" culture really does enable men to be more susceptible to this. Which sucks because you're idolizing someone who you don't even know you'll be compatible with.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:53 PM
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Not true at all buddy. One thing I learned about the game is that the housewife is the exact same person as the slut. The girls you think are good girls are just catering to that archetype either because they're not attracted to you, or because they think you'll think they're sluts. I promise you, expressing sexual (which, mind you, flirting is a form of expressing sexual attraction. You don't flirt with guy friends right? Why is that?) Is the most efficient and effective way to find the girls w…
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:52 PM
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The easiest way to tell if a girl is interested in you is to flirt with her and express sexual attraction. I promise you you'll know in that moment if she likes you or. It'll probably be challenging for you but, but as you hinted at, it's better to have a speedy rejection than to get rejected after weeks/months fantasizing about her
/r/seduction20/08/20 05:36 PM
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Understood. Experience is the best teacher. Girls aside, try starting conversation with as many people as you can. Old people, store clerks, that cat down the road. You don't have to make it sexual. Just get used to using your mouth on a daily basis. Even if you can only do it for like 10 seconds right now. You'll get better bud
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:40 PM
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Not really any way in going to far. You're just expressing what you want, either verbally(i.e flirting) or nonverbally. From there she will give you a response to you. Whether she rejects , shows attraction back, or gives you no response. A girl showing no response is still feed back.
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:21 PM
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What the other guys said: don't worry, there's always another girl. Don't beat yourself over it, but analyze why you held yourself back. Was it fear of rejection. If that's the case, what would you have done if you did see her come out the store? Would you have had the confidence to approach her and ask her out. Put yourself in similar situations as this, and I promise you the truth of why you can't escalate the situation will appear in front of you if you're paying attention. From there just wo…
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:16 PM
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One thing I tried once was approach a girl and told her that she seems cute but I had to see what's u see the mask to make sure. I told her I was going to hold my breath and take my mask off first, so she can get a good look at me, and that she shod do the same. It always cracks them up, and makes a conversation more playful. The key takeaway is to be creative. Use your imagination, and be playful
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:12 PM
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Lol, Getting a girls email is a first. I've never went up to a girl and been like " hey you're really attractive. Can I get your email". But anyways, I switch between snapchat and phone numbers. Snapchat if I'm dating online so I can video call them and send them pics, phone number so I can set up a date. I think asking for the number is more personal. That being said, you shouldn't be texting buddies with the girl you're attracted to. You should just use texting as a means to an end: setting up…
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:09 PM
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I live near a college campus. School just started. I found like 10 attractive girls in 20 minutes
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:06 PM
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Lol This is like my 5 time recommending this book: "The trial" by Avery Hayden. I think you can find the free pdf online. It's a book that has daily challenges on approaching for one week, and gets progressively more challenging as each week progresses.
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:03 PM
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I have a book recommendation: The trial by Avery Hayden. This book will bring you out into social situations every week.
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:00 PM
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I'm going to be honest with you bro. From my experience, this situation never ends well for the guy. She's asserting dominance and you're agreeing with it. If you're the one paying for the date, she's most likely trying to find a place that she likes the best. Either way, you're probably going to go on the date anyways so there's not much we can say other than to take note on what happens and learn from experience. I never think about whether or not a girl is shit testing me. I feel like guys th…
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:59 PM
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Pretty much what he said. And I can tell this is challenging for you. There's a sort of vulnerability you need to have when approaching girls, as well as a loss of ego(in the sense that you aren't taking yourself seriously). try to build the mindset of "do I like her/ do I find her attractive/is she my type" rather than a mindset of "does she like me, does she find me attractive, am I her type". The game is about YOU. Not her
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:50 PM
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What he said. From there just gain experience. Don't get lost in the material and information you can find online. Sincerely going out and approaching 10 girls a day for a week can give you 10 times more information than spending a year reading books on approaching girls and seducing them. Not that you'll be good in a week, but you're gaining real word experience and learning about your own personal shortcomings that you can eventually overcome.
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:46 PM
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Please don't befriend a girl first. That's not even indirect game at that point. It's almost like you're lying to her/yourself that your fine with friendship when in actuality you want to date her/have sex. Think about it this way: would you rather ask her out on a date and get rejected right there and then, or befriend her for 6 months, get to know, increase your obsession over her, and then ask her on a date..... Just to get rejected? It's always better to get rejected right there and then, ra…
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:44 PM
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Same way buddy. I'm not saying to not to take the quarentine situation seriously, but it's not as big of an issue as you'd think. Just do your due diligence. I don't know if any of you guys remember how tinder was 3 months ago: girls left and right being appalled that you'd ask them on a date during the pandemic. Now 3 month later, I get virtually no girls telling me that. The pandemic is still here, but so is a women's libido. Matter of fact, it may have increased because of covid
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:39 PM
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Facts
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:36 PM
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From my experience, text game is a waste of time. Texting should only be used for setting up dates. You don't turn a girl on through texts. You can't really cause sexual tension with a girl you just met via text. Only use texting for setting up dates. And don't worry about her losing interest. If she was really interested in you, she'd agreee
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:35 PM
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You're kind of like how I was when I first got started. I do believe you're naturally charismatic from what you said, but it sounds like you want to gain more experience cold approaching and tightening your game. I suggest this ebook called "the trial" Avery Hayden. It essentially gives you challenges to do every day when it comes to approaching women, and it gets progressively harder after every week.
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:33 PM
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Nah, you did good bro. Really good for your first time. There's really nothing to critique since you don't really have the experience to really internalize it. I think the first step for you is to continue approaching girls just like how you're doing now, and keep proving to yourself that you're not going to die, or be prosecuted for doing it. There's this great book by Avery Hayden called "the trial". It's probably one of the best books for you because it's main focus is getting you out there a…
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:29 PM
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Online dating is more of a numbers game than real life since all girls have to go off of is mainly your profile pic. I always say that it doesn't really matter what you say, if she's not interested enough with you, you won't get a response, or the conversation will die out. Think about it this way. If Chris brown got on tinder and matched with these same girls, do you really think they'd really care what the first message is? Now you're probably thinking it's because he's famous. Ok so let's tak…
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:25 PM
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The main cause of whiskey dick, taking alcohol aside, is overthinking. You're not present in the moment. You're over analysing the situation and trying perform instead of having an experience. Main cause, at least for me in the past, is the inability to let go and be vulnerable. That just mean enjoying the experience without getting approval from the girl to enjoy the experience. I know your not verbally asking for approval, but trying to be the best fuck to her, or come across as good in bed to…
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:19 PM
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So what are you hoping to get out of dating her? Being her friend?
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:15 PM
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Bro lesson. Good on you for setting up the date. That takes initiative. But don't sit here wondering whether or not shes interested in you. Find out if she's interested in you. You do that by flirting with her and escalating the situation. Creating sexual tension is THE most efficient way to tell if a girl is interested in you. A lot of guys tend to shy away from sexual comments because they feel like girls need time to become sexually attracted to you. I'm telling you from experience that's bul…
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:14 PM
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Facts
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:08 PM
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Pretty much what he said. Flirtation is just expressing to the woman that you're sexually attracted to her. You can do that verbally , or nonverbally. Either way, there's going to be some girls who are receptive to your flirtation and some who are not. The whole point of flirting, for me at least, is to gauge and see if she's attracted to me. From there, all you have to do is escalate
/r/seduction17/08/20 10:01 PM
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Hahaha. I've been using tinder a lot more, but also do cold approaches as well. Like someone else said in this post, just do your due diligence. Girls are a lot less paranoid with the Corona virus now then they were 1-2 months ago. My guess, there horniness is already starting to outweigh their fears. Which is fair since the same can be said for men. I think it's more or less ok to approach women now, just ask a lot of follow up questions about their health and if they've been in contact with an…
/r/seduction31/07/20 07:46 PM
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Yeah buddy, it's going to be another year ATLEAST before this all blows over.
/r/seduction31/07/20 07:17 PM
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Pretty much what everyone else said. Seduction and game is never about just one girl. And it's not even really about if she likes you. You should have the constant mindset of "do I like her" or "does she fit into my life". Me personally, I think you're at a point with her where you should be setting up a date. Not trying to entertain her and keep her interested. Anyone with experience can tell you that you don't build romantic/sexual relationships with woman by being texting buddies with them. Y…
/r/seduction30/07/20 09:29 PM
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Yeah Dude, what these guys say. Going out one time and taking bold actions is way more rewarding than reading. With that being said, Check out this youtuber called Mr. Locario. This dude is simply on point. He WILL improve your game if you simply apply what he talks about and internalize his mindset. ​ ​
/r/seduction28/02/19 07:30 PM
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