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Mitago1/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 12:47 AM
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That's pretty much it, the only problem that I see in the west it seems like that hatred towards men is seen as more justified than hatred towards women which is seen as inherently sexist. Although I myself would argue that all hatred towards any group comes from trauma and should be approached as such and shouldn't be met with responses like : "you're wrong for feeling that way" or "you're misandryst/misogynistic"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 04:47 PM
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i would personally choose the 40 y/o mother in her 20 y/o daughters body, purely because she would be a lot more mature and overall more interesting as an person. I can't even imagine what men past 30-40 y/o would find interesting in an 20 y/o woman or a man for that matter, you have little to nothing in common, they are basically kids in comparison to you with no life experience and their ideas, beliefs change every other month.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 08:17 AM
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To be fair, i would be more interested in an study that shows how many men actually have raped someone or attempted to do so, unfortunately that kind of study is almost impossible to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 08:16 PM
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I rather choose a bear than someone with a gun, especially if they are willing to kill somebody because they felt threatened, even more so if they believe it's morally okay to falsely accuse someone, with all that added together a person like that is way more dangerous than your average woman or man and the likeliness of getting killed is way higher than if you met some random woman, man or a bear for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:48 AM
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Statistically everybody should be choosing a bear if they are alone in the woods, no matter if the other choice was a woman or a man, since both are statistically more likely to harm you than a bear. Honestly i believe this little tiktok trend should be finally put to sleep, since it's more so meant as an rage bait than useful tool for discussion. So far all i've seen is sexists of both genders using this as ammunition to spread their own hatred of the opposite gender than to actually discuss an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:08 PM
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That's definitely true, but overall homosexuality even among women was fairly widespread among all levels of society, although there was more stigma around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:01 PM
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Wait since when are asexuals, gay people or just someone unattractive inherently misogynistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:55 PM
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Although you're just showing an example of an unhealthy generalization, from this subreddit alone (even more so when you include other gender related subs ) you can easily conclude that men and women are just as shitty as each other when it comes to sexism, huge generalizations, but unfortunately way too many people indulge in such behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:51 PM
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To be fair, i wouldn't really call Aristotle gay, since he was had lovers of both sexes and the way ancient Greeks viewed sexuality was fundamentally different from the way we do nowadays. You're still right, but i personally would be reluctant to call someone like Aristotle or any ancient greek for that matter gay, bi, straight going by modern standards and the baggage that follows them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:40 PM
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The questions was great, but i will admit that the ''whole bear or black man'' part was unnecessary and didn't show this sub in the best light. Also if i was you i wouldn't pay much mind to subreddits like r/BlatantMisogyny or similar ones, the people in the comments of the posts there are often just as toxic as the people they make the posts about.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 07:45 PM
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Either people realize that sexism of all forms is bad, that includes sexism towards men which isn't talked about much if at all. Or not much will change and people will continue to fight over which gender is ''better'' and continue spreading unhealthy and extremely toxic, sexist beliefs about the opposite gender which will result in overall more unhappiness, loneliness for men,women, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 07:34 PM
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Just don't respond to them, there isn't much to be gained from that discussion for you and them, since they are already set in their ways and won't revaluate their opinions beliefs when it comes to this discussion. The people who are happy with generalizing half of the population because of an extremely small minority are probably not worth listening to. ( this also goes for men who generalize women ) The biggest problem i see with people who chose the bear in that scenario and using the reasoni…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/24 04:17 PM
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Realistically everybody who can't find a partner should be held accountable, if you can't find a partner that's on you and only you, it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman. It's neither men are the problem nor women are the problem, it's you as an individual who is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 07:10 PM
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To be fair most of the dating advice I've seen is "break up asap He/She is abusing you".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:19 PM
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4b won't really do much,but I guess people can try, also most dudes already don't SA people and don't use violence against women, the ones who do won't really be impacted by this in any way. Do you really think a scumbag who SA people will care that women won't date him...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:29 AM
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Agreeing that both sides have struggles would require empathy and would require them to actually truly hear out and listen to the opposite gender without involving their misogynistic/misandrist opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 10:22 PM
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People on the internet in general are hateful, on Reddit alone every other day there are 5-10 posts about how men or men are terrible and are the scum of the earth, comments usually are no better and are filled with sexism be it misandry or misogyny. There isn't an emergence of men hating women on social media, There is an emergence of people just hating the opposite gender or people who are different from them in general. Some people have one bad experience with the opposite gender or any group…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 11:34 AM
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Honestly i think both men and women have hard time understanding each other because they simply don't want to, it's way easier to live in your own bubble than actually have your unhealthy views of the opposite gender challenged.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:35 PM
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I would hear out any advice given even by somebody who hates me, since it could be good advice, but you just have to give actual reasoning behind the advice you're giving.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:49 PM
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I personally don't think most men or women for that matter really struggle with the opposite gender being selective or having preferences, i think at most people have a problem with people saying their preference out loud to the group of people that don't fit their preference( usually with ill intent) why certain men or women are not their ''type'', for example often men have issue with women saying they are not tall or wealthy enough and often women have issue with men saying that their weight …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:03 PM
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In my opinion both men and women can be fairly picky, especially as individuals, but as groups men and women simply just look and are picky in different ways. I know that on this subs and different subs that talk about gender relations people like to point fingers at the opposite gender and call out their ''hypocrisies'' yet never talk about their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 11:00 PM
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What counts as "low quality" is fairly subjective, but i would still agree that just like with most things there are just as many low quality men as there are women and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 10:48 PM
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Heterosexuality isn't inferior or superior than any other sexual orientation, people are just more hateful towards others ( especially the opposite gender )than ever. People love to call out others for their mistakes and issues, yet struggle seeing their own or simply don't care enough to address them and not to mention acting like a victim is fairly encouraged nowadays. Also nowadays people see everything as an gender, race etc. related issue and not simply as people issue and therefore this cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 02:28 PM
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It's due to stress and overall fatigue. Japanese work culture is extremely harsh and competitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 12:13 PM
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Biology of both men and women, since the reproductive quality worsens for both men and women with age. Edit: not to mention men's and women's lifestyle choices impact it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:06 PM
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Probably both men and women are equally to blame for genetic anomalies, I don't see the point on blaming one side or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 12:33 PM
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Unfortunately ask feminist subreddit isn't always the best for these kinds of questions, some users on there are extremely hostile towards any opinion that doesn't align exactly with theirs.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/02/24 07:28 AM
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People will still continue to date other people and AI partners won't change that. Small minority of people will use these AI girlfriends or boyfriends but by no means it will be more than 5% (probably even less) of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 12:25 PM
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It's just hurt people hurting others all around, be it a man, woman etc. Unfortunately this seems to be a problem for people in general, especially when it comes to the opposite gender both men and women often take any criticism towards their gender personally or even take it personally when somebody is talking about an individual who has nothing to do with them. It also seems like some people ( be it a woman, a man, etc ) are ready to defend someone only because they're of the same gender, even…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 08:50 AM
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Anyone really going their own way won't be on the internet yapping about ''going their own way'' and will just do it and move on with their lives. Also often individuals who follow be it MGTOW or FEMTOW seem to hold sexist and often toxic views of the opposite gender, with these kinds of people it's always ''men are horrible'' or ''women are horrible''.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:35 PM
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Unfortunately it's kind of hard for feminism, at least right now, to advocate for men's issues since men are largely considered the ''oppressors''. Also as it stands right now, people aren't really that ready or even willing to realistically look at men's issues and take them seriously without weird biases and preconceived notions about men. Although you can point out that there is talk about ''male loneliness epidemic'' ( which realistically is just people loneliness epidemic), but it's largely…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/02/24 11:35 AM
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It's definitely a thing, they probably aren't as many passport sisters as passport bros, but they still exist and will probably become more popular in the next few years and also the women doing it don't flaunt it around. Also just like with passport bros and normal men, passport sisters aren't as successful as women who just met their spouses abroad by accident and went abroad for different reasons outside of dating, sex tourism etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 12:48 PM
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No. women are not really exploiting men by just being on dating apps. Maybe some women do ( at most 1-2%) to get free dates, drinks, food and other luxuries but those are just shitty people and don't represent women in general. Women simply get to be pickier because of the huge difference in ratio between men and women on dating apps which makes sense. If it was the other way around, men would be pickier too. When it comes to going overseas, again some men exploit poorer women ,but that's again …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:53 AM
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Realistically men and women can easily imagine what the experiences is for the opposite gender or others in general by just hearing them out or reading their stories, struggles etc. People simply just don't do that that for various reason, which for one is extremely easy and even makes you feel better if you can assume that the opposite side doesn't have any struggles and therefore you can feel entitled to belittle them, make their struggles, experiences meaningless etc. Men and women often don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:24 AM
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Men and women are pretty much the same when it comes preferences and fetishization of the race, gender, height etc. I like seeing people defending their ''side'' ,which in this case is gender, as if they were any different from the opposing side or anyone else in general. We're human and we have human flaws, we will continue to have preferences and we will continue to fetishize certain aspects of people we like. Is that inherently bad? - No, not really. Everything depends on the reason of fetish…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:59 PM
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My boy described insecure men instead of feminine men, i didn't know femininity and insecurity were the same thing :D.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 01:09 PM
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As i previously pointed out men just like women often have high standards, the only thing that may change is what they seek in their ideal partner and that's about it. Some men now are crying about high standards, because now they actually need some emotional intelligence to get a women and can't get away with by being the sole breadwinner. There are others that cry about preferences like height yet there are bunch of 5'0 dude with amazing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:42 PM
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Well played, i'm glad that you assumed my position on this and took everything i said in bad faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:31 PM
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I'm glad that you're asking for a source while giving 0 sources for your own claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 07:49 AM
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I'm quite bored by these kinds of statements, since men in general obviously do have standards and we are lying if we're saying otherwise. Are there some men who don't have standards - of course, some people are desperate and ready to settle for anything, it doesn't matter if you're a men or women....
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:13 AM
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Mate it's biased towards everybody, i hate these victim olympics. As i said previously, let's not act as if men are any better than women when it comes to standards and preferences...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:51 AM
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Women often hate on mens preferences and men on womens preferences, most likely because some people feel attacked when they don't fit those preferences or feel like these preferences are unfair to them, but on the other hand feel offended when their preferences in others get called out or judged. In short people are hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:52 AM
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Most preferences are often based on trends, what we found once attractive we now find undesirable and vice versa. It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, since everybody is influenced by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 06:49 PM
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People in general confuse confidence and arrogance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:27 AM
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You do you boo, but don't whine when it doesn't work out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 01:44 AM
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It's probably like 60%- 70% male 30%-40% female, this probably also greatly varies depending on the age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 12:02 AM
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Japanese hikikomori problem has nothing to do with women or gender relations in general, plus the almost half of Japanese hikikomori population is made up of women. Most men's motivator is definitely not women, this might be the case for some teenagers, but that's about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:10 PM
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I enjoyed when people actually talked about self-improvement first when it came to dating advice, since right now it seems that everybody is just putting the blame on the opposite gender. It's either ''women are the problem'' or ''men are the problem'' and never ''i'm the problem''.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:57 AM
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To be fair for a lot of people good diet and gym would improve their lives, especially if it helps you gain confidence which in return will make you more confident to go out and actually socialize.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:50 AM
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Most likely both, since guy 2 probably provides more value overall, his personality is probably better, he is more mature overall and possibly financially stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 10:21 AM
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Probably guy 2, since it's a big decision to have kids with someone, so you inherently have to value them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 10:20 PM
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In come aspects we're pretty similar to each other, but that does not make up our personality or who we are as person. Therefore each of us is pretty unique,but unfortunately we often forget that and think people enjoy making generalizations when they want to speak about one group negatively. At least on this subreddit it's ''all women bad'' , ''all men bad'' etc. etc. On the other hand when it comes to good traits, behaviours, actions people tend to start looking individualistically and rarely …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:40 PM
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This is some somewhat true, but right know any talk about mens issues is labeled as mysogynistic, anti-feminist, incel sympathizing etc. Right now we're not really ready to approach mens issues with all the what aboutism and Us vs them attitudes going around. Edit: Plus as the post implies ( but for the wrong reasons ), men don't really care about their own issues, but that has to to do more with upbringing and social norms set on to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:41 AM
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Who knew that solutions had gendered categories. :D
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:39 AM
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Most of the skills mentioned can be easily learned through just YouTube and via the internet in general. Plus i think most woman don't really care that much if you can do those tasks or not, just at least know who to call if you can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:20 PM
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Yeah this! You it worded perfectly, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 02:37 PM
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I mean does the average man even want an stay at home wife nowadays? Outside of pill communities and manosphere spaces ,both of which poorly represent the needs and wants of the average man and woman, i haven't seen that many men wanting or demanding a stay at home wife, girlfriend etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 01:26 PM
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I'm sorry, but I don't think what you're describing is true. The situation you described might apply to some women ( possibly 5%-10%, maybe even less ), but that's definitely not the case for the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 02:04 AM
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My only problem with a single mother or anyone in general would be if she was ''settling'' for me since she can't get someone she actually wants, but otherwise if I really like their personality and be hit it off and the feeling is mutual i wouldn't be against dating a single mother. I'll be honest, if i wanted to date i would prefer someone who is childless, but i am not completely against the idea of dating a single mom, especially if i enjoy spending time with them and love their personality …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 01:17 AM
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I think most men and women do those things, minus maybe working out. I've no idea from where did the stereotype that men don't cook or clean come from, but at least from my experience the men around me and myself included do all of those things and more.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:06 PM
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When it comes to pills, I simply don't want to align with any one of them, therefore I use "no pill"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 11:13 AM
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Yes they are on both sides, but neither side really cares to call them out for their behaviour and their unhealthy views of the opposite gender. Some people even lean on them and their sexist, unhealthy views when they want to voice whatever disagreement or problem they have with someone of the opposite gender or with the opposite gender in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:58 AM
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Thank you, this is actually an amazing comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:36 AM
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It is a thing, but at most like 20% if men seek relationships with much younger women. Most men just like women date in their age range ( <5 age gap )
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:35 AM
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Being horny at most may cloud your judgement when it comes to how you act with the opposite gender or with the gender you're attracted to in general, but it won't severely impact how you judge various situations or your judgments on things. Men usually meme about PNC and do often exaggerate the effects of post nut clarity for shits and giggles. I'm surprised anyone would take somethings like PNC seriously and actually think that men or anyone for that matter might be unable to make correct judgm…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:30 AM
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Men in general definitely like and even love women,but loud minorities of men can give the idea that men hate women, just like loud minorities of women give the idea that women hate men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:55 AM
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Yes, since you tried to compare her doing household chores voluntarily, because of her love for her man with physical abuse. But you're probably trolling or rage baiting so it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:30 AM
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The difference between a woman being beaten up by her partner and her doing something voluntarily ( as she pointed out in her tiktok ) is pretty big, don't you think so? Plus unequal relationships are not unhealthy by themselves, the people in them can make them either healthy or unhealthy depending on how they act towards their partner and their personality , mindset etc. Most relationships in some sense are unequal, be it income, age etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:11 AM
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You're knocking her down, by implying she can't choose for herself and think independently. How would you know what's in her best interests, are you her?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 01:59 AM
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Idk if you're trolling or you just don't understand what oppression is. She said that he treats her like a princess and if she wants to do those things, let her and all the power to her. It's sad that feminism fought for women to be able to choose their own lives and how they want to live them and yet some women want to knock down other women because they don't agree with their choices and lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 01:37 AM
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I literally don't see any downsides, just like with female sex robots or AI boyfriends and girlfriends in general. They won't really do any harm and will probably be a great tool for lonely people or people who can't seem to find a relationship for various reasons. ( mental problems, disabilities etc., etc. ) Realistically i don't think men or women really care about female or male sex robots, sex dolls etc., since most people have the understanding and realize that they aren't real living human…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:26 PM
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Yeah i can definitely agree that men and women in the west often idealize people from the east, even more so the gender they are attracted to. ( especially when it comes to Japan, Korea, China )
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:41 PM
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If you go outside and actually interact with women, you'll find out that a lot of women even past 25 y/o are still virgins or have had one or two sexual partners and that's about it. I am from Latvia, but i highly doubt it's much different anywhere else. I think OF and social media in general has accidently promoted and spread he idea that every woman has a 10+ body count before they even reach 25 y/o.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:17 PM
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To be fair to them ,we shouldn't force our beliefs of what cheating looks like on to other countries, cultures and people in general. If i remember correctly, in the interview few women explained why they didn't see prostitution as cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:08 PM
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That's not how emotional expression works though, expressing horniness and acting on the horniness is not the same. You're confusing emotional expression and action on those emotions. I can only agree that women tend on the average to be more expressive with their feelings ( which seems to be actually healthy psychology), but I disagree that they act more than men on those feelings. It's unfortunate that English is not my 1st language and my vocabulary is clearly not enough to articulate my thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 02:29 AM
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Expressive means effectively conveying a feeling or thought,usuall with simple behaviours like crying, laughing, shouting etc. For example a more expressive person might cry while being sad, on the other hand a less expressive person might be sad, but simply won't convey it through crying or otherwise, but both of these people are equally sad. Conveying a feeling and doing something because of the feeling are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:53 AM
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No, since it would take away the fun of getting to know someone and learning from failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:45 AM
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Women on average might be more emotionally EXPRESSIVE but not more emotional in general and both genders are equally as likely to be swayed by emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:35 AM
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I think more education about consent would benefit men and women alike. The only problem around the subject of ''teaching consent'' is that we're aiming it solely at boys, men even though it should be thought to men and women - how to respect consent and how to actually make consent vocally and gesturally, since both of these things seem to be an issues for a lot of people from both genders especially when it comes to younger individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:22 AM
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Sorry but no, neither gender is more likely to cheat than the other. Likeliness of cheating is solely based on individuals values ,morals, overall mindset and upbringing. We can also add the environment and people around them which could impact the likeliness of them cheating, since unhealthy influences( like friends encouraging such behaviour ) may sway somebody to cheat even if they usually would not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:07 AM
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I don't think either gender is more loyal or disloyal, it's more so depended on the persons values, morals, upbringing and the environment around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:02 AM
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Unfortunately i don't, outside of my own observations, but i am interested do you have any data that suggests that everyone who receives child support spends all of it on the child and for the childs wellbeing ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:34 PM
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To be fair the side effects have been worse for men at least so far when it comes to contraceptives, but hopefully in the future the we'll have safer and better options for women and men, since new clinical trials and advancements in the field are still happening and are still being developed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 01:36 PM
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This is a pretty stupid idea, women don't baby trap men as often as you might think. Most unwanted pregnancies are because both parties were dipshits and didn't use any kind of protection etc., therefore both parties should face the consequences of their actions or the lack of actions. If the mother decides to keep the child then too bad, next time use protection and ask her to take the pill. If she doesn't want to take the pill or/and you don't want to wear a condom then just don't have sex or …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 01:30 PM
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Men or women shouldn't really expect to get an amazing experience from an casual hookup, since the sex at best will be mediocre, usually both men and women only want to satisfy themselves when it comes to casual hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 07:53 PM
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You know that you can be inexperienced and still be great at sex or be experienced and completely suck at it, right ? Since it's mostly about your mindset and how you approach sex, many men and some women only care about their pleasure and that's why they usually suck at sex. If you genuinely want your partner to feel good, you'll do some research beforehand if you're completely inexperienced and while doing it you will find out in the process what makes your partner get off, you can also ask wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:38 PM
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I'm pretty sure that's a thing in every part of the world. But hey if you think that in the west there aren't many virgin women past 23 y/o, you go queen, show em. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:30 PM
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It's sometimes jealousy and other times they genuinely want to protect their friend if they get a bad vibe / gut feeling from you. Plus women also can and sometimes do say no to their friend if they actually like the guy and have some kind of spark.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:52 PM
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I love the title, since once again it proves that men and women are the same. You can swap woman with man in the title and you'll get the thousand post about how men are bad, just like there are thousands of posts about how woman are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:24 PM
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They might have tried in the past and realized it's not for them and therefor it's not that big of an deal. Plus if you value and care for your partner you won't force or demand your partner to do something they don't want to, this goes for both women and men, since this is a problem for both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:40 PM
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Honestly i think people are ready to overlook some red flags if there are more green flags and they feel genuinely attracted to them and their personality. Plus if we're being realistic most people have at least one red flag and not to mention what one person considers a red flag, somebody else might consider as an greed flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:05 PM
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I'm from Latvia and here usually women and men are equally criticized for letting themselves go, this also depends in what ways they let themselves go. If a woman gets chubby after childbirth or with age etc. it's seen as unfortunate, but is not seen as that big of an deal and same goes for men if they slowly start getting a beer belly with age or because of health issues they usually don't get too much shit for it. On the other hand if a partner starts acting like an bum and becomes lazy both m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 03:53 PM
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I think it's great for men and women that we has less stigma when it comes to sex, masturbation and hookups, but it has resulted in an hookup culture which is a net negative for most people, since now people are scared of any kind of commitment to someone and often want their ''options open''. I imagine that there are even more cons ,than the ones i pointed out, to hookup culture especially for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 02:34 PM
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It's definitely underreported and society also doesn't take sexual harassment against men seriously, since men can ''take it'' and any sexual harassment or violence against men is seen as less dangerous or harmful to them, therefore it's not seen as that big of an problem by the society. Also sexual harassment and violence in general is extremely underreported for both women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 01:02 PM
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I am glad that at least someone is pointing this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:52 AM
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AI gf's / bf's or just a friend will be a great for lonely people who truly are having problems finding a partner or friends, but it will still not replace actual human connections and most importantly touch. You will still be touch deprived even with an AI bf/gf. I personally think AI companions will be the best tool for Old people who are truly lonely, without family or otherwise and need someone to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:43 AM
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I personally don't think men or women can really answer this without biases, because they simply can't fully imagine the experiences of the opposite gender and/or might downplay those experiences. Realistically both genders have to deal with equal amounts of conflicting expectations, the expectations might be different from one another, but that's about it. Also we should take into account the culture where you live, your race, your income class, the environment you're in and how you were raised…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:08 PM
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Yeah maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:28 PM
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I have, but i am just not interested in a relationship with anyone, there is no real reason behind it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:03 PM
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Hear me out and this might be wild, but maybe let people date whoever they want, if they want to date single dads or moms let them. Why are you so obsessed over who dates who?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:45 PM
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It's quite funny to see men go: ''the are no good women'' and women go: ''there are no good men''. There is no actual way that maybe you're the problem yourself, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:24 PM
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I'm kind of lost for words here, since it's weird for you to use ''if you study psychology'', but yet you forget that femininity and masculinity are psychological as well as sociocultural constructs therefore they are subjects to change. Not to mention, people often use decades old methods to assess these concepts. The newer theories and approaches are better, but we still have a long way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 02:08 PM
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You can both be very masculine or feminine and still be super compatible, It's not like the levels of masculinity and femininity are the only factors that make a relationship successful and the partners compatible. Also what you might find masculine somebody might find feminine or what you find feminine somebody would find masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 01:14 PM
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They don't identify as incels, but they get grouped in with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 11:53 AM
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Unfortunately a lot of lonely men get automatically coupled/grouped in with incels, so when some people hear of lonely men they assume that they are incels (which are rightfully seen as toxic, sexist etc.), even though majority of lonely men don't share the toxic views of the incel community. Plus a lot of people have "Us Vs them" mindsets, so when lonely men vent their grievances, they feel like they're being attacked directly. This also happens when lonely women vent about their struggles and …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 12:18 AM
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Open relationships aren't for most people in the 1st place, they simply can't handle them and one sided open relationships probably don't work at all without the other partner growing resentful in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 10:55 PM
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That type of transactional mindset is just sad if anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:22 PM
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True i guess haha, but he might just as well scream ''I paid for gas / transport to get here, what do you mean i won't receive a bj?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:16 PM
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To be fair, most men who pay for dates don't expect anything in return and those who do will still expect something even if the bill is split, so splitting the bill for that particular problem is not the solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:10 PM
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Unfortunately that's just how dating culture has evolved, because of various reasons. Although i should say that this is slowly becoming less of an expectation nowadays, which is nice since when you do pay for your date women appreciate that a lot more.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:05 PM
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The title of the post is great - men ( and women )shouldn't waste their time on women or people in general who don't appreciate them. But everything else in this post is pretty worthless info. On your 1st date you can really only show appreciation outside of words of affirmation, compliments, dressing up nicely etc. etc. OP should have probably included what they meant by appreciation and what they want it to look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:00 PM
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This probably depends on what the other person is seeking, there are definitely women who see virginity in men as an red flag, but on the other hand there are women who don't care or even see it as an good thing. Plus this also changes depending on where you live and the culture around sex there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 01:05 PM
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It's so wild to see some men and women approach dating and romantic relationships like it's some kind of game that relies on manipulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:47 PM
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I don't think anyone would in good faith argue that you shouldn't judge somebody by their actions. There is definitely lack of accountability though, but i have seen just as many men as women who lack accountability for their actions or lack of action.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:48 PM
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It saddens me to say this, but i didn't know humans could be this stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 08:41 AM
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Well to be fair there is definitely pushback already against any Men's rights groups, for various reasons. Plus as it stands right now, i don't think people are ready to actually discuss in good faith and try to fix issues men are facing nowadays, at least not without the ''us vs them'' mentality. Just like men when it comes to Feminism, women also often see any kind of ''Men's rights'' community or group as an direct attack on them personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:20 AM
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The ''us vs them'' mentality is such cancer and probably the cause for most issues nowadays, you can't speak about any issue without getting replies such as - but what about us and our problems. There seems to be this idea that if you speak about one issue you inherently want to destroy the progress made on an different issue. For example when men talk about their issues in dating or in general it's taken as an direct attack on issues women face or if women talk about their issues it's taken as …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:09 AM
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Why do you even need this exchange, don't you want to live in an clean apartment yourself for example ? There is no way ( hopefully ) you would be okay living in an dirty, messy apartment or house. Plus why are we acting as if women don't want sex and they're doing it only for their boyfriend and husbands etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:50 AM
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I seriously can't imagine this happening while being the way I am. But in some wild world - If she kept the baby I liked her, I would stay with her, but if not I would work something out with her be it child support or some kind of agreement and coparent, since it is my responsibility to do so. If she didn't want to keep it, that's her choice, I personally don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:26 PM
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People usually aren't psychopaths and don't falsely accuse someone. Plus the legal system and police isn't made out of bunch of morons, you can accuse someone of hitting you while having 0 evidence of abuse, scratch marks, bruises etc. You can't seriously suggest that police would dismiss video evidence, which is probably the best kind of evidence. Although false accusations are horrible and should be harshly punished, they are nowhere near as common as people on here often suggest. Plus get a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:14 PM
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I am giving them the benefit of the doubt, since they might be genuinely curious with no ill intent.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 06:57 PM
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You might as well be from a different Universe the way talk about relationships. Just so you know, the work you and your partner puts into a relationship is never going to be 50/50, some days it's 30/70, other days 80/20 and sometimes 0/100..etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 06:11 PM
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I actually doubt that emancipation and women's education how anything to do with lower birthrates overall, it's more so the access to contraception, healthcare, education and people in general are less inclined to have children nowadays since raising a family is extremely time consuming + expensive and majority of women and men want to focus on their careers, plus depending on where you live it's extremely hard to sustain a household on two incomes let alone one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 05:04 PM
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The OP is obviously a bit sexist, but it's a bit of a stretch to call them racist just by going off of this post alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 04:53 PM
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I don't want to talk for all men, but a decent amount do appreciate women who are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 03:20 PM
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All the examples you gave are a Turn On...except if she plays the drums, that's an major turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:50 AM
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You lost me as soon as you used to describe people in levels, this feels like some kind of WoW character guide.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:44 AM
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I actually doubt that most people be it men or women have ''safe options'' or have that kind of toxic mindset. I can see why men and women would feel resentful if someone called them a ''safe option'' since it implies you're not what that person actually wants and they're ''settling'' for you. Plus people probably don't want to date someone who sees them as a ''safe option'' in the 1st place, that's a major turn off for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 12:34 PM
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Ghosting is just impolite and that's about it, men do, women do - it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 12:06 PM
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For some men it's fear of rejection, for others it's fear of coming off as creepy and some men think it's inappropriate to approach women nowadays. There definitely more reasons like lack of social skills etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 11:28 AM
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The pill communities and other communities on the internet have at best subpar understanding of what men or women ''should be'', for example reddit communities that touch on gender related subjects ( not just PPD, even the super progressive communities ) are usually echo-chambers that spout one kind of view on gender related subjects and deny or outright ostracize the rest. So just do what you want and like, why does it matter what some dipshit individuals on the internet think about what YOU sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 10:06 AM
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When there is actual talk about male loneliness epidemic it usually includes lack of friendships, family relationships etc. and that's a subject i doubt people really care to talk about on here. You probably won't find a post on this sub about those specific topics since on this sub people primarily talk about gender relations between men and women. Btw i don't think people can spawn a sibling out of nowhere, at least i haven't bought that dlc yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:53 AM
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It's kind of funny to watch men and women try to convince others that the world is made for the opposite gender, yet never acknowledge their own privileges or the problems of the opposite gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:41 AM
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Unfortunately people don't really care and take seriously claims about domestic violence against men and this is probably not going to change anytime soon. I also don't think feminist are in the wrong with their DV,SA takes, since they are true.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 11:17 AM
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Most people date around their age and outside of the internet older men and women don't want to date much younger men or women for obvious reasons, be it life experience, maturity, views on life etc, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:22 AM
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I doubt that most people really want a stay at home partner these days, since i can't imagine someone providing for a whole family with just their income nowadays, at least when it comes to where i live. But if we don't count that, there would probably be way more men willing to be house husbands than woman willing to have a house husband, there are probably multiple reasons for that, but one of them is that a decent amount (not all obviously) of men lack the understanding of how much time and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:10 PM
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They don't need to if they don't want to, they just have to accept the consequences of not doing so. It's their choice and their consequences, this goes for both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 08:59 AM
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Imo both statements are a bit over the top, most men don't stare at others and most women don't distract others on purpose. People usually live in their own little worlds and don't pay mind to other people around them, it's pretty rare to see anyone actually constantly going out of their way to stare or distract others on purpose. You've to be a bit self-centered to think that people around you are doing something to get your attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 06:57 AM
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Dating someone you don't feel attracted to is just painful for you and the person you're dating, there is no gain for you or the other person. Why would a man or a woman want to date someone that deems them unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:45 AM
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To be fair why should anyone care about this, if somebody can't find a partner because of their high standards that's on them. It's their issue and not men's or women's issue, it's their choice and their consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:40 AM
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If that's the case, Although it's hard and sometimes painful people should just accept that there isn't someone for everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:54 AM
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The women you saw on that podcast doesn't represent all women and their experiences, just like one guy doesn't represent all men. Men and women aren't these two hiveminds that all think the same and have the same experiences. Women just like men can and are lonely and as wild as it sounds it's largely for the same reasons and they have similar experiences. The ''us vs them'' attitude is really the biggest issue when it comes to discussing these kinds of topics...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:39 AM
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To be fair, i feel like there are bunch of men who are happy and content being single, but you won't find them on here for obvious reasons, just like single and truly happy women won't be posting on here or on any other similar subreddit how good their lives are being single. From what i've seen there are almost just as many unhappy and single women as there are men. So it's not really a gender specific thing, the only thing that's different is the communities they are in and maybe how they expr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:32 PM
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That's for sure, there is definitely a lot of risk for women when it comes to dating there is no doubt about it, which is why i believe women should be extra selective and more vigilant when it comes to the personality traits, morals etc. , i can't really say the same when it comes to looks though. Just in case, I should probably point out that i'm not disagreeing or disregarding your point about below average men considering themselves higher, i am just saying that it's something people in gene…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 04:41 AM
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Yeah, i mostly agree with you, although i believe this a problem for people in general. Also from what i've seen most average everyday people settle for someone in their league or a bit higher/lower, haven't seen the extremes you mentioned outside of celebrities or the rich. Plus as wild as this may be, there might be a small chance that everyday people also care about the personality of their partner, sometimes even more than they care about looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:07 AM
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No, i've no intentions of blaming someone else for my problems or misfortunes. I rather focus on the things i can control in life and on what makes me happy.
/r/AllPillDebate05/11/23 07:30 PM
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Skin condition.
/r/AllPillDebate27/10/23 07:20 AM
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It would be interesting though, I imagine many beauty standards would slowly lower or completely disappear, which imo is good.
/r/AllPillDebate25/10/23 11:36 AM
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I consider courtship to be something that reflects your personality so if anything that's probably the way to go about it if you're unattractive, since attractive men don't necessarily need to court a woman to get a date or to get laid.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 04:56 PM
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Yes, since if i genuinely enjoyed spending time with that person and/or loved that persons personality none of that would matter.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 02:09 PM
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I think it's fine for both men and women to want a partner with a low body count, there is nothing inherently good or bad about it. It depends on the individuals values and if you value sex as more than just...well sex... and consider it to be something deeper than that it's fine to have standards for your future partner. It will most likely lower your dating pool, but that's on you. There are plenty of women who don't want to date a man who has a high body count, and as radical as it might soun…
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 11:48 AM
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I wish incel communities and pill communities would openly criticize and/or outright ban these kinds of views, since these kinds of sentiments are making it extremely hard for others to take the issues incels face seriously. They're basically self-sabotaging themselves. I personally sympathize with genuine incels who don't outright hate women and are just lonely for various reasons.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 05:59 AM
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This is too unhinged even for this subreddit.
/r/AllPillDebate23/10/23 05:21 AM
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I was a happy fling accident so i probably would still exist lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 01:55 PM
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It's probably because of societal norms. It's normal and even polite for men and other women to compliment a womans appearance, on the other hand men and women rarely compliment men on their appearance, it may be because we value men and women for different traits or it may be because we simply appreciate a womans beauty a lot more so than we do a mans. Edit : We should probably strive to change that an value the beauty of each individual no matter the gender and give more compliments to people …
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/23 12:11 PM
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If you were married and truly loved your wife why would you ever sleep with another woman just for a quick dopamine hit, it's not worth it.
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/23 05:09 AM
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Well said! It's quite sad to see this happen and for it to be so normalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 05:36 PM
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Excellent take and an awesome husband :D
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:31 PM
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Men and women should probably realize that sometimes their standards are way too high for their own good, unrealistic standards are not really a gender specific thing. Plus in the real world most people have pretty flexible standards especially if the person they are talking to is attractive personality wise or they have unique quirks that they find unexpectedly appealing to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:22 PM
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Well the thing is that everybody has a different definition of what low standards are, what some consider to be pretty high standards others considers low and vice versa. So are they actually lying...who knows...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:01 PM
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I guess it depends on what is considered fat, since i personally don't mind a women who is chubby or a bit overweight and i consider that normal/average woman, but to me fat is someone who is obese which i personally don't find attractive, but others might. Plus the average man in real life probably wouldn't mind dating an overweight, chubby woman, especially when they get to know them and they click well together, since to most men personality matters which i know sounds a bit too radical and o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:57 AM
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From my experience, most people in the real world don't hate ''all men'' or ''all women'' in general. Reddit and the internet in general allows groups of individuals to just fester unhealthy views and make it into a circlejerk where they actively spread more hate and toxic behaviour. This applies to both ends of the spectrum men, women etc. I often see random user vent their frustrations with a person of the opposite sex and other users in the comments automatically assign these issues to the wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 05:01 AM
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It's a fear both genders or people just in general have, the fear of growing old alone and dying alone. Some people from both sexes use it as an insult by "warning" someone that they'll die alone if they don't do xyz or stop doing xyz.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:00 AM
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Imo cats are far from being the worst pets out there, but that's subjective.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 09:56 AM
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Darn it! My worst fear came true. /s
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 09:16 AM
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I'm pretty sure women just like men are a bit more complicated than that when it comes to dating, choosing a partner. Plus masculinity is also something that's kind of subjective.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 08:52 AM
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Not at all, i personally don't care much about who dates who either race or gender wise, i find it rather beautiful and healthy for the society, there more it happens the better if anything. Plus i don't see how it would make a men or women lower status to date a black person or vice versa.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 08:12 AM
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Speak for yourself, i personally find muscles on women attractive.
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/23 07:31 AM
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If you cannot find a partner for long periods of time than lowering your standards should probably be one of the 1st things to do for both men and women. Probably lower your standards when it comes in regards to looks 1st, since a lot of men and women have high standards when it comes to looks specifically. Don't get me wrong, you don't have to automatically get rid of all of the standards you have set looks wise, just take some parts out. For example if you're a guy and one of your requirements…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:53 AM
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that's going a bit too far...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 04:10 AM
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I can somewhat imagine this being true, but most guys i know, who have lived alone for long periods can cook ,clean and do all of the basic house chores since you quite literally can't live alone without knowing these things. Although it could also be the case that we're just surrounded by different kinds of men and/or cultural norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:44 AM
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This seems to be changing with the younger generations though, especially when it comes to childcare duties, housework since both parents lack the time to care for their child and take care of the house so both parents have to take care of both as much as they can. On the note of emotional needs, this is changing too, but extremely slowly since there are still old societal norms rooted in both men and women about how men should express their emotions or should they at all, which are still taught…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:34 AM
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This! Unfortunately that's a hard pill to swallow, since it is easier and more comfortable to have ''us vs them'' mentality and have 0 accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:27 AM
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Every relationship is different, sometimes the woman is the problem and sometimes the man and other times both of them are the problem. I highly doubt that inherently one gender is more violent or abusive than the other when it comes to intimate partner violence, since there are equally as many abusers and just shitty people in general on both sides of the spectrum. Plus most studies use self-reports and most women and men don't really report domestic physical or mental abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:24 AM
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To be honest, most men don't just do everything to impress women. You can't really achieve anything if your only goal is to impress a women since that's a pretty weak motivator. Passion, life goals, interest in a subject and just the need to survive is a much bigger motivator for working long hours, selecting harder college courses, picking tougher more high paying jobs. It's pretty demeaning to assume that for men there are no other goals or other reasons to achieve anything in life, other than…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:14 AM
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Great post! It's unfortunate that most of the things you pointed out are true for most individuals here or in general. I believe that men and women should follow the standards they set for others themselves for example if you want a fit girlfriend, be fit yourself and if you truly are having a hard time finding a date, maybe lower your standards and see where it goes, i often hear from people in long term relationships that their partner at first wasn't their ideal type at the time they met. Alt…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:01 AM
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Definitely, this is a wild and a very radical concept but not everything is about looks, wealth etc. especially in the long term. People may fall love with someone because of their personality, unique quirks etc. Don't get me wrong looks are important, but it's not even close to being everything there is a successful relationship.
/r/AllPillDebate15/10/23 10:46 PM
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Well nowadays in most countries you can't even afford to have a housewife, househusband so it's basically a requirement for both partners to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:16 PM
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Great post. People simply lack empathy and most can't even imagine how it is for the other side even if they face the same issues of being unattractive by societies standards etc.
/r/AllPillDebate15/10/23 12:27 AM
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I don't see the logic behind cheating to make sure you're not getting cucked, but okay. Either way don't cheat, only cowards cheat.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 10:04 PM
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You can be tall, but have several other issues that make it really hard to date, find love etc. Being tall definitely gives you some advantage in the dating market, but it is definitely not the make or break factor.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 09:56 PM
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I highly doubt most FA black women even fit your description. Most FAW in general just like most forever alone men are quite shy, quiet and introverted and possibly look below average. FA people in general seem to be dealing with similar issues no matter the gender. I don't even know why you're assuming that they're not trying to be more feminine or girly, i've seen some posts by FA black women and some of them try their best to do so and still fail to find a partner for various reasons, just li…
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/23 02:39 AM
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Well her dog did step on a bee which is very traumatic.
/r/MensRights11/10/23 07:24 PM
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I personally don't care that much about virginity, but a huge body count might be a red flag depending how old the individual is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:49 AM
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The femcel posts i've seen don't really hate on men and are just as sad, lonely as any incel out there. The core issue for femcels and incels is the same, they are usually unattractive by societies standards and can't find a partner. I think these communities should bridge the gap between incels, femcels and any other ''cel'' community, since you're facing the same core issues. There are also incels who belittle and have nothing nice to say to others, so it's not really a gender specific thing.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 10:20 PM
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Unfortunately or Fortunately? i don't know any of these people, but i am interested in the Lore :D.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 10:08 PM
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Probably continue living, although a fruitful, long term relationship can be deeply meaningful and can enrich your life, there are still other ways to attain happiness and meaning in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:52 AM
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Don't really see the point of hating women as a group or anyone in general. Rather hate or/and try to change societal norms when it comes to gender relations, standards, expectations etc. Edit : I know this is an extremely radical point of view.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 05:36 AM
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i''m 21 now, i'm below average now and was considered quite below average looking as a child so not much changed for me. Although some people have major glowups in their late teens, even if they were ugly or below average looking in their early teens.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 03:18 AM
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well to be honest a decent amount of ugly teens experience a glow-up later in life. Some of my friends and classmates who were arguably ugly or just considered below average are pretty handsome / beautiful now. So there is always hope for teens, young adults.
/r/AllPillDebate09/10/23 03:15 AM
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I'm not sure if this is the right subreddit for your fetish, but you do you. All the power to you, follow your dreams xD
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:30 PM
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Probably, if social norms and expectations wont radically change for men and women.
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 05:39 PM
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Because of some of the posts on this sub or/and comments left on the posts on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:14 PM
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This might not be true, but i have a feeling that a decent amount of guys here don't really want relationships with the average or below average girls with their interests, which in the long term would be a lot more fulfilling than a relationship with a hot ''Stacie'', they mostly care about looks and the sexual aspect of the relationship, but again that's probably only a fraction of the guys here...hopefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:38 PM
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In my opinion, people find it much easier to blame the other side rather than take some accountability for their actions or lack of action, which seems to be a problem for most people, no matter the gender. On this sub specifically there is just lack of understanding, lack of any kind of empathy for the other side and a lot of anger when it comes to gender relations, this seems to be a problem for both men and women here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:27 PM
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I actually find this quite sad, but not surprising. Blue pill and mainstream in general is demonizing or discarding the issues men and some women incels, femcels face, so it is not surprising that these individuals will gravitate towards the communities who recognize, discuss the issues they face as a community and as individuals.
/r/AllPillDebate07/10/23 05:14 PM
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I'm pretty sure this sub has toxicity problem in general...unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:59 PM
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Yes, but in my opinion everyone does this when it comes to unattractive people, the gender doesn't really matter in this case. Some people have hybristophilia, especially when it comes to murderers or/and they are ''fixers'', these people believe that they are the only ones who can fix and help these certain criminals, murderers etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:48 PM
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Went to the toilet and flushed? Imagine the poor kids in Africa who could have drank that clean water you just used to flush. smh, be better ,do better.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 10:16 AM
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I'm happy to hear that you've had some success in the dating market. It is a shame that being overweight makes men invisible.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 02:43 AM
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Why is it ridiculous ?
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 02:05 AM
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I've noticed that too, irl and on here. I'm not surprised by it though, since it is easier to blame the other side rather than taking some responsibility over their situation. It seems to be even harder to come to some kind of compromise and as you said give and take equal control over their gender.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 01:18 AM
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any particular studies? You don't have to link them if you don't want, you can just give the gist of it.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 01:13 AM
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yeah dating definitely does seem to be about looks and a lot less about the individuals personality, i wonder if it gets better the older you get since looks fade, but your personality and achievements continue to develop and grow.
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 01:12 AM
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Unfortunately 0, still hoping tho :D
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 12:22 AM
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Not to be too radical, but in my opinion all incel groups have it equally hard. Maybe the struggles are different, but the core problem is the same. I can see why you might feel like being a lesbian incel is harder since your dating pool is a lot smaller than incels or heterosexual femcels.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 07:53 PM
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As a partner - companionship, love, affection, etc. As a friend or just a colleague, peer - different perspective, advice etc.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 06:40 PM
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As i said previously that only some guys have these standards and mindset. Most ( at least i hope) go for their match or lower or a bit higher.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 01:36 PM
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Yeah i get that, i also might be romanticizing the whole thing a bit too much. However i think courting is about finding the balance of doing enough, not too much and not too little, to spark the interest of the other side.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 02:19 AM
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From what i've heard from people around me, random chats with strangers and from what i've seen here on reddit, some of these guys say it's a deal breaker if the girl doesn't have perfect skin ( no acne, imperfections etc. ) while these dudes do 0 skincare or basic hygiene themselves or if the girl isn't skinny / fit with good curves, while they are on the chubby side themselves, these are just some examples. It is okay and even good to have standards, but at least have some standards for yourse…
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 02:12 AM
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Yeah it's pretty unfair, but i imagine if you actually liked the girl you are courting, you wouldn't mind or care how much effort the previous guy put in, you would just try your best.
/r/AllPillDebate03/10/23 01:07 AM
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Definitely true, but i would like to mention that a lot of average/below average guys have pretty high standards for women. It's an issue for most people nowadays, we have very distorted idea how the average guy and girl should look. I would personally blame media :D, but it is what it is.
/r/AllPillDebate02/10/23 08:20 PM
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Someone caring for your safety for you isn't limiting your freedom, since you can always ignore the comment and still do it, but of course people often hear what they want to hear, so people caring for you might sound patronising.
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