| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 10 | What does it mean | Mjolnir37 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/23 09:46 PM |
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| 4 | World changed right before my eyes.I second this | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/24 01:10 AM |
| 6 | Time heals all woundsThis hits close to home | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/24 02:51 AM |
| 6 | *Who* are these men that go through divorce once and then *get married again,* and WTF are they thinking??They would have to be my equal professionally and financially. Agree to separate bank accounts. Separate 401k, etc. then maybe. If the risk is fairly equal then it could work. No bottom feeders looking to level up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/23 02:41 AM |
| 2 | How long did it take you guys to rebuild?That was awesome | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 11:48 PM |
| 4 | How long did it take you guys to rebuild?This right here. Similar story. Dropped the dead weight and doubled my retirement in 4 years. Took and extra job but I’m grateful for the opportunity | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 11:44 PM |
| 1 | So, my wife decided that enough as enough, we will get seperatedIs this how you want to live the rest of your life? Give her the divorce and see how much less stress you have in life | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/23 01:55 AM |
| 3 | Prevalence of the Modern Walk Away WifeNailed it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/23 02:04 AM |
| 9 | So... how long does the seething hatred last?Amen brother I’m with you | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/23 12:56 AM |
| 4 | Anyone making money?Yes. Making more and most importantly keeping it. Took on a side job to repair the damage and now it’s literally night and day. All the dumb stuff I don’t have to finance. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/23 02:53 AM |
| 5 | Is there something in the water?This is so accurate. My ex is too stupid to understand what her BFF did to two families. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 12:17 AM |
| 5 | She's not the woman you marriedYou will. Keep at it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 12:11 AM |
| 1 | I don’t know when to give up or how to leaveWhat exactly are you fighting for???????? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/23 09:31 PM |
| 3 | What does it meanBallistic romance missile. Definitely going to use that one again. Thanks man! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 01:12 AM |
| 3 | What does it meanThanks. I appreciate your input. The simplicity is what I love. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/23 12:10 AM |
| 1 | What does it meanYour probably right. I worked a crazy amount of extra time this month. So feeling a bit strained. Maybe I am overthinking it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/23 11:03 PM |
| 2 | What does it meanThanks. I appreciate you sharing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/23 10:07 PM |
| 3 | Stuck in the sadnessThat kinda brings up another point. I did the kids, dogs, white picket fence thing. My motivations regarding a relationship are much different at 55 than my 20’s. Same here I don’t hate women at all. I have found me peace, my center…..I don’t really feel like giving it up. It was hard won. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/23 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Stuck in the sadnessSame as you. My post divorce life is so drama free and just all round better. I actually struggle with the concept of giving it up. I have two very high quality and high income women I am dating and still don’t see myself giving it up. Weird how the pendulum swings. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/23 10:01 PM |
| 2 | How to deal emotionally with having to give a big chunk of money to a leech?You cut it off like a tumor. Then you heal and show the world and her what a machine you actually are. Double down, be a beast, dominate and thrive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/23 03:59 AM |
| 8 | Dating. Anyone else finding it hard to get back out there?Yes. I’m 4 years out. I dated a bit but quickly found I am still not ready to make the emotional investment again. It takes a lot out of you. You need to heal from this and get it behind you before going down that path. I’m 55 and don’t really see the point. I have kids, did the whole White House/picket fence deal. That’s old news. Any woman that has a shot at being a contender with me is going to have to be something special. Frankly it’s been a long time since I’ve been drama free. I’m not abo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/23 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Anyone win her back?Why would you want her back? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Retirement focusPick up that side gig. I work in healthcare and my side job has allowed me to catch up by leaps and bounds. Got promoted and am eligible for 457b on top of a 403b and catch up contribution because I’m over 50. So putting $52,500 away tax free. Do I want to work this much? No but better to do it now so I can enjoy later. Plus I like my job so not really too stressed. Where there is a will there is a way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 01:59 AM |
| 4 | Brain just continually searches for answersApplying male logic to the female brain doesn’t work | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 01:35 AM |
| 11 | Brain just continually searches for answersYour trying to apply rational male logic to the emotional unpredictable female brain. There is no understanding it. You will drive yourself crazy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 01:32 AM |
| 2 | I need a hobby for the 50% I don't have my sonThe gym. Not just because of the obvious. There are likely other guys that have gone through it or are going through it. Surrounding yourself with good quality men and the sense of belonging really helps. Brazilian jiu jitsu is the same. A real sense of comrade. I don’t know what I would have done without them. It also helps when you become the veteran and can be there for the newly struggling. To see the despondent conquer this and evolve into their best selves. Truly rewarding. With out my new… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/23 01:53 AM |
| 3 | Cheating Wife's lawyer reached out it's divorce timeHe’s not the only loser. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/23 11:31 PM |
| 7 | Who else has noticed...A new diesel truck | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/23 02:38 AM |
| 6 | Who else has noticed...Exponentially easier, not drama. No psychological warfare bullshit. My kids are getting older so the week I don’t have them I work like hell. This dramatically put my retirement back on track. Downsized my life and bought myself a present. That I could never have under her reign. A new diesel truck. The only thing I ever bought. I may take you some time depending on your situation but you will get there. We are men and we rise to the challenge not back down. It will change you but it will be for… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/23 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Working it out or divorcing? Is it worth trying or just to simply let go?Read out Loud what you just typed. Is this what you signed up for? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/23 01:55 AM |
| 9 | Did your wife’s friends turn her against you?Happened to me. Her BFF was cheating on her husband and that poison slowly crept it’s way into our marriage. I saw it coming from a mile away but there was nothing I could do to stop it. The BFF’s now ex husband called them both cancers. Malignant tumors that slowly take over and drain the life out of you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/23 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Marriage, what a joke!That was a great way to define it. “Enchantment” like a spell that needs to be broken. Once you understand this you are better prepare to accept the reality of it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/23 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Started a new relationship today. It affected me differently than I thought it would.Boy did this hit home. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/23 02:50 AM |
| 4 | How can I stop a Divorce.Stop simping | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/23 10:39 PM |
| 7 | Was divorce the biggest failure of your life?That was NOT your failure. It was hers. Looking to you for happy. It’s internally sourced.happiness is a decision. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 02:37 AM |
| 10 | A few words about purpose. Surviving a cheating wife.Well said. Thanks for the boost man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/22 12:55 PM |
| 8 | Did you become persona non grata to other married men friends after Divorce?My ex used to pull this gaslighting line of BS! Every thing was fine as long as I went a long. Boys the freedom is intoxicating. I don’t think I can give it up again unless she is off the charts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/22 11:03 PM |
| 3 | It’s OverYou are “luckier” than most. No kids and early in life. I’m glad you realize your value and are not tolerating it. That tells me you know you deserve better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/22 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Gentlemen; For those you you who are divorced, did your wife ever give you the "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" speech? If yes, did she end up initiating divorce or did you?Your life is not meaningless. You had a life before you met her. You still do. Just different than what you expected. You actually have an opportunity to re invent yourself. I know it doesn’t feel like it now but it is the truth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/22 03:08 AM |
| 13 | I’m 59 and about to be single for the first time in 30 years. When looking for single women my age how do you know when women want to be approached? What are some tell tale signs?Agreed. I have a buddy working on his third mistake. Wasn’t even out 2 months and dove right back in. I took the exact opposite approach. I did a 25 year sentence. I’m in no rush to go back to jail. The freedom is intoxicating. I’m not giving that up easy. She will have to be exceptional to give that up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/22 02:07 AM |
| 2 | How do you cope?It’s sucks no doubt. The time you don’t have them work your ass off! Either the gym, a side gig whatever. I work a side job and the week I don’t have them I pour it on. That’s extra $50-70g is really piling up. I estimate 3.5 million by the time I retire. So while she still has 25 years in a $2600 a month mortgage at 55 years old I will be on my boat trekking down the ICW. Enjoy the debt you materialistic coniving cheat. How’s the grass doing over there? Anyways to all the men on here. We were c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 02:18 AM |
| 1 | what if'sExactly | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 01:52 AM |
| 1 | what if'sNot your job to make her “happy”. Stop torturing yourself. It’s a rabbit hole with no answer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 01:39 AM |
| 2 | child's birthdayAbsolutely not wrong | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/10/22 02:06 AM |
| 12 | Anyone had an ex come back around?Simps | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/22 11:46 PM |
| 23 | Anyone had an ex come back around?This happened to me. We had our issues. Her pig friend got between us and poisoned our marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/22 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Don't know where to startThere’s another dude | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/22 03:24 AM |
| 7 | How do you avoid the rage?This is good advice | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/22 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Question about EXs familyMove on. I let them go for my own closure. Good people but I needed to so I could heal. Other wise I would always be ruminating about the old times. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/22 03:45 AM |
| 1 | 18 months out still stingsHey man, how you doing? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/22 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Who else has no desire to date anymore?This feels so familiar | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/22 02:28 AM |
| 2 | 18 months out still stingsIt is a kick in the nads. I was there too. 3 years out now and my life is only getting better and the momentum is building. No more drama, peace and quiet, all my debt is behind me and my retirement is massively back on track. It’s ok to have thoughts of revenge just don’t act on them. I know you know that. I am 54 and constantly getting attention from women 1/2 my age. After you are through this there will be a point you will ask yourself why you tolerated such poor treatment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/22 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Rant….You will never me happy living like this. Time to drop the hammer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/22 02:32 PM |
| 5 | 18 months out still stingsBuild your empire. Stop the beta behavior. You will drive yourself mad trying to figure the why she….? You don’t need anybody. You were single once, learn to be alone again. When you do that you become a very powerful man. It will be hard but worth it. To me it’s sounds like it was doomed from almost the start. You can do this brother, we are all pulling for ya. And stop drinking. Alcohol has never provided any benefit ever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/22 02:28 PM |
| 3 | Top 5 reasons your marriage failed and who initiated the divorce?Hobo blowing…. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Top 5 reasons your marriage failed and who initiated the divorce?I feel this bother | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 01:15 AM |
| 4 | What do you guys want post divorce?This guy gets it. This is exactly how I feel too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/22 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Side Hustles after divorceDefinitely do it. My mind set. I can’t control what happened but I can control how I respond. I’ll do what I always do, be the hardest working guy in the room BUT this time it’s all for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/22 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Did you or will you retire early because your divorce?I got lucky. Fortunately my ex makes very close to the same salary. Well into the mid 150’s. She was never financially responsible. A never ending want list. The old house was a money pit. She decides at 50 we need to double the size of the house and therefore the mortgage AND for another 30 years. At 50….when most are paying off the house. 2 years later wants a divorce. I walk away from all the debt. I did get my own place about a 1/3 the size. Picked up a side job and use that to make double p… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/22 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Side Hustles after divorcePharmacist here. Moonlight at another hospital. Has done wonders for my financial situation and really accelerated recovery. Retirement back on track and more cash in the bank than ever. Meanwhile she has a $2600 mortgage for the next 30 years still living paycheck to paycheck. We are both 54. Enjoy that you cheating hoe. Karma. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/22 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Get out when the mask fallsAmen brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/22 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Get out when the mask fallsAmen brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/22 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Is there really a 50% chance of this happening?Get out now | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 05:40 PM |
| 1 | $3.7k a month too much?Fuck that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 12:51 AM |
| 3 | Feeling like a failure after divorceBrother it’s like I’m looking in the mirror. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/22 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Emotional roller coaster - will it stop?I feel your pain. Same happened to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/22 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Moving on after a failed marriageShe was not your best friend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/21 10:41 PM |
| 4 | Divorce + Financial ruin OR Financial stability + Unhappy marriageFor me it worked out. We both made six figure salaries but lived paycheck to paycheck. Once legally separated from that financial black hole I was married to my money situation did a 180. More money in the bank because I’m not supporting her stupidity. You may be surprised. Yes per household I make less but I keep a lot more of what I do earn. Downsized and simplified everything. One day I may thank the guy she developed eyes for: he did me a favor. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/21 04:02 PM |
| 2 | What is the smart thing you or your lawyer did during divorce process?Ex pulled in nearly same salary. So alimony not a problem. We put on an 200g addition then two years later she wants out. House was a money pit. I offer the house if she leaves my retirement alone and we split the kids 50/50. I wipe $ 350,000 in red off my ledger when she gets the house. I downsize, work overtime like hell for a year and put all my debt behind me. I am free and in 4-5 years will hit the seven digit mark. She on the other hand will be working forever to support her materialistic … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/21 07:41 PM |
| 2 | So it begins. After 20yrs of marriage and 35yrs of knowing each other…This exactly. I lost a financial black hole when I divorced. Gave her the house (money pit) so she left my retirement alone. Making less per household but keeping much more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/21 10:28 PM |
| 1 | How did you touch the hot stove again.....shake the hornets nest. Youth? Ignorance? Desperation?This….exactly | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/21 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Secondary income for Spousal and Chikd SupportI got lucky. Really lucky. My ex makes nearly my range with lots of OT available. My side hustle is all mine. Her materialistic drive and need to have things set herself up. Had she been a stay at home mom I would have been screwed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/21 09:55 PM |
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