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When I separated we had a separation agreement. Included in there was some language on free trader agreement which basically absolved me of any financials to her. I was able to buy my house independently.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 11:45 AM
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That’s true, plus “beginner” bikes always hold their value. If you buy a bike for say 2-3k chances are in a year or two you’ll get the 2-3k back. That’s what I did anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 05:10 PM
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If you can find a training class with bikes it’s definitely the way to go. I hadn’t ridden ever and got my license that way.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 04:27 PM
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I had a motorcycle for awhile, pre divorce. It was great for a bit. Driving in heat, full gear, terrible drivers, and constantly being on edge led me to give it up. I don’t regret learning to ride, and I recommend doing it. My piece of advice is get a very cheap bike, learn in that one. See if you love it and get your skills up before committing to a bigger / nicer bike. My expensive hobby these days is working on cars lol.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 04:00 PM
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Believe me I understand. I just can’t do the emotional work to go down and through it. I did stop the random pop ups, but it’s hard even 3 years from separation and nearly 2 from divorce. We’ll get through it internet stranger.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 12:13 AM
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It’s far too much work to go back and delete it. I just move them into a hidden folder when they come up
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 11:54 PM
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Last year at this time we were in the middle of a final reconciliation attempt. I made a nice dinner and we had wine and talked, but nothing else really came of it. It's funny how much your life changes in a year. Sometimes you wonder if anything will ever be the same. At least i don't have kids that had to go through a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 07:30 PM
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That’s almost exactly what she said, often it imwas her saying things like “what value do you provide that I can’t pay someone to do”. Even then I still did lots of things for her, but they were always labeled as not important, until I didn’t do them one day, then it was me not keeping up with things. Just wish I knew why I still feel guilty and that I failed her, instead of being angry. I guess that’s the power of manipulation.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 07:17 PM
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Mine said she wish she could’ve added “until this no longer works for me”
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 03:58 PM
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You may have to accept the fact that karma never comes, and people don’t always get what they deserve, right or wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 02:30 PM
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I feel exactly like you do. I’m not religious or a prude, but I have almost zero sec drive. I think my ex essentially beat it out of me, and it’s been about two years since the last time. I still date occasionally but I’ve found it hard to even transition to wanting more from dates. I feel like I’m friendzoning myself. At this rate I’m Not sure I’ll ever get it back.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 10:38 PM
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43 final this last friday. 14 together and 11 married but separated for 1.5 of that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 04:27 PM
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Pick a better partner I think, it feels like she took out all the frustrations of her first divorce on me. He decided he was done and then just left and didn’t say much. I got drug through it. I suppose with the right partner I could do it again. My dad got divorced after a terrible first marriage, then met my mom and they’ve been married 43 years. So I’m not sure at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 07:34 PM
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I think it’s pretty bullshit my ex kept her ex husbands name for like the full 3 years after their divorce but is going maiden after our divorce. I know it shouldn’t matter, but it pisses me off.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 01:41 AM
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Mine said to me at one point “we are only communicating how you want, this is my divorce too!!” She was the one who filed / wanted divorce so….
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 03:44 AM
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It’s really hard to even kind of describe how things changed but they did. I like to think of lyric by third eye blind, “you don’t know what I think or what I believe, you should probably pack your shit and leave, before we kill it” Sometimes I think about this and wonder if anything was real. I’ve read guys here say the woman you divorce is not the one you marry, and I wonder who that person even was.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 03:08 AM
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It’s interesting how people cope, maybe it was the fact I was emotionally beaten for the better part of two years here at the end, but I feel nothing. I’m not sad or angry, just kind of empty. I agree with an earlier poster, go to the beach , or a mountain. Just try and clear your head as best you can.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 03:17 PM
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Exactly how I feel, I was actually entitled to spousal abstinence retirement but I didn’t push it. She kept badgering me about why did I deserve xyz. I just let it be.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 02:58 AM
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Thanks man, intelligently I know this, emotionally though…… Thanks for the kind words
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 10:56 PM
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Just a weird feeling honestly. She was the one who made more, so there’s part of me that’s kind of struggling with the idea that she’s paying me to get divorced. Like, I dislike you so much I’m willing to pay x amount of money to not have to be married to you, that’s the part that’s fucking with me more than anything I think.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 10:46 PM
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Today I cooked a nice steak, asparagus ,mashed potatoes and a glass of wine. We’ve been in this limbo for a year now. Put the deposit on a house last week after “trying” again, this feels different this year. Sometimes I wonder how things went astray, where I went wrong, how I couldn’t see it. I don’t have kids, my parents are on the other side of the country. Sometimes the silence is defeating, your post reminds me that this happens to a lot of people. There eventually will be light at the tunn…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 10:31 PM
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I’d ask you this, would you want someone to marry you if they didn’t feel passionate about you? What does passion look like in this case? What would it ideally be? Do you have a therapist? If so what are they saying? Could it be that the lack of passion you feel is just your own walls protecting you from marrying into someone who could become a nightmare like your first marriage. Ultimately no one wants to feel settled for, and I’d ask myself if I was her how would I feel being settled for. If y…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 12:40 AM
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I’m begging people please break up the walls of text with some paragraphs so we can read it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 10:21 PM
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Sometimes I wish that I could get that iciness or just nothingness from her, I usually get weeks of nothing then random, why didn’t you try harder to save our marriage etc, she wanted the divorce not me but it’s me who didn’t want to save it? Only a few more months until we can file….
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 12:22 AM
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I’ve gone back and forth on this myself, my dog died two months into separating, I let her say goodbye, but I can’t imagine getting another dog. I have a cat, but I mean it’s a cat, he’s cool, but my dog was my best friend and I honestly at times feel more lost without him than my wife.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 01:09 AM
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This, my wife said later that if she could redo our vows it would be “until this no longer works for me”. She spent a lot of time telling me how she didn’t need me and that I should want her to want me not need me, then later said I’m mad you didn’t try harder to stay together after we separated. Like you spent years telling me you didn’t need me, why would I fight to get you back? You said you didn’t need / want me!
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 09:09 PM
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One thing I struggled with and currently am is when she said”if I could rewrite our vows from ‘until death do we part’ to ‘until this no longer works for me’, that and her asking what value I bring because she’s ‘not having relationships that don’t provide her with value’”. Trying to wrap my head around a transactional type relationship and I just can’t do it, makes me a fool.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 11:37 PM
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Number one on that list….I felt that in my soul.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 10:13 PM
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If this true then why do lesbian couples divorce at the same rate as heterosexual couples? Only gay men have lower divorce rates……
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 03:06 PM
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Wait you guys have personalities? I’m Just am empty shell
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 01:00 AM
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I mean I’m in this situation now. It’s all my fault, constantly told that, she’s tired of carrying the emotional weight, I’m not “emotionally available “, we never fought no kids, no debt, but weren’t living the carefree erotic exciting life she wanted. She even said that I haven’t changed in 10 years and she de emphasized he needs in the beginning because I was “safe and loyal”. So tell me how to you work through that, when it’s all your fault, and when you ask what she wants you get “I wanted …
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 02:21 PM
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As someone with a z get the M
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 02:25 AM
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And how do you ensure the escort isn’t an undercover cop? Always been something I think I’d luck into
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 08:27 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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