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Agree that is it for people, not strictly men. I think it is more that we want to be seen as attractive. When you look one way, you get comments like "are you sick" or "are you tired". When you look another way, you get comments like "your hair looks incredible" or "the color brings out your eyes". The cycle reinforces itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 04:15 PM
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Something I have commonly heard among women is that men are approaching them, just not the men that they wish would approach them. Perhaps a part of the problem is the percentage of men who are approaching are the ones giving men a bad rap, and because the other percentage isn't there to give women a better opinion of men, women believe all men are this way. (A part of the problem, not the whole problem). I also want to add that most women aren't coming to Reddit to discuss the mundane interacti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 04:02 PM
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While I think it is gross to glorify a woman becoming legal and absurd that a woman 'hits a wall' at 25-30, I am absolutely okay with age gap relationships in a majority of cases. I believe women tend to be hypergamous, but I believe it is because female beauty is more highly valued and therefore both parties are still bringing value, just different kinds. I am not attracted to chads. I prefer men that look like they spend more time on Excel than at the gym. The 'spark' is more often a mix betwe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 03:31 PM
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Absolutely. The things he is good at, he should do. The things she is good at, she should do. Sometimes the other person needs a little help. Ebb and flow. Ying and yang. And almost never an exact 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 11:24 PM
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I frequently see some men on this sub telling women to vet their partners. These guys believe any and all negative outcomes a women experiences is due to her poor choice of partner and the consequences of that choice are solely her fault. If we’re holding women accountable, seems more than fair men are held accountable for their choice of partner too. Asking questions about how to help men vet their own partners is hardly victim blaming by PPD standards. Especially when we’re discussing hypothet…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:04 AM
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Age does not perfectly align to being well adjusted, however there is positive correlation between the two. Which age range do you believe would be most likely to make false accusations?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:10 AM
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Is it reasonable to conclude someone with an undeveloped prefrontal cortex would be prone to falsely accuse a man? And if so, if a man wants to decrease the chance of being falsely accused, should he avoid women with an undeveloped prefrontal cortex?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:55 AM
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Is it reasonable to conclude someone with an undeveloped prefrontal cortex would be prone to falsely accuse a man? And if so, if a man wants to decrease the chance of being falsely accused, should he avoid women with an undeveloped prefrontal cortex?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:54 AM
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There are always going to be some crazy people out there, but overall the chances are negligible for men who aren’t using manipulative tactics or something similar to achieve sex. I’d be curious to know the average age range of women who falsely accuse men of rape or sexual harassment. Logically, an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex would play a role in the decision to falsely accuse someone of such a horrendous crime. A brain isn’t fully developed until approximately 25 years old. Which just so …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:44 AM
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I think it is solid advice to find someone who you share values and interests with. Broadly speaking that is more likely to be someone "in your lane", but it does not need to be. I am currently dating a man of a different race, different citizenship, and has a six year age gap to me. However, we have so much else in common that our different "lanes" feel very much aligned.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 08:15 PM
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>they're nice because they want sex It is perfectly okay to be nice to us if you want sex. It is not okay to stop treating us with common decency when you discover we don't want to put your dick in our mouth. This harsh transition between behaviors is the problem. Niceness is the bare minimum level of respect all people deserve and many men and women stop abiding by this after rejection. The behavior on r/niceguys and r/Nicegirls is not excusable just because you heard something worse elsewhere.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 03:28 PM
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Honestly this is fair. What is considered extreme to one person may be the quiet part for someone else, and vise versa. However, ideas that start out as "saying the quiet part" more often than not morph into something completely different by the time it goes viral. Even I can admit that I've caught myself believing something that slowly morphed into an extreme view because I was seeing it online and then finding it in real life, but in reality it was a self-fulfilling prophecy of just finding wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:59 PM
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If men played that "numbers game" to make friends, many of their problems would be solved. Better social skills, higher confidence, and likely becoming more interesting as a whole. Dating opportunities would undoubtedly follow. But even if it doesn't, a group of friends would be wonderful for someone struggling with loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:40 PM
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Say something extreme, get clicks. Realize extreme thing gets clicks, make another version of thing. Many versions of extreme thing exist, thing gets normalized. Every few people actually believe extreme thing, yet it is everywhere. This is the cycle. It is happening to both genders and every other topic out there. Touch grass is a stupid phrase, but honestly the "few people who believe extreme thing" probably should.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:26 PM
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I’ve never used it. I think it’s reserved as a premium option on most the apps, so I don’t have access but probably wouldn’t use it if it was available. I wouldn’t mind if there was a weight filter. I haven’t seen weight specific, but I’ve seen body type and it didn’t bother me in the slightest.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:03 AM
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I would not give out my number in this context. When I have given out my number to “strangers” it is because we’ve talked long enough to have built rapport. If he thinks I’m fuckable and we have x y and z in common then sure he can have my number.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 01:35 PM
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I find plenty of men who also want to have a connection with me beyond physical attraction prior to a first date. I’m happy to weed out the rest. After all, us girls are supposed to be vetting the men we are with right lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 01:12 PM
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Every man who hits on me thinks I’m fuckable, I agree. For some men, that is the only reason. For some men, they are also interested in me as a person. This distinction is obvious. I’m only interested in the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:52 PM
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I’m the typical blonde bombshell type and let me assure you that we get cheated on too. Cheaters cheat and it has nothing to do with their partner. The most important aspect of beauty is enhancing your own features. Play to your strengths and forget the rest. For plenty of men, I’m their type and you’re not. For plenty of men, you’re their type and I’m not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:11 PM
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Hit the nail on the head here. And it doesn’t even matter what the other men are doing. A man who behaves like this absolutely stands out from the pack. When I’m asked out I want it to be because there’s a connection. Unfortunately most men act the way he described and I’m never going to give the time of day to a man who only is interested because I’m fuckable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 11:53 AM
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This. OP needed to add so many caveats to the scenario because it is terrifying for women to imagine but hopes to entrap them into an opinion from an impossible hypothetical narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 01:40 PM
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I agree the point is to find that person. I hope you find someone who appreciates your approach! Like most women, I would not be receptive to it so I stand by the advice I gave. I personally only want to hear sexual comments like that from a man I am committed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:55 PM
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If you believe most women find most men unattractive, why would you give an example that you believe would not be effective for most men when approaching women??
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:12 PM
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I think its far more likely that a woman would find that comment creepy instead of flattering.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 07:00 PM
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The "how" is significantly more important than the "where". Things I wish men would stop doing when approaching me: Stop trying to get me alone. You're a stranger, and being alone with a stranger feels unsafe. A man who considers both his and my safety is important to me. Stop complimenting my body first. Feeling sexualized too soon makes me think you're just like every other guy. Compliment the things I am doing instead. Stop giving me unasked for advice. This unconsciously makes me put my guar…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 06:20 PM
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Approaching is difficult, approaching in the gym is even more difficult. But what exact is happening in a guys brain when instead of saying hello at the water fountain or something, he decides it is a better option to follow me out to my car in the dark to ask me out? Is not being creepy that complicated?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:32 AM
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There are assholes on both sides of the aisle, simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:21 AM
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I feel like I am outing myself hard, but okay here it goes. Apparently, I will occasionally pass gas in my sleep. I get everyone farts, but I am fairly ladylike so when my ex told me I died inside. I hoped it was a random one off he just happened to hear, but after living together I have learned it is very common for me to do. Bless his heart he thought it was hilarious. Later on down the road, a different guy didn't find it as hilarious. Actively told me I was gross, and that I had ruined the i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:49 PM
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It's a real shame the username doesn't match too though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:37 PM
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Suddenly the argument is men have a lot of options? Its September 1, not April 1. ​ The chadliest guys on the planet still have less options than the average woman. You said this less than 24 hours ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:25 PM
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I appreciate your edit, thank you. My toxic traits include being far too trusting and loyal to people who have had second and third chances, and I don't say that facetiously. I don't do hook ups because I become very attached to my partner. I've had three serious relationships, but the ones that only last a handful of months have added up over the years. I don't believe my n count should matter, but the way some men discuss it it does feel like I am being punished for seeking sex from a committe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:39 PM
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It would have been wonderful if I got it right the first time, but I lost my virginity in college to a man I deeply loved and believed I’d spend the rest of my life with, just to find out two weeks after the fact he’d been cheating almost the entire time because I wouldn’t put out. And now you’re saying even rape counts? I have to live with the terrible things men have done to me, that should make my partner angry at those men, not repulsed by me. My number may reflect that I’m naive enough to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:09 AM
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This is clear to me when we’re discussing a body count that high, even I am grossed out by the pace required to hit that kind of number. But I hear many men say even 5-10 is too high of a count for a late twenties woman. But as a woman who does wait the first couple months before moving into the bedroom, who has had multi year long faithful relationships, who has had extended dry spells between partners… I’m already above that range. Why does the context of my number matter less than the number …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:13 AM
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Q4M: Realistically, how should a woman's sex drive operate? We get it. Most men would prefer a woman be an innocent virgin until the mighty power of his penis unlocks the insatiable sexual goddess within. For this exercise, we are going to categorize that as not realistic. Consider this independent of yourself, because she is a whole person with a sex drive prior to meeting you. What kind of sex drive do you seek in a partner? Men seem to overall have a higher sex drive, surely a woman that matc…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 05:26 PM
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Have you considered that the man finishing doesn't mean sex has to be over? The "women finish first" mantra stands because most men won't continue if they've gotten theirs already. Women should communicate how to help them achieve an orgasm, but we should not have to communicate that we would like to have one at all. And because sex is about validation for so many men, when he rolls over and asks "did you finish" it is incredibly hard in that moment to destroy him with a "no". Men do not respond…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:50 PM
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I do believe women are hard-wired to be sexually selective the same way men are hard-wired to find traits of fertility sexually attractive. However, solitude is still a new choice for women and I do believe we will see the pendulum swing back in the other direction in the future. Also, I would add that the "percentage of men attractive enough for pairing" varies wildly. As someone who digs nerdy guys in glasses, I really hate hearing that I am supposed to find Chad attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 02:26 PM
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Men doing something wrong undoubtedly is a small part of the issue, but I do believe most men are good. Overwhelmingly the issue women choose singlehood over a decent guy. I chose to be alone for several sexless years over settling down for the sake of it. The struggles of loneliness were better than any alternatives I had during that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 02:05 PM
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I might have access to casual sex, but I don't have casual sex. I require being exclusive with my partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 01:57 PM
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Those women didn't have basic human rights, they didn't have a choice. They married men out of necessity. Now, women are able to provide for themselves without a man and have the choice to be alone instead. Average joe's competition isn't chad, it is solitude and joe is losing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 01:40 PM
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Hey, I was approached at the bar last night too! This 60 somethings guy was so nice and was chatting to my aunt (54) and I (28). She went outside to take a phone call and he instantly changed and started speaking about how his wife lets him have an open marriage if I wanted to go back to a hotel with him. I can't call him a creep though, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:59 PM
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Sex is not a need for me. I have built an incredible life for myself and sex has not been a part of that for over a year now. I would definitely prefer to find a partner and have sex, but I'm not going to settle down for the sake of it. Nor am I going to sleep around for the sake of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:11 PM
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Sarah Dawn Moore! She is very level headed, and caters to a male and female audience.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 02:15 PM
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My bar for "not boring" is much higher than being capable of maintaining normal conversations. People want to have things in common with their partners. While relationships require a flow of yin and yang for balance, people who outright think "opposites attract" are fooling themselves. I find it boring when a man lacks spontaneity and a sense of adventure because those are things I find great joy in. I find it boring when a man has too strong of opinions and can't have a healthy debate because I…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 01:04 PM
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If someone is in a sexless marriage for an extended period of time with a partner who is not willing to work on the relationship so both parties feel fulfilled, that person should accept their situation or get divorced. If the partner is willing to work on the relationship, it is absolutely reasonable to expect to remain monogamous. Most people can understand the frustrations of the partner desiring more sex. Most people, however, do not understand why the partner not interested in sex got to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:28 PM
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I think it would be natural for a long term relationship to go through dry spells from time to time. Even as someone with a high libido, one to two months (while not ideal) is not a long length of time. But to answer you directly, in an imaginary situation where I am more than a year into a dead bedroom with my future husband, I still cannot imagine my sex drive outweighing my loyalty to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 05:51 PM
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B) sex is a stress and anxiety reliever. for men.... sex is a stress and anxiety reliever for men. Women typically need to already feel relieved of stress before they are interested in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:10 PM
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If you read through r/DeadBedrooms you'll find that most high libido partners are typically not interested in 'duty sex' because even they can recognize it as 'consensual rape'. No one should ever have to feel pressured or coerced or threatened into any sexual activity. Most partners upon realizing their partner was not 100% in would stop that same moment. Most partners would not engage in intercourse until they were absolutely sure their partner was 100% in. Her husband actively threatened her …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:51 PM
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I struggle to identify with RedPill for the same reason I don't identify as a feminist, these terms feel like they've been hijacked by extremism and have lost the fundamental purpose they had at inception. However, I do believe there is some value in both sides. I enjoy being apart of this subreddit because it helps me understand my inner femininity and reminds me of the personal growth work I still have ahead of me. I am here because my womanhood is a strength, not a weakness. Furthermore, even…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 01:36 PM
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If OP believes safe sex is equivalent to a dildo, they have neither never had sex or never used a dildo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 11:07 AM
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It is unethical to force anyone to use their body to sustain life for another person, starting at conception extending to and including death. Currently in the United States, a dead body has more rights to their organs than a living pregnant woman. Abortion is a women’s right issue regarding bodily autonomy. While I understand abortion does greatly effect men in other ways, because it does not require sustaining life with their physical body they cannot be the final decision maker for the woman’…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:26 AM
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