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Ohh definitely Kasidy Yates. She's driven, independent, and was full on ready to walk away from Sisko when he couldn't figure out what he wanted. And regardless of your opinion on the Maquis, the woman fights for her values
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:55 AM
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When he calls himself "traditional" or says he wants to be a "provider"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:10 AM
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I really should have. I just made it clear that it definitely was rude, and I wasn't interested in hearing him insult a random woman. The rest of the date was incredibly awkward and I never spoke to him again 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:33 PM
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Honestly I probably should have left. I made it clear I wasn't interested in listening to him insult a random woman, the rest of the date was incredibly awkward, and I never spoke to him again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:31 PM
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I was on a first date with a guy who cut me off mid-sentence to send a text to his friend. What was so urgent? A woman walked in that they both hated and he had to let him know 🤦🏻‍♀️ When he pulled out his phone he literally said "I'm not being rude", and then proceeded to tell me how much of a btch she was. Like...... excuse me? This is only a first date. I don't know you OR her. But I will always side with a woman over a random man calling her a btch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:16 AM
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Idk why "hand it to you flaccid" just made me laugh so hard 😂 like, I'm picturing him taking it out of his pocket and just.....handing it to you 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:40 PM
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I love the point about setting boundaries early. I usually find a way to set a small, ultimately inconsequential boundary in the first few days of talking, and see how they handle it. For example, I don't like talking on the phone with people I don't know well, so if someone asks to call me I usually say no, I might briefly explain why, and say I'd prefer to text. I had one guy call me 10 minutes later... Immediate red flag. I had another guy continue to ask for a phone call, badger me about the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:34 PM
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It amazes me that men, particularly white men, will sit there and argue that they have zero agency in their own lives and absolutely no control over their own behavior and are purely victims of the world around them causing them to commit these heinous acts....... And yet. Somehow. Think they're the ones who should be running things and making the decisions?! You don't get to openly admit that you're a child with no self control, and then ask for the nuclear codes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:33 AM
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Other people's relationships have honestly been so helpful in keeping me from settling, and keeping me from feeling less-than because I'm single. My internal dialogue is usually "come on, how did she find another man so quickly?" Or "dang, my other single friend found a man and I'm still alone". And then I think "ok...but would I want to date THAT man?" And the answer is always no 😂 I am not single because I'm undatable, I'm single because men are undatable and I refuse to settle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:53 AM
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At least sometimes you find something valuable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:47 AM
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I feel this way all the time 😩😂 the fact that I'm still, unfortunately, exclusively attracted to men just confirms that sexuality is not a choice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:24 AM
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"She never complains and I never ask" is what fucking killed me. She works full time and does 100% of the housework and you don't even check in to see if she's ok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:51 AM
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I've definitely found that conservative men will usually just tell you lol. The last guy I dated didn't like Trump but he was still conservative. He told me this, completely unprompted, on our first date 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 I don't mind someone a little conservative but Trump is a deal breaker. I think this political climate has made conservatives bolder, and more interested in making their views known. So they're just out here telling on themselves 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 03:32 AM
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I think everyone should have a therapist just in general lol I love it. But thanks, that's a great tip on how to bring it up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:55 PM
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This is definitely a pattern for her, this was just the longest one. I've talked to her about my therapist before and how much I love seeing a therapist. I'll absolutely bring it up again. She doesn't have insurance right now but when she does it will definitely help her. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:21 PM
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I hate that she's more concerned about his unwillingness to share his fantasies now than she is about her own fear of being emotional in front of him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:49 PM
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Because that's what they would do. LVM are always looking to "upgrade" the woman in their life regardless of how HV she is. So obviously a LVM would assume the same thing of women - that we'll just upgrade to something "better" even if we're with a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:00 PM
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He messaged me too 😂 I don't understand wasting your time spamming members of a sub you don't like. What a futile endeavor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:46 PM
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Any man who can't communicate his disagreement without yelling or cursing is not a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:49 AM
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Yes! Girl. Don't even worry about him or about guys at all. You're leveling up and have so much on the horizon. You're stable and have a good support system. You've got everything you need. If you happen to find someone in grad school who adds to that? Awesome! But don't take one ounce away from the work you're doing on yourself. You're gonna kill it 🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:42 AM
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I'm so sorry you went through that. I just tell myself I'm lucky it ended after only 3 months - he went away to rehab, so I had my own personal detox from him. I was pretty well sober by the time he came back 😂 But you're not an idiot for wanting to be cared about, and for allowing yourself to care about someone else. LVM see a big heart as an opportunity to take advantage, instead of as the gift it is. That makes HIM an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:29 AM
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I make lots of money and have no children or boyfriend so I’m gonna spend that $$$ on myself. 👸🏻👸🏻👸🏻👸🏻👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 01:18 AM
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It sounds like he was texting her from outside her place, instead of coming to the door. And if you don't have time to change then you say something about it. "I apologize for my appearance, this isn't the first impression I wanted to make, however x happened which prohibited me from being able to get home and change". I may be wrong, but I don't think that conversation took place 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:38 AM
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Literally laughed out loud 😂💀😂 fucking nature valley bars, man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:23 AM
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Not necessarily. When I did, it gave the guy the opportunity to lie about what he was looking for. If I'd let him show his hand first, I would have known we weren't on the same page.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:56 PM
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Well those men flat out aren't worth it, especially if they're being that blatant without asking you out at all. But it's hard to have that same sense of finality with men you've met and clicked with. I'm learning that it's a sign of their lack of certainty on what they're looking for. While I don't necessarily say I'm looking for something serious, I think it's obvious in how I carry myself. Men realize very quickly that I won't be something casual, and that forces them to decide - are they rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:48 AM
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Can we talk about the commenter that referred to women as "toddlers"? What the actual fuck?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:36 AM
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I'm in the same boat. Also introverted, so most of my dating is OLD. I meet people and occasionally click with them, but it doesn't go anywhere. And it's never that I've done anything wrong, there's never anything on my end. I'm always "amazing", it just doesn't work. I'm tired of being told how amazing I am by men who don't want to be with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:24 AM
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I love this. Also worth mentioning that even if you have these things, make sure you're in an emotional position to date. I will always respect a man taking a step back to work on himself, in whatever form
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:09 AM
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Did this for 3 months and it almost destroyed me. Took me from the highest point I've been at in years to one of the lowest. These LVM will really take every bit of emotional energy and stability you have if you let them. Don't ever let them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:58 AM
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Oh yeah purity culture definitely warped that one to shame young girls into "modesty", I used to hear it all the time too. Glad I could help 😊👍🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:27 PM
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Yessssssssss! God values you and wants you to also value yourself. What ever happened to not casting your pearls to swine?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:55 AM
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Which is relatable af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:52 AM
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Seriously. I went on two dates with a guy. He was sweet, but was wayyy too much too quickly. So I told him the next day that I didn't think it was gonna work and he LOST IT. Threw himself the biggest pity party, talking down on himself and all the things he must have done wrong, etc (all true but I hadn't mentioned any of them 😂). For a brief moment I felt bad, but then I realized this was after only two dates. I can't imagine what it would be like breaking up with him after 2 months 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:50 AM
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For real. My ex would ghost randomly. The second time it was for a week, and over that time I texted him novels, left voicemails crying, all the usual nonsense. On our apology date after he finally came back, I made a comment about one of the texts I'd sent. I don't remember his exact response but it gave the concrete impression that he hadn't read a single one of them or listened to any of the voicemails. That hurt almost as much as the ghosting itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:10 AM
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gave him a gift... Oh girl that got me lmao. LVM are the same yesterday today and forever. So glad this sub exists so we can open up about these stories and be motivated to stop settling for this nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:58 AM
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This is a disturbing combination of two of my exes 🤦🏻‍♀️ The first would turn off all emotion for me on a dime and disappear with no warning, completely ignoring my texts and calls. The last time - two weeks of silence - I went to his house an hour away. Drove past a bunch of times waiting for him to come home from work. Finally saw his car, banged on the door. For like two hours. His roommate came home and let me in, I knocked on his bedroom door and opened it, and this pathetic weasel CALLED T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 01:51 AM
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I suspect their delusions stem from porn sickness and Insta Thots warping what’s left of their little pea-brains! That's exactly where they come from. When you spend all your time getting off to porn stars, you get desensitized to the beauty of real, every-day women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 12:47 AM
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That's why I read all these comments - I'm creating a mental rolodex of devastating comebacks so I don't miss any more opportunities 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:15 AM
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For real though. Kind of pathetic (and telling) that "going their own way" still revolves around women 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:23 AM
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For real though. If you get to just slap my ass because you feel like it, I get to just slap you in the face for the same reason 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:19 AM
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She paid off his credit cards and he immediately maxed them out again......I'm sorry that's more than just not being good with money 🤦🏻‍♀️ why is she so eager to be legally bonded to his debt and irresponsible spending habits?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:16 AM
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Your last paragraph resonates with me a lot. I was trying to make a "friendship" work with a toxic ex, just because we work together (so I can't cut him out completely) and part of me still cares about him. It was becoming difficult, and my therapist asked me if I'd be friends with him if he was someone else? If another person came into my life with his characteristics, and treated me how he treats me, would I be their friend. And of course the answer was no. Keeping that in mind helped me move …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:10 AM
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I always notice how a man tips. Him treating me well and paying for dinner could just be an act to try and get what he wants. But tipping well on a regular basis is a character thing. It shows general respect and consideration for others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:53 AM
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"If my dream man wants kids, he's not my dream man" "But I love him!" Honey you just said yourself - he ain't the one 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:48 AM
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