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Just chiming in to agree with you both. Elder millenial here, I didn't get it from my parents and my mother did warn me that if I had a child, to be prepared to raise it myself even if I was married. Both of my grandfathers were abusive cheaters. My father was decent but emotionally unavailable and my parents were married but I was invisible to my dad and even though he came back, he abandoned us for a few years as a way to emotionally blackmail my mom. I was conditioned by culture and disney mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:14 AM
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That's why I used the qualifier "reasonably intelligent". They know how not to over do it ...they turn up that attention dial just enough to stand out but not scare a woman off. Some men are very smart and have access to the same internet we do and know that overt love bombing is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:31 AM
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Love bombing and genuine interest can look exactly the same from a reasonably intelligent man. What do you think happens when the love bombing stops?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 03:16 AM
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In most states it's not even his liberty. It's his credit score.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:23 AM
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When you have to repeat yourself about how you like to be treated it's a problem. Example: my ex, well into his 30s, kept openly flirting with college girls in bathing suits on instagram. I'm not going to address that behavior more than once. He should go be with who he wants which was clearly not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:58 PM
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No, I'M sorry!! lol 😇
/r/ExRedPill16/11/25 08:07 AM
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I was joking, sorry. I've been lurking in some less friendly subs today. I don't come here to fight, I come here bc ppl here understand things that a lot of ppl irl do not. I truly appreciate your warm wishes, ty.🌻
/r/ExRedPill16/11/25 07:07 AM
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Thank you! I'd be cool with either and if he's not interested I respect that too. ...but umm this is reddit, why are you being all nice n shit lol 😜
/r/ExRedPill16/11/25 06:50 AM
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Why would they be forthcoming? When those stories hit the news in the case of teachers (if they're reasonably attractive) the response is a chorus of men saying "where was she when I was 14?" and "why didn't I have a teacher like that?". Meanwhile some of those CHILDREN are on the hook for child support. I'm a mother of a son and I'd be in jail if a teacher of either gender did that to my child.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:31 AM
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When I said agenda, I should have been more clear. I meant men that want to f*ck and nothing more. I don't consider a man who wants to get to know me for a potential relationship as having an agenda although it is one. If that guy had started talking about wrestling or nascar, I would have kept it pushing. The thing about the hobbies and interests is that we have something in common, so when those chaos factors align just right, you find your person. I was not out looking, that was the universe …
/r/ExRedPill16/11/25 01:12 AM
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I went for a walk yesterday and on the way home I noticed the tree surgeon was here, which is awesome bc Iove watching them swinging around 150 ft in the air with chainsaws like it's nothing. I approached him bc I had a question about the work he was doing in our complex and it turned into a genuine conversation, partly bc trees are my niche hyperfixation (I'm literally reading a 600 pg book on pollarding (pruning) and I don't know a single person irl who would be interested in that. This man ob…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/25 11:52 PM
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The thing I liked about that video is the contrast between the two men and their values. Sometimes I feel like an interloper on this thread bc as a woman, my experience is obviously different, but I spent so much time in the old pre-quarantine/clean-up RP sub, I've been exposed to way more than what's healthy. I wish this sub had like a sibling sub that could serve as a support group for those who've lost or are losing their loved ones to this. There are so many of us but the world at large stil…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/25 06:44 AM
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I just want to say I'm sorry. I've got one in his mid 20's and this is a club no woman wants to be in. Especially since I've been dealing with this going on a decade now and NOBODY in our family believed me so they reinforced it -my DAD told him women are gold diggers even though EVERY woman in his family worked and when he was single he had no gold 🙃. There's an interview with Cam Newton (yuck, i know) and Jason Wilson that might be helpful. Nobody is going to accuse Mr. Wilson of being a beta …
/r/ExRedPill15/11/25 03:28 AM
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Welp, I'm a decade in. If/when he comes out the other side, I'll let you know. I've done everything I could possibly think of to no avail but I'm a 'female', so why would he listen to me? I hope you have better luck than I've had. I truly feel for you. I grieve every single day for the person I lost. I've gone no contact and no longer do family stuff bc they enable him and actively reinforce his beliefs (I thought I came from an open minded family, thats how I was raised ...but scratch the surfa…
/r/ExRedPill09/11/25 07:57 AM
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I agree with everything you said. Exposing myself to this stuff has changed me. I think more men carry these beliefs (even if subconsciously) than anyone who deals with them would want to admit. I tried to enlist the help of a man in my family to help the younger one. His response: "women who are overweight ARE unattractive and women who are in abusive situations need to take responsibility." I mentioned we share some similar experiences. The first comment pissed me off (i am 4" taller and a siz…
/r/ExRedPill09/11/25 07:05 AM
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I'm glad you're doing this. I'm a woman who only interacted by way of combing through forums and content and asking questions bc I was trying to save a family member. I failed. I did manage to poison myself bc I spent so much time reading toxic sludge. When I tried to explain RP to a therapist, he had no idea what I was talking about. Ppl who aren't terminally online (especially mothers of young boys) are unaware and there is really no guidance or support for families other than cult deprogramme…
/r/ExRedPill05/11/25 07:09 AM
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Bullet proof? Yes, that's the only way. We share a similar past and I have a family member who's RP'ed. When I first realized it, I spent forever on the RP sub seeking understanding (this was before the purge/clean up/quarantine), it was ugly and horrible but I understand it now. There is no choice a woman can make that's acceptable to them. Wanna be a stay at home mom? ...you're a gold digger looking for a beta to mine for resources and exploit. Wanna work? ...you're a masculine femin*zi and "r…
/r/ExRedPill05/11/25 06:43 AM
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This was before RP blew up but my grampa was a raging bigot. At one point he said something super egregious and I walked out of the kitchen. Came back later and he wanted to talk about school so I sat down and calmly told him that if I knew something I said would hurt or offend him, I would not say it and I told him I didn't understand why he didn't have the same respect for me. I think because my premise was "I respect you" it disarmed him. He NEVER did it again. If he doesn't realize he's hurt…
/r/ExRedPill10/10/25 11:22 AM
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You asked what makes them stick out. I'm not saying they're going to string all those words together, but if i heard any of those terms - the verbiage (other than the draft) ...just mentioned in passing... I'd tap out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 06:17 PM
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No, straight ppl are still gonna be straight. It's gonna be a more celibate country. Somebody better tell Elon, he's got a lot of work to do to repopulate the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:45 AM
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Would love to hear the fellas on dead bedrooms weigh in on how long before they filed for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:41 AM
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What are you talking about? 13 states have TOTAL bans.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:35 AM
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Then I guess they can learn that lesson directly instead of vicariously until it sticks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 06:03 AM
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I could be. I choose not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 06:00 AM
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You belong on a list. I'm not going to explain the lasting effects bc you'd probably rub one out while reading it but you deserve an intimate evening with diddy so you can limp back and tell us you're just fucking fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 04:00 AM
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Offender says what?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 02:14 AM
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The short answer is learning to read by guessing and osmosis with a lack of emphasis on phonemic decoding. The long answer can be found here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whole_language I think it's a huge reason why our boys are falling behind and I think it's harming their self esteem very early. These ladies: Clay, Fountas, and Pinnell are on my arya stark list because it's their fault and they made a ton of money and the money is why schools still use it. I've taken linguistics and you spea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 02:03 AM
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Sounds like you're interfering in God's plan. You're in trouble now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:25 AM
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because a man doesn't have to be conventionally attractive to the rest of the world to be the perfect person for us. When my bestie found her husband she said to me "i don't know if you'll hink he's cute". He was a heavier guy, but when I met him I told her "No, i get it. He's adorable. Beautiful eyes. Charming. Fun to be around. Congrats!" Not a GQ model by any means but very appealing. We know what conventially attractive is. I've dated and fallen in love with men who would not fall into that …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:22 AM
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no lie. happy cake day!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:07 AM
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This is kind of an aside and I've mentioned this a couple times on here but you mentioned literacy. Do you know what the 'whole language approach" to reading is? Have you heard of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:02 AM
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I was asked for an example of dehumanization. I'm not going to defend it. I don't think men grasp the scale of the problem if it's something they'd never do. That's good, don't stop being that good person, but just bc you would never doesn't mean everyone is like you. Monsters walk among us and if you think of all the guys you've known (depending on your age) I'd put money on you knowing someone who you wouldn't put it past them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 12:26 AM
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Right bc simping is transactional and we can sense it: -insert coin- One sex please. Oh gawd, all these reasonable responses on reddit. End times must be close.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 12:19 AM
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I would agree with most if that. I pilled myself bc I thought If I understood it (which I feel I do now), I could ask questions and get him to think critically like if you don't think women should work, BUT you don't a woman to rely on you for support what options does that leave? If you don't want to be 'divorce r4ped', marry a woman with the same general income level and try for 50% custody. If I was open to marriage, the last thing I'd do is marry someone who could outspend me in court and ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 12:15 AM
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True, but they did a LOT of damage before they imploded and it's not like they left a vacuum, other dipshits stepped in to fill the void and explain why women should stay with men who beat them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:52 PM
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I have been enthusiastically celibate for YEARS. I refuse to be alone with any man who might even tempt me. I had a horny dream about a friend with (former) benefits and didn't call him back for a month. You underestimate me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:41 PM
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The Red Pill
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:37 PM
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OMG!!! There's a little girl trapped under that car, help!! Mmm... idk, she might grow up to be a (GASP!) FEMINIST!! Can you tell me what she looks like? You think she'd be fuckable once she's legal, cause if not, I'm sure she'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:29 PM
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They don't like the answer to this one ..lol (yeah.. yeah.. not all men. Just the ones like jimmy iovine who could watch cassie take a punch and shove another bite of steak in his mouth).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:21 PM
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I'm not the person this question is addressed to but I'm gonna toss out a theory anyway: ALL OF THEM.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:15 PM
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So true, I can't wait until we have a society where widows get covered in sheets and have to beg on corners while ppl throw rocks at them. Progress sucks. Helping people sucks more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:11 PM
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Look buddy, don't come in here with your weird ass decency, you're fucking up the flow ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:08 PM
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But was she a virgin? ...more than 2 bodies and she's just a waste of valuable oxygen and a distraction from the high value women, amirite?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:05 PM
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I don't know how many women expect a stranger to protect them, but I'd love to hear from other women. There's a reason I carry. Depending on where you live, it's likely easier to get a permit than you think if your record's clean, ladies. I live in a super blue state and it was a piece of cake. If there was more uncertainty among predators RE: what they might face if the agress on a stranger, maybe they might reconsider.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:00 PM
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Right, because historically women have held all the power. Sorry, I forgot. All our fault. Go find where I minimize men's issues (not the way they treat us, how society treats them) you won't find it bc I don't believe it. -I think all men should be paid a living wage. -I'm against the draft. -I'm against circumsism. -I think it's unfair for the man to be expected to be the sole breadwinner (there's some caveats there esp. when kids are involved -but the idea that a woman is too delicate to work…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:42 PM
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Historically it has been men sending men with less political power to war, so yeah I'm definately blaming those men for that. The thought of sending your 17 yr old son to die for nothing terrifies any sane mother (and father I'd imagine, but sane is the key word -my dad kept saying "maybe the military..." I told my mother I'd physically fight my dad if my son joined bc he encouraged him and I almost never disrespect my dad). You are not going to get any pushback from me about how hard men have i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:09 PM
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What you say is true bc in my case it was the alt-right stuff that came first. I was on the phone and he hit me with what felt like a verbal powerpoint where he was channeling lil nicky fuentes. I was like my guy... YOU ARE NOT WHITE. So it goes both ways. I don't know how much of this you've inflicted on yourself but if you hear words like: high value, birth rates, women have value just for existing, hoe phase, 304's, the pay gap, Pareto, pedestals, body count, the fact that EVERYTHING you enjo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 08:44 PM
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Have I ever tried to conceive? No. But when I was younger I'd end up pregnant if a dude looked at me funny and I used protection religiously. I always lied about being on the pill, said I wasn't so I could insist on a condom to their dismay. I was in long term relationships though and had a fuck ton of sex so you know, typical CC (albiet faithful) wh0re behavior, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 07:23 PM
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Yeah.. amazing what a mother will do if she sees her son traveling down a path she fears will lead to a feedback loop that's going to confirm his bias that women are worthless whores. Don't worry he's on his own now, in his goon cave that he only leaves for food and an occasional shower, no job, no prospects, and his grandparents footing the bill and they're old. Just what every parent wants for their child, yeah? No marketable skills and complete dependence with the clock ticking?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 07:10 PM
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<image> Guess I'm part of that 0% then, which is why: I have been enthusiastically celibate for YEARS now, but do go on...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:58 PM
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I'm not disagreeing but that's why I said real world bc if you just track 100 couples for a year who exclusively use condoms and 15 end up pregnant, you dont have to add all those caveats ..doesn't go on right away or at all, taken of in the middle, breakage... yeah all those things are real and valid but the average american has the reading comprehension of a 6th grader (LOOKING AT YOU CLAY, FAUNTAS, AND PINELL AND YOUR CURSED WHOLE LANGUAGE LEARNING!!! ..YOU TOO OHIO STATE!!! #%$*&@!!!) so I u…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:53 PM
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Yes. "Women are emotional, men are logical" "Overweight women ARE unattractive" "Women need to take responsibility for being abused" "In my experience, women are gold diggers" (there's more) Thanks daddy 😞 ...the upside is my dad is now stuck doing his own fucking taxes (wrong, mind you -like so wrong the IRS gave him MORE money on his return and that doesn't even include all the money he's leaving on the table bc he doesn't know any better- he's losing thousands) because I'm just a silly girl w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:36 PM
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I don't disagree with anything you said. I'm glad I posted this bc the men in his life that should be guiding him are clueless and won't listen to me. I mean... he never leaves his room, no school, no job FOR ALMOST 6 YEARS!! ..and I have a real strong suspicion my mother is sabotaging him for her own selfish reasons. My dad is just ignorant in this area and being lazy and seems to think we're still living in the 60s.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:16 PM
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I do, I did, ...for 2 years befor I had even heard of them bc I only used youtube for music and DIY stuff. I don't think they were around when all this started with my son but the way I learned about those creepy mfers is my son told me to watch them bc they "make some good points" 😐 The "subhuman scum" part came straight from reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:45 PM
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Are you referring to that tinder 'study'? If you are, they always leave out the 2nd part. Yes, women judge men more harshly BUT they are more likely to still give those men a chance. With men it was the opposite. ...and tiniest grain of salt? Gimme the whole mine, the dead sea, the morton factory...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:39 PM
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I agree. I have 2 besties, one's a man I've known since I was a teenager, I love him to death. You are ABSOLUTELY right. The problem is that minority of creepy weirdos includes my son. I've lost my son to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:27 PM
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Agree to the first part but my twitter is just jokes and mutual aid with people who are like minded. I don't get into fights on there. I've been on a break from both twitter and tv news for like a month bc politics, i hate all of it. I'll go back to twitter when it goes back to normal shitposting and kitty beans. I have health issues that make the real world activities a bit of a challenge, but I have a couple of close friends and some really great neighbors so that's not the problem -my life is…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:20 PM
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"real world effectiveness" or "typical use" <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:54 PM
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I thought the exact same thing as I wrote it. I was being snarky bc you're right. EYE can't do it, I'm just an emotional female who can't logic. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:50 PM
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There is nothing natural about feeding 14 yr old boys into the f&f meat grinder. 50% of the girls in their freshmen class are not being flown out to Dubai. How can girls be gold diggers, bc remember: AWALT, in a cohort where the boys have no gold?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:46 PM
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Somebody should tell the NIH, maybe? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:36 PM
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The irony is i don't believe it, but i believe they do. Everything is upside down.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:06 PM
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I've only seen bits and pieces of flotsam and jetsam and I stopped combing through the forums 3 yrs ago. The problem is I can't unsee any of this and my son believes it so short of removing any trace of my son from my house and moving, I'm constantly reminded. This is is the reason I no longer have a relationship with my son. I think i need a cult deprogrammer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:51 AM
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Ok hold up, that man doesn't have to tell you anything. I don't think my dad has ever told my mother she's beautiful -i only know this bc she left his emotionally stingy ass because if it. She went back without any change. I would not have. I'm older than you and there are some things I'd like to say, but not for the world to see. If you're interested, dm me. I'm a straight woman, not trying to creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:42 AM
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No, it pushes them to lead women on (spin plates) and withhold commitment, while teaching young men they deserve a virgin bikini model who will not make THEM wait for sex, which begs the question how/why they are still virgin bikini models. And if you listen to myron and walter, you're not a 'real man' until you've bedded 50 women. The problem with that is that if you sleep with each of those women just once, the real world effectiveness of condoms is about 85%, so by doing that you're creating …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:29 AM
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FWIW the wall is bullshit. I can relate to everything you said but if that man doesn't want you there's another man that will. The problem is that then we get into the whole subject of this thread and finding one that looks at you as an entire human being with thoughts and feelings and desires and all the things that make a complete person and not a 'hole' (their words) who lives to wash their dirty drawers. I understand staying in an unhappy marriage for a lot of reasons, but don't let it defin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:14 AM
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Middle school boys in the UK are calling the girls "washing machines". The female teachers are being heckled in assemblies trying to address it. It absolutely spills over to the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 08:56 AM
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These thoughts: https://illimitablemen.com/archives/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 08:52 AM
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Are you asking about purple debate (which is not the worst) or red pill spaces?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 08:51 AM
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It sure feels pretty darn close bc I would guess that anyone that spends much time here could give a litany of examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 08:42 AM
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Did you spend any time on TRP before it got throttled? Are you familiar with illimitable man who was linked to to their side bar? You can read sophisticated literature like: "Female duplicity and its constituent parts". One of his 'articles' calls women who work "repulsive creatures" -but gold diggers are shit too, so doesn't leave us a lot of acceptable life choices, does it? You happen to catch the post on there titled: "Single mothers are subhuman scum who are destroying civilization and shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 08:37 AM
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I'm sorry you went through that. My father and son agree with a lot if it, so i envy you. One of my 2 besties is a man though so I know there are good ones out there but I won't be alone with him bc we used to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 07:21 AM
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Somebody ought to tell them 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 07:14 AM
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Courtesy of the red pill about r4pe stats: Is this misogyny? (I have a whole folder of screenshots from before they cleaned it up) "Had it coming." <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:43 AM
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Wrap that man in bubble wrap ..lol Glad you found your person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:26 AM
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Thank you. I took a couple years away from here. The problem is they have their claws in my son and his grandfather is low key reinforcing it by the way he talks to the women in my family. We don't speak and the house I own outright is going to men's DV shelters to prove a point bc he said something so egregious and stood by it he got his dumbass disinherited. He can fix it any time and he knows it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:22 AM
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Exactly!! Like they are decimating the 😻 supply. Do they think we don't also have access to Al Gore's internets?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:13 AM
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That's really good advice and should be pinned somewhere. Congrats on finding a good one. I know good ones, I'm just weary of a surprise 💊 reveal once I'm in just deep enough that it's going to hurt when I have to walk away. It's funny bc the wall is in my rearview but amazingly it hasn't changed a thing. The last guy I dated was a pro athlete 10 yrs younger than me and the only 'exchange' involved was spending time cuddling on the couch and bingeing netflix (meaning neither one of us gained any…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:08 AM
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Yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:57 AM
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Ok, fair, but that's the kind of comment I've seen made in earnest and therein lies the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:54 AM
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That RP views and attitudes are lurking just below the surface and will pop up as soon as I let my guard down or they get a lil too comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:51 AM
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In healthy relationships, generally speaking, both people want that. This is what I'm talking about, you think it's only one sided and we're all opportunists.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:49 AM
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That's almost exactly how I would describe it. Like ending up a cat lady sounds so appealing at this point (except with a dog but i can't say that cause, well ..you know 🙄) I spent some time on exredpill to try to help pull, esp young guys, out and be supportive but i can only listen to why feminists are the devil so many times and had to tap out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:41 AM
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I just came back on here a couple days ago after avoiding it for exactly that reason. It's the stuff from a couple years ago that I just can't seem to shake. I think it was the same kind if brainwashing RP dudes go through, i just came away with a way different mindset (no less toxic, just avoidant as opposed to hostile or hateful ..mostly just sad and disappointed that that's what so many men think -the things my family members said had me picking my jaw up off the floor and i think that's part…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:32 AM
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Yes, I have (although I don't think 'let' is the right word -I'm not his mother), in fact the last man I was in a commited relationship with used to spend the night at a female friend's house when he'd fly in on the nights I had my son because trust is actually a thing in some relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:18 AM
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Have you ever looked up the actual stats on sexual partners for both men and women? ...because spoiler: the median for sexually active adults between the ages of 25-49 is 4.3 for women and 6.3 for men per the CDC from 2015-2019. And for the highest body counts (15+) 12.9% of women had more than 15 partners and 28.3% of men had. Perhaps Pareto needs to check his math bc that's not a rounding error.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 08:16 AM
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Breaking news: some women like to go out dancing. That's why you will sometimes see circles of women dancing together and when men try to join in, the elbows come out and start to get a bit pokey. But hey, maybe you're right, standing around for half a day watching dudes hit little balls into cups sounds delightful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:56 AM
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That's nonsense. When I was in my early 20s my bestie was married and went through a phase where we were going out every week (she got pregnant and married very young and felt she missed out). There was not one single time where our night did not end back at her house and they're still married.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:47 AM
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You seem nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:57 AM
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And if you look at my other responses on this thread, I am tall for a woman and I do not consider 5'8 short. I only realized other ppl do when i started reading RP, which is crazy to me bc never, not once have ANY of my friends told me height was a deal breaker and I'm not young. I've heard a LOT of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:47 AM
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Then what was your point tying together his height and the fact that we are not together?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:39 AM
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So is all physical attraction just silly and superficial? ..bc if men and women can't be friends (not my belief) then what do you consider valid in terms of catching someone's attention (especially a stranger) in order to get to know someone better?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:33 AM
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If that's true, because that's what I have been reading from the RP guys for years, why aren't more men in the responses choosing the 6'5 and single mom? ...considering life circumstances are mutable but final height is static (without major surgery).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 07:41 PM
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If she liked you because she thought you had beautiful eyes, would that be different?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:41 AM
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5'9, he's my best friend. I literally spent 4 hrs on the phone with him today. He was the one who didn't want a serious relationship damn near a decade ago. If he wasn't My Favorite Ex, I wouldn't have loaned him 5 figures for his business. This is purple pill, do we believe men and women can be 'just friends' here? ...or does that belong in the smurfy blue realm?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:37 AM
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You don't think someone making $50k a year would feel a significant difference from an extra $500/mo? 25% of americans have no money in emergency savings and last i checked over a third couldn't cover a $400 emergency. ...and I know this is a bit of a tangent but as an accounting and finance nerd, I'm looking at 12% over time and that has the potential for a significant difference in quality of life. I'm not minimizing the effects of a broken home, but I'm also not going to minimize what 12% of …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:15 AM
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No, it's not, especially when the average woman is like 5'4. That's why I asked the question, because height seems to be such an intense focus and I really don't understand why. I am roughly as tall as the average man barefoot and it's never been an issue for me, so I don't get it ...but I only have my personal experience and that's different for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:43 AM
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That's not entirely true. Height, weight, and attractiveness all influence how people treat you and, imo more importantly, how much you get paid. Some researchers think those factors are indicative of a more stable and healthy early life and that's what creates that bias: https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversmark/2020/04/16/your-height-has-a-big-impact-on-your-salary-new-research-seeks-to-understand-why/
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:01 AM
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Do I? I said the parents were short. I used that height bc the 2 longest and most meaningful relationships I've had were with guys around that height but the way RP frames it, it's the end of the world and makes men undateable. That has not been my personal experience AT ALL ...and I'm super tall for a woman, 6'2 in heels.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 01:33 AM
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So a woman told you straight up that it's too sensitive down there (it's a real thing) and instead of respecting that she's being honest and saving you wasted time and energy to try to bring about something that is not going to happen, and if you don't stop has the potential to make her feel like you took the fine side of a cheese grater to her lady bits (speakiing from experience) that makes her selfish? It is SUCH a mystery why women fake it. Never with you of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 10:09 PM
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A strong woman can handle "weakness" I was with someone when i was young who would have been considered weak by a lot of men because he was emotional and insecure. Being emotional brought us closer together. I felt he knew the real me and I didn't have to fake it bc we both knew neither one of us was perfect. Him being insecure tore us apart because he threw it all on me and accused me of cheating CONSTANTLY ...even accusing me of sneaking out of his window. Fix your trust issues or you're going…
/r/ExRedPill12/03/22 06:57 AM
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Pigeonholing either into narrow roles that may not suit them is a weakness for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 02:11 PM
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A prenup could have protected him and still allowed her to receive survivor benefits. Do you think men are the only ones who have assets to protect? I ask this as someone who owns her home outright (bought and paid for by working -NOT serial divorce rape) so in most of my relationships I was the one who was in the stronger financial position.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 01:36 AM
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True. That's why it's really important to be able to distinguish between contemptible behavior and a contemptible person. Most couples can survive contemptible behavior if they're willing to work together to improve the problem. If your starting point is that your partner is a contemptible person, not worthy of respect, that relationship is doomed from the get.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/21 10:19 PM
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A relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 09:20 PM
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Red pill also requires a level of contempt for women and contempt is a relationship killer. It shows up in subtle ways but most people still notice eventually.
/r/ExRedPill06/11/21 09:06 PM
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most of the articles i found just circle back to the NYT article but this has some of the same info: https://www.taipeitimes.com/News/feat/archives/2016/03/22/2003642142
/r/ExRedPill18/09/21 03:45 AM
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From what I've read it's a combination of factors. Social conditioning and wanting to be liked and people please or avoid social or work penalties means women are less aggressive RE: compensation, the persistent albeit outdated and false bias that means men are seen as more deserving of raises bc they are seen as breadwinners (fathers returning to work after the birth if a kid are rewarded, moms are penalized), and overall women's labor is just not considered as valuable as mens both within the …
/r/ExRedPill18/09/21 03:35 AM
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It refers to both. The gender discrepancy within a field but also professions dominated by women tending to be paid less and as women enter male dominated fields pay goes down: https://www.nytimes.com/2016/03/20/upshot/as-women-take-over-a-male-dominated-field-the-pay-drops.html
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 10:55 PM
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Is it the usage of the word indoctrinate that bothers you? ...because that word is a bit loaded, or is there more to it than that? I think in this context it's used to convey that the tradwife thing is a more of a worldview than an insular opinion that someone can compartmentalize.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 04:05 AM
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Not that I've come across but for me that's probably bc I focused more on reading through threads to get a better understanding of the whole thing. I don't know how old or online your family members are but I think for ppl who aren't extremely online the whole concept is easy to dismiss as nbd as opposed to the all encompassing worldview that it can be become (I still think you should talk to them). I can only speak to my experience, but it has had an extremely negative effect on my family that …
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 03:18 AM
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I think both of those would be really beneficial. I hope you're feeling a bit better from when you posted earlier. This process (and life in general) is probably going to have moments that are going to make you want to revert to those old ways of thinking but don't give in to that. It will be worth it even if it's hard. It might be hard to find a therapist that understands rp beliefs (that was my experience) ...keep looking. I wish you all the best :)
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 02:50 AM
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Do you think it might be beneficial to spend some time talking to or being around female family members since the romantic dynamic/game is a non issue? It might help to undo some of the conditioning that I'm guessing has probably soured your opinion of women generally, if you've been exposed to the same stuff I have. You're already a step ahead if they don't know and you haven't poisoned those relationships. Sometimes those attitudes can be communicated in very subtle ways though so you might wa…
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 01:54 AM
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I don't know what your relationships might be like with any female family members you may have but I am desperately hoping that my rp family member has the realization you have had. All it would take from him in our situation is the acknowledgement of how painful the last few years have been and a willingness to get help and I would do anything in my power to help him heal. If you have any relationships like this, I would encourage you to reach out and acknowledge the hurt and let them know you'…
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 12:55 AM
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Having to read through all this stuff so I can push back has been really disheartening. I'm trying to limit my exposure so I appreciate your response. Thank you.
/r/ExRedPill10/07/21 04:37 AM
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i hate to give him views but do you have any clear examples that you can point me to? these people have a very firm grip on one of my young family members and the rest of my family doesn't believe me because "How bad could it be?" Apparently referring to women like me as subhuman scum and a degenerate landwhale (among other things) isn't enough proof. They won't read what i try to show them, maybe if i pop on a video and they actually see it they'll believe me. (if it's something you have to go …
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 04:23 AM
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Yes. I don't know if age and introversion play a part, but I suspect they do. Not because of "the wall" but more because I'm no longer embarrased to admit that I'd rather read a book or spend time in the garden than do things that other people might consider more exciting. I'm in my 30s and when i was younger my friends/boyfriends didn't seem to understand or respect that. We exist, I don't think were highly visible though, so the bad news is that we're probably harder to find.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 11:31 PM
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Victoria's Secret is a special case. Their quality went down, their prices went up, they were linked to Jeff Epstein through Les Wexner, and their head marketing genius, Ed Razek, told Vogue that they sell a fantasy that doesn't include plus size or trans women (which I think a lot of women who read it generalized to anyone who didnt fit the ideal they presented). They also discontinued a bunch of signature scents which didn't just disappoint, but angered customers. Any of those alone would harm…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 09:45 PM
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