MonogamishTooRisky Archive

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3	Why do people listen to Coach Red Pill? He's a fool. They all are. None of these dudes had happy childhoods with loving families and then had healthy relationships with healthy women. They’re all trauma victims and this is their coping strategy.	/r/ExRedPill	04/01/21 11:32 PM
16	Why do people listen to Coach Red Pill? He's a fool. “Really cocky arrogant prick who thinks he’s smarter than everyone else” describes 99% of men who have fully bought into RP. It’s a fast track to narcissism. To be fair, while a few of these men actually have narcissistic personality disorder, I think most of them are actually victims themselves who have been deeply wounded by their childhoods and by toxic women they’ve been in relationships with. And the allure of a dogmatic religion that promises them power and control and the ability to keep …	/r/ExRedPill	04/01/21 02:09 PM
1	I think redpill broke my brain. I’m confused. Are you saying that you’re still insecure because there are shitty people out there? Insecurity isn’t a binary thing, it’s a spectrum. We all have insecurities and always will, but if you’re constantly feeling shitty about yourself because someone was unkind to you, then it sounds like you still have some issues to work through. And that’s not to make you feel bad, either! I’m sure you’ve done a lot of work, and perhaps you don’t always realize how far you’ve come. I’m sure you’re …	/r/ExRedPill	25/08/20 06:34 PM
14	I think redpill broke my brain. I think you need to find a good therapist. Red pill didn’t break your brain, you found it attractive because your brain was receptive. And not because you’re “broken”, but because our minds are incredibly powerful and they do amazing things to protect us and let us keep going, but when those things aren’t useful anymore, we need to retrain our minds. The root of your problem isn’t the “sex as validation” thing, it’s the core insecurity underneath it. You don’t think you’re attractive. You don’t …	/r/ExRedPill	20/08/20 04:14 PM
5	The Red Pill Religion and its radical nature I agree with parts of this, but a few things: 1) Don’t be ruthless with anyone, least of all yourself. The shaming, judgmental voice that exists in the heads of many men is what makes RP so attractive. Try self-compassion instead. That doesn’t mean letting yourself off the hook, or pitying yourself. It means recognizing your humanity, your suffering, your dignity, and remembering that you don’t have to be perfect to be lovable and have your needs met. 2) “Feminism” is not the opposite of RP. Tha…	/r/ExRedPill	12/08/20 06:38 PM
5	"Holding frame" is about being an emotionless misogynist. Those norms are very oppressive to men (which is what “toxic masculinity” actually refers to) but I don’t think they’re in love with old school gender norms. In fact, I think for many of these men, they’re really just lost and suffering because they don’t know what healthy masculinity looks like. They carry some deep insecurities that prevent them from living as strong, open, integrated men, and that means they’re not getting their needs met. The RP philosophy offers them a lifeline. But when yo…	/r/ExRedPill	06/08/20 12:05 AM
4	"Holding frame" is about being an emotionless misogynist. 💯	/r/ExRedPill	05/08/20 02:49 PM
25	"Holding frame" is about being an emotionless misogynist. Agreed. It’s pretty sad actually. All these men are forcefully trying to suppress their emotional outbursts instead of dealing with anything. There is a healthy version of “frame” but it applies to men and women. It’s called differentiation, and it’s basically the ability to have a close emotional relationship with someone without being emotionally fused. It requires knowing who you are and what you want, and it’s a difficult road for many to build differentiation. It doesn’t come from STFU or b…	/r/ExRedPill	05/08/20 10:09 AM
1	What are the dangers of Red Pill? (it is new for me) The Rational Male is mostly garbage. NMMNG is excellent, as is Models. TWOTSM is a mixed bag, some good stuff, but wrapped up in a fairly limited view of women. Haven’t read the 3% one. Do you know what would really help you though? Find a good therapist and get to the root of why you need these books in the first place. Even the best books in your list are just treating the symptoms of an inner insecurity that you’ll be hiding all your life until you deal with whatever caused it (hint: your chi…	/r/ExRedPill	02/08/20 11:28 PM
15	Do results always beat work put in? Do you ever date below yourself? We need /r/PurplePillDebateOver30. Half the questions on here sound like they were written by a 13 year old edgelord. I seriously don't even know what this is trying to get at.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/19 12:36 AM
1	Discussion: why do parents raise their kids with weird religious hangups on sex? Yeah, you could be right. She’s basically never told me hardly anything she finds sexy or arousing, no fantasies, etc. Last night we had sex, good sex, but at one point she kinda snapped at me “you can do other stuff too, you know” because I guess I had been playing with her nipples too long? It had been 4-5 mins while we were watching porn together, she had been reacting to the touches for the first few minutes, and all she was doing was rubbing my leg. I don’t care about her wanting me to touc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/19 01:28 PM
3	Discussion: why do parents raise their kids with weird religious hangups on sex? Going to therapy is a good idea. Is this something you guys are doing together, or separately, or both? I ask because I think for me talking about it in front of my husband would be embarrassing and might keep me from opening up about what my specific issues were, so if she's not already talking to someone about it one-on-one, that would probably be a good idea along with you guys seeing a counselor together. Both, although I think her therapist just "fired" her because she said she needs to wor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/19 08:07 PM
5	Discussion: why do parents raise their kids with weird religious hangups on sex? I appreciate this comment, and you've nailed it. I grew up in this kind of environment, the purity culture of the evangelical church during the 90s, etc. So did my wife. Fortunately, my Ddd was fairly sex positive and we had some good talks growing up that freed me from at least some of the shame and hangups around sex that I would probably have internalized otherwise. Sadly, my wife's parents were super uptight and never discussed sex with her. 15 years into our marriage, she's just now startin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/19 07:36 PM
2	Q4W. Are there partners you are emotionally attracted to and then others who you are physically attracted? (self.AskWomen) below average height and muscular dad bod with broad shoulders lol. Is he taller than you? I bet yes. And then by your own admission, he's "muscular" and has broad shoulders. That's pretty textbook attractive. And I bet you'd be even more into him if he were a few inches taller and a few % body fat slimmer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/19 07:28 PM
6	Men of PPD, tell me about your unicorns! Feelz before realz, Yeah, because there's definitely no hysteria going on in the TRP / MRP world :) the fact that they'd rather have negative feelings than be bored, I'll give you this one :) don't trust what she says but watch what she does, This is true for literally every human. covert contracts, This has nothing to do with women...it's a term from a book for men. how they appreciate you more when you're valued by other women This isn't exclusive to women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/19 07:08 PM
1	What is chemistry? Apt username. I don’t think this has much to do with chemistry though, assuming you had it at the start. Sounds like just a shitty relationship destroying whatever attraction you once had.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/19 10:48 AM