MonsieurMaktub Archive

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3	A Few Words Of Appreciation Can’t punish all of them for the sins of a few. Divorce is hard on everyone. People act irrational. I’m in the middle of it now. I’ve found that grief isn’t linear for anyone but it seems to at least be more linear for men. My STBXW had an affair and I’ve been committed to divorce since I found out. She’s waffled a lot. So far it’s amicable and uncontested but it’s still a special hell and not for the faint of heart. Everyone handles it differently but at the end of the day the goal should be to…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/02/26 11:11 PM
1	Where have you traveled alone? Costa rica is on my list too. Want to go to a surf all inclusive and finally learn how to shred waves. Always wanted to do it but my wife wasn’t interested. Guess I don’t have to compromise anymore.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/26 01:56 PM
1	How do you find shit to do? Go to a class and get feedback from instructors. Most cities have at least a salsa scene where they’ll have social for people to go dance. Before the social they’ll have an hour long class. It’s usually pretty cheap. Just commit, realize everyone who learns is making mistakes and that no one cares as much as you think. It’s supposed to fun and challenging. Rise to it.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/26 09:33 PM
2	How do you find shit to do? Rhythm is something you can learn if you want to learn to dance. If you’d love to do it, do it.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/26 02:43 PM
1	Any good self-help book recommendations? Single On Purpose - really helps reframe what you’re going into. If you got cheated on: Surviving Betrayal Trauma - not so much self help but helps you understand why you’re feeling the way you do. Atomic Habits has been good post acceptance I tried No More Mr. Nice Guy - it didn’t do much for me. I think it may help a specific kind of dude. I didn’t really suffer from nice guy syndrome though. I also felt there was a lot of red pill bullshit in there too. In any case, if it helps, it helps	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/26 12:29 AM
6	Caught A battery charge isn’t gonna make this any easier man. And he wasn’t the one who made a vow to you, she was. Sure, he’s a shit. What do we do with shit? Flush it and forget about it.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/01/26 03:10 PM
10	Ex-wife’s boyfriend loves to talk shit and taunt. Sure, if you want a battery charge for a guy who thinks getting sloppy seconds is winning.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/26 11:30 PM
2	How to balance accept versus hope Walk dude. I’m going through the same thing. You’re nobody’s backup unless you accept that you are. The second I stopped doing the pick me dance, she started second guessing everything. The beauty in that is once they see you value yourself, they start to value you. Too bad, she shouldn’t have fucked another dude who, according to her, wasn’t as good looking and wasn’t as good in bed. Dumbass gave up a good life and a man who loved her completely for some mediocre dick and a cheap thrill. You de…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/26 11:28 PM
3	A letter for my wife... God I wish my wife would say anything remotely like this. Good on you for reflecting brother. It takes a lot to admit your faults and put in the work to fix them. Most people aren’t capable of taking their own character flaws head on. Stay the course.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/26 04:12 AM