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| 7 | Frame, ego, deer and covert contracts.I realise that I do have a frame and it's a bloody good 1 that I learnt from many people here on how to be. No you don't. The man who wrote this post has no frame. He's mushy, and easy to push around. I guess my question is how the fuck do I go on now. I've just spent the last 2 years deering every fucking conversation with the mrs thinking I'm holding my frame. See? You can't have a good frame and deer for 2 years. How the fuck do you go on now? Well, bro, you find something that compells you. … | /r/askMRP | 09/09/23 03:02 AM |
| -2 | Behavioral Changes Before Main EventI had a main event two weeks back. It was our 10 wedding anaversary. I got a bunch of mdma and we dropped the kids off at my parents for the weekend. I had abb DOMS from all the fucking. I'm good for another year. | /r/askMRP | 09/09/23 02:47 AM |
| 8 | Where is the sidebar?If you're a type 2 diabetic then look into intermittent fasting. If I were you, I'd really focus on getting that external insulin down to zero. I bet if you lost 40 pounds, you would be OK. Find audio versions of all the sidebar books and learn what zone 2 cardio is and listen to the books while you do it. Hit the gym, but it would only be for retaining muscle. Focus on diet, zone 2 cardio, and getting that type 2 diabetes under control. You will have to work with a doctor to gradually reduce th… | /r/askMRP | 08/09/23 06:37 PM |
| 10 | Avoid arguments. Focus on your MAP.We have sex if I feel like it in the moment. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/09/23 06:11 PM |
| 52 | Avoid arguments. Focus on your MAP.In my opinion, yes. Chasing and needing that kind of love is what makes us seem weak and needy. It's what induces all that beta negotiating, arguing, and resentment. My mother loves me, once she's gone, that's it. Working on yourself and focusing on a mission or calling is loving yourself. That's the love that fuels men, in my opinion. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/09/23 10:32 AM |
| 72 | Avoid arguments. Focus on your MAP.I struggled with that for YEARS! This lesson is pretty much what brought me to MRP. The world tells men to "communicate their needs," and it only made my life worse. I remember going through dozens of marriage self-help books, listening to so many audio books. The more I "communicated" the worse my marriage got. I kept searching and eventually wound up here. My first account, Mox_Ruby, got banned for moralizing some guy about cheating. I was such a fuckin tool back then. It still took a few year… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/09/23 09:19 PM |
| 10 | Conflicted About Potential LTR and Male FriendsThere are no male friends. There are just dudes she's fucking and hiding it, dudes that want to fuck her but she's denying them, and plan B's Wake the fuck up. How about you try taking the red pill? Just a suggestion. My wife has zero male friends. That shit would never fly with me. They all ended the second we got together. I don't have any female friends. I have zero in common with a woman, and spending time with a female friend is just time I could be spending with a male friend. I'll take ti… | /r/askMRP | 03/09/23 08:14 PM |
| 3 | Talk to me nice or don't talk at all.Naturally I'm asked what's wrong Fuckin moron. If that's how you "naturally" behave, then you're an idiot. Asking her that is like asking her to dump all her bullshit on you. Writing that here is asking us to make fun of you. You are your own worst enemy. | /r/askMRP | 31/08/23 04:35 PM |
| 10 | Wife wants to have a heart to heart ritual. Advice?I just want to be leveled up and clear-headed so that I can make the right call in a few months and, honestly, so that she feels the sting of losing me. That's a revenge fantasy and the exact opposite of what I perceive to be MRP. If you want a divorce and have thought it through, then that's your path. Take it. Doing something like that to make her feel something is so weak. That's some level 99 beta shit. Ideally this would turn things around in a few months, but I’m not against a divorce. No,… | /r/askMRP | 27/08/23 02:17 AM |
| 27 | Wife wants to have a heart to heart ritual. Advice?If you go, you are obviously not going to be into it, and she will just moan about how much of an asshole you are and that you "don't care." The whole idea of that retreat makes me want to throw up. Whatever you do, don't go Rambo and start being a tool. You talk with her way too much, and that behavior pattern leads to this bullshit. It's a tough one man. If you're new, get started on the side bar of books, and start some sort of fitness thing. You have been behaving a certain way up until now,… | /r/askMRP | 26/08/23 10:40 PM |
| 1 | So I'm the Drunk Captain. How do I know identify structural improvements v. something that only makes me more of a plowhorse?You can't lead if the crew isn't on the boat. You are 28. Unless you are a social conservative and are marrying this girl and starting a family, then you should break up with her and only focus on yourself and building your life. Enough with this LTR horse shit. You are emotionally weak and don't want to let go. That means you have to. No shit test, no comfort test. This is a YOU test. Leaving her is the lesson you need right now. | /r/askMRP | 26/08/23 12:33 PM |
| 16 | So I'm the Drunk Captain. How do I know identify structural improvements v. something that only makes me more of a plowhorse?I was a literally drunk captain. The first order of business was to stop drinking. You need to lead, but to do that, you need a direction so you can set the course of the boat. Forget about your wife and find a mission in life that captivates you and makes you a better, more valuable man. If you have something in your life compelling, you won't get hung up on any of her emotional bullshit. You will be thinking about your mission. From her perspective, you will be unshakable, and she will feel ce… | /r/askMRP | 25/08/23 08:45 PM |
| 6 | Is it as simple as choosing power?You write like a faggot. Fuckin romance novel horse shit. Choose not to be a pontificating asshole. Acta non verba. Power and dominant over your WIFE (this is MRP) is not a successful long-term strategy. Power and domination over the tosser In your head, who wrote this horse shit of a post IS a success long term strategy. Less Nick Tortelli, more Sam Malone. | /r/askMRP | 25/08/23 09:57 AM |
| 3 | Was this a comfort test, shit test or smth else? And was this progress og regression? And how retarded did I manage it?There are no series or mouth noises you will ever make that will improve your position. Being a "good listener" just means you will have to listen to all her bullshit. Be a better version of yourself. That's what acta non verba means. Ya, you were the tool that got you here. Yes, you caused this, and yes, it's all your fault. Accept it. Having a conversation with her about "feelings" is just asking her to externalize all her feelings IN THE MOMENT all over your face like emotional jizz. She live… | /r/askMRP | 24/08/23 07:25 PM |
| 7 | Was this a comfort test, shit test or smth else? And was this progress og regression? And how retarded did I manage it?Last night we sat and talked about how things are going and she was super angry in a way I had never seen her before. She was litterally boiling over. Jesus fuckin christe man. Did you both read a chapter from the 5 love languages? I bet you're a fantastic communicator. Look all the bullshit induced by your fantastic communication! Acta non verba. What MRP guy that had that saying, I'm paraphrasing. "Step on your dick then analyze the footprint." Was it Ryan? Because that's what we are doing. Lo… | /r/askMRP | 24/08/23 06:43 PM |
| 8 | Manglish/Womanese and Being The Captain (or dick?)How badly do I suck? Don't be so hard on yourself. If you can't afford it, you can't afford it. The hard part is yet to come. She's going to be cunty and try to get you to engage her. Don't take the bait and don't be an autistic fuck. Maintain a positive attitude. | /r/askMRP | 18/08/23 12:07 PM |
| 4 | Off-Topic: I have mission, an amazing life, but still no friends. Fiancee starting to noticeBe more interested in people. Fiancee starting to notice Why do you care? You have to genuinely WANT a friend for it to work. If you are after a group of friends because of what she thinks, you are missing the point. If your motives are to gain something to change her, you will never be a good friend and always come off as an autistic loser. I suggest you get rid of your phone and struggle through life without it for a good amount of time. The men of your generation have become social midgets be… | /r/askMRP | 17/08/23 10:17 AM |
| 13 | Having trouble getting over wife’s sexual past.Feel, feel, feel, feel. How's that pill going down? Trying to spit it back out, I see. Suppository it is then bro. | /r/askMRP | 13/08/23 02:09 AM |
| 9 | Wife is angry and doesn't know if she can see me sexuallyIf you're a drunk and still socially drinking, it's just a matter of time before you relapse. Why don't you try something hard like changing your life. You make excuses in your head. That's where you are weak. You have a weak mind. The booze and weed behavior pattern has not served you and you are to much of a fucking pussy to completely cut it out of your life. Grow a pair of balls you fucking bundle of sticks. The only way to induce a change In her is to have HER update the model she has in he… | /r/askMRP | 12/08/23 09:27 PM |
| 10 | Looking for some perspective. Long postHi, I'm a 25YO dude, mid May I had a breakup with my now ex gf (24). Stopped right there. Go fuck 10 more people. Stop considering females as a relationship opportunity and start seeing them as just someone you are fucking. The 30 year old you will be in a better position to make a buy decision if that's what you want. Care less about them and more about you. It was just a fuckin woman. Move on. | /r/askMRP | 07/08/23 10:17 PM |
| 20 | Guys who went from below average or average to attractive: what happened?More men hit on me In the sauna. | /r/askMRP | 07/08/23 10:11 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with really tough timesHang in there bro. Keep that mouth shut. You got this. | /r/askMRP | 07/08/23 08:55 PM |
| 24 | Comfort Tests and Sexual Dominance.She knows in a million years you would never fuck anyone else. She has you all figured out. Behave differently, so she's forced to update the model she has in her head of you. Her current model is weak beta fuck. Just accept it, you did it, and change yourself. | /r/askMRP | 04/08/23 01:51 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with boundary testing or gray area situations?I went Rambo in front of her family. Her brother, father, sister, mother, they were all there. It changed the way they felt about me. Her father and brother never said a dam thing to me. I don't go to her family's place anymore, not because of that but because of the way her sisters are with their husbands. It makes me want to eat broken glass. It was effective because she never initially saw me as a weak pushover when we originally got together. Me being the polar opposite of the other men in h… | /r/askMRP | 01/08/23 12:08 AM |
| 3 | How do you deal with boundary testing or gray area situations?I have had to, but only twice and never from a public thing. And I delivered it in a serious tone, with no anger. And never any follow-up reasons or why explanations. And never with sware words like the first time. "Don't talk to me like that, I'm not one of your student's" I don't recommend opening your mouth and trying what I did. We all start from different places, and we all have different personalities. That method fits mine. A price was paid initially from the first Rambo public event. I p… | /r/askMRP | 01/08/23 12:01 AM |
| -2 | How do you deal with boundary testing or gray area situations?Don't ever do this. Before I started this journey, years ago, I had a similar issue. My wife is a teacher, and she used to speak/scold me like one or her students. We were at her family's place over Christmas break. Her entire family was there, sisters, parents, grandparents, etc. She started scolding me about something, I don't remember what it was now, I think it was something about me forgetting something back at home. I told her in a loud voice infront of everyone "I'm not one of your studen… | /r/askMRP | 31/07/23 03:49 PM |
| 35 | Normal to no longer be attracted to your spouse?It sounds like you resent her. You picked her man, and had kids. You can find a way to bring the beauty out of her or you can cheat / divorce. It's your call. We all walk our own path. | /r/askMRP | 31/07/23 01:22 PM |
| -1 | She gives it up to not lose meturned off by body hair? The men I'm attracted to don't have bodyhair. Abbs look like shit covered in hair. If you had abbs, you would know that already. Nipple pubes are always nasty as fuck. If your chick doesn’t want to fuck you, it’s not because you’ve got wispy chest hair. The word "chest" dosent exist in my original reply. You are obviously worried about how unattractive your nasty body hair is or you wouldn't have replied. | /r/askMRP | 28/07/23 05:42 PM |
| 5 | PreFiltering for datesStop using the stupid fucking apps like every other boring asshole and do something actually challenging. Like cold approaches. | /r/askMRP | 28/07/23 02:18 PM |
| 0 | She gives it up to not lose meI've been dating this girl for about 5 months So "date" 2 more. LOSER. Why the fuck do you care about any of this. She doesn't "lust" for you? You need that? If you had anything in your life that was compelling, you would be thinking about that. Not the a lack of "lust" from some fucking tart your sticking your dick In. Dating = replaceable. Care less. Post a shirtless picture. If you have hair around your nipples or a patch on your stomach (without abbs) then take the word "lust" and shove it u… | /r/askMRP | 28/07/23 02:05 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with refusal?You should have stopped once she said she dosent want to go, then asked another woman to join you as your +1. Then, never speak of it. If she finds out? Who gives a fuck. If she thought there was any competition, you wouldn't be writing this victim puke. You are not married to this woman, you don't owe her fuck all. You can replace her like a used condom. Just roll her off your cock, and roll another one on. I told her You told her you are weak and afraid of being alone. That's what you told her… | /r/askMRP | 28/07/23 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Is there a time when it's ok to DEER in a reasonable situation? (Explain)really got me nuts thinking about it. This is causing you to make stupid decisions. How to deal with the bitchy-acting when I DARE her? You don't. You ignore it or find a way to add humor or levity to the interaction. Whatever you do, you never let her "bitchy" get to you. Once her "bitchy" has an effect, you will just get more and more. And she gets to choose when to end the "bitchy" and then you are stuck in her frame. | /r/askMRP | 27/07/23 10:43 AM |
| 6 | My Wife No Longer Trusts Me.I think it was Ryan that said, and I paraphrase, "There is no series of mouth noises you can make that will help. The only way forward for a guy like OP is changed behavior. Demonstrate, don't pontificate. | /r/askMRP | 26/07/23 01:49 AM |
| 23 | My Wife No Longer Trusts Me."Good communication" good fuckin luck with that. Might as well stick your dick in a toaster. My advice is to do absolutely nothing and let it pass. While you maintain a positive attitude. If you start "communicating" you're fuckin stupid. | /r/askMRP | 25/07/23 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Gf(23f) called me(25m) lame for not wanting to drink for one night at a bar. This angered me but she thinks this is completely fine to be rude. Am I overreactingWhy the fuck do you care? The only reason being called "lame" could have any pull with you is if you are afraid or think you are, in fact lame. I didn't even read all those paragraphs of LAME bullshit. This is a you problem, you're a fucking pussy. Raccoons will always go through your trash. Females will always shit test you like this. Are you going to cry like spinless bitch if a racoon goes through your trash? A raccoon will always be a raccoon. If you didn't secure the tash, it's your fault. … | /r/askMRP | 25/07/23 01:15 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with a woman who is cheating and wont admit it. Gaslighting is real badNo one can tell you what to do here, man. Get a lawyer, ask them for your options. Hang in there, bro. | /r/askMRP | 21/07/23 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Male friendsYou have to like yourself to be interested/ interesting to others. | /r/askMRP | 21/07/23 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Looking for advice before this eveningFind something in your life that's more important to you than your wife and having sex. Care less. You will have better outcomes. | /r/askMRP | 20/07/23 02:21 PM |
| 4 | Not sure if I handled this correctlyYou sound like a woman. You wouldn't give a fuck about any of this If you had something else In your life compelling enough to think about. | /r/askMRP | 19/07/23 02:48 PM |
| 1 | I have a drinking problemMy question is how much of this struggle should I share with my wife? None. This is your problem, and you have to fix it. I want to be honest with her Why? So you can feel better? Enough with that shit. You want to "talk" with her so you can guage her response to see if you're out of the woods. Talk... Jesus christ, maybe try a love language? I wish it was as simple as “just don’t drink” but it’s not. Yes, it is. How the fuck do you think we stay sober. We don't fuckin drink. I think she could h… | /r/askMRP | 19/07/23 02:41 PM |
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