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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
12	Month 7 Reflections		MorningStar360	/r/Divorce_Men	17/07/26 02:47 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Counseling ? Yep, was in it for close to three years and it was a complete waste. Got in front of a handful of different “therapists.” Basically just an hour every week to review all the things I did wrong. Absolutely no accountability and the two counselors we saw that made attempts to show anything that resembled a critical review of her own actions, she’d say “I think we need to see somebody else.” I won’t say it’s completely useless, I’ve met a few other couples who said it was useful. But for my particu…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/08/26 01:43 PM
29	Why do most men pursue a walkaway wife? I honestly think social media has a large role in it, with regard to the women.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/26 01:26 PM
2	Anyone else? My health and overall happiness and mood has greatly improved upon separation. My ex was extremely abusive and the more I’ve had time to reflect the more I see things for what they were. My anger is starting to shift to sadness, because for me I’m beginning to learn and discover that my ex was likely dealing with severe personality disorders and while I was largely unaware of it while we were together, I did everything I could to try to get us help but many of the issues remained on her inabilit…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/26 03:42 PM
1	Worst Part of Divorce Is Changes in Kids I was no contact and my mother had 100% custody for a brief period of time, but it didn’t take long to realize she was the wrong parent and I eventually wanted nothing more than to be with my dad all the time and eventually it happened. Probably wasn’t that long but it’s hard to remember. This all happened before high school. My mother began to spiral and eventually my dad got 100% custody of me as my mother became and alcoholic and drug abuser.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/26 02:37 AM
24	Worst Part of Divorce Is Changes in Kids Just chiming in as a kid who grew up in a very similar manner to your children, I was subjected to the same manipulation by my mother and there was a point in time when I was naive and didn’t know better that my mom was the parent I wanted to be with over my dad, but as I got older I got wiser and I saw things for what they truly were and your kids will too. Don’t give up, don’t make a scene. Mom was indulgent/permissive to the extreme and yes at the time I favored her chaos over the routine and…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/26 03:21 PM
1	The house feels sad and empty. I can relate to this, not fully but the sadness and hope and idea that we lost a person we once imagined was going to be there in sickness and health, the rest of our lives… My ex was very abusive, neglectful, and harmful. It’s been 8 months but the clarity comes a bit more each day and I’m probably reaching a peace and happiness I might have long ago lost in the puddle of trouble our union brought. Last year I started to develop some scary cardiovascular issues and scary blood pressure I’m quit…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/26 04:06 AM
1	What did you do today? Entering month 8. Separated but not divorced yet, hopeful that process gets finalized in the coming months. Today I took off work. I run my own business and I have an injury in my foot so I decided I’m just going to take it easy and try to let my foot heal over the weekend. In a few hours I have to pick up my three year old who stays with me over the weekend so rest was already off the table but I’ll take a morning and afternoon to get off my feet. Texted a woman I started to see a few months ba…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/07/26 08:08 PM
2	How do you talk about your past without talking about your ex? I’d agree, didn’t see anything specific to a first date. Definitely probably something you should find out about before moving in with somebody.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/07/26 12:40 AM
2	How do you talk about your past without talking about your ex? I personally find it refreshing to be truthful and the fact is that women and men both have had their fair share of poor partners. If somebody I am interested in can’t talk about their past in a truthful way, which includes details and information about what their past partners habits and behaviors were that dissolved prior relationships then I don’t find the other person being truthful and have much more respect for people who are willing to talk about issues. I’ve met a fair amount of women wh…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/26 11:30 PM
2	Shitshow finally improving - recommendations on how to communicate with a 3 y/o? That’s awful man, I’m happy for you that things are beginning to get better. I don’t have experience such as that, but I have had 50/50 custody with my three year old since January and it’s been delightful. My son is an entirely different kid when he is with me, sadly he has a lot of challenges when it comes to being with his mother. As far as our routine, we just do guy stuff. I noticed at this age he is super adaptable and just wants to do whatever I am doing. We run errands, go for walks, tak…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/26 04:13 AM
1	Was supposed to talk to my kids on the phone for the first time in 4 months tonight but she “had a prior appointment”. At 6pm on a Friday. There’s literally nothing she can take, we never had anything. We had a minimalist lifestyle and that’s it. I am the business, I stop working then the money stops, there is no value I am the value. I already have been supported and given a voice to our clients about her behaviour and most of them are disgusted by her antics. None of our clients would want to have anything to do with her. Not to mention we live in a marital community property state. She can’t afford anything, her parents are dumb…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/26 10:40 PM
1	Was supposed to talk to my kids on the phone for the first time in 4 months tonight but she “had a prior appointment”. At 6pm on a Friday. I’m on 8 months of separation. It was her decision, she wanted this and I don’t feel convicted to file for the divorce myself but she said she is going to. Still hasn’t. She also hasn’t been working since January, just leeching off her mom and dad. Doing some small under the table nanny gigs here and there but otherwise she is always hanging out with friends and already dating a guy. I kept the business that we built together, she said initially she was burnt out and done doing it, then she says…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/26 10:29 PM
3	Been sleeping better and lost 20 lbs since divorce. Strange thing is I've only been divorced for 3 weeks. Is this normal? I was at about 220 in January and I’m at 180 now. Most came off those first three months, also noticed my blood pressure came down significantly.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/26 05:22 AM
2	Title: Married 6 months ago, now I think my wife is a covert narcissist and no one believes me because she’s “the sweetest person.” How did you cope? Just got out of an 8 year relationship, 7 year marriage with somebody I believe has undiagnosed BPD and covert narcissism. Hardest part is how I enabled her behavior and how she has manipulated each relationship to such an extent to only serve her own various purposes. She cuts out the people who see and challenge her, and she does everything she can to maintain her illusion. Best thing to do is just leave and don’t look back. Wish I did that years ago but she did give me a son who is the best t…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/07/26 09:47 PM
1	5 Days since she asked. What should I expect emotionally? Glad to hear it man and another thing I’m learning is that the next time I get on the carousel, I got a bunch of people around me that I trust. Next time I date a girl I’m taking her to the pool hall and seeing how she interacts with my friends. Each one comes from a different background, with different perceptions and experiences. Each person I can have an honest conversation with and ask what they think for once instead of diving into something with rose tinted glasses and miss the defects tha…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/07/26 01:20 PM
2	5 Days since she asked. What should I expect emotionally? Yes, CPS thing was an obvious false report and it’s been closed and put behind me. Still required a criminal investigation and had to interview my kids pre-k teachers and other parents. That was pretty upsetting but it’s settled and life goes on. I get it, I moved to the city she lived in and she was my focus and pretty much my only friend the whole time we were together. When she split I lost all our “friends” but I’m honestly better off without them if they are the kind of people too stupid to…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/07/26 05:27 AM
4	5 Days since she asked. What should I expect emotionally? Well, from my own experience that started back in January… expect the unexpected. The woman I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with became an entirely different person, cruel and vindictive unlike anything I had ever seen. Never knew she had that side of her, but after time went on I began to realize she was probably always this way but I just didn’t notice it. Example: She falsely reported me to CPS the same week she found out I had been with somebody else. Not just like an absu…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/07/26 04:31 AM
1	Month 7 Reflections 4th of July was three months. It’s honestly been surprisingly easy and I don’t miss it. Best decision and thing that’s happened through all this and I’m looking forward to the positive changes that come with it! Thanks for the encouragement!	/r/Divorce_Men	17/07/26 06:41 PM