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| 9 | Are women in (current year) forced to wage slave?The details of the day are different, but the big worry is either “will I bring home enough money to meet our needs” or “will my husband bring home enough money to meet our needs?” Doesn’t seem so different. I’m def choosing wage slave where I have control over the effort put forward and where that effort allows me to build skills and a resume that will act as a permanent investment into my life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/25 04:43 AM |
| 1 | There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodiesSo you’re just a dunce? It’s called feminism for a reason. Why should an ideology aimed at promoting equality for women also focus on men’s issues? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/25 03:02 AM |
| 0 | There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodiesI mean… why would they? Isn’t the whole point of feminism to advocate for issues specifically concerning women? How is the circumcision of male babies included in that scope? Are you also angry about environmental agencies for not advocating against it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/25 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Women fundamentally don’t understand why men care about how women treated their exesSo what’s the limit? If she hates anal but let some manipulative guy pressure her into it when she was 22 how long does she need to keep lubing up for you until you feel adequately validated? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/24 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Women fundamentally don’t understand why men care about how women treated their exesYou’ve never been in a long term relationship, have you? A marriage might last FIFTY years. If you are persistently suffering for your partner to show your “deep true love” for them, that is absolutely going to eat you up. It’s unhealthy, because it shows a lack of self esteem and ability to set boundaries. Eventually that kind of devotion starts to slip and turn into resentment. You need to have the ability to talk about these things and be comfortable with differences with your partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/24 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Society cannot make any given individual attracted to another individual enough to create more long lasting relationships. It’s all down to you to become attractive.It never fails to amaze a lot of the guys here that women don’t want to punish people for not being attractive to them. I wonder if that’s part of why so many of them interpret women not wanting to date them as cruelty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/24 11:36 PM |
| – | The conversation has been hijacked by undesirable men, the REAL issue is that actual DESIRABLE men are being viewed as beneath average-below average womenI can see why; imagine having a partner who is mature and able to screen for a quality relationship choosing you instead of some codependent mess. How terrible for him. Someone should send flowers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/24 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Do women who engaged in lots of casual sex, inherently love the man they wind up marrying, differently than those who did not?It’s only an ego killer if you have nothing else to prop up your self esteem in your sad little life. This is a “you” problem (not necessarily you personally, but everyone with these views). Obsessing over some other guy’s dick years after it’s been in your wife’s vicinity is pathetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/24 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Do women who engaged in lots of casual sex, inherently love the man they wind up marrying, differently than those who did not?Ah yes, the “consequences for him”. By that you mean what, having to deal with the idea that Someone Else’s Dick was in his wife at some point, before they met? That possibly that dick was larger than his, or that the individual wielding it could have some sexual skill he does not? How terrible for him. Obviously as a mere accessory to her future husband’s she should have just crossed her legs and sat patiently in her father’s home, waiting for him to come take over custody. Get over yourself. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/24 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Men who continue to raise the kid after realizing it isn't there's are accepting the fruadIt’s not really the same thing at all, tho. The big difference is the relationship the parent has with the child. No, I would not help my husband raise a child that he brought to me out of the blue while confessing an infidelity. I don’t know that child, I don’t love it, I don’t have any specific concern for it’s well-being beyond what I have for any random stranger’s kid. On the other hand, someone who finds out that a child he’s been raising for years is not his own is in a much tougher positi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/24 08:44 AM |
| 6 | Is it wrong for men to only love based on the condition of celibacy?Yeah, you should do something about that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 10:59 AM |
| 12 | Is it wrong for men to only love based on the condition of celibacy?If you honestly think this way and aren’t just trolling, you need professional help. This is mental illness speaking, and it does no good to you or anyone around you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 04:28 AM |
| 2 | Women don’t want to be in a relationship or marriageBasic among normal people. But think how often we see people on this sub claiming women want criminals/gang members/serial killers/etc. Which of course some women do, because people be cray, but they take those crazy women and extrapolate their tastes to the greater population. We see those takes on this sub all the time, so I think it’s fair to include it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/24 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Most relationships with the woman earning double the income of her partner are doomed to fail from the startI guess when you don’t have any response the default is to be petulant. Good luck with that! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Most relationships with the woman earning double the income of her partner are doomed to fail from the startOf course we should grow old and die. We are organic beings. How does that have anything to do with the rest of the discussion? I’m guessing you are trying to make some evopsych argument about your theoretical dom/sub relationships being “just biology, dude”. As if humans don’t have an incredibly complex social structure and system of communication built on top of that and contributing as much if not more to our actions and beliefs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Most relationships with the woman earning double the income of her partner are doomed to fail from the startNah. Not outside of your little fetish club. Most normal people are able to respect their partner as an equal. And likewise find a partner who respects them as an equal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/24 12:04 PM |
| 5 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?The thing that always amazes me is how they completely ignore the guys part in it. Those first few dates are like a courtship dance- you have to play your part. I’m happy to have sex early, if I find you attractive and we are clicking socially. There are guys who will push forward with that, so I’ve dated guys in the past and had sex within the first couple dates with them. Then there’s my SO, who I had to finally take by the hand and LEAD back to the bedroom, because he was so terrified of maki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 03:36 PM |
| 4 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?This is such a common thing. I’ve dated a couple guys like this, and it’s amazing how out of touch with reality they can be, while still claiming their superiority. I’ll even admit that I had some tendencies this direction when I was doing my undergrad stem degree, but then I… grew up. Looked around at how the world actually functions. I think in older people who don’t grow out of it it either comes from feeling less than, and desperately clinging to the one objective success in their life, or i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Men need to normalize disappointing womenSteep order given the disparity in testosterone between the sexes, unless you’re recommending men date someone considerably less attractive than they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/24 12:09 AM |
| 1 | The overwhelming majority of people bitching about or even paying attention to “age gap” relationships are undesirable women and virtue signaling menYou’ve figured out the problem! People with an interest in compatibility and equality with their partners (aka good older men) don’t tend to target 18 year olds. It is indeed the manipulative men doing that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/24 08:19 PM |
| 1 | The overwhelming majority of people bitching about or even paying attention to “age gap” relationships are undesirable women and virtue signaling menA bad partner (of any age) can have major negative ramifications on a young persons life, sure. Unfortunately there’s a big overlap between people who target very young partners and people who are some combination of: manipulative, selfish, controlling, irresponsible, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/24 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Why does it seem that Single Dads are viewed as 'somewhat' attractive by the average woman, while Single Mom's are viewed as 'somewhat' unattractive by the average man?I’m not sure that being a single dads is seen as a true positive, esp given the rising number of women choosing not to have kids. I think most people choosing to be child free would have no interest in a single parent partner, esp if that person is the primary caretaker. But I do think it is overall seen less negatively than being a single mom. More of a neutral, perhaps. I think there’s probably a variety of factors playing into it. Men are less likely to be the primary caregiver. It’s easier f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 06:41 PM |
| 3 | The overwhelming majority of people bitching about or even paying attention to “age gap” relationships are undesirable women and virtue signaling menDo you apply this argument to all the shitty decisions very young people make? If your child decided to join a cult, or abandon their real job to become an Avon member, or drop out of college to have some dirtbag’s baby, you wouldn’t try even a little bit to talk them out of it? If so I think you’re the one whose parenting skills are questionable. Just because your child turns 18 doesn’t mean you suddenly no longer care about their welfare. But let’s be real, you’re probably 19 yourself and thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 06:23 PM |
| 9 | The overwhelming majority of people bitching about or even paying attention to “age gap” relationships are undesirable women and virtue signaling menGood news is, if your daughter likes to dress up in latex and beat her man with a riding crop, you probably won’t ever find out about it. That’s part of her private life, and I agree, I wouldn’t want to know about it. But this is a romantic partner. You telling me you never want to meet the man your daughter is dating, possibly marrying one day? A romantic partner affects a much bigger part of your child’s life than their sexual proclivities, this is a poor analogy. And it is very possible to no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 12:05 AM |
| – | I'm tired of people telling men that they shouldn't care about relationship/sex/intimacy and just focus on "being happy singe"For him being too undesirable to land a partner, apparently. “The entire world has wronged me, and I will have my revenge!” (Cue supervillain cackle). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 11:59 AM |
| 29 | Women are hypocritical for rejecting coffee datesSounds like that’s two strikes. So don’t date them. Why are you so worried about them existing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/24 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Why men must never open up to women.When specifically has this happened when the men’s support group has stayed a place for people to seek positive support and not turned into a hotbed of hateful content? People here often complain about the incel subs being shut down, for example. I believe this is possible but haven’t seen any examples. Open to learning. I’ll be honest tho- misogynistic “incel” killers are a big topic on the news right now. They’re of course not common, and the vast majority of people in those spaces would never… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 12:09 AM |
| – | Women in their 20s usually like guys our/their own ageBut how else would we know that he’s our social superior and deserves our respect? This guy’s an amateur at masculinity signaling tho; he didn’t even include the crucial information of his height or dick length. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 05:37 PM |
| 17 | Sexually unsuccessful men are like scientistsI mean, I get the impression he’s talking about bad scientists. So maybe not so much throwing shade at the scientific process as acknowledging how much biases can cloud judgement and impair critical thinking, and relating it to an arena where that is a common topic discussed. notallscientists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 05:54 PM |
| – | Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter.Because they’re not psychic. Because they’re dumb. Because they’re in love. Because any number of reasons. Who cares. Why are you so eager to make excuses for the guys out there dumping their children? Do you think that’s behavior to admire, or in any way on the same level as “well she fucked some guy who ended up being an irresponsible dirtbag”? So hot to dump all accountability on the parent who stayed so the other can carry on fucking around- you’re just sucking Chad’s cock by standing up for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 05:05 AM |
| 0 | Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter.Was there? Abortion is a best “theoretically” available to a large portion of society. How easy is it for a very poor woman to get an abortion? Or a 16 year old whose parents don’t approve? Or people living in the large number of countries where it is illegal? And yet you are jumping through hoops to try and absolve your fellow men of any accountability whatsoever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 02:49 AM |
| 3 | Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter.Ever considered if the children of absent fathers are a drain on society? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 02:39 AM |
| – | Women's intuition is the most dangerous thing a woman can believe in.“Any response to this will be proof” Looks like you’re one of those guys I was talking about, closed minded and supremely confident in your superiority. Good luck, I guess! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 04:28 PM |
| – | Women's intuition is the most dangerous thing a woman can believe in.There sure are. By demonstrating your competence through actions. Sounds like you agree with me in all my smugness and bad faith! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 01:12 PM |
| – | Women's intuition is the most dangerous thing a woman can believe in.Oh yeah, you’re right, all the smartest people I know go around loudly proclaiming it and talking about how that IQ test they took online says they’re a genius. How could I have forgotten. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 10:31 AM |
| 5 | Having a partner with the same/similar hobbies is much tougher for men.So… example? You try to join a female tennis group and they come swinging at you with their rackets screeching like harpies? Not saying that’s not an amusing mental picture, but it seems a little… outside the realm of reality. Much like the world view expressed in your final sentence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Having a partner with the same/similar hobbies is much tougher for men.Have you been to the knitting subreddit? Those bitches be competing! Jokes aside, what does being competitive have to do with you experiencing abuse? What is an example of a competitive female hobby where you are worried about being abused, and what would that abuse look like? Why would they be turned off by him being there, instead of eager to share their hobby with a newcomer, as long as he’s behaving appropriately (actually likes the hobby, not just trying to hook up with every half decent lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 12:11 AM |
| – | Women's intuition is the most dangerous thing a woman can believe in.Women talking about their heightened intuition are just the gender swapped equivalent of the men proclaiming their superior logic. They’re all morons. Actually intelligent, intuitive, logical people don’t have to work so hard to convince others about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 11:59 PM |
| 5 | Having a partner with the same/similar hobbies is much tougher for men.What kind of “abuse” do you imagine you will receive? Unless you mean like getting kicked out of yoga class for actively creeping on people? Seriously, it’s literally a meme on the knitting subreddit that a guy who posts himself holding his janky beginner swatch will get showered with upvotes and welcomed to the community, while much more proficient work from a woman barely gets any attention. We think it’s adorable when men join our hobbies (unless they behave poorly while doing so). And in ans… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Why "just date someone from your social circle" is often poor advice for nerdy, socially awkward, sexless men and why cold-approaching as many women as possible is betterWhat era and location are you envisioning when thinking about how the world used to be, exactly? Nail it down for me. And if you’re bothered by people interpreting your words in a negative light, maybe PPD isn’t the place for you. Everyone here is a miserable SOB- learn to love it! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 09:31 PM |
| 1 | There is nothing “creepy” or “predatory” about 30-40 year old men wanting to date or sleep with 20-25 year olds, it isn’t men’s fault women don’t age wellIt’s more nuanced than that, but you have the idea. Essentially, hitting on people who aren’t interested in you can absolutely set you up to be considered creepy. Attractive or otherwise “desirable” people are more likely to have people be interested in them, thus they can get away with more forward behavior. But there is a limit; even the hottest guy can tip over into the creepy zone- the line is just a lot further out. Garett from Costco has a lot of factors working against him; his line is dr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 04:49 PM |
| 1 | There is nothing “creepy” or “predatory” about 30-40 year old men wanting to date or sleep with 20-25 year olds, it isn’t men’s fault women don’t age wellCorrect. The game is different for the very attractive among us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 12:17 PM |
| 1 | There is nothing “creepy” or “predatory” about 30-40 year old men wanting to date or sleep with 20-25 year olds, it isn’t men’s fault women don’t age wellSome of them, probably yes. It’s hard to buy true desire if it’s not there; you’re buying their willingness to put aside their distaste. Others probably not, the ones who are best able to successfully minimize the effects of aging might indeed inspire actual desire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 03:37 AM |
| 7 | There is nothing “creepy” or “predatory” about 30-40 year old men wanting to date or sleep with 20-25 year olds, it isn’t men’s fault women don’t age wellWho are you, the creepy police? This is an extremely common viewpoint among the people actually experiencing these approaches. What percentage of early 20s women do you imagine are open to dating someone only a few years younger than her dad? So many men seem to believe that because actors, models, and extremely wealthy men are able to date hot young women that Garett who works as a manager at Costco will be able to do the same. It’s not the case. The men capable of dating these highly desirable… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Why "just date someone from your social circle" is often poor advice for nerdy, socially awkward, sexless men and why cold-approaching as many women as possible is betterAnd what, pray tell, are the original rules of the game you feel have been changed to leave men in this situation? The ones resulting in women having limited control over their futures/lives? How are you proposing re-writing the rules to address the issues men face WITHOUT taking women’s rights away again? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 12:52 PM |
| 14 | CMV: Every single man can immediately significantly increase his desirability to women by rescuing cats and kittens.This is one of the most balanced and detailed comments I’ve ever seen on this sub, well done. Awesome view into your world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 02:37 PM |
| 1 | If a man is not the best sexual partner of his partner, then the relationship is not worth it.It is a mark of laziness/childishness when a guy so DESPERATELY wants this to be true. If only he could keep her happy and loyal- just by being good at sex. If only that was all it took, then he could ignore a lot of those other obligations because she’d always come back for the D. Guess what- it doesn’t work that way. Even for highly sexually active couples, sex makes up a minor percentage of their time together. And it doesn’t matter how hot his moves are if the rest of the relationship is shi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Why "just date someone from your social circle" is often poor advice for nerdy, socially awkward, sexless men and why cold-approaching as many women as possible is betterIf you want to conveniently ignore the experience of half the population until very recently in history, then I guess I DO want to “dishonest straw man” because nothing I have to say will mean anything to you. Clearly that fabulous penis not getting what it deserves is important enough that we should go back to the “original rules of the game”. I actually have a lot of sympathy for most men trying to date today. I think there are very real struggles they face, and the majority of men deal with t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Why "just date someone from your social circle" is often poor advice for nerdy, socially awkward, sexless men and why cold-approaching as many women as possible is betterYeah, gee, it was so much better when women had less autonomy and unattractive men could just purchase a woman who didn’t love him. Would be great to go back to those days. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/24 08:05 PM |
| 0 | Question for attractive women; What could an average or below average looking man do for you to genuinely desire him?Well, who do they rent out table space to? Probably local game groups. So figure out when those groups meet- the game store might know when a group is planning to be there, or you can look on Meetup or Facebook. Bring your stuff, show up, and say “hey, are you guys open to new players?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/24 06:40 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: Why is it mostly other women behind the trad wife backlash?Because many women see it as being harmful to other women. Same reason it’s largely women objecting to large age gaps in relationships. I don’t think people spend as much time thinking about or objecting to issues that harm the opposite gender. So I wouldn’t expect it to be on as many men’s radar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/24 03:46 PM |
| 9 | Maybe this has been said in here before, but one thing I think is overlooked. Women were not like this 15 years ago.Exactly my thought. Many people will have coupled up in their mid to late 20s. Why is it a surprise that dating would be harder as a late 30 year old, and likely have fewer favorable options? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/24 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Most relationships with the woman earning double the income of her partner are doomed to fail from the startYeah, nah, this isn’t an army company. Most relationships are between people with different strengths and weaknesses, and sensible people will discuss issues that come up and either reach a compromise or defer to the partner with greater experience in that area. There are relatively few people outside beaten down members of fundamentalist religions or BDSM subs who just want to cede control over their lives to their partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 03:28 PM |
| 6 | Most relationships with the woman earning double the income of her partner are doomed to fail from the startCan’t they both be capable and competent and just be complimentary partners? Why does one member of the relationship have to be subservient? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Are women finding less men are willing to help them?That would be a “duty to rescue” law, different from Good Samaritan laws and much less common (at least in the US). Good Samaritan laws protect you if you accidentally injure someone while rendering reasonable aid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/24 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Are women finding less men are willing to help them?Lol, nope. Last time I took my paddle board out some dude came running over offering to help me get it up on my car. I knocked off some books from a library display yesterday, guy standing by helped pick them up. Guys still hold doors, etc. The idea that guys are avoiding being helpful towards women out of fear of… harassment charges? is ludicrous. Most normal people are willing to be helpful towards others, of any sex. Anyone whose first thought is “could this be misconstrued as harassment” whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/24 05:29 PM |
| 3 | What is the bare minimum for a woman in a relationship?I want a girl who gets up early. I want I girl who stays up late. I want a girl with uninterrupted prosperity, who uses a machete to cut through red tape. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/24 05:30 PM |
| 2 | What non-anecdotal evidence do we have that women are happier in marriage now than they were in historical retrospective?OP, look into hedonic adaptation. Essentially, the theory suggests (with some data to support it) that happiness is less linked to the events of our lives than you might expect, and that individuals have a sort of “set point” for happiness that they return to even after major life changing events, good or bad. Win the lottery? Bump in happiness that gradually levels out after a matter of years. Become paraplegic? Decrease in happiness that levels out over years. I bet people in the past were gen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Q4women: do you enjoy/desire sexual attention from men who aren't your husband/boyfriend?Super cute; I’m surprised by the breed breakdown as she looks so much like a border collie! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 12:27 PM |
| – | Women are championed for their preferences while men are demonizedThen how are you being demonized? In anticipation of the “I didn’t say I was being demonized”, who are you seeing expressing their preferences in a polite fashion (or even keeping them to themselves and just pursuing people they like without making it a whole thing) and being demonized for it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 08:39 PM |
| – | Women are championed for their preferences while men are demonizedSo you think it is as important for men to profess their individual dating preferences, insultingly if they so desire, as it is for a dedicated researcher to share their data with the world? This isn’t science hon. It’s basic interpersonal relationships. No, people don’t have to like you if you are rude to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Men are never allowed to be "Good enough"I frequent the knitting subreddit. It’s basically a meme in that community that any guy who posts a picture of himself holding his project, even if it’s something super basic, will be showered in praise and upvotes. Similarly, I enjoy yoga. Guess who can always find someone to talk to after class and is eagerly welcomed- the new dude (as long as he doesn’t act like a letch). One of the few Instagram accounts I follow is a guy who makes beautiful pastries- comments are always full of adoration. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 02:16 PM |
| – | Why is there this obsession in the manosphere with wanting to ‘replace women’?Because it’s usually coupled with the idea that the appeal of robot girlfriends will be widespread, and that enough men will abandon dating real women that now women are the ones struggling with loneliness/lusting for dates with men. Seems unlikely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/24 07:44 PM |
| 0 | Dating apps should be banned for women under 25Hard disagree. How many fathers are going to be pleased when 18 year old Sally brings home 38 year old Gerald? Everyone worries about people they care about being manipulated/taken advantage of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/24 03:22 PM |
| 12 | As much blame as women get for the current situation, a big part of the problem is the desperation of men. I regularly see dudes calling the most average or even below average women “hot” or “beautiful.”So you’re here arguing that people shouldn’t be kind to one another. Sounds like childish sour grapes to me. Gonna bet you don’t get a lot of compliments about anything, looks or your winning personality! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/24 03:08 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: What do you think about shaming people for having synthetic SOs?Yeah, like will she do the laundry for both of us? Can I have a fake robot wife too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/24 11:47 PM |
| 4 | When a woman is NOT striving to be with one man for the rest of her life (aka marriage), why should she be taken seriously by men?You keep posting this all over the thread, and I’d love to see you follow through the idea to it’s conclusion a little further. So women who have casual sex are bad because they put themselves at risk for being raped/assaulted/stalked by men. And when this happens this makes them… damaged goods? Worth less due to having had this experience? Does the same apply to children who are raped who then grow up to be adult women? Does the same apply to men who are raped? What about men who enjoy casual s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/24 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Have you noticed the only ones who seem to care about age gap relationships are older or less desirable women, and they only care when the man is older?I agree that women, in general, are the selectors. But I think there is an element of growing into that role for some people. I think there is a percentage of very naive, maybe not too bright young women who are susceptible to being targeted by a manipulative older partner. The ugly ducklings, the homeschooled girls, various people with limited prior relationship experience. They may not appreciate the red flags others would. So especially the very young girls in age gap relationships (18-22, gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 11:32 PM |
| 13 | Have you noticed the only ones who seem to care about age gap relationships are older or less desirable women, and they only care when the man is older?Be sure to let the guys in the constant threads about male loneliness know that! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 08:27 AM |
| 3 | Have you noticed the only ones who seem to care about age gap relationships are older or less desirable women, and they only care when the man is older?Correct*. But a lot of men who specifically select for younger partners tend towards being creeps. They give the behavior a bad name. *unless they manage to target a woman unusually susceptible to manipulation (dumb, naive, mental illness) Everyone knows men as a group find women in their early twenties most attractive physically. But most normal men take more than physical appearance into account when choosing a partner. If you’re not doing that, there’s a decent likelihood that you struggle wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 08:22 AM |
| 5 | Have you noticed the only ones who seem to care about age gap relationships are older or less desirable women, and they only care when the man is older?Because often the way they ask makes us feel unsafe. Not taking no for an answer, asking in times/places where it’s not easy to get away from them, etc. Like it or not, there’s a high correlation between “old guy who hits on young women” and “guy who tries to pressure or manipulate women into interacting with him.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 08:08 AM |
| 6 | Have you noticed the only ones who seem to care about age gap relationships are older or less desirable women, and they only care when the man is older?Oh I’m not saying they’re successful. But they sure do try. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 03:04 AM |
| 11 | Have you noticed the only ones who seem to care about age gap relationships are older or less desirable women, and they only care when the man is older?Umm, actually we are, because that makes up a good chunk of the guys hitting on younger women. When I think back to the older guys creeping on my in my teens and early 20 twenties, most of them were decidedly not desirable, even aside from being outside the age range I was interested in dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 02:35 AM |
| 12 | Women owe men sex.-bats eyes- | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 05:31 PM |
| 14 | Women owe men sex.What a shame, I bet it was HOT. No better sex than when someone’s forcing themselves to engage in the coupling against their will. The subtle disgust in their face, the stiff muscles, the lack of eye contact. Really gets my motor running. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 05:29 PM |
| 10 | Women owe men sex.She sounds great, how was the obligation sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 05:25 PM |
| 11 | Women owe men sex.-keeps eating popcorn- | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 05:11 PM |
| 24 | Women owe men sex.Oh great, I missed out on the original Ask A Rapist thread, looking forward to seeing this one play out in real time! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 04:56 PM |
| -1 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.I think the reason this comment is so long is that you are having to go out of your way to justify your view that people who want a relationship don’t necessarily try to make it work. Frankly, they do. I’ll give you that every once in a while they might learn something new about the potential partner that causes them to immediately lose interest. But especially in the early phases of a relationship, people are remarkably forgiving of their partners’ flaws. The rose colored glasses are firmly in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 04:28 PM |
| 1 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.Many people actually view their romantic partners as people rather than interchangeable resources, actually. Deny it all you like, but it’s a pretty limited and unfulfilling world view you’re presenting here, and fortunately there are plenty of men out there (of all levels of attractiveness) capable of recognizing that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 04:19 PM |
| 2 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.Most people who are actually invested in a relationship don’t just drop their partners when the novelty wears off. If the relationship is something they want, they communicate, they work to find common ground/compromise. People who were never invested are more likely to just ghost, or say something rude/dismissive, or even come out and say they were just in it to get laid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 03:54 PM |
| 2 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.We will always deny it, because it’s a simplistic view of the world. People- even men!- are capable of complex emotions and connection to other people. I’m sorry you haven’t experienced/encountered that in your life, but I’m afraid there’s a lot you’ve been missing out on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 03:50 PM |
| 3 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.It’s bad phrasing, because it’s really not about the sex. It’s about the lies. Guys who come out and say “hey, I’m not looking for a romantic relationship but I’m willing to engage in a purely sexual one” are fine. It’s the guys who pretend to be invested while truly only looking for sex who are the problem. Consider the difference between a prostitute and a gold digger. The prostitute is open about her services and boundaries, and the financial benefit she receives is agreed on ahead of time. N… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 03:20 PM |
| -1 | The reason why women aren't actively trying to date men is because they were told that men need to pursue a woman, otherwise she is labeled as "needy/clingy" for showing interest.So unattractive men only don’t do this because they don’t have the opportunity to? Are you sure YOU’RE not the one who hates men? Realistically, some men will use their partners as a means to their own ends, and some won’t. Their physical appearance can’t be used as a shorthand to determine what kind of person they are. There are nice chads, and shitty chads. There are nice uggos, and shitty uggos. If my guy is only staying with me because he has no other options, that doesn’t sound like the kin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 03:13 PM |
| – | Nice guys verse healthy withdrawal of relationshipsIt could be totally made up. Who knows! But if the friends in your likely embellished/cleaned up story turn against you, and the internet is generally unsympathetic towards you, you probably did something that came off as a dick move. Like it or not, most people think if you’ve been friends with someone for three years you should care if they get home safely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/24 04:07 AM |
| – | Nice guys verse healthy withdrawal of relationshipsMaybe. Maybe not. Also remember, we only have his point of view, and most people (intentionally or not) spin stories to be as sympathetic to themselves as possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/24 12:09 AM |
| 4 | Why do a lot of woman have issues with neediness or clinginess than men?Well by his own terms playing video games counts, so I’m gonna guess it’s that one! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/24 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Nice guys verse healthy withdrawal of relationshipsGet this- no one in real life knows your state of mind either. All we see are your actions. And, to really blow your mind, those actions are then being interpreted through the lens of each person’s perspective. So if you do things that other people interpret as shitty, you’re going to get social blow back. So many people want to be judged by the good person they believe themselves to be inside- well if your actions come across as shitty, no one can see that supposedly good inside you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 05:36 PM |
| -2 | Nice guys verse healthy withdrawal of relationshipsHe sure can. And she and all their friend group can look at his actions and go, “wow. What a dick move.” Actions have consequences. In this case, dropping your “friend” as soon as it’s clear she’s not going to fuck you is going to make other people see you as selfish and uncaring. Nice guys love to lean into the “well he’s not REQUIRED to do x y z”. That’s not what anyone is arguing. Of course it’s not required. But they’re missing the whole undertone of what friendship actually means- that you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Men's hatred/disdain for women is due to one simple fact..they don't understand them.I’m explaining where the “entitled” thing comes from. It’s the perception that these guys want something for nothing- ie, for whatever reason they are not able to offer traits women want, but still feel they should find dates as easily as those who do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Men's hatred/disdain for women is due to one simple fact..they don't understand them.So because you MAY never get better, it’s not worth trying to get better? Does the same apply to, oh, literally every other skill out there? Can you ride a bike? Or did you fall off once, so oops, never again. How many people actually have such severely compromised social abilities that they have no ability to improve them? And yet are somehow able to live independently in the world? I bet not that many. As long as you are not successful socially, but you WANT to be successful, the only answer i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Men's hatred/disdain for women is due to one simple fact..they don't understand them.Sure. I don’t disagree, and even feel it’s likely that a lot of guys who struggle to attract women have good personalities or the potential to be a good partner. But how would any random woman know about their untold depths of awesome if they can’t actually show it to her? How is she supposed to just magically know that this is a good guy who should be given an opportunity if he cannot through his appearance or actions offer anything that makes being with him better than being alone? How is she … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Men's hatred/disdain for women is due to one simple fact..they don't understand them.*absolutely nothing to offer that women desire. Or they are unable to effectively market their positives, which is more likely. And comes to the same. Why should a random woman just jump into a relationship to someone who doesn’t seem like an improvement to her current life? I think you’re the one falling for the just world fallacy- believing that deep down inside these unsuccessful guys are actually really great, and should be rewarded for their awesomeness by women despite not being able to de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 02:54 PM |
| 0 | Men's hatred/disdain for women is due to one simple fact..they don't understand them.Presumably those men who attract women are offering something they want in exchange. The unsuccessful men are not. It’s the wanting something for nothing that makes them entitled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Men's hatred/disdain for women is due to one simple fact..they don't understand them.I think her point is that it is possible to get better at these things with practice. I used to have terrible anxiety over public speaking (and to be fair kind of sucked at it), but now I do it regularly as part of my job, and I can say honestly it no longer bothers me and I am much more fluid and effective at getting my points across. Same thing here. Force yourself to get through the awkward, incompetent stage, and eventually you will start to learn how to adapt to being more acceptable social… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Girls always shame you for approaching or “hitting on” multiple women, sharing screenshots of their dms trying to humiliate you but men are FORCED to cast a wide net due to the fact that most women are taken or “uninterested.”If the shoe fits! Just kidding. But truly, this is a dating debate subreddit, we’re all horrible to each other all the time. If you’re offended by that maybe this isn’t the place for you. Most guys would just respond that I’m a delusional over the wall hag, so you could try that and see if it makes you feel better! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 11:11 AM |
| 2 | Girls always shame you for approaching or “hitting on” multiple women, sharing screenshots of their dms trying to humiliate you but men are FORCED to cast a wide net due to the fact that most women are taken or “uninterested.”Ok, so not autistic just deeply bitter, sad, and desperate. It seems like you’ve had a lot of negative dating experiences over your life, and it’s left you unable to connect with others? Or maybe you were always this way and the negative experiences are secondary to that. Either way, now you’re here, believing everyone has the same calculating, antagonistic approach to dating that you do. When for most people, that is not the case! Most people date looking for someone to connect with, someone to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 10:54 AM |
| 2 | Girls always shame you for approaching or “hitting on” multiple women, sharing screenshots of their dms trying to humiliate you but men are FORCED to cast a wide net due to the fact that most women are taken or “uninterested.”Out of curiosity, are you autistic? I ask because this is a social norm that I have seen autistic guys struggling with, and I see some of that reflected in this comment. Some of it is just bitterness and lashing out, but at the core I get the sense that perhaps this has always been something that doesn’t make sense to you? When I have a crush on a guy, I’m interested in THAT guy. I like how he looks, yes, but I also want to know about him as a person. I want to know what books he reads. Which pa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/24 03:39 PM |
| 13 | Study shows men view their ex partners much more fondly than women do, matches up with my experience. What are your thoughts?Lamo, he said it himself didn’t he? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/24 01:14 AM |
| 16 | Girls always shame you for approaching or “hitting on” multiple women, sharing screenshots of their dms trying to humiliate you but men are FORCED to cast a wide net due to the fact that most women are taken or “uninterested.”There’s more to it than that and you know it. Guy asks out girl, girl says no. Later, guy asks out another girl. Normal. Not a problem, even in a small town. Where the problem comes in, is when guy asks out girl, she says no, and then the guy immediately moves on to the next target(s). Picture the guy at the club who’s just going down the line, asking girl after girl, multiple of whom may be aware of what he’s doing. That’s when you get into trouble- when you show a single minded focus on “must … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/24 07:45 PM |
| 12 | Girls always shame you for approaching or “hitting on” multiple women, sharing screenshots of their dms trying to humiliate you but men are FORCED to cast a wide net due to the fact that most women are taken or “uninterested.”Every day there is a new thread here claiming that “men’s standards can’t get any lower” and “men’s standards are practically non-existent” and “just don’t be fat” and “all she needs is a pulse”. So it would seem, by their own words, that there are MANY men who have very low to no standards, and are just trying to get with any women. That’s very unappealing to women, so they will try to screen out men who behave that way, and focus on the men who at least make an effort to seem interested in the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/24 07:16 PM |
| 10 | Girls always shame you for approaching or “hitting on” multiple women, sharing screenshots of their dms trying to humiliate you but men are FORCED to cast a wide net due to the fact that most women are taken or “uninterested.”Precisely. To go back to the OP’s question, women are turned off by a guy hitting on a bunch of women around them because those are behaviors that suggests a lack of interest in her as anything other than a potential sex partner. Which women don’t generally appreciate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/24 07:06 PM |
| 15 | Most of the time when a woman cock blocks her friend at the bar, it is out of jealousy not to “save her” as most women will try to claimWhat? What are you even arguing here, that because a woman might like to go out and dance with people and have fun at a club that means she’s… implicitly ok with being raped or injured by some sleeze? That the possibility of something negative happing means all the positives are disregarded? People like rock climbing, but most of them don’t like falling and breaking a leg. Should the fact that they wear a harness to avoid falling mean they shouldn’t go have fun climbing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 04:53 PM |
| 7 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?No one gold digs “potential”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 06:46 PM |
| 6 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?Those are totally normal jobs lol. No one will hear that and go “ooo, a millionaire in the making, better hitch my cart to this one!” Maybe if you tell them you’re a neurosurgeon you have to be worried about gold diggers, but as it is you’re making a huge deal in your mind about nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 06:35 PM |
| 2 | outside of some obvious exceptions, having no friends is a red flagBut what about the experience the other person expects/deserves? Not saying your approach is bad, or wrong, but it’s not what most people are looking for in a relationship, and I’m not sure you can communicate your way out of the incompatibility. Most people don’t want to play second fiddle to their partners free time, and might be hurt if they are consistently turned down or (as they see it) neglected. I’m not sure we’re actually in disagreement here. It sounds like you highly value personal sp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 05:58 PM |
| 1 | outside of some obvious exceptions, having no friends is a red flagYou never have emotional exchanges with friends or exchange data with romantic partners? Commitment and responsibility have different “levels”- so doesn’t that imply that you’re expecting similar aspects in platonic vs romantic relationships, and it’s just the intensity that changes? And maybe you don’t have official “dates” with friends- but the first few times you meet/ hang out with them, aren’t you deciding if they are someone you want to hang out with again and vice versa? That’s not dissim… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 12:22 PM |
| 2 | outside of some obvious exceptions, having no friends is a red flagWhat specifically do they offer that’s different to you? What different skills do you feel you utilize in platonic vs romantic relationships? I definitely don’t think people who prefer to be alone are in any way inferior to more social people. Totally fine if that’s your jam. But I have a feeling it’s not very compatible with the lifestyle people who do want to be around others will want. Because they’re also not lesser people because of their preferences. And if those preferences involve spendi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 06:33 AM |
| 3 | outside of some obvious exceptions, having no friends is a red flagSure, not saying you hate other people. But if you’re largely ambivalent towards them… again, what’s the draw? Why want to be in a relationship if you don’t want to spend time with platonic friends? What’s the difference? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 05:48 AM |
| 8 | outside of some obvious exceptions, having no friends is a red flagI’m curious why you think people with no platonic friends would be motivated/capable of displaying the social skills expected of them in a relationship. Platonic friendships, esp ones that aren’t particularly close, are easy. An actual relationship is much harder. Why would someone who doesn’t enjoy being around other people even want to be in a relationship? The only thing I can think is “to get laid/produce offspring,” but while many people will expect one or both of those in their relationshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 01:27 AM |
| 8 | What is the appeal of casual sex for women?Sex is fun/feels nice. I think a lot of women in the casual sex scene are just high libido, sex positive people doing what feels right to them. There are ways to reduce the risk of pregnancy/disease, and while the “partner count” thing is a big deal on the internet, in the real world and especially in the circles these women run with it’s not an issue. So to them the benefits outweigh the risks, just like for men. Validation. I do think there is a subgroup of women with significant self esteem/ … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 03:30 PM |
| 10 | Why is it so hard for taken women to ignore other men who show interest in her?Seriously, saving this post to use as an example the next time someone is whining that men never get any compliments. Not only did OP twist this innocuous interaction into a whole story in his head, he then went and tried to use it to cause trouble in OP’s personal life. Probably because he’s jealous of their seemingly supportive and normal relationship. I think OP could stand to take a break from social media and work on himself a bit. Happy stable people don’t behave this way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 11:50 PM |
| 10 | Why is it so hard for taken women to ignore other men who show interest in her?Serious question, are you in middle school? Because I have a hard time imagining anyone over the age of 14 spending that much time analyzing the emojis a friend is sending them. She probably uses it all the time and gave it zero thought, bro. The only reason you care is because you are only able to think about her sexually. You WANT it to be her sending you a signal, so you’re holding on to this meaningless “proof”. Good thing her boyfriend is a little more mature than you, and recognizes this a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 11:41 PM |
| – | Why do men make fun of things women like?Oh not necessarily. I have a lot of nerd hobbies, and as a result have plenty of dude friends who struggle with dating. And a big part for many (not all) of them is a lack of familiarity with normal social expectations. Plenty of them will shoot themselves in the foot without knowing by doing exactly the sorts of things discussed in this post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 01:00 PM |
| 3 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderSee, even now you can’t say OPs views are shallow without immediately pairing it with something about how women can be shallow too. Why go to such efforts to defend him? Why not just make your own post about how women are shallow? It will join a bunch of similar posts here from the past couple of days so you’ll certainly find an audience for it! I think it’s because you don’t think his views are shallow. I think you agree with OP on what makes a good woman, and feel annoyed when your taste for “… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 10:34 PM |
| 4 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderI think you want it to be a competition because why else bring up the tik tok ladies? My comment was about OP’s bizarre list, and your response was to immediately change the subject to shallow women instead. Which is the majority of this response as well. Is it meant as a defense of OP? That it’s ok to be completely self centered and not regard your partner as a full human because a lot of women like tall rich guys? I’m still curious about your views on the OP specifically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 10:11 PM |
| 5 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderI get that the tik tok ladies are very distracting, and you really want to turn this into a competition about who’s more shallow. But I’m actually interested in your thoughts on the OP- do you think that those are normal views to hold? Do you think bitter old women poisoning the minds of young women explains why OP can’t find his endlessly approving baby maker? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 09:30 PM |
| 6 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderI will, when those women come make a PPD post about how all the short, bald, broke etc dudes are out there trying to shame women for preferring fit hot guys with luxurious hair, and it’s important to snap up those hot guys while they’re still young. Be sure to tag me in that post, in case I miss it. But seriously, man- I’m not saying women can’t be shallow. I’m saying OP specifically has created a list that shows he cares nothing for his partner as a person and her only worth is her ability to r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 08:56 PM |
| 23 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderStraight women who interact with men in the real world don’t have it too bad- most guys aren’t like the men on PPD thank god. But I completely agree about the list. OP clearly couldn’t care less about his theoretical partner as a person. Everything is about her being a quiet, sex and baby dispensing robot with a painted on smile who only ever supports and agrees with him. Like, perhaps start there when considering your dating issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 01:52 PM |
| 25 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderGonna be honest, anyone who would post that list of traits desired in a partner should be avoided at any age. You don’t want a woman. You want a woman-shaped object. There’s nothing in your list that reflects any humanity or personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 01:44 PM |
| 2 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidsI agree. It’s the flip of what they say all the time. So why all the RP angst and lashing out at OP? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:04 PM |
| 19 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidsThe same take from the opposite side gets posted here all the time. Dudes on this sub love posting about how single moms are used up/undesirable/another man’s save point/etc and how that makes them desperate and forces them to be willing to settle for any man even if she wouldn’t have looked twice at him when she was young. Now we have the opposite side presented, and both RP and BP posters are up in arms about it. Flipped the issue on its head. Good job, OP, this is the drama I come here for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 01:01 PM |
| 2 | If sex and relationships were off the table: do women find men appealing in any way? Are we funny or interesting?I love male energy and have a lot of platonic dude friends. This is going to be full of generalizations, but in some ways dude friends are easier. My female friends generally require more attention and engagement during conversation, and they pay more attention to my responses to the things they’ve told me. I’m pretty introverted and have a job that requires a lot of social effort throughout the day, and I just don’t always having the emotional bandwidth to have a “woman style” conversation. Wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 05:27 PM |
| 1 | What do men get for paying for the first date?The only thing you “get” is to seem like a generous person. I’m guessing you like desirable women? Pretty, kind, life’s not a mess, maybe generous themselves? Well guess what, you’re not alone. Other men like that woman too. Other men are also wanting to date her. You don’t have to pay for her meal- esp nowadays there are plenty of women who don’t really care. I’m one of them- I always go in expecting to pay for myself, and I make plenty of my own money, so paying for a meal is a non-issue. I do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaEveryone seems to think this is such a “gotcha!” moment. It’s not. I agree it’s a cold approach, and I never said it wasn’t. The point is that if you open your cold approach in a way that starts an actual conversation/ addresses something non-physical about her, that will set you apart from the crowd of “hey beautiful” guys and help lower barriers by coming off as non-threatening. The whole point is to make her want to talk to you- that gives you a chance to get your foot in the door. Like I sai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 07:37 AM |
| 8 | What is up with the term “tingles”?Because the kind of men drawn to red pill are not the ones inspiring “tingles”. It’s bitterness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 02:26 AM |
| 5 | Men's standards are almost always perceived as misogynistic and judgmental?Yeah OP can’t even mask the misogyny long enough to make a Reddit post, no way his family isn’t picking up on it loud and clear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 05:39 AM |
| 4 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaI actually have some sympathy for this response. It probably is true, esp for a less attractive person, that any opener gets shot down, possibly not kindly, and that is sad. Unattractive people and socially awkward people have it rough. That said, play the hand you’re given. Maybe a light, platonic opener gets shot down 47/50 times while a “creepy” or potentially creepy opener gets shot down 50/50 times. While that’s still a lot of rejection, it’s the better choice if you want to take the route … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 08:15 PM |
| 4 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaExactly! You’ve got it! Now take those new social skills and fly! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaNow you actually have a decent point. It is possible to use this knowledge “for good”, that is to further a legitimate connection with someone in the situation where you actually care about them. I’ll give you that. I do think it can be used to manipulate people if you don’t actually see eye to eye with them about the relationship, however. The story about “after we slept together he blocked me on everything and cut contact” is what most women would like to avoid, and a man who has good social s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 07:59 PM |
| 4 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaImagine being an attractive woman and hearing a low level buzz from men all your life about how you look and how it makes them want to fuck you. The more you hear that, the less special it is. You know what rises above the masses? The guy who reaches for something you’ve never heard before, something specific to you, something you can start a conversation over. THAT guy you want to talk to. There are lots of hot women out there, and lots of men who want to fuck them. Want to stand out from the c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:41 PM |
| 5 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaIf women approached men with open sexual attention I’m sure it would go over well for several reasons: 1. Men have a higher sex drive so are more likely to be into that; 2. Men on the whole have less fear of sexual aggression than women. For your poorly articulated job analogy… yes? I mean of course I want people to offer me a job because they think I have the right qualifications, not because I’m attractive? If that’s what you’re trying to say? And for your bit about cold approaches- there’s nu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:36 PM |
| 5 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaBut we can. Because there are plenty of men who get to know the women they ask out first, or who express interest in her as a person. And those people are more attractive for a lot of women who don’t like appearance- based approaches. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaIt absolutely is, I agree with you. I’m essentially giving men advice for how to manipulate women more effectively, which I probably shouldn’t do, haha. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:20 PM |
| 14 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaThe key here is exactly that- he doesn’t know anything else about you. He is basing the entire desire to approach you solely on the fact that he thinks you’re hot, and a lot of women don’t like that. Sexual attention feels predatory, especially for women with a history of negative sexual behavior from men. On some level, I think everyone understands that a man approaching a woman is doing so because he finds her attractive, and that’s ok. But for most women, it is much more appealing for the man… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Most guys who struggle in dating struggle because they don't have a social life.Actually I do see the context around it. That’s the point. When I date someone, I like fucking them. I expect them to like fucking me. It is something that feels good, something we have a drive to do as mammals. But here’s the thing. I don’t base my entire desire to connect with anyone on fucking them. And that’s what this guy is saying- he’s saying if socialization doesn’t result in sex, there’s no point in it. Forget cuddling on the couch. Forget having a lively conversation. Forget sharing a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 12:02 AM |
| 4 | Morals don't matter compared to how attractive you are physically, socially, and sexuallyAnd they do. But so does everything else. People who get married are looking for a life partner, dude. They want a partner who is the best in every category- hot, kind, good job, perfect health, etc. Obviously the perfect person isn’t out there, so it’s a matter of choosing what to compromise. I’ll totally give you that being attractive or rich/powerful buys you more leniency with your behavior. Men do it too, for all that your examples are all female based. Ever heard of the crazy/hot scale? Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 11:43 AM |
| 0 | Most guys who struggle in dating struggle because they don't have a social life.Oh, I think there’s a little more to it than that for most humans. But not, apparently, for people like the fellow I replied to. So hey, bring on the sexbots for those among us incapable of connecting on any level other than the physical. If that meets your needs then honestly it’s probably for the best, as you’re not likely to be the type who can successfully engage in an actual human relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 11:16 AM |
| 4 | Most guys who struggle in dating struggle because they don't have a social life.Well no, you can’t take sex out of the equation because that’s the entire focus of the commenter I replied to, apparently. He doesn’t mention anything about connecting with others, loneliness, isolation, any of that. I would be more sympathetic if he did. But nothing in the comment indicates that he feels anything about human connection is worth a damn, unless he gets to stick his dick in it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 11:08 AM |
| -1 | Most guys who struggle in dating struggle because they don't have a social life.I usually laugh at the men who think AI girlfriends will be even remotely acceptable as an alternative to dating a human. But then I read comments talking about “lack of sexual returns” when socializing and I realize maybe there are truly people out there who would be happier if they could just enter a predictable set of commands to make their fake girlfriend spread her thighs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Should a woman who has lost significant amounts of weight give men who did not want her a chance after weight loss?I don’t think it’s a problem for men not to want to date fat women. Maybe a little unrealistic, as obesity becomes more and more commonplace. But not wrong. You’re attracted to what you’re attracted to, and that’s fine. But I dislike the attempt to dress it up as being in any way concerned about her health or wellbeing. For the vast majority of men, that hasn’t even entered consideration, at least not until they’ve started thinking about how to doll up their physical preference to not sound shal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Should a woman who has lost significant amounts of weight give men who did not want her a chance after weight loss?So the lovely slim Type 1 diabetic is in or out? What if it means she has a risk of blindness in the future? Does her health matter then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Should a woman who has lost significant amounts of weight give men who did not want her a chance after weight loss?What about a slender lovely type I diabetic? What about a lean, pretty girl with congenital heart disease who will probably need a valve replacement in the future? Do you want to deal with those things, or are they flat out too? Or other health issues that don’t affect how she looks? I doubt very much that those weight as heavily on your mind as her not being a fatty. And not wanting to date a fat girl is fine! But guess what, it’s not only (or even mostly) about her health. And the junkie thing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Should a woman who has lost significant amounts of weight give men who did not want her a chance after weight loss?I don’t disagree with you. Maintaining a balanced diet and good activity level are important aspects of healthy living. But let’s not be coy. You don’t give a crap if she’s up to date on preventative health screenings, if her cholesterol is good, if any chronic conditions are well controlled, if she’s in a good place mentally. The only aspects of being heathy you’re interested in are the ones that affect how she looks. Men love to use the “I want a woman who takes care of herself” as a euphemism… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/23 04:42 PM |
| 22 | Does female bonding sound as artificial as I think it does? Or is this how women genuinely feel?Yeah today we have the version of this conversation where women give compliments and are nice to one another and that’s bad, tomorrow we’ll have a thread about how men never get any compliments and that’s bad. Just disappointed today’s OP concluded his thesis merely by saying it’s stupid and dishonest when women give each other sweet little compliments; usually they take it that final step and also address the hugely concerning issue that these compliments might actually make women feel good abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Do women use the adjectives "creepy" "weirdo" "stalker" etc., as synonymous of "unattractive"?Women who are into serial killer romantically are mentally ill. This post makes as much sense as if I said men like cutting their penis off just because the guys on the penectomy sub seem into it. That said, while creepy is not synonymous with ugly, I think hot guys absolutely can get away with more “creepy” (inappropriate, pushy, or lecherous) behavior with a lot more women than ugly men can. It’s the halo effect. We are all (men and women) positively inclined towards attractive people, and neu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 10:23 PM |
| 27 | I asked the women at my work what they think of the rise of AI girlfriends and they’re all supportive of itOP was absolutely expecting them to feel threatened by it. Which is clearly insane, to people who actually interact with others and know that a robot girlfriend could never provide the same experience, and moreover have enough self awareness/ understanding of human psychology to recognize that “dating” (owning?) a robot programmed to act affectionately towards you would not satisfy the emotional need for affection from others. The whole point for men who bring this up as a trump card is to try a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/23 11:17 PM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADGrainbowls. Meal prep over the weekend- couple different bases (barley, quinoa, brown rice), protein (chicken, salmon, pork loin), chop a few different veggies to either add directly or cook up quick (onion, bell pepper, squash, cucumber). Then combine in an endless variety of ways with a couple other ingredients and sauce to dress it up. Some of my faves: Greek bowl (chicken, onion, cucumber, tomato, olives, feta, quinoa, tzatziki), southwestern (chicken, tomato, beans, corn, avocado, jalapeño,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 11:46 PM |
| 7 | Censorship of TRP has gotten out of control, leaving virtually nowhere for men to safely vent about the horrific dating conditions they deal with and has turned formerly neutral places like this into Blue Pill echo chambersThis is a little exchange I’m so tired of seeing. Commenter says RP is misogynistic. Gets asked by a second person to specify which RB beliefs are misogynistic. First poster names a collection of beliefs commonly promoted by RP men on this sub and popular RP influencers in the outside world. Second commenter then immediately rolls into a No True Scotsman fallacy about how those widely accepted and promoted views aren’t “true red pill tenets” and don’t reflect the actual nature of the red pill mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | you aren’t forced to date anyone you’re not attracted to.Then why do you think you should date if your personality makes everyone not want to be around you? Like, what’s in it for them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 04:31 PM |
| 2 | you aren’t forced to date anyone you’re not attracted to.Good luck with expecting people to change their behavior because it’s what you feel they “should” do! Guess what, that obese 40 year old woman probably feels that she “should” date the best she can get, and that very well might be more than you think she’s entitled to. Take it up with your fellow men for being thirsty mofos lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Most guys hate plastic surgery and make up on women. Most guys would never get plastic surgery and do makeup to impress or compete with other guys. So why do women do it for other women?I wonder if it’s a misguided security thing. Like are they afraid that their girlfriend who enhances her looks with makeup will just decide not to wear it one day, and then -gasp!- people will know he’s a loser who dates girls with blotchy skin or thin lips. If she wakes up looking beautiful it’s safe. Until, of course, she starts to age… I read an article once that touched on something related- the author had lost a lot of weight, and commented that whenever men she was dating saw old pics of h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Women (most of the time) are REPULSED by inexperienced men.The clinginess is actually a huge factor, as someone who likes nerdy guys and therefore has ended up with two virgins and a couple of “second timers” in the past. Guys with limited experience and a mindset that sex is hard to come by (also common in my preferred demographic) will latch on like limpets. It’s not the teaching/taking the lead in the bedroom. I’m confident in what I want and what I can offer, and I’m happy to guide my partner. It’s the massive importance these guys put on the experi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/23 11:38 AM |
| 2 | What is more important than sex, relationships, and family?Some of them, yes. Not all. I don’t disagree that they would like a partner. They might even be happier with a partner, tho being in a relationship is no guarantee of happiness. But again, do you really think they will be better off without the things they have acquired that DO make them happy? Do you think a lonely person can’t love their cat? Or find satisfaction at being successful at work? Or enjoy participating in hobbies? Or have a wide network of platonic friends? Again, what is the point… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 03:51 PM |
| 1 | What is more important than sex, relationships, and family?30s-40s. Which I think probably helps explain it; they’ve grown out of the “my entire life revolves around my dick” phase. Edit: also, I doubt they are all 100% content. Not saying that. I’m sure most of them WOULD like to find a partner, and there’s nothing surprising about that. Most people want that. But do you think they are LESS content than they would be if they just sat around a moped and refused to take part in any other aspect of life? How would that be better? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 12:53 PM |
| 2 | What is more important than sex, relationships, and family?So your argument is what, that he flip the board and say “I’m quitting! If I don’t get exactly what I want I’m not playing anymore!” Can you see how childish that is? For what it’s worth, I actually know multiple men who are unlucky romantically, and still manage to be part of society. Guess what they do. They go on with their lives. They have friends. Active social lives. Hobbies. Pets. Jobs they find challenging and engaging. Advanced degrees. I’m sure most of them would love to add a romantic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Do women often assume if a guy isn’t salivating over them that he must not be very interested?Maybe to a point. But that point comes pretty soon, I think. If you’ve lobbed a couple conversion starters her way and had them get smacked down, and she’s not smiling/making some eye contact, and she keeps looking around the room/at her phone… I’d move along. Even if she is anxious/avoidant are those emotional problems you want to deal with, when there are women out there more willing to pull their weight in the relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Do women often assume if a guy isn’t salivating over them that he must not be very interested?So the thing is, this should be what everyone does, and it is one of those things that seems obvious to people who understand how to read social cues but that many men here seem to struggle with. Those women who were dry and standoffish? Probably not wanting to talk to you. For one of many different reasons, not necessarily anything personal. So yeah. Take your attentions to where they are appreciated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 08:45 PM |
| 4 | You’re only a “dancing monkey” if the woman isn’t dancing backWow OP that’s really unfair, I mean they probably already made a Tinder profile with no bio and two grainy selfies and blind swiped on 5000 profiles, what more can you ask of them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Would you wait for a guy until he achieved his peak?Maybe you will. But from your partner’s perspective, there’s no guarantee. In fact, it is common enough in society for a man who has managed to increase his SMV to dump his loyal partner for new exciting poontang that there is a name for it- Starter Wife. It’s a complex situation. Can’t really blame the partner who increased their value from wanting someone who has shown loyalty since the beginning- no one wants to feel like their partner is only with them because they want their resources, and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/23 04:47 PM |
| 5 | 85% of Chinese are not marrying and 60% are not procreatingYup. Turns out that without the winning combo of building up pregnancy/motherhood to be this wonderful experience and simultaneously limiting other outlets for women to add meaning to their life a lot fewer women are feeling the “biological imperative” to have children. Plenty still do, because hey, we are animals, but the human forebrain has a lot of override power. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/23 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Do women get turned off if a guy tells them how he regretted some of the women he hooked up with?It really depends. I think there’s a way to have this conversation that shows maturity, ie, “when I was younger I had a tendency to get into relationships quickly/have hookups as a result of insecurity, and as a result I dated/slept with a lot of people who I would not associate with today.” Of course this should then imply that you’ve been working on yourself, and no longer need the crutch of being sexually desired by randos to prop up your self esteem. On the other hand, if you present it as s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/23 02:05 PM |
| 3 | Women base their entire dating lives on a dodgy initial sales pitch, while dismissing men who would make better long term partners because they are no good at thatObviously. Have you even tried playing music loudly on your phone while hanging out in a crowded area and giving challenging looks to anyone who seems annoyed by it? Women will flock to you like pigeons. /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Do you think straight men are dehumanizing/objectifying you just because they aren't interested in platonic friendships? If so, why?I think that is probably true… for a little while. The infatuation phase of a new relationship is a time when lots of things get overlooked, by both parties. But that only lasts so long. If you have the type of personality that turns women off to the extent that you feel you have to walk on eggshells around them, that seems unlikely to play well in a long term relationship. Even if an initial attraction manages to get you in the door, significant personality clashes will eventually end a relatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 01:20 PM |
| 1 | What exactly should one change or improve upon if they're called "too nice" as a negative?No one will be able to tell you exactly what it means in your specific case, of course, without interacting with you. But I dated a guy I would consider to be “too nice” previously, so I’ll tell you what it meant to me and you can see if anything rings true for you. He treated me with kid gloves. Not to mean “he treated me well” which of course he did, but it was way over the top. He WOULD NOT disagree with me about anything, even harmless things. If I asked him what was his favorite X, he would… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 03:45 PM |
| 6 | What is the big deal about submission?Yup. It gets presented as only not wanting an obnoxious, argumentative partner (some of the other comments in this thread bring this up) which is of course totally reasonable. No one wants that. But the opposite of that is not a “submissive” partner. It’s a partner who can communicate in a clear, calm, and adult way, who can work together with their SO to find a solution to problems facing the marriage/couple. This person respects and listens their partner’s opinions and feelings, and takes thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 02:52 PM |
| – | Women, what do you mean when you say that a man’s salary doesn’t matter as long as he has ambition, works hard, and grinds?I’ve said similar things before. To me, it’s about compatibility. I have a career I’ve worked hard to build that provides me a great deal of personal satisfaction. I’m surrounded by similar people at work. Most of my friends are similar people. If I dated someone who just had a job, who does the minimum needed to make a living, that would be a huge area of difference between us. My job pays very well, and I can afford alone the sort of lifestyle I want. So it’s not that important to me that he b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 01:46 AM |
| 1 | What's more important, finding one person who loves you completely or being desired sexually by many people?Being desired by many. Not so much because of the sexual options… but because of the halo effect. We know people treat others they are attracted to more positively, and this bleeds over into almost every facet of life. For example, I read a study once that showed doctors pictures of fake patients, some more attractive than others. The attractive patients had a higher percentage of abnormal findings identified by the doctors reviewing their imaging than the unattractive patients. THAT’S what I wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 04:49 AM |
| 2 | What places are acceptable to approach women for a date?Where matters way less than how. Few places are truly, 100% off limits, as long as you keep the opener low pressure and not overtly sexual, and you can read body language well enough to figure out if she’s not feeling you. If that’s the case, back off peacefully, and she will be relieved and nothing more will come of the incident. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/23 04:27 AM |
| 2 | What places are acceptable to approach women for a date?On this sub? Absolutely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/23 04:18 AM |
| 3 | I don’t think men on here have a single clue about how women interpret attention from the opposite sexFrankly yes. It’s much more rare, so by definition more special. But moreover, it usually is not that she is looking for someone who wants a sexless relationship. She’s looking for someone who hits all the marks- both caring and invested in learning about her and building a life together, and also a good and passionate lover. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 09:39 PM |
| 3 | Women who believe their “platonic” male friends aren’t in fact orbiters; why do you think they aren’t attracted to you?I don’t think it makes her look bad. What makes you think she doesn’t care about his other thoughts and feelings? Is it just the phrasing that you object to? Would you have the same reaction if the other posted had said something like “I would rather not know if that is how he feels because for xyz reason(s) I cannot return his affection, and I don’t want it to affect our friendship”? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/23 11:47 PM |
| 3 | Women who believe their “platonic” male friends aren’t in fact orbiters; why do you think they aren’t attracted to you?I didn’t get the impression it was generally applied to all his thoughts and feelings, just the fact that he finds her attractive. There are some thoughts that are probably best kept to yourself, and this seems like one of them to me. What is the benefit of her knowing about this particular feeling, for either of them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/23 12:35 PM |
| 3 | Women who believe their “platonic” male friends aren’t in fact orbiters; why do you think they aren’t attracted to you?To what end, exactly? I’m with the other poster; my male friend having the hots for me doesn’t change much unless I’m also attracted to him and both of us are single. I’d honestly rather not know, because then I might feel more awkward/guarded around him. I’d start second guessing whether my innocent actions could be misinterpreted. I might start pulling away, causing us both to lose a friend. I can imagine a host of other downsides and not a lot of positives. What would be the benefit to either… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/23 02:02 AM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedWomen’s receptiveness is the crux of the issue That is what I was trying to say in my comment: I would have been receptive to him sooner! In fact I was pulling out all my sexy flirting tips to try and encourage him to make a move. His anxiety kept him from acting on anything short of being led physically to the bed lol. It’s like a dance. Yes she has to be receptive, but he also has to pick up on/act on her invitation. And guys who struggle with dating are notoriously poor at reading body langua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Sex=currency mindset leads directly to cheatingThat’s the one :) I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but to flog a dead horse: women aren’t sex dispensing machines. And it goes both ways- men are also not required to fuck their partners if they aren’t feeling it. I’m guessing you’re pretty young, but shit happens in life that you can’t control. I just watched one of my coworkers get diagnosed with breast cancer this year. She’s spent the last six months dealing with surgery/chemo/RT. She’s lost her hair, she’s lost a ton of weight, every time… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Sex=currency mindset leads directly to cheatingI’m just teasing you; this whole outlook is just so divorced from reality that it is funny to play out the fantasy. You do you, king, hope it works out for ya! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 02:44 AM |
| 2 | Sex=currency mindset leads directly to cheatingBe sure and express this notion to any woman you decide to enter a committed relationship with. In fact, might be a good idea to have her sign a contract, with specific clauses devoted to (a) illness, (b) childbirth (c) your own aging/weight gain/other decline in physical attractiveness. What do you see as her wifely duties in those situations? Better spell it out, so she knows at exactly what point her job performance drops to the “husband deserves to cheat on me” level! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you stayed with a guy, even though he wasn't good in bed?Did you date someone not great in bed: Most guys that you date as young 20 year old together are not great in bed, so sure. Why: Because I was a young 20 year old and probably not so great in bed myself. It’s all about learning what you like and growing together. How important is sex to you: It depends. What else does he offer in the relationship? If it’s just something casual, and he’s not otherwise fun to spend time with, I wouldn’t continue the relationship at this stage in my life. If he’s o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 05:05 PM |
| 2 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedThe equal wait time thing is silly to me, in part because it completely removes the guy from the equation. It assumes that all guys are equally ready to have sex from the very start of the relationship and are moving towards that goal with equal speed. And that’s simply not true. Establishing a connection and making the mutual decision to have sex is a complex social interaction, and both partners have their role. My partner and I, for example, went something like six weeks before we hooked up f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 04:40 PM |
| 25 | the fundamental issue with most dating advice directed at men is most of it boils down to “be someone else entirely”Yup, like sorry but other people are absolutely not required to date you if they don’t like you. If you’re not a likable person, your choices are: 1. Stay the course and hope you find someone who’s unlikability matches yours or someone who is desperate enough to ignore your issues, or 2. Change yourself to become more likable to more people. That’s the reality of the situation, and whining about it being hard/unfair will change nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/23 03:33 PM |
| 11 | Asking your partner to wear less revealing clothes: controlling or boundaries?I think it’s unreasonable (controlling) when it spills over into impinging on someone’s self expression or individual identity. If one partner never puts their dirty clothes in the hamper, and it bothers their partner, I don’t think that’s controlling to ask them to start doing so because no one identifies as A Person Who Never Uses a Hamper. But telling someone what clothes to wear, what music to listen to, what political party to vote for, etc all come at the cost of their ability to express t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/23 07:33 PM |
| 1 | CMV Most men cant rate attractiveness of other Men properly, and that leads to delusion.Oh for sure, if we’re talking who has the “ideal” masculine build (who appeals to the greatest number of women total) then being tall is part of it. But if you’re already a short dude and trying to make the most of what you’re working with, does being super jacked gain you more points than just being lean and having sort of a swimmers build? I’m not sure it does (would be interested to hear other thoughts/experiences). I imagine being short and fat is probably a huge disadvantage, but short and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 09:35 PM |
| 1 | CMV Most men cant rate attractiveness of other Men properly, and that leads to delusion.Maybe. I think that might even overshoot it a bit. I think being lean and having some definition is already going to set you so far above the crowd that the additional bonus from hitting your natural limit will probably be small. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 03:04 PM |
| 2 | CMV: We should stop shaming childfree women and women who don’t want kids, we’re alienating a group of women that will benefit men that don’t want kidsI mean, people make decisions they regret all the time. Do you think no one has regretted having a kid? There’s a whole subreddit of regretful parents I can introduce you to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 02:44 PM |
| 3 | CMV Most men cant rate attractiveness of other Men properly, and that leads to delusion.I get what OP is saying, though. It’s not that he isn’t jacked, obvi MBJ is built, but there are plenty of body builder types who are even MORE jacked. And at a certain point (honestly probably somewhat below MBJ level) the additional returns of female attention begin to level out. The lean guy with some muscle definition appeals to a lot more women than the fat guy or the really scrawny guy. The super jacked guy appeals to the subgroup of women who are into that look, but also starts to lose ap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 02:31 PM |
| 5 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?No, because we understand that people are different and aren’t trying to make rules for everyone. It’s about compatibility- a mismatch in libido is a common source of discordance in a relationship. Women with a lower libido value finding a guy with a similar one- which tends to be challenging given, ya know, testosterone! But at the same time, those lower libido women will never be a good match for a man with a high sex drive who places a high value on sexual exploration and connection. He’s not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 01:36 PM |
| 3 | What passes as 'creepy behavior' is entirely subjectiveTotally true. One person’s creepy is another person’s quirky. Women are in fact all individuals with their own thoughts and minds. Those tik tok ladies making pronouncements are using their own opinions and experiences to make recommendations. Of course it’s not 100% of women who feel that way; probably for even that individual woman there could be exceptions to the rules. That said, so what? Is it not still beneficial to hear where other people are coming from, to get better at understanding ot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockCorrect, to go back to the OP’s example we have no info about this world traveling women’s partners. It seems like we are meant to picture them as gorgeous young fit “Chads” but for all we know the majority of the men she was staying with were elderly, unattractive, and much less in line with her glamorous life style. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:16 PM |
| 3 | In all seriousness, Men what do you want from women in regards to solving the modern dating problems ?I think this is unrealistic to expect. This sort of critique needs to come from your friends (male or female). The problem with giving critique as you are rejecting someone is that one of two outcomes will occur frequently: It will compound the insult, and the person approaching will be more likely to respond aggressively. “You think I’m not muscular enough? Fuck you, you fat bitch, you don’t deserve…” It will give the person something specific to latch onto, and they will then try to convince y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 01:15 PM |
| 2 | A relationship in which the man is only a placeholder and the woman cheats on him (AF/BB) does have any downsides for the woman?I suppose if the woman is an emotionless sociopath who only sees the men around her in terms of what she can get from them, there’s not a lot of downsides. If she’s smart enough to keep the men in her world separate from one another and successfully hide her deception then she gets financial support from the “official” husband/boyfriend while getting getting some extra hot tail on the side then I guess that is the best of both worlds in a very superficial sense. But I think not a lot of women ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal implyWhen did she decide to voluntarily go through either a birth or abortion? When she decided to have sex? Because she know those were potential outcomes? I’d agree with that. Women generally know birth control isn’t 100%. But then, why doesn’t it work that way when men decide to have sex- you know this could produce a child, so isn’t proceeding in the face of that not implicit consent to support your potential child? That’s a devision he’s making voluntarily too. If you absolutely do not want to s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 01:07 AM |
| 3 | What is your ideal way for a man to approach you?Exactly. The cold approaches I found most pleasant were when guys didn’t immediately open with a comment about something physical. “You’re really pretty, any chance I could (buy you a drink/get your number/etc.” I’m not offended by it, and of course I understand physical attraction will play a big part in the decision to approach, but it’s just so generic. There’s a lot of pretty women out there, many much prettier than me, and lots of men who appreciate pretty women. So what else is there? If m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Do you think a man wanting his woman to remain physically fit in a relationship is a reasonable thing to want?I mean, what happens if she gets burned in a fire? Or develops a disfiguring facial cancer? Or any number of other possibilities? Do looks matter then? If the issue is losing your desire to have sex with someone, and that “turns it from a romantic relationship to a friendship” then how do you feel about having sex with her if her belly and limbs are swollen with fluid, her breath reeks, and her skin is yellow from liver failure? Probably not too into that, I’d imagine. Which is fine. Understanda… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 04:05 PM |
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