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| 12 | Pick me men in music? | RED FLAG 🚨 | MoscowMilk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 08:03 AM |
| 10 | Rules of engagement? | DISCUSSION | MoscowMilk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 10:16 PM |
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| 278 | FDS became the last stop on my journey to fully recover from a pick-me and "not like other girls" syndromes. I used to either hate how I look, compared to other women, or hate on them in order to impress men. Not anymore, thanks to all you queens here!YES! I had this realization awhile ago too, and for me it also coincides with finding this place. Damn, I can’t believe how much time I wasted being insecure and envious... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:04 PM |
| 0 | What double standard between men and women **should** exist?But there’s many more single mother households than single dad households and we expect those moms to function like a complete household, whereas if a man knows how to do something as simple as braiding his daughters’ hair we applaud him. And I’m not saying men are all incapable/somehow too stupid, I just think women are better equipped for, in essence, multitasking. I didn’t think that would be such a hot take. Of course anyone can learn to plan/organize better, it is just a skill like any othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/21 01:40 PM |
| 3 | What double standard between men and women **should** exist?I agree with this, and I wish I saw more real-life examples of men and women being raised to live independently. Once you NEED a partner for something, be it money or child-rearing, is when I think relationships break. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/21 01:23 PM |
| -1 | What double standard between men and women **should** exist?I think in general men excel at “focused” tasks more so than women. But once there’s too many small tasks, variables, and things to keep in mind when organizing a multi-person household efficiently, women are in my experience more capable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/21 01:20 PM |
| -1 | What double standard between men and women **should** exist?I don’t mean the literal act of cooking cleaning (I even mentioned I think men are better suited for this), I mean planning and scheduling for kids, appointments, deliveries, restocking, managing multiple people’s/pets’ health. I agree it would be laughable to say men are incapable or taking basic care of their personal environment and hygiëne. Though many men believe it is so :) sadly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/21 01:18 PM |
| 1 | What double standard between men and women **should** exist?Men being able to protect/provide for their partner and offspring. And women being expected to have more mental flexibility and organization skills. I’ve never encountered a functional “househusband” who doesn’t game & laze all day because the household planning is overwhelming. I believe women are more capable of abstraction and are better suited to do the mental labour of running a household, even next to a job. While men can relax doing delegated practical household tasks without having to pl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/21 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Do you think there's a stigma against men being feminine?Well, I may be N=1, but I definitely sexually prefer men who extensively take care of their appearance and have a strong preference for long hair. My best friends boyfriend regularly wears nail polish and make up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/21 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Do you think there's a stigma against men being feminine?I think in this day and age, when men put effort in their appearance there will be an insecure bunch calling them all sorts of names. Mostly men. Personally, I've seen a shitton of love for men with long hair, men with "unique" clothing styles, make up, tunics, nail polish, floral patterns, even heels. Even literal Drag Queens. So yeah, there's certainly some stigma, but I don't think there's that many women who are as close minded as men on men being feminine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/21 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Do you think "game" is a myth or is there actually truth behind it?Lol I'm not gonna hide behind anonymity to virtue signal here. My bf of 4 years is asymmetrical as fuck, he's also short & poor but intriguing as hell. Once you realise how low the bar ACTUALLY is for men, and once you start profiting off that, you'll wish you knew sooner. Most men wake up and barely brush their teeth, let alone their hair. Don't know about color theory or what their clothing size is or how to say "please" and "thank you". Me and most of my friends used after schooltime high sch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/21 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Do you think "game" is a myth or is there actually truth behind it?I see this PLENTY, way more than the other way around. Definitely. No offense, but guys but like 5% effort in looks whereas women put 150%. I remember using past schooltime in high school as a means to just watch “how to dress/behave/groom yourself to be attractive” for like 4-10 years, where my guy friens played CoD all day. Seriously, the bar is very low for guys and I desperately wish for you to find out sooner rather than later, so you can reap the benefits of it ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/21 12:28 AM |
| -2 | Do you think "game" is a myth or is there actually truth behind it?I always approach attraction to looks as a certain treshold to further interest (I’m a 24yo bisexual woman btw). Most people I’ve dated/had sex with I didn’t find particularly attractive at first. As a matter of fact, I hardly find anyone sexually attractive on first looks at all. Neither do many of my female friends. Most of my relationships/FWB’s have been with men though, because as long as they are respectful of me and my boundaries I am willing to get to know them & often will find some att… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/21 10:55 AM |
| 4 | Went out with my classmates today and one of my male classmates paid for ALL of our tab.“Misogynistic” “Then you’ll only get superficial women” “We make our own money” “It makes her feel pressured” ... “My best dates have been cheap/free park dates” Stuff like that😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 07:16 PM |
| 16 | Went out with my classmates today and one of my male classmates paid for ALL of our tab.Definitely. As I was typing my comment I realized that while here it might raise some eyebrows, I can certainly imagine it being expected in other places. I once gave the advice for a male friend to pay for his date’s dinner, and all the girls around me started shouting that he shouldn’t 😅 I wish it wasn’t like that here... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 09:53 AM |
| 29 | Went out with my classmates today and one of my male classmates paid for ALL of our tab.Exactly. Not trying to shit on this guy if he’s actually being sweet, but culturally in my country this is a REALLY weird thing to do. The only reason to do this is to throw out a net and see what sticks. Some men are self aware about the low bar for them and they’ll exploit it like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 09:36 AM |
| 10 | Saw this on my fb feed this morning. Had a good laugh and thought I’d share.I’m unlike those women who don’t give blowjobs, I love God. 😅 We’re worshipping peen now. Great. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:46 PM |
| 17 | SRS Question: Women who believe in manifestation techniques, where is your HVM?This is really solid advice and something many people I know who preach spirituality, do not understand. It’s mostly about being aware of the steps it takes to get to your goals and not forget/change goals constantly. That way you will recognize and seize opportunities when you seek them out. No, daydreaming about a nice penthouse is not manifesting and does not magically make it appear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 04:16 PM |
| 71 | Don't doubt your instincts, even when people around you try to make you doubt yourself.Seems like his family is so desperate to kick him out of their basement, they don’t mind ruining some girls life they saw a decade ago. Who was an actual child. Probably still more mature at that age than this waste of oxygen is now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:37 AM |
| 24 | My sister just got this exciting dude, he asked her on a date and then decided to switch up on her???“Hun I know I asked you out for dinner but like would you maybe consider lowering your rates standards and just have me come over lol” “And don’t worry the only deadly weapon I got is already on me and I don’t like condoms ;)” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:14 AM |
| 8 | How LVM take women out on datesIf my eyes don’t deceive me (and I sure hope they do), there’s even a caseless pillow thrown about there... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 09:50 AM |
| 61 | Ladies, line up for your chance to give this man head in his car! This self proclaimed disease-free, kink-friendly cheater could be all yours (for an afternoon) for the small price of your dignity! [BARF]I like how he included that he “smells great” to subvert his dumpsterfire energy. Trust me, Axe bodyspray isn’t going to hide that community shower drain personality there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 09:45 AM |
| 14 | I’ve set low expectations for my boyfriend from the get go because I’ve mistakenly tried to be the “cool, chill” girlfriend. Now I realise I want more - how do I communicate my higher demands to him?I also met my current bf in college and we moved in together pretty quickly (pre-FDS for me). Neither of us had a lot of money, and we definitely split dates etc in the beginning. I even took a second job to help him out when he was graduating (I know, I know...). Anyway, at some point I actually showed him this subreddit and told him some key pointers how I’d like to change our relationship. He knows how much effort/money I put in my appearance and he has a lot of experience with trashbag-level… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 07:58 AM |
| 235 | How it’s starting to feel around FDS in light of recent bansOver the last 8 years I have left Reddit so many times, but there was always a reason to come back. Everything I used to frequent is either gone or has turned to shit. This sub is my final reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 10:33 PM |
| 49 | For Giggles: why men on here always assume I’m a single cat lady with no potential just because I stand up for a woman.Might not be single, but I’ll gladly be called a catlady :’) my cats are well-mannered, groom themselves regularly, are respectful of my and others’ boundaries and are ever thankful when I feed them. Same can’t be said for many dudes who behave like spoiled dogs (no offense to any dogs). I much prefer cats’ hairballs over the ungroomed jungle many men carry around their genitals anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 04:20 PM |
| 41 | Am I the only one who consider Lana del Rey to be a LVW?I came here to make this comment, but I’m really happy to read your take on it already and I agree wholeheartedly. She basically displays the darker and sad sides of apparent “glamorous” life by portraying Lana Del Rey and people who take her music literally and live it as an example completely miss her point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 04:59 PM |
| 4 | What’s the best/highest effort first date you’ve ever been on?Same... it wouldnt be a bad restaurant, but where I’m from appetizers are €10-15, starters would be €20-30, main €30-€50, dessert €15-25 and drinks €7-15/glass for a date-worthy restaurant. And for bad places just subtract 30% off the prices. Probably also subtract a course or two for the cheap guy taking you to such a place :’) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 09:28 AM |
| 22 | Pickmeishas really piss me offAgreed. It sucks I can’t genuinely talk about my perspectiveon dating because I have to go through a wall of criticism first. Only for women to get back to me a few days later and ask me more. Why are we seen as dating-Hitlers when all we do is look out for ourselves? How on earth is it acceptable to invite someone out for dinner and have them pay for themselves?? Basic etiquette! Why am I bombarded with scoffs when I am not attracted to fat men, but fucking Adele is being criticised first for b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 07:53 AM |
| 2 | FDS vs LVM irl (the authors of the rules vs fugly fatass who's afraid of "golddiggers"Ugh I couldn’t even get through half of this... Why is it always okay to talk over women and when they try to talk over you to ignore, belittle and make fun of them?? I don’t envy these women on that stage. This is a bizarre display of men just joking around with their bad understanding of the book, not even realizing they are proving the point made in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 07:52 PM |
| 16 | The LURE method part 2: Managing your scrotationI grew up thinking like this, because my dad was cold, dismissive and manipulative towards my mom. So I turned out strategic and manipulative too and am still working to do better. It attracted either weak, naive men or similarly manipulative men who are, in the end, the only ones that get through rigorous testing because they enjoy the game. You do you of course, and I truly hope you’ll find whom you’re looking for. At 23 I’m probably way underqualified to give you advice, but don’t let being c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 10:04 AM |
| 26 | The LURE method part 2: Managing your scrotationAgreed. I thought there was a modpost a few weeks ago discouraging the use of such terminology? I feel like we devalue ourselves when we stoop to TRP levels, even if only for shits and giggles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 08:07 AM |
| 60 | Just take your man and go...I feel called out😂 when I was in the US for the first time I demanded my bf and I go there and I was ecstatic. Granted, olive garden and target had both been a lifelong dream to me lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 06:22 AM |
| 10 | I just saw a Jordan Peterson fan in the wild.Agreed. When my bf’s mom died he got into a huge LVM rut (for which I decided to give him a break), but after a year he was still not on his way to his old self. So when I told him I wanted to break up, he shook awake and started watching JP again like he did before we met. I’ve watched some with him and this guy literally tells men to take responsibility, get secure and be able to provide just like we expect. I get why people might see him as a misogynist, because he often refers to traditional… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 11:08 AM |
| 53 | I've been in a relationship with my (26f) boyfriend (31m) for seven years. I am the definition of a forever girlfriend.Yes. This is definitely the truth. You have been in this relationship since 19, so it might be difficult to even imagine something else, but PLEASE take the time to be single again and find someone who is more enthusiastic about spending his life with you than this guy ever will be. Whatever his reasons are, don’t wait around for him to change, because even if he does it won’t make you happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 10:35 AM |
| 107 | Cool Girl Explains Why She’s Better Than Us Because She’s Okay Accepting Less Than We AreIf I were a guy I’d “date” her in a heartbeat. And that’s not a compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 08:16 AM |
| 5 | Mental Illness?Agreed. I have depression and some other fun disorders too. My bf has been the biggest help to me through it all, making me breakfast if I couldnt leave the bed, driving me to classes if I would miss them otherwise, etc. When I met him I was in pretty bad shape, so I couldn’t really hide it even if I tried. I’ve accepted that even though I might get “better”, some of my problems might always stay a part of who I am. I won’t let anyone close to me mistreat me because of it. So, if I were to date … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 09:02 AM |
| 21 | My biggest regret is having "boyfriends" in my 20s. Don't do it.Cool, me too. No need to be so denigrating, darling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 09:44 PM |
| 30 | Did I find a HVM at 19? And should I stay with him or test out the waters?I don’t think you need to break up either, it’s good to have relationships young. Just don’t plan your life around him and don’t become dependant in any way. Keep having your own life and you should be fine :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 09:37 PM |
| 28 | Did I find a HVM at 19? And should I stay with him or test out the waters?Agreed. In fact I don’t think you should take any man before the age of 23-25 seriously. They’re also human and need their late teens/early twenties to figure themselves out. Don’t plan your life for a boy who has yet to grow up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 09:26 PM |
| 9 | Apparently “men of his caliber” are the one’s that are financially supported by women. He’s big mad when she says no. This baby needs to be sent back to the wombWheewww all these letters this king is wasting on replying... Really showing off his high ground here lol that girl should feel lucky he couldn’t contain his trashy personality longer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 10:42 PM |
| 2 | This article talks about a woman’s perspective on a lot of things and is 100% trueDefinitely, which is why I think the author used the term “body shape” wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 10:02 PM |
| 6 | This article talks about a woman’s perspective on a lot of things and is 100% trueI agree that she should not formulate is this harshly, but she’s right in that her point is scientifically proven. There’s also a big difference between having a 30+ or -20 BMI or “having more broad shoulders/hips/waist” genetically, I think the former is more what she’s hinting at rather than genetic body shape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 03:47 PM |
| 35 | They’re in denial about that wallI’d genuinely love to see some perspective on this, although it probably ends up being delusion anyway | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 07:03 PM |
| 25 | this poor woman thinks that verbal abuse is a part of marriage and has resigned herself to her husband being a directionless freeloaderExcept for becoming a starter wife, this is my biggest fear. Always stick to your boundaries girls. Pretty sure she would tell her own daughter to leave such a waste of breath. Here’s to hoping she finds her damn self worth again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 02:20 PM |
| 114 | Why do men think this is an okay way to START a conversation?It’s almost an art how with 3 messages he still could not convey an ounce of value. Why even bother typing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 02:18 PM |
| 36 | Stay safe out there ladies. There are cheating men who don’t even bother uploading pics without their wedding rings & who think we were born yesterday and can’t tell which finger’s which 🙄Was he trying to go for a neg saying you were wrong because it was not the “right” finger? And then ending up at the same conclusion anyway...🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 01:33 PM |
| 12 | I cant stop cringing when thinking about my exI agree with this!! Don’t beat yourself up over your past, just be happy with everything you’ve learned and can still learn. My first “relationship” I turned out the be the other woman. ONE OF the other women... lol and still would have done anything to keep that going. We all get to be young and stupid, just make a conscious decision to learn and be more smart about it every step of the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/19 10:11 PM |
| 22 | Is it salvageable or should I pull back?Not necessarily, just don’t text him first, don’t respond to him immediately, don’t initiate plans, don’t ask too many questions. Let him come to you with all of that and see how he is next time in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 04:10 PM |
| 16 | This text my ex husband sent me while on his way to meet his side chick to discuss their future together. I was giddy thinking he might be planning a much needed romantic date for us. Surprise! He packed a bag and walked out two days later. Protect yourselves.Probably the best case outcome for her too, if it happens ASAP. Maybe she’ll get the reality check she desperately needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 10:51 AM |
| 13 | Found some good guys without FDS and they spoiled meIf it gives you any comfort, I was like this too around 18-19 before I knew better. So don’t beat yourself up too much over this learning phase, but you have GOT to change the way you approach relationships. What helped me most is go on lots of first dates with nothing physical happening and do a lot of reflecting on what I want from a partner, what they can give me VS what I should be able to give myself. Then it quickly becomes a lot less appealing to have ONS for validation/fun/to get a relat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 11:03 PM |
| 7 | She’s dating a man child who leeches off of her and her grandma. Couldn’t.Be.Me.What. In. The. World. Is this???? I know many people who dislike cooking, but this is a whole new low... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 10:26 PM |
| 41 | A horrifying but very clear rehashing of "The power of your sexuality ends once you fuck him". Hold out, ladies. KNOW him first.Damn I’d be scared as hell too. Good that you made it out in one piece. Did you ever get an indication that he was violent at all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 10:20 PM |
| 9 | Pretty sure bitches (oops I mean blokes) like these are the reason we need this sub.Any psychologist would have a field day with this one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 04:34 PM |
| 3 | On Sunday I decided to stop being the one to message (or snap) him first...he hasn’t contacted me since💅Well, I guess you communicated clearly enough. I like to think I’d be petty and not even formally break up with him. Just move out and start dating other guys. Probably wouldn’t be as easy as that, but try putting your anger/disappointment into (healthy) action <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 04:29 PM |
| 14 | "Controlling" Wife Mystified by Husband Repeatedly Cutting His Own Hands Making Breakfast. (Spoiler Alert: Cut hands = no chores for scrote.)I agree with you, but I do feel like the mental health-positivity movement can make very light of serious issues that can cause lasting hurt in/after a relationship. I have AvPD and OCPD myself, and me and my partner both really had to learn to deal with it. A mental health disorder should not be a no-go per se, but it’s definitely a responsibility for both the person suffering and their partner, and not to be taken too lightly. If you even suspect you won’t be able to handle panic attacks, depr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 09:59 AM |
| 39 | “What a long winded way of saying you enjoy your girlfriend has low self-esteem”. This comment nailed it.Imagine having a boyfriend write this about you as “a compliment”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 08:03 AM |
| 2 | On a post about a 21 year old guy who “caught feelings” for a 16 year old girl 🤮I believe in birds of a feather, and I like my friends to be at least as mature as me. Which probably also goes for that guy hanging out with 16 year olds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 04:43 PM |
| 21 | Don't marry a dude with a small dick who doesn't satisfy you sexually or you might end up like this woman in 10 yearsWow. Definitely never settle. Also definitely don’t get sloppy drunk past college either. Seems like nobody should be part of that relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 04:41 PM |
| 35 | Do you think this is pickme “game”? I see girls brag about being easy to please all the time to appeal to guys. Also the “not like other girls” thing. What do you think?Anyone who thinks being different than someone else is an identity has already lost imo. I don’t mind when people try to be extra unique, but putting others down is a no no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 01:32 PM |
| 4 | Happy hour alone?I’m 5’0 too, even though it sounds fun in theory I’d never do this. Bars are easily too crowded for me because of my height, especially if I’m also alone and have no one to look out for me a bit lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 08:50 AM |
| 20 | Its actually good things like this happen to you can weed them out after only 1 messageIt’s like some of them are just actively sabotaging themselves? How on earth would this ever be a good answer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Analyzing the "money can't buy you happiness" tropeOof, I needed to hear this... And will probably repeat it to myself for the next coming years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 10:04 PM |
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