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Question For MenMotherPermit9585/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:08 AM
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>benefits would be the odds of living longer Idk about this one - it’s those crappy years towards the end of life that most people don’t really value. Dementia is more common in women and so there’s a good chance you wouldn’t even be able to enjoy those extra years. I personally would rather die at age 70 of a massive heart attack but be healthy up until then, than die at age 87 but not able to perform basic ADLs or on dialysis or some shit like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 08:25 PM
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I have sympathy for people suffering in general but tbh I’m not a very empathetic person regardless of their gender. I work in healthcare though and I wouldn’t be able to be functional at my job if I internalized everyone’s struggles. I try to help them when I can and say general encouraging things when appropriate however. I don’t think I treat male vs. female patients differently. When men cry in front of me they usually have more shame around it (though a good number of women also have shame …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:07 PM
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Or she could pick a husband who shares her progressive values to begin with. That seems like a much better option!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:40 PM
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And they asked asked Jesus “And who is my neighbor?”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:05 PM
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Some people don’t have much of their personality exhibited in their profile. But absolutely I can get a good sense of their personality and what kind of chemistry we’ll have together based on texts/messaging. Of course by then I’ve already swiped right on them. If someone is absolutely not my type and they don’t meet the looks threshold then I won’t swipe right on them. Now if I do swipe right on them, that doesn’t mean I think they’re beautiful and am super attracted to them. That just means th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:27 PM
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I actually agree with this. It wasn’t clear from the post what you really believe. I think if you approached the debate from this angle a lot of women would agree. Where a lot of women get annoyed is when red pill men state that men should be given deference only by virtue of being part of a class of people that on average are stronger and have more propensity to perform certain jobs. Society would be better if we just treated people as individuals. No one is owed protection from others unless t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 06:36 PM
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Yes to all three.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:30 PM
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What if my brothers are objectively attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:27 AM
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ADHD medication is not addictive in children when taken as prescribed, and multiple studies show it does not increase the risk of later substance use disorders. In fact, treating ADHD effectively may even help protect against future substance abuse, as children with untreated ADHD are at a higher risk for substance use disorders themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 07:07 PM
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This would be extremely controversial but imo mandatory ADHD screening/full neuropsych eval at age 5 and an opt out (instead of opt in) for stimulant medication would likely even out performance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 05:24 PM
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Hell no! I exclusively love liberal men 🥰 (and women)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 07:39 PM
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I would also want to hear more about his prior relationship with the ex-girlfriend, like was she a feminist when they got together and did that contribute to their breakup? If they’re in the U.S. did the 2024 elections contribute to their breakup assuming they have a different political ideology? Regardless now he’s having issues connecting with any of the women he’s going on dates with so he’s probably not great at navigating that variable. Or there’s something else going on that he hasn’t ment…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 10:34 PM
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It’s not catering to red flags, but entering into a potential relationship with a level of honesty and openness about yourself and your values. You come across as both guarded and disinterested in a genuine connection with other people. That’s your prerogative of course. Enjoy staying single I guess or you could always pursue a transactional relationship with an economically disadvantaged woman that’s happy to follow your lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 09:29 PM
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And yeah, nearly every girl I've dated has different politics than mine. And I've only told one girl what I really believe (because she was willing to follow). That’s probably why you’re running into this issue over and over again and not connecting with anyone on a genuine level. I’m in my late 30s, ENM and have been able to form really warm genuine loving relationships with multiple people. So I can’t say that I’ve had your experience. It may be that you’re much more conservative (I’m assuming…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:09 PM
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Can you give some examples of how they try to control the conversations? Or how you try to steer the frame and redirect? What do you mean by ideologically inflated? Are you dating people that have different political opinions than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:02 PM
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I think people put more meaning into sex than there is. I definitely am friends with and genuinely like everyone I’ve had sex with but I’m not even romantically attracted to most of them (I am sexually attracted to all of them though) and wouldn’t want to leave my husband to marry any of them. I’m pretty sure he feels the same way. I try to cultivate a partnership that is supportive and collaborative. We actually like spending time together and make sure our life goals/plans align. To me that’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 01:23 AM
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He doesn’t really care. He has a big dick himself (7 inches, magnum girth) but I actually have had bigger than him (8 inches and very thick) and it’s a non-issue. He’s definitely more worried about potential emotional connections. Once I baked cookies for my dad’s cardiologist (who is also a colleague of mine but absolutely a strictly professional relationship) and he flipped out, like I’d never seen him that jealous before lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 11:00 PM
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Yes, and each other
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:57 PM
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He cheated multiple times and neither of us wanted a divorce so it seemed like the logical solution. Never been happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:03 PM
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I wish male nudity in media was more common tbh. Since I was young it always irked me seeing nude women in movies made for the male gaze and fully clothed men. I don’t get uncomfortable at all around dicks even if I’m not attracted to the man. (I work in healthcare so there’s that). My personal preference is to dress professional/modest because I perceive myself as being treated better and taken more seriously when I do. If anything my husband asks me to dress more sexy (but still respectable). …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 05:10 PM
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I recognize they exist. I’ve never been with anyone less than average though so I can’t comment on how it feels. It’s not necessarily that I deliberately exclude them. I primarily meet guys on Tinder or Feeld and so the average there is going to tend to skew larger than the general population.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:50 PM
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Yeah, it's also true that an average or even slightly above average penis on a big guy will tend to look smaller. Whereas the same penis on a short slim guy will look much bigger in proportion. It's kind of like C cup breasts on a small petite women vs. the same on a large woman. Tbh If you love giving oral, you're ahead of the majority of men as far as pleasing women goes. A lot of guys do it for 5 minutes and then get bored/tired and do other stuff and try to go back to it but that really make…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:13 PM
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When I was a teenager I measured the length of my hand at 6.5 inches. If I’m up close enough to hold a dick, I’m going to more or less know the size pretty accurately, especially if it’s in the 6-7 inches range. There’s an interesting phenomenon that isn’t mentioned much and that’s how penis size can change a bit depending on how aroused and hard a guy is… like sometimes the same dick can appear to be quite a bit bigger or smaller. Estimating the girth is much more difficult than estimating leng…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:27 AM
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Yes, definitely. I’m in my late 30s and would fuck/have fucked much younger men (like 22-29 young) but I would never entertain a serious relationship with them. Also for a long term partner I value intelligence and worldliness, whereas for a casual fling they only have to be average/not a total dunce. I’m done having kids but when I was younger being family oriented was a very important quality for a partner to have. To make matters more complicated I’m very rarely romantically attracted to peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:05 PM
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I actually see sapiosexual on a lot of men’s profiles I come across on OLD. I’m bi and haven’t seen it as much on women’s profiles, but there’s less women’s profiles in general that I’m viewing. Regardless it’s almost always a left swipe for me. It’s usually just pretentious people trying to virtue signal and appear more sophisticated than they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 07:13 PM
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I think hormonal contraceptive use in women is also a big reason for antidepressant use. I’m not saying that OCPs shouldn’t be used and different formulations/brands have different side effects in individual women. But from a personal perspective I was on antidepressants after my mother died and kept taking them for years with mild improvement. Then I stopped Nuvaring and magically I felt amazing and got off antidepressants.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 09:31 PM
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If they live in a decent sized city, they should try getting into the local kink scene, take some shibari classes etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 08:26 PM
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Ah yes, like Sarah Palin, Marjorie Taylor Green, and Lauren Boebert… those are some exceptional women leaders there! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:08 PM
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I grew up with an extremely stoic father who I never saw cry even when his mother died. While I generally have a good relationship with him, I always felt distant from him in times of sorrow because of his inability to express sadness specifically. However he expressed other emotions like anger and joy just fine. It was important to me to marry a man different than my father in that aspect. When my mother died I ran to tell my husband and he just looked at me with his eyes welling up with tears …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:38 PM
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Mmm probably not. Maybe if it was an open relationship and we otherwise had a great relationship I would consider it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 05:15 PM
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Go back to school! You obviously didn’t pay attention in civics class.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:41 PM
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Wrong 😑 You must be trolling at this point. Even AI disagrees with you: “No, social democracy is not authoritarian. Social democracy is a political ideology that aims to achieve a more egalitarian society through democratic means and reform, not through authoritarian measures. It emphasizes the importance of democratic institutions, individual liberties, and the rule of law.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:16 PM
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I’m anti-authoritarian so a “tankie” pro-authoritarian communist who ignores individual human rights would also be incompatible with me. However I’ve never actually met such a person in real life. Most “communists” in the U.S. are actually democratic socialists.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 05:46 PM
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For real the “apolitical” or “centrist” people are usually just MAGA in disguise
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 05:00 PM
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Extremely early, I typically scout their social media looking for clues. If it isn’t obvious I simply ask where they fall politically. I’m not looking for 100% agreement and I consider myself a pragmatist. That being said I would never want to share my body with a fascist. Political ideology is a reflection of a person’s values and ethics and often affects their views on sex and relationships. Probably local political disagreements (city council etc., bonds and stuff) or possibly foreign policy …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:56 PM
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Men also make the mistake of assuming that a sexual encounter will translate into a long term relationship. I’m very honest about my intentions about FWB only and that I’m ENM and married. Still I have men who want something serious and to “replace my husband.”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 06:02 PM
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Tbh it probably does. I started watching porn when I was 16 or 17 and when I lost my virginity at 19 I thought my boyfriend at the time was just average even though I later learned he was well above average. If I didn’t work in healthcare and read, I’d be convinced that the average penis size was at least an inch bigger than it is in reality. I think due to selection bias from the types of guys I have sexual relationships with (via online dating like Tinder, Feeld, etc and perhaps certain geogra…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 07:28 PM
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We don’t have enough judges to handle the current family law cases and you want to clog up the courts more with infidelity claims? What’s next making it illegal to call people mean names? I say this as someone who was the victim of infidelity. It’s not that serious and adults resolve these things on our own without involving a judge or jury.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:35 PM
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Not really. More lesbian and masculine-presenting women report discrimination in the workplace compared to heteronormative presenting women. https://mygwork.com/news/how-gay-women-are-treated-in-the-modern-workplace The article did mention that gay women earn slightly more than straight women on average but I hypothesize it’s either due to pursuing fields that are seen as traditionally more masculine and/or being less likely to use maternity leave. Interestingly women who are thin earn significa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 09:22 PM
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No, you completely missed the point. I frequently go out with men with much less education than me and never go out with men that are of a different political ideology than me. Education and political ideology are not as highly correlated as you think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:59 PM
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Race/ethnicity is also associated with political ideology but I don’t filter by that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:39 PM
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Strong disagree. Very few men have my level of education but almost 50% of the population have similar political beliefs. I filter strongly for the latter but not at all for former.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 10:45 PM
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This is literally my marriage lol. It works well for us. My husband is very intelligent but grew up in abject poverty a didn’t have the opportunity to go to college let alone grad school so he learned a trade (or several) instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 10:39 PM
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I don’t know if I fully agree with this. Only conventionally attractive women who dress masculinely are accepted in society. “Butch” looking women especially if they are overweight or body hair-positive are still largely ridiculed or deemed undesirable. Masculine coded work and activities have long been regarded as more positive and that’s probably why women who pursue these activities are lauded. In society you’ll also see over time how if there is a shift where a field becomes more egalitarian…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 07:11 PM
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Do you speak any other languages? Have you considered trying the passport bro route? A lot of people in other countries will give you grace if you’re considered a foreigner and they may ascribe social awkwardness merely to cultural differences or not being a native speaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 08:55 PM
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When I message men first on online dating, they think I’m a bot and are even more suspicious of me. Then they typically start asking me what crypto I’m selling or what my only fans is (I don’t do either). Plus there’s no shortage of guys who make the first move so there’s really not much of an upside to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:04 AM
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That’s a shame, I love bi men
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:44 AM
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I was on my pediatrics rotation many years ago when I helped assist with an infant circumcision. It really disturbed me taking a beautiful baby that was perfect just the way he was created and then performing a cosmetic procedure on his genitals without his consent. After that and doing more research, I decided that I would never have my sons circumcised unless there was a strong medical indication (like hypospadias or something).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 04:47 PM
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Yes, I’m against the draft and infant male circumcision for non-medical reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:24 PM
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True, my best friend’s grandma was born with syphilis in the 1920s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 06:00 PM
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Lean and toned. But there’s definitely a range that I find attractive. Sometimes I’ll hook up with skinny twinks and sometimes dudes with dad bods. I don’t think the amount of work I put into my physique impacts my standards for men directly. But indirectly I know that I can pretty much obtain any type of man I want for casual sex so I prioritize certain characteristics (for example, I don’t hook up with conservatives, unkempt guys, guys who put in low effort into conversations, guys who don’t l…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:49 AM
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The true analogy is a hair transplant. Men also are getting cosmetic surgery now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 09:26 PM
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Yes, I agree with this. Often if I find out a man voted democrat I’ll genuinely like him more and subconsciously give him more grace in other areas. I won’t go out of my way to congratulate him though… not sure if that’s what OP and other male allies were wanting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:51 PM
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I’m a woman and my goal is to have a harem of men who are devoted to me and I have access to sexual variety whenever I want lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:42 PM
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My dad didn’t divorce my mom when she became ill but he didn’t help her much either. Almost all of her medical appointments fell on me. She slowly worsened until she ended up in a nursing home and he rarely visited her there. Life is complicated and I would never say that my dad is a bad person or even that he was a bad husband. He was actually a great father when I was a kid. But yeah, that study doesn’t surprise me. I don’t think society does an adequate job of socializing men to be caretakers…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:23 PM
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Probably not, because I really enjoy big dick. I’m not particularly attracted to masculinity itself though. I like a mix of masculine and feminine features. For example I love twinks and have a thing for bisexual men. Interestingly I’m also sexually attracted to cis women but less so than I am to cis men. I’m also attracted to trans women sometimes. Perhaps the only scenario I could see myself dating a well passing trans man would be if he had a very good bottom surgery - probably a penile trans…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:55 AM
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I have a few FWB that fit into that group. They’re all good people and seem to be satisfied with their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:08 AM
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Props on writing vivid character descriptions OP. I actually wanted to hear more about each of them and have guy A meet guy B through odd circumstances and become friends. Maybe B could help A get a job and A could help B get a girlfriend lol. If I was a man I would choose B definitely but I’d probably start using mild drugs and getting involved with kink communities. That’s like a cheat sheet for forming sexual relationships lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:17 AM
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In the U.S. “liberal” typically refers to left of center politically and colloquially isn’t used much to refer to neoliberalism. This would include the majority of elected Democrats. I can’t think of a single elected official in the U.S. that I would classify as leftist not even Bernie Sanders. Maybe AOC or the Squad but even they have moderated a lot of their positions. Liberal would be Bill Maher and the streamer Destiny. Leftist would be Hasan Piker.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:32 PM
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I’m a liberal but not leftist in the American sense (perhaps a social democrat but definitely not a socialist/communist). I’ll date men to the left of me but not to the right of me. (Maybe if it’s just one or 2 issues they’re kind of moderate on, I’ll let it slide but if they vote republican or even if they’re apolitical then I don’t want anything to do with them romantically or sexually).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 05:13 AM
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He’s attracted to a lot of different types of women and flirts a lot, very outgoing and will ask multiple women in the same friend group to dance, or out on dates etc. even if he has a history already with one girl in the group. He tends to believe in relative morality or thinks he’s the exception to rules. Sex isn’t a big deal to him, it’s just a fun activity for pleasure. I’ve known a lot of male cheaters in my family and this is their general profile. Men who are very selective in who they sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:34 AM
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I think you’re on to something here and I wish more left leaning people used inclusionary language which is actually more accurate for use outside of academia. That’s how the oligarchs keep winning is by dividing the masses along gender and racial/ethnic groups so everyone ignores class. Most people are all too happy to be useful idiots for the powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:29 PM
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Would you let a celebrity peg you but not your girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:21 AM
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What if she only wanted to peg you, nothing else? No regular PIV sex, oral, not even kissing or cuddling. Pegging and male domination are her kinks and she’s not into anything else. Would you still say yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:38 AM
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Any age is fine tbh. That in and of itself isn’t a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:33 PM
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I’ve never met a woman that offers anal exclusively to really attractive guys as if it’s on the special VIP services list or something. Either she likes anal or she hates it, even if the man is a male model. It’s like asking if you would want to be pegged by the hottest celebrity you can imagine. If it’s not a kink you’re into you’d probably say no, but you’re interested in other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:35 PM
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The male school teacher is providing a huge benefit to society and all of the male teachers I know are married (one is married to an emergency medicine physician and another is married to a obstetrician-gynecologist). Social work is also needed in society. I’d actually argue that they’re more useful to society than petroleum engineers (in the long run) or finance majors. Why are you shitting on these jobs just because they’re considered “feminine work”?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:21 PM
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LMAO, anyone who ever went to college knows that engineers aren’t drowning in pussy This is anecdotal but most of the female physicians I know are married to male engineers. Even more so than other male physicians that seems to be the most common mate career for women in medicine at least in my friend group. Also the vast majority of my Tinder/Feeld matches are engineers. It’s a good stable job with decent pay and thus attractive to the vast majority of women. Now if the guy is below average in …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:08 PM
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Lol, he’s the author equivalent of the French director Catherine Breillat - I could never understand how her movies were so explicit/sex obsessed and simultaneously so un-erotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 07:03 AM
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Actually a lot of those women with blue hair, shaved eyebrows and septum piercings are leftists not liberal democrats and many of them did not vote for Harris. They stayed home or voted third party.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 03:57 AM
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That debate was epic!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:20 PM
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The term gentleman is a bit too old fashioned for me so I never use it. But sweet, goofy, kind, genuinely nice is how I would describe all my sexual partners. In fact none of them I would describe as exciting, dangerous, or especially assertive. Obviously I only have sex with people I’m physically attracted to but for me it’s necessary to feel comfortable and safe with them. Regarding the conversation about bedroom preferences, I also use this to gauge how sexually compatible I am with someone b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:12 PM
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To be fair a lot of the red pill grifters don’t even eat pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:49 PM
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I don’t think people really care about other people’s preferences as long as they aren’t announced prescriptively for everyone to follow and to shame others. I’m a feminist but not radical. I prefer men who groom their body hair. I’ve even requested that sexual partners shave their pubic hair because I’m really sensitive to smells and it traps odors more. None of them had a problem with this. I also shave completely and do home IPL hair removal so I’m not a hypocrite. That’s my personal preferen…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:52 AM
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Can we normalize men in the U.S. shaving their armpits or actually all of their body hair instead? A lot of the commenters are saying they’ve never met a man who shaved his armpits. But in northern South America where a lot of my family lives, it’s extremely common for men under the age of 50 especially in cities to shave under arms, chest and pubic hair. They do because that’s what women there like and they want to get laid. I actually agree with you that body hair is unattractive but telling w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:34 PM
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Have you looked into Bariatric surgery or GLP-1 agonists?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:19 PM
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Lol, you just described me perfectly!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:58 PM
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Agree completely and regarding 3. tbh I don’t understand why all liberal women just don’t hook up/seek relationships with liberal men. It’s not hard at all to weed out the conservatives and I don’t understand why they would want to “punish” all men when many of them are allies and then they end up punishing themselves by missing out on romantic/sexual relationships that they would otherwise enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 02:21 PM
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Wasn’t Marco Rubio (a republican and definitely not a feminist) the first one to make small dick jokes aimed at Trump? That was way back in 2016 and then after the Stormy Daniels stuff came out, others followed. I’m not saying it’s right but if Trump wasn’t so thin-skinned, people would probably drop it. Also Trump’s perhaps the most aggressive politician in recent history when it comes to body shaming opponents. That’s probably why there’s lack of outrage. Like if someone made the same jokes ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 10:39 PM
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You don’t think the media influences people? That’s just naive. I absolutely agree that the dems need to start fighting like republicans. They keep bringing knives to gun fights and it needs to stop. Who did you vote for btw?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 05:50 PM
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Where did you even get conspiracy theory from? Because I mentioned Russia paying Tim Pool and Dave Rubin? They both admitted it!! https://amp.theguardian.com/us-news/article/2024/sep/05/tim-pool-benny-johnson-influencers-russia-disinformation https://www.pbs.org/newshour/amp/politics/well-known-right-wing-influencers-duped-to-work-for-covert-russian-operation-u-s-prosecutors-say https://www.nytimes.com/2024/09/07/business/media/russia-tenet-media-tim-pool.html
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:22 PM
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Sometimes my husband has a dad bod and sometimes he has 6 pack. His weight fluctuates every few months or so about 10-20 lbs depending on his diet and gym routine. Sure, it’s sexually very exciting being with someone that has defined muscles, toned arms and abs. But it’s also fun and comforting to eat ice cream and tacos together while watching Netflix after smoking a blunt. I cherish both experiences and think our lives would be duller if he always had a 6 pack and was counting macros.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 05:00 AM
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I don’t think it was inevitable that Trump was going to win but the odds were definitely stacked against Biden and/or Harris. For one, the electoral college favors republicans (remember Al Gore and Hillary Clinton both won the popular vote). Not only that but it’s a fact that Trump and the republicans play by a totally different set of rules and there’s double standards. Even Ben Shapiro admitted this. The fact that Trump refused to concede the 2020 election (and his fake elector scheme) should …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:27 AM
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Sure, a truly populist candidate with charisma would have done better with these low information voters. It’s pretty patronizing to treat them as literal children though. In that case should we bring back literacy tests at the polls? I place a larger blame on the media (including Rogan et al) and its lack of accountability when covering Trump. Who did you vote for by the way?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:42 PM
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But no, go ahead and blame the 9-5 wage slave. I’m sure he will feel very bad about his choice when your words reaches him. The wage slave will feel very bad about his choice when the Trump economy fucks him. Tariffs, increased inflation, followed by recession. That’s not just my prediction, most economists agree. Trump’s economic plan is shit and will only benefit his multibillionaire friends and new co-president. It will be classic leopards ate my face. Do I want that to happen? No, of course …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:17 PM
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How should have Biden had “protected the economy” in your opinion. Inflation has been high world wide and the U.S. actually has done better than any other economy coming out of covid. Furthermore almost all serious economists agree that Trump’s policies (deficit spending, tax cuts for the wealthy, printing cheques during during the pandemic) led to increased inflation and his proposed policies including tariffs would worsen inflation and the economy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:56 PM
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The only people (both men and women) I blame are the people who voted for Trump either in 2016 or in 2024. And the people who voted third party or didn’t vote if eligible. I actually really appreciate left leaning men who voted for Harris and feel solidarity with them despite the results of the elections.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:46 PM
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Did you vote for Harris? I actually appreciate the men who did vote for her more than before, like they get brownie points in my book. I haven’t always gotten along with one of my brothers-in-law and honestly he has some chauvinistic tendencies (real rough around the edges blue collar type), but he publicly supported Harris and I respect him more for it. I try to treat everyone as individuals; it’s not particularly useful to blame subgroups. I’m definitely disgusted with the men I know that did …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 04:00 AM
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Interesting topic. I think in real life most couple dynamics are more nuanced than simply dominant/submissive. A lot of men don’t necessarily want to be dominated in humiliating or subservient way but the idea of a very attractive woman wanting to use his body for her own pleasure is extremely appealing. Most men also want to feel desirable and so a woman initiating sex, taking his clothes off, pushing him on the bed and riding his dick for her own pleasure is something a lot of men fantasize ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:54 PM
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Interesting question. I’m not a true bluepiller but I would say probably yes, it does qualify as kink shaming as long as the judgement is on their personal preference and not their prescription for society at large. Most people in kink communities don’t advocate for the superiority of their lifestyle as opposed to other lifestyles. A lot of people who prefer virgins try to make it sound like everyone should have their preferences. Also not all kinks are treated the same. There’s still some that …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 11:53 PM
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I do, I have it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:52 PM
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What do you offer her? Also, you didn't answer the question on whether you're up front from the beginning?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:16 PM
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Do you tell them that from the beginning, that you will be having sex with other women? Why do you feel the need for your partners to be exclusive to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:40 PM
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Why don't you just tell your partner that you want an open relationship? This is the best option when there's a true mismatch of libidos but everything else in the relationship is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:30 PM
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True, I'm promiscuous and am hairless from the neck down lol. For me it's just because I prefer it that way due to some sensory issues. Even if I didn't have a partner(s) I would still shave and do IPL just for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:39 PM
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The caveat is that shirtless pics only work for men with abs and mostly with women that are looking for hookups. I’ve seen some shirtless pics on Tinder that I just cringed and swiped left on (like guys with beer guts and very hairy). It’s probably similar for men if they see obese women in bikini pics. Even for athletic men, I don’t think a shirtless pic would work well with a church girl type looking for a long term relationship… but for sure, for hook ups it’s definitely a plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 05:53 PM
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Autigender - that’s fascinating. I present currently as hyperfeminine though as an adolescent I was really androgynous looking (short hair, husky, baggy clothes) and was teased a lot because of it in middle school. I almost feel like I wear my gender as a mask because I’m treated better if I’m perceived as conventionally attractive. I’ve spent quite a lot of time and money on looksmaxing and I find that people are generally much more pleasant with me. So it’s almost like a shield for me to look …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:35 PM
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Yeah, I never agreed with that saying “your money is my money, and my money is my money.” I’ve always just considered it our money as a family and we make decisions together. I have a little more influence on what we spend money on because I’m the one that has to work extra hours for luxuries, but my husband has various investments here and in his home country and I don’t really get involved in the details/micromanage his projects. It’s also understood that he’s primarily responsible for getting…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:18 PM
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Idk because she’s a badass boss, has the means, loves her family, and wants to add to her legacy? Clearly I don’t think it should be an obligation and this is only a role that the highest earning women can achieve. This is what I personally strive for though. The idea of obtaining a fancy education and a high paying job to then only spend the money on myself and not share it would just feel empty for me. Though it would irk me if others felt entitled to my money. Also it’s probably one of the mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:58 PM
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Yeah, Bernie Sanders still caucuses with the democrats and supports democratic candidates because he cares about his country unlike Jill Stein. And because of Sanders the Democratic Party is much more progressive now than it was in 2008.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:17 PM
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Nah, you were sensible back then. I agree with AOC when she told Jill Stein “All you do is show up once every four years to speak to people who are justifiably pissed off, but you’re just showing up once every four years to do that, you’re not serious.” The Green Party’s membership has actually decreased over the last decade. There’s no hope for third party candidates in a two party system especially with the electoral college the way it is. If you want to reform the Democratic Party you have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:55 AM
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I can tell you were born in 1998. You don’t remember Ralph Nader.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:26 AM
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You’re probably on to something about autism and trans being linked. However I think autism (similar to ADHD) is massively under diagnosed in females and presents a bit differently. Girls are socialized to mask a lot more from a young age. It wasn’t until my oldest was diagnosed with autism level 1 that I began reading and took some online tests (not the most reliable I know) but I scored in the autism range for lack of empathy and need for OCD-like rituals. I also have a lot of sensory issues t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:41 PM
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The problem with the laws is that it’s not clear at what point a woman’s life is at imminent risk. People are fine until they’re not and then crash and burn fast. There’s women that are having natural miscarriages or carrying pregnancies that are nonviable but because there’s still a heartbeat an abortion can’t be legally done until she becomes septic or clinically unstable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:55 PM
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With all these existential threats, why are you wasting your vote on third party candidates that aren’t even on the ballot in many states?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:47 PM
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It’s only a gendered issue because the laws predominantly affect women. It’s their health and bodies that bear the risks and harms during pregnancy and childbirth. If men could bear children or even if there were technological advances in artificial wombs, then I would say it’s no longer a gendered issue. It’s similar to having cis heterosexual people vote on the legality of gay marriage. Sure, there may even be some gay people that are opposed to gay marriage but that doesn’t mean it’s not an L…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:41 PM
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I actually prefer average height to really tall. I also prefer darker complexions in romantic partners (light brown to black). I don’t think I’ve ever even matched with a blond guy OLD before and I’m fair skinned with light eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:56 PM
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I actually prefer average height to really tall. I also prefer darker complexions in romantic partners (light brown to black). I don’t think I’ve ever even matched with a blond guy OLD before and I’m fair skinned with light eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:56 PM
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Nah, I love cute twinks. I also love athletic guys. A little extra fat (dad bod - muscle with fat) or even skinny fat is fine too but morbidly obese (BMI over 35) is definitely the least attractive for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:59 PM
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I never said unattractive. Reread my comment again. And even if I had it shouldn’t be insulting at all. If you really are black pilled, it should be hope inspiring lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:31 PM
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Oh definitely, only socially progressive/sex positive men for me too. I wonder if that’s why our experiences with casual sex have been so much more positive than the typical mainstream narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:57 PM
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Oh yeah, I definitely still have to be attracted to them and they need to be “my type”. I guess I’m using more of a truerateme guide for “average.” But I’ve matched with a few male model types/instagram influencers lol and they don’t put that much effort into the conversation so I assume they wouldn’t put that much effort in bed. I didn’t actually sleep with any of them to find out. Interesting, do you prescreen your hookups by asking them questions about what they’re into sexually etc? I do tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:31 PM
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I don’t think it’s true that most women aren’t sexually attracted to their husbands, at least when they first started dating. I’ve never been in relationship with someone I wasn’t attracted to. Even when I think about everyone in my friend circle and family most were really into their partners from the beginning. Most of the staleness comes on later when both parties start letting themselves go physically or life’s ups and downs get in the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:16 PM
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Nah, I’ve actually had really passionate sex with men who are not as conventionally attractive as my husband (ENM). I want genuine friendship, excitement, and satisfaction, not commitment or resources (I already have those). There’s actually a lot of women like me but society tells us that those desires are not honorable and so we’re conditioned to believe there’s something wrong with us for wanting to be with multiple partners (either serially or simultaneously) without any commitment. That’s w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:06 PM
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This is spot on, as a fellow woman who enjoys NSA sex. Being the object of desire is really intoxicating to me and I actually prefer to hook up with men that are average to slightly above average in terms of conventional attractiveness rather than male model types. I also try to make sure that I’m their preferred “type” first. They tend to put in a lot more effort in bed and it’s altogether a more enjoyable experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:57 PM
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I responded to a code blue a few months ago for a pregnant woman. Others had already arrived and were starting CPR. She had a non-viable pregnancy and was about 18 weeks along. She had some underlying cardiopulmonary problems but nothing that immediately put her life in danger. It was documented all over the chart that the pregnancy was non-viable but because there was a fetal heartbeat no one wanted to perform an abortion and risk their medical license. Some states even have a bounty where anyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:37 PM
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I'm in a red state and it's absolutely happening at my hospital system unfortunately. It's not really talked about much though; not many people want to stick their necks out since there's so much risk and little reward for being outspoken.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 06:52 PM
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Lol, I only got dick pics from one guy off of feeld (so far 😛), it was legit big but definitely seemed less than the 8.5 inches he advertised
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 12:09 AM
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Omg, I noticed that too on feeld… like every 3rd profile on my feed was a guy labeling himself as size queen friendly or size queens to the front of the line lol 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:01 PM
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If a man doesn’t shave his public hair then I won’t go down on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:24 AM
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The older I get the more convinced I am that human sexuality and even gender identity really is a spectrum. (Biological sex is binary but with the caveat of some people being intersex.) So in your scenario a large percentage of people would probably have severe gender dysphoria. But then there’s people like me who while I present as a hyperfeminine and (mostly) heterosexual woman, I don’t have a strong personal attachment to my gender. As long as I was a reasonably conventionally attractive man …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 06:25 PM
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How would he know that he’s not the best I ever had (the “best” is difficult to define to begin with)? Like how would he know that a relationship with an ex was sooo much more passionate? If it’s because I told him that my ex was way better or am always comparing him to other men, then absolutely he should leave my toxic ass lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:27 PM
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Your dad sounds like my husband 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:09 PM
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No, not really. In general I don’t compare myself to other people. I’m content with my characteristics that are exceptional and I try to compensate for my individual weaknesses (not all physical) as best I can. I’m healthy and have no issues moving objects, opening jars, or working out. Lamenting that I’m not as strong as many men just seems ungrateful. Especially considering that human capabilities exist on a spectrum. There’s so many men that have disabilities and their human worth shouldn’t b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:08 PM
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Just out of curiosity, what do you consider as degrading or humiliating sexual acts or kinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:27 AM
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For most women rape fantasies have more to do with feeling extremely desired and not having guilt about engaging in the sexual act. Most rape fantasies don’t involve humiliation or degradation but sure some can and do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 05:33 PM
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I believe you. One of my FWB is extremely outwardly presenting masculine and dominant in his everyday life. He’s a former college basketball player, gym bro type, used to get in street fights a lot when he was younger, gun owner, hung etc. But his deepest sexual fantasies involve pegging and sitting in the cuck chair.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 05:30 PM
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Different life goals and overall low compatibility generally speaking. But sure, there’s probably exceptions
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 06:54 PM
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As an example, I had an extremely ugly roommate in the Marine Corps. He was so ugly that he became better looking after he had his face disfigured and received reconstruction surgery. He slayed. Wow, that’s some amazing reconstructive surgery. I’d be curious to see the before and after pictures (not expecting you to post photos of your friend of course). I’ve always been really interested in reconstructive surgery and even face transplants.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:33 PM
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Hmm, I’m the breadwinner and right now my husband is staying home taking care of the kids for the most part. I think we have a good dynamic and I value his opinion and don’t try to emasculate him. We use the money I earn for investment properties that he predominantly manages and fixes up when needed, which gives him a lot of freedom in his schedule etc. My job is really demanding and I can’t imagine being with someone that also had a high pressure career. I don’t really associate income with ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 06:47 PM
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I love hooking up with men in their early 20s and I’m pushing 40. I would never marry one though, that would be ludicrous lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 06:35 PM
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I give great BJs
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 05:44 PM
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I already do own guns. I grew up in a house with guns but was never really interested in them. Ironically the catalyst that prompted me to buy my own guns was Trump winning the election in 2016 and also watching the Purge movies lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 05:32 PM
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I provide for my husband, kids, in-laws, parents, nieces/nephews… my whole family lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 08:25 PM
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I don’t know, I think the best practice for being in a serious relationship is actually living with other people platonically. Getting along with roommates and your family are good signs that you’ll get along with a romantic partner if you move in together. Ime how people treat their family members and friends is pretty similar to how they treat their spouse (i.e. shitty people are usually toxic to everyone). How do feel about taking acting lessons? Like would it stress you out to try a new hobb…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 09:42 PM
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Do you have friends or family that you’re close to? If you have people that enjoy spending time with you in general, then there’s no reason to doubt that a romantic partner wouldn’t also enjoy being with you if they’re physically attracted to you. Are you able to mask at all? In the beginning of all relationships people mask, even normies. It’s just human behavior to try to present your best or most polished version first and then once you feel secure you gradually start sharing some of your odd…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 07:01 PM
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You misunderstand my post. My point was not that autistic men and women have it just as bad. My point was that good looking autistic men have it much easier than unattractive autistic men. This shouldn’t be controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:16 AM
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Go to any subreddit for autistic adults and average to below average looking men frequently comment that their conventionally attractive autistic male counterparts have it so much easier than they do. Even social awkward good looking men are able to get relationships and people overlook their quirks. Sure, there’s still a level of awkwardness that becomes too cringe for most people but it’s a lot higher for attractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:28 AM
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Yeah for sure. Part of it is society’s expectations on men to play more of an active role as the pursuer. The other part is that broadly speaking on average men probably desire romantic/sexual connections a bit more than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:19 AM
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I mean this sincerely… I have experience in aesthetics and healthcare. If you want to DM me a photo I can give you constructive feedback for looksmaxing depending on how much effort you want to put in. It’s rough being autistic in a world that’s designed for neurotypical people but generally people are more forgiving of social awkwardness in conventionally attractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 09:10 PM
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Women absolutely do kind things for men they care about. I bring my husband a drink and my sons a snack from the hospital cafeteria every day when I get home from work because it shows that I thought about them and that they’re important to me. When I was first dating my husband I hand-made him a Valentine’s Day card with graphics that I designed. This isn’t atypical behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 10:01 PM
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Your co-workers are dumb and contribute to toxicity in general not just in gender relations imho. Doing nice things for your partner when they tell you that it’s important to them is just plain thoughtful behavior and should be rewarded with reciprocal consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 09:53 PM
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What are the rumors about him? I haven’t heard any except that he only likes really young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:25 AM
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I recently heard an interview on NPR with a guy named Richard Reeves who founded the American Institute for Boys and Men and he actually is able to talk about unique issues that males face without sounding misogynistic the way much of the manosphere does. He’s also focused on real policy solutions as opposed to just whining which is refreshing. https://aibm.org I think Dr. K (“Healthy Gamer”) also has some good ideas and is a decent resource for this demographic of lost boys. I actually do care …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 10:43 PM
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The old guys may not “need” the meds but the point is that they wouldn’t be on Viagra if they were sexless as OP alluded to. You could make an argument that they might be on TRT for energy and muscle mass even if single but ime most older men that are on testosterone are sexually active.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 09:59 PM
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True, but you’d be surprised by the amount of 50 year old plus men on testosterone supplements and Viagra.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 09:14 PM
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I’m on the fence on this one. She did bring beer so she might have actually thought it was two platonic friends having dinner and beer together. If she had brought a nice bottle of wine then I would have definitely viewed it more as open to the idea of something romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 05:30 PM
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I don’t care because I’m also sleeping with other men. At least we’re all honest about it in the ENM community. Also I don’t really believe that stat that 85% of men haven’t had sex in years. I work in healthcare so I have to interview people (all ages, socioeconomic statuses and varying levels of attractiveness) about their sexual histories. If anything men tend to lie in the opposite direction. Young men ime actually downplay the amount of sex they’re having and will say they’re not sexually a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 05:00 PM
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Define older men and older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:41 PM
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I like being a provider and making a lot of money. I provide for my nuclear family and even help out my extended family financially. It offsets my other moral failings and gives me a sense of self worth although I should have that intrinsically and not have to depend on external validation in theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:23 PM
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Were they all relatively new hook ups? How did you react when it happened? Not that the responsibility should be all on you of course, but sometimes just mentioning that you may have drank a bit too much alcohol and offering to go down on them or do other things for their pleasure helps alleviate any insecurities they might have.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:09 PM
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No, it’s not a big deal and it’s definitely harsh of them to leave. Also alcohol, dehydration, and tiredness make it more difficult for women to orgasm and fully enjoy a sexual experience too so you’d think they would be more sympathetic. Now if it happened every time I was with a partner, I would definitely ask him about it, like is it because the condoms are too small or does he have low testosterone or vascular issues causing ED etc. I definitely wouldn’t assume that it’s because he isn’t att…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 09:55 PM
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I actually think this does exist but is uncommon and probably wouldn’t manifest as an attraction to money but as an attraction to the idea of marriage and security. In this case it would be a woman who is asexual but heteroromantic and wants a husband and children but doesn’t really enjoy sex or have desire. Think Bree Van de Camp from Desperate Housewives with her first husband. I think a non-zero number of very religious, psychologically traumatized women who grew up in sex-negative communitie…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:07 PM
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You can dm me your profile if you want. I’ll give you honest feedback but I might be older than your target audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:16 AM
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It depends on the setting honestly and the ages of the men involved. Working at a hospital I probably find 10% of the men there attractive. Most are Middle-aged to elderly and sick. When I go to the gym, I probably find 40-50% of the men there attractive. If you narrow it down to young-looking men (20s to 30s) that are relatively fit then the percentage goes up to 60-70%. The fitness aspect of the red pill is the only part of it that I agree with (and it’s not really exclusive to TRP).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:49 AM
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Certain women might be turned off by certain effeminate behaviors, for sure. But it’s going to vary a lot from person to person. For example I’m not turned off by seeing men cry, it makes me feel closer to them and appreciate their humanity more. I personally also like bisexual men and men that dress and groom themselves metrosexually. Hypermasculine behaviors can also cause the ick, that was the point. Anything can cause an ick in anyone. Men also get the ick and if they say they don’t they’re …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:41 AM
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Effeminate behaviors are not the only ick producing triggers. I’m more turned off if I see exaggerated hypermasculine or aggressive behavior. A lot of times it comes off as corny af (i.e. Hulk Hogan ripping off his shirt on stage and grunting). A lot of times when men challenge other men directly (unless there’s a good reason for it) I get the ick. Even if I do get the ick involuntarily for effeminate behaviors (like ordering a “girly” drink etc.) I usually recognize my internal bias (we all hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:53 PM
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Yes. The draft should be abolished. If we can’t get enough volunteers in the military in a wartime situation then we as a country simply need to increase the financial or other incentives until there’s enough volunteers. I would definitely support certain financial programs to help men. I don’t necessarily think that loans or a sort of reverse affirmative action would obtain optimal results. And it would probably just benefit men who are already middle class and leave out working class/poor men.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:08 PM
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Yeah, pretty much. Most women aren’t going to reach orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation in some way (oral, manual, vibrator). As an anatomical analogy, most men probably wouldn’t cum from a scrotal massage though it may feel nice. In the early 2000s going down on women was seen as emasculating in some communities. My first boyfriend loved doing it but would lie to all of friends and tell them he never did it. Now it’s pretty much expected and even new casual partners are really eager to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:15 AM
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Yes, and… If I tried to answer this question in my 20s, I would have said no, that’s an absolute dealbreaker. And that answer would have been based on the false belief that bi men are really just gay men still in the closet and that they are more likely to pass on STIs to their female partners than straight men are. However now that I’m nearly 40 (and I like to think wiser and perhaps ironically more open minded), I would say I’m truly neutral to it. I’m ENM and one of my boyfriends is bi and ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:35 AM
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True! My best friend’s grandmother was born with syphilis which her great-grandfather gave to her great-grandmother. Per their family folklore he loved visiting brothels. People nowadays tend to romanticize the past but it was anything but a Norman Rockwell poster.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:05 AM
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I don’t think the saying means there’s literally someone for everyone on the planet to form lifelong pair bonds with. It’s more of a reference to general compatibility. For example I work at a hospital and one of the patients was a 40 year old morbidly obese unemployed guy with diabetes and limb amputations. He had a girlfriend by his side learning how to do the dressing changes for his wound care. She was also obese but maybe slightly less so than he was. Later one of the nurses commented how i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 06:08 PM
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I’d definitely choose option 1. Especially with OLD, creepy or pushy/aggressive guys can be eliminated and blocked before you even meet in person. I honestly don’t think that the average man treats the average woman that well though. It’s mostly conventionally attractive women that benefit from simping behavior and male desire. (I say this as someone who had a glow up and the way I was treated by men drastically improved afterwards, like night and day difference).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 09:44 PM
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Has this happened with other women or just 1 person? It could be that she was on the fence about liking you and the bad day tipped the scale out of your favor. If it’s just one person, I’d ignore it but if you’re seeing a pattern where multiple people are unmatching you before meeting up, then you should consider changing your strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:29 PM
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I was speaking to her in my native language. Partner as interview partner. Well there goes that hypothesis 😂 I think the rest of the advice still stands. I kind of wanted to see how she would react to such a situation, because empathy for me is crucial, and if she cannot handle a bad day now she wont be able to handle more serious emotions later on. Typically I would agree 100% but in this case it’s way too early imo to expect unconditional empathy without any judgement. You’re expecting friend …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:04 PM
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Are you a native English speaker or is it a second language for you? If you’re speaking to the girl in English I think that could be contributing to your difficulties. Some of the jokes may not translate well. For example the joke about putting her on your shoulders and taking her to work just comes across as awkward not playful which is what you were probably going for. Also calling her your partner seems odd since you just matched on Tinder or some other OLD. In most English speaking countries…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 06:59 PM
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Was this a new match on online dating? How much detail did you go into about the bad interview? Was it for a job or something? I definitely would save the emotional vulnerability until you get to know her better and probably have had sex together or gotten close to it. I’d keep everything upbeat and positive at first until you’ve met in person several times and know you have chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 11:26 PM
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That’s what I do when my partner isn’t in the mood so it’s fine with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:20 PM
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Lol Destiny’s divorce cost like 1000 bucks total and was finalized in less than a month and Melina got nothing. Contrast that with tradcon Steven Crowder’s divorce which stands to lose millions and they have to co-parent for the next 17 years. Destiny made out pretty good!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:02 PM
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If he divorces her nothing bad will happen to him, except maybe their friends and family will judge them. They don’t have kids and have only been married 2 months. There’s no way she could get alimony. I’m usually the last one to say that’s it’s better to get divorced but in this ridiculous scenario (that has to be fake/trolling), it’s clear the answer it to separate and move on. Interestingly the woman in question’s perspective on male orgasms being gross seems to be mirroring how a lot of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:54 PM
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Aggressive or violent behavior: one guy I was talking to on a date told me stories about physical fights he had gotten in with other men and it was so cringe and ick producing. Body hair and unkempt aesthetics in general: I prefer manscaped metrosexual men. Men who are too stoic with me: in a professional situation with colleagues or with acquaintances I absolutely will quietly judge men (and women) who are emotional and overshare/trauma dump. But in a relationship or a close friendship (even FW…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:17 PM
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I think the men in the 50% (average) row are really physically attractive honestly. True rate me is just weird and sad imo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:57 PM
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I’d classify myself as a liberal in the American sense or perhaps a social democrat (but not a socialist) and I’m not super woke (I own guns and used to be evangelical). I absolutely would not want to date, be in a LTR, or have casual sex with a conservative/republican/right-leaning man. We simply wouldn’t be compatible even as FWB. All of my romantic/sexual relationships have been with left-leaning men
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:31 PM
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lol, I’m probably in the minority of women that actually like men with little to no body hair to the point I’ve requested partners to shave their armpits and pubic hair completely
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:09 PM
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I don’t necessarily disagree with this and I would like men to be able to express themselves in more gender non-conforming ways without fear of societal judgment. But I do think it’s slowing changing at least in terms of men not having to be providers. Though that comes with less decision making power in the relationship and more responsibility in homemaking and child rearing which a lot of men don’t want to sacrifice. My husband is a SAHD and most of my high-earning friends also make more money…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 03:54 PM
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Thanks! Honestly I think a number scale for rating attractiveness is inherently subjective (my 7 will be different than my friend’s 7) and so I usually don’t even mentally rate people that I see in everyday life. Sure, there are some objective/nearly universal cross-cultural beauty standards. For me a 7 has a decently handsome face, symmetrical, straight teeth, clear skin with minimal wrinkles for his age, good hairline or one of the few guys who looks good bald, decent muscle mass but not shred…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:01 AM
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1st BF - 4 2nd BF - 4 3rd BF - 7 Husband - 9 when he has a 6 pack like right now, 8 any other time FWB I have: 6, 7, 7, 6
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 11:03 PM
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Probably not. I dress like a modern Grace Kelly and am super introverted but I’m ENM and like casual sex so there’s that. However I do feel more “safe and protected” when I’m covered up and am treated with more respect when I’m dressed professionally. I don’t want any extra attention from random men in public and I want to be taken seriously at work so that’s part of why I dress the way I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:56 PM
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This is the actual date from the CDC website. You can see that the median for men is slightly higher than it is for women but honestly both seem pretty low to me. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm They did remove virgins from the data but their overall representation in the population is low. The CDC reports that virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males ages 20 to 24. That number drops below 5 percent for both male and female virgins ages 25 to 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 11:22 PM
1

I actually prefer average height to tall guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 10:58 PM
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A lot of people confuse average with median. The average should be the same but in a given sample the median number of partners for men will likely be higher than the median number of partners for women. This is likely due to extreme outliers in the distribution of women who at the high end may be sex workers and have very high body counts more than men who just have recreational sex. This is also not taking into account adding gay or bisexual men to the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 09:50 PM
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I usually just ask a conversation starter. I don’t really care except it might be something interesting to talk about. It also affects schedules and when someone might be able to go out. There’s certain jobs that I typically avoid dating that has nothing to do with finances (military and police but no offense to them). It’s not just in dating but one of the first questions teachers and other parents ask me when meeting is what kind of work I do. Also random people like hair stylists, pastors, et…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 01:51 AM
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Women definitely are also shallow about looks but I don’t think quite as much as men on average. Even women who want casual sex will still want the guy to be kind, safe, friendly and have chemistry with each other. I’d rather have casual sex with a guy that just barely meets my attractiveness threshold but shares similar values and has a nice personality than a drop dead gorgeous guy who is aloof or downright cruel. Most men only care if she’s hot for casual or if they’re really desperate for se…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 08:15 PM
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If he doesn’t like me as a person it’s almost a guarantee that he’s not going to try to get me off and therefore the sex won’t be enjoyable at all for me. So I’d definitely take the first option. It’s not specified in the scenario but I presume that the other person is someone that’s very physically attractive and desirable, perhaps charismatic? Having friends like that regardless if there’s a sexual relationship could be advantageous for a number of reasons…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 06:06 PM
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If he doesn’t like me as a person it’s almost a guarantee that he’s not going to try to get me off and therefore the sex won’t be enjoyable at all for me. So I’d definitely take the first option. It’s not specified in the scenario but I presume that the other person is someone that’s very physically attractive and desirable, perhaps charismatic? Having friends like that regardless if there’s a sexual relationship could be advantageous for a number of reasons…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 06:06 PM
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A relationship that’s 6 months to a year is a pretty decent chunk of time where a guy could learn a lot if he’s open minded and attentive. Only one guy I’ve been with was less experienced than me but he was amazing sexually and otherwise. It’s not really something I care about except in terms of mild curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:39 PM
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Is this actually a thing in real life? I feel like it’s portrayed in media a lot but I don’t really see it in my own life or that of my female friends. Maybe it’s more prevalent in younger crowds. I personally prefer to have female friends and generally get along better with women. The only close platonic male friend I have is with a gay man. I have professional/collegial friendships with men but those are very superficial and I wouldn’t confide anything in them or hang out with them one on one …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:57 PM
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I love it when men feel safe and close enough to me to share their darkest traumas and cry in front of me. I also love metrosexual men that dress a bit flamboyant, remove body hair, manicure their nails etc. I actually love bisexual/bicurious men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:45 PM
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Horny young guys is who the single older women probably want to have sex with. (Caveat: if they’re on HRT, if they’re menopausal and not on HRT they probably don’t want to have sex with men at all). They just don’t want to marry them and parade him around their friends and family like older men sometimes do with their hot young girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 02:53 AM
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Lol, yeah that’s the same for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 12:35 AM
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I’m pushing 40 and I have more attention now than when I was in my 20s. Not just the amount of attention but the quality of the men I get attention from is exponentially better. This is anecdotal of course but I don’t think it’s that unusual
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 08:11 PM
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I’m definitely in the minority from talking with other women, but I actually don’t mind receiving dick pics even if unsolicited. If the guy is attractive and has a nice dick I do get turned on. If he’s not attractive (this is more of an issue on Instagram since if we match on Tinder or something I presumably already think he’s attractive) or if his dick is unattractive (smallish, odd shape, lots of pubic hair, poor hygiene etc.) then I will quickly lose attraction to him. I still won’t be offend…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:17 PM
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I don’t know too many single dads with full or primary custody. It’s usually a co-parenting scenario. How much a man wants his new partner to be involved in his kids’ lives will depend a lot on his relationship with his ex from what I’ve seen. Most truly single dads would welcome or even expect a new partner to “step up”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:37 PM
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No, cheating is not a better option than divorce and will create all sorts of issues with trust and resentment in the relationship. However, I do agree that physical intimacy is very important in a marriage. And I don’t think divorce should be the first or even the second or third option automatically. In situations where a couple is very compatible otherwise and share finances, perhaps are raising children together and have intertwined families and friends, divorce can be absolutely devastating…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 06:06 PM
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I don’t really know where the ick comes from or why it happens. It’s something I know that I personally am able to consciously decide to ignore though. The last time it happened to me I was meeting a guy for drinks and when I got to the bar he was drinking a Smirnoff ice 😂 I prefer real beer so it was definitely ick-producing. But I was really horny and he was really sweet so we went back to his place and had amazingly passionate sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:51 PM
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He didn’t care that she was sleeping with other men. He was sleeping with other women. That’s the way they both wanted to structure their marriage so it’s not an L if something they both agree to. TBH their marriage would have ended a lot sooner if it was closed on both ends or just on her end. The men who think they’re “so alpha” by sleeping with other women and demanding monogamy from their gf/wife amuse me. The only way that works is if the woman is asexual or financially dependent on him. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 10:33 PM
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Destiny has stated multiple times that he would only do ENM/open relationships because HE’S the one that had cheated multiple times in the past and likes variety. He also stated that he’s not very emotionally available and wouldn’t respect a partner that didn’t also pursue relationships with other people. He’s already having sex with multiple other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 10:03 PM
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Never. When I was evangelical I waited until we were exclusive/LTR which was really difficult tbh since I’m high libido. Since I lost my religion I only wait long enough to tell if he’s a decent person and if I’m safe around him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:15 PM
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Barack Obama - while not perfect, I’ve always thought he was a really positive balance of traditional masculinity and vulnerability, knowing when to stand up for yourself/others, and also showing human emotion (crying after Sandy Hook and also the eulogy he gave for the victims of Dylan Roof), being protective and devoted to his family also. Edit: most of y’all are too young to remember Obama’s predecessor. I was in high school during 911 and went to college during the remainder of the Bush year…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:08 PM
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It’s cringe to ask people to rate their physical beauty on a 1 to 10 scale. It’s a ridiculous question which partly explains the ridiculous 10 out 10 answers which are a lot of times meant to be taken tongue-in-cheek or as hyperbole. It’s like if you tell your dad he’s the “best dad in the world.” Is he really? Like objectively is your dad literally the best dad in the world, better than every other dad that lives on the earth or is he just a great dad to you and you want to appreciate him? Laur…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:27 PM
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Kind of but not at the level of Destiny or Melina. This is his YT channel with like 22k current subscribers. https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCcIviOlJ2aOc4fvvEEevBzw
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:56 PM
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I absolutely agree that their marriage would have ended much sooner if it had been closed/monogamous or closed only on one end. Another factor is Destiny had already been divorced once and had a toxic LTR with his baby mama before marrying Melina so it’s amazing their marriage lasted as long as it did. Lol, I’m going to be honest and Destiny is kind of an acquired taste. I first started watching Aba and Preach and saw some videos with Aba and him about a year or two ago and then I saw him on FnF…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:51 PM
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Melina has never been in a monogamous relationship before. All of her past relationships were also ENM/poly. She was actually in an open relationship with another nerdy streamer guy in New Zealand when she met Destiny.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:32 PM
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She’s not though. She had borrowed 100k from him but paid it all back prior to their couples counseling session. She’s also basically getting nothing from the divorce because she kept working/streaming throughout their marriage and they don’t have any kids together
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:23 PM
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Memetix doesn’t have money or fame though. He just showered her with attention while Destiny was kind of aloof in their relationship. I do agree that she seems to gravitate towards nerdy guys tho
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:20 PM
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The facts don’t care about your feelings bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:42 AM
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Sex should be arousing. It should be fun too. If it’s like doing the laundry then I feel sorry for that couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:52 AM
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Are you serious? Destiny has said on stream that he’s had sex with over 200 women. Multiple female orbiters have confirmed that they’ve had sex with him and Melina has also openly talked about his sexual relationships with BPD type women that caused a lot of drama in their marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:50 AM
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Obligation sounds like a chore and not arousing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 01:13 AM
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I wouldn't phrase it as "owe" - that makes sex sound like a transaction that the woman gives to her man in exchange for resources etc. Good sex is something that men should also give to their partners. That's why I explicitly used gender-neutral language in my post. I come from a religious background (which I since left) but from my reading of the Bible, sex is also "owed" to a wife from her husband. From my discussions with my Muslim friends, the Quran is similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 12:15 AM
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There is so much factually incorrect about this post. You posted some cherry-picked clips a few seconds long out of hours of footage. I'm a fan of Destiny so I'm biased but they absolutely did not separate because Melina was sleeping with other men and he wanted her to stop. Destiny has said multiple times that he doesn't care at all about her having sex with other people. He's not a jealous person by nature. She was dealing with tax evasion charges in Sweden for 3 months and he was still in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 11:48 PM
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True and the ones who think female orgasm is a myth or evolutionarily useless lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:45 PM
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Hot take: I actually do think people are entitled to sex within a marriage. I’m not for marital rape or coercion obviously but I do think that two married people have an expectation to have sex with one another and generally satisfy their partner. Otherwise they’re just roommates, co-parents, or business partners. This isn’t just about women acquiescing to their husbands and starfishing. This would also apply to men who don’t give oral or are against toys in the bedroom etc. There’s obviously ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:49 PM
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You have to define casual sex. For a ONS with someone you don’t know well, I agree it’s a high risk low reward scenario. But with FWB casual sex over months to years, the sex can be amazing as can the emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:10 PM
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I said that he was charismatic not that I was attracted to him. Lots of morally questionable people are charismatic. That doesn’t make them sexually attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 11:09 PM
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This is true. I think Tate is an objectively bad person and committed fraud and sex trafficking but I can’t deny that he is charismatic af. He’s entertaining and if I was at dinner party with him I’d probably have a really good time laughing at his comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:54 PM
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This is true. Honestly I myself don’t view female co-workers positively if they show too much emotion at work or are crying all the time. Also if they over-share personal stuff, red flags go off in my head and I tend to view them as less stable emotionally. If they’re close friends of mine and we have a deeper relationship or if they’re confiding in me about something legitimately heavy, then I extend them a lot more grace. Regardless being emotionally vulnerable isn’t seen positively for women …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:30 PM
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The general consensus for a Trad Wife is: – Married in a straight relationship. – The man works the wife does not. – The man is the head of the household and the final word on all things financial, lifestyle and professional for the family. – Kids are a part of the plan if not already in the family. What you want is essentially a unicorn, a woman that brings in a decent financial contribution (like a teacher or social worker type) but ALSO does all the domestic stuff expected of a SAHM. Frankly …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:09 PM
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I only orgasm from oral or manual direct clitoral stimulation but I do enjoy PIV especially right after coming from oral. That’s the best and I would miss PIV if it was just oral. It’s frustrating though if it’s only PIV and no orgasm for the woman. This is a pretty typical sentiment from what I’ve read and talking with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 08:07 PM
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Some nerds do get laid in high school especially the alternative types and band geek/theatre types. Probably the biggest factor in determining whether someone gets laid in high school is how religious they/their friend group are and how strict/involved their parents are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:55 PM
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Trad wives don’t make any money though. What most men really want is women who work (bring in a decent paycheck) AND cook/clean/do child care if kids are in the picture. Very few men make enough money to support a stay at home partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:52 PM
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Nah, it's a little deeper than that. Part of what makes a surgeon attractive is his intelligence, competence and talent not just resources or money-making potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:00 PM
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Agree, that’s why the guidelines recommend against testing asymptomatic people and it’s not on standard STI screening panels anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 10:24 PM
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It depends on his other attributes, like if he’s conventionally attractive, if he has a decent job, and how well he’s able to socialize. At least initially some masking would probably help. I know some surgeons who are autistic and they’re all married to attractive intelligent women but they’re also surgeons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 07:13 PM
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No, I like fucking around with a small group of trusted FWB in addition to my husband. It’s the best of both worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 05:31 PM
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Yes. Don’t care, either way is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:27 PM
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I honestly don’t know too many older single childless ladies. My mom had a friend that used to travel all around the world teaching English and would bring back foreign exchange students and they would have dinner with us for the holidays. She always seemed happy to me and had lots of stories to tell. She never complained about feeling lonely. There was also my great aunt who was a widow at a young age and childless. She was a very eccentric and cantankerous person. The rumor was that she remain…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 06:20 PM
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You’re 100% doing the right thing by focusing on your education and a career with good earning potential. That’s what I did and I don’t regret it for a minute. You can still marry and have a family later too if that’s what you want. I think there’s some value in learning how to do stereotypically trad wife stuff like cleaning and cooking which I’m sure your immigrant mom taught you anyway. My mom used to always tell me that I still needed to learn how to cook and clean even if I make a lot of mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:49 PM
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They are but it’s worth it imo. Literally the first thing I bought when I started making real money was Invisalign. I never had braces when I was a kid (too poor or family was too cheap lol) and I was really self-conscious about my smile. Years later and I’m still so satisfied with that purchase. It was 6k about 10 years ago. You can get an amazing hair transplant in Colombia for about 3-4k, not sure how much it is in the U.S.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 12:41 AM
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Agree, money definitely won’t make you sexually attractive but people with disposable income tend to be more attractive on average because they can afford good healthy food, have time to work out, buy the best skin care regimens and dress well. They can even buy cosmetic surgery
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 11:10 PM
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lol, I actually told one of my coworkers that she needed to lower her standards if she wanted to find a man and stop being single. She did and she’s happy (as far as I can tell) with an average guy now
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 10:10 PM
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My advice to struggling men is literally: go to the gym, lose weight if you’re fat, fix your teeth if they’re messed up, get a good skin care regimen/clear up acne, get a good hair cut or hair transplant, learn to dress well. How is that any different from advice that men give or what TRP preaches? Why should a a struggling guy not take that advice just because it’s coming from a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 10:04 PM
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Lol, you own a phone sex hotline?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 09:40 PM
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I’m really introverted too so I sympathize with you but it seems like you may have some pretty severe social anxiety or agoraphobia even. Maybe the group dance is too much at first and private 1:1 lessons would be better. Going to the gym is pretty basic tho, you don’t really need to talk to anyone there. Perhaps talking to your primary care doctor about meds or cognitive behavioral therapy should be step 1. Best of luck to you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 09:36 PM
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Is the advice that women give really much more different than the advice men give? I think you’ll find more divergence between different ideologies and age groups than you’ll find by gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 09:20 PM
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Isn’t gym membership like the most useful part of TRP? Ballroom dance may be a bit of an older group but it probably has a good female to male ratio and would take you out of your comfort zone. Even just talking to middle aged women you don’t know would probably be useful for practice. Yeah, there’s no silver bullet but honestly your mom and sister could have given you way worse advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 09:16 PM
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I honestly wish there were more good stay at home dads. It should be respected
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 07:03 PM
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This is true. I have extended family in Miami and they’re all working regular jobs just trying to provide for their families. I don’t know any who are sugar babies, influencers or OFs
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:29 PM
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My opinion is similar but slightly different. I would never have an OF myself but I actually enjoy watching pornography and partaking in casual sex (FWB but no ONS). My sex drive is very high and I like a variety but I’m extremely discreet and actually dress very modest and elegant. Everyone at work and family thinks I’m a saint. For me the reason is the professional risk. Society has a tendency to dehumanize people especially women when they engage in sex on camera or show their naked bodies. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:18 PM
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It’s true. Even Andrew Tate said on camera that the only type of women and girls that are immune from influencing into sex trafficking cam work are the ones who come from wealthy families.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:04 PM
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A lot of those women are actually actresses. They know what their role is and they play it perfectly to get hate views and more OF subscribers. Why else would any woman want to go on one of those shows unless it’s economically to her advantage?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 05:57 PM
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Yeah, your health comes first, glad you got out before there was irreversible damage to your lungs
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:33 PM
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Some did, some didn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:17 PM
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I’m a bit older than the average person on this sub, late 30s. Most people I know are married or divorced (a few widowed too) or in stable relationships. I can only think of 1 guy I know that is still single in his early 40s. He’s had some short term relationships but none have worked out. He’s a good looking guy (even has a 6 pack) with an awesome high power career and is genuinely kind but he has a lot of mental health issues and severe depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:03 PM
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Yikes, how long did you stay with her for?! Cigarette smoking is one of my only deal breakers. The cats I could have dealt with by placing a pet door connected to a catio in the backyard; it completely eliminates the need for litter boxes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:53 PM
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Oh definitely I agree that past a certain threshold income doesn’t matter. But the threshold is much lower than millions of dollars. It’s probably somewhere around 200k depending on location. My friend circle is very high earning women and almost all make significantly more than their husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:44 PM
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In terms of status it was. She had to pay child support to both her exes Gabriel Aubrey and Olivier Martinez because she made so much more money than them. I’d say she was looks matched with both but the argument put forth by many on this sub is that women care about status more than looks and never date down economically which I don’t think is quite accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 11:15 PM
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What about Halle Berry?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:48 PM
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Plus, I have noticed a pattern...men are really only concerned about kids when the man is with the mom. They'll lose interest in their biological kids once they date another woman with kids, or whatever. Suddenly, they "love these kids like their own" even when they never see their own kids. It almost seems like a lot of dads don't actually bond with the kids, even if they are their bio kids. It all has more to do with the bond with the woman. This really resonated with me and mirrors what I’ve …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 04:22 PM
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Yeah, I actually do engage in casual sex/FWB in the sense that I’m not looking for a LTR (I’m ENM) but I make sure to get to know potential partners well by talking a lot before we ever meet in person. I don’t present as liberal just going by appearance/stereotypes (I dress relatively modest, no face piercings or visible tattoos and natural hair color). IME most conservative men are not very good at hiding their conservative opinions past a few days or weeks. I always end up with dudes to the le…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:37 PM
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I don’t know if I’d call myself a feminist but I’m pretty progressive and ENM which is very non-traditional. I won’t sleep with sexually or socially conservative men. I’ve actually ghosted men on Tinder for making homophobic comments even if they’re very conventionally attractive. The men I’ve slept with all do tend to look/present traditionally masculine (fit, muscles etc.) but I actually prefer it if they have some traditionally feminine traits too (artistic, great with kids, nurturing, great …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:24 PM
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You really think that if the groom was a doctor making 400k and the bride was flying a Spirit plane, he’d be sitting in a co-pilot chair? In general I think work-themed weddings are corny af but maybe that’s just me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 12:35 AM
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This is true. One of my friends is a radiologist and she married a pilot. She makes well over his salary (400k compared to 150k) and their wedding was aviation-related. They even had had “pilot” and “co-pilot” on their chairs 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 10:08 PM
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Yes, younger men (like over 10 years younger than me). Maybe musicians too or something that requires a lot of travel
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:42 PM
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Sexual submission is totally different than financial submission or submission in other realms. Lots of independent “feminist” “boss-babe” type women love being sexually submissive to men they’re attracted to. There’s also men who are very dominant and successful professionally (CEOs, lawyers, surgeons etc.) who get off on fem-dom, cross-dressing, humiliation fetishes and all sorts of kinky shit 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:47 PM
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Some women seem to implicitly believe in something I like to call pussy osmosis. If someone tells them "I'm a doctor," they respond with "oh my ex-bf/husband was a doctor." What that means from them is that "I'm pretty much that too." I've seen these women flat out state incorrect medical, legal, and engineering principles (the latter one much much less), and argue with professionals about them. So if they are arguing with strangers or acquaintances regarding subjects they lack the competence to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:39 PM
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I went away for college and then moved back in with my parents for grad school to save money when I was in my mid-20s. It wasn’t weird at all but my family is Hispanic and that’s considered normal in our culture… especially if you’re single but even if you’re married you can still bring your spouse to live with family and it’s not a big deal. It may make dating a little awkward though if you want to bring someone back to your place (I never did lol until I was engaged).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:08 PM
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You’re right, I agree with you. Thanks for your thoughtful response and insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:06 PM
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That’s interesting, I think it’s so much worse to call someone autistic as an insult the way people used to throw around the R-word. We should just call out the negative behavior or trait without trying to pull out the DSM-5. I’d much rather go back to using words like dork or loser, jerk or stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:56 PM
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Definitely, in general all kinds of people like to say “I would never date so-and-so group” but when an attractive person comes along who they have chemistry with, barring any major conflicts in values or lifestyle, they tend to reconsider. Glad it’s working out for you 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 07:37 PM
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This is anecdotal but Amy Schumer’s husband is autistic and she’s often described as a “man-hating feminist” lol. I actually think the general population doesn’t know a lot about autism and so when you ask women if they’d be open to dating an autistic man they picture Rain Man and say “nah, I’ll pass”. But if the right person comes along who happens to be autistic well that’s different
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 05:41 PM
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Sure, most guys have measured their dicks and can Google the average size in their country but even if they’re objectively above average many still feel inadequate or just average. Maybe due to porn idk It’s almost like an irrational insecurity that they don’t really believe they’re big until they hear it from multiple people and then they start to internalize it. Then there’s guys who know they’re big but still buy the wrong size condoms because they didn’t realize they were “that” big
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:02 PM
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Sure, but 6 inches is pretty close to average and try finding that in studio porn from 20+ years ago. There is a niche market for micro porn but I’m not sure who exactly watches/lusts over it… I suspect it may be males or non-binary people… there may be a few cis het women too who like watching it, almost any kink you can imagine exists under the sun. In ancient cultures, big penises have been associated with virility and fertility the same way that large breasts/hips have been associated with f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:51 PM
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I work in healthcare so I’ve probably seen thousands of penises lol (most weren’t erect tho). Plus there’s porn and unsolicited dick pics
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 12:22 AM
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Yea, I never really understood “girl inches” and how they could be reportedly so off on size. Maybe because when I was a teenager I measured my hand (6.5 inches in length) so I’m pretty accurate estimating especially between 6 and 7 inches. Girth is a lot more difficult to accurately estimate in cm or inches
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 12:13 AM
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The term big dick energy became popular around 2018 I believe. But I’ve heard variations of the opposite for a long time, like the man who likes fast expensive cars or huge jacked trucks as a way to “compensate” for a perceived lack of masculinity in other aspects. As far as when and why big penises became desired or viewed positively, I’m not sure. It may have something to do with pornography. If you watch classic porn from like the 70s the men are well endowed. And interviews with the director…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 06:47 PM
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Me too!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 12:56 AM
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I disagree. My husband was raised for the most part by a single mother (had some step fathers too) and most of my exes were also raised by single mothers. I’ve found that they’re usually more independent when it comes to cooking, cleaning and chores (same for men whose fathers helped around the house). I think it’s a small subset of men who were raised by toxic mothers that have mommy issues. If they have a positive relationship with their mother and genuinely respect her that typically leads to…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 12:54 AM
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We actually met online but this was 15 years ago. A lot of my friends/colleagues met their partners in college or grad school
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:40 PM
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I’m a high earner and my husband actually takes care of the home/kids. Most of my friends/female colleagues also make significantly more than their husbands. It’s mostly low earning women that want a high earning partner ime which makes sense because of the financial stress and trying to support a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:06 PM
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But how many of them are bots, OFs, or scammers?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 07:04 PM
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I agree. The word “awkward” really stuck out to me like there was no human connection or chemistry between them. It’s probably best they don’t see each other again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:46 PM
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This was how I read the situation as well. So many people on this thread are saying she caught feelings/wanted something serious but I suspect she wanted more friendship and human connection from him in addition to the sex, not necessarily a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:40 PM
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I think this is a case of each of them having different expectations about what “casual sex” means. He wanted hook-ups/booty calls while she probably wanted true FWB. I’m a woman who does enjoy casual sex but only with people I have a real friendship with and feel mutual respect and affection for. If we can’t have a genuine conversation about our lives, fears, hopes, and dreams then we don’t need to be fucking. But that’s just my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:24 PM
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Most of the men that I’ve been with (LTR or even FWB) tend to be pretty jealous and don’t want to know the details/have mental images of me with other men… Except for one who actually has a cuck fetish and wanted to hear all the details of my past sexual experiences to jack off to. At first it took me by surprise and it was neither a turn on or a turn off. Then the more I realized how much he was enjoying the stories, it started to turn me on. I actually had to make up new slutty stories to tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 11:14 PM
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Know what a Fleshlight is? If not, the TL;DR description is it's a TPC/silicone tube used as a masturbatory aid for men (a "pocket pussy") that gets mounted inside a plastic shell that resembles a flashlight shell. Imagine what it would be like if we fastened that thing firmly inside of your hoo-hah (so the only thing making contact with you is the hard plastic shell of the device, which won't be moving at all), and he just fucked the silicone tube inside the shell instead of you. Still sound ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:07 PM
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Wife of a house husband here 🙋🏻‍♀️ I love it and don’t give a damn about what anyone else thinks about our relationship. I think a lot of men say they would be happy with a homemaker wife but very few actually would. The reality is you need a really high income (probably at least 200k annually depending on location) to support a family with a stay at home parent or be very frugal. Most people just don’t make enough money for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 09:47 PM
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Interesting premise. It appears that what you’re describing is “chemical castration” which is already available as antiandrogen medications (cyproterone acetate, flutamide, or gonadotropin-releasing hormone agonists) that in effect lower libido. I’ve seen different studies with conflicting results on whether higher testosterone is linked to sex crimes and whether using chemical castration for sex offenders is actually effective in limiting recidivism. That’s because aggression and sexually based…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 09:30 PM
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Are people actually calling Tate an incel or are they calling his followers incels? Tate and Tristan are obviously literal pimps
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 02:01 AM
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Agree that Davidson is in the top percentages compared to average men. But the interesting thing is that he actually does better with women than other top tier male celebrities who are richer, more successful and more conventionally handsome. The women he dates don’t need status or money. This is where his personality comes in. He seems like he has a vibe that a lot of women seek out, with his chill self-deprecating humor. He seems like the kind of guy that you can both be emotionally vulnerable…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:58 AM
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Oh definitely, wisely picking your battles is the key to a functional marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 09:00 PM
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Yeah, I really think it could be a game changer. I’m hoping it will be widely available in the next 5 years
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:57 PM
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I actually made a post a while back asking how many men would be willing to use RISUG (Reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance) if it became available. There were a lot of men who said yes but a lot also said no, that they were worried about side effects (even tho RISUG is non-hormonal and fully reversible). I’m actually a proponent of more methods for men to regulate their own fertility. I can’t have kids anymore so I don’t have a dog in the fight, but I’d absolutely want something like R…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:43 PM
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Bear spray is good too :-) lol, I’ll have to keep that in mind But I thought women were into hipster guys in skinny pants now... Eh, it depends on the woman, some are and some aren’t. It probably depends on the particular man too and his overall build and face, style etc. Some guys look good really slim and others look good with muscle, some even look good with a dad bod
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:36 PM
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Are you sure those women aren’t also sleeping with other men? How would you know if you’re dividing your time up between different women? It would be really challenging to keep tabs on each one’s sex life unless you lived in a polygamous compound or something
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:20 PM
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I haven’t seen any studies regarding catching feelings among ENM/poly women compared to men. But I suspect women who have their own rotation of men (maybe 3-4 at a time) are less likely to catch feelings for one of them in particular over the others (when compared to serially monogamous women that is). At least this is what I’ve seen ime
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:16 PM
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Most people don’t need protection. And if they do, guns are a lot more effective than muscles. But muscles are nice to look at regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:47 PM
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The Supreme Court actually ruled that the police don’t have a duty to protect citizens. Just look at Castle Rock vs Ramirez and also what happened in Uvalde. The armed cops just stood around outside waiting while the kids were massacred inside the school. Meanwhile there were unarmed parents (male and female) who were breaking into the school past the police to try to save their kids. A lot of men get off on playing the protector role and it’s kind of cute and hot but in real life it almost neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:23 PM
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Competent in what way? Most people have their strengths and weaknesses and will be above average in some areas and below average in others. I’m more competent at making money and financial planning than my husband (I make 6 figures) but he’s more competent in construction, auto repairs, guns, and cooking. We’ve been married over a decade
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:04 PM
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Most people (both men and women) don’t have real empathy for other people who struggle with issues that they (or a close friend/family member) haven’t personally dealt with. There’s an old pastor/writer Tony Campolo who used to say to his audience: “first, while you were sleeping last night, 30,000 kids died of starvation or diseases related to malnutrition. Second, most of you don't give a shit. What's worse is that you're more upset with the fact that I said shit than the fact that 30,000 kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 08:36 PM
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This is spot on. I think men mostly care about what their friends, family, and society think of them. I’ve never been asked my “body count”. Most men assume it’s low because I dress classy/elegant and have a respectable career but they absolutely love it when I act like a slut in bed with them. It’s really easy to just avoid talking about your exes and random dick from the past, unless you live in a really small town or something. I bet most men if they’re honest would prefer a woman who had an …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:54 PM
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No way. The majority of men physically peak in their late 20s. After 30-35 many of them physically decline sometimes rapidly by becoming more bald, more overweight and more wrinkled (women too but it absolutely happens for men as well). I’m in my late thirties but look 10-15 years younger and most men in my age group looked way more physically attractive when they were in their 20s. That’s why cosmetic procedures are also becoming more common for men: hair transplants, liposuction and abdominal …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:35 PM
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I think you should filter your dates to women who are more likely to agree with you. I know it’s different but I’m a progressive woman living in a red state that’s never had a problem finding like-minded dating partners or friends for that matter. Most cities have a mix of people and political ideology is typically a spectrum. It probably would also depend on how extreme your views are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:14 PM
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I think the incel phenomenon is probably a combination of factors, many of which are socioeconomic. I haven’t seen any good data on the subject but I’ve always thought the trope of conservative men with liberal women was really odd and I don’t know any couples like that in real life. Most people match up with partners that have similar beliefs ime tho they may not agree on every detail. For me personally I only have sex (casual or LTR) with men who are progressive and sex positive. I’m not talki…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 01:00 AM
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I don’t speak for all women by any means but I personally don’t have a problem with the legalization of prostitution in theory. I do worry about exploitation of vulnerable persons though especially in areas with large inequality. I posted this on a prior thread which expands on my view. “I have family and friends in South America (mostly Colombia but also Ecuador) where prostitution is legal and relatively common. It’s viewed similarly to going to a strip club in the U.S. in the way that men of …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 07:40 PM
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Myron Gaines on FnF says all the time that men are superior to women and most of the men on the panel agree with him, either implicitly or overtly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 08:46 PM
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I’m a woman and while I haven’t been in love with every man that I’ve had sex with, I definitely liked them all as people and considered them my friends. I would tend to agree that having sex as a woman puts you in a more vulnerable position than it does as a man, so it’s more important to vet male partners before being alone and naked with them. However contrary to the stereotypes, I didn’t want to cling to and marry them immediately after we had sex. Actually more often than not, it was the op…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:48 PM
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What about a job like an accountant? Could you do that? At least from your vocabulary and sentence structure you don’t appear to be below average intelligence. I think your issues in finding a job that pays more are probably related to motivation and focus rather than intelligence but of course I don’t know you so that’s just my snap judgement. You can take it with a grain of salt. If you want to be a house husband you’ll need to up your cooking and cleaning game. I’d take some culinary classes …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:06 PM
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So I’m the breadwinner in my relationship and I have several female friends who are also the breadwinners in their relationships. We’re all high earners and can afford to raise a family on one income but this is not the norm in the U.S. where I live. You pretty much need two average incomes to maintain a decent quality of life. Our husbands have to “make up” for not earning as much by doing more around the house and helping more with childcare. That’s how things work in a partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 07:59 PM
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Sure thing. The minoxidil doesn’t really have side effects if it’s topical. If it’s oral you may notice lower blood pressure and more body hair too. The finasteride or dutasteride is the one with more potential side effects. The one everyone worries about is ED. I actually didn’t want my husband to take it at first b/c I was worried about it and he joked that he’d rather be bald and have his dick work than the alternative lol. But his dermatologist reassured us that with the low dose dutasteride…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 07:45 PM
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Sure, I’m always happy to give advice! Probably the most impactful thing is maintaining a healthy weight… you don’t have to be a gym bro or anything but being relatively fit will make you more desirable that most of your peers (especially in the U.S.). That’s probably the biggest reason men (and women too) lose their looks as they age and their metabolism slows. The next thing is hair and I’ll probably get some hate for this, but trying to maintain a good hairline will make you look up to 10 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:26 PM
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Definitely most men physically peak in mid to late 20s but mid 30s to 40s and beyond is where most men physically depreciate sometimes rapidly. Some men who are genetically blessed and have a healthy lifestyle are able to keep their looks for a lot longer. My husband is one of them but most men in my age group (late 30s, early 40s) look much worse than they did in their 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:54 PM
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Definitely, a 40 y/o divorced dad with 2 tweens probably isn’t going to want anything serious with a 21 y/o college student. Many older men definitely will still desire younger women for sex but most, if they’re sensible, desire peace and compatibility more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:48 PM
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I LOVE doing yard work, it’s like therapy for me lol. You know you can just go to CarMax and get a reliable car at a fair price, no negotiations needed right? We own guns so in the extremely unlikely event of a home invasion, my husband would take the Beretta and I’d take the revolver. We would be a team just like with everything else in life
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 07:24 PM
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No, I think there’s still a lot of good men out there. It depends on how you define good though. If someone is looking for a high earner that is also physically attractive and a decent person and good in bed… well, that’s more difficult to find. Because of current economic conditions and the hyper-concentration of wealth, there’s not many men who earn a decent living to support an entire family like in past generations. So women have to work in most families and if the man isn’t contributing equ…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 07:02 PM
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Icks are culturally/socially conditioned and less biologically/instinctively driven imo. For example as a teenager I was attracted to male homo/bisexuality especially watching two men kiss each other. Then I became an evangelical Christian in college and was constantly told how “disgusting that was” and so it began to “give me the ick”. Later I left the church and started running in more progressive circles and I find that attractive again 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 06:26 PM
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How old is he? In general I don’t care. But if he’s 22 with a body count in the triple digits he probably was abused/groomed by an older woman (or several) as a teenager and that may have affected him psychologically in ways that he hasn’t fully appreciated. Does he work in the sex industry (like doing OF with ex-girlfriends for example)? Any history of substance abuse (that tends to go along with promiscuity)? A 40 year old with a body count of 100 is very different and not really a big deal im…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 06:00 PM
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Lol, that’s a common answer I hear. Ime only very religious men are disgusted or disturbed by girl-on-girl sex (the caveat being that the women are feminine and conventionally attractive of course). Most other groups of men don’t really care or think it’s hot, probably because the don’t really view other women as competitors or as a threat to their masculinity the way they view other men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:43 PM
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Just MFM threesomes or are threesomes with other women also dealbreakers for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 09:37 PM
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25 is just a nice easy arbitrary number; it’s not any different than 24. Why isn’t the “cut-off” 22 when many people graduate from college? Or 26 when you can’t be on your parents health insurance anymore? Everyone is unique and has their own timeline in life. Yes, it was sad to lose someone so precious. Life is filled with a lot of sorrow in general. But I think there’s a refining element of suffering for people who don’t become bitter. Ime people who have experienced loss but still try to love…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 03:43 PM
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No, it’s not too late. One of the best lovers I had told me he lost his virginity at 24 just due to lack of opportunity (went to an all boys school and was shy when he was younger). He had a few relationships after that and married the woman of his dreams at 30. She unfortunately died of cancer after 5 years. We met after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:10 PM
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What is “obesessively short”? Also most people are not ugly because of things they can’t change. Most are ugly because of obesity, bad teeth, acne or sun damaged skin, bad posture etc. You ever seen Cristiano Ronaldo when he was poor? Not ugly but definitely not handsome.
/r/AllPillDebate05/11/23 06:26 PM
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Ah, I see, that would make more sense but in that case it’s not really a preference at all. I do think there are men who do indeed prefer larger women (like Ashley Graham) but it seems to be more individual or cultural and not really related to low or high T. I’m not even completely convinced that absolute free or total testosterone levels perfectly correlate with male virility and libido tbh tho
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 08:36 PM
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Men who inject testosterone legally from a doctor do it because they have low testosterone to begin with and have symptoms of hypogonadism (low energy, low libido, depression). Otherwise they shouldn’t be injecting testosterone due to the risks (MI, stroke, PE, DVT). Most of the men who do use exogenous testosterone are older (40 plus) though there are some younger men who do. I looked up some studies and honestly none were particularly well-designed. But it appears they found a trend where men …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 03:47 PM
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For me, hormonal birth control really lowered my libido while I was on it but it didn’t change the type of men that I find attractive. It was weird, like I would aesthetically appreciate some men but had very little sexual desire for anyone even people I found to be beautiful. My taste in men has been pretty consistent since I was a teenager. Getting off hormonal birth control significantly increased my libido
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 10:08 PM
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It’s not that big of a deal. I’ve known many great men who were raised predominantly by single mothers. Just look at president Obama. Whether or not you agree with his politics, pretty much everyone agrees that he seems like a loving and supportive husband and father. I think he’s also a really good example of positive masculinity and balancing strength, reason, and compassion. Most well-adjusted men that have been raised by single mothers have had some sort of positive male role model in their …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:59 PM
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Context is really important for showing emotional vulnerability. If a woman judges you for being sad about your friend dying you should cry in front of her now that way you can end the relationship before you’re too invested. She’s not someone you want to go through life’s ups and downs with. The only times I’ve ever judged people for emotional vulnerability is if they over-share when we don’t have that kind of relationship yet (for example co-workers who always have some drama going on). I just…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 05:51 PM
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I like autistic people in general; I may even be on the spectrum myself. I’m against anyone being bullied (unless they’re dishing it out and need to be taken down a peg). There’s nothing wrong with with being virgin. What most people have a problem with is misogynistic or otherwise hateful rhetoric (if you go to the all pill debate sub, it’s full of it) that can radicalize young people and lead to harm. It’s true though that the majority of misogynistic men are not autistic and are not even ince…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 05:32 PM
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I’ve never heard of low vs high testosterone affecting men’s preferences in women. I think it would be somewhat difficult to study given the fluctuations in testosterone daily and with age. I have heard of well-endowed men preferring women with a big ass though and that seems to correspond with my personal experience as well
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 05:09 PM
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So I don’t know who Mimi Shou is and don’t follow influencers, but I’m a conventionally attractive woman and make 6 figures so I’ll take a stab at this. Based on my experiences and those of women I know (economically successful, some attractive and some not so much), I would presume the problem is her standards. If you reach a certain level of financial/career success as a woman and expect to find a man who is more successful than you who you’re also sexually attracted to, then you’re probably g…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:35 PM
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Probably 50% of the time I initiate. I used to initiate just by saying “let’s fuck” but that didn’t turn really turn him on. So now I just put on lingerie and walk over to wherever he is in the house after the kids are asleep. That works much better
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 11:40 PM
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I agree about CNC being mostly about desire and the taboo of transgressing consent, but I also think there’s a component of just not wanting to think or analyze the sex or your partner’s enjoyment and to just receive pleasure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 08:18 PM
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I’m inclined to agree with you especially if bondage is added into it, then performing oral could be a very dominant act
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 08:03 PM
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I disagree based on personal experience but I don’t have any studies to back it up (I would be interested to see them if they exist). In real life the only man I’ve ever known who actually had a cuck fetish and a pegging fetish was 6’3 with an 8” dick, former athlete with a great job, successful with women, and secure in his masculinity 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ve also heard stories from dominatrix escorts that a lot of powerful men like to play the submissive role in bed almost as an escape from the daily grind
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 08:00 PM
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I don’t think it’s too much of an outlier in the real world. I’m also 5’2 and height isn’t even something I think much about when deciding whether I want to date someone. I’ve dated 5’6 to 6’3 and when I match with someone on OLD I never even ask their height because it’s such a non-issue for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 12:32 PM
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If mandatory paternity testing in hospitals sponsored by the government was projected to be a net positive financial endeavor then I would potentially support it (Like if there was a system to rapidly pair each infant with the biological father so child support could be allocated more rapidly). But it sounds like a huge bureaucratic burden and you would need a data bank of male DNA which sounds like a privacy violation (could be used by law enforcement too). Also would you automatically exempt c…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 09:32 PM
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I know a lot of female doctors that are married to male nurses, teachers, engineers, and low tier business men (not CEOs making 7 figures). Some male doctors are married to female nurses but it’s not as common as it used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 07:40 PM
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Well if they commit violent crimes, they’re probably bad people. But the context of their upbringing and what they had to do to survive in lower SES environments should be taken into consideration to some extent. I had this roommate in college who grew up in the projects in the Bronx. Her mother died when she was 5 and her father was in jail. She was raised by her grandmother who used to take in foster kids to supplement the family income. She told me that she was so bitter and enraged as an ado…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 05:02 PM
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Interesting theory. Lol, what would the potential government intervention be?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:19 PM
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You’re not wrong, but human sexuality is a bit more complicated that big penises = good/lots of respect. So the biggest guy I’ve been with was almost 8 inches and thick. He was actually really gentle and considerate, made sure I was completely aroused before penetration so I never had much pain with him. (I actually had more pain with men who were average size but they were more aggressive/didn’t have enough foreplay etc.) Anyways, so this boyfriend with a huge dick actually had a cuck and peggi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:55 AM
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That’s actually really nice. As a woman I can’t say that watching porn diversified my tastes unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:01 AM
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Agree, for me it was the college experience that movies gave me unrealistic expectations of. I thought it would be non-stop parties and adventures but I went to a college that was mostly cutthroat nerds lol. So most of my memories are of the campus library. I also thought I would find a serious boyfriend in college but that didn’t happen either
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 04:20 PM
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That’s really interesting. What body types did you start to become attracted to that you weren’t attracted to before?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 04:15 PM
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Imagine a beautiful woman licking and caressing your balls and looking deep into your eyes but not touching your dick at all. It would probably feel good right? But most men are not going to orgasm from that ball licking and would probably start masturbating or want to switch to PIV sex. Well , that’s how penetration without sufficient clitoral stimulation is for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 11:06 PM
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Lol I vaguely remember that episode with evil Mickey Mouse and the Jonas brothers
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:35 PM
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If it were true, yeah. He’s from a country where people are brutally honest and vain af
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:16 PM
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Based and accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:34 PM
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How do you know it wasn’t because you took too long (an hour) to text back?
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/23 03:43 PM
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I think so. My dad is no Chad but at 60 y/o he managed to find a nice attractive 50 y/o girlfriend at a his neighborhood bar. They’ve been living together for 5 years now
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 03:40 PM
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I would be genuinely curious and ask her for details about the experience and what she was looking for by paying for sex. I wouldn’t judge her at all. I’m sex positive though and I don’t shame men for seeing escorts either. I don’t think there’s a big market for women paying hot men for sex outside of narrow uncommon circumstances (disfigured women, extremely wealthy older women, socially awkward/anxious women, older virgin women, maybe women with a history of abuse that still have desire etc.) …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:48 PM
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I have no problem with a paternity test but only if he can prove he’s not a chimera first
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:32 PM
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I don’t know if it’s common but it’s a losing strategy imo. I know a lot women who dated/married “down” in terms of looks and still got cheated on. A lot of times it was with other women that weren’t nearly as attractive as them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:24 PM
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Yes, it definitely would be a dealbreaker for me. Tbh tho there was a time where I was on a particular type of hormonal birth control that killed my sex drive and I wouldn’t have cared during that time. Now that I have a high sex drive again I prefer a partner with similar high libido
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:15 PM
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my first and current long term relationship literally came from tinder Does that make you a Chad or a high tier normie? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:10 PM
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I know the exception doesn’t make the rule but I should have hit the wall 8 years ago and I look younger/better now than in my 20s. This morning Facebook sent me a “memory” of an old pic from 13 years ago when I was 25 and my husband said I looked older/frumpier back then 😂. Imo women should prioritize career in their youth because money and lifestyle strongly affect beauty/aging even more than actual time does
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:59 PM
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Idk… one was a 5’7 broke brown guy that grew up with a single mom and worked a boring low level accounting job. Not exactly typical Chad characteristics but he absolutely sleighed with women. He was also charismatic, progressive, relatively fit, and facially attractive in his favor though. Most real people are too complex to divide into Chad and normie boxes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 02:05 PM
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I graduated HS when Bush was president lol. Also I married in my 20s. But a few years ago I started dating and using Tinder. I mostly match with men in their 20s and actually form friendships with a lot of them. I can only give my perspective based on that varied experience. Sure, I recognize it’s probably harder if you’re a young guy who’s not conventionally attractive on OLD. I don’t think that much has changed to be honest though
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:47 PM
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Lol, true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:14 PM
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That’s an interesting perspective and intuitively makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:31 PM
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Most introverts still do like people and socializing but in smaller groups. We tend to prefer a smaller house party where we know some people versus a larger party/club atmosphere. It takes a lot of energy to socialize for introverts. We also tend to prefer deeper conversation rather than superficial small talk. I think introverts might have done ok with speed dating back in the day (since it’s one on one) but mixers where they actively have to mingle would be torture. The advantage for conventi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:26 PM
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The not thrilled part is interesting. I usually side with the enthusiastically yes or it's a no camp on that. Have you gone through with it and found there's no resentment coming from him, and the marriage is still healthy? Yes, it’s been 4 years now. On your side of things, are you ever worried that the cheating itself was indicative of a tendency for dishonesty and betrayal, or do you really think it was just sex for him? I’m sure it was just sex for him and he didn’t actively want to hurt/bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:00 PM
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You sound completely judgmental and closed minded. I never said open relationships were the solution. I explained why the divorce rate might be much lower in gay men than it is in lesbian women. Everyone should do what works best for them. If you want an exclusively monogamous relationship than you do you 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:37 PM
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Yes, imo no self-respecting woman would tolerate a one-sided open relationship unless she’s asexual or financially dependent on her husband. It was basically an open marriage or we get divorced and neither of us wanted a divorce (for many reasons). So my husband agreed. Though he’s not thrilled at the thought of me occasionally seeing other people, he enjoys the new freedom he gained by opening up the marriage. We have a don’t ask don’t tell policy now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:17 PM
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Interesting… why do you think that it wouldn’t be the case for lesbian marriages/LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:10 PM
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IBS is “functional GI disorder” which is medicalese for a psychological disorder that manifests in physical symptoms. That’s why there’s not a specific test to diagnose IBS. In other words the mind affects the body. Also people with IBS have a very very high rate of other psychiatric disorders. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5628988/#:~:text=Irritable%20bowel%20syndrome%20(IBS)%20is,have%20associated%20psychiatric%20co%2Dmorbidity.
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 05:35 PM
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Did you even read OP’s post? They asked “Anyone else have health problems or a disability that you think influences your romantic success?” And you responded “Ibs.” Which is why I commented that I understand why IBS is affecting your dating life. English may not be your first language but your reading comprehension is shit bro. Also IBS and IBD are NOT the same thing. IBD (Crohn’s and ulcerative colitis) is a real biopsy proven autoimmune disease that attacks the GI system, whereas IBS is basica…
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 05:23 PM
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IBS is fundamentally a psychological disease similar to fibromyalgia. I can see why it would influence your lack of romantic success
/r/AllPillDebate17/10/23 04:46 PM
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Lol, I’m not sure what you’re asking. Are you asking if an open marriage is okay for Christians? Well I’m probably uniquely qualified to answer this as I used to be evangelical and am now in an open marriage. The short answer is: No, this will be disapproved of in the vast majority of Christian denominations and churches. The longer answer: Maybe just maybe you could find a progressive Christian church that is welcoming to LGTBQ+ members and this may include ethical non-monogamy. Interestingly, …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 03:51 PM
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Lol, yes! I’m old enough to remember calling a boy’s home phone landline in middle school and being sooo anxious when his parents answered the phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:28 PM
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Dating was actually probably much worse for introverts in the past prior to OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:25 PM
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Ew to what part exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:11 PM
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As a woman who has watched porn since I was teenager, I actually agree that it does lead to some unrealistic expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:35 PM
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Haha, when I was younger I measured the length of my hand (6.5 inches) so I’m great at estimating between 6 and 7 inches. Over 7 inches and I just rely on whatever he tells me it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:33 PM
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About a third of gay men are non-monogamous/in open relationships. https://www.them.us/story/30-percent-gay-men-open-relationships-new-study https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5958351/#:~:text=When%20analyzing%20the%20whole%20sample,heterosexual%20participants%2C%2014%25%20of%20gay Only about 5% of lesbian couples are open/non-monogamous. The bottom line is gay men are much more likely to forgive infidelity or have an open policy from the beginning than either lesbians or heterosexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:28 PM
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This isn’t a thing ime. One of my best friends is a gay man. Once when we were in college we watched porn together and he absolutely freaked out when he saw the actress’ vulva/clit, saying that it was so gross. I started cracking up laughing but that always stayed in my mind and I never fantasized about turning a gay man straight. I do believe that sexuality is a spectrum and not binary though. I’m slightly bi myself. I wouldn’t mind hooking up with a bi man if I had the opportunity. For me it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:14 AM
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For long term I prefer men my age (38). For casual, I prefer men in their mid to late 20s 😉
/r/AllPillDebate16/10/23 03:45 AM
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Have you considered ENM?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:41 AM
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Not just companionship or the boyfriend experience, but I also read about women in Japan paying for yoni/erotic massages. I actually think there would be a decent market for this in western countries also (if it was legal)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:14 AM
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I did want a househusband ever since I was a teenager and that’s what I got 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:06 AM
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Online dating gets a lot of hate but I think it’s actually really good for introverted people (caveat: that they’re also physically attractive). Not everyone is good at mingling in small/large groups or joining a bunch of extracurricular activities and being social butterflies. So for introverts it at least gives them an opportunity to show that they’re interested in finding a partner and engage one on one
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:42 AM
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I actually do want y’all to have success in dating because I think society is better without a bunch of bitter resentful people. I don’t dislike men. I’ve been married for over a decade and I have young sons. I have a good relationship with my father, brother, uncles, and male cousins. I try to give based advice but a lot people are so far gone that they’d rather just wallow in misery and blame all their problems on women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:45 AM
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Sure, for sex men are easy. But all of them wanted to have relationships with me and paraded me around their friends, introducing me as their girlfriend. One even introduced me to his mother and later begged me to divorce my husband. No, I don’t have model tier looks but I’m usually one of the most attractive in a room full of random people. I frequently get unsolicited complements on my looks from people of all ages and genders when I’m just trying to do my job or go to the grocery store. But y…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:34 AM
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”Yeah the saddest realization I ever had as a man… that I’ll more than likely never find a woman I can 100% truly trust. Trusting the wrong person can result in permanent damage. That’s why every time I have sex unless she’s a 9/10 I might as well use protection. I can’t even have fun hooking up anymore because women don’t practice chasity it’s like you said, your just the next cocks she’ll be bounce on until she gets bored and 9/10 you’re putting in sweat effort money and emotional labor to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:05 PM
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Not everyone looks their age. People think my husband and I are both 10-15 years younger than we actually are. Plenty of young people look old too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 10:18 PM
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I don’t agree that men have it “so much easier.” But to answer your question, it’s because men are more likely to use methods that are more reliable such as firearms whereas women are more likely to take pills etc. Interestingly physicians and nurses have higher rates of suicide partly due to their medical knowledge regarding the easiest ways to complete suicide.
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/23 10:07 PM
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I prob am a statistical outlier in some ways. I’m one of the few women I know that actually enjoys watching porn regularly. I’ve also always been attracted to bisexuality in males (which I’ve been told women are supposed to hate/be disgusted by). Oddly enough I used to be evangelical and grew up in a very sex negative environment. I married young in my 20s (I wasn’t a virgin but had a low body count). I was completely monogamous/faithful to my husband for over a decade until I finally got tired …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 08:51 PM
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😂 I’m 38. Tbh I actually match with more men in their 20s than men my age. I tend to emotionally connect more with men my age though. The youngest I’ve slept with was 26 (I was 37 at the time). I’ve chatted/sexted with as young as 22
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 07:58 PM
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This is spot on, most accurate and insightful comment on the thread
/r/AllPillDebate11/10/23 06:31 PM
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Does your girlfriend know you’re having sex with other women? How do you know she’s not doing the same? She could be riding another dick right now
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:47 PM
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Lol, my best friend’s grandma was born with syphilis which she contracted from her mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:40 PM
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Destiny dismantled the whole AF/BB theory in the debate with Rollo/Sartain on FnF. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AOcbaUaxHSA Most women also work now so they’re not looking for a “provider”. Most women in modern times would rather stay single and childless, or adopt, or find a sperm donor and raise a child on their own than be married to a man they’re not attracted to and don’t like. You’re also assuming that attraction is static. It isn’t and changes with time. Recently one of my exes found me …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:26 PM
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I understand what you’re saying but just FYI there was actually a woman in India who gave birth at the age of 73 via IVF (only 10 years younger than Al Pacino). She used an egg donor. But now with egg freezing/IVF and gestational surrogates many women can have biological children at older ages. Of course there’s all sorts of ethical reasons why both men and women probably shouldn’t reproduce at geriatric ages (for one the kids will likely be orphans before reaching adulthood).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 01:37 PM
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Myron, is that you? Lol, did you miss the the part where I said my husband CHEATED ON ME 3x before I proposed an open marriage which he agreed to because he’s the one that can’t stay faithful. And yes, I’m still attracted to him, we still have sex several times a week. I’m actually the breadwinner and make 6 figures so all of your theories are shit and based on faulty assumptions you learned from TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 11:28 AM
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🤷🏻‍♀️ you know the saying “people in glass houses shouldn’t throw rocks”. If Pearl was sweet and had based takes, no one would be talking about her looks. It’s the same reason people body shame Trump for his weight and penis size. None is correct or the right thing to do but it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 03:41 AM
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Lol, yeah and I’m getting downvoted for it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:31 PM
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⁠you do know that if you get overwhelmed you can just stop stop swiping right? It’s not like you have to swipe just cause the option is there I do stop swiping after a few minutes but then the matches start coming in and it’s a lot of simultaneous conversations and multitasking going on. After the conversations start to fizzle after a few days I start swiping again. If they say something offensive I unmatch and move on. Rarely I realize they are looking for a wife/LTR so I explain the situation,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:30 PM
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I’m going to be honest here. As an introverted and conventionally attractive ENM woman looking for FWB, Tinder is like playing a game on easy mode. I have 3-4 pictures, a fake name, and no bio. I still have an almost 100% match rate with my right swipes. Many of the matches think I’m a scammer at first especially after I tell them I’m married/ENM. After a few days swiping, I can’t keep up with the messages and sometimes get overwhelmed and stop communicating. For the ones that are more interesti…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:25 PM
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Just curious, how do you know the “women” that you match with OLD aren’t also fake profiles created by men?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:55 PM
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JLo, Monica Bellucci, Halle Berry, and Salma Hayek are all over 50 and look better than Pearl imo. I have older cousins that are over 50 and look younger than Pearl tbh. Some of it is genetic but a lot is taking care of yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:40 PM
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Brittany Venti did a brutal takedown video on Pearl using Pearl’s own clips and how she doesn’t follow the advice she gives
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:34 PM
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True. Most women too tbh. I’d prefer a guy who’s 5”7 with 7” over one that’s 6”5 w 5” every single time
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:53 PM
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But you’re black tho right? Skin with more melanin tends to age better due to less susceptibility to sun damage. Most older white men I’ve seen have lots of wrinkles.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:38 PM
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I’m actually the “breadwinner” in my marriage and most of my female friends also make more money than their husbands. While this is statistically less common, it’s becoming less unusual with time and newer generations. This means that our husbands have to do more around the house and with childcare than more traditional men. Sometimes it does lead to conflict around divisions of labor but most of us are happy and wouldn’t trade our relationships for tradcon ones. I would agree that all relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:09 PM
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I am dating to find another boyfriend(s). I don’t have ONS or fuck people I don’t like. I want an emotional and romantic connection too. I have a soft harem of 3-4 guys that I have long distance relationships with and meet up several times a year. Even when I was single, I never fucked “hot guys” while making “nice relationship guys” wait for sex. I don’t know anyone who does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 06:09 PM
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I’m 38 but I haven’t aged negatively. I look about 15 years younger than my age (still get carded for alcohol regularly) and am objectively better looking than when I was 20 (did some soft looksmaxing). I got married relatively young in my 20s and am in an open marriage (after my husband cheated but I didn’t want to break up the family and we’re otherwise very compatible) so I’m not worried about dying alone. Regardless I do think that maturity and not being desperate to be in a relationship pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:56 PM
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I’m in an open marriage. My husband and I have a don’t ask, don’t tell policy. I proposed this a couple of years ago after the third time he cheated on me. I have never cheated and I’m upfront about my marriage with any potential FWB I have. Honestly I just don’t have time to waste on dates with people I don’t have a strong attraction to. I usually chat with them for weeks or even months before meeting up in person. By then there’s usually great chemistry and great sex. I don’t have the time or …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:45 PM
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I wouldn’t go on a date with a man I’m not sexually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 09:17 PM
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All RPers are just grifters selling false hope to lonely and desperate men, monetizing their suffering Agree completely None of that stuff works for average and below average looking men This isn’t unique to TRP of course but the looksmaxxing advice is solid. A guy who’s overweight or skinny can become significantly more attractive by working out. There’s men who were NPC in my eyes, like I never noticed them at all and then they got fit and all of a sudden I was attracted to them. Having good t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:50 PM
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Unironically Tristan Tate (I’m not a Tate fan or anything) has a video with really solid advice for using Instagram as a dating app. Of course it will only work if you’ve already done looksmaxxing and have enough money to spend to curate a certain profile. If you’re below average attractiveness, I’d recommend eharmony. I know some very mediocre looking people that met on there and got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:29 PM
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Instagram is my favorite
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:41 PM
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This reminds of a comedy bit Josh Johnson did a while back. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=m3YwyhebHlQ Paraphrasing “Ladies can only get 2 out of 3 things in a man: good dick, good person, or good job. Can’t have all 3.” I actually agree and everyone has to settle on some things or stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:41 PM
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What about gay men and straight or bi women? One of my best friends for 20 years is a gay man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 10:21 PM
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Agree, 7-7.5 inches with thick girth is ideal
/r/AllPillDebate05/10/23 04:15 PM
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I’m not really blue pill (definitely not red pill either tho), but I think it’s cringe when anyone on social media declares their preferences and body shames others. However sometimes I do find it amusing if someone’s a notorious bully and then they get made fun of, although I recognize it’s morally wrong to body shame anyone even if they regularly dish it out (i.e. Trump, Pearl, etc.) I personally have no problem with short guys. I’ve dated between 5’6 and 6’3.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 03:34 AM
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You’re contradicting yourself. On the one hand you’re bemoaning the fact that you’re still a virgin at 30 and recognize that it’s not desirable. On the other hand you’re saying there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin and that you don’t want to be with some one who views your virginity negatively. I already advised you to look for a religious woman who values chastity. Or if you just want companionship without sex, look for an asexual woman. Or just stay single. Your value as a person isn’t def…
/r/AllPillDebate05/10/23 02:28 AM
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Positives can outweigh a negative. A 30 y/o virgin is not ideal for most women but if he’s fit, stylish, with a good job, that can outweigh the negative.
/r/AllPillDebate05/10/23 01:58 AM
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I’m trying to help you lose your virginity but if you want to stay bitter and depressed, that’s your prerogative.
/r/AllPillDebate05/10/23 01:35 AM
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I got dogs and guns, I don’t need no man to protect me, lol. For real tho if there was a home invasion my husband probably would do most of the “protecting” (He has military experience and is better with a wide range of weapons. I’m pretty much only competent with a revolver, since my hands are tiny and I have a hard time gripping the semi-automatics we own). I doubt this would ever really happen tho. I’ve been in a lot of ghetto/dangerous environments before and most of the time everything is f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:32 AM
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My advice would be to concentrate on the things you can control: looksmaxxing, working out, stable job/finances, improve social skills (prob the hardest part not gonna lie). Are you religious? This would really help you if you get plugged into a religious community where chastity is praised
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 08:26 PM
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I’m not happy about it. I’m completely ambivalent but I’m realistic and honest. If someone asks where an older inexperienced man can find a virgin partner… well the odds simply aren’t in his favor. The best bet would be to look in religious circles but even there, there’s not too many older virgins and they probably have low libido or they would have already married. I know evangelical circles well and couples are notorious for marrying young and with a short courtship because they want to hurry…
/r/AllPillDebate04/10/23 07:39 PM
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He does well for himself. He cheated on me 3 times before I proposed an open marriage. I actually have to like and respect someone before I have sex with them so my n count isn’t astronomical or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:03 AM
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I’ve fucked guys as short as 5’6 before but they had handsome faces, bigger-than-average dicks, and charisma. If you have nothing else to compensate with, then yeah you’ll probably be an incel.
/r/AllPillDebate02/10/23 09:30 PM
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I’m ethically non-monogamous. I’m already married. So when I date it’s just for fun, to have a nice experience and connection. It’s like having several close friends. I don’t need to have the title of best friend forever with everyone. Therefore I’m not competing with others
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:26 PM
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How long do you talk before you go on the first date? It may be that they’re bored and don’t feel any chemistry or connection with you. Or maybe you said something seemingly innocuous that put their guard up. Idk… it’s impossible to tell as a outsider without at least some more description or details about your dates. I treat first dates as an opportunity to get to know someone better, not as an ego trip. I usually chat with them before meeting up in person though so if I’m not interested in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:47 PM
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So I have casual sex but it’s always with people I like, respect, and have a friendship with first. I tell them from the beginning that I’m married/ethically non-monogamous and that I have no intention of leaving my husband/family but that I’d like to have a nice time together… I met this one guy who was in every aspect a stereotypical high vale man: handsome, educated with a great career, wealthy, tall, athletic/fit, intelligent, well-endowed, family oriented (I actually don’t care about height…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:39 AM
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Without the full text of the Swedish study it’s nearly impossible to make a conclusion on gender differences in leaving a spouse with MS. From the abstract it seems that the authors intent was to only to compare whether or not a person with MS was more likely to divorce compared to a healthy control. It’s reasonable that that if the male study participants have more severe disease than the female study participants then it would add more stress on the relationship and increase the likelihood of …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:14 PM
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I’m not sure the exact year, but FnF haven’t been around for too long (I didn’t even know who they were a couple of years ago). Honestly I only watch FnF when Destiny (or someone similar) is on, but I’ve heard Myron say a variation of the same quote multiple times… it’s probably in his book “Why Women Deserve Less” too. Fresh just parrots whatever Myron says when he makes those kinds of statements. Same with Sneako (tho he did give a little pushback against Rollo once on FnF). Usually most of ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:00 PM
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I’m not able to view the full text of the Swedish study. Did they control for severity of disease since men are more like to have the primary progressive form of MS while women are more likely to have the relapsing-remitting form of MS?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:39 PM
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Do you have links to the MS study in Europe? MS is rarer in men (3 times more common in women) and is more likely to be primary progressive MS rather than the relapsing-remitting MS. This would make comparisons in sex based rates of divorce more difficult and less generalizable to other chronic illnesses. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4857885/ This study is from 2016 looking at the impact of serious physical illness (cancer, stroke, heart and lung disease) on subsequent marital di…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 03:32 PM
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“I understand that men and women are different and men love women far differently than women love men. Men love women for real, women love men under the premise that they provide value. Men love women idealistically, women tend to love men more from an opportunistic standpoint.” This is a literal quote from FnF Myron Gaines. I understand that there may be different perspectives in TRP. Feel free to point me in the direction of other RP content creators who may have a different opinion that doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:40 PM
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Not gonna lie. I love Tinder. If you’re a woman looking for casual, it’s like playing a game on easy mode. I have 3 pictures and no bio and my match rate is nearly 100%. The conversation rate drops off some and of course there are creepy/cringe messages and boring convos with no vibe but who cares, it’s part of the game. For the ones that move on to WhatsApp or Instagram there are lots of dick pics (I don’t mind tbh) and then there might be 1 or 2 FWB that rise to the top. The caveat is that not…
/r/AllPillDebate29/09/23 04:11 AM
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Yes, on average men in their 20s look better than older men. Generally they’re fitter, less bald, less wrinkles. Of course there’s some exceptions and some men look great at 40, 50, even 60 but it’s rarer. Another advantage with younger men for casual is that they typically have more stamina in bed and shorter refractory period on average. For long term relationship there’s not really a difference because frequency of sex tends to decrease, but if you just want a hot weekend together, younger is…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 09:00 PM
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Definitely, I don’t know many women my age (38) who would marry a man in his 20s but for casual encounters it’s perfect. I do think that an age gap makes much less difference at the higher ages though. So a 60 y/o and a 50 y/o may be compatible for a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:08 PM
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Ethically non monogamous. ENM encompasses a wide variety of relationship types under the broader umbrella including Swingers, partner swapping, polyamory/polygamy (multiple committed relationships sometimes co-habitating), threesomes, or just open marriage (occasional casual sex with others, FWB). There’s all sorts of intricacies that I’m not even sure about
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:41 PM
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I don’t really care. I don’t see young women as my competition. I’m objectively more physically attractive now than when I was 20. When I was 20 I was attracted to men a little older than me, maybe 5-8 years older but definitely not 40 year olds. Though I’m glad I married a man the same age as me. Age gap relationships have a very high rate of divorce so in general I advice against it. Age gaps for casual sex actually make much more sense to me from a logical standpoint than age gap marriages do…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 03:13 PM
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Just get a Real Doll. You can custom order them bald to eliminate the shedding. Thank me later https://realsexdoll.com/product/sex-doll-waxd032/
/r/AllPillDebate27/09/23 03:05 AM
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Women’s higher standards for both casual and long term relationships are probably the result of having lots of options from online dating and having their own jobs so they’re not reliant on a man financially. If a woman is looking for something casual she’s going to pick the best looking man that’s her type and that she vibes with. For a long term relationship there will be more factors to consider for compatibility. That being said, I do think porn can lead to unrealistic beauty standards for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:09 PM
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Well in that case my answer is neither
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 03:53 AM
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You’re doing the right thing. Ironically the most sensual kiss I ever had was with a guy that explicitly asked for consent prior.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 10:38 PM
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I’ve heard of this book before. I see she’s also started to write on relaxing ideas around infidelity being a deal breaker in marriage. Something that Dolan also endorses in the end of his monogamy chapter. So I have personal insight into this. My husband cheated on me multiple times during our marriage. I considered divorcing him but the truth is I still loved/love him and we’re otherwise very compatible. We have kids and have been working on building a life together/have long term projects tog…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:47 PM
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Definitely not. Intelligence and morality/ethical values are paramount for long term compatibility. I’m a high earner myself though, so maybe if I was really struggling his financial situation would be more important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 08:53 PM
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In your post you associate frequency of sex primarily with the success of the marriage. I would agree that it’s important but other factors such as quality of sex, frequency of orgasm, and non-sexual intimacy are equally important. Sexual desire is usually reactive in women so if she’s frustrated and annoyed with her husband, she’s probably not going to want to have sex with him. There’s a saying that “foreplay begins at breakfast.” There’s a good book called “Mating in Captivity” that can be he…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 08:45 PM
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The problem is definitely not your height. That’s average to slightly above average height in the U.S. I’ve dated guys between 5’6 and 6’3 and while I don’t care much about height if I had to pick a preference it would be average height guys like you. Stop dwelling on height and focus on the things you can change. Looksmaxxing: go to the gym, skin care regimen, cosmetic dental care, hair care and style
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 06:04 PM
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It's worth noting that research has suggested that half of gay male relationships are consensually non-monogamous. This is really interesting, do you have any links to the research? I hypothesized that ENM among married gay men could be a contributing factor to their lower divorce rate, just based on observations in my own friend group.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 05:52 PM
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Lol, I’m 38 and love 23 year olds for casual. Would never marry one tho
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:56 PM
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Yeah, my post wasn’t to highlight male incompetence but to highlight how much value having a girlfriend/wife brings to a man’s life in ways that aren’t easily economically or statistically quantifiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:31 PM
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Agree, ime it’s inexperienced and insecure people who ask n count questions. I remember when I was 20 and I asked my boyfriend at the time what his n count was. He just laughed and asked me “why do you ask questions that you don’t wanna know the answers to?” That stayed with me and I never felt the need to ask n count questions ever since
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:23 PM
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Nah, sorry to burst your bubble but younger inexperienced women are not less likely to judge you for your inexperience. Are you religious? A very religious older inexperienced woman would be your best bet if you don’t want to take my very practical advice. A younger religious woman would find it odd that you’re not married yet and wonder why not. But an older religious virgin would be in the same boat as you. The problem is finding such a woman. You could try Christian mingle or one of those sit…
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 08:56 PM
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Who knows? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Depends on the individual woman and why you’ve never had any relationships at 30 y/o. It also depends on how attractive and charming you are in the present when you’re with her. But yeah, obviously it’s a yellow flag that you haven’t had a relationship by age 30. That why my advice was to be vague about your past sexual experiences. If you’d like to share more information about your specific situation, I could help you spin it/word it in a way that would be the most appealing to…
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 04:56 PM
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She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. This is true for men too though. You can’t own another human being. Everyone has their own hopes, dreams, and values and people change over time. Their goals and interests may change. It takes a lot of work to keep a marriage going after many years and it’s easy to get complacent. Most men don’t file the divorce paperwork but they often mentally check out of the marriage years before the actual divorce. In some cases by cheating, being irritable and moody co…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:02 PM
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This is so true especially for boomers. My dad’s health was so poor after my mom died. He’s actually a pretty good cook and used to cook for us as kids but doesn’t plan meals for himself. So after my mom died, his diet was exclusively: beer, bacon, canned ravioli, hot dogs and ice cream. I really worried he was going to die too from CV disease and depression/alcohol. But luckily for us he found a girlfriend who moved in with him and cooks for him, takes him to his doctor’s appointments and makes…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:44 PM
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Check out this website for practical tips on sex: https://start.omgyes.com/join This will actually get you ahead of a lot of Chads who have only had ONS Now for how to find someone to have sex with: Looksmaxxing. Go to the gym, fix your teeth, either shave completely or grow a full well-groomed beard, get a good haircut or minoxidil (if balding), skin care regimen, maybe see a stylist for finding clothes that look good on you. Imo there’s no shame in seeing an escort as long as it’s legal and yo…
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 01:39 PM
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Idk, I see some people telling them to hit the gym/lose weight, shave the neck beard, and get a decent haircut
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 01:20 PM
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So if a man has sex with a man and then has sex with a woman, then a woman, then a man, then a woman… he’s homosexual in your book? Also, why would the woman have to think about an average man when she’s having sex with another average woman? Why couldn’t she be imagining Chad or Tyrone or Stacy?
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 12:23 AM
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Have you done any looksmaxxing? I’m introverted so I’m probably not the best person to ask about social stuff but being physically attractive will get your foot in the door. What are your hobbies? It would be helpful to do activities with a high female to male ratio
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 12:19 AM
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How would you even know that? A lot people have imagined other people (maybe someone hotter, newer etc.) when they’re having sex. So why couldn’t a woman think about a man while being intimate with a woman? Also are you completely denying the existence of true bisexual men? Most women are not repulsed by non-Chad men but that doesn’t mean they want to have sex with them either
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 12:13 AM
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I’m already in an open marriage so the millionaire if all else is equal. But only if I could also have my own adventures.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:53 PM
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Not every single case. “Heterosexual men in prison view their homosexual acts as being "situation specific" and may not consider themselves bisexual. These men often describe how they imagine being with a woman while taking part in sexual activity with a male inmate. During masturbation, they picture past sexual experiences with women.[9] They take part in homosexual activity due to having no “heterosexual outlets”.[6]” https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prison_sexuality#cite_note-:0-6
/r/AllPillDebate23/09/23 11:48 PM
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Then why are some men “situationally gay” like in prison?
/r/AllPillDebate23/09/23 10:07 PM
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Agree, I honestly think he could be decently attractive if he lost weight and got fit. Invisalign would fix the tooth gap. A good haircut and new glasses plus some fitted suits (nix the bowtie) and he would have no problem finding a partner(s)… except for his obviously shitty behavior and disrespect for personal/professional boundaries
/r/AllPillDebate23/09/23 09:26 PM
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Why wouldn’t he just get a sugar baby if he’s that frustrated? No excuse for groping an intern Edit: apparently for the downvoters there are excuses for non-consensually groping your subordinate coworkers
/r/AllPillDebate23/09/23 09:18 PM
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You could just get cosmetic surgery. If you at pictures of lots of celebrities before they became rich, many of them weren’t that good looking
/r/AllPillDebate23/09/23 08:39 PM
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Some of the list is basic stuff, like for real who wants a bed wetter with dirty fingernails and BO? Those make me think that she may have exes with poor hygiene (perhaps ones named Andy). 🤷🏻‍♀️ The rest of the list is stupid superficial stuff imo. Also some of the things on her list are attractive traits (kayaking, biking, tennis, makes omelets). If a man wants to put out a similar dumb list of their red flags, go right ahead
/r/AllPillDebate23/09/23 08:30 PM
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No one is better at blocking cock than sexually and socially conservative men. These are the truest words spoken on this sub. 😂For real, nothing dries me up more than sexually and socially conservative men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:13 PM
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I can rubuttle your argument I think. Should gay men marry a women if he is out of options. A gay man should marry whoever he wants to marry. If he and a woman decide they want to marry and live together, share finances/tax benefits/health insurance and the ups and downs of life, that’s perfectly fine imo. They could have an open marriage and have sex with others while enjoying each other’s company platonically. Lol, they might even do better than many heterosexual married couples. Us more tradi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:30 PM
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People can pursue whatever they want (as long as it’s legal/consensual). But they should be aware that as they age unless they’re extraordinary in some aspects, they’re probably not going to find what they’re looking for and will either have to settle or be alone. Imo a lot of men with traditional views on sex would be a lot happier if they didn’t ask explicit details about their potential romantic partner’s past. They should do some reflection and ask themselves “do I really wanna know how many…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:19 PM
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She has told me her faith is very important to her, she reads the Quran and always wears a hijab outside her home. She’s also highly educated and financially independent. I do not know enough about Islam to determine who is a “real Muslim” or not. I would imagine it’s a lot like Christianity though with different flavors and viewpoints. Funny that you mention the point about male guardianship. We were walking together in a touristy area of the city at night and we passed by a group of men gossip…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:42 AM
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I love to travel alone and with my husband. We’re ethically non-monogamous so it’s not a big deal to us. If someone wants to cheat they can do it in their own town/city anyway. Sometimes I travel to meet up with a FWB. But I also travel with platonic friends or family without my husband. I recently went on a weekend getaway with one of my work friends who happens to be strictly monogamous and Muslim. Her husband didn’t mind at all. She and I had a great girls’ trip
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:27 AM
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There’s some gynos that do specialize in sexual wellness but the vast majority just focus on reproduction (family planning, pregnancy, and birth). No one asks women if they’re satisfied sexually, if they orgasm alone or with partners. There’s virtually no mention of the clit or G spots during these appointments. It’s all just STI screening and birth control. Most gynos don’t even wanna deal with pelvic pain or vaginismus. But ideally women should be able to talk to their PCPs or gynos if they ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:41 PM
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Unfortunately a lot of gynos don’t know much about female sexual pleasure either lol. It’s just not something that is taught in medical school or asked about during routine pelvic exams. Seeing a doc that offers the O shot or the G shot would probably be a really good idea though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:44 PM
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Can you orgasm with direct clitoral stimulation from vibrators? There’s a book called “Sex for One” that you might wanna check out if you’re interested in exploring your sexuality more: https://www.amazon.com/Sex-One-Selfloving-Betty-Dodson-ebook/dp/B0064127LE?nodl=1&dplnkId=f6338237-f262-483e-9ac0-a9f0542f812e
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:36 PM
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The reality is that women who fake it aren't actually attracted to their partner, but he brings something else to the table that they need, i.e. he pays the bills. This isn’t true at all. Most women will orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation either oral or manual. If she’s faking it she probably doesn’t know her own body and pleasure well. Or if she does know, she’s too unconfident to ask for what she needs in bed, or she’s with a man that doesn’t care if she comes or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:31 PM
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I don’t care about older men having sex with younger women as long as they’re all legal consenting adults. In general I don’t care about other people’s preferences. I don’t view younger women as my competitors at all. If the young woman was a niece or someone I care about, I’d probably advise her against LTR with a much older man unless it was financially very lucrative for her. Age gap marriages are statistically less likely to succeed so I’d generally advise against them for anything beyond sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:05 PM
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This is spot on 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:35 PM
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This is anecdotal but as a woman in my late 30s, younger men on average are more physically attractive to me than men my age. In general they tend to be fitter, have more hair and less wrinkles. The vast majority of my right swipes/matches on Tinder are men between the ages of 23 and 30. But I have the best connections with men who are 35-40 and still good looking. For casual/FWB I prefer younger but if I was looking for LTR, I would aim for someone close to my age
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:18 PM
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That’s incoming freshman though (both male and female) that just graduated from high school and are only probably only 18 y/o. That doesn’t seem odd imo. Also keep in mind these kids went to high school during covid so they probably missed out on a lot of socialization and they probably have very involved parents if they’re attending Harvard or Yale. The average age of losing virginity in the U.S. is 17 so just because some survey of freshman Ivy Leaguers says over 60% are virgins doesn’t mean t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:53 PM
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I don’t use height filters. I’m petite and don’t care much about height (I’ve dated 5’6 to 6’3). I wouldn’t care if there was a weight filter (my BMI is normal and my waist-to-hip ratio is 0.7) but I feel like weight and even BMI is a poor estimate of how a person actually looks. Dress size and full body shots (or video) would be much more accurate. Honestly (and I realize this is super shallow) but if there was a filter for dick size, I would use it. Sorry, not sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:20 AM
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Now we are, after I opened my side of the marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 09:13 PM
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I don’t think so. I’m generally happy in my marriage. The biggest challenge early on was infidelity on my husband’s part. After I opened up my side of the relationship, my resentment dissipated and we get along much better. I currently have 3 FWB that I see when I travel. If I was single again, I would definitely consider marrying 2 of them (both of them have asked me to) but I don’t want to leave my husband/family either. I say this with the caveat that I make my own money and don’t expect men …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 08:36 PM
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My n-count actually isn’t super high. I got married in my mid-20s after spending college as an evangelical though not a virgin. Then I was monogamous for like 10 years before becoming ENM. And even now I like to have a real human connection with someone before sex. That being said I completely agree with you. There’s no reason to go into specific details about past sexual partners (dick size, specific acts/kinks etc.) with your current man… unless he’s one of the rarer guys who gets turned on by…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 07:54 PM
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There definitely is more to emotional vulnerability than crying but crying is the rawest expression of emotional vulnerability. I actually grew up with a father that never cried ever… and I thought that was just how men acted. The only emotions he showed were happiness or anger/irritation. Even when my grandparents died he was stoic and it disturbed me but I pretended that was just how men are. I was a teenager at the time. I actually tried to emulate that stoicism for a while. Later after seein…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 06:01 PM
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My perspective may be atypical since I work in healthcare and I’m accustomed to seeing men cry because I’m with them when real tragic shit goes down. Like I just told a man he has cancer… yeah, I expect him to cry. I just told a man his wife of 40 years should go home on hospice because there’s nothing else we can do… yeah, he should cry. A man just told me about his history of childhood SA… yes, cry. I see these emotions as perfectly human and it makes me want to fight for them a little bit har…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:04 PM
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Definitely think you would enjoy it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:43 AM
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Have you been to South America?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:33 PM
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I have family and friends in South America (mostly Colombia but also Ecuador) where prostitution is legal and relatively common. It’s viewed similarly to going to a strip club in the U.S. in the way that men of different social classes who can obtain relationships (even very good-looking men) will still sometimes visit prostitutes and it’s not seen as a big deal. If a man is in a committed relationship and visits prostitutes or “prepagadas” it’s considered the same as cheating and looked down up…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:42 PM
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Do you know how much the average child support payment is? Unless she was married to a very high earner it will be low. So now she will have to re-enter the work force with limited education, training, and job experience and do the bulk of childcare. Yeah, that sounds like winning advice
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:32 AM
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Agree, it’s not just men though; women with disabilities (especially physical ones) are also discriminated against in dating. How many men would be willing to date a woman that is a burn victim or has all 4 limbs amputated? Even being deaf is a major disadvantage in dating unless it’s among other deaf people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 06:50 PM
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Hate is a strong word. Most people have jobs they’re ambivalent towards. I have some democratic socialist leanings so I’d be inclined to agree with you that a fulfilling career is out of reach for the majority of the population at least in the U.S. My advice for young women would still be to pursue a career while looking for a compatible partner. The odds of an ideal trad relationship working out are even lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:20 PM
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I said MOST not ALL. Myself as a 5’2 woman it would actually be more difficult to find a man shorter than me than it would be to find one taller than me. And unless he’s malnourished or disabled he would statistically probably be physically stronger than me at least in upper body strength. On a related note, why is no one on this forum talking about the challenges of disabled, deformed/disfigured, mentally ill, and cognitively impaired people in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:13 PM
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Intuitively I would agree that women who are happily married are more satisfied in life than women who are single and that single women are happier than women in bad relationships. I would also think that women who have fulfilling careers and have financial means to take care of their families are happier than women who do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 10:47 PM
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Most men are going to be taller, larger, and physically stronger with more muscle mass than most women. That’s just biology and not difficult to obtain. I personally don’t care how much a man makes and I want all of our decisions together to be joint decisions or compromises. I don’t know what “mentally stronger” refers to. Both partners should be mentally strong imo; it would suck to have someone in and out of the psych ward lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 10:25 PM
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I already do. I make 6 figures so it’s hard to find a man who makes the same or more than me and is also physically attractive and compatible with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:54 PM
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I’ve never wanted a man to be my protector (it makes me feel like a child and incompetent) so I don’t really know what these women on social media mean. Honestly if a man starts talking about physically protecting me or about his fist fights with other men, it gives me the ick. I actually get queasy and try to change the subject. For me emotionally feeling protected in a committed relationship or even a friendship is different. It means I can be emotionally vulnerable with that person. It implie…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:41 PM
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Interesting… there may actually be a scientific basis for your scent preferences based on genetics of the immune system. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5006172/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:09 PM
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Anti-vaxers and conspiracy theorists are also my icks; they could also be red flags 🚩 depending on how extreme their views are. Trump supporters are just a red flag for me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:49 PM
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Women are famous for the opposite for a reason... the lack of self awareness thing. Way too many people keep the lie going that they have one of more of them, when they clearly dont. A lot of famous people (male and female) lack self awareness because it’s entertaining to watch. That’s the entire cast of Jersey Shore and most reality TV shows. It’s probably one of the reasons Donald Trump was president; he has none of the ideal “masculine” traits on your list except maybe resilience (but it’s ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:02 PM
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Yes, this is exactly it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:38 AM
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Are these qualities masculine though? These are all qualities I think women should have as well and that I strive to adhere to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:36 AM
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Sure, I would date a bi man. But if you asked me that question 10 years ago I would have said no. I’m much more sex positive and open minded now than I was back then. I would have said no to a FMF threesome back then too. Also it was probably more taboo back then; I remember all the stories of women contracting HIV because of their husbands on the DL.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:10 AM
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For me, how I respond to someone’s emotional vulnerability depends on the context of our relationship. If men do this too early in a relationship (like first dates) or over trivial things (like sporting events) then it can be a major turnoff. But if there’s already an emotional connection and he’s sharing real stuff then it can strengthen the bond. For example, I had this FWB who had lost his wife to cancer and he shared super intimate details about his late wife’s illness and his faith and crie…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:52 AM
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The first time I heard the term “Alpha widow”, I thought it was referring to actual widows who had been married to successful men that died (like Vanessa Bryant or something). When I learned about the actual concept it just seemed really weird and inaccurate to me. I’ve never longed to get back with an ex before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:52 AM
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Sure, but everyone is inexperienced at some point so then you have to up-sell your other traits like “enthusiastic”, “energetic” etc lol. In the love/sex realm no one has to know if you’re a virgin or a slut until you want to share that information. When I was a virgin a long time ago I didn’t go around talking about it like the purity culture warriors. And now that I’m a slut I also don’t talk about it (except on Reddit lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:08 AM
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Virgin doesn’t really have a negative connotation to me. But maybe “inexperienced” sounds nicer to some people. Some people are trying to reclaim the word “slut”. The authors of “The Ethical Slut” Easton and Liszt redefine slut as “a person on any gender who has courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:53 AM
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I would agree with this take. I think everyone - men and women - expect too damn much out of life. That’s not to say that people shouldn’t stand up to governments, businesses, and the powerful to fight for their basic human and economic rights. But no one deserves a fairy tale ending or to be treated like royalty (not even actual royals) and honestly it’s more meaningful to go through life’s ups and downs with as much of your dignity intact as possible. When I was young and naive I used to frequ…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:34 PM
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From a legal standpoint at least in the U.S. the answer is no, no one is obligated to help another person unless their actions led to the other person’s injury. For example if I hit someone with my car and they’re injured, I’m legally and morally obligated to call 911 and render aid to the best of my ability which may include CPR. That being said, I think anyone male or female has a moral (but not legal) obligation to at least call 911 if someone is being attacked in plain sight. Putting their o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 09:17 PM
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I’m probably in the minority of women but I do enjoy watching pornography, not violent but I do like bondage without sadomasochism (Bellesa has some good scenes imo). I have liked porn since I was a teenager and got my first laptop computer. For better or worse porn is probably where some of my proclivities originated. It used to be a huge source of shame since I was an evangelical Christian and grew up in a sex-negative environment. Sometimes I still struggle mentally with the ethics of sex wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:21 AM
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wheartv was belittling the risk and sacrifice that healthcare workers took on early during the pandemic so I was simply asking what he did.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:10 PM
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I definitely agree that sex is more pleasurable for women who communicate what they like. I always talk about sex, what I like/what I don’t like, my boundaries, and what I’d be interested in trying before I’m ever alone with a man. I also ask them about their sexual proclivities. This helps me weed out so many potential partners that I know wouldn’t be compatible with me. It also helps to weed out men that may try to transgress boundaries… usually there’s warning signs/red flags by their comment…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:57 PM
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I think some men may be afraid to ask these questions for fear of coming off as creepy. I agree though that talking about sex before doing anything sexual makes it so much better when you are physically together for the first time. I actually try to bring up sexual proclivities early on when talking with someone and it helps to weed out potential partners that I know won’t be compatible with me. I usually start by asking them what they like in bed. Then I tell them what I like and what my bounda…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:18 PM
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Further, back to the original point, taking care of a Covid patient is not as brave as saving a woman you don’t know from a knife wielding rapist. You literally found the one common example of women being brave to help men they aren’t related to, I’ll give you that and won’t further besmirch them Lol, dude how many men have saved a woman from a knife wielding rapist? That’s NOT COMMON at all. And based on what evidence would you say that fighting off a rapist with a knife is more dangerous than …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:57 PM
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What exactly did you do “in the field”? So you were physically in hospitals next to patients with covid without N95 masks?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:23 PM
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Wtf did you do during the pandemic? Work from home or collect unemployment?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:14 PM
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Female (and male) healthcare workers risked their own lives to save male (and female) patients during covid. https://www.who.int/news/item/20-10-2021-health-and-care-worker-deaths-during-covid-19
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:41 PM
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So I work in healthcare and the first article is consistent with what I’ve seen. Additionally I’ve seen countless cases even after a divorce where the ex-wife is actually the primary support/medical power of attorney for a critically ill male patient and takes care of him. This is AFTER their divorce. In a lot of these cases the man is actually sick because of his own substance abuse issues (alcohol abuse leading to liver failure, smoking and COPD or cardiovascular disease, meth/cocaine/opioids)…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:32 PM
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Besides the obvious aesthetics, frankly men who put a lot of effort into pursuing women get laid more. I have a friend who absolutely sleighs with women, can get a new partner at least twice a week or more with no pretenses of commitment. He’s nothing spectacular to look at but has a handsome face and is not overweight. He’s also not wealthy and has a very mediocre job. But he’s charismatic and disarming, extroverted and interesting to talk to. He also knows how to sexually escalate a conversati…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:08 AM
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It would depend on the emotional connection I had with them. I probably wouldn’t connect in a meaningful way with all 50 even if I was physically attracted to all of them. Their values and personality would be important too. Like if he was stunning but a MAGA type it would automatically exclude him for me. His sexual proclivities would also factor in to my decision. Men who don’t care about female pleasure, don’t like giving oral would automatically be excluded. Also in this hypothetical are all…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:32 PM
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Lol, I have a big dick fetish and like gagging on cock. I’ve been married for over a decade and still give my husband BJs as long as he returns the favor. There was a short period of time though when my hormones were all out of whack and I had no sexual desire at all but I got that taken care of
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:12 PM
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Yeah, that one’s weird, I don’t get it. Like I could understand if someone had a bad experience with anal or BDSM stuff and never wanted to do it again but oral is pretty tame/vanilla
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:19 PM
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It would depend on what the specific act is and how much I like it or wanted to try it. If it’s a more obscure kink then I don’t really care. But if it’s something basic like oral, then I’m out
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:23 PM
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Interesting… once I get past small talk into deeper convo is when I come out of my shell and form deeper connections with people. Part of the issue for me too is that I don’t really care enough to approach people because the reward in my mind is lower than the amount of energy that I calculate I’d have to expend to go up to a group. I’m happy just having a few close friends and I have a big family too. If I was a less attractive man though and single, I would probably drink a little or smoke wee…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 07:07 PM
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Then A’s my man! Well mine and his girlfriends lol. As long as I get to have my own aventures we’re good
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:46 PM
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That sounds like introversion not shyness. I’m extremely introverted so I understand. I have absolutely no problem public speaking in front of hundreds of people on a topic I’m prepared for but making small talk with strangers or acquaintances kills me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:40 PM
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That’s a lot of text to say that you do absolutely nothing to help men’s issues and just like to bitch on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:13 PM
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Breast cancer is not the #1 cause of death for women. It’s heart disease. Guess who’s more likely to get misdiagnosed when they’re having a heart attack? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6112736/ It’s not quite fair to compare breast cancer research funding to prostate cancer funding because prostate cancer isn’t nearly as lethal. Many men who have prostate cancer will die of “old age” (I.e. something else) before they die of prostate cancer. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:58 PM
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Definitely A but only if I also can sex with other men. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Btw I don’t care if he’s rich or not
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:19 PM
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Lol, literally the same things I listed in my original comment. It will just be more of an uphill battle with less returns on the investment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:13 PM
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You’re the one who asked where the month for prostate cancer awareness is and I told you it’s November. You’re moving the goalpost dude. Do you really want to talk about equity in healthcare research and funding? Pink ribbons don’t mean shit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:09 PM
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Yeah but what do those things have to do with my comment? Besides the hypothetical was for an average man so I’d presume his height, dick size, and face are also about average. Even if life dealt me a shitty hand in immutable characteristics, my strategy would still be the same to try to maximize my odds of finding a happy relationship(s)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:05 PM
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I would work out, great skin care regimen, teeth whitening, good haircut, dress nice. Keep my place and car clean. I’d take some dance lessons to be in environments where there’s a more favorable ratio of women to men. And dance naturally creates a reason to have close physical contact in a safe environment. If my goal was to have lots of casual sex, honestly Tristan Tate’s advice is probably the best for that. Most of the red pill gurus are not actually good with women and have a lot of sugar b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:42 PM
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Also, where’s that “prostate cancer awareness” month? Bro, you never heard of Movember? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Movember
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:02 PM
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Lol, I never said that! I’ve dated 5’6 to 6’3 before and there’s no minimum height to date me. Average height around 5’9 or so is my favorite but height is so far down the list of qualities that I look for, it’s pretty much a non-issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:01 PM
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I don’t have a height requirement
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:32 PM
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People are usually really open with me because I have a very non-judgmental openness to how I talk about these things. Interesting… 🤔 your in-person personality must be quite different than your online one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:47 PM
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A lot of people don’t advertise that they’re ENM since it’s still heavily stigmatized outside of very liberal circles. A lot of celebrity couples are probably ENM and we only hear about the dramatic ones. It’s quite common in military couples and there’s even Christian pastors that are into it - all on the down low of course. What’s your experience with ENM women based on? Random hook ups from dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:35 PM
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Not necessarily higher, just different. Like there’s men that I love as FWB but I wouldn’t want to marry them. I couldn’t imagine marrying someone I wasn’t physically attracted to though
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:06 PM
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This is usually female codeword for being on the low end of attractiveness. I've messed around with more than my fair share of ENM women and it's definitely a common thread. Bro, I’m gorgeous. I’m 38 and look better than most women 15 years younger than me. For real I’m usually the prettiest woman in a room full of random women. But you can believe whatever you want 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:37 PM
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Oh definitely, I agree. I’m interested to see if men would view the two scenarios differently or the same though
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 06:28 PM
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Yeah, but intuitively there might be more mental/emotional baggage with a dead kid vs. a kid that was adopted by someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:55 PM
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I’ve never cheated before but I’m ENM so I do get to have sex outside of the marriage. Honestly I already receive a lot of attention from men even when I’m not looking for anything (like at the grocery store, airport, work) - usually nothing really inappropriate, at most it’s just annoying if I’m in a rush. So for me at least, Tinder and having new partners isn’t really a confidence boost. That being said, new relationship energy and getting messages from a new partner is exhilarating. It’s that…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:52 PM
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Or what about this scenario: a woman who got pregnant out of wedlock at age 18 and placed her child for adoption? She wouldn’t even have to divulge this initially but let’s say that she does. What if it was not just 1 but 3-5 kids she placed for adoption?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:39 PM
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Wow, that’s rough… so you can’t even masturbate then. Have you tried any experimental treatments? I came across this case study using hCG that was reportedly effective. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S221444201930453X
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:49 PM
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May I ask what the medical reason is?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:35 PM
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Some men are still virgins in their 30's, some in their 40's and later. Among women this is extremely rare, among men it isn't. I’d be interested to see data on the actual percentages of 30-40 year old virgins. I read a long time ago that the average age of losing virginity among males in the U.S. is 16-17. So that would be over 50% that are not virgins by adulthood. If you found yourself single again, would you go for a virgin the same age you are? I’m ethically non-monogamous so I don’t necess…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:55 PM
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I didn’t ask him about his partner count or when he lost his virginity. Honestly I don’t know why he shared it with me unprompted. I think he was talking about himself and it just came out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:21 PM
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No, actually he didn’t ask me what my number was and I didn’t volunteer it. (It wasn’t really high btw but definitely higher than his) Ime most men don’t want to hear about women’s past sexual experiences in a lot of detail and vague answers are best. There’s a smaller percentage of men who do get excited when hearing stories about past sexual experiences… but I can usually differentiate between the two groups of guys very easily
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 08:52 PM
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No. I don’t mind less experienced men, as long as they’re open minded, enthusiastic, and care about their partner’s pleasure. One of the best lovers I ever had lost his virginity at age 24 and had had very few partners before we met.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:57 PM
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This is definitely true. I would also add two more things to the list: Hormones - both male and female libido is affected by levels of testosterone, estrogen etc. Certain hormonal contraceptives can plummet a woman’s sex drive as can menopause and pregnancy/postpartum changes. Men’s testosterone level can also decrease with a newborn in the house. HRT can be a real game changer in the aging situations. If one or both partners don’t keep up with their appearance. I.e. maybe they gain 30 lbs or st…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:08 PM
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Why would you assume men are getting paid less for the same job just because some women are breadwinners? It’s true I make more money than most men but most men (and most women) can’t do my job
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:48 PM
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Lol, I do
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 01:30 AM
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I honestly don’t care but I’m probably in the minority of women. Even though I’m educated I come from a blue collar family so that may be why
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 11:24 PM
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Nope, I’m the breadwinner. We both initiate sex. I plan the vacations. He cooks more but I cook too. We both clean. I do ask him to physically lift more and open jars for me though lol. He does the more advanced home improvement projects but I put together the furniture. We’re both stoic to the outside world but cry with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 11:17 PM
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Lol, what are “slut tells”?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 10:00 PM
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Actually more men are starting to get cosmetic work done too. There’s that MLD dude who had lipo and Myron from FnF had a hair transplant. It’s definitely more prevalent in women but I wouldn’t be surprised if the number of men getting work done doesn’t continue to increase. It’s not just surgery… so many men in the U.S. are on Ozempic and testosterone therapy without clear cut indications. Maybe because the technology is more accessible now and because of social media, there’s more pressure to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:23 PM
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Men can cheat. Women can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:01 PM
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That reminds me of a film I watched years ago, “Paradise: Love” about a group of German women vacationing in Kenya
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:45 PM
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There’s this website that advertises to female only clients: https://cowboys4angels.com I don’t have any personal experience with male escorts, but I could see how some women might find it appealing. Maybe an older female virgin who just wants to experience sex already but knows it will be awkward if she looks on Tinder. Or a recently divorced woman who wants to get back in the game but is anxious about dating again. Perhaps a woman in a dead bedroom marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:32 PM
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Women do get judged for twerking, OF, and even wearing bikinis though. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-doctors-are-posing-in-swimwear-on-social-media/?amp=true This is especially true for professional women who want to be taken seriously. I know how it is and I play the game really well. Despite being sex positive, I actually dress really modestly most of the time. I wear modern tailored clothes that complement my figure but I don’t show much skin. That’s the advice I would give t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:36 PM
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Yeah, but have you seen Brittany Spears’ Instagram? She appears to have the emotional maturity of a 15 year old
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:11 PM
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Definitely this! Women are more likely to do the invisible work in the household like planning and administrative details. It makes sense that they would typically be the ones to take on the responsibility of filing for divorce even when the man has already mentally or physically checked out of the marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:05 PM
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Lol, agree! One of my co-workers and I have drastically different tastes in men. She was telling me about a new guy she started dating and said he was a 5/10 in looks to her but that he had a really great personality. Based on the guys she says are drop dead gorgeous (that I wouldn’t even look twice at) I was expecting her new dude to be hideous but was actually pleasantly surprised when I saw him. I thought he was more handsome than the ones she typically crushes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:29 PM
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Yeah, I prefer men who groom/shave body hair (especially arm pits and pubic hair)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:11 PM
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Tell them I’m married 😂 Actually for some it’s a turn on though 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:08 PM
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The gym bro is aesthetically the most pleasing to me, but I don’t mind a dad bod especially if we’re in a long term relationship. Weight fluctuations are normal and it’s fun to have cheat days. I would get annoyed if he never wanted to eat dessert or have a drink with me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 09:58 PM
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Lol, what percentage of men are farmers, commercial fishers, or miners? Truck driving isn’t any harder than most jobs (I know a lot of truck drivers and it’s a pretty chill job)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:10 PM
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Imo the vax is what allowed us to transition into the era of covid being endemic without massive additional death. 2 years ago anyone who didn’t get the vax without a true medical contraindication was/is an AH and dumb imo. As far as boosters go you could take it or leave it at this point since now covid is much milder, like on par with the flu or a cold. I’ve gotten like 5 or 6 vaccines by this point and will probably get the booster for the new variant but I also get an annual flu vaccine ‘cau…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:56 AM
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I’ve noticed the job market and the economy from my limited knowledge did better under trump. I think overall on the economy Biden has done better except for inflation is higher now. But that would have probably happened anyway due to all the money that had to printed during covid. Inflation has been high in lots of countries too so I don’t think that can be blamed entirely on Biden’s administration. I did disagree with the Trump era tax cuts that were predominantly for the wealthy even though I…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:05 PM
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I don’t see that behavior as either masculine or feminine. To me it’s immature, entitled, antagonist and conniving. Either masculine or feminine people can display those characteristics
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:25 PM
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The whole number system of rating is flawed to the point of being useless. Like someone’s body could be 10/10 but their face is meh so do you average it out or what? Also who are we using as the gold standard for a 10? TrueRateMe standards, Adriana Lima? Well then most women are not going to be 10 but it’s silly to even ask them to rate themselves. It also depends on geographic region, like “she’s a Miami 4” lol Some men don’t want tall skinny fashion models either and prefer Kim K body types. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:57 PM
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Even when I was a teenager and in my early 20s I didn’t have those preferences. My preferences have been pretty static over time
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:11 PM
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Definitely with the man who raises kids that aren’t his. I honestly don’t see the big deal about procreating and having your own biological spawn fill the earth. I have a stepdaughter and a niece (not biologically related to me) that I love like my own. I understand it’s part of the lizard brain drive or whatever to want to spread your DNA but making that your legacy just seems silly and empty to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 06:09 PM
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Oh definitely, racism in the Republican Party is a huge reason minority nonwhite people vote for democrats. Out of curiosity is that the only reason you voted democrat? Like did you approve of Trump’s handling of covid? How do you feel about healthcare policy, increasing taxes in the top brackets/capital gains taxes, military spending etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 05:29 PM
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I actually feel really happy that none of those are my preferences. Like it makes my life so much easier lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:24 PM
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How would you prove that it didn’t happen simultaneously among pre agricultural hunter gatherers?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:23 AM
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I’m not talking about polygyny (1 male with multiple females with some males not mating). I was talking about polyamory (multiple females pairing with multiple males throughout their reproductive lifespan)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:12 AM
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Sources???
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:52 PM
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Sure David was punished for having sex with Bathsheba and killing Uriah the Hittite. But why wasn’t David punished for having concubines?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:27 PM
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What separates ethical non-monogamy from cheating is that no matter what type of ethical non-monogamy practiced in the relationship, both people in the relationship consent to it. With cheating, one partner does not consent. And if you want to talk about the Bible, how many wives and concubines did King David have again?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:57 PM
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Lol, my husband’s 38 and has sex with gorgeous 21-25 year old women without spending a dime on them. I got tired of him stepping out and cheating which is why we opened the marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:44 PM
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Have you ever heard the Chris Rock line “a man is only as faithful as his options”? Well my husband has lots of options lol. I got tired of him cheating but I love our life together and didn’t want to leave him. I would have really resented a one sided open marriage just on his end. After thinking about it I realized I also wanted to experience new partners and that new relationship energy. It’s been great, the best of both worlds imo
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:39 PM
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Do you really believe that our technological advances as a species are because of monogamy? Also one could argue that the exponential explosion in population isn’t necessarily a positive; it’s having catastrophic effects on the planet and other species
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:15 PM
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Lol, I replied almost exactly the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:08 PM
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Sure you can, ENM isn’t a free for all. Let’s say for example my husband and I have rules that we only have sex with other people when we’re traveling apart and we both have to use protection and no sex with mutual acquaintances or close friends/family/co-workers. But then he has sex with my sister without a condom and gets her pregnant. Well, that would be cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:02 PM
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I’m married and ethically non-monogamous. We still have rules. If we didn’t we’d be divorced by now
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:58 PM
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Actually life was pretty damn good in the hunter gather period: less disease (due to lack of overcrowding), less war/conflict among groups (no accumulation of wealth to fight over), more leisure time and less work, better general health and life span due to diet. There’s an interesting book on the topic “Sex at Dawn”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:56 PM
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True, people act like there’s no rules or boundaries in non-monogamous relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:29 PM
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Monogamy actually had not been the trend up until the development of agriculture. Before that there was polyamory amongst early human hunter gatherers. Even after agriculture it’s predominantly been serial monogamy (7-10 years) not lifelong monogamy like in fairy tales.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:15 PM
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Hmmm, yes and no. It depends on how you define socially conservative. Like maybe a man wouldn’t want his wife or girlfriend to get an abortion (except in extreme circumstances) but he thinks Roe v. Wade shouldn’t have been overturned. Or maybe he laughs at gay jokes but then supports his brother who comes out. He might enjoy weed and not want the government interfering in people’s bedrooms. Socially conservative is a spectrum… like you have Mike Pence on one end. Then you have people that aren’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:28 PM
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No, never. I do have “casual sex” in the sense that I’m not looking for a long-term relationship as I’m already married and ENM. I always look for someone that I’m sexually attracted to and that I connect with on a personal level though. I also pick people that have similar values as me and usually get to know them first. I’m neither bored nor lonely so I need to anticipate that the sex is going to to be an awesome experience for it to be a worth while pursuit. Otherwise it would just be a heada…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 11:16 PM
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Yeah, I wish they did teach healthy boundaries and non violent conflict resolution better in school. I also lean left and part of me thinks that the ruling classes don’t want the majority of people to be able to stand up for themselves… then they would have less workers to exploit. I think I learned how to establish boundaries by trial and error to be honest. My first couple of relationships with men and actually several friendships with women were volatile and probably emotionally abusive. Iron…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:28 PM
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I’m glad that’s working for you but honestly that just sounds like having healthy boundaries. I wouldn’t let anyone berate me like that not even my bosses. I just stay calm and quiet and analyze the situation. Then I make a plan/mentally calculate what I need to do get myself out of the situation whether that means leaving the relationship/friendship/job etc. Lol, I ask my husband to do home improvement projects all the time… but it’s his house too and I’m the breadwinner so it’s fair. I don’t y…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 04:48 PM
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That’s so disgusting. Why was that guy in your friend group?!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:41 PM
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No, not to me at all. You can look at my post history and I don’t give a shit about height. But this sub is obsessed with height and 6’5 Chads so I included it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:25 PM
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Why does that not make sense to you? A lot of non-white men vote for democrats but still do traditionally masculine shit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:19 PM
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We’ll have to agree to disagree on this one. While there may be some overlap between redpill and conservative and tradcon, a lot of redpillers are apolitical/apathetic. A lot of them are grifters too and just say things publicly to get a reaction. A lot of what the media portrays about liberal/progressive men isn’t always accurate. My experience with liberal men in relationships and in my family is that they’re masculine, reliable, competent, protective and assertive. My father is 60 something y…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:15 PM
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What do you mean by “more and more are standing up?” Like Kanye? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:31 PM
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I disagree that liberal men are soft, feminine, and have no back bone. Especially in minority communities a lot of men will lean left politically but be traditionally masculine and assertive. Also a lot of blue collar workers are economically progressive and pro-union/pro-workers rights
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:10 PM
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I was sexually attracted to my husband when I first met him 15 years ago and I still am today, maybe even more so. He’s average height, but facially attractive and fit with great style. We both try to keep up our appearance and age gracefully so that helps
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:16 PM
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There’s actually evidence that prior to agriculture when early humans were hunter-gatherers women enjoyed sex with multiple men of their choosing and there was very little competition among men - kind of like the free love movement in the 60s and 70s. All children born into the groups were raised among the adults and everyone shared resources so no one cared about paternity - or maternity for that matter. This is how our primate cousins the bonobos (about as closely related to humans as chimps) …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:05 PM
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The divorce statistics only show that women are the ones who file the paperwork to initiate a divorce not necessarily that they’re walking out on a good man that wants to keep his family together. In most of those situations it’s probably both partners that are mentally checked out and want to separate. Furthermore one could argue that the most commonly cited reasons for divorce: financial difficulties, lack of communication, infidelity and abuse are at least controlable/modifiable. Getting a li…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:04 PM
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Men also “love conditionally.” Men are actually more likely to leave their partner during an illness like cancer. https://amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer I work in healthcare and see it all the time. Even amongst couples that are already divorced, when the man it critically ill in the hospital it’s often his ex-wife (if he’s not remarried) who is by his side and (I kid-you-not) is his medical power of attorney. I’ve never se…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 10:21 PM
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I think the low libido is probably hormonal/medical in a lot of situations. When I was on Nuvaring it killed my libido then I got off of it and it surged again. Probably menopause and low testosterone are the same from what other people have told me about getting on HRT (that their libido increases after). Obesity affects hormone levels too and probably affects how attracted people are to their partners. SSRIs and antipsychotics also significantly curb libido. There’s also a subset of people who…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:24 PM
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Could you give an example of one disagreement in your relationship and how a RP teaching helped to resolve it? I’m genuinely curious. Most of the non-self improvement RP stuff seems like mind games. Honestly it sounds exhausting to be in an adversarial relationship like that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:32 PM
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It depends on what “being nice” entails. If it’s perceived as being too clingy or desperate, it will be a turn off for both women and men. When I was younger I also noticed that some guys would lose interest if it seemed like I was too clingy or infatuated with them so I learned to give them space. There’s a thin line between expressing interest and obsession. If someone isn’t reciprocating your level of interest, it’s best to back off a bit and see where things fall
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 06:34 PM
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Yeah, the best relationship and sex info comes from Love Panky and Hello Giggles 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:09 AM
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“My favorite thing about my much older boyfriend is his low libido” - said no young woman ever 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:33 AM
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I think it’s a kink, like the whole step-family member dynamic trop in porn. Even if it doesn’t seem sexual it’s probably the underlying issue. I had a FWB who was 11 years younger than me (he was 26 at the time) and it started out very normal, like platonic friends but we’d have sex too. Then he started asking me for small gifts (like stuffed animals) which I just laughed off. But then he started asking if he could pretend that I was his step-mom and I had to end it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:31 PM
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Lol, the non-self improvement part of TRP is ridiculous. I wasn’t there to actually see the interaction between harmonica2 and the woman in question so I could be misreading the situation… but that would be a wildly absurd “shit test” to ask a man the size of his dick just to see him fumble over the question. The only reason a sane woman would care enough to ask is if she’s interested in having sex with him. In which case his answer is either a turn on or a turn off. There’s no ulterior motive
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:59 PM
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What was the shit test? I don’t play games so I don’t know what you’re referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:41 PM
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Lol, yeah that figures. For future reference, that is something I usually only ask if I’m interested in escalating the relationship sexually. If you’re comfortable sharing your size with her, it’s best to just be honest and then ask her if that’s good for her/what she likes. If you’re not comfortable sharing that info with her yet but you’re still interested in her sexually, you can kind of dodge the question and ask her some of her other preferences in bed
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:37 PM
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Imo supporting human rights and dignity is the most important thing to do with your life and this will look different for different people depending on their particular interests and abilities. Having strong bonds with other humans is an important part of having a meaningful life. It doesn’t have to be through marriage or biological children though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:52 PM
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If she’s that crafty with photos she’s not going give her true weight. It would make a lot more sense to ask her dress size or her actual measurements (bust, waist, hips).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 04:01 PM
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I actually prefer average height guys to tall guys but I don’t have any minimum or maximum height requirements. Whenever I match with someone on Tinder it’s not something I’ve ever brought up but many men have asked me my height. The guys that are shorter than average (like 5’6 or 5’7) were always relieved to find out that I’m shorter than them (5’2). I’m not saying height queens don’t exist but it’s definitely not all women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:57 PM
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Maybe if they’re planning to go skydiving together and the company needs the info? 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:51 PM
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If y’all were flirting/sexting then that was not a good response to ask her that. Lol, I’d be surprised if she didn’t lose interest after that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:46 PM
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Why are you dating your girlfriend if she’s that shallow? Does she have any other redeeming qualities?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:33 PM
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This sounds like a fetish (I’m not kink shaming or anything) and not a real long term relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:14 PM
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We are a team. Partners. Not father and child. I pay the bills and do the paperwork. He does contribute his fair share, but I am just better at it. He does the car stuff because he is better at it. Lol, this is exactly how my marriage is too! I think in most successful relationships each person leads in their area of expertise and what they’re naturally better at. Sometimes that can express itself in stereotypical gendered ways and other times it’s the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:06 PM
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There’s a lot of caveats to that. Libido in women is something that changes a lot depending on hormonal fluctuations/use of hormonal contraceptives, use of other meds like SSRIs, overall stress level, attraction to her partner, satisfaction in the relationship and whether she’s having orgasms with him
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 12:58 PM
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Sure, but Finland’s low birth rate is mostly due to socio-cultural factors and not economic factors. Concerns over climate change is probably another factor for declining fertility rates in the developed world/wealthy countries. There’s not really much a nation can do to incentive births by changing the culture. In a country like the U.S. that has poor social welfare programs, probably the only economic policy that might be effective would be heavily subsidizing childcare. I’m not completely con…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 12:34 PM
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Courts decide child support based on the income of the non-custodial parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:59 PM
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The whole numbers based ratings from 1-10 is cringe and subjective. Real people simply cannot be reduced to a number because there are so many other factors that contribute to attractiveness at an individual level. There’s also non-looks related characteristics that will make someone a desirable partner. That’s not to say that looks aren’t important though. And it’s simply not true that a woman at age 32 will look worse than she does at 20. I’m 38 and everyone tells me that I’m much prettier now…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:55 PM
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Lol, agree, most young women want a man maybe only a few years older than her. Not to be mean but the whatever host looks like he’s over 40. I would have figured he was already married to his looksmatch with like 3 kids in a typical tradcon relationship by now
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:16 PM
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A lot of states in the U.S. have common law marriages though and if they have kids then they’re already on the hook for child support. Really the only way to avoid the financial consequences would be to live separately and not procreate but that’s probably a lonely existence for most people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:11 PM
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I haven’t seen a good definition of what blue pill is. I think it’s just a catch all term for anyone who disagrees with TRP and imo the only useful part of TRP is the self improvement stuff. Everything else is cringe and toxic af. Probably most of the hardcore TRP proponents have issues with their moms or were otherwise bullied by girls growing up or had their hearts broken
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:04 PM
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Yeah, most women won’t tolerate a one sided open relationship unless she’s asexual. It breeds too much resentment. Imo they’re just asking for a divorce or to get cheated on when they insist on it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 09:52 PM
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That dude from the Whatever podcast is delusional if he thinks he’ll be attractive to to a beautiful 18 year old without spending money on her. If she’s grounded and has healthy self esteem he won’t attract her regardless. I’m a high earner and I have no problem paying for dates but I don’t waste my time with jaded dudes that say things like “women deserve less” and make all gender dynamics adversarial
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 09:37 PM
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Several red pill gurus do preach one sided open marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 09:27 PM
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Women generally want dudes that are fit, well-groomed, and competent so if red pill helps men achieve that then they may have positive results at least initially following the red pill. None of the other advice is useful though, at least not in long term relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 09:06 PM
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Lol, the married red pill sub is hilarious. Keeping up your looks is definitely important for both partners in a marriage but all the other red pill advice is useless in long term relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:54 PM
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Most middle class people do get health insurance from their employer but it’s much more expensive to add a kid onto the plan (like almost double the monthly premium amount). Interestingly they don’t charge more for each subsequent kid, so 1 child is the same price as 4. A lot of working class people don’t get health insurance from their employer and don’t qualify for Medicaid, some get bare bones plans through the exchange etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:11 PM
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I disagree that the lower libido of a 35 yo man is a plus for younger women or even older women. It would only be a positive for asexual or low libido women. The higher libido of younger men is literally my favorite thing about them
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:15 PM
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Age gap relationships are fine for friends with benefits or short term fun, but for long term relationships or marriage it’s generally best to find someone close to your age. I say this as a 38 year old married woman that’s ENM. My husband is my age and the best emotional connections I’ve had are with men close to my age. I love men in their mid-late 20s for “recreational use” (as the manosphere likes to say) though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:01 PM
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If a society truly wanted to increase the birth rate, probably the biggest incentive they could offer would be free high quality daycare with early childhood education for all children as well as something like Medicare for all minors from birth to age 18. That would be very expensive though and there would probably be a lot of political opposition to increasing taxes to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:46 PM
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One ex that I dated for 8 months when I was 21 and he was 29 recently found me on social media and told me I had gotten prettier with age (he had not unfortunately) and then asked for nude/lewd pics which I just ignored. He’s divorced and has a daughter, works as a wildlife biologist and seems to have a decent life otherwise. I’m ENM so there’s another ex that I had relationship with a year ago. I was honest with him about my marital status and what I was looking for and he said he was cool with…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 05:15 PM
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I think it would depend on the age of the particular woman, the age of the men, and how many older men she’s dated. In a lot of situations it may just be a phase. When I was in my early 20s I liked men in their late 20s because they seemed to be more mature and physically that’s when a lot of men peak in attractiveness. As I myself got older I was no longer attracted to “older” men and married someone my age. Even now that I’m pushing 40 I’m still mostly physically attracted to men in their late…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:30 PM
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This is spot on. I’m an extreme introvert on personality tests but have no issue with public speaking and used to perform in theatre as a teenager. However meet and greets/mixers and small talk with people I don’t know really well is absolute torture
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 02:56 PM
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What were you trying to illustrate by sharing that video?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:51 PM
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I think I’d rather be attractive and mildly autistic. I was an ugly duckling and had a huge glow up at age 14 and then did looks-maxing in my 20s which significantly improved my life. I’ve never been diagnosed as neurodivergent but I’m extremely introverted and can be socially awkward (which I know isn’t the same). Did you ever have ABA therapy or do you have any thoughts on its usefulness for helping autistic kids integrate into society and improve their quality of social interactions/life?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:36 PM
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If I may ask how serious were your relationships with the high earning women? Was it marriages or living together situations or was it just casual dating for a few months? From what I’ve seen a lot of high earning women are much more financially generous with husbands/life partners than they are with boyfriends. Whereas I think high earning men spend ridiculous amounts of money on extra marital (or non-primary) partners like sugar babies, mistresses, girlfriends etc. Women are much less likely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 11:09 PM
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As a woman gets more successful her dating pool only shrinks if she wants a man equally or more successful than her. If she’s able to suppress that desire for a man to be economically superior to her (as I was and most of my friends have been able to) then her dating/relationship pool is huge and is of much better quality. Example A: a woman works a minimum wage job as a cashier at dollar store and she’s able to marry a man that works at a factory who earns more than her. He’s “superior” to her …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 05:01 PM
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I would think that he’s weird and it would be a yellow flag but if otherwise he’s cool, I would continue to see him. Btw, I prefer 5’10 to 6’4 no cap
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 12:56 AM
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For most people theres a bottom threshold of physical attractiveness that their partner has to meet in order to start a relationship. There’s some subjective parts to the physical aspect (I.e. hair/skin/eye color, facial hair, style etc.) and then there’s other physical characteristics that are more universally appreciated (like symmetrical face and healthy skin). If a man meets a woman’s physical attractiveness threshold, money can help some and this will vary person to person how much it helps…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:05 PM
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Fun fact: the belladonna plant gets its name from the Italian words for “beautiful woman” because during the Renaissance women used juice from the berries in eye drops to dilate their pupils and recreate the allure of arousal. While interesting, the study wasn’t able to differentiate between pupil dilation from arousal vs from alarm/threat. Also is there any evidence that it would have a meaningful impact on female behavior? Like are there studies that men with higher levels of testosterone have…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:47 AM
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That’s a really good analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:15 PM
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We just enjoyed each other and there was no preassure. When it was time we said our good byes and went our separate ways. This taught me to go into future relationships and enjoy them in the moment. Don't put expectations on new people you meet. Date with intention not expectations. Because life has different plans and what I have found was expecting things from people will only hinder the connection being formed. Enjoy the moments while you can. For me that’s been the most beautiful thing about…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:29 PM
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I’m 38 and that’s been my experience too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:21 PM
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I lost my virginity at 19 and then was abstinent a year or two, had a brief fling and was abstinent again for 4 years until I met my husband at 24. It was really difficult because I’ve always had a high sex drive. I masturbated and watched porn, concentrated on school etc. Since then I’ve only been without sex a few weeks tops (when my husband or I’m traveling solo). We’re ENM though so I could get random hook ups if I wanted. But I prefer quality connection and having sex with people I genuinel…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:28 PM
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I think insecurity/self-esteem is a big factor. But dissatisfaction in the primary relationship is also a big factor. It’s probably the case that attractive women are able to negotiate what they want and aren’t afraid to walk away if they aren’t getting it whereas maybe women with less options prefer to seek what they aren’t getting somewhere else while still holding on to the existing relationship so they’re not alone. There’s also a lot of revenge cheating from what I read (to get even when th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:00 AM
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I think there was actually a study that unattractive women are more likely to cheat that more attractive women (but this was not the case for attractive vs unattractive men). Relationship dissatisfaction is also linked with likelihood of cheating for women. My husband and I became ethically non-monogamous after a decade of his (occasional) infidelities. Cheating was never really something I even thought about and now that we’re open I don’t have to. I have my aventures and he has his and we stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:33 PM
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I think you’d have to define “promiscuous” because everyone has different ideas about what it means to them. In general I wouldn’t mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:17 PM
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Yeah, I think most cis het men don’t mind as long as their personal boundaries aren’t being violated. It’s probably somewhat flattering. Some men who are homophobic or less secure about their masculinity probably do get irritated
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:45 PM
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My husband probably wouldn’t consider himself a Chad but has always gotten lots of attention from women and girls since grade school and is usually the best looking in any random group of normal guys. He is usually amused unless it’s excessive and invades his personal space. Like one time he was walking down the street alone and a group of about 8 young women started whistling and catcalling him, trying to grab at him and he felt nervous/thought he was going to trip on the sidewalk. He was annoy…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:01 PM
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because, in the immortal words of my dad, "why would I want to be with a woman that everyone wants to fuck" Lol, by that logic men should marry the most grotesque deformed woman they can still get a hard on for
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:27 AM
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Height is the least logical thing to get hung up on because it’s relatively immutable. It’s better to focus on the things you can change relatively easily. Also I don’t really buy that it’s the difference between no sex and sex for some guys. I’ve never fucked a dude because he was tall nor have a rejected a guy because he was short whereas there’s plenty of other physical characteristics that have been deal breakers that made me lose attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:03 AM
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In what state or country is that the case? In the U.S. to my knowledge there is no state or federal law requiring spousal consent for either male or female sterilization. As far as individual physicians policies, some may encourage or require the patient to discuss the procedure and have their spouse also consent to voluntary sterilization. If one urologist refuses to perform a vasectomy on you, then you have a right to seek out a different doctor who will.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 07:46 PM
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Post pics or it didn’t happen! (I just want to see the Adonis bodies 😛)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:21 PM
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🤔 I’ve never heard the term “nice small butt” be used before. Imo to have a nice shapely butt there needs to be some combination of muscle and fat so that it’s not flat. Also a woman’s shape (either hourglass or pear) which is largely genetic is going to play a major role. But as a said before a woman with low body fat can build up gluteal muscle in the gym and doing squats and have a nice ass that way. And sure, some large/obese women also have pancake butts but that has more to do with their g…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 10:48 PM
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But to be fair evolutionary psychology is like the astrology of the sciences lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:52 PM
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All of Reddit is useless my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:42 PM
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I tend to agree with you but OP above implied that 5’7 is short so I gave the anecdote about my friend who pulls more than a lot of decently attractive 6” plus guys I know
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:39 PM
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No, that’s just bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 07:45 PM
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If a woman is thin, her ass is usually decent. What?! No, thin women usually do not have nice asses. Many have pancake butts. Women who work out and do squats can build up their gluteus muscles and get some curves that way but having a nice ass is mostly genetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 07:21 PM
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It depends on what you mean by decent ROI. Sure, an ugly guy isn’t going to all of a sudden become fuckable with some make up on. But it could be part of a comprehensive glow up that would also include good skin care, a hair cut, going to the gym and improving diet, fixing teeth, and dressing stylishly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 06:05 PM
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Sure, women can achieve greater transformations with make up. I looked at that woman’s before pictures and honestly she’s not ugly though. She over plucked her eyebrows which makes her look sick/unhealthy and she has acne or some other skin rash/disease. If she saw a dermatologist she could be decently attractive without make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:49 PM
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It might increase my attraction to them in 2 scenarios: The make up is subtle and evens out his skin tone or covers up acne giving the illusion of healthy beautiful skin. If the make up is more “flamboyant” (eyeliner, lip color, mascara etc.) it signals to me that he’s probably progressive (conservative men are a huge turn off for me - sorry, not sorry 😣) To be fair if his whole appearance or demeanor gave me vibes that he wasn’t into women that would be a turn off because feeling desired is ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:39 PM
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Tinted moisturizer/BB cream could definitely help dudes with uneven skin tone or pale skin, powder for oily skin, and mild acne
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:27 PM
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Not necessarily. Toxic and rigid gender expectations can be perpetuated by women as well as by men When I was in my early 20s I would have said yeah, men wearing makeup is gay af. But now that I’m older I’ve become a lot more open minded, and I want everyone to feel comfortable expressing themselves how they would like to (as long as they’re not hurting anyone else)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:00 PM
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Sure, being short is a disadvantage in dating but facial attractiveness, being relatively fit, and charisma are more important imo. The most promiscuous guy I know is 5’7 (like 15 new attractive female partners every 3 months). Makeup for men can give the illusion of facial symmetry and good skin/complexion
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:51 PM
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I don’t see anything wrong with it honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:42 PM
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As a society let’s normalize wearing makeup for men! https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/grooming/article/best-makeup-for-men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:05 PM
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Lol, short dudes fuck too! Sure, it’s a disadvantage in dating; I’m not trying to gaslight you but the most promiscuous guy I know is 5’7 (15 different women in 3 months).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 12:35 PM
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It was also incoherent because anyone reading it has no idea of you are pro male birth control or anti male birth control
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:27 PM
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Yes, another commenter mentioned that the polymer in the U.S. version Vasagel is completely different so they’re re-doing clinical trials in the U.S. and Australia. I don’t believe there were any cases of cancer associated with RISUG in India though, just that individual components of the polymer in other forms/products may have been linked to cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:25 PM
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Honestly I wish I didn’t follow that stuff either… it’s like a train wreck I can’t take my eyes off of
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:20 PM
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Wow, your English is really good for it not being your first language
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:19 PM
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After reading all of the comments thus far, the women who have replied are mostly in favor of having more male contraceptive options. The ones who are not cite concerns over potential adverse effects and concern for their partners’ health. No one is arguing that “women should be able to baby trap Chad.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:15 PM
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Intuitively that makes sense. I read about a topical gel (Nestorone and testosterone) applied daily to the shoulders that lowered sperm counts sufficiently in 84% of the participants… RISUG seems like a much better option
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:08 PM
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That’s fascinating, thanks for your insight
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:40 PM
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There’s definitely some single men that get sex way more often than once or twice a month. But yeah, if they have casual sex/non-monogamous they should be using condoms anyway for STI protection. Condoms are great for STI prevention but about 85% effective against pregnancy in real world use. I envision the target group for RISUG is sexually active men either with a committed partner (that want to have raw sex in their monogamous relationship but don’t want kids for a few years) or men who have …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:37 PM
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This post is about men’s ability to control their own fertility besides condoms and vasectomies and whether or not men would take advantage of RISUG if it came to market. Did you even read the post or the questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:20 PM
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This argument is obviously logically incoherent (just swap the genders and see how it sounds), but most people aren’t equipped to recognize that. Bro, your entire comment is incoherent lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:16 PM
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My understanding is that there are 3 levels of autism and regardless of the level someone may or may not have cognitive impairment. If someone is autistic but with normal or above average intelligence then I don’t really understand how lack of consent could be an issue due to the autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 09:07 PM
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Wow, that’s really interesting. Is Dr. Turek hopeful that it will get approval anytime soon?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 08:13 PM
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I know this is a question for men, but I believe instead of advocating for castration or pressuring men into getting permanent vasectomies, we should invest in education about female fertility. Whoa, who’s talking about castration (removal of the testicles) here?! Anyways I agree with you about all the adverse effects of hormonal contraceptives. I personally like condoms too. And sure, abstinence during the fertile window is an option that’s effectiveness could be advanced by fertility apps. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 08:06 PM
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They’re great for STI prevention but only about 85% effective against pregnancy in real world use. And then there’s a whole subset of men (and some women) who just hate the way condoms feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 07:22 PM
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For male hormonal contraceptives. Not for RISUG to my knowledge
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:58 PM
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4 decades - that’s 40 years bro
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:54 PM
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Yeah, realistically once it obtained FDA approval or whatever the equivalent is in other countries, they would authorize it for 10 years. I wrote 10-15 years since the research shows it’s effective at reducing sperm count to zero even after 15 years in some participants in the clinical trials.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:33 PM
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😢 that’s rough, sorry about your face
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:28 PM
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It’s technically not a surgery, it’s a shot. It’s also reversible (requires another shot to get it disolved) so you can have children afterwards. Here’s a diagram on Wikipedia to get a better idea. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reversible_inhibition_of_sperm_under_guidance Regardless your body, your choice. Cheers
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:27 PM
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RISUG is a local injection into the vas deferens that blocks sperm transport. It’s not hormonal contraception. It’s similar to a vasectomy except fully reversible whereas a vasectomy is difficult to reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:17 PM
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Side effects with RISUG are similar to side effects from a vasectomy. It’s non-hormonal
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:15 PM
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Yeah, not to mention that it’s only one year in someone’s entire reproductive lifespan and RISUG lasts 10-15 years. So maybe that 21 year old virgin will get a girlfriend at 25 and then he’ll want to be on contraception.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:54 PM
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Yeah, gotta love animal bladder condoms. Would you be interested in some crocodile dung diaphragms also (apparently Cleopatra used those)? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:26 PM
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Bro condoms were invented in 1855, hardly thousands of years ago. Also while great for STI prevention, condoms are 85% effective for birth control in real world use
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:28 PM
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Which receptor specifically are you wanting to inhibit? If you want to reduce your libido have you considered starting an SSRI?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:21 PM
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Yep, it’s an injection into the vas. Reddit wouldn’t let me post the diagram saying it was NSFW lol but here it is on Wikipedia https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reversible_inhibition_of_sperm_under_guidance
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 01:20 PM
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“Women’s preferences” are taking care of what exactly? Overpopulation?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 01:12 PM
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Scientifically how would a nonhormonal libido blocking pill work? Are you saying that you wish you were asexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 01:09 PM
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It’s a one time procedure. Side effects are minimal
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 01:01 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:59 PM
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It’s actually been studied for 4 decades. I think the main barrier to being in the market is financial/opposition from pharmaceutical companies
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:59 PM
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Nah, Rollo said HVM should get a vasectomy at age 20. Not too many men are sure they never want kids at that age. Rollo seemed to think that vasectomies are easily reversible which they are not. Sneako went off on him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:57 PM
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RISUG doesn’t affect hormones. It’s a one time procedure where a polymer is injected into the vas deferens. It’s like a vasectomy but intended to be fully reversible whereas a vasectomy is intended to be permanent and is difficult to reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:54 PM
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RISUG does not affect hormones. It’s basically a reversible vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:48 PM
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It’s actually pharmaceutical and condom company lobbies that are the main opposition. Feminists overall would be very supportive especially after Roe v. Wade was overturned. This is from an article discussing why RISUG is not already available. “In 2000, a survey found 83% of men from various countries are willing to accept male contraceptive. Despite, pharmaceutical companies are reluctant to pursue the idea to avoid losing the thriving global markets for female contraceptives and condom that v…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:43 PM
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You’re confusing feminists with gold-diggers. Yeah, the type of women who follows NBA draft picks looking for a young man to prey on and baby trap would not be in favor of male-controlled reversible contraception.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:40 PM
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Yes, that’s been the problem with developing a male hormonal contraceptive. RISUG doesn’t affect hormone levels. It’s like a vasectomy but reversible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:37 PM
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What “problem” are you referring to? We’re talking about contraceptive methods for men who want to limit their fertility temporarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:35 PM
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Not commercially available. RISUG is a one time procedure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:33 PM
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Yeah, I first heard about it 15 years ago. It’s been under research for like 4 decades now. I think it’s mostly because it’s a one time procedure so pharmaceutical companies stand to lose millions/billions of dollars if it cuts into their female OCP sells profits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:32 PM
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Lol, so you agree with Rollo then? Also condoms are great for STI prevention but for contraception they’re like 85% effective in real world use
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:21 AM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:58 AM
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Yeah, I definitely wouldn’t trust most men to take a pill every day especially if made them feel sick, moody or messed with their work out routine lol. That’s why RISUG is a superior option imo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:56 AM
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Would you prefer a pill to RISUG (it involves an injection into the vas)?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:53 AM
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From what I read the way it works is you could get it at age 18 for example and it would just stay in place inhibiting sperm transport while you live out your life normally. This can last 10-15 years until you have to get another one or decide to have it disolved (another minor procedure). Let’s say you meet the love of your life at 25, y’all get married and at age 30 you want to have kids… that’s when you would get it disolved. It’s kind of like an IUD for men but with less side effects lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:47 AM
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Lol, yes he did! https://twitter.com/RationalMale/status/1653442566896103425?s=20
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:28 AM
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So, I’m the woman but I provide 100% financially. My husband does the bulk of the cooking and cleaning, home maintenance, and yard work. I cook on weekends when I’m off and deep clean the bathrooms those days. He watches the kids when they’re not in school unless I’m off. He does most of the driving. I help the kids with school work and make doctors appointments (for him too), do the parent-teacher conferences. I think that’s more or less equitable. You could flip the genders and that would be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:15 AM
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I actually have the opposite problem. I try to keep things strictly friends with benefits/romance and sex without commitment and dudes try to introduce me to their mothers. Should I raise my physical standards to avoid this?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:14 PM
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Nah, those are completely different. That’s like if you’re looking to adopt a dog, most people would not adopt the dog with cancer and a few months to live. But if your dog of 10+ years who you’ve had since he was a puppy was diagnosed with cancer and you abandoned behind a dumpster, that would make you a horrible person. And that’s just with dogs, it’s even more callous to do that to humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 07:26 PM
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I partially disagree. I’m 5’2” and don’t have a height fetish or even preference (just a big dick fetish regardless of height lol). This is anecdotal but most of the woman I know who have strong height preferences are tall (usually 5’9 or 5’10) and overweight or obese. The tall thin women I know don’t care nearly as much about height imo. I guess because they already feel dainty and modelesque. I can’t say that I know many short women who exclusively look for tall guys. Of course it’s much easie…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:14 PM
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When you say inexperienced men are you talking about a virgin or a man that had 1 or 2 long term relationships prior? Because the man who had only 1 or 2 partners could still know a lot about sex especially if he read a lot and communicated well with his past partner(s). I’d actually expect him to be more skilled sexually than a fuck boy type that pumps and dumps 1 night stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 08:32 PM
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I think initially it may have started out that way with PUA but most of the new stuff is toxic af and goofy. I don’t really have a dog in the fight (happily married, ENM) but I got sucked into the manosphere rabbit hole during the Depp-Heard trial and haven’t been able to stop watching the train wreck since 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 08:17 PM
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That’s cool! I was thinking teacher based on your schedule but was wondering how you managed to support your family on your salary alone… now it makes sense since you’re in Indonesia lol. I think having a parent as a teacher really helps kids academically. 1 of my friends is an ER doctor and her husband is a teacher in the U.S. He does most of the housework and helps the kids with schoolwork etc and it works well for them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:29 PM
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If it’s only the looks-maxing/self-improvement part of red-pill, I would help him by encouraging him to work out, eat nutritious healthy foods, groom himself, dress stylishly, braces and teeth whitening, skin care/acne treatment etc. I’d also encourage him to develop some hobbies that females traditionally like especially if he’s an introvert or neurodivergent (music, theatre, dance, art etc.) If it’s the toxic FnF flavor of red-pill (bang 50 hoes before marrying a young dumb virgin, view women …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:44 PM
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Are you a teacher?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 04:54 PM
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Women do enjoy sex when men put in effort. How old are you? Have you ever been in a long term relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:17 PM
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They could masturbate for years without ever having sex so yes, many women would know exactly how an orgasm feels and they would miss that during partnered sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:04 PM
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Regardless of virginity or experience, women are satisfied when they have orgasms. If they never have orgasms with their partners then they will likely not be satisfied in the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:03 AM
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No, you don’t have to compare at all. You both need to enjoy it and be satisfied and then you know you’re compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:07 AM
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Or women could pay their own bills and each have a harem of men they desire waiting their turn to fuck them. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 12:11 AM
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No, it’s best to know if you’re both sexually compatible before marriage. Also every different relationship has its own beauty and strengths so it’s not like women actively compare their husbands with all of their past partners. When I’m with someone, I’m only thinking about that specific person in the moment
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:55 PM
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Living in modern society no one is truly independent. We all rely on others for some things that we lack skill or knowledge in (or pay others to do those things) and families should ideally help each other out regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:43 PM
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I have nothing against passport bros… but I’m a conventionally attractive American woman who loves to go to the Caribbean and Latin America looking for casual sex/FWB. I don’t care how much money they make, I’ll buy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:07 PM
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Physical filter? I set my age range from 22 to 45. Obviously I only swipe right on people I find attractive. I don’t mind the crassness. For real it’s super easy to unmatch and move on to the next guy if we don’t mesh well for whatever reason. Of the guys that I’ve become friends with and intimate with, 1 was really good with women and definitely has no shortage of casual sex (he’s much younger than me but has had more partners in the last year than I’ve had in my lifetime). He’s super chill, in…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:42 PM
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I’m 5’2” so the vast majority of men are taller than me. Height isn’t even really something I consider when looking for a partner. I’ve dated between 5’6” and 6’3”. If I had to pick my own preference it would be around 5’9” or 5’10” but I don’t necessarily think I would disqualify a potential romantic partner solely due to height
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:16 PM
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Lol, yeah, I guess some men get some intrinsic satisfaction from sending them but in my experience a lot do it in the hope of receiving nudes/lewds in return… and then they just get frustrated when it’s not reciprocated immediately. A lot of them also want validation or praise and I’m not good at lying so there’s that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:38 PM
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Lol yes, I definitely like to know what it looks like ahead of time! No surprises for me please 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:05 PM
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This post really resonated with me as a woman in an open marriage that occasionally looks for friends with benefits on Tinder mainly. I usually look for FWB several weeks to a month or 2 out from when I’m planning to travel and pick guys in a different city from where I live. I’m very up front and honest about being married and what I’m looking for. Then I start searching for red flags or any hint of aggression and as soon as I see it I block them. Some of them told me that they didn’t want to w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 09:42 PM
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I’m probably an exception but my husband is a stay at home dad and I love it! He’s stereotypically masculine in other ways though. Honestly it would annoy me if a man told me to be ready at a certain time for a date especially if it wasn’t something he didn’t already know I would like or if the timing didn’t jive with my schedule. I like to plan things myself but that’s just me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 06:54 PM
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The possibility and prevalence of divorce doesn’t make the tax benefits and insurance benefits (not to mention medical power of attorney in healthcare situations) less enticing imo. Most people are optimistic about their own relationships and will take the known benefits now. As far as point number 1. I think the immigration rate will probably increase as the birth rate falls in the future so that trend may increase. If there were more legal benefits for common law marriages/cohabitation than su…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 05:50 PM
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No, I don’t think so. I’m a woman who is the “breadwinner” and there were several reasons why I chose to get married (as opposed to cohabitation): My husband is an immigrant (he needed marriage for the visa and then for residency). I was religious when I did get married (though I’m not particularly now) and even if I hadn’t been, cohabitation would have been disapproved of by my family. The tax benefits and for healthcare insurance I think being legally married is a better environment to raise c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:47 PM
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My husband got a U.S. visa by marrying me 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 08:41 PM
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I agree with this. When I was in my early 20s I was mostly attracted to men in their late 20s but wouldn’t have even considered over a 10 year age gap. Now that I’m in my late 30s I’m still physically mostly attracted to men in their late 20s. 😂 Interestingly most people say that I’m better looking now than I was 10 or 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 08:05 PM
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My only male friends are current or former lovers (my husband and I are ethically non-monogamous) or they are gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:48 PM
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Destiny the streamer has said in many redpill debates that in the real world each partner is going to have their areas of expertise and be the “leader” in those specific domains and then make decisions as a couple on what’s better for their family. That’s the way it should be imo. I have a friend who is a doctor but also from a conservative Christian background and her parents took medical advice regarding covid vaccines from her older brother who happens to be a truck driver. That’s just ridicu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:50 PM
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Is really odd. At least from a physical standpoint high earning women preserve their looks much better than working class women or stay at home moms. They have more money to spend on looks maxing, personal trainers, and healthy food.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 06:36 PM
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Testicular torsion?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:43 PM
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How do you feel about adoption? Is that also humiliating?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 11:46 AM
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It’s just a fantasy. Some women like to consume consensual non-consensual porn and extreme BDSM erotica etc. but that doesn’t mean they literally want to be raped or beaten even by someone they are physically attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 05:46 PM
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No one sided open relationships for me. Either we’re both open or completely monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:20 PM
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I’m petite and never really cared much about height especially after I learned height is not really correlated with penis size. Honestly I feel more comfortable with men who are closer to me in size; it’s kind of goofy looking to have over a foot difference in height between partners imo. Also I live in an area where almost everyone has guns so the protection point is silly to me too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:48 PM
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Out of curiosity what kind of things have you opened up and been vulnerable about that you were later judged on? Do you have any specific examples from your own life?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:58 PM
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I only disagree about the 5’11 model dude losing against above average face 6’5 dude. I think the 5’11 model face dude would win with most women except maybe super tall women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:47 PM
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Not in my relationship. That’s more and more becoming a thing of the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:59 PM
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You should check out this website which offers lots of pointers on what women typically enjoy during sex and it’s based on research. https://start.omgyes.com/join
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 10:02 PM
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I can’t really answer this because I did marry a man who makes less than me and I’ve never really cared about men’s salary except when I was poor. I’m a very high earner though so we only need my income to be comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:10 PM
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For introverts like me online dating is awesome. I’m really quiet, not shy but I hate small talk with people in person. So OLD allows me to show interest just by virtue of being on an app. Then I can pick who I vibe with the best and share similar interests with. It’s also much safer to prescreen potential dates by chatting with them and then meeting as opposed to just meeting someone at a bar or club or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 05:55 PM
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Thanks for sharing your story. Just a thought, but was your ex-fiancée on hormonal contraceptives during your time together? Or were there any changes in the type of contraception for example random brand of OCP to Nuvaring or something like that? Some hormonal contraceptives can really reduce the circulating levels of estradiol and drastically reduce libido which may explain what happened in your situation
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 06:05 PM
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