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RantMountainLopsided6436/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 12:24 PM
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MountainLopsided6436/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 03:54 AM
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Get out and do fun things. Go on adventures. Things you always wanted to do. Make guy friends. Real friends you talk to and work on improving your life together. Join a men’s group if you can.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 01:17 AM
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I really like this. Although my marriage was better than 50%. I would change the numbers to: 10% me …. 10% her …. 80% her cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 12:47 PM
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I’m really sorry you are going through this. Similar situation for me without the abuse. The affair did make my wife neglect the kids. Sharing a home was brutal. Reach out if you need someone to talk to.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 02:51 PM
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“Remember that anger can be healthy. Anger can motivate us to take action, to right wrongs, to stand up and face problems, to fight for our self-esteem. When you are wronged or see some in-justice, you have a right to be angry. Anger becomes a problem when, instead of taking action, you let your anger settle into an ongoing resentment. It is problematic when you seek revenge rather than justice. It also is problematic when you are too afraid to act and fall into denial, suppression, or repressio…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 03:09 AM
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I guess I kinda get how badly my ex treated me when cheating. How she didn't care about me at all and lied and did everything for the affair partner. What I will never understand is when she would neglect and hurt her own kids just to go be with the AP. Must be one strong drug/addiction. Glad you are getting out soon. It was such a relief when I finally moved out. Those months in the same house were torture for me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 08:58 PM
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Big Nope for me. If you can get along and be friends then stay married.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 04:06 PM
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What? Why?
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 10:00 PM
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Disagree. 14 years married. 2 years ago she cheated on me and left me for another man. The 2 years of pain and hell are not worth the 14 years of great marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 12:54 AM
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What are your tips to get to 50. I went from 10 up to about 20 but don’t seem to be making progress.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 02:48 AM
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Showed up to a bowling league and joined a team with guys I never met before. Always say yes to all invites. Found pickup basketball Tuesday and Thursday mornings. Had 1 friend invite me. Now I have 10 friends. Invited a ton of guys over to watch a football game. Including many old friends I hadn’t seen in years. Went to church and made friends. Forced myself to talk to all the guys there. Set up a couple golf games. Asked a few for one on one lunch or dinner. Women do this all the time. Men ten…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 07:36 PM
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I like to propose a plan or start the negotiation. Leaving it open, asking what are they going to do never solves the problem. "If you let me have the kids on these days then I'll get them to school". My ex usually responds with "ok" because she doesn't have the bandwidth to solve a problem or come up with a solution.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 10:00 PM
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What things do you regret?
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 09:26 PM
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This will take time. Not because time heals but things have to happen first. You cannot when you are still in the middle of the divorce. You have to accept and move on first. You have to heal and feel safe first. Give yourself grace and focus on you and the kids for now.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 04:27 PM
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This! Our culture and especially women these days say divorce is ok and the kids will be fine. No. Kids deserve a home with both loving parents. It’s so hard on them. I hate the saying “kids are resilient.” Of course kids will make it through because what’s the alternative? They literally die? But don’t tell me they are fine and this won’t affect them.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 05:28 PM
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He’s probably going to spend half of the holiday alone. Find out when that time is and plan a day out with him. Connection with someone to talk to is what is most needed.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 01:46 AM
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You can change memory settings on Google and iPhone to not show certain people. Unfriend X on social media and those memories will stop.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/25 11:13 PM
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In the end your combined net worth is split 50/50. Doesn’t matter what names are on what. If your car is worth more than hers you have to pay her the difference so it comes out even. Or give her more of savings, investments or retirement.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/25 02:10 AM
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Empower
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 03:47 PM
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I did it for 15 months. It was pure hell. Thought I had to in fear of losing the kids and the house. Moving to my own place once papers were signed was amazing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 01:35 AM
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Check out r/survivinginfidelity Work on yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. You can overcome this. Only focus on what you can control. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 01:17 PM
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Completely blindsided and shocked. Took me a year to even believe it could be real. Never in a million years would have believed the girl my wife was could ever do something like that. Never done a single wrong thing in her life. Never lied to me once before this.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 03:34 PM
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This is the answer. For some reason we get stuck on the good qualities and forget the bad. Add them all together to see the total package. P.S. Being a cheater is the worst possible quality in a companion.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 06:51 PM
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I don’t have a problem with dogs. People can be obsessed with whatever they want it. But they shouldn’t be entitled to a luxury like a dog and then require others (ex husband or the government) to pay for and accommodate that luxury.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 01:15 PM
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Use the house as leverage. If that’s really what she wants then explain you will help her keep it in exchange for what you want. Otherwise threaten to not help her keep it and bank or judge will force her to sell.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 07:36 AM
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How do you communicate your needs without being needy?
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 08:06 PM
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Very similar situation for me. My wife was the most honest person I’ve ever met. But turns out she was cheating on me. They start saying stuff like this when they have feelings for someone else. My wife also said she has been done for years. I don’t believe it. It’s a story they make up to justify what they are doing.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 07:37 PM
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Why is it always cheating
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 03:39 AM
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How do you enforce that? Can you say if she does then you always get the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 12:07 AM
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Focus on God and improving yourself. Make new guy friends. Keep busy, investigate new hobbies. Do things every day to relieve stress like exercising. Don’t think about how hard it is now or how long it will be. You never know what the future holds and God will open doors and give you opportunities.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 11:45 AM
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